00:00Thanksgiving up there had become quite the tradition for the family, though not for me
00:03or my wife, we've only gone once in seven years. My dad refused to bother me about it
00:07because he knew I'd say no. Instead, they came up with what I think is a great plan.
00:12They announced that they were organizing the Thanksgiving gathering and, if everyone split
00:15the cost in advance, they'd rent an Airbnb in the mountains. Otherwise, they'd host Thanksgiving
00:20at their place, or one of the sisters could host it. This caused a fight between the sisters
00:24because the middle sister was all for the Airbnb idea, but the oldest one doesn't have
00:28any money. The deadline to commit to the Airbnb has passed, so it looks like Thanksgiving
00:32will be at my parents' place. Regardless, we won't be there. My parents have asked that
00:37we not sell the vacation house for now. They've decided they'd still like to use it occasionally,
00:41but not until my sisters have come to terms with the new normal. And, of course, they'd
00:45probably like it if everyone could gather there again down the road, but that's just
00:48not going to happen. I'd just as soon sell it and move on at this point, but I can live
00:52with keeping it if my parents use it now and then. Plus, it will likely be worth even more
00:57in the future. My wife and I have remained no contact with my sisters and their husbands.
01:01Both sisters have called from new numbers and left messages insisting that I meet with them
01:05for our parents' sake to work out how everyone can use the family vacation home. They've called
01:09my wife too. I'm glad I already had the habit of not answering calls from numbers I don't recognize.
01:14I honestly don't know if they're delusional or if they think they can bully me into giving them
01:17access again. I don't really care. My parents tell me that the oldest sister and her husband are
01:22getting out of the leases for their SUV and big truck and are selling their jet skis and some
01:25other things they've never needed. That's going to be really hard on her. She's quite the braggart
01:30and won't like being seen in something older, smaller, or cheaper. My brother-in-law's identity
01:34is very much tied to his truck as well, he even has a small tattoo of the truck company's logo.
01:39Frankly, that's one of the many reasons why he and I never hung out. Several people have suggested
01:44that I turn the vacation home into an Airbnb. I don't plan to do so, at least not anytime soon.
01:49I know it would make money, but it would cause an incredible amount of drama in the family
01:52and would stress out my parents. They don't need that. It would also be a hassle to remove the
01:57personal things my parents have there, as that stuff has nowhere to go. There would also be
02:01wear and tear on the property. And even though I'd use a manager, it would still take some amount of
02:05time on my part. It's just not worth it to me. Fifth update 1.5 months later. Wrote most of
02:11this
02:11yesterday but decided to wait to post it until I wasn't so wound up. Waiting didn't work, I'm still
02:16wound up. Sorry if this rambles, so much has happened, it's hard to write coherently. Things have gone to
02:21hell. I really, truly did not think anything like this would happen. Things had settled down,
02:26or so I thought. I haven't seen or heard from my sisters in over six weeks.
02:30My parents went up to the house for a week and had a good time.
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