00:03Hi and welcome to the Kapar Nurture Talk. I am Harsha, psychology graduate and behavior
00:12specialist from Kapar. Here to help you understand Tantrum. What is Tantrum? Teachers,
00:21parents and caregivers. You are in the right place. Today we are going to talk about Tantrums.
00:30Why Tantrum happens? What really happens in the child's brain? How to respond to it
00:40without actually losing our calmness? Yes, let's start about this. Tantrums are not bad behaviors.
00:50They are not the sign that the child is spoiled or manipulative. They are the form of communication
00:58where the child is trying to communicate, I am so overwhelmed and I am also feeling it
01:05something that I don't know. Yes, so what really happens within the brain of the child? Well,
01:13our brain has different parts. The amygdala is the alarm system of our brain. During the
01:20tantrum, amygdala is in charge and the thinking part of the brain called prefrontal cortex actually
01:27goes offline. So that is why during the tantrum, the child is not able to hear and cannot hear the
01:34logic in the middle of the meltdown. It's not because they are ignoring you. It is because they are not
01:42able to understand and unable to process what is really happening and what something is happening,
01:49what is really happening during the process. So let's see how it works.
01:55So there comes something called co-regulation. What is co-regulation? Co-regulation means when your
02:02child needs your calm because to find their own calm. Yes, here comes your role. You have to be the
02:14emotional anchors. Instead of yelling, instead of punishing or also walking away, try to be with them.
02:22Lower your voice, get down to their level and make them calm. If it is safe, try to say something
02:31like,
02:32you're going through a lot. You're having big feelings. I'm here when you need me. Yes. So there
02:40comes their calmness. The moment of calmness that you're giving can help the child's nervous system
02:48begin to reset over time. This builds safety, trust and emotional skills that last. A quick parenting tip.
02:57Next time, when your child's spiral, take a pause. Take a deep breath and relax and ask yourself,
03:06is this a behavior I need to fix or the feelings I need to understand? Yes, most of the tantrums
03:16are the feeling that is too big for their little bodies. Thank you.
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