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00:00Previously on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
00:03Ah, super.
00:05Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:08So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:11What the f***?
00:13Qu'est-ce qu'il fout là lui?
00:14He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:17What is in your mind, Antoni?
00:21My daughter living here, that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:25And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:28I am worried about Chloe being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:34Show me that you can take care of yourself here.
00:36Please.
00:38All right.
00:38I think when she feels the difference between having my financial support and not,
00:44a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:47Okay.
00:47Okay.
00:53That's mom.
00:55She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:59She calls every day.
01:01It's not normal.
01:03I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:05I know, but baby...
01:06You guys act like best friends.
01:07You're saying, is it resolved?
01:09You're saying, you know what mom's accused like?
01:13The honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:20I don't think I love you anymore.
01:41I don't think I love you anymore.
01:51All right.
01:52We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:53Okay.
01:54You ready?
01:55Yes.
02:01Sorry.
02:01A bit hard.
02:02Okay.
02:04Oh!
02:07Don't worry about the ball.
02:08Okay.
02:09You want me to keep going?
02:10Yeah.
02:11I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now, and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis
02:16with her today.
02:18Ah!
02:19And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone, because I still have a lot
02:25of issues with how close they are.
02:28I've got one, Patea.
02:31Ah.
02:3230, love.
02:33I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:38She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:40I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:44Whoops.
02:45That's a big...
02:46Sorry.
02:46Okay.
02:50Ah!
02:52My point.
02:53Party, love.
02:54I suck!
02:58Oh, God.
02:59She kicked my ass at tennis.
03:05Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:07Just like...
03:09Are you thirsty?
03:10Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:11Let's go.
03:12Let's have a break.
03:15I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe, because Dylan does not have
03:19my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:21And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:25Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:29It's a beautiful place.
03:31Oh, thanks for coming.
03:33Yeah.
03:37To be honest with you, Joe, like the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much, but
03:41I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:45No.
03:45Because I don't want to come off.
03:47I'm very open.
03:47I mean, listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:49Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:53Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said, Mom, Patia's going to be moving
03:58here, even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
04:02Yeah.
04:03I was excited for him because he was excited about it, but he did say, Mom, Patia doesn't
04:09want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:14Did you say that?
04:15I did.
04:16Yeah.
04:17Yeah.
04:18So I was concerned about that.
04:20I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:22I know.
04:23That's horrible.
04:23It's how I felt.
04:24Yeah, I know.
04:25I thought it was horrible too.
04:27That's just screwy because I don't mean you any harm.
04:30I know.
04:30I want you both to be happy.
04:32No, seriously, I do.
04:33I never, ever resented you.
04:35Oh, I did because I just, you know, the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:41Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:42The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:48Well, I stopped spending.
04:50You say you've stopped spending.
04:53You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:55Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:58So it's Dylan's fault again.
05:01He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
05:08Yes, I feel like he owes me that.
05:11Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:16That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:18But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:25This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:30Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:33First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:36She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:38I really need for her to back off.
05:41I wanted to say something else.
05:44In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:50Like maybe not call Dylan every day, three times a day.
05:54So that's still bothering you?
05:56Yes.
05:57Oh my God.
05:58But I thought we got past that.
06:00Yes, we did get past that.
06:01But we haven't if you're still onto it.
06:03Yeah, I want to like get past it.
06:07It just makes me mad because Dylan will like stop everything just to talk to you.
06:11But isn't that a good thing?
06:13It is.
06:13Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:16Yes.
06:16Because you're important to him?
06:17Yes, but unless it's an emergency, you know.
06:20I don't know about that.
06:21Yes, I mean unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait until we get home and talk
06:25to you.
06:25I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:29Oh, you're joking.
06:30No.
06:32Here's the deal.
06:33I'm not needy.
06:34I'm not needy in any relationships.
06:36I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:37So I don't, I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:42I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:46I think that problem lies within her.
06:49I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that though.
06:55Asking me not to call doesn't seem normal or natural.
06:59But I mean, I'll do it.
07:00I know.
07:00If that makes you happy and if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
07:03It will.
07:03But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night and say, what do you want, Dil?
07:06And he wants to chat.
07:07So it's not just me.
07:09It could be, yes.
07:09You better get in his ear too.
07:33Grandpa sent me a picture.
07:35Benny's sleeping on grandpa tonight.
07:37You probably sleep all night on their bed since it's probably a lot more comfortable than I am.
07:43So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:46I have no idea.
07:48My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this like grand gesture of love to Manon with being
07:55a mine and the goat farm.
07:57So tonight, I have a romantic getaway plan.
08:02This is definitely more along the lines of what's something I know she likes, which is really going to a
08:09nice hotel.
08:10But of course, but of course, earlier today, we had a fight, so I don't know how this is going
08:16to be received.
08:18Here, the terrace du port, it's open seven days a week.
08:21It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:23That's why tomorrow, maybe I can get my nails done.
08:27I can do them for you as your mom got nail polish.
08:31Okay, not a good joke either, but that's fine.
08:33It's not a joke.
08:34It's how you save money.
08:36And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:38No.
08:39Great.
08:39Oh my God.
08:42So what you want to say about this afternoon?
08:45There's nothing to say.
08:46We're, we're on the same page.
08:48We got it.
08:48We're good.
08:49What do you mean we are on the same page?
08:53Earlier today, when we were down in this like historic part of Marseille, there was this little shop that had
08:59some seashell earrings and she didn't have her purse on her.
09:04And she was asking if I had my wallet and I said, I didn't have my wallet so that she
09:09would not buy anything.
09:11I'm like coming from this like sense of you spend money all the time.
09:15There's no money coming in and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:19And then me being the juvenile sense of humor that I have kind of flashed my wallet as we're leaving
09:27the shop to show her and I shouldn't have done that.
09:35I could have gone about it a different way and said, hey, maybe don't spend right now because I have
09:40something planned or something like that.
09:42And even, but even 20 bucks?
09:44I know you're saying $30.
09:46It wasn't just $30.
09:48Max, 100.
09:48Do you think I would have spent like crazy in a small, tiny boutique if you would have said, can
09:53you don't buy them or can you buy just one piece?
09:56I would have not pushed you.
10:00Really?
10:01Yes, really.
10:03Stop assuming that I'm a bitch.
10:06Why do you assume that I am such a monster?
10:09You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
10:15Hmm?
10:16I like, I really don't feel like going down this road because it could lead into some really bad and
10:21I just don't want to go.
10:22Oh, wow.
10:22So you have more stuff to say to me?
10:24Do I have more stuff?
10:25It's like, what about you?
10:26Your apologies, huh?
10:28Like we can, this can go on all day of like you, me, you, me.
10:32It can.
10:35I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:38I just, you know, I'm trying to be smart about everything.
10:41And Manon does not hear how, you know, she comes across to me.
10:45We tried to move away from these problems moving here and they've just followed us from L.A.
10:52And I don't have a support system anymore.
10:55My family's over there.
10:57My only support system is her and there's none.
11:04I apologized.
11:05I said where I'm coming from.
11:07But.
11:07But like I said.
11:08Right now.
11:09You would invalidate the way I felt about it, which you did.
11:14I don't invalidate.
11:17You are invalidating your own apology by always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:22Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm, where like my mind was coming from in the moment.
11:27And I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife, my apologies, and get on my knees and beg for your
11:33forgiveness.
11:35I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:37You just don't.
11:40You always like have to throw that on me too.
11:43Just like you do.
11:44Because it's how I feel.
11:45Like divorcing.
11:46Oh, we're not compatible.
11:47Go find someone that's good for you.
11:48Because you make me feel this way.
11:50Mm-hmm.
11:51Putain.
11:52You just don't care about losing me then.
11:55You just don't care about saving us then.
11:57You just don't care about me.
11:59Period.
12:02When we talk about money, it's a fight.
12:06Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
12:10Is it even possible for us to be happy long term if we are that different?
12:15I'm telling you, I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:24But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:26I cannot change for you.
12:33I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:37Today is a big day.
12:38I'm going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:40To legalize your status in Naruba, take approximately five months.
12:44Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:47Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:51Not...
12:52Not at all.
13:04Oh, my God.
13:22Oh, is that a dog?
13:24Don't tell me.
13:25It's a piece of leaf of a coconut.
13:31Looks like a dog, doesn't it?
13:32No.
13:33Oh, thank God.
13:34Relax.
13:36When Chloe's mom was here, you know, the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:40that I feel like really put both of us in a place like, hey, you know, you got to get
13:44this done.
13:45So today is a big day.
13:46We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer, and hopefully you can give me some
13:50really good information and what steps we should take next.
14:03Don't touch it, Chloe.
14:05The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
14:10I've known people that have done it before.
14:13First thing is partnership papers, and then for the job, we have to find an employer that
14:17wants to hire her and willing to pay for her work permit.
14:19I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
14:23Yes.
14:24We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be as far as how much it's going
14:31to cost.
14:32And we're very interested in a work permit, because without work, I have no money.
14:37So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:41The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:47Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:51Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:54How much would the permits cost?
14:57How long is it going to take?
14:59It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
15:03When you marry, he can bring you in automatically, and the marriage will cost maybe some legal
15:11dues to marry at the municipal, but it can go very fast.
15:15The partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
15:22But the thing is, that process will take approximately five months.
15:26Maybe part of that five months, you need to stay in the States to wait for you to come
15:32to Naruba.
15:32Well, there's the bad news.
15:34I knew that was too good to be true.
15:37If you married, there's no problem.
15:39But with partnership, you need to wait abroad.
15:43Yeah, how long would it take if we did file the partnership papers for me to be able to
15:48work?
15:49After you're legal in Naruba, it will take approximately another three months for you
15:55to get a job.
15:56The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
16:01Yeah, that's a long time.
16:02That's a long time.
16:03I know.
16:04Mm-hmm.
16:05With a marriage thing, everything...
16:07Moves quicker.
16:08...goes quicker.
16:09But you have to be ready for that, of course.
16:11Right.
16:12No.
16:12It's not a little step.
16:14You know, it's a big step.
16:18I'm shocked.
16:20This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
16:26And it's even more shocking that, for a part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:33In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:39My anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to
16:45just break my trust again.
16:47So, Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance, not at all, not in the slightest.
16:57Did you already discuss marriage as a possibility, or...?
17:02Yeah, I've discussed with her about marriage.
17:05We've only known each other for a year now, and so, like you said, marriage is not a small
17:11step.
17:13Jonathan and I have talked about getting married, and he's definitely someone that I
17:17see myself marrying, but there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
17:23But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
17:28When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:32I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:35Maybe we should just go for it.
18:03The honest truth is that I don't want to think I love you anymore.
18:26Thank you for being honest.
18:29Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:33Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:35Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:43But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:50And, like, I love you as a person.
18:53And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
19:00Like, I just, like, I just, just, just, I just feel like there's just, like, so much about
19:08myself that I just, like, need to know about before I can commit to someone.
19:17I just, like, don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
19:32It's been three or four days here.
19:36I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:39Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:46Just get somewhere.
19:47Just feel it out.
19:49No, no commitment.
19:52I think there's something to explore still.
19:55I really do.
19:58But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now, like, is to be alone.
20:08I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
20:17I was not being very affectionate.
20:19I was not reciprocating your feelings.
20:21I wasn't calling you as much.
20:23I wasn't sharing much about my life.
20:25And I've been, like, like, spiraling about it and wondering if we decide to see each other
20:31person again and then, like, then I would know.
20:35We've only seen each other with a camera cover and us.
20:39It doesn't have to do with the cameras.
20:42Like, like, no, it doesn't.
20:48I just know it in my gut.
20:50Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:52Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along when I already know it's over.
20:56Like, this is not fair for you either.
21:04Nothing in the world could have prepared me for those words.
21:10You don't just suddenly not love someone.
21:15These things build up over time.
21:20And I had no idea it was building up all this time.
21:27There is so much life still ahead of us.
21:32Yeah, I know.
21:34I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:41Every single second.
22:04I will only look back with, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you.
22:10And how we helped each other grow.
22:16And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
22:20And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
22:28That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
22:34When I put that ring on her finger,
22:39I never intended to take it back.
22:47Well, what do we do now?
22:53We just move forward.
22:58Our individual ways.
23:03I'm just...
23:07I'm sorry.
23:09I'm just a little bit dead inside.
23:38I'm gonna go to a hotel, I guess.
23:40Yes.
23:46Greta is always chasing a thrill in life.
23:53And I think the roller coaster just ended.
24:05all right grab your bag oh no what the is this i was definitely not expecting a a sex dungeon
24:16yeah i was not expecting a sex dungeon just there's no windows and it's soundproof
24:21oh
24:45you say i don't care about you is complete i wouldn't be here in france if that was the
24:54case we getting out
25:02right on i mean it's been a while since we had any alone time to be intimate and i was
25:10looking
25:10forward to having like this nice time and now we're walking up to the hotel not in a good headspace
25:20love room oh no
25:26what the is this
25:36check it out oh wow that is cool
25:41uh-huh that's a good jacuzzi huh uh-huh cool cool it's just there's no windows that's the thing
25:50that's freaking me out right now and it's soundproof oh when i was asking antoni for a
26:00sexy romantic night away i was definitely not expecting a um how can i put it without uh being
26:10uh um insensitive a sex dungeon yeah i was not expecting a sex dungeon thank you exactly
26:19well it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon what a love room for you love room oh okay a strip
26:28pole okay i get it the effort was it's still better than mine so thank you
26:35okay
26:37um so i have a surprise for you oh so you stay over here and i'll get that ready okay
26:45okay manon loves the fact that i was in the military i mean i think she just loves a uniform
26:54i'm scared so i decided to dust off my old army of fatigues that will at least at a minimum
27:03put a smile on her face which i think is a stepping stone to having a better night what
27:09what is he doing you ready what is it's what you want yeah but you always said you would
27:22never wear it you hate it i'm doing it for you and opportunity awaits with the outfit oh yeah
27:30uh-huh let's go come on can it hold my weight oh pizza are you ready
27:38i'm not
27:42yeah
27:44oh my god
27:45oh i'm thinking there
27:46i'm gonna break it
27:49where's the military boy you can't look like one for like a pole
27:52oh yeah
27:54that's what you want
28:04you're a very very rare breed
28:08it's just very cute it's very sexy it's very cute
28:10okay let's go let's go to the hotel
28:13you're a nice guy it's nice i love that i'm a nice guy yeah you are
28:18yeah anyway and i'm the bad girl we always know that i'm the bad girl i'm the crazy one
28:22i'm the loud one the big one you know i take space we know that dramatic emotional i'm not dramatic
28:31you are very sexy my new soldier
28:33yeah but you are also very sexy
28:37yeah sure
28:37you are
28:38mm-hmm
28:39mm-hmm
28:40thank you
28:41you're welcome
28:42mm-hmm
28:47i'm really happy with anthony doing the effort and the thing is like you know when we are good we
28:53are good
28:54it makes me feel good he loves me and everything it's just made me feel more like okay my heart
28:59can be full of joy full of love
29:02i'm home which is anthony and tony is my home
29:09je t'aime beaucoup
29:10moi aussi je t'aime beaucoup
29:11it's just funny when you say beaucoup he said beaucoup means beautiful ass
29:15well also that je t'aime beaucoup beaucoup
29:18oh my god
29:23are you ready to get married
29:27who hesitated
29:29is this something really she wants you know i'm afraid that when it gets too hard you might leave
29:54i'm hungry i'm just actually starving
30:09i want my sweet potato fries
30:11what are you gonna eat with that
30:12i'll just use your salad with shrimp
30:14okay
30:15so what did you think about the law firm today
30:18i think we got really useful information out of it
30:21yeah
30:23earlier today we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier for me to start working
30:31and be legal here if we just got married
30:36i don't know how my mom will react when we tell her like it could be potentially eight months before
30:40i can work
30:41it definitely probably will be a i told you so moment
30:44we definitely did not see that one coming
30:47oh god
30:49you know what is that gonna look like
30:51for us in the meantime if i can't work you know
30:55i don't want to put it on you
30:58the eight nine months no problem me taking care of you
31:01the problem i have is that the lifestyle that you like to live
31:04you like to go out and have drinks go to dinners and stuff like that
31:08i can't support that aspect
31:11no i understand that
31:13everything else i can help you with
31:15but you would have to be patient
31:17no i understand that i think this whole entire situation is about patience at this point
31:23regardless we're gonna be waiting around
31:25yeah but if i marry you it's in two weeks
31:31well are you ready to get married
31:36yeah i am
31:37i am
31:38hesitated
31:38i'm already at an age that i'm ready to get married
31:40it's not about age it's about me like you can marry anyone at any age
31:44no but like i'm looking for someone to marry
31:47and i really really love you so i would expect you to be the person i want to marry
31:53but i don't know if you're ready for that because you're very young
31:58why you're nine you're nine years you're going to be called
32:01i don't know if you still want to live life and party and all that you know
32:06i wouldn't say that i'm not ready i think we just have some work to do you know
32:17you know of course the marriage is a much easier option but you know is this something really she wants
32:24you know
32:25because partnership papers is one thing you know if it goes bad hey you know we go separate ways
32:29but if you marry somebody it's much easier to get married than to get divorced
32:35i think you're very concerned about like you're so young you shouldn't settle down and this but
32:40i think the way i grew up and like how blessed i was to travel and do all the things
32:45that i have
32:45like i feel so comfortable with the life that i have lived and i've never felt like how i feel
32:50with you with anyone else
32:52so why would i want to like put this on the back burner and not go all in like i'm
32:58already where i want to be
32:59like i'm still gonna have martini nights obviously but i would like to have a martini night and then come
33:04home
33:05like to you
33:07i just want you to know for sure what you're putting yourself into
33:13i'm gonna tell you right now it's not gonna be easy
33:16and i'm afraid that when it gets too hard you might leave
33:21because i've been through that situation before and i'm not trying to compare you to anybody
33:25but you know like i was in a relationship for a very very long time and i give that person
33:29everything
33:30and that person the other day left me for something easier
33:35so i don't think it's only you risking everything i'm also risking life
33:42i think it's frustrating that he keeps telling me that i'm not ready to get married
33:46because he doesn't actually know how i feel
33:50in my eyes i mean i'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs
33:54and i feel that i'm ready to get married
33:57i think if i thought in my head this isn't gonna work
34:00i would have already left
34:01and i'm telling you that i'm more than okay with it
34:04so don't have this you know
34:07second doubt
34:08of me exactly of me
34:10if every day you show me that you love me and you care for me
34:13then i won't have that doubt in my mind
34:17i already gave up my entire life and moved to another country
34:20so there's nothing else i could really give up to prove to him how much i do love him
34:26i know it's fast and we definitely have our issues but to me this feels right
34:31i think at the end of the day it's something to think about
34:34so we can be together in the end
34:38we'll figure it out
34:43every day you have to talk to your mom it's ridiculous
34:47you're just trying to destroy everything
34:49i think you're worried that i'm going to abandon you
34:53you better start picking your battles
34:54because you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead
34:57and we're just trying to get back to our house
35:19and we're just trying to get back to our house
35:19and we'll have to take again
35:22WHERE ARE YOU
35:23How was the game?
35:24We saw we had a ball, didn't we?
35:26Yes, we did.
35:27She did.
35:28She kicked my ass.
35:29Oh, not really.
35:29We're both winners on the day.
35:32She's really good.
35:34OK, guys, I've got to be somewhere.
35:36We'll catch up another day.
35:38Yes.
35:38See ya.
35:39Bye.
35:40It's good to see you.
35:41You too.
35:41And thank you.
35:43We'll do it again.
35:45After tennis, I feel a lot better.
35:47I finally got all the issues off my chest.
35:51Other side.
35:53Remember?
35:54We're in Australia.
35:55Huh?
35:55Back horse.
35:56Where are you going?
35:57Oh, wait.
35:59I'm sorry.
36:00I'm still trying to get used to the side.
36:04She did point out that Dylan is part of the reason why they talk so much.
36:09So maybe it's not all on her.
36:12But I'm glad we talked about it.
36:14And hopefully things can be different moving forward.
36:18We had a good tennis match.
36:19She kicked my ass.
36:21It's been a long time since I played.
36:23She might have had to get some frustration out.
36:25Yeah.
36:26At least she didn't hit me with the ball.
36:28I was expecting her to hit me with the ball a couple of times.
36:35Do you feel like all the issues are resolved with my mother?
36:37I feel like it's resolved.
36:40I just said, you know, maybe she should not call so much.
36:43Twice a week.
36:44Twice a week.
36:45But not every day.
36:46Three times a day.
36:47That's too much.
36:50What do you think about that?
36:52I feel like you're bothered by that a little bit.
36:56It's your great idea.
36:58It's not a great idea for me.
36:59Okay, good.
37:00Because we enjoy having a chat here and there.
37:01Yeah, but if it bothers your partner, then how is that enjoyable?
37:06It shouldn't bother you that much.
37:15If it's a problem for me, then you should, you know, you should respect how I feel.
37:22Why would you stop the person that you love from doing something that makes them happy?
37:26Listen, I'm not stopped, no.
37:27Yes, you are.
37:29Babe, every day you have to talk to your mom.
37:32It's ridiculous.
37:33I don't talk to her every day.
37:34Sometimes it's free time to date.
37:34Yes, you talk to her every time to date and it's been an issue with us for 12 years.
37:40Can't you just work on, like, getting over that?
37:42Can't you work on, like, helping me set boundaries and respecting my feelings?
37:50Since I was a little kid, mum and I have always been close and Patia has never really been close
37:55to her mum.
37:56So, she doesn't understand that closeness.
38:00I think Patia feels fearful that my mum is going to influence me in some way or take me away
38:10from Patia in some way.
38:11But if respecting the woman that brought you into this world is a problem, then I don't really know what
38:17to say.
38:19I mean, if I'm asking, if I'm saying, hey, babe, you're talking to your mum too freaking much, you should
38:24be like, what, what?
38:25And then what if she, what if she dies?
38:27Like, how would you feel?
38:28Stopping me to talk.
38:28She's not going to die.
38:30She's, she's pushing 70.
38:32Babe, she plays tennis every day.
38:34Are you kidding?
38:35She's freaking healthy.
38:36I don't think it's fair that you're asking me to stop speaking to my mother.
38:39I think that's really like, I think that's really sad that you'd be concentrating on that over all things in
38:46life.
38:46You're worried about that.
38:48Why don't you worry about your $20,000 debt that you have?
38:52You, you got me into it.
38:54I've already told you about it.
38:55No, I didn't.
38:55Yes, you did.
38:56No, it's funny that you blame me for everything that's gone wrong in your whole life.
38:58I get the blame for it.
38:59Yes, you caused me a lot of money.
39:01No, I didn't cause you anything.
39:03I saved you money.
39:04I, I taught you.
39:05Oh, you did not save me money.
39:07Are you kidding me?
39:08You've got lots of issues.
39:10Big, big, big spending issues.
39:12Excuse me, Mr. Controlling.
39:14You're-
39:14You have a lot of issues.
39:16You're very controlling.
39:18You're always like trying to tell me what to do.
39:20It's always like my way or the highway.
39:22Just don't-
39:22You know what?
39:23I think that's the pot calling the kettle black because you're the most controlling one of us all.
39:27You love controlling me.
39:30Absolutely.
39:30You're always like trying to tell me what to do.
39:32And that's why you don't like me talking to my mother because you like to manipulate, influence and control me.
39:36And when I speak to her, you feel like she's, you know, taking that away from you.
39:43You're just trying to destroy everything.
39:45I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
39:48No, but I'm going to abandon you.
39:50You know, freaking respect my, my, my wishes.
39:53Dylan tells me I'm controlling.
39:55I'm like, what?
39:57How am I controlling?
39:58You're the controlling one.
40:01Honestly, sometimes I think Dylan is a narcissist.
40:03It's always about him.
40:05You know, it's my way or the highway.
40:07It's so annoying.
40:09Whether Dylan wants to admit it or not, his relationship with his mother is affecting our relationship.
40:16I don't know how much longer I can take this.
40:19It's not that hard.
40:21You keep fighting me on it, which makes it worse.
40:23Well, it's like, obviously my relationship with my mom is not going to change.
40:27So, you better start picking your battles because you're just picking this battle and you're just going to be nagging
40:33me until we're both dead.
40:34And we're going to have a miserable life.
40:38Things are clearly not going well.
40:41And there's something that I need to talk to Dylan about.
40:44And I think it might make it worse.
40:50Next time on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
40:53Let me get you some change.
40:55How much money you have given back?
40:57All?
40:58You've given them all the change I've given to you.
41:02You haven't charged anybody?
41:03She's saying, I don't know how any money works.
41:06It's a basic man.
41:07If you are buying something for 60, if somebody pay you 100, it's easy.
41:11Give them 40 back.
41:12I don't understand the change.
41:17So, I guess we didn't make any money on that sale, did we?
41:23I do feel alone and it's like starting to hit me that I am alone.
41:27The last thing I want is for you and Greta to split up.
41:30Some things are worth fighting for.
41:31I am upset with Greta, but I really want them to work out.
41:36I think you should have a talk with her.
41:42When I met with Dorian, we already started working together on the skincare brand.
41:49And we need to invest money.
41:52We're trying to buy a home and I feel like this is going to set a lot of things back.
41:58You working and living at your parents, how much time before you crack?
42:08What's wrong?
42:09I feel so dizzy.
42:12You okay?
42:13No.
42:14This is not the way I want to start my weekend wearing.
42:17I mean...
42:19I'm not going to sit down.
42:25I say no, no, no.
42:27I don't pregnant.
42:28I don't pregnant.
42:29Are you telling me that you're pregnant right now?
42:31I told you so many times, we even be careful when we have sex.
42:35I don't even say no, no.
42:36I mean...
42:37I don't act like that you're murdering.
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