00:00My sister died when I was 19, tragically, in an auto accident after having been disposed of by
00:07her mother, our mother, who sacrificed her for another man, which broke me. In response, I joined
00:14the military. I was in a marriage with the person that was my boyfriend that me. The second person,
00:21I was 21 years old, and I was married to him for 10 years. We had two children. We were
00:27both in the
00:28army. I married him, though I didn't feel comfortable about it, but this was in the 90s.
00:34I was in a unit where people were very inappropriate. I felt like, okay, if I marry him,
00:41at least I'll be out of this unit, and people won't be knocking on my barracks door soliciting me to
00:47have that I didn't want to have. However, it was one of the worst decisions that I could have made.
00:52I don't want my sister's death to be in vain. I know that she died brokenhearted, rejected,
00:58and I try to live a good life in honor of her. I started going to therapy. I went to
01:05Al-Anon
01:06meetings, and I literally became the therapist that I needed because when I would tell some therapists
01:13about my story, they would cry, which caused me to feel a lot of shame, but it also caused me
01:19to
01:19feel like I was a burden. So I have been intentionally working towards my healing,
01:25I will say, since August of 1996.
Comments