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00:01This programme contains strong language and sexual content.
00:04This is a no-holds-barred conversation.
00:08I've took three women to Ibiza for dates.
00:11I love that.
00:12Different women.
00:13So yeah, even if it doesn't work out,
00:14you're probably going to get a holiday to Ibiza.
00:16Yeah, exactly.
00:18You're in the sun.
00:19Whatever that technique was, it did not do it for me.
00:22And me and my pals now refer to him as emu guy.
00:25I walked up to the window and he was like,
00:27he totally shat himself around and he's like,
00:30I was like, what are you doing?
00:30He's like, oh, I'm catching Pokemon.
00:33And I was like, I don't know what was worse there,
00:36fear or catching Pokemon, am I?
00:39I'm Sophie Gravia.
00:40I'm Christine McGuinness.
00:42And we are here to be a judgment-free space
00:44to help you figure out your situation shifts.
00:47And today we are going to be chatting all things dating.
00:51My favourite subject, we're going to be talking about
00:53the good, the bad and the downright ugly.
00:56Oh, gosh, we've all been there.
00:58We have.
00:58So let's start.
01:00Okay, so tell me your best ever date.
01:02Oh, God.
01:05Okay, so I've done this twice with the same person.
01:08Okay.
01:10Just reusing your dates.
01:13It was the location.
01:15So it's a place called Esfadra in Ibiza,
01:18which if you're spiritual,
01:20if you're into that kind of thing,
01:22it's the third most magnetic place on Earth.
01:25So it's a place that people go to manifest,
01:27to let go.
01:28I love that.
01:29Yeah, it's absolutely stunning.
01:31It really is one of the most beautiful places
01:33I've ever seen.
01:34And you can...
01:35You've took somebody to Ibiza for a date?
01:37Gorgeous.
01:37Well, yeah.
01:38I love that.
01:39I've took three women to Ibiza for dates.
01:42I love that.
01:43Different women.
01:43So, yeah, even if it doesn't work out,
01:45you're probably going to get a holiday to Ibiza.
01:47Yeah, exactly.
01:48So we're in.
01:49You're in the sun.
01:50Yeah.
01:51Yeah, so this one, obviously,
01:52we've been a couple of times
01:54and we went to Esfadra
01:55and it's just the most beautiful view,
01:59the sunset, the energy.
02:00There's just something there that is calm
02:04and you can't possibly have a bad time.
02:07So that was absolutely stunning
02:10and I don't think it's going to ever be beaten.
02:13But who knows?
02:15Well, mine feels shit now
02:16because I was going to say my best date
02:20was just a nice, wholesome, chilled,
02:23going mini-golf and then going for a coffee.
02:26That's cute though.
02:27I love a bit of mini-golf.
02:29I've done that too.
02:29Just like something fun.
02:32So you're not sitting in that restaurant environment
02:35worried about how you're eating
02:37and if you're going to get stuff on your face
02:38or who's paying the bill
02:40so you're not overthinking.
02:42It's just like a wee fun activity.
02:44That's like my favourite first date.
02:46I've done that as like on-planned dates
02:49when we've just realised we've got a couple of hours,
02:51shall we go and do something fun
02:53and then we've done.
02:54But for a nice planned special date,
02:57yeah, Esfadra was incredible.
02:59I went to meet someone once for coffee
03:02and it was just going to be like a quick coffee
03:04in between me working.
03:06So I went to meet this person
03:08but straight away, as soon as I met them,
03:10I felt like they had a pure chip on their shoulder,
03:13like, you know, that way.
03:15So they're like, all right, like, just very...
03:18And I was like, oh, hi, like, blah, blah, blah.
03:20And they'll write what you want
03:21and like that sort of thing.
03:22And I thought, God, I don't even know
03:24if this person wants to go in this date with me.
03:27Like, they weren't very, like, warm or like...
03:30And, yeah, so then we were having a...
03:33I was explaining that I was going to go to Amsterdam
03:36in a couple of days' time
03:39and I said, well, I don't know what I'm going to wear.
03:42I was only going for maybe a couple of days
03:43but I had said I've added on a case
03:46and he was like, what, one of the big cases?
03:48And I says, yeah, like...
03:50Yeah.
03:50Because I don't know what I'm going to wear
03:52when I'm over there.
03:52I don't know what the weather's like.
03:53I just would rather...
03:55Yeah.
03:55And he was like, that's absolutely ridiculous.
03:57Like, if you were gone with me,
03:59you wouldn't be adding on a case and all that.
04:00And I thought, oh, my God.
04:02Like, it was so...
04:03Like, just the way he was speaking,
04:05I was thinking, oh, my God, I really don't like that.
04:06Yeah, this is never going to wear, can I?
04:08I like to have two big suitcases.
04:10You do, you do.
04:11You're lucky I'm taking one for a week, aren't you?
04:14Then we walked out of the shop, right,
04:17and there was, like, a pigeon walking on the thingway
04:20and he ran up to the pigeon
04:22and done, like, a big stamp with his foot
04:24for the pigeon to fly.
04:26And I was thinking...
04:26Where did you find him?
04:27How did he even get a date off you in the first place?
04:29I know.
04:30I don't even know
04:30because it was, like, years and years and years ago.
04:33I must have met him online
04:34and just arranged to meet, like, a coffee date.
04:37But I just was thinking, what the fuck?
04:40What do you think about vulgar talk?
04:42Because I'm not prude
04:44and sometimes I shock myself
04:45with what comes out of my mouth.
04:46Usually if I'm having a laugh and a giggle.
04:48Yeah.
04:48But, like, on a first date
04:50when you don't really know someone,
04:52I get there might be some nervous energy there.
04:54Yeah.
04:55But the only...
04:55The one where I would say just was a bad date
04:57was because of the words that were...
05:01How vulgar the language was.
05:02As in sexually.
05:03Towards me.
05:04And I was just kind of, like...
05:06It's disrespectful, isn't it?
05:07Yeah.
05:07Yeah.
05:08Like, there's flirty banter
05:11and there's, like, oh, you know,
05:12can't wait for later, whatever.
05:13But when it's, like, in detail,
05:15like, what...
05:16Like, no.
05:17Over in hours.
05:18It's too much.
05:19Like, oh, everything,
05:20every other mouthful of food
05:22is, oh, yeah, it's nice and moist.
05:23Oh!
05:25Moist!
05:25No one ever wants to hear that word.
05:28Well, there is a new trend
05:30of real-life dating.
05:33So it's basically,
05:34rather than planning a date going out,
05:37it's people that are doing everyday things
05:40with their date,
05:41whether it's walking the dog,
05:43going to the supermarket,
05:45just going about their life.
05:48Boring.
05:49Do you think it's boring?
05:50Right, okay.
05:50So I love this for the reality.
05:55So you're going to see each other
05:56in your natural...
05:57Habitat.
05:58Your natural habitat.
05:59Dibidanda.
06:02Or maybe not.
06:04Actually, for me,
06:04it would go really bad
06:05if people see me naturally
06:06walking around the shop.
06:08They'd leave.
06:09It wouldn't go any further.
06:12But I like the idea of it,
06:15that you're going to see each other casual.
06:16Obviously, for costs,
06:17it's gorgeous to just go for a walk in a park
06:20and enjoy that instead.
06:21But I think you have to be further along.
06:23I think your first dates
06:24do need to be exciting.
06:25You do want to be dressed up.
06:26You do want to feel sexy.
06:28Yeah.
06:29I have a bit more going on
06:30for the conversation.
06:31I have just only recently started
06:33doing these real-life date things,
06:36which I didn't really see as dates.
06:38I've just seen it as like,
06:40you know, we've got a few hours.
06:41Should we go and do something
06:42and we'll go for a nice walk?
06:43But actually, we did turn it into
06:45like a day date.
06:47Yeah.
06:47And it's lovely.
06:49We walked through a nice park
06:51and we went and got a cheese toasty
06:53and it was all nice and cute.
06:55But because I've known her for a while,
06:57it was easy.
06:58But then that's like a natural progression,
07:00isn't it, anyway,
07:01that you would do with someone.
07:03So you would naturally just
07:04end up doing these wee days.
07:06Yeah, I wouldn't want to do that
07:07at the beginning.
07:08But for a first date.
07:09No.
07:09To go to the supermarket.
07:10No, because I can deal with
07:13like a bit of silence
07:14or something now where you're kind of going,
07:16oh, look, that's a cute dog.
07:18Oh, look at the baby in the pram
07:19and you're walking through the park.
07:21But not on a first date.
07:23Oh, do you like Lurk Park?
07:25It's overpriced.
07:27So this is what I'm thinking now.
07:29What do you do
07:29if you do a supermarket date
07:31with somebody
07:33and they're checking the price
07:35of everything?
07:37Oh, that would be a good week
07:38because there's nothing worse
07:40than somebody being stingy.
07:41Yeah, but is it someone being like,
07:43or is it someone being sensible?
07:45Yeah, what if someone goes straight
07:46to the best before?
07:48The savers section.
07:50Yeah, today.
07:50Should you, like,
07:52is that a turn off?
07:53That's a red flag?
07:54Yes, it is.
07:54What if they're just really money savvy?
07:57I know, but there's a difference
07:59between people
07:59that are being money savvy
08:00and just being stingy.
08:03Yeah.
08:04And I couldn't live my life
08:05with someone with that.
08:07So maybe that's a good thing.
08:08Maybe that's...
08:08You need to stay out of the shop.
08:10You need to know.
08:10Yeah.
08:11Maybe you do need to know that.
08:12If I was walking the dog,
08:13I think that was quite,
08:14that's quite a nice way to do it
08:16because it's chilled as well.
08:19You're not expected to stay out
08:21longer than you have to.
08:23So if it doesn't go well,
08:24like, you know,
08:25that you're just walking around the block
08:26and you're back at the house.
08:27No, see, I...
08:28The reason I want to go on a date
08:30is so I can stay out longer.
08:31Yeah, but I think the reason
08:33that I would want to go on a date
08:34is probably to get dressed up
08:36because I like dressing up
08:37and having a nice night.
08:38But if it's someone,
08:39sitting with someone
08:39and you don't know how it's going,
08:40then...
08:41So we're saying no to the day dates?
08:44I'm saying no to going to the supermarket.
08:46I wouldn't mind going a walk
08:47for a day date
08:48if it was a first date.
08:49I wouldn't mind going
08:50and taking the dog a walk.
08:52I've done a nice one recently.
08:55In London,
08:56they've had this light show on
08:57and it's completely free.
08:58And it's just mad
08:59because it's so amazing,
09:00but it's completely free.
09:02And I've seen loads of couples
09:03that are holding hands,
09:04so it was quite nice.
09:06But that was nice, I suppose,
09:08and it was easy
09:09because there was stuff to look at.
09:11It's like all these lights,
09:12statues,
09:12and you just walk around
09:13Canary Wharf
09:14and they have music to it and stuff.
09:17So that was lovely,
09:18but there was still something going on,
09:20so it didn't feel boring.
09:22Yeah, boring.
09:23But again,
09:23I'd need to know somebody
09:25to be comfortable
09:26to just do that.
09:28Yeah.
09:30Aye, 100%.
09:31That was nice.
09:32That was okay.
09:33But no,
09:33I want a proper,
09:35I think I still like a...
09:36You weren't spoiled.
09:37No,
09:37I just think,
09:38I just think
09:39that you should just date forever.
09:41Like,
09:42just keep dating each other.
09:43Yeah.
09:44And put that effort in
09:45and plan stuff.
09:46And I also think,
09:48again,
09:49this would take me time,
09:50but surprise dates
09:51where you kind of go,
09:53okay, listen,
09:54next Friday,
09:54I want you to be available,
09:56make sure you're free.
09:57I'll let you know
09:58if you need a casual outfit
09:59or a dressy outfit,
09:59but I want to take you
10:00on a special date.
10:02I suppose it avoids
10:05idolisation
10:05as someone like of,
10:07that's,
10:08look,
10:08Christine's so glam
10:09and she's like this
10:11all the time.
10:12Yeah.
10:12But then when you meet someone
10:13and you're going around
10:14Morrison's
10:15and you've not got any make-up
10:16or you're going wherever,
10:18then it's actually like,
10:21oh no,
10:21Christine's a normal person
10:22and,
10:23do you know what I mean?
10:24So it avoids that.
10:25But then sometimes
10:26is it a bad thing for them
10:28to sort of idolise you
10:29a wee bit in the beginning?
10:30Because I think
10:30if you've got that connection
10:32with somebody,
10:33you meet someone
10:33and you think they're amazing
10:34at the start anyway,
10:35so you're just like...
10:36Got your rose tinsel.
10:37And I want them
10:38to think I'm amazing.
10:39Yeah.
10:40How long do you wait
10:41until you go
10:43completely like
10:43make-up free?
10:44Oh.
10:45Well,
10:46I suppose
10:47I'm trying to think,
10:49like,
10:49I think even the first time
10:50Chris stayed over,
10:51I got up in the morning,
10:52brushed my teeth
10:53and put a wee bit
10:54of tinted moisturiser on
10:56as if that was
10:57my natural complexion.
10:59Probably for a while,
11:00but yeah,
11:02after about a month
11:03or something,
11:04that was me.
11:05I was like,
11:06this is it,
11:07this is what you're getting.
11:09Yeah,
11:09I mean,
11:10real life dating's cute
11:11and I get it,
11:12it's nice,
11:13I suppose it saves money,
11:15you get to see people
11:16as they are naturally
11:17without trying to impress
11:18and everything,
11:19but for me,
11:20I think it needs to be
11:21a bit further down.
11:23I think I like,
11:23I think I like the idea of it,
11:25but probably not
11:26for a first date.
11:30Okay,
11:30so it's time
11:31for the Hot Mess Hotline
11:33and this week
11:34it is a woman
11:35who is 29
11:37and she wants
11:38to remain anonymous
11:40and this has been recorded
11:42by someone else,
11:43okay?
11:43Okay.
11:44Right,
11:44you ready?
11:46Hey guys,
11:47so I recently went
11:48on a date with a guy
11:49and after a few drinks
11:51I decided to go back to his.
11:53We started having sex
11:54and he was manoeuvring me around
11:56into all manner
11:57of different positions
11:58and at one point
11:59I was on all fours
12:00facing away from him.
12:01When I started to feel
12:02like a jabbing sensation
12:04down below
12:04and I turned around
12:05to see this guy
12:06staring very intently
12:08at my vagina
12:09and he had his hand
12:10in the shape
12:11of a bird beak
12:12and he was pecking at me.
12:14Now I immediately
12:14told him to stop
12:15and said that
12:16I wasn't enjoying it
12:17and I went into his bathroom
12:18and I just ordered
12:19a taxi home.
12:20Whatever that technique was
12:22it did not do it for me
12:23and me and my pals
12:24now refer to him
12:25as emu guy
12:26but should I have
12:27stuck with it?
12:30Like that?
12:31What the hell?
12:33Like that?
12:35Or like...
12:37I'm so confused
12:39about one
12:40why was he intently
12:41staring at the vagina?
12:43I hate that!
12:44Stop looking at it!
12:45I hate that!
12:47I'm like
12:47why would you stare at it?
12:50I just don't...
12:52I don't...
12:53I don't get it.
12:55I don't...
12:56Right, so all fours...
12:57You've got this
12:58woman in front of you.
12:58Doing it and reenact!
12:59In front of you.
13:00Yeah.
13:01Why are you pecking at her
13:03with your hand?
13:05And...
13:06Yeah, I don't get it.
13:08I don't know what
13:09he was doing down there
13:10but...
13:11I'm happy that she left it.
13:14So I was like
13:15could have caused
13:15some damage.
13:16So what do you do
13:18though, right?
13:19So...
13:20If...
13:20I think with
13:22a man
13:22it's pretty straightforward
13:24what you have to do
13:25but it must be more
13:27difficult
13:28to please a woman.
13:29Like, so what if
13:30this guy is just
13:31basically
13:31got absolutely
13:34no past experience
13:35and he thinks
13:36that's decent?
13:38Is that his fault?
13:38Well he must have
13:39confidently thought
13:41that this was gonna
13:43feel nice
13:44or impress
13:44I was...
13:45Maybe someone's
13:46told him that it was
13:47good.
13:47Someone must have liked it
13:47in the past
13:48or something
13:49but I just...
13:51I'm absolutely
13:52just...
13:55What are you doing?
13:57I...
13:58I...
13:58What would you do
13:59in that situation?
14:00So would you stop
14:01or would you say
14:02listen, that's...
14:03I don't enjoy that
14:04like...
14:05come up here
14:06and we'll try this?
14:08I think, right
14:08sex is massively
14:09important to me
14:10for me
14:11it just...
14:12it matters
14:12and I...
14:15I've realised
14:16that actually
14:17communication
14:17is a massive part
14:18of it
14:19and you should
14:20feel comfortable
14:21and open enough
14:23to be able
14:23to say
14:24what you do
14:24and don't like
14:25but
14:27I've never
14:28experienced
14:28anything like that
14:30where I've had
14:30to just go
14:31but I would
14:33have to say
14:34listen, I'm just
14:35not feeling it
14:36I'm not
14:36I'm not
14:37feeling it
15:02I'm not enjoying it
15:05for birds
15:06or for
15:08animals
15:08and they just
15:09maybe he could
15:10maybe he's had
15:10too much to drink
15:11maybe he couldn't
15:13perform with his
15:13other body parts
15:14so
15:15oh no
15:15he was pretending
15:16maybe it was that
15:17maybe he was trying
15:18to give the feeling
15:19as though he was
15:21doing that
15:22but
15:22yeah
15:23she didn't like it
15:24and she left
15:25thank god
15:25I know
15:26and it was
15:27intensely
15:27staring at
15:28the vagina
15:29and now
15:30he's known
15:30as the
15:31beakman
15:31so do you
15:33give you
15:33do you have
15:34nicknames
15:34my friends
15:35have nicknames
15:36for every
15:37single guy
15:38yep
15:38yep
15:40I love that
15:41because
15:41there's so many
15:43nicknames that
15:43we've got
15:44just for random
15:44people
15:45and then
15:45to the point
15:46where I don't
15:47know their
15:47names
15:47so
15:48someone that
15:49I know
15:50was
15:51dating a
15:52guy
15:52and
15:53he had
15:54this
15:55bizarre
15:56pair of
15:56yellow trainers
15:57and they were
15:58just not nice
15:59so he was
15:59yellow trainer
16:00guy
16:00and like
16:01so stuff like
16:02that
16:02and we
16:03make up
16:04nicknames
16:04for absolutely
16:05everybody
16:06that we know
16:07I do
16:07I do
16:08and it's not
16:09even for like
16:10romantic
16:11situationships
16:12no
16:12it's
16:13it's usually
16:14if I'm in
16:15the car
16:15I'll say in case
16:17I'm with my kids
16:17but it's literally
16:18in case I'm with
16:18anyone
16:19but I'm with my kids
16:20I don't want
16:21names flashing up
16:22so I'll say
16:23if people under
16:24an emoji
16:24or a letter
16:26or something
16:26and then I forget
16:27yeah
16:27I forget
16:28and then like
16:29with work people
16:30where I need to
16:31remember names
16:31then I'll put like
16:32the job title
16:33underneath
16:34but with actual
16:36situationships
16:39if it's
16:40something
16:40like that
16:41like emu man
16:42where I know
16:43I'm not going to
16:44speak to him again
16:45I would save it
16:46under that
16:46to remind me
16:47to never answer
16:48the phone
16:48if that happens
16:49I remember
16:50my friend
16:51once
16:51keeping it
16:52they actually
16:53ended up
16:54getting married
16:55but she
16:56had his name
16:57saved
16:58under
16:59pencil penis
17:00for a long time
17:02and then once
17:03she couldn't
17:04find her phone
17:04so she was like
17:05babe
17:06oh no
17:07can you call
17:08me phone
17:08for me
17:09I can't
17:10find me phone
17:11and he'd come up
17:12he found it
17:13in the kitchen
17:13he was like
17:13here's your phone
17:14babe
17:14and it said
17:15pencil penis
17:16on there
17:17why would you
17:18not change that
17:20what the fuck
17:21it's because
17:21he just had
17:21a long skinny one
17:23oh no
17:24I know
17:24they got married
17:25though
17:26pencil penis
17:27still done the
17:28track
17:32so this week's
17:33drama drop
17:34there's a
17:35Canadian
17:35sports reporter
17:36who's gone
17:37viral
17:37because she's
17:38took up an
17:39avalanche
17:39awareness course
17:40just to
17:42look at the
17:43mountain men
17:43because she likes
17:44mountain men
17:45so she's put
17:45herself there
17:46in the place
17:47where she can
17:48potentially
17:49find a man
17:50that she likes
17:51oh
17:52didn't even
17:53take the sport
17:54off or anything
17:54just went on
17:55an awareness course
17:56just to be around
17:57the guys
17:58yeah
17:59would you ever
17:59do that
18:00would you ever
18:00take a hobby
18:01off
18:01I think it's
18:02really smart
18:03to do that
18:04but I think
18:06I've probably
18:06not taken up
18:07a hobby
18:08but I've probably
18:09lied
18:11about
18:13maybe going
18:14to the gym
18:14as much as I
18:15got in
18:16like my fitness
18:16levels
18:17I was thinking
18:17that if someone's
18:18into fitness
18:19you go yeah
18:20I'll go every day
18:21and I have
18:22I have on
18:23I was going to
18:23say a couple
18:24but on probably
18:25many occasions
18:26got up in the
18:27morning
18:27threw on my
18:28gym clothes
18:29took a banging
18:30selfie
18:31as if I'm
18:32heading to the
18:33gym and jump
18:33back into bed
18:34yeah
18:35yeah
18:35because I know
18:37that if I was
18:39talking to someone
18:40it would impress
18:40them
18:40I think we've
18:41all done that
18:42yeah
18:42we've all acted
18:43like that
18:44I've
18:46I've
18:47done far too
18:48much
18:48I've
18:51done that
18:51I've
18:52I've
18:53pretended to be
18:53interested in
18:54stuff that I
18:54wasn't
18:55I've pretended
18:55to know
18:56about things
18:57that I've got
18:57no idea
18:58about
18:58so I blagged
18:59it
18:59like it
18:59could be
19:00a TV show
19:01that someone's
19:01really into
19:02and I'd be like
19:02yeah yeah
19:03oh my god
19:03I couldn't believe
19:04it when that
19:04happened
19:05chat GPT in the
19:06corner
19:07I've pretended
19:08that I've known
19:09about fashion
19:09brands that I
19:10haven't
19:11like just to
19:11look like I
19:12know what I'm
19:13talking about
19:13so it's like
19:14some common
19:15interest
19:15yeah
19:16yeah
19:16I've
19:18copied
19:18similar styles
19:20of clothing
19:21just to
19:22sort of
19:23be a bit
19:24more
19:24edgy
19:25like them
19:26like them
19:27yeah
19:28exactly
19:29and
19:29it's only
19:30recently I've
19:31sort of
19:32realised and
19:33been thinking
19:33that no one
19:34really wants to
19:35date themselves
19:36yeah
19:37so I need
19:38to stop
19:39that
19:39I need to
19:40stop
19:40like obviously
19:41there is
19:41attractive
19:42things that
19:43people do
19:44like so
19:44obviously that
19:45woman was
19:45into sort of
19:46a big
19:46macho mountain
19:47men
19:48fair play
19:49what do
19:49you what
19:50would be
19:50like a
19:51hobby that
19:52someone's
19:52into that
19:53you find
19:53quite
19:53attractive
19:54um
19:56oh I
19:57love it's
19:57not so much
19:58a hobby but
19:58just more
19:59of like a
19:59trait I
20:00like I
20:01like someone
20:02who's quite
20:02creative or
20:03into music
20:04in some way
20:05like a DJ
20:06I do like
20:07somebody who's
20:07a bit sporty
20:08yeah
20:08who's into
20:09the fitness
20:10I like that
20:10um I
20:12can't do
20:13either but
20:14I'm happy
20:14to watch
20:14yeah
20:15you appreciate
20:16her
20:16yeah I
20:19think um
20:21like a nice
20:21gym guy I
20:22just love
20:23a like nice
20:24set of
20:25shoulders somebody
20:26who's like
20:27banging at the
20:28gym I think a
20:29healthy hobby is a
20:30good thing to
20:31have with your
20:32partner yep
20:33like going to
20:33the gym or
20:34whether it's
20:35like yeah and
20:36I think sometimes
20:36if you're dating
20:37so if you start
20:39dating someone and
20:40you're making
20:40out that you're
20:41fitter than
20:42what you are
20:42then it's kind
20:43of making you
20:44going to have
20:45to go out
20:45there and get
20:46a bit
20:46fitter so
20:47if anything
20:47it's it's
20:48helping you
20:49isn't it
20:52okay so
20:53Christine what
20:54hobbies do you
20:55think would
20:56make someone
20:57undateable
20:57I had a
20:58situation
20:59ship once
20:59who loved
21:02gay men
21:03like there's
21:04there's different
21:04levels of
21:05gaming so
21:06would you say
21:06this would you
21:08say there's
21:08this is more
21:09of me hobbies
21:10yep hobbies
21:11that are really
21:12unattractive in a
21:13partner yeah so
21:15gaming yeah I
21:16would agree yeah
21:17and I don't mind
21:19a little bit if
21:20that's like your
21:20wind down that's
21:21how your child
21:22I don't mind if
21:22I lie in my bed
21:23and play candy
21:24crush or park
21:25buses all night
21:26yeah if you're
21:27trying to switch
21:27your brain off but
21:28it's the big like
21:29the collectors
21:30the ones that
21:31are on there
21:31all night and
21:32the you know
21:33they're talking
21:33to the headsets
21:34on and they're
21:35recording it on a
21:35live stream and
21:36all of that that
21:37I find a little
21:38bit too too much
21:39but I had one
21:40once who loved
21:43a Nintendo switch
21:44okay took it
21:46everywhere and
21:47and yeah she
21:48she loved it and
21:49we didn't spend a
21:50lot of time together
21:50because we didn't
21:51live close together
21:52but she asked me
21:54if I would get
21:55one so that
21:57oh no we could
21:58play games together
21:59when we weren't
22:00even in the same
22:00city so me just
22:03trying to please
22:04I was like yeah
22:05of course I will
22:05I've got no time
22:06to sit and play
22:07on a Nintendo switch
22:08my kids found them
22:09I haven't got time
22:10so I bought it
22:11I went on it once
22:12and then I gave it
22:13to my kids and
22:14let them carry on
22:15oh my god
22:16I couldn't do it
22:17I went into it
22:18I just didn't
22:19I hear it at all
22:20but that was
22:21minimal
22:22there was one
22:23who was obsessed
22:26with Pokemon
22:27no
22:28didn't tell me
22:29catching
22:29purposely hid it
22:31from me
22:31I'm not surprised
22:32because she knew
22:33that my kids
22:34were obsessed
22:34with Pokemon
22:35so and I'm not
22:37talking like a
22:37little obsession
22:38I'm talking like
22:38collected all of
22:39the cards
22:40no
22:40yeah
22:41done that
22:42catching thing
22:43like you know
22:44when someone's
22:44like busy on the
22:45phone
22:45yeah
22:46and
22:47catching the
22:48Pokemon around
22:49the car park
22:50so I thought
22:53I kept seeing
22:54my dad's car
22:55one time
22:55parked in this
22:56random secluded
22:57car park
22:58and I thought
22:59I think he's
23:00having an affair
23:00and I kept
23:01phoning my sister
23:02and I was like
23:03I've just seen
23:03my dad parked
23:04in that space
23:05again
23:05and I was like
23:06he's fucking
23:06having an affair
23:07or something
23:08so she was like
23:10you'll need to go in
23:10but I was a bit
23:11of fear
23:11because I didn't
23:11know what I was
23:12going to walk
23:12up to the window
23:13so I walked
23:14up to the window
23:14and he was like
23:15totally shat his
23:16cell turn around
23:17and he's like
23:17I was like
23:18what are you doing
23:18and he's like
23:18oh I'm
23:19catching Pokemon
23:20and I was like
23:22I don't know
23:23what was worse
23:23than a fear
23:24or catching Pokemon
23:26am I
23:26I feel bad
23:28it's a nice
23:28it's a nice
23:29innocent hobby
23:30and I wouldn't
23:31want somebody
23:31who was
23:32going out
23:33partying all the
23:33time
23:34so it's safe
23:37and it's nice
23:37and it's cute
23:38and it's sweet
23:38but I just
23:39couldn't get
23:40mad around
23:40it because
23:42that's so
23:43much time
23:44and so much
23:44money on
23:45it's a card
23:46my kids collect
23:48them
23:48it's a piece
23:49of paper
23:49it's a card
23:50and I don't
23:51get it
23:51so that
23:52yeah
23:53and I pretended
23:54I bought the
23:55Switch
23:55I didn't ever
23:56play on it
23:57you've done
23:58so well
23:59thanks
24:00you tried
24:02but how
24:03important is it
24:04first of all
24:04how important
24:05is it to
24:06have that
24:07common interest
24:08and hobby
24:08like does it
24:09really matter
24:10is it not
24:10okay to just
24:11enjoy separate
24:12things and
24:12still be happy
24:13yeah I think
24:14I think you
24:15can totally
24:15be into
24:16different things
24:17but I think
24:18like if that
24:19person's talking
24:20about it
24:20if it means
24:21something to
24:21them then
24:22you listen
24:23so you
24:24gradually
24:26naturally gain
24:27a bit of
24:27interest in it
24:28don't you
24:28or you gain
24:29some knowledge
24:30on the subject
24:31but I don't
24:32think you have
24:33to love it
24:33the way that
24:34that person
24:34loves it
24:35yeah
24:36yeah you
24:36can't force
24:37it
24:37yeah
24:37see I
24:38really
24:39struggled
24:39with
24:40not with
24:40everyone
24:41that I've
24:41dated
24:41with
24:42watching
24:42films
24:43it's like
24:44a thing
24:44like
24:46let's sit
24:46and watch
24:46a film
24:47and I
24:47can't do
24:48it
24:48I find it
24:49excruciating
24:50I can't do
24:50it
24:50or I'm
24:51sat on my
24:51phone
24:52whilst I'm
24:52doing
24:52or I'll
24:53I'm okay
24:54with it
24:55being on
24:55and I'll
24:56like follow
24:57the storyline
24:57as much
24:58as I can
24:58what my
24:59attention
25:00just isn't
25:00there
25:01yeah
25:01and I can
25:02think of
25:02so many
25:03other things
25:03to do
25:04for an hour
25:04than
25:04watch a film
25:06but it's
25:07always been
25:08a problem
25:08and I've
25:09tried
25:09it's like
25:10a thing
25:10that you
25:10would do
25:11naturally
25:11when you're
25:11dating
25:12someone
25:12wouldn't you
25:13you would
25:13like
25:13yeah I
25:14never have
25:14so that's
25:15why
25:15I wonder
25:16if because
25:16obviously
25:17my biggest
25:18longest
25:18relationship
25:19was my
25:19marriage
25:20and we
25:20had 15
25:21years
25:21together
25:23and it
25:24didn't really
25:25matter if we
25:25were into the
25:26same stuff
25:26or not
25:26because we
25:27were just
25:27busy with
25:28our lives
25:29so I
25:30don't ever
25:31remember sitting
25:31and watching
25:31a film
25:32ever
25:32so then now
25:33when I'm
25:33dating again
25:34and they're
25:34like oh let's
25:35sit and watch
25:35a film
25:36for me I
25:36think why
25:37I can't
25:38keep my
25:39attention
25:39I don't
25:39know what's
25:39going on
25:40I'm going
25:40to keep
25:40pausing it
25:41and talking
25:41I love
25:42a film
25:42but again
25:43I struggle
25:44with the
25:44attention
25:44but we'll
25:45just maybe
25:46put a film
25:47on and
25:47then before
25:48when we've
25:49got distracted
25:50they'll walk
25:50or maybe
25:51go a walk
25:52or whatever
25:52and then come
25:52back
25:53and watch
25:53a wee bit
25:54I'm trying
25:55I think it's
25:55important to
25:56try and be
25:56interested in
25:57what your
25:59partner's
25:59interested in
26:00as well
26:00it's good
26:01to try
26:01but if it's
26:02just not
26:02there
26:03you can't
26:03force it
26:04do you know
26:05where I know
26:05I think it's
26:05Amsterdam
26:06they've opened
26:07up a cinema
26:08yes
26:09where it's
26:10got tables
26:11with knitting
26:11needles
26:12or pens
26:12and pencils
26:13yeah
26:13that you can
26:14do something
26:16when you're
26:16watching a film
26:17I could do
26:17that
26:17yeah
26:19yeah
26:20I need
26:21a date
26:21to Amsterdam
26:21if you want
26:22me to watch
26:22a film
26:22okay
26:27and that's
26:28us for
26:29today
26:29it's been
26:30fab
26:30it's gone
26:31so fast
26:31but I've
26:32loved it
26:32how funny
26:33I love
26:34I loved
26:34hearing about
26:35the good
26:35the bad
26:36and the
26:36ugly
26:36dates
26:37and the
26:37pecking
26:37the pecking
26:39traumatised
26:40that'll haunt
26:40me
26:41it will haunt
26:41me forever
26:42oh well
26:43amy man
26:46so goodbye
26:47thank you
26:48to everyone
26:48except people
26:49who play
26:50pokemon
26:52it's been a
26:52pleasure
26:53no I can't
26:54stop visualising
26:55it I'm being
26:56serious
26:56I keep thinking
26:57about it
26:59I'm going to get
26:59Chris to try that
27:00tonight just to see
27:01how it feels
27:01see if it feels
27:02nice
27:03maybe maybe
27:04one must have
27:05felt nice
27:05imagine I said
27:06that to him
27:07in blue
27:07what the fuck
27:08can you just
27:09peck me a bit
27:09just peck
27:10do you mind
27:10just pecking
27:11with your hands
27:14you just do it
27:15exactly like this
27:16can you just do this
27:16do you mind
27:17just pecking
27:17with your hands
27:18for a bit
27:18then just like
27:19shout is anemia
27:20what noise
27:21is anemia you make
27:23I don't know
27:24if you make
27:24I don't know
27:27if you make a noise
27:29quack
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