Married at First Sight (AU) Season 13 Episode 33

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00:00:00So excited to show David around, my hometown.

00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,

00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.

00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.

00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.

00:00:17And for Stephen...

00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.

00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed

00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.

00:00:26What I see is a life outside the experiment.

00:00:30It really reaffirms the feelings are real, the feelings are neutral.

00:00:35My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.

00:00:39Emotions ran high for some...

00:00:41You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it.

00:00:45And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...

00:00:48David is everything that you've asked for.

00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.

00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alyssa's storm.

00:00:57She still sees negatives.

00:00:58There's nothing else I can do.

00:01:00What's that?

00:01:01Why is it pink?

00:01:02Is it your exes or something?

00:01:03And on the Gold Coast...

00:01:05I see you being pressured.

00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.

00:01:07Are you scared about her reaction?

00:01:09Pretty much.

00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.

00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells.

00:01:15You know what I mean?

00:01:15Yeah, Scott.

00:01:16No, no, what I'm saying is, like...

00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.

00:01:21In just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions that you're going to have

00:01:26to make.

00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship into the real world and make it a success.

00:01:34Welcome.

00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.

00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.

00:01:41And after two months of marriage, uncomfortable truths will be exposed.

00:01:46I want a partner who can have a constructive conversation with me about an issue.

00:01:51I can't mind-reading.

00:01:52It's not mind-reading.

00:01:53It's not mind-reading.

00:01:53Oh, my gosh, I can't.

00:01:54I cannot.

00:01:55Boom.

00:01:55David reveals what's really going on in his relationship with Alyssa.

00:01:59You did mention I was a weak man.

00:02:01She called you a weak man?

00:02:02Yeah.

00:02:03So that's a problem.

00:02:05No, no, no.

00:02:06Do not blame me.

00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...

00:02:09I'm not going to walk down to final vows with someone that's a maybe about me.

00:02:15Is this the night Beck finally calls it quits?

00:02:18I'm not doing it.

00:02:20I'm not.

00:02:22And then...

00:02:23What I'm seeing here is fake.

00:02:25I'm going to call you out.

00:02:27I've seen it the entire experiment.

00:02:29If you don't let us in, you're not going to last.

00:02:32It's Scott's moment of truth.

00:02:34Um, I get a bit nervous.

00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is I don't want you to be upset.

00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings where I...

00:02:49Take a breath.

00:02:51Give me a minute.

00:02:52Breathe.

00:03:10It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.

00:03:14Yummy.

00:03:16Get some cafe.

00:03:17Cheers.

00:03:18Yeah.

00:03:19And after eight weeks in the experiment,

00:03:21tonight marks the last time the couples will come face-to-face with the experts.

00:03:27How'd you sleep?

00:03:28Yeah, I slept really well.

00:03:29Really, really well.

00:03:30I love our little midnight make-out sessions.

00:03:33Some people have chats.

00:03:35We have make-out sessions.

00:03:36Yeah.

00:03:37I love it.

00:03:38This week, during homestays, the couples were tested

00:03:41as they prepare for a life outside the experiment.

00:03:45It was good.

00:03:45I'm just enjoying the last couple weeks.

00:03:48Stella and Philip continue to evolve as a couple,

00:03:51having said, I love you.

00:03:55Rachel and Stephen have been slower to open their hearts.

00:03:59But day by day, their connection grows.

00:04:02It was really good to tell everyone about our homestays

00:04:05and even reflecting on it, like, after last night's dinner party.

00:04:10Do I dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now?

00:04:15Dare to say it, babes, because I've been saying it.

00:04:18Yeah.

00:04:20Oh.

00:04:22For Alyssa and David, homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship.

00:04:30I feel like David and I have been a strong couple throughout this experiment.

00:04:35I still believe we are, because we have each other's back.

00:04:38It's just hard.

00:04:38Be careful.

00:04:39It's just...

00:04:39You know, we have been honest with each other about a lot of things.

00:04:42But since homestays, it's taken a turn.

00:04:46We have had deep conversations, big conversations,

00:04:49and David's maybe held back from saying what he really felt in that moment

00:04:53or questioning what I meant in that moment.

00:04:55And now, towards the end of the experiment, it's all coming out.

00:04:59How are you feeling?

00:05:01Um, I'm feeling like we've got a lot going on right now at the moment.

00:05:09Just, uh, we're not really understanding each other.

00:05:12Yeah.

00:05:13I feel like we have a lot to unpack and a lot to, you know, break down.

00:05:17And, yeah, there are some cracks.

00:05:19And, you know, the pressure of the experiment ending,

00:05:21it's definitely taken its toll on me.

00:05:26I felt in homestay that I'm like,

00:05:29OK, he's keen to move to Adelaide.

00:05:31Wait, I haven't met his family.

00:05:32Wait, I haven't met his friends.

00:05:33Oh, wait, I don't even know he's got multiple jobs.

00:05:36Like, I don't know if he's stable.

00:05:37I want to have family.

00:05:38Like, this is me spiralling because I'm like,

00:05:40is this too good to be true?

00:05:42Obviously, homestays is quite late,

00:05:44but it's brought up a lot of other things

00:05:45that we should have dealt with a long time ago.

00:05:48Like, have the conversations if you don't agree with something

00:05:51or have the conversation or ask the questions

00:05:52when you don't understand something that I've said.

00:05:55Well, all I'm going to say is...

00:05:56We should have gone there, but we haven't,

00:05:58and I haven't felt, like, challenged enough.

00:06:02You need to break through that softness

00:06:04and be strong with me

00:06:05because I want to be a team with you

00:06:06and talk things through and, you know, like...

00:06:10It's so frustrating to sit here

00:06:12trying to express my side of the story

00:06:15and I can hardly get a word in.

00:06:17I feel like there are holes.

00:06:18I think there was a...

00:06:19There are cracks.

00:06:20There was a bit of, like, the last couple of days,

00:06:25what I've been struggling with

00:06:26is I haven't been as, like, willing to have those...

00:06:30Hard conversations.

00:06:31Hard conversations with you about how I was feeling.

00:06:33But, babe, like, if you don't talk to me

00:06:35about your reservations, that's not healthy, babe.

00:06:38Yeah.

00:06:39Talk to me.

00:06:40We need to voice.

00:06:42And that's what I need in this relationship.

00:06:44And that's...

00:06:44You're not fulfilling that need for me.

00:06:46And I believe that it's right to put it all out of the table.

00:06:50I don't ever want to have to hold back.

00:06:52I don't think it's that you hold back,

00:06:54but I think one thing about you is you hold on too much

00:06:57and then...

00:06:57Babe, I know, but...

00:06:58Babe, you stay...

00:07:02You're spiralling within yourself.

00:07:03I know, I'm not.

00:07:04Are you done?

00:07:05You know what I mean?

00:07:05I can't even get a word in.

00:07:08I feel like it's a slap in the face.

00:07:11Alyssa says she wants a hard, challenging conversation

00:07:14and she's wanted this for a long time,

00:07:15but it's not just like that with Alyssa.

00:07:18It's not.

00:07:19Respect is only on her terms

00:07:20and the relationship only goes her way or the highway.

00:07:24So that is a big deal break for me as well.

00:07:26It is the first time where I feel like

00:07:28both of us are very disconnected

00:07:31a lot more than we ever have

00:07:34going into a commitment ceremony.

00:07:35And tonight, I'm just going to be completely honest

00:07:38because I've hit my limit

00:07:40and I'm not going to, like, hold back.

00:07:43I'm just going to put it all on the table.

00:07:49As for Danny,

00:07:51his controversial views

00:07:53resulted in a tense argument with Bec

00:07:55at last night's dinner party.

00:07:58It makes you feel like a bit of a bitch

00:08:00moving in with a woman.

00:08:02What are you on about?

00:08:04He's talking about feeling emasculated

00:08:06if she was the one who owned the house.

00:08:10F*** me!

00:08:14And this morning,

00:08:15they are still struggling to resolve the issue.

00:08:18People can feel how they want to feel.

00:08:20You know what I mean?

00:08:21Whether other people agree with it or not,

00:08:23like, it's not up to them.

00:08:25This is how I feel.

00:08:26I feel like moving in with a woman

00:08:28just doesn't feel very manly of me.

00:08:31You know?

00:08:32Yeah.

00:08:33You don't understand.

00:08:34I do understand.

00:08:35I get what you're saying.

00:08:36But I suppose

00:08:39if we're talking about

00:08:41creating a life together

00:08:42after this experiment,

00:08:44then

00:08:45you're going to have to get over that.

00:08:49Am I right or am I right?

00:08:51The funny thing is with Bec,

00:08:53when she feels a kind of way,

00:08:55it's a completely valid feeling.

00:08:56That's how she feels.

00:08:58But when I say

00:08:59it makes me feel this way,

00:09:01oh, nah, but nah,

00:09:02but that's not right.

00:09:03It's not actually to do with you being a woman.

00:09:05I wouldn't move in with anyone

00:09:06and just, like,

00:09:07freeload often.

00:09:09You pay the bills,

00:09:09I pay the mortgage,

00:09:10you'll be done.

00:09:11Easy.

00:09:12Finito.

00:09:14Other than that,

00:09:15we had a great night.

00:09:16Yes, uh, yeah.

00:09:18And whilst Bec and Danny

00:09:20continue to disagree,

00:09:22our other couples

00:09:23are preparing

00:09:24for the final commitment ceremony

00:09:26of the experiment.

00:09:29You look great.

00:09:30You too.

00:09:31Yeah.

00:09:32Yeah.

00:09:33Very pure, you know?

00:09:35Yeah.

00:09:36Very appropriate.

00:09:37Very appropriate.

00:09:39As our couples face the experts

00:09:41for the last time,

00:09:44a defining choice awaits.

00:09:47Tonight, they must decide.

00:09:50Stay in the experiment

00:09:52through to final vows

00:09:54or walk away

00:09:56from their marriages for good.

00:10:01For Scott,

00:10:02the pressure is mounting.

00:10:04He feels it is now or never

00:10:06to reveal his true feelings

00:10:08to his bride, Gia.

00:10:10Final commitment ceremony tonight.

00:10:13Crazy, isn't it?

00:10:15Yeah.

00:10:16Can you believe

00:10:16that we've made it this far?

00:10:20I, yeah,

00:10:20I definitely

00:10:21didn't imagine it.

00:10:25I do think

00:10:26we had a great week.

00:10:28I don't think

00:10:29we're going to have

00:10:29too much feedback tonight.

00:10:30I think

00:10:31it was great.

00:10:32Like,

00:10:32I can't fault

00:10:33homestays.

00:10:34It went really well.

00:10:35Positive,

00:10:36good vibes,

00:10:37you know?

00:10:37so hopefully

00:10:38not getting grilled

00:10:39hard tonight.

00:10:41I feel like

00:10:42I've been hit a bit

00:10:43throughout this experiment

00:10:44from the experts.

00:10:46Yeah.

00:10:47Yeah.

00:10:52What else?

00:10:55I get nervous

00:10:56going to the

00:10:57commitment ceremony

00:10:59because

00:10:59I still can't be

00:11:01100%

00:11:01myself

00:11:02and I feel like

00:11:03I just can't

00:11:04have a voice sometimes

00:11:05because she thinks

00:11:06we're going to have

00:11:07an argument.

00:11:07And I want her

00:11:07to be able to

00:11:08understand that

00:11:08we need to speak

00:11:09anecdotally

00:11:09knowing that

00:11:10if I have a concern

00:11:11or she has a concern

00:11:12we can talk

00:11:12and it's not

00:11:13going to lead

00:11:13to a disaster.

00:11:14You've got to

00:11:15be able to

00:11:15communicate.

00:11:16So you ready

00:11:17for tonight?

00:11:19I don't like

00:11:19commitment ceremonies,

00:11:20you know that?

00:11:21Yeah.

00:11:22I feel like

00:11:23we're at the point

00:11:23where, you know,

00:11:25we're almost

00:11:25falling in love.

00:11:27Yeah.

00:11:28Then I feel like

00:11:29if she feels

00:11:29more than me

00:11:30and she doesn't

00:11:31get anything back

00:11:31from me,

00:11:32she'll start spiralling

00:11:33and start saying

00:11:34harshful things to me.

00:11:36Very harshful things.

00:11:39And so then

00:11:40I feel like

00:11:41I can't talk

00:11:42and I go quiet

00:11:44and I go flat.

00:11:47That retracts me

00:11:48every time

00:11:48and that's what

00:11:49pushes me away

00:11:49from falling in love

00:11:50and I don't think

00:11:51she understands that.

00:11:52So you just got to

00:11:53look at the positives,

00:11:54you know?

00:11:57Personally, I'd love

00:11:58to speak up

00:11:59and share everything

00:12:00because it's good

00:12:00to get feedback.

00:12:02But there's another

00:12:03side of me

00:12:04where I feel like

00:12:04I want to protect

00:12:05my wife,

00:12:06I don't want to feel

00:12:07unstable, upset

00:12:08or, you know,

00:12:08get nervous

00:12:09or have a breakdown.

00:12:11So, you know,

00:12:11I think how's she

00:12:12going to react

00:12:12if I say these things?

00:12:14All right.

00:12:15See you in there.

00:12:17Bye.

00:12:18Sometimes I'm like,

00:12:19well, I'm just

00:12:20not going to talk

00:12:20about it.

00:12:22I'm just in the air.

00:12:23I don't know what to do.

00:12:25Bye.

00:12:27Bye.

00:12:45Hello.

00:12:47Hi.

00:12:48How are you guys?

00:12:49Very well.

00:12:50Welcome.

00:12:51Hello, guys.

00:12:52Hi.

00:12:53Hello.

00:12:53Welcome.

00:12:54Hi.

00:13:17Hello, ladies.

00:13:18Hello.

00:13:19I'm Chris.

00:13:19Hi.

00:13:21Hi.

00:13:30Welcome, everybody,

00:13:31to the very final

00:13:33commitment ceremony

00:13:34of this experiment.

00:13:37Now, this is a very,

00:13:38very pivotal night

00:13:40because it is

00:13:41the very last time

00:13:42that you get to sit

00:13:44in front of the experts

00:13:45and to hear the feedback

00:13:47that we have for you.

00:13:50Now, in just a short time,

00:13:51you have one of the biggest

00:13:52decisions that you're

00:13:53going to have to make,

00:13:55whether or not

00:13:55you can take this relationship

00:13:57in the experiment

00:13:58into the real world

00:14:00and make it a success.

00:14:02And as we know

00:14:03as experts,

00:14:04if you are not

00:14:06completely vulnerable

00:14:07with your partner

00:14:08at this stage

00:14:09of the experiment,

00:14:10then your relationship

00:14:12will crumble

00:14:13on the outside.

00:14:15It will not last.

00:14:19Now, with that being said,

00:14:21let's get our first

00:14:22couple up.

00:14:28Alyssa and David.

00:14:38Hello.

00:14:40Hello.

00:14:43So, how are things?

00:14:46Um, you know what?

00:14:47Last time we were on the couch,

00:14:50things were moving

00:14:52in the right direction.

00:14:52They still are.

00:14:54But we do have some hiccups

00:14:55that we're trying to work

00:14:57through at the moment.

00:14:58Okay.

00:14:59Um, obviously,

00:15:01I'll start by saying,

00:15:02you know,

00:15:03Alyssa is an amazing girl.

00:15:05But personally,

00:15:06I feel like

00:15:08I have, you know,

00:15:09carried a lot of

00:15:10the emotional weight

00:15:11in the relationship.

00:15:12This is just how I feel.

00:15:15What do you mean

00:15:16when you say

00:15:16carry most of

00:15:17the emotional weight?

00:15:19I feel like

00:15:20there has been times

00:15:20where I personally

00:15:22put my emotions aside

00:15:24just to make sure

00:15:25that there was

00:15:27just peace.

00:15:29And this is a thing

00:15:30where, like,

00:15:31I have tried to bring

00:15:32something up

00:15:33at the start

00:15:34of the relationship

00:15:34to Alyssa,

00:15:35and I felt like

00:15:36she was not receptive

00:15:37to it.

00:15:38So what that ended up

00:15:40doing for me

00:15:40was making me

00:15:41be more cautious

00:15:43of bringing stuff

00:15:43up to her.

00:15:44Mm-hmm.

00:15:48It was more

00:15:49the reaction of,

00:15:49is it going to

00:15:50become an argument

00:15:51that was going

00:15:52to go out of hand?

00:15:54So what happened

00:15:55with all of that

00:15:57emotion as you

00:15:58described it?

00:15:58If you weren't

00:16:00expressing that

00:16:00to Alyssa,

00:16:01what were you

00:16:02doing with it?

00:16:06Well,

00:16:08anything little

00:16:08that I didn't

00:16:09really care about.

00:16:10It didn't really

00:16:10affect me,

00:16:11so I'd brush over it.

00:16:12But what happened

00:16:13in homestays

00:16:14was I feel like

00:16:15it triggered me.

00:16:16Okay.

00:16:17I was saying

00:16:17Adelaide is a

00:16:18livable place,

00:16:19but I felt like

00:16:20Alyssa was being

00:16:21a bit negative

00:16:24about the move.

00:16:25I feel like she

00:16:26was pointing out

00:16:27all of the reasons

00:16:27why it won't work,

00:16:28which are all valid.

00:16:29We all know that

00:16:30there is things

00:16:30to work out

00:16:31in the real world.

00:16:32But it felt like

00:16:33for me,

00:16:34she was too

00:16:35in her head about it

00:16:36that it's affecting

00:16:37me right now.

00:16:42Do you know why?

00:16:43Because I'm feeling

00:16:44very frustrated

00:16:45at this part

00:16:46of the experiment.

00:16:47This is our

00:16:48last couch

00:16:49session

00:16:49and I'm feeling

00:16:50like there

00:16:50has been

00:16:50some holdback

00:16:52and some

00:16:52of our couch

00:16:53sessions could

00:16:54have been

00:16:54things that

00:16:54we could be

00:16:55working through

00:16:55if we had

00:16:56more open

00:16:56conversations.

00:16:58I feel like

00:16:59he doesn't

00:16:59want to have

00:16:59conflict,

00:17:01but I feel

00:17:02like there

00:17:02is healthy

00:17:03conflict resolution.

00:17:04Otherwise,

00:17:04my relationship

00:17:05in my eyes,

00:17:05this is too

00:17:06good to be true.

00:17:07Can I just

00:17:09say,

00:17:10I want a partner

00:17:11who can have

00:17:12a constructive

00:17:13conversation with

00:17:14me about an

00:17:15issue,

00:17:16but a partner

00:17:17that shuts

00:17:18you down

00:17:18and tells

00:17:19you what

00:17:19they're saying

00:17:19is Bible,

00:17:21it is an issue.

00:17:22Why have I actually

00:17:23spoken down on you

00:17:23in a bad way?

00:17:25Like, I don't...

00:17:25Well, there's

00:17:26things you've said.

00:17:27I don't want to,

00:17:28I don't want to,

00:17:29like...

00:17:29Well, an example

00:17:30could be helpful

00:17:31for Alyssa here.

00:17:32Well, she has...

00:17:34You did mention

00:17:35I was a weak man

00:17:36at one point.

00:17:37She called you

00:17:38a weak man?

00:17:39Yeah.

00:17:42So that's a problem.

00:17:58Well, she has...

00:17:59You did mention

00:18:01I was a weak man

00:18:01at one point.

00:18:03She called you

00:18:04a weak man?

00:18:05Yeah.

00:18:08So that's a problem.

00:18:15What was the context

00:18:16around that?

00:18:18It was in one

00:18:19of our talks

00:18:19about, like,

00:18:20she's got assets,

00:18:21she's ahead in life

00:18:23and she wants a guy

00:18:24that can match that.

00:18:25So financially weak.

00:18:26Yeah.

00:18:27How did it feel

00:18:28when she said that?

00:18:29Well, I just thought,

00:18:30where's this coming from?

00:18:31And the thing about me

00:18:33is, like,

00:18:33I pick what I want

00:18:34to, like,

00:18:35get upset about

00:18:36and I didn't.

00:18:37Maybe I should have

00:18:38combated that

00:18:39at the time.

00:18:44Alyssa,

00:18:44what was going on

00:18:45for you?

00:18:45What did you want

00:18:46to achieve

00:18:46from saying that

00:18:47to him?

00:18:49I was getting frustrated

00:18:50because I'm wanting

00:18:51more from David.

00:18:52I'm wanting to see

00:18:53more from him

00:18:55and I feel like

00:18:56I want to be strong

00:18:57together as a couple.

00:18:58I think where

00:18:59I'm struggling is

00:19:00it's...

00:19:01She wants me

00:19:01to be strong

00:19:02on her timeline

00:19:03and that's where

00:19:04it feels like

00:19:05it is your way

00:19:07or you're not happy.

00:19:10David,

00:19:10do you feel like

00:19:11you're enough

00:19:12for Alyssa?

00:19:12I feel like

00:19:13I'm 100% enough.

00:19:17Do you think

00:19:18she thinks

00:19:18you're enough?

00:19:19I think she does

00:19:20but the questions

00:19:21that I'm getting

00:19:22are, like,

00:19:23they are confusing me.

00:19:24So what are these

00:19:25questions that are

00:19:26confusing you?

00:19:27Well,

00:19:28the first thing

00:19:29is she's wondering,

00:19:30like, you know,

00:19:30energy, like,

00:19:31in five years

00:19:32or whatever,

00:19:33is that going to be

00:19:33enough to sustain her?

00:19:34And she has said to me,

00:19:35if I'm not getting

00:19:37the fix I need,

00:19:39I'll go look elsewhere.

00:19:40No, I didn't say that.

00:19:43She said,

00:19:43I'm hungry,

00:19:44you need to feed me,

00:19:45you need to feed me.

00:19:45I've taught you more

00:19:46in this relationship

00:19:47than you've taught me.

00:19:48I'm wanting to,

00:19:49like, open-ended

00:19:49conversations and stuff.

00:19:51I'm wanting to go deep,

00:19:52like, I'm putting

00:19:53all my cards on the table,

00:19:54I'm very direct,

00:19:55like, I'll talk about stuff.

00:19:57I need some sort of fuel,

00:19:59like, it's just,

00:19:59it's what I like.

00:20:01But I don't know

00:20:02if our relationship

00:20:03is going to last

00:20:05in the real world,

00:20:06if this is the gap.

00:20:10I don't know

00:20:10if we're going to be

00:20:11a good match long-term

00:20:12if this is the energy,

00:20:13because I need to see

00:20:15David in his element.

00:20:16I need to see David

00:20:17with his family,

00:20:18I need to see David

00:20:18with his friends,

00:20:19I need to see what he does.

00:20:19Like, I want to have a family

00:20:21in the next few years.

00:20:28And, like,

00:20:29if we want to talk about

00:20:30me seeing things work

00:20:31in the real world,

00:20:32what I need to see as well

00:20:33is if someone says

00:20:34they want to have

00:20:35open-ended conversations,

00:20:36that has to be it.

00:20:37What's happened

00:20:38in this relationship

00:20:39is I've done a lot of listening,

00:20:40Alyssa's done a lot of talking.

00:20:44That's the fact.

00:20:44You need to speak up, Ben.

00:20:45No, no, no,

00:20:46but, like, it's,

00:20:47I don't, one thing about me

00:20:48is I think

00:20:49we're both adults

00:20:50and I want to see that

00:20:52in her, that she has

00:20:52the ability to listen.

00:20:54I can't mind-read.

00:20:55It's not mind-reading.

00:20:55It's not mind-leasing.

00:20:56Oh, my gosh, I can't.

00:20:57I cannot.

00:20:57I know, I can't mind-read, babe.

00:20:59You're frustrating me

00:21:00because I can't read your mind.

00:21:01When something, when she,

00:21:02when I start saying something

00:21:04that she's not getting,

00:21:05I'm frustrated.

00:21:06I don't want to deal

00:21:06with this anymore.

00:21:07No, I'm not dealing with it.

00:21:08I'm just saying.

00:21:09You're now talking in circles.

00:21:10So I'm going to,

00:21:11I'm going to pull you up there.

00:21:13I mean, this has been

00:21:14very enlightening, I think,

00:21:16for us to get a glimpse inside

00:21:18what's really going on

00:21:20in the relationship.

00:21:22So an observation from,

00:21:24from us here is that

00:21:26you've both made missteps,

00:21:29I think, in terms of

00:21:31your communication

00:21:31and what you've brought

00:21:32to the couch here.

00:21:34Because, Alyssa,

00:21:35you were aware

00:21:36that he was withholding.

00:21:37You knew he was not

00:21:38being up front with you.

00:21:39So you could have

00:21:40brought that up.

00:21:41And so, David, for you,

00:21:43you were choosing

00:21:44not to speak up.

00:21:47You haven't arrived

00:21:48at an outcome.

00:21:49No.

00:21:50But you've helped us see

00:21:51what's going on inside.

00:21:53So thank you for that

00:21:54to this point.

00:21:56So now let's look forward.

00:21:58Because, as you know,

00:21:59this is the last

00:22:00commitment ceremony.

00:22:01This is almost the end

00:22:03of the experiment

00:22:04for you two.

00:22:05Where to from here?

00:22:14Well, I'm sitting here

00:22:16because I want that help.

00:22:18I guess what we need to do

00:22:19is look beneath

00:22:20the arguments here.

00:22:22Because there's a reason

00:22:24that you have been

00:22:27avoiding bringing

00:22:28these issues up.

00:22:29Here's an opportunity

00:22:30to now say,

00:22:31OK, we're going to come

00:22:32at this as equals.

00:22:33Not one putting

00:22:34the other down.

00:22:35Not one avoiding

00:22:36and running away.

00:22:36We are coming here

00:22:38together to have this

00:22:39open, honest,

00:22:41mature conversation

00:22:42about what you both want

00:22:43post-experiment.

00:22:45Because otherwise,

00:22:46the last couple of months

00:22:48has been a waste of time.

00:22:50You've got that opportunity

00:22:51now.

00:22:52It's not too late.

00:22:55Can you do that?

00:22:57Yeah.

00:22:58Alyssa?

00:23:00Yeah.

00:23:04You're OK.

00:23:09I do believe that

00:23:10the things we have

00:23:11gone through

00:23:12are significant

00:23:13and I believe that

00:23:14there are genuine

00:23:15feelings here.

00:23:16I do feel

00:23:17strong feelings

00:23:18towards Alyssa.

00:23:19That's why I'm still here.

00:23:20OK.

00:23:22All right.

00:23:22Well, on that note,

00:23:23we're going to go

00:23:23to a decision.

00:23:25Alyssa,

00:23:25we'll start with you.

00:23:27I didn't come here

00:23:29for three months

00:23:30to waste it.

00:23:31And, like,

00:23:32I came here

00:23:32to find my person.

00:23:35I want to settle down.

00:23:36I want to have a family.

00:23:37I want the happy ending.

00:23:39And that is why

00:23:41I want to move forward

00:23:42as a team

00:23:45and no holding back.

00:23:47And because

00:23:48there's so many feelings

00:23:49involved

00:23:50and, like,

00:23:51I really care about

00:23:51this relationship so much,

00:23:53I have decided to stay.

00:23:55OK.

00:23:57And to you, David.

00:24:07I'll take your advice

00:24:08on board

00:24:08and, yeah,

00:24:09I wrote to Stan.

00:24:15Pleased to see that.

00:24:17This could be

00:24:18make or break

00:24:18for you guys.

00:24:20You're about to make

00:24:22the decision

00:24:22of this experiment,

00:24:24the thing that is

00:24:25going to determine

00:24:25which way you go

00:24:27in your future.

00:24:29Good luck, guys.

00:24:43Good work, guys.

00:24:45Good work.

00:24:56Coming up...

00:24:57You do not have to tell me

00:24:58you love me,

00:24:59but I'm not going to

00:25:00walk down to final vows

00:25:02with someone that

00:25:03I may be.

00:25:05Bec hits her limit.

00:25:06I'm not doing it.

00:25:09And...

00:25:10I...

00:25:10Take a breath for a minute.

00:25:13Breathe.

00:25:14Will Scott speak up?

00:25:18When I care about

00:25:19someone so much,

00:25:20I feel like I can't

00:25:21speak my voice

00:25:22when I'm ever concerned.

00:25:23It's a weakness of mine.

00:25:35All right,

00:25:36let's have our next

00:25:37couple up.

00:25:40Rachel and Stephen.

00:25:42Hey.

00:25:43APPLAUSE

00:25:46Hello.

00:25:47Hello.

00:25:48Hello.

00:25:49How are you?

00:25:50Hiya.

00:25:51I love this energy.

00:25:53Can I just say,

00:25:54Steve,

00:25:54are you got a bit

00:25:54of a swagger?

00:25:55Oh, he sure does.

00:25:57Oh, don't flatter me,

00:25:58John.

00:26:00Especially coming from you.

00:26:05Where do you two

00:26:05want to begin?

00:26:07Homestays, I guess.

00:26:08I mean,

00:26:08it seems like

00:26:09it's had a big impact

00:26:10on the two of you.

00:26:11Yeah.

00:26:13Homestays was

00:26:14a big success for me

00:26:16and I believe

00:26:17Rachel as well.

00:26:18It's sort of

00:26:20changed the relationship

00:26:21in many ways.

00:26:22Oh, in what way?

00:26:24For me,

00:26:25Rachel was fantastic.

00:26:26She...

00:26:27I showed her my passions

00:26:28and she went out

00:26:29on the boat

00:26:30and she enjoyed herself

00:26:31a smile ear to ear

00:26:32and we had lots of banter,

00:26:34laughing.

00:26:34It was a really

00:26:36super sweet time.

00:26:37But it's not that

00:26:38she's in the fishing,

00:26:39it's the independence.

00:26:41I can go...

00:26:42I feel like I can rely

00:26:43on Rachel.

00:26:44If something happens

00:26:45in the well

00:26:45where I'm like,

00:26:46jeez, can you,

00:26:46you know,

00:26:47help me out with this,

00:26:48Rachel's going to go,

00:26:48got your back.

00:26:49Yeah.

00:26:50And she's just

00:26:50going to get it done.

00:26:51So as a result of that,

00:26:53how do you feel about her?

00:26:56Well...

00:26:58I feel like I can see

00:27:00myself falling in love

00:27:01with Rachel.

00:27:02Woo-hoo!

00:27:04That's massive.

00:27:07Hmm.

00:27:11Rachel, uh...

00:27:12Yeah.

00:27:12These are tears of happiness,

00:27:13I swear.

00:27:14Let's just take a moment,

00:27:15shall we?

00:27:15Just a little bit overwhelmed.

00:27:17In a good way.

00:27:21So I feel the same.

00:27:23You know,

00:27:23I can definitely see myself

00:27:25falling in love with you too.

00:27:27There's something going on

00:27:28for you right now, Rachel.

00:27:30What is it?

00:27:30This is a very significant

00:27:32moment for you.

00:27:33Yeah.

00:27:34Um,

00:27:35I think I shared with you,

00:27:36John,

00:27:36before I came in here

00:27:37the last time.

00:27:39Someone told me

00:27:40that they loved me.

00:27:41The very next day

00:27:42they told me

00:27:43they don't remember

00:27:44saying it.

00:27:47Um,

00:27:48that was after

00:27:49seven years

00:27:49of a...

00:27:51a toxic situation.

00:27:53relationship.

00:27:54And so,

00:27:55um,

00:27:56it's a hard thing.

00:27:58My barriers go up.

00:28:01And so,

00:28:03having this journey

00:28:04with Stephen

00:28:05and knowing,

00:28:06you know,

00:28:07how he feels

00:28:08about vulnerability

00:28:08and when he says

00:28:10something,

00:28:10he means it.

00:28:11So,

00:28:12for him to be

00:28:13sitting here

00:28:13and saying that

00:28:14to me,

00:28:15it,

00:28:16yeah,

00:28:17bam,

00:28:17right in the fields

00:28:18in a really beautiful way

00:28:19because I'm like,

00:28:20yeah,

00:28:21I believe him.

00:28:25And I

00:28:26don't think

00:28:26that I thought

00:28:27that I would believe

00:28:29a man again

00:28:30in that way.

00:28:32You're welcome.

00:28:34And you know what?

00:28:36He said that

00:28:36holding your hand,

00:28:38sitting next to you

00:28:39and showing you

00:28:41his family.

00:28:42Yeah.

00:28:43All the things

00:28:43that signal

00:28:46he's not going anywhere.

00:28:47Yeah.

00:28:49It's different.

00:28:50It is very different.

00:28:52Is it scary?

00:28:53It's petrifying.

00:28:58What are you scared of

00:28:59the most?

00:29:01I'm scared that Stephen

00:29:03will go back

00:29:03to his life in Sydney

00:29:05and it's just going

00:29:07to be easier

00:29:08for him

00:29:08to let me go

00:29:10because he is

00:29:11time poor

00:29:12and he has

00:29:12his business

00:29:14and so

00:29:15it might be

00:29:16a burden

00:29:18to try and maintain

00:29:19our relationship

00:29:20with me

00:29:21so he might

00:29:22just let me go.

00:29:25So,

00:29:26yeah,

00:29:28that's,

00:29:28that's my fear.

00:29:31I feel like I'm hurt.

00:29:33Well,

00:29:33how does that land

00:29:34for you,

00:29:35Stephen,

00:29:35even when you hear

00:29:36her say that?

00:29:37Yeah,

00:29:38it makes me feel

00:29:38helpless at times

00:29:39and I don't know

00:29:40what to say

00:29:41because when I see

00:29:43Rachel in these

00:29:44states,

00:29:45the first thing

00:29:45I want to do

00:29:46is try and comfort

00:29:47her and try to

00:29:48fix the situation

00:29:49or reassure

00:29:49or at least

00:29:51take the edge

00:29:52off a bit.

00:29:54So if you don't

00:29:54have to fix it

00:29:55and you just sit

00:29:56with it

00:29:56and validate it,

00:29:57can you do that?

00:29:58I can do that.

00:29:59I can't say I'm

00:30:01happy with that

00:30:02but I mean

00:30:02it's,

00:30:03it is what it is.

00:30:03Makes you feel

00:30:04a bit uncomfortable?

00:30:05It does.

00:30:06Yeah,

00:30:06good.

00:30:06It does.

00:30:07Good?

00:30:07It does.

00:30:08And the only thing

00:30:09I can say to her

00:30:10is that the only

00:30:11thing that I feel

00:30:11like that's going

00:30:12to fix this

00:30:12is actually

00:30:13go out there

00:30:14in the real world

00:30:14and put it

00:30:15into practice

00:30:15and prove it

00:30:17wrong pretty much.

00:30:19Why haven't you

00:30:19changed?

00:30:21You know,

00:30:22all the both of you

00:30:22sitting in front

00:30:23of us today.

00:30:24This was all

00:30:25done at Homestays.

00:30:26It was amazing

00:30:27what Homestays

00:30:28did for us.

00:30:29We love it.

00:30:30We love it.

00:30:30All right,

00:30:32let's go to the

00:30:33decision.

00:30:33Start with you

00:30:34first,

00:30:35Steve-O.

00:30:36There was a big

00:30:37question mark with

00:30:38me before Homestays.

00:30:39I'm like,

00:30:40this could make

00:30:40or break us

00:30:41but it's just

00:30:43only brought

00:30:43me closer to

00:30:45Rachel.

00:30:46So I'm going

00:30:46to, uh,

00:30:47stay.

00:30:48Beautiful.

00:30:49Brilliant.

00:30:51And what about

00:30:51you, Rachel?

00:30:52What have you

00:30:52got?

00:30:53Stay or leave?

00:30:54I know this is

00:30:55going to shock

00:30:55everyone

00:30:57but I wrote

00:30:58stay

00:30:58and that's us

00:30:59on a boat

00:31:00fishing.

00:31:02Beautiful.

00:31:04We have

00:31:05loved watching

00:31:06you through

00:31:07this experiment.

00:31:08You've had

00:31:09some difficult

00:31:10moments along

00:31:11the way

00:31:11but you've

00:31:12grown, you

00:31:13know, and

00:31:14the way in

00:31:15which you're

00:31:15together now

00:31:16really, it's

00:31:18on display.

00:31:19Everyone sees

00:31:19it.

00:31:20You're a unified

00:31:21couple, it's

00:31:22fantastic.

00:31:23What I would

00:31:23say to you

00:31:24in this final

00:31:25week is don't

00:31:27get inside

00:31:27your head

00:31:27too much.

00:31:29You need

00:31:30to be

00:31:31enjoying

00:31:32this

00:31:33final week

00:31:34rather than

00:31:35thinking too

00:31:36far ahead

00:31:37because that's

00:31:38something that

00:31:39I think in

00:31:39the past

00:31:40you've been a

00:31:41bit guilty of

00:31:42doing

00:31:43and on

00:31:43that you

00:31:44can go

00:31:44back to

00:31:44your group.

00:32:00You made me

00:32:01cry.

00:32:02Oh, you're

00:32:03welcome.

00:32:03Yeah.

00:32:16Let's get

00:32:17our next

00:32:17couple up

00:32:18on the

00:32:18couch.

00:32:21Bec and

00:32:21Danny.

00:32:25Hey, guys.

00:32:26Hello.

00:32:27How are

00:32:27you?

00:32:28Good.

00:32:28Very well.

00:32:29Good, good, good.

00:32:32Homestays.

00:32:32Let's start

00:32:33with you, Bec.

00:32:34What were

00:32:34they like?

00:32:35They were

00:32:35great.

00:32:37I was in

00:32:38my own

00:32:38estate.

00:32:39I was in

00:32:39my own

00:32:40home with

00:32:41my dog.

00:32:42We saw

00:32:42my family

00:32:43at my

00:32:44auntie's

00:32:44beach house

00:32:45and that

00:32:45was great.

00:32:47Dad and

00:32:48Daniel get

00:32:48along really

00:32:49well, which

00:32:49is great.

00:32:51So, good

00:32:51start.

00:32:52Great start.

00:32:56What else

00:32:56happened at

00:32:57the homestay?

00:32:59We met

00:33:00Bec's friends.

00:33:01That went

00:33:01pretty good,

00:33:02didn't it?

00:33:02Like, just

00:33:03like, the

00:33:03tough questions.

00:33:04And then

00:33:05that night

00:33:06we went

00:33:06back to

00:33:07Bec's

00:33:08and we

00:33:09were sitting

00:33:09around,

00:33:10like, having

00:33:10a fire.

00:33:13And then

00:33:13I cracked

00:33:14a joke

00:33:15like about

00:33:16her cousin

00:33:17fancying me.

00:33:20And it

00:33:20landed poorly.

00:33:24What did

00:33:25he say

00:33:25with the

00:33:25joke?

00:33:26Can you

00:33:26just tell

00:33:26us?

00:33:28We were

00:33:29having a

00:33:29bit of an

00:33:29emotional

00:33:30moment with

00:33:30one another

00:33:31talking about

00:33:31our feelings

00:33:32and how

00:33:33it's been

00:33:33on homestays

00:33:34and Daniel

00:33:35said,

00:33:36if all else

00:33:36fails, at

00:33:36least Daniel

00:33:37fancies me

00:33:38type thing.

00:33:42and I

00:33:42lost it.

00:33:46And why?

00:33:48Because

00:33:49it makes

00:33:50me feel

00:33:50like when

00:33:51we're having

00:33:52this conversation

00:33:53that means

00:33:53so much

00:33:54to me,

00:33:55that it

00:33:55diminishes

00:33:56it and it

00:33:57makes it

00:33:57a joke.

00:33:59I get

00:34:00it.

00:34:00I shouldn't

00:34:01have said

00:34:01it, but

00:34:02I feel

00:34:02that our

00:34:03fight styles

00:34:03don't really

00:34:03match too

00:34:04well.

00:34:06What scared

00:34:07me was we

00:34:08couldn't

00:34:08rectify it

00:34:09too quickly.

00:34:11And where

00:34:12I'm sort of

00:34:12holding back a

00:34:13little bit

00:34:13is I

00:34:15wouldn't want

00:34:16to move

00:34:17and then

00:34:18we have

00:34:18an argument

00:34:18like that

00:34:19and I

00:34:19feel really

00:34:20isolated

00:34:20and alone.

00:34:21I don't

00:34:21want to

00:34:21do that.

00:34:22So

00:34:23arguing is

00:34:24something that

00:34:24scares you

00:34:25when it

00:34:25comes to

00:34:26Bec.

00:34:26Why?

00:34:27I think

00:34:28for both

00:34:29of us

00:34:29it just

00:34:29doesn't

00:34:29work.

00:34:34Wow.

00:34:34OK.

00:34:35What am I

00:34:35saying wrong?

00:34:37Just to

00:34:38use the

00:34:39words,

00:34:39for both

00:34:39of us

00:34:40it doesn't

00:34:40work.

00:34:44I'm not

00:34:44saying we

00:34:45don't work

00:34:45I'm saying

00:34:46our fight

00:34:47style doesn't

00:34:47work.

00:34:48Oh yeah

00:34:48that,

00:34:48no,

00:34:49OK.

00:34:50So this

00:34:51is what

00:34:51happens

00:34:52sometimes

00:34:52I try

00:34:52and say

00:34:53something

00:34:53and Bec

00:34:54takes it

00:34:54in completely

00:34:55the wrong

00:34:55way.

00:34:58Bec,

00:34:58what's

00:34:58going on

00:34:59inside of

00:34:59you right

00:34:59now?

00:35:01Um,

00:35:02I suppose

00:35:02I'm fearful

00:35:03because I've

00:35:03let every

00:35:04wall down.

00:35:06So what

00:35:06happens to

00:35:07you when

00:35:07he says

00:35:07that?

00:35:08Just

00:35:10kills my

00:35:11soul a little

00:35:11bit to be

00:35:12honest with

00:35:12you.

00:35:16Because I'm

00:35:17like,

00:35:17well,

00:35:19why haven't

00:35:20you said

00:35:20this to

00:35:20me?

00:35:22Because

00:35:22I've been

00:35:23fearful to

00:35:24say it

00:35:24because I

00:35:24don't want

00:35:25to upset

00:35:25you.

00:35:28No,

00:35:29no,

00:35:29do not

00:35:29blame me.

00:35:30I'm not

00:35:30blaming you.

00:35:31Don't say

00:35:32you're fearful

00:35:33to tell me

00:35:33because you're

00:35:33going to

00:35:34upset me.

00:35:35I'm here

00:35:36in love

00:35:37with you.

00:35:38We're at

00:35:38the end

00:35:38of this

00:35:39experiment.

00:35:42You're

00:35:42making it

00:35:43seem like

00:35:43I've been

00:35:44holding on

00:35:44to this

00:35:44for six

00:35:45months.

00:35:45Honestly,

00:35:46I noticed

00:35:46it in

00:35:46Adelaide

00:35:47when I

00:35:47felt

00:35:47isolated.

00:35:48Up

00:35:48until

00:35:49then,

00:35:49I

00:35:49haven't

00:35:49noticed

00:35:50it.

00:35:53Bec,

00:35:54I look

00:35:54at your

00:35:54face.

00:35:56You

00:35:56seem

00:35:57very

00:35:57concerned.

00:36:03I

00:36:03think

00:36:03he's

00:36:03got

00:36:04more

00:36:04reservations

00:36:04than

00:36:05he

00:36:05lets

00:36:05on.

00:36:05Oh,

00:36:06really?

00:36:06I do,

00:36:07yeah.

00:36:08I do.

00:36:09I do.

00:36:10I do.

00:36:15Danny,

00:36:16Danny,

00:36:17look at

00:36:17me.

00:36:18There

00:36:18really is

00:36:19no time

00:36:19for you

00:36:20to make

00:36:20light of

00:36:20the

00:36:20situation

00:36:22because

00:36:22when you

00:36:23add

00:36:23things up,

00:36:24Danny,

00:36:25it's not

00:36:26making her

00:36:26feel secure.

00:36:27you know,

00:36:28you haven't

00:36:28said your

00:36:29feelings back

00:36:29to her.

00:36:30You've

00:36:31gone to

00:36:31the family

00:36:32and they've

00:36:33validated you

00:36:34and then

00:36:34you're not

00:36:35bringing up

00:36:35issues because

00:36:36you're afraid

00:36:37of the

00:36:37fight style.

00:36:38It starts

00:36:39to add up

00:36:41and it

00:36:41makes her

00:36:42feel

00:36:43what,

00:36:44Bec?

00:36:48Like he's

00:36:48just not

00:36:49that into

00:36:49me.

00:36:54So that's

00:36:55a problem

00:36:57because this

00:36:57far into

00:36:58the experiment

00:36:59you don't

00:36:59want your

00:37:00partner

00:37:01to be

00:37:01thinking

00:37:03he's just

00:37:04not that

00:37:04into me.

00:37:07Yeah,

00:37:08but I am.

00:37:09I've told you

00:37:10that I am.

00:37:11You know

00:37:11I am.

00:37:14So why

00:37:15is she not

00:37:15believing it?

00:37:17I don't know

00:37:18I can't speak

00:37:19for Bec.

00:37:22I'm asking

00:37:24for you

00:37:25to sit

00:37:26there

00:37:26and say

00:37:28to me,

00:37:28Bec,

00:37:28this is how

00:37:29I feel

00:37:29about you

00:37:29just once.

00:37:33You know

00:37:34how I feel

00:37:34about you.

00:37:35You know

00:37:35I care

00:37:36about you

00:37:36so much.

00:37:37I do

00:37:38know you

00:37:38care about

00:37:38me,

00:37:39but where

00:37:40is the

00:37:40passion?

00:37:42I see

00:37:42tiny glimpses

00:37:43of it,

00:37:44but

00:37:46I feel

00:37:47like you

00:37:47are holding

00:37:47back.

00:37:49You said

00:37:50to me once

00:37:50at the

00:37:50beginning of

00:37:51this experiment

00:37:51and I'll

00:37:52never forget

00:37:52it and

00:37:53it's probably

00:37:54ruined me.

00:37:56Daniel's

00:37:57like,

00:37:57well,

00:37:58when you

00:37:59are obsessed

00:37:59with each

00:37:59other,

00:38:00you're all

00:38:00over each

00:38:00other and

00:38:01I don't

00:38:02have that.

00:38:02I just

00:38:03don't get

00:38:03it from

00:38:04him at

00:38:04all.

00:38:05He

00:38:06doesn't

00:38:06want to

00:38:06hold my

00:38:06hand

00:38:07walking

00:38:07down

00:38:07the

00:38:07street.

00:38:07That's

00:38:07not

00:38:08your

00:38:08style,

00:38:08no

00:38:08worries.

00:38:09Whenever

00:38:09we have

00:38:10a kiss,

00:38:10I'm

00:38:11the one

00:38:11going to

00:38:11kiss

00:38:11you.

00:38:12You

00:38:12never

00:38:12ever

00:38:13got to

00:38:13kiss

00:38:13me.

00:38:14You

00:38:14don't

00:38:14compliment

00:38:15me.

00:38:15Hardly

00:38:16ever.

00:38:18So for

00:38:19me,

00:38:19it's like,

00:38:19well,

00:38:20I'm this

00:38:20fool that's

00:38:21allowed my

00:38:21heart to

00:38:22get to

00:38:22this point

00:38:23and he's

00:38:24not there

00:38:24and he's

00:38:25not going

00:38:25to feel

00:38:25that way.

00:38:28I don't

00:38:29think that's

00:38:30a fair

00:38:30assumption.

00:38:38The

00:38:38thing that's

00:38:39important here,

00:38:40Dani,

00:38:40is that

00:38:40she's just

00:38:41told you

00:38:42in a

00:38:42very

00:38:42clear-cut

00:38:43way why

00:38:45she doesn't

00:38:46feel like

00:38:47you're

00:38:47interested.

00:38:52Your

00:38:52reaction is,

00:38:53well,

00:38:53that's not

00:38:54fair.

00:38:54No,

00:38:55but like,

00:38:55yes,

00:38:56that's

00:38:56exactly what

00:38:57we just

00:38:57heard.

00:39:01Even

00:39:01all of

00:39:02the

00:39:02husbands

00:39:02walk past

00:39:03us sitting

00:39:04at the

00:39:04commitment

00:39:04ceremony

00:39:05and they

00:39:05all

00:39:05acknowledge

00:39:06their

00:39:06wives

00:39:06and you

00:39:06never

00:39:07do.

00:39:07You

00:39:07ignore

00:39:08me.

00:39:12And I

00:39:12don't

00:39:12know

00:39:12how

00:39:13I've

00:39:13gotten

00:39:13to

00:39:13this

00:39:13point

00:39:14of

00:39:14these

00:39:14feelings

00:39:15with

00:39:15that.

00:39:19I'm so

00:39:20worried.

00:39:24I'm actually

00:39:25so worried.

00:39:30I just

00:39:31don't feel

00:39:31like you

00:39:32have any

00:39:32desire and

00:39:33I just,

00:39:34yeah,

00:39:35I'm just

00:39:35nervous.

00:39:38the reality

00:39:38is that how

00:39:40can you move

00:39:41to Adelaide

00:39:41and how

00:39:42can we

00:39:43live this

00:39:44life together

00:39:45if this is

00:39:45how it's

00:39:46going to

00:39:46be.

00:39:47I can't

00:39:48be the

00:39:48one going

00:39:49to kiss

00:39:49you just

00:39:52so that

00:39:52there's a

00:39:52level of

00:39:53affection.

00:39:53I can't.

00:39:56I'm not

00:39:57doing it.

00:39:57I've done

00:39:57it.

00:39:58I did

00:39:58it.

00:39:58I nearly

00:39:59married it.

00:40:00I'm not

00:40:00doing it.

00:40:02I'm not.

00:40:04I'm not

00:40:04doing it.

00:40:05You're

00:40:05either

00:40:06into me,

00:40:06you have

00:40:07had enough

00:40:08time to

00:40:08know if

00:40:09I am the

00:40:10type of

00:40:10person you

00:40:10would want

00:40:11to be

00:40:11with.

00:40:11You do

00:40:11not have

00:40:12to tell

00:40:12me you

00:40:12love me,

00:40:13but I'm

00:40:13not going

00:40:14to walk

00:40:15down to

00:40:15final vows

00:40:16with someone

00:40:16that's a

00:40:18maybe about

00:40:18me.

00:40:19I'm not

00:40:19doing it.

00:40:20I'd rather

00:40:20be heartbroken

00:40:21now than

00:40:21heartbroken

00:40:22in six

00:40:23months'

00:40:23time.

00:40:52in six

00:40:53months'

00:40:54time.

00:41:15how does

00:41:16that land

00:41:16for you,

00:41:17Danny?

00:41:22Well,

00:41:23obviously

00:41:23it hurts

00:41:23to see

00:41:24Bec like

00:41:25that.

00:41:25What is

00:41:26she saying

00:41:26to you

00:41:28that you've

00:41:29done to

00:41:30get her to

00:41:31this point?

00:41:32Well,

00:41:32just not

00:41:35be passionate

00:41:36and not be

00:41:37the man she

00:41:38needs me to

00:41:38be.

00:41:41I've had

00:41:41my guard

00:41:42up,

00:41:42essentially.

00:41:43That's what...

00:41:44Yeah.

00:41:45Yeah.

00:41:46Yeah.

00:42:12would destroy

00:42:13her.

00:42:15What do you

00:42:15think it does

00:42:16to the

00:42:16relationship?

00:42:17It destroys

00:42:18the relationship

00:42:18as well.

00:42:21Why?

00:42:22Because you

00:42:23can't have...

00:42:24You can't build

00:42:25a relationship

00:42:25on, like,

00:42:26sand foundations.

00:42:28Do you know

00:42:28what you mean?

00:42:28So, help us

00:42:29understand why

00:42:31you're not

00:42:32doing these

00:42:32things to

00:42:34bring her

00:42:34close.

00:42:39Just...

00:42:40Obviously,

00:42:41we've talked

00:42:41about the

00:42:42five-star.

00:42:43That's the bit

00:42:43where I've

00:42:43been holding

00:42:44back.

00:42:47But I guess

00:42:48after my

00:42:48last relationship,

00:42:50I haven't felt

00:42:50this strongly

00:42:51towards a woman

00:42:52or been this

00:42:52close with a

00:42:53woman in

00:42:54years.

00:42:56But of course,

00:42:57I still have a

00:42:58bit of a

00:42:58guard up because

00:42:59last time,

00:43:00when it didn't

00:43:01work out,

00:43:02it destroyed

00:43:02my life.

00:43:05How nice

00:43:05would it be

00:43:06to have heard

00:43:06that?

00:43:07Well, you just

00:43:08did.

00:43:08I know, but

00:43:09why do I have

00:43:10to go to

00:43:10this length

00:43:11to hear that?

00:43:11Because I'm

00:43:11not no good

00:43:12at this shit.

00:43:14Well, I've

00:43:15been begging

00:43:15you for this

00:43:16level of

00:43:17openness for

00:43:18nearly three

00:43:19months.

00:43:20And so,

00:43:21hearing that

00:43:22makes me feel

00:43:23like there's

00:43:25hope, you

00:43:26know?

00:43:31Why does

00:43:32that make

00:43:32you feel

00:43:32hopeful?

00:43:33Because if

00:43:34he hasn't

00:43:34felt like

00:43:35this in

00:43:35years,

00:43:36then that

00:43:37means that

00:43:41it's real

00:43:43and you

00:43:43might be

00:43:44into me,

00:43:45but you

00:43:46need to

00:43:46open yourself

00:43:47to me.

00:43:48Yeah, I

00:43:48guess, like,

00:43:49this has been

00:43:49a problem in

00:43:50the past,

00:43:50that I am

00:43:52just a shit

00:43:52boyfriend, to

00:43:53be honest.

00:43:54Oh, I don't

00:43:54believe that.

00:43:54I am.

00:43:55I ain't that

00:43:56good, to be

00:43:57honest.

00:43:57But that is

00:43:58a very easy

00:43:59way of getting

00:44:00out of it.

00:44:01Don't hold

00:44:01me accountable,

00:44:02I'm just a

00:44:03shit boyfriend.

00:44:04No, I'm not

00:44:04saying it like

00:44:05that.

00:44:05But you

00:44:05are, and

00:44:07that's what

00:44:08she's hearing.

00:44:11What she

00:44:11wants right

00:44:12now from

00:44:13you, Danny,

00:44:13is for you

00:44:14to step

00:44:15into this

00:44:15and go,

00:44:16you know

00:44:16what, yeah,

00:44:17I've dropped

00:44:17the ball,

00:44:19and I've

00:44:20sent you

00:44:20the wrong

00:44:20signals,

00:44:22and I'm

00:44:23accountable,

00:44:23and I'm

00:44:24going to do

00:44:24different, but

00:44:25I'm not

00:44:25getting that

00:44:26from you.

00:44:28No, I,

00:44:29Beck, I

00:44:29want to say

00:44:30I am, and

00:44:30I'm sorry

00:44:31if, like,

00:44:32it's for

00:44:32making you

00:44:33feel like

00:44:33that,

00:44:33genuine,

00:44:34from the

00:44:34bottom of

00:44:34my heart,

00:44:35you know

00:44:35I'd never

00:44:35want to

00:44:36upset you.

00:44:36You mean

00:44:37the world

00:44:37to me.

00:44:41And I'm

00:44:41sorry if

00:44:42I've dropped

00:44:43the ball.

00:44:44It was never

00:44:44my intention.

00:44:49I like hearing

00:44:50it, but I

00:44:50need to see it.

00:44:51Yeah,

00:44:51an old,

00:44:52old time.

00:44:52I can't

00:44:52keep on

00:44:53hearing it,

00:44:54and then

00:44:55nothing changes.

00:44:56Well, let me

00:44:56show you

00:44:56then.

00:45:00Okay.

00:45:04Let me

00:45:04show you.

00:45:08Now,

00:45:09with that,

00:45:09we're going to

00:45:09go to the

00:45:10decision.

00:45:13Beck, what

00:45:14have you got

00:45:14for us,

00:45:14stay or leave?

00:45:16Well, you

00:45:17have my

00:45:18heart, and

00:45:19like, you

00:45:20are the

00:45:21most special

00:45:22person.

00:45:22I've never

00:45:23met anyone

00:45:23like you,

00:45:25right?

00:45:25And I feel

00:45:25really, really

00:45:26lucky that we

00:45:27were matched

00:45:28and we get to

00:45:28go on this

00:45:29journey together.

00:45:29um, but I

00:45:34need you to

00:45:37give me half

00:45:39of what I'm

00:45:40giving you,

00:45:40at least.

00:45:48We have

00:45:50overcome so

00:45:51many hurdles

00:45:51together, and

00:45:52we've made it

00:45:53this far, so

00:45:56I said,

00:45:58stay.

00:46:00And then I

00:46:00said, proud

00:46:01of us.

00:46:03Love it.

00:46:04Love it.

00:46:05And, Danny?

00:46:06Yeah, obviously,

00:46:08I want to

00:46:08apologise again.

00:46:09I'm so sorry.

00:46:10You know, you

00:46:10mean the world

00:46:11to me, and

00:46:11this week, I'll

00:46:14try and prove

00:46:14that to you.

00:46:16I'm here for

00:46:17love, and I

00:46:18think I can

00:46:18find that with

00:46:19you, so

00:46:19that's why I

00:46:20reached that.

00:46:21Good.

00:46:32Danny, from

00:46:33where we're

00:46:33sitting, this

00:46:34week is on

00:46:35you.

00:46:36You have to

00:46:37do the heavy

00:46:38lifting.

00:46:39You've got a

00:46:39partner here

00:46:40with you, who's

00:46:42put her heart

00:46:43out there and

00:46:44said, I'm in

00:46:44love, I want

00:46:46this, you need

00:46:47to step up.

00:46:51And if you

00:46:52are feeling

00:46:53these strong

00:46:54emotions for

00:46:55her, then

00:46:56you've got to

00:46:56start showing

00:46:57it.

00:46:58Yeah.

00:47:01With that, you

00:47:02can go back to

00:47:03the group.

00:47:04Thanks, guys.

00:47:05Well done,

00:47:05guys.

00:47:08Thanks for all

00:47:09your support.

00:47:10Thanks.

00:47:10Good work,

00:47:11you two.

00:47:14Oh,

00:47:15bad.

00:47:21Communicate

00:47:22with me.

00:47:23My wife hates

00:47:24me and so

00:47:25the world's

00:47:25first as well.

00:47:27I don't hate

00:47:28you, boo.

00:47:29I just can't

00:47:30keep on asking

00:47:31at the very

00:47:31minimum.

00:47:33It's either there

00:47:33or it's not.

00:47:34And if it's

00:47:35not, you've

00:47:36got to walk

00:47:36away.

00:47:36Now.

00:47:38Right.

00:47:38Okay?

00:47:39I hate you.

00:47:40Okay.

00:47:43Still to

00:47:44come.

00:47:45I haven't

00:47:46been able to

00:47:46address her

00:47:47concern without

00:47:47Gia and I

00:47:48having an

00:47:48argument or

00:47:49her spiralling.

00:47:50What kind

00:47:51of things

00:47:51could she

00:47:52say?

00:47:53In a

00:47:53moment that

00:47:54demands

00:47:55honesty.

00:47:56Things that

00:47:57can make

00:47:58someone feel

00:47:58pretty defeated

00:48:00and let down.

00:48:00Such as?

00:48:02Scott hesitates.

00:48:05If you

00:48:06can't speak

00:48:07honestly in

00:48:08front of

00:48:08Gia, then

00:48:09I'm really

00:48:09concerned about

00:48:10the possibility

00:48:11of this

00:48:12relationship

00:48:12surviving

00:48:13outside the

00:48:14experiment.

00:48:24Next on the

00:48:25couch.

00:48:28Chris and Sam.

00:48:33hello.

00:48:34Hello.

00:48:35Hi.

00:48:41Body language

00:48:42says a lot.

00:48:44Yeah, it's been

00:48:44tough.

00:48:45Yeah.

00:48:51What happened

00:48:52last time we

00:48:53sat here, I

00:48:54wrote leave in

00:48:55the moment and

00:48:57then I kind of

00:48:58regretted it.

00:48:59We decided to

00:49:00go to home stays

00:49:01and I thought,

00:49:02okay, I'm really

00:49:02going to try and

00:49:03turn this around

00:49:03and I bought him

00:49:04some flowers and I

00:49:05got him a card and

00:49:06made him, went to

00:49:06the shop and got

00:49:07groceries and made

00:49:08dinner and then we

00:49:09had a day with my

00:49:10cattle.

00:49:11We were outside and

00:49:12I thought that was

00:49:13really fun and then

00:49:15we had a bonfire.

00:49:20Sam pulled out a

00:49:21journal with some

00:49:22questions in it.

00:49:24Hand on heart, I was

00:49:24answering them the best

00:49:25that I could and then

00:49:27Sam decided to leave

00:49:30the farm and I

00:49:32thought, look, I've

00:49:33really tried to turn

00:49:34this around.

00:49:34I really took on all

00:49:35of your guys' feedback

00:49:36and, yeah, I just

00:49:38feel like I've shut

00:49:39down now.

00:49:42Yeah, I just felt

00:49:44like he was saving

00:49:45face, especially

00:49:47like the flowers and

00:49:48dinner thing.

00:49:50It felt very like I

00:49:51need to do these

00:49:52things to show that

00:49:52I've put in effort.

00:49:54For me, it was

00:49:55genuine.

00:49:55I was trying to be as

00:49:56genuine as I could and

00:49:57I thought that was a

00:49:59way to try and make

00:49:59you feel welcome at

00:50:00the farm.

00:50:01I feel like your

00:50:01effort was like to

00:50:03push forward and

00:50:04there was effort for

00:50:04you to grow but it

00:50:05was never like I need

00:50:06to grow for us and I

00:50:08want to grow to be a

00:50:09better partner for

00:50:09you.

00:50:16Where did the

00:50:17relationship go wrong

00:50:18for you both?

00:50:24I feel like Chris

00:50:25never really fully

00:50:26forgave me for calling

00:50:28him out on like

00:50:29behaviours.

00:50:31From then on,

00:50:32especially after you

00:50:34guys gave him

00:50:34feedback, it was like

00:50:35it was like a no

00:50:36return point from

00:50:37there.

00:50:40Where did it go

00:50:41wrong for you?

00:50:43I feel like after the

00:50:46retreat, that

00:50:47chemistry, it was

00:50:48lacking for me.

00:50:49We were intimate a

00:50:50second time and I just

00:50:51felt like that wasn't

00:50:52there for me.

00:50:55Was it the quality of

00:50:56the interaction?

00:50:57Was it him as a

00:50:58person?

00:51:00What was it that felt

00:51:01felt off for you?

00:51:03If I'm being honest, it

00:51:04was just the quality of

00:51:05the interaction.

00:51:06I just, I don't know, it

00:51:07just wasn't there for me.

00:51:15Is that something that you

00:51:16spoke to Sam about?

00:51:18No, I didn't want to hurt

00:51:19everybody's feelings.

00:51:24How are you feeling about

00:51:25that, Sam, to hear this?

00:51:27Oh, yeah.

00:51:28Like, I guess I'm

00:51:29surprised.

00:51:31And like, I guess what

00:51:33really sucks is that I was

00:51:35out on the farm and I was

00:51:36like hurting cows and I was

00:51:37like, this is so good and

00:51:38the kids thing never bothered

00:51:40me.

00:51:40Like, it's always something

00:51:41that I've wanted in my life.

00:51:43And I was just like, it was

00:51:44so annoying that everything

00:51:46else would have worked.

00:51:52This is really

00:51:52disappointing for us because

00:51:55we had so much hope for the

00:51:57two of you.

00:51:58It's just so unfortunate that

00:52:01along the way, with all of

00:52:02the pressure that the

00:52:03experiment brings, that the

00:52:05wheels have fallen off.

00:52:09It is disappointing.

00:52:10I came here to find love and,

00:52:12you know, I know that I'm a

00:52:13slow burn and, you know, I

00:52:14know that I get anxious once

00:52:16I do get feelings for

00:52:17someone because it takes me

00:52:18so long to build feelings for

00:52:19someone.

00:52:21And, yeah, it's just really

00:52:23disappointing that it all

00:52:24ended up like this.

00:52:25But, you know, I hope it's

00:52:28for the future.

00:52:30Yeah.

00:52:32What about you, Chris?

00:52:33Yeah, and I said to Sam that

00:52:34I want to be really good

00:52:35friends with him.

00:52:37We've been on this journey for

00:52:38eight weeks.

00:52:38So, yeah, I hope that we can

00:52:41stay in each other's lives

00:52:42outside of here.

00:52:43Yeah.

00:52:45All right.

00:52:46Well, we're going to go to a

00:52:47decision.

00:52:49Chris, we'll start with you.

00:52:52I've obviously learned a lot

00:52:53about myself and I hope you

00:52:54have too.

00:52:54And, you know, I'm sorry that

00:52:56it didn't work out for us.

00:52:58My time has unfortunately run

00:53:00out.

00:53:01So, yeah, I have to leave.

00:53:04Okay.

00:53:07And to you, Sam.

00:53:08It's been a journey.

00:53:09I've learned a lot.

00:53:1090% of our time together was

00:53:12awesome.

00:53:13Yeah.

00:53:14But, you know, it's come to

00:53:15the time to pack it up and

00:53:18leave.

00:53:22I'm sorry you've both landed

00:53:23here.

00:53:25But hopefully you have

00:53:26learned some lessons along the

00:53:28way that you can take into

00:53:30your next relationships.

00:53:32And parenthood.

00:53:33You know, this is all about

00:53:35that self-development as well

00:53:37as couple development.

00:53:40Thank you both.

00:53:41Thank you both.

00:53:41So much.

00:53:42Well done, you two.

00:53:49Well done, guys.

00:53:53We're going to miss you.

00:53:57Our next couple up on the

00:53:59couch, Stella and Phillip.

00:54:05Hello.

00:54:06Hello there.

00:54:09How are you doing?

00:54:11Well, we're more interested in

00:54:12how you're doing.

00:54:14Yeah.

00:54:15Coming into home stables was

00:54:16very, very important for me.

00:54:18I was always open to moving,

00:54:19so it was a really big deal to

00:54:20go into Stella's space.

00:54:22I was just really keen to see

00:54:24what it would look like.

00:54:27I just tried to envisage

00:54:28everything, like how I'd live

00:54:29there, the vibe, the energy and

00:54:31all that kind of stuff.

00:54:33After the experiment, Stella's

00:54:36going to come back for my mum's

00:54:37birthday, celebrate that.

00:54:39We're going to spend a few days

00:54:41in Melbourne, and then I'll pick

00:54:43my car up and drive up to

00:54:45Cronulla.

00:54:47Just moving in.

00:54:48Yeah.

00:54:49Yeah.

00:54:50Straight in.

00:54:51Yeah.

00:54:51Oh.

00:54:53Moving in.

00:54:53That's a plan.

00:54:55Yeah.

00:54:56So it is a plan.

00:54:58We got there.

00:55:00Here's the thing.

00:55:01When I first met you, you loved

00:55:03control.

00:55:03Yeah.

00:55:03You mapped out, you know, what

00:55:07you wanted to do during the day,

00:55:08your fitness, your health, your

00:55:10sleep, everything on point.

00:55:13And you, without a plan, there was

00:55:16a part of you that wasn't

00:55:18committing.

00:55:19And now you've come up with a

00:55:21plan.

00:55:22You've got certainty.

00:55:23And now you're on the same

00:55:25track.

00:55:26Because I want this relationship

00:55:27to work.

00:55:31And I feel like every woman can

00:55:34agree with that.

00:55:36When you don't understand your

00:55:38man's intentions, that's when you

00:55:40get frazzled, that's when you

00:55:41overthink, that's when you're in

00:55:42your head.

00:55:43When you know that the man is

00:55:45like, OK, let's do this, I think

00:55:48you really settle in until you get

00:55:49that part.

00:55:50You really do.

00:55:52Philip, I want you to turn to

00:55:54Stella and tell her how you feel.

00:55:56Don't make me cry.

00:56:05You know.

00:56:06You know.

00:56:07I thought I would have

00:56:09sworn at me.

00:56:09You know.

00:56:11We can't cope.

00:56:12No.

00:56:15You know.

00:56:16Oh, God.

00:56:19I...

00:56:23You 100% know that I am in love

00:56:26with you.

00:56:28No, no, baby.

00:56:28And that you shouldn't doubt

00:56:29anything.

00:56:30No.

00:56:31There's a lot of unknown and

00:56:32stuff like that.

00:56:33It's OK, we've got this.

00:56:33But, you know, we're a team.

00:56:35Yeah.

00:56:36So...

00:56:36I love you, too.

00:56:38OK.

00:56:42So, Stella, how does that feel when he says that,

00:56:47knowing that he's got a plan and he's moving in?

00:56:51Again, like, I really could go from the two weeks of the conversation, like, this man makes

00:56:56me feel safe.

00:56:57I don't think I have experienced love before meeting him, because, oh, he shows up for me.

00:57:05Yeah.

00:57:07Big time.

00:57:07Yes, baby.

00:57:08Yeah.

00:57:08Can I just ask you, Stella, what's getting you upset right now?

00:57:11Why is this so important?

00:57:14Yeah, I feel quite lucky in the sense that if this works out, it means that everything that

00:57:21was in the past, all those learning curves, all those relationships, all, all was worth

00:57:27for this moment, you know, because I do, I think, at the stage of my life where I do

00:57:34truly want this to be my forever person, and I do see, I do see that, yeah.

00:57:42Pleasure.

00:57:46Well, you got real on this couch tonight.

00:57:49It was great.

00:57:51And on that note, we're going to go to a decision.

00:57:54Stay or leave, you're up first, Stella.

00:57:57Obviously not a surprise, and I think I drew a love heart from very early on.

00:58:03Nice.

00:58:04And what about you, Philip?

00:58:07I'm not going anywhere.

00:58:08Just started.

00:58:09We're staying.

00:58:10That's what we like to see.

00:58:14Lovely baby.

00:58:15Thanks for being here.

00:58:16Thanks for being here.

00:58:17You are a team, and you've got this.

00:58:20Yeah.

00:58:20Thanks, guys.

00:58:21I really, really appreciate this whole thing.

00:58:24Well done, you two.

00:58:26Great work.

00:58:30Thanks.

00:58:37Trimming.

00:58:38Our last couple, up on the couch, Gia and Scott.

00:58:48Good evening.

00:58:49Hello.

00:58:50Hello.

00:58:50How are we?

00:58:51Good.

00:58:52Hi, Gia.

00:58:53Hello.

00:58:56So, how are you guys?

00:58:58All right.

00:58:59I'm getting a bit nervous.

00:59:07I'm getting a bit nervous.

00:59:13So, you know, I care so much about Gia.

00:59:20What I'm going to talk about tonight is, I don't want you to be upset.

00:59:25Okay.

00:59:25What I'm going to talk about is feelings where I...

00:59:30Take the breath for a minute.

00:59:33Breathe.

00:59:42So, I think for me to leave this going, the dream would be probably to go into modelling.

00:59:48So, you keep saying that you want to be a model, but what are you actually doing to make that

00:59:54happen?

00:59:55I don't really know, honestly.

00:59:57I think I need to make a portfolio.

00:59:59I think that's the first step in being a model.

01:00:01Make a portfolio, and then you just fire it at people.

01:00:03I know that they like you.

01:00:05Trying to advance onto this world of modelling, right?

01:00:08Made absolutely no progress.

01:00:10Right.

01:00:10Or am I doing wrong?

01:00:11Do you think it's tattoos?

01:00:12Probably.

01:00:18I think what we could do is maybe have it where we...

01:00:23Whenever there's a play, you have to stop.

01:00:27It's a fucking nightmare.

01:00:29I think it's just the way we're marketing it.

01:00:30I think we lean into it heavily with the look of the suit, where it covers up the tattoos, but

01:00:35still shows a tiny bit.

01:00:37So, there's a bit of mystery there.

01:00:38Not even having an acceptance email, like, thanks for your application.

01:00:42Like, nothing.

01:00:42I don't know if it's tattoos.

01:00:44Probably.

01:00:45Don't think that you're screwed.

01:00:47Well, we can't hide.

01:00:48They can't hide the tattoos, right?

01:00:49We're not going to hide it.

01:00:50We're just going to show it in a way that it's versatile.

01:00:52I think that's the main thing.

01:00:54We lean really heavily into the tattoos, but in a casual way to show, hey, I know I've got lots

01:01:00of tattoos, but I can also look really good in casual wear.

01:01:04If I thought you had no hope, I wouldn't be wasting my time coming here to take photos.

01:01:07Wasting your time?

01:01:09The world needs to sort of change the way that people look at tattoos.

01:01:12There's this huge prejudice against people who tattoo.

01:01:14Hopefully, today, what we can do is we can sort of show that, yes, this guy's heavily tattooed, but he's

01:01:19actually a normal human being and not a criminal.

01:01:23There he is.

01:01:24Hey, it took the time.

01:01:35What I'm going to talk about tonight is I don't want you to be upset.

01:01:39Okay.

01:01:40What I'm going to talk about is feelings where I...

01:01:44Take a breath for a minute.

01:01:47Breathe.

01:01:53It's a weakness of mine.

01:01:56When I care about someone so much, I feel like I can't speak my voice when I have a concern.

01:02:03It's a weakness of mine.

01:02:05What I find so far is I haven't been able to address a concern without Gia and I having an

01:02:11argument or her spiraling.

01:02:14Let's say that you want to bring something up and Gia is not in the mood to hear for whatever

01:02:18reason.

01:02:20You find yourself simply cowering away from that and not returning to that topic?

01:02:27Pretty much.

01:02:29What have you observed about Gia's behavior that leads you to have that reaction?

01:02:35What kind of things could she say?

01:02:44Can I please just say things that can make someone feel pretty defeated and let down?

01:02:50Such as?

01:02:57Honestly, if you can't speak honestly in front of Gia about the things that she does and say that hurt

01:03:03you or scare you or make you feel off...

01:03:05Well, he has.

01:03:10Then I'm really, really, really concerned about the possibility of this relationship surviving outside the experiment.

01:03:31Scott?

01:03:31Yeah?

01:03:33We've got all night.

01:03:34I know we're not.

01:03:35We're not going anywhere.

01:03:36We're going to sit here and ask you uncomfortable questions until you come clean.

01:03:41Okay?

01:03:42I just...

01:03:42I care about it so much.

01:03:44If you don't let us in...

01:03:45I know.

01:03:46You're not going to last.

01:03:49What I'm seeing here is fake.

01:03:52I'm going to call you out.

01:03:53I've seen it the entire experiment.

01:03:56You talk about things in a way where you don't give us any of the information.

01:04:02You skirt around the issues.

01:04:04I get it.

01:04:05You're trying to fly under the radar.

01:04:07But what we're saying tonight is that ends.

01:04:10Yeah.

01:04:11Okay?

01:04:12Okay.

01:04:12You're sat down here.

01:04:13You're petrified of Gia, and you're not answering the questions.

01:04:21So I'm going to ask you again, Scott.

01:04:24What kind of things could Gia say that would make you feel fearful of speaking up?

01:04:31So this is probably the most magic concern.

01:04:35It could happen probably on average once a week.

01:04:37I feel like there's a bit of pressure of me to say I'm in love.

01:04:39And when I don't say it, Gia will tend to spoil and say things like, you're a crime.

01:04:45You're not a man.

01:04:46You're not a provider.

01:04:47You don't give me reassurance.

01:04:51Pretty much every name under the sun, right?

01:04:54Every name under the sun is wild.

01:04:56Gia, babe, the reason why I'm here is because I know she doesn't intentionally mean it.

01:05:02It's because it comes from a place of hurt.

01:05:03I'll explain that.

01:05:04You talk for yourself.

01:05:05And I just will explain, babe, like, listen to what you're saying.

01:05:11I know you don't mean it.

01:05:12Like, where's this coming from?

01:05:13And, like, I don't know what it is.

01:05:14I just don't know.

01:05:17When you're having that situation and there are things that are being said, how do you feel in that moment?

01:05:23In these moments that you're describing now where she's coming at you personally?

01:05:28I just feel like when it's her, I just feel completely destroyed like I'm worthless.

01:05:34That's pretty major.

01:05:36But I just want Gia to know that I care so much about her.

01:05:40My feelings are strong.

01:05:41I'm falling for her.

01:05:42But when these things happen, it pulls me back and it holds me back.

01:05:47And so, Gia, what do you think when you're feeling threatened or not happy with what Scott says that you

01:05:56attack him?

01:05:58What is that about for you?

01:05:59Oh, this is a man that you're falling in love with from every indication I've had.

01:06:06Well, I'll just say it out loud.

01:06:11If this wasn't on camera, I told him I'm in love with him yesterday.

01:06:16So, this is a man you love.

01:06:19So, where does that come from?

01:06:20So, for me, I've felt this way for Scott for the last few weeks.

01:06:28And there's been so many moments where, like, I've wanted to say it.

01:06:32And I'm like, you can't be the girl who says it first.

01:06:35Usually, it's been the guy who said it first.

01:06:37So, this is weird for me.

01:06:38And I've wanted him to know why I've been spiraling.

01:06:41It's because of this.

01:06:42Like, I've been wanting to say it.

01:06:43And I know he's not there.

01:06:44And it's frustrating for me.

01:06:45Because I feel rejected, to be honest.

01:06:48The leading up to where you're having these big feelings.

01:06:51And that's what's making you feel like, oh, my God, he's going to reject me.

01:06:54Why go hurt him?

01:06:56Because I felt hurt.

01:06:59And I was like, let me hurt him.

01:07:02That's the truth.

01:07:07That's a pretty big revelation and also hurdle for Scott to have to handle and walk around eggshells trying to

01:07:17not have you have this reaction.

01:07:20I just think this is very new for me.

01:07:21I haven't ever been in this situation before.

01:07:24But in this situation of saying that you're hurt and therefore you're choosing to hurt back, is that the way

01:07:31that you normally are?

01:07:37I'm going to insist and underline this because I really want you to take in Gia that we can absolutely

01:07:44see how strong your relationship with Scott is.

01:07:47But it is a pattern that you're bringing to the table that you need to break.

01:07:51Because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way.

01:08:08The leading up to where you're having these big feelings.

01:08:10And that's what's making you feel like, oh, my God, he's going to reject me.

01:08:15Why go hurt him?

01:08:17Because I felt hurt.

01:08:20And I was like, let me hurt him.

01:08:23That's the truth.

01:08:26I'm going to insist and underline this because I really want you to take in Gia.

01:08:32It is a pattern that you're bringing to the table that you need to break.

01:08:36Because it will be the thing that makes him run the other way.

01:08:46Do you feel secure in your relationship with Scott?

01:08:52Um.

01:08:56Like, yes and no.

01:08:59Why no?

01:09:03I don't know, because, like, sometimes I can't bring something up because I'm argumentative or so I don't feel like

01:09:09I'm secure with him and I can be myself.

01:09:11So that and, like, he doesn't feel as strong as I feel.

01:09:16Like, well, he could just leave.

01:09:19Am I going to move for like?

01:09:21Am I going to take my daughter out of her school in Melbourne and move to the Gold Coast if

01:09:24he just likes me?

01:09:27I just don't feel as secure as maybe I could in the relationship.

01:09:32So there's still room there for you to grow in terms of security in the relationship.

01:09:39How does it make you feel to hear Gia say that she doesn't feel secure in the relationship?

01:09:47I'm confused because Gia tells me that she feels secure.

01:09:51I try and tickle the boxes to make a note and reassure that I'm all in on this and, like,

01:09:57when we have tough times, like, I just keep telling you I'm here for you.

01:10:00I want you to be the shoulder to cry on and, like, you know, whenever there is bad things, maybe

01:10:05sometimes I say, oh, like, I don't want to hear it or something like that.

01:10:08But, you know.

01:10:09Well, that's why I don't feel secure.

01:10:13Because I'm like, well, I can't bring that up.

01:10:16So, like, how do I, how can I be vulnerable and feel safe?

01:10:19Because it's swept under the rug, you know.

01:10:22Do you shut down my feelings a lot of the time?

01:10:24I'm going to be saying myself, I've never shut down your feelings, Gia.

01:10:26Never.

01:10:27Well, that's my perception.

01:10:29And I feel like sometimes we'll talk about something and you just don't listen.

01:10:33And so then I just stop talking about it because he says I'm arguing and I'm like, okay, well, I

01:10:38just, like, I'll just forget my feelings.

01:10:40Let's just leave it.

01:10:41Because then my brain is like, oh, my God, you're arguing again.

01:10:45He's not going to fall in love with you.

01:10:46And it's like, it's like I can't win, to be honest.

01:10:50That's how I feel.

01:10:56Well, at last, we've got the real Scott and Gia sitting in front of us.

01:11:01And isn't it interesting that week after week, you guys have sat here and said, everything's fine.

01:11:08We're a great couple.

01:11:12Tonight, you're exposing yourselves.

01:11:15And everything isn't great between the two of you.

01:11:19Scott nearly couldn't breathe tonight because he was so scared about bringing an issue up with you, Gia.

01:11:27That's not healthy.

01:11:30So it comes down to the two of you.

01:11:33Are you prepared to do the work?

01:11:35Hear things you might not like, but know that when you hear those feelings, you get closer, not further away.

01:11:44But you've got to be real over this next week.

01:11:47Otherwise, it is going to slip through your fingers.

01:11:54We're going to go to the decision.

01:11:56Stay or leave, and we'll go with you first, Gia.

01:12:02I think we needed to have this conversation tonight because we're at the end.

01:12:07I don't want to have any questions unanswered.

01:12:10And that's the same with me saying that I love him.

01:12:13I just wanted to just be fully in.

01:12:17So, anyways, with that, we'll take on your advice this week.

01:12:22And I'm going to stay here.

01:12:25Love that.

01:12:27What have you got, Scott?

01:12:28Stay or leave?

01:12:29Obviously, we've come so far in this experiment.

01:12:31And I honestly appreciate the three of you for what you've done for us and how you've paired us.

01:12:35And I was nervous walking here tonight, and I don't get nervous.

01:12:39And I feel so light right now because we can both have our say.

01:12:45And I can tell you right now, this is going to help us so much.

01:12:50So, I'm excited for this week because I just feel so happy just after this conversation.

01:12:54So, I'm staying in the sun because we're going to the sunny Gold Coast.

01:12:59All right, you two.

01:13:02So, it's a big week coming up for the two of you.

01:13:05And I know it's hard for you as a couple.

01:13:07But when issues get brought up this week, when you talk about the big stuff, try and be curious as

01:13:15opposed to defensive.

01:13:17All right.

01:13:19Good luck.

01:13:20Good luck.

01:13:26Hi.

01:13:30Okay.

01:13:32Okay.

01:13:33Yeah.

01:13:33Oh.

01:13:34Mm-hmm.

01:13:36Mm-hmm.

01:13:37Mm-hmm.

01:13:38Mm-hmm.

01:13:56Tomorrow night.

01:13:58What is going on here?

01:13:59Chanel.

01:14:00Shannon.

01:14:01Oh, no.

01:14:02What?

01:14:04James.

01:14:04It was un-tonic.

01:14:05Oh, my God.

01:14:06What?

01:14:07During the matchmaking process, there was more than one person that our participants were

01:14:12compatible with.

01:14:13The unforgettable final test is back.

01:14:17Oh, my God.

01:14:17It is the ultimate test of trust and security.

01:14:21And this season, the experts have upped the ante like never before.

01:14:26We are removing the element of choice from the final test.

01:14:29Over two incredible nights.

01:14:32I feel sick.

01:14:33I feel like I'm going to pass out.

01:14:36All our participants will make their alternative matches.

01:14:41There's only Dave men that hate everybody.

01:14:43Let's get married to them.

01:14:44Some will more than enjoy the fresh perspective.

01:14:47Why do I always get the young ones?

01:14:49I like it.

01:14:50You've got to stop touching me because if my wife sees this, she's going to go.

01:14:57Before the biggest twist, the experiment's ever seen.

01:15:04It's the God's greener.

01:15:06Are you serious?

01:15:07Oh, fuck, fuck, fuck.

01:15:09That is disgusting.

01:15:12Oh, you...

01:15:13Oh, fuck.

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