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00:06Good morning, everyone.
00:08Welcome to Washington, DC.
00:10I'm going to take you around the city,
00:11show you some monuments and memorials.
00:12Woo!
00:14Cheers to a good time.
00:15Cheers to a good time.
00:20So we're looking at the north front of the White House.
00:23Oh, look, there's a former first family out
00:25front of the White House.
00:26You see the former first family?
00:27You don't see the bushes?
00:41Right now we're driving along the National Mall,
00:44which isn't a shopping mall, ladies, right?
00:47On your left is the United States Capitol.
00:50There's a lot of monkey business that
00:51goes on on Capitol Hill.
00:53And in the context of animals, a group of baboons
00:55is called the Congress.
01:05So we're going to swing around to the White House.
01:11So I bring a lot of people to the house and they say, wow, it's so small.
01:14And I say, wow, where do you live?
01:18Nick, the DC tour guide, is the real deal, the best in the city.
01:24He's so popular with the locals and visitors alike that he's earned the nickname, the tour
01:28guide.
01:30Oh, I love a legend on the show.
01:32Me too.
01:33I know when the people get on the bus and they first see me and they're like, hey, are
01:36you the bus driver?
01:37I say, no, I used to be.
01:38I'm the tour guide.
01:39I drove the double-decker tour bus.
01:41And my mentor pulled me to the side and said, I really have a shot of being a great tour
01:46guide.
01:46I love that.
01:46Because you can teach history, you can't teach personality.
01:49Three, two, one.
01:51So I've been taking people around this city for about 17 years now.
01:56Nick will always tell you that this is not a job for him.
01:59He loves what he does.
02:00And he is self-taught.
02:02I've never been to college a day in my life.
02:04But I made sure when I chose to do this that the knowledge and the facts were there.
02:07And tour guide is his world.
02:10That's a hard job.
02:12To like give tours every day?
02:13That is hard.
02:14I couldn't do it.
02:14He's like constantly entertaining.
02:16Constantly have to have knowledge.
02:17He's got to be on it.
02:18Lady Freedom weighs 15,000 pounds.
02:21Heaviest woman I know.
02:23All right?
02:24You laugh, you live longer.
02:25So I try to bring humor to the tour.
02:27Now off to your right, you're going to see this red brick building with a gold cap on it.
02:32Let me know where you can see it.
02:35That's a Starbucks.
02:38I just try to lighten the crowd.
02:40So that's my superpower, I guess.
02:44You have the best tour guide in the city.
02:47Just in case you didn't.
02:48I appreciate you, Yana.
02:49Interestingly enough, Nick was born and raised in Washington, D.C.
02:53And today he lives just across the river in Arlington, Virginia with his longtime partner, Vivian.
02:59What are you cooking?
03:01I like to fry some chicken.
03:02They've been together for 11 years and share a bustling home filled with five eggs.
03:06Incredible children.
03:07I have four children from a previous relationship.
03:10My oldest is Jeffrey.
03:12He is 18.
03:13He's about to go to college.
03:14I have a 17-year-old, Viviana.
03:17Nina.
03:18She'll be 16 in September.
03:19Then I have Joel.
03:21He is 14.
03:22And then I have Nico.
03:23And Nico is Nick and I's child biologically.
03:28You think that's enough?
03:29Yes.
03:30OK.
03:30Two scoops of ice and pour it in there.
03:32This man came into our lives when the kid's father didn't show up.
03:36And he's their parent.
03:38He's their father.
03:39Nina, what you getting nails done for?
03:41No dates, right?
03:43It was hard at first trying to be that dad because they have a dad.
03:47But I think the people that are put into your life, they come into your life for a reason.
03:51And I love all of them.
03:53I love a blended family.
03:54Yes, I was just thinking that blended family.
03:56I work about 12 to 13 hours a day.
03:59Every day, no days off.
04:00But you got to pay bills and feed the kids and buy the kids cars and pay insurance.
04:05It's a lot.
04:07I can sleep when I die.
04:08It's all right.
04:09I got a job to do right now.
04:11Working night shift?
04:12Yep.
04:13Again?
04:14Tough.
04:14Live at work and I visit home.
04:16I think he feels like he has to do everything because he didn't have a father figure in his life.
04:21Coming from where I come from, we weren't rich, of course.
04:24Just being in that environment, I started kind of getting into the streets and I got this
04:28a minor trouble growing up.
04:29I got called and that was my wake up call.
04:34At that point, I knew like that's not the path that I wanted to take.
04:39So I just want to make sure as a parent, I'm able to support them in anything they're trying to
04:44do.
04:45Come on.
04:46Love you.
04:46Love you too.
04:48When Nick, you know, goes to work every day, it makes me feel proud.
04:52However, I am, you know, a bit sad because he is constantly working.
04:58Then I'll help you in a second, Jeffrey.
05:00It does affect your children.
05:02They do want to see him more.
05:03They do want to do more activities with him.
05:05They want him to show up.
05:07At the end of this week, Nick and Vivian will take their oldest child, Jeffrey, to college orientation,
05:11marking the beginning of a new chapter as their kids start to leave the nest.
05:15My greatest fear.
05:16It's my worst nightmare.
05:17Stress me, when you get there, it is the best.
05:19No.
05:20No, I want them to live in my basement forever.
05:22No, you don't.
05:23So with Jeffrey going to college, it's a bittersweet moment.
05:26Because after a while, Jeffrey's going to have his own family and be doing his own thing,
05:30and the kids are going to move on.
05:31I think the Fat Five could help Nick Kyle to make room for, like, conversation.
05:38Prioritize family.
05:41Vivian's planning a going-away party to honor this new chapter and to remind Nick to slow down
05:46because time is moving fast.
05:48It is, and so are the kids.
05:50Oh, yeah.
05:51Let's help DC's devoted tour guide reflect on the past while showing up for the present.
05:56Yeah!
05:57Let's go, tour guide.
05:58So we're going to check out Jefferson for a bit.
06:01His memorial is off to your right.
06:03It is made out of marble, so don't take it for granted.
06:06Yeah, interesting fact, he's actually a tour guide here.
06:08Usually around this time.
06:10So that's what we're going to do.
06:10Wait, so that's why you brought us here?
06:11Yes!
06:12Jerry, you're so smart.
06:13That tour guide be our tour guide?
06:14I think it's him.
06:15The one in the red shirt?
06:16Let's go!
06:18We call him the Forgotten Founding Father.
06:21But without George Mason, we don't have a Bill of Rights.
06:24Because he wrote the first...
06:27Hi, everyone.
06:28I'm so sorry to crash your tour.
06:29We're here to give you a gorgeous makeover!
06:31Yay!
06:33Sorry to interrupt.
06:35Sorry to interrupt.
06:36Sorry to interrupt.
06:36What have we learned?
06:37Before you say goodbye, can you tell us about this monument?
06:39Absolutely.
06:40So, first and foremost, at the top, you have the Committee of Five.
06:43John Adams, Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Franklin, Roger Sherman from Connecticut, and Robert
06:48Livingston from New York.
06:49That was like their Fab Five!
06:50There you go, right?
06:51That was on point, right?
06:52This was dedicated 1943, April 13th.
06:56That was the 200th anniversary of his birth, 1743.
06:59Franklin Roosevelt laid the cornerstone, 1939.
07:02Look at you with all the facts!
07:03How does one fit so much information in a brain?
07:06A lot of reading, a lot of research, a lot of studying.
07:08Now I see why you are the tour god.
07:10I'm trying.
07:11Okay.
07:12I was hoping that it was tour god, like G-A-W-D, but it turns out it's just, like,
07:17the tour
07:18god.
07:19But not just god.
07:20Please leave him great reviews.
07:22Five stars on Yale.
07:23Five stars only.
07:24Please.
07:24Don't panic.
07:25We're very friendly.
07:26Should we get the show on the road?
07:27Absolutely.
07:28What do we do with them?
07:32You're talking about them like they're not literally behind you.
07:35It's funny.
07:36It's funny.
07:37And we did get a bus for y'all.
07:38It's just around the corner.
07:39It's right there.
07:40Appreciate you all.
07:41Thank you guys.
07:42Come on, Nick.
07:42Nervous?
07:43I'm nervous, but it's a good nervous.
07:45You're good.
07:46Great nervous.
07:49Can't find out till you try.
07:51Leave the past behind.
07:55This your spot right here?
07:56Yes.
07:57I like your spot.
07:58We're here.
07:58Your neighborhood is so cute.
08:00We're home.
08:03We made it.
08:04Welcome to my home.
08:07Hello.
08:07Hi.
08:09Hi.
08:10I'm Tan.
08:10Nice to meet you.
08:11How are you?
08:11Gosh, you're gorgeous.
08:12Hey, guys.
08:13How are you?
08:13Nice to meet you.
08:14Hi.
08:14What's your name?
08:15Joelle.
08:15Joelle, nice to meet you.
08:16Honey, this is like the Brady Bunch.
08:18There's kids everywhere.
08:19How's your name?
08:21Joelle, nice to meet you.
08:23It was my number one dream to always have five children.
08:27I still wish I did.
08:28I asked Nate probably once a month if he wants to have another child.
08:33I keep trying, but I just can't seem to get pregnant.
08:36I know I've said it too many times that I need to stop objectifying you, but you are beautiful.
08:40Thank you so much.
08:40And your candy apple red hair is so stunning.
08:42I love it.
08:43Thank you so much.
08:44Okay, so kids, tell us.
08:46What needs to happen?
08:46What do you wish?
08:47Yeah, why are we here?
08:49Break it down.
08:50I know some of his outfits, he came out the house looking like a yellow mustard bottle.
08:54Oh!
08:56Oh, wow.
08:56Yes, give us a ball.
08:57Really appreciate the specificity.
08:59The outfits, for sure.
09:01Like, I would love to see him in some nice khakis, a nice polo.
09:05What else to go?
09:05Okay, Nina, she said some of his dad jokes need to change.
09:09Oh!
09:10I can help you with that.
09:14Everybody's having a good time.
09:15Everyone's laughing.
09:16It's a good environment.
09:18But I see that Nick is sort of fading away in the background.
09:20I have a question.
09:22Are we loving the beard?
09:23Are we obsessed with the beard?
09:24I like how it is.
09:25You like how it is?
09:25I remember one time he came home without a beard.
09:27Oh, yeah.
09:28That was crazy.
09:29Ooh!
09:32So the Nick that we just met had all the facts, was talking, was sharing.
09:36This Nick in this house is not saying anything.
09:39This isn't the full family, right?
09:41We're missing one.
09:42Yes.
09:43Is he your home?
09:44He is.
09:45So where the is he?
09:46Yeah, right?
09:47Yeah, we want to meet him.
09:48Remind me of his name.
09:49Jeffrey.
09:51Jeffrey!
09:52Jeffrey!
09:53Jeffrey!
09:53Jeffrey!
09:54Oh, Jeffrey!
09:56Hello, Jeffrey.
09:57Nice to meet you.
09:58How are you doing?
09:59Oh, that bro hype was cute.
10:01Okay, you're the one leaving quite soon.
10:03Yes, sir.
10:04Are you feeling ready?
10:04Oh, you don't need to call me, sir.
10:05I'm your age.
10:08Are you?
10:09Barely.
10:09Okay, you're going away really soon.
10:11Where are you going?
10:12Uni?
10:13Fairham College.
10:14Yes, sir.
10:14Are you excited to leave home?
10:16A little bit.
10:17Tell me why.
10:17Because I'm going to college for football, but...
10:19You are?
10:20Yes, sir.
10:21Quarterback or something?
10:22Linebacker.
10:23Good for you.
10:23I don't know what that means.
10:24Are you also doing good in the educational component?
10:27Yes, sir.
10:27I'm doing good in my educational.
10:29Good kid.
10:30Great kid.
10:31My goodness me.
10:32Should we see more of the house?
10:33Yeah, let's explore.
10:34Give us a tour.
10:36So this is the living room.
10:37What's in here?
10:38What's happening?
10:39It's books.
10:40Okay.
10:40We've kept...
10:42Do we need these books?
10:43We do not.
10:45I think we need to declutter.
10:47I'm right there with you.
10:49Sock baskets, winter clothes, and crafting stuff.
10:54Are you a crafter?
10:55I am a crafter.
10:55What kind of craft?
10:56Yeah.
10:56I do a lot of party favors.
10:58I make shirts.
10:59I make shot glasses.
11:00Cute.
11:01I do buttons.
11:02Where's all the craft stuff?
11:03Because I know you gotta have stuff.
11:05Don't judge me.
11:06Okay.
11:07Just wait till you get to the craft room.
11:09Okay, we'll work our way over there.
11:11Y'all gonna be baffled.
11:12Okay.
11:12It's a mess.
11:13It is a mess.
11:15Smells nice.
11:16This is the chaos.
11:22You fight fast and loose with the words craft room.
11:26This is a dumping ground that just so happens to have creative things in it.
11:30It could be a hurricane sometimes.
11:33I've got a question, a really important...
11:34What the frack is that?
11:35That's for buttons.
11:35This is a button maker.
11:36I even knew that.
11:38Oh.
11:38I had a girlfriend that was a scrapper.
11:41Scrapbooker.
11:42Scrapbooker.
11:42Scrapbooker.
11:43Is that what turned you gay?
11:44Scrapbooker.
11:45She had a room similar to this.
11:47Look at me now.
11:50Walking around Nick's home, there's not a lot of room to live in this house.
11:55Right now.
11:56I want to take all of the clutter out so that I can bring the family in.
12:02You can't do the things you need to fill your own cup up in this house.
12:06That's perfect.
12:07Actually, that's true.
12:07There's plenty of cups.
12:09That was my way of saying I was paying attention.
12:11Yeah.
12:13All right.
12:13Can we see more?
12:14Absolutely.
12:15Sure, sure, sure.
12:15Let's go.
12:16Kitchen.
12:17Tell me more.
12:19What's working, what's not working?
12:21Yeah.
12:21Dishwasher doesn't work.
12:22Oh.
12:23He didn't mean physically you don't work.
12:25I like that.
12:25I meant more like emotionally.
12:27Expansionally.
12:28We don't use it.
12:29You know?
12:29The kids are the dishwasher.
12:30I want to be on the kids side for one moment because my mother and father did the same thing.
12:34We had a dishwasher and they never let us use it.
12:36Please, can we start allowing...
12:38We had that too?
12:39I think it's brown people.
12:40What's wrong with us?
12:41People of color...
12:41Let them use it!
12:43For me, we do paper plates and paper forks and paper nuts.
12:47So why are there dishes?
12:48Paper plates are for picnics.
12:50Actually, I don't even use paper plates on a picnic.
12:52Paper plates are not the vibe.
12:54Okay?
12:54You mentioned that this is where the magic happens.
12:56Who's in charge of the magic?
12:57Who does the cooking here?
12:58I do.
12:59Most of the...
12:59And then Viviana helps me.
13:01And I always cook chicken on...
13:02Too much chicken.
13:03Chicken on Monday, chicken on Tuesday, chicken on Wednesday.
13:06So we eat chicken.
13:06So one day, I got tired of chicken.
13:07She said, I'm gonna make something different.
13:08Like, what is it?
13:09She opened the oven.
13:10She said, ta-da.
13:11I said, what is it?
13:12She was like, it's chicken with bacon wrapped around it.
13:16It was chicken again!
13:17It was chicken.
13:18But it was a difference.
13:19I was chicken.
13:20I tried to make it fancy.
13:22I get it.
13:23No chicken.
13:24Okay.
13:28Wow.
13:29Oh.
13:30Oh, my gosh.
13:33There's so many books.
13:36Is there anything in this freezer?
13:37Is it plugged in?
13:38Does it work?
13:38It might be a little empty too, but...
13:40Oh, your favorite.
13:41Chicken breasts.
13:43And then an even larger bag of drumsticks
13:45that I think is stuck to the inside of the freezer.
13:50This is the bedroom.
13:52Okay.
13:54My side of the bed.
13:56Okay.
13:56Her side of the bed.
13:58I could have guessed that this was your side.
13:59Yeah, right.
14:00It's a little reminiscent of a different section of this house.
14:03Yeah.
14:03There's no way on God's earth that any fun time is happening in this space.
14:10Jeremiah, they've got a fridge freezer in the bedroom.
14:12There's no romance in this space.
14:14There's nothing romantic about it at all.
14:17What do you need solvents for in your bedroom?
14:20We don't.
14:21Okay.
14:23It's gross.
14:23Who wants to have sex here?
14:27When's the last time...
14:28Do you remember, like, the last time all of you sat down at the table together as a family?
14:31You have a beautiful dining table.
14:32Probably a year ago.
14:34Like, I know it's hard with their schedules, but is it realistic to, like, once a week or once every
14:39two weeks where you guys could have, like, a proper family meal together?
14:42Well, I think it's possible, but not possible.
14:45Because, like, Nick gets off at work at, like, four and goes back into work.
14:51Then Viviana goes to work at, like, two.
14:53But he's off at eight and you guys could do, like, a late...
14:53You guys could do a night-time snack.
14:55I could do, like, a dessert night.
14:56A dessert night?
14:58Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
14:58I love dessert night.
14:59See, I know we used to have a dessert night where my mom used to make root beer floats.
15:03Yeah, root beer floats.
15:04Yeah.
15:05Okay.
15:05We used to do a lot, but all of it stopped because everybody became busy.
15:08Yeah.
15:09I think there's definitely a lot of love in the family, but everyone seems to be living their own lives.
15:13They want quality time.
15:15So I think it's about being a little more mindful and a little more present when you are at home.
15:20It's gonna become possible, honey.
15:22It needs to become possible again because he's about to go off to college, so we ought to do something
15:26for...
15:27That's nice.
15:27Aw, that's sweet.
15:29It's sad, but it's also beautiful to have someone to miss, right?
15:32Yeah.
15:32Yeah.
15:35Much bolder than I expected.
15:38So...
15:38Plot an outfit that you would wear on an evening out.
15:41This is the yellow hoodie I wore.
15:42She said I was a mustard.
15:43Oh, it's a very cute color.
15:44Oh, my God, it's long.
15:45And I got these yellow shoes right here.
15:47That gives me so much hope.
15:49And she called me the mustard bottle, but...
15:51Oh!
15:53Yeah.
15:54Cute.
15:55Okay.
15:56So that is an outfit you feel good in.
15:58Yeah.
15:59Jeans, hoodie.
16:00You're a casual streetwear guy.
16:02And then I got regular little t-shirts and things.
16:04Nick seems excited about clothes, but it's so clear.
16:07He's still dressing like a 20-year-old because he doesn't really know who he is today.
16:14He needs to step it up just a little bit.
16:16It shows you have style.
16:18You just choose to wear a uniform.
16:20Yeah.
16:20Well, because he's busy, honey.
16:22I get it.
16:22I get it.
16:23But, to be fair, even if he's busy, his wife wants him to look nice every now and then.
16:27Just like sometimes.
16:28Yeah.
16:30Aww.
16:32Ooh.
16:35Moisturization station is right here.
16:39We talked earlier with the kids.
16:41Right.
16:41We saw that you were quiet.
16:43Do they often express their feelings?
16:45Nah.
16:45No?
16:46Nope.
16:46Yeah.
16:47Why?
16:48We're not really in the same moment, on the same page to do so.
16:53What about when you have, like, one-on-one time with him?
16:55Yeah.
16:55That's what I got to create.
16:57Will you have time for that?
16:58You know, I'll be so exhausted.
16:59But, you know, I got to find the energy to do that stuff.
17:02Got it.
17:02Got it.
17:03Okay, then.
17:03What was your childhood like?
17:05My mom worked a lot because she was a single parent, you know?
17:09So she had two, three jobs.
17:11So dad wasn't there?
17:12Nope.
17:13And then mom worked all the time?
17:14Right.
17:15That work ethic kind of thing.
17:18Yeah.
17:18I'm not blaming her.
17:19No.
17:19I like to drive, but I got that from her.
17:22This makes a little bit more sense to me.
17:24Like, your journey to fatherhood.
17:26Because what I know is that somebody who normally doesn't have models, they have to go one of
17:31two ways.
17:31They mimic the models they have, or they try to do the opposite.
17:34Right.
17:34Was that sort of the reason you stepped in?
17:36But I wasn't going to deal with her and not make sure the kids are straight.
17:39But why?
17:40Because that would mean I didn't love her.
17:41So if I love her, that means I got to love the kids.
17:43And I didn't always love them.
17:44It kind of grew on me.
17:46Of course.
17:46So now I'm not really concerned about them and about their well-being and things like
17:50that.
17:51Nick is a great stepfather.
17:53He's clearly trying to give his kids everything that his father didn't give him.
17:57But he still needs some help in really figuring out how to show up for them.
18:01Hey, hey, hey.
18:02We back.
18:03Hello.
18:06So I want to know if you're ready to start this week.
18:08Absolutely.
18:09You need to say goodbye, because we're about to get on that tour bus to get out of here.
18:12Let's do it.
18:13Let's go.
18:14Let's go.
18:15Let's do it.
18:16All right.
18:17Come on.
18:18Cheer.
18:19I love that you're just like, oh yeah.
18:20I'm just going to stay.
18:21Come on.
18:22I'm going to get to work.
18:23So I get it.
18:24I'll see you guys soon.
18:26I just really love this family.
18:29And I want this house to be a place that when Nick gets done working 14 hour days, he
18:33can't wait to get home, because it's going to fill his cup up in a way that no other
18:37place could.
18:38I need my reinforcements.
18:40All right.
18:40Come on.
18:40Let's go in.
18:41I only want people that are interested in getting rid of stuff.
18:44Oh, okay.
18:44All right.
18:45Let's get a box.
18:45Come on.
18:49You know what y'all boy?
18:50Ready to throw his stuff away.
18:52No one uses what?
18:54Bring it in.
18:55We're going to give it back to Miss Michelle.
18:56You're going to keep this?
18:58How many Grinch waffles you've made?
19:00One.
19:00And that was like last Christmas.
19:01We can throw that away.
19:02She just likes the Grinch.
19:04I'll be the design Grinch.
19:30I'll be the design Grinch.
19:33A penis.
19:34Let's say it.
19:35Three, two, one.
19:35It's phallic.
19:36It looks like a penis.
19:37It looks like a penis.
19:38Kutas in Polish.
19:39I wish you'd get your gay brains out of the gutter.
19:42This is just simply a fan joke.
19:43JVN, I didn't see it.
19:44Holding it like that is better.
19:46I am going to say this though, girl.
19:47We're here for Nick and it's about family.
19:51Yeah, it is.
19:51Even though he has it put together on the outside, it sort of gave me the sense of like some
19:55deeper things.
19:56Well, the chaos of that household.
19:58Oh, yeah.
19:59Is pretty insane.
20:01But he's so open.
20:02He's like, give me everything you got.
20:04Yeah.
20:04In many ways, Nick has been in his own survival mode.
20:08I just feel like he needs to take a beat.
20:09Yeah.
20:10He's on the express train.
20:11He's working in the morning.
20:12He's got like an hour and a half in the afternoon and then he's going back to giving tours.
20:15Yeah.
20:15Vivian and Nick have been in a process of work, kids, work, kids.
20:19Nick needs to really lean in, really communicate and really show up for himself and for his family.
20:24From what he said, he clearly doesn't have any models.
20:27I really want him to understand where he was in his past, the work that he's done and where he
20:31can go.
20:32Yeah.
20:32But he's ready for it.
20:33He's ready.
20:34To the tour guide.
20:35To the tour guide.
20:36To the tour guide.
20:38What did you say?
20:39To the tour guide.
20:39Tour guard?
20:40God.
20:41Is it the tour guide?
20:42Five, six, seven, eight.
20:44Okay.
20:44One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight.
20:49Let's go, guys.
20:50Wow.
20:50Do a death drop on your fan.
20:58I have to tell you, I'm really good at so many things, but I'm not good at fades.
21:01So we got help today.
21:02Oh my God.
21:02Good deal.
21:03Look how cute he was.
21:04There's just like cute soldiers all over the place.
21:06There's such hot guys in D.C.
21:08They're just like everywhere.
21:09Come on.
21:11Your hair is so pretty.
21:13Can I touch?
21:14Sure.
21:14My God.
21:15This hairline is just stunning.
21:18The greatest gift that a parent can give their kid is their time and their attention and
21:22also modeling for them better ways to take care of themselves.
21:27So by Nick slowing down a little bit, taking more time for him to connect with himself,
21:32he can connect with his kids a lot better.
21:35You're aging like a fine wine, honey, like a fine French wine.
21:39We don't have to reinvent the wheel or do anything crazy, but I do think let's take it down.
21:44At least like that.
21:45Okay.
21:46And then, you know what will be really hot?
21:47I do want to tint your brows.
21:49Tint them?
21:50Yes.
21:52We're going to tint them darker because do you see how strong your beard is, but then
21:56your brows are kind of disappearing on me.
21:58I ain't got no brows.
21:59My mom ain't got no brows.
21:59Yeah, but you do have brows.
22:00You do, but if we tint them, it'll like pick them up stronger.
22:03Like it'll be pretty.
22:04It'll be nice.
22:04It'll be very mask actually.
22:06A brow tint never hurt nobody unless you use way too much and get all over their skin
22:10and give them super brow.
22:11And then it has hurt people, but we won't do that here.
22:14Don't worry about it.
22:15You know, also my esthetician besties here.
22:17I want to give you a great facial.
22:18Have you ever had a facial?
22:19I had one.
22:20It's been years.
22:21Let's wait a minute.
22:21You just have the prettiest skin.
22:22I just want to buff it a little bit.
22:24We're going to exfoliate those lips a little bit, honey.
22:26We're just going to give you a little polish, honey.
22:28Okay.
22:28I'm going to get our barber and then we're going to get started.
22:30He's so sweet.
22:31His name is Dean.
22:32How you doing, man?
22:35How you doing?
22:35How you doing, man?
22:36How you doing?
22:37You're so cute.
22:39So we'll do a little low taper.
22:41I was thinking like, I kind of like it when it like follows the head shape a little.
22:45Okay.
22:46So more of like a drope.
22:47Yes.
22:48I feel like it's a kind of like refined.
22:50Okay.
22:50It's like a little more like glow.
22:51You know what I mean?
22:52I want to make it really like so fresh and so clean, you know?
22:55Not a problem.
22:57Oh, la, la.
22:58In a time where straight men are not encouraged to connect with each other or have like a
23:02safe space to talk about their feelings, this barber shop is giving me that.
23:07It's like when ladies go get a manicure.
23:09Go see your barber.
23:10Make a friend at the barber shop.
23:12So cute.
23:13Your hair looks great.
23:13Light up so clean.
23:14Yes.
23:15Go get your hair washed.
23:17You'll feel so much better.
23:18God, everyone looks so good in here.
23:19Absolutely.
23:22So Nick, what would be your like goals with your touring career?
23:26Well, I've always had a vision about this like comedy adults only tour.
23:31So a little more grown up language.
23:34Yes.
23:35A little more, you know, adulty stories.
23:37Yes.
23:38Do you have a name?
23:39It'd be like a hysterical history tour or something like that.
23:43Hysterical history tour.
23:44Like Hamilton, it inspired me when they had that line, son of a whore.
23:49I want to be able to say whore on the bus.
23:51Yes.
23:52But I got to watch my language, you know, because I got to keep it professional.
23:55Yes.
23:56I love that idea.
23:57Sign me up.
23:58Should we brainstorm some like slutty jokes?
24:01Like the stories about Lincoln being a raging homosexual.
24:05They did say that, but I don't think that's true.
24:08Honey, I love a fact.
24:10When he was already established in Springfield, he had this one guy who he lived with for like
24:1310 years.
24:15It's giving 1800s b-b-bot, honey.
24:19That's what they say.
24:19You're out of control.
24:20It's true, honey.
24:22He was so stressed out about the war, honey, so he just started .
24:27I'm so sorry.
24:28Sorry.
24:28I hope you're enjoying your haircut.
24:29I'm so sorry.
24:30That was so good.
24:31That was great.
24:31That was so cool.
24:32I wasn't even talking to you, honey.
24:33There's this nice gentleman over here trying to get his hair cut, and I'm talking about Lincoln's .
24:37The hysterical history tour is so cute.
24:39By him taking more control of his destiny with his career, he could hopefully make more money.
24:43And then he could have more time to spend with his kids.
24:45I do think it's important for you because you are just on all the time.
24:50Your job just so involves you being on and performing.
24:53These moments of chilling out and calming down are so important for you.
24:57Right, right.
24:58Because it really is so true.
24:59When you take better care of yourself, I feel like you can show up better with your family.
25:02Right.
25:02This is much needed.
25:03I appreciate you.
25:04Oh, my God.
25:05It's my pleasure, honey.
25:07Oh, that beard looks great.
25:08I think it's one of the freshest fades in Queer Eye history.
25:12Mm-hmm.
25:12Best for last.
25:16Ooh, that skin is coming alive, honey.
25:21Stunning.
25:22Can I just say how annoying it is that men can put in such little effort and look that
25:28much better?
25:30Okay, Nick, are you excited to see the new you?
25:32I'm ready to see the new me.
25:33Honey, can I just say, I've never seen a hotter tour guide in my life.
25:37Okay, here's the new in three, two, one.
25:41Oh, yeah, I'm back.
25:43Right?
25:44Do you see the difference in your brow?
25:46Yeah, I do see the difference.
25:46I can see him now, actually.
25:47I can see him now, actually.
25:48I'm glowing like I just came home.
25:50A quick facial and a little haircut gets this man to the tour guide Emmys.
25:54He is so cute, glowing from the inside, hot but regal at the same time.
26:00Ooh.
26:01Like hot, but sir, all at once.
26:05My name's Abraham.
26:06Where we Lincoln?
26:07Oh, that was good.
26:09Write that down.
26:09I feel like you've got like a future in comedy.
26:11That was like really good.
26:14Woo, here we go now.
26:17Are you ready?
26:20Let me take a good look at you first.
26:21Yeah, yeah, yeah.
26:23What an improvement.
26:24Oh, yeah.
26:25And I do prefer the shorter beard.
26:27I do.
26:27You know what?
26:28Here's the thing I don't understand.
26:30You have a gift.
26:32You have the gift of style.
26:33It is such a blessing.
26:35You're choosing not to use it, man.
26:38I mean, I just, you know, working at the company, they want you to wear the company shirts.
26:42Yeah.
26:43But I do like to wear my own clothes, but...
26:45But when are you wearing it?
26:46There you go.
26:47Nowhere.
26:47When did you start caring about clothes?
26:51When I was younger, because we didn't have clothes.
26:53Heavy downs, you know?
26:54Okay.
26:54Pass the clothes down.
26:56I really didn't get to the fashion, fashion aspect of it until I got probably about 25,
27:0130.
27:01Okay.
27:02Because I started making enough money to buy nicer clothes.
27:04Okay.
27:05Would you like to have opportunities to dress differently to you?
27:10Absolutely.
27:10Clothes do still excite you.
27:13No question about it.
27:13It still gets you going.
27:15Oh, yeah.
27:15Okay, good.
27:16Nick doesn't really have time to dress outside of his uniform, but it's something that brings
27:23him a lot of happiness.
27:25It's one thing in his life that he can truly control.
27:28So let's step it up just a little bit, not just for Vivian, but also for himself.
27:34So much of what you had in your closet was streetwear, and I love that.
27:38The issue that I'm having is that the stuff that is great gets lost because you've got
27:43so much shyser in there.
27:44I totally agree with what you just said.
27:46There's a lot of that you don't need in our house.
27:49Don't need.
27:49And so let's get rid of that.
27:51Let's give you some newness.
27:52Okay.
27:52But mix in your newness with the stuff that you already had so it still feels like you.
27:56Should we give it a go?
27:57Let's get it.
27:58Okay.
27:58So, first things first is something actually I found in your closet.
28:04This, I'm kind of obsessed with.
28:06You've not worn this, right?
28:07Just once.
28:08Tell me how you styled it.
28:09My work shirt under it.
28:11Okay.
28:11Okay.
28:12Some denim jeans.
28:14Okay.
28:14I might want to see how you can wear this in like regular life too.
28:20Uh-huh.
28:20Are you against that?
28:21Not at all.
28:22You're fine with people knowing that you're a tour guide?
28:23They know.
28:25Okay.
28:26I want to use that.
28:27I also want to find a way to get you in a trouser.
28:32I want to see what you look like with street wear mixed in with something slightly more sophisticated.
28:38Okay.
28:38Gotcha.
28:38And I think that that's what Vivian was saying.
28:40Yeah.
28:40I think so too.
28:41More grown and sexy as...
28:43Yeah.
28:44Would you stand for me please?
28:46Absolutely.
28:46Yeah.
28:46Gotcha.
28:47When it comes to pants, we haven't gone skinny skinny, but we've gone for a taper.
28:51So, I would love for you to try it and then see how you feel in just a slightly baggier
28:57version.
28:57Sure.
28:57Go.
28:58I might see some pushback when it comes to style from Nick.
29:01He does seem to really gravitate towards street wear.
29:05If he can go as bold as he has in this closet, I know that we can push him so
29:10much further.
29:11Will you join me?
29:14Will you just stand right here and take a look at yourself in the mirror?
29:18Pants are super comfortable, I'll tell you that much.
29:20Aren't they?
29:21Yeah.
29:26I want to know what you're thinking.
29:28You've gone quite quiet.
29:34Um, it's different, but I mean, when you look good, you make anything look good.
29:39But it's different.
29:41I mean, it was my shades and it would have been perfect.
29:43I was literally about to say, I'm going to give you two things.
29:45You stay right there, don't you?
29:46Yeah, yeah, yeah.
29:47I don't know how tight or how bendy you want that, but just, will you pop that on?
29:53I'll probably do it that way first and then I'll try the front.
29:57Yeah, I like that look, actually, with the hat.
30:01I think he's trying not to give in to me and let it be known that he is feeling this
30:07look,
30:07because it is quite different from what he typically wears.
30:11Nice little blend.
30:12Uh-uh.
30:12No, no, no.
30:13You've got a smirk on your face.
30:16You know you look wicked.
30:17That's a smile.
30:18As he continues to look in the mirror, his smile's getting bigger and bigger and he can't hide it.
30:23Riding in the coupe.
30:25I could wear this out of work for sure.
30:28All right.
30:28The next one might be slightly more of a push.
30:32We'll see.
30:34I kind of love that he's open to try anything.
30:37Yeah, that was good.
30:38Having somebody that has baseline good style that just wants to experiment, that's so joyful for me.
30:44All right, Nick, you ready?
30:45All right.
30:46Yeah, I'm coming.
30:46Let's see.
30:47What?
30:48Oh.
30:52It looks nice.
30:54Okay, you tell me.
30:56Um.
30:58What's the element that is a little bit off for you?
31:02The bulkier loafer.
31:04If it was kind of a little smaller loafer, maybe.
31:08Okay.
31:08Yeah.
31:08Okay.
31:09Let me try to hide your glasses.
31:13I'm gonna whip out a bikini suit and I'm just like, okay, that hates your glasses.
31:17The glasses really makes it better.
31:19No, I like it.
31:19It's cool.
31:20When you add accessories or any component to a look, it just adds another point of interest.
31:26Is this something you wear a hat with?
31:28I was thinking the brown hat with the brown sleeve or the...
31:30Or even the blue.
31:31Go ahead.
31:32If we wanna add shades, if we wanna add a hat, it makes it more and more clear that you've
31:36really considered your look.
31:38Do you think that this could be a version of you going forward?
31:42For sure.
31:43Yeah.
31:44I feel swaggy.
31:44I feel good.
31:46You look fantastic.
31:48This final look is a perfect balance of who he was before we came here and who he could
31:54be going forward.
31:55I know that this is the most styly, like fashionable version.
32:00Yeah.
32:01But I think you can go there.
32:02It works.
32:03I think that he's gonna really start to change his entire wardrobe, even without me.
32:07I think that he's one of those rare cases where we planted the seed and he's gonna water
32:12the shit out of it.
32:13It's swaggy.
32:14Thanks, mate.
32:15I appreciate it.
32:49After you guys.
32:50All right.
32:51Jeffrey's heading off to college.
32:53He's not gonna be around as much.
32:54I want them to have a beautiful graduation dinner.
32:57And hopefully start a ritual of making a meal together.
33:01Yay!
33:01How's it going?
33:02Nancy, good to see you.
33:03How you doing?
33:04Thank you so much for having us.
33:05Very good.
33:05How are you?
33:06All right.
33:07Well, I'll tell you what.
33:07Let me take you all into the kitchen.
33:08I'm happy to introduce you all to Chef Sonny, okay?
33:11Chef Sonny, I want to take a minute and introduce you to these gentlemen.
33:14Nice to meet you, Chef.
33:14My name is Chef Sonny.
33:15Tight quarters.
33:17Tight quarters.
33:17Thank you so, so much for letting us use your kitchen.
33:20We really appreciate it.
33:21Thank you, Chef.
33:22All right.
33:23So I was trying to figure out what to make that wasn't chicken.
33:27There you go.
33:27Because I feel like four out of five of the kids are like so over chicken at this point.
33:31Thank you, yeah, yeah.
33:31I wanted to have a tradition that was nice and simple.
33:33Mm-hmm.
33:34Very big in pop culture right now.
33:36Smash burgers are having a little moment.
33:37Can you hear this?
33:38When all else fails, make a burger.
33:41And since I love crispy edges, let's make a smash burger.
33:44And the purpose of a smash burger is that it's really nice and thin.
33:47And what we really want to get is those crispy edges.
33:50So I'm using the fattier cut of beef than usual.
33:52So this is an 80-20 blend.
33:54So it's 80% meat, 20% fat.
33:56It's going to create that nice little crust on the outside.
33:58You've got some pepper.
33:59You can crack a little bit of pepper as much as you want.
34:02Amazing.
34:03And then you each have a bit of salt.
34:04Yes, Chef.
34:05Chef Jeff, huh?
34:06Chef Jeff.
34:07Man, you know that's my name right there.
34:09Ha!
34:10I just made that up.
34:11That's been my name.
34:13If you give your kids positive memories,
34:16they're going to be excited to come back and visit.
34:18Having Nick prepare something for his family,
34:20having his kids partake in helping him with that as well.
34:23Just such a beautiful thing.
34:25Roll it up very loosely in your hands,
34:27so you don't want it to be too, too compact.
34:30Wow.
34:30Not that it's a competition, but like...
34:32Oh, it's a competition.
34:34His are pretty good.
34:36He could beat me and John Madden,
34:37but he can't beat me in the kitchen.
34:39There's a difference.
34:40See how you slice your tomatoes.
34:41I love that you're figuring out how you want to cut it.
34:44No, he's waiting until I finish
34:45so he can peek over here.
34:46I recommend thinner slices.
34:48Yeah, I know.
34:49I kind of did it too, Chucky.
34:50That's okay.
34:52My intention here is just to have them cook together.
34:54But very quickly, they're trying to figure out
34:56who's going to make the better burger.
34:58Oh, man.
35:00Cooking together.
35:01All right.
35:02Yup.
35:03So, these are your presses.
35:05Right.
35:05Put the meatball on.
35:07Yep.
35:07Put the paper on, and then press it down.
35:10The thinner the better.
35:11Cooks about a minute and a half on each side.
35:13And then you can go ahead and grab your cheese,
35:16and then you can grab your second one,
35:17and we're ready to continue.
35:18It smells like fast food in the best way.
35:21You think this is something you can make for four kids,
35:24maybe five, whenever the fifth one's visiting from college?
35:27Absolutely.
35:28Having something like this that's kind of like...
35:30It's rituals, right?
35:32Yup.
35:32It's creating memories for them.
35:33I think it's important for them to be able to see that as kids.
35:36Yeah, dude.
35:37I agree.
35:38Okay.
35:38Finish line.
35:40And we assemble.
35:43Tomato.
35:44All right.
35:46You used all my tomatoes.
35:48They're our tomatoes.
35:50Sharon is caring, Jeffrey.
35:51You got some thick tomatoes.
35:53I'm going to go ahead and cut this one.
35:55These are beautiful, though.
35:56The buns are perfectly toasted.
35:58The cheese is melty.
35:59I see crispy edges.
36:01Hey, Chef.
36:02Jeffrey asked Sonny, the executive chef at $17.99,
36:06to come in and start, like, taste testing.
36:09Tell us what you think about it.
36:10Oh, he wants to know if there's a winner.
36:12This is turning into, like, a full-on competition.
36:16You're the judge, Chef.
36:19You know what?
36:20Whatever gets them excited to make this dish again,
36:22I'm here for it.
36:23Did you try his?
36:25You want to try it now?
36:25Yeah.
36:26Moment of truth.
36:33It's more crispy.
36:34But I had more tomato in here.
36:36There's more balance than this burger.
36:37You think that burger's more balanced?
36:39Because he took Nick's tomato that was cut thicker,
36:42and he was upset about it,
36:44but that ended up working in your favor.
36:45Yeah, right?
36:47Good job.
36:47There might be a winner,
36:48but you're going to have plenty of time
36:49to master your smash burger
36:51while he's away at college.
36:52So when he comes back,
36:53you can really show him.
36:53Absolutely.
36:54I'm going to work on it.
36:55Yeah.
36:55You guys crushed it.
36:56All right.
36:56Amazing.
36:57Thank you, Chef.
36:58Thank you, Chef.
36:58Thank you, Chef.
36:59Thank you, Chef.
36:59Thanks, Marius.
37:00All right.
37:01Y'all want to follow me?
37:03I've got something planned for you.
37:04Keep it up.
37:05Don't stop.
37:06What?
37:07Come on.
37:09How you doing?
37:10Good to see you.
37:11Good to see you.
37:11Good to see you.
37:12How you feeling?
37:13Good.
37:13Both of y'all cut?
37:14It was a little competitive before they got through it.
37:17So you and I are going to head out now.
37:18All right.
37:18See you later.
37:19Enjoy your burgers.
37:20All right.
37:33Nick and Vivian move through the world with such grace and poise and charisma.
37:37The house should reflect that.
37:39I want you to walk into this house and feel like you can engage with the family and laugh
37:44and have fun and tell jokes.
37:45I want to open up that kitchen so that when Vivian or Nick are in there cooking they can
37:50be talking and laughing with the kids.
37:52And I want to add a level of sophistication that I think they deserve.
37:57Yeah, the beat don't lie.
37:58Yeah, the beat don't lie.
38:00Yeah, the beat don't lie.
38:00Oh my, my, my, my, my.
38:01Is this true?
38:02You've never been to an Ikea before?
38:04Nah, this is my first time.
38:06What?
38:07Oh, they got like whole rooms set up in there.
38:09Everything.
38:10This is nice.
38:11Ikea has changed so much.
38:14They even have fridges now.
38:16We should get you one for your dorm if it fits.
38:19I'm helping Jer pick out some pieces for the new kitchen.
38:22And I recognize that we're helping Nick, but this week is a family affair.
38:26And what a crazy coincidence that we bumped into JVN.
38:29I mean, what are the odds of that happening?
38:31Hi.
38:31I wanted to surprise you guys.
38:33Jeffrey is going to college and he needs to get his stuff for his dorm room together.
38:37So I'm here to hook him up.
38:38So we're shopping for your college stuff?
38:40Yeah.
38:41We have to get him everything he needs.
38:44This says ready for college.
38:46What's speaking to you?
38:47This is giving butch.
38:49Don't you need some cookie cutters?
38:50This bedding.
38:51I've actually really wanted an apron.
38:53He wants an apron?
38:54Okay, let's get you an apron.
38:55And he needs a strainer.
38:57A colander?
38:57Yes.
38:58I do need an alarm clock.
39:00Every door needs one of these.
39:05Watch the cinnamon rolls.
39:06Oh, I like the license plate.
39:12Well, I'm glad that we're finally having this moment together.
39:14Absolutely.
39:15Because, you know, for me, like, we kind of already started our conversation, our lesson before we left the house.
39:20Exactly.
39:20Because I realize that you want to learn how to show up more.
39:24Yeah.
39:25Memories are everything.
39:26And if you're not creating them, you don't have them.
39:28Yeah.
39:28Working a lot.
39:30Don't have time to go to every game.
39:32So I'm just trying to be more available.
39:34I walk into your house.
39:36Those kids are smiling.
39:37They're laughing.
39:38They're joking.
39:39Mm-hmm.
39:41What's going off to college?
39:42Yeah.
39:43You know you did a great job.
39:44It was all Vivian for real.
39:46She made sure that boy went everywhere he needed to go.
39:48And I was just there making sure that anything she couldn't provide, she knows she had my help.
39:54But, um...
39:54So what you're doing right now is you're downplaying.
39:56Mm-hmm.
39:59I mean, that's-that's the reality though, like...
40:01That's not the reality.
40:04And you can't downplay yourself.
40:09Vivian is a great mother.
40:11Mm-hmm.
40:11Obviously.
40:13But you can say point blank equally, I was a great father too.
40:16Right.
40:18You don't have to say she did more.
40:21She showed up.
40:22All I did was this.
40:23You don't have to lessen what you did.
40:26Uh, something I gotta work on, I guess.
40:28I mean, I get credit where credit's due.
40:30I just don't give myself the credit I deserve.
40:32So I gotta figure it out.
40:35Being able to relate to Nick as a black man who's also a father, who also has had abandonment issues
40:40myself,
40:41I understand what Nick is going through by raising kids that aren't biologically his.
40:44It's what I dealt with.
40:45And I want him to know that he can overcome this.
40:49My youngest son that's a doctor came into my life at seven years old.
40:53And I'm not his biological father.
40:56But to this day, I'm dad.
40:57Right.
40:58I was sitting there down playing like, am I doing enough?
41:00Am I all right?
41:01Because I didn't have the best relationship with my father.
41:03So-so how did you counter those thoughts of, are you doing enough?
41:07One day I had to wake up and say to myself, no, no, no, no, no, no.
41:12You did it.
41:14Because the same way the people, the model that you didn't have had a choice not to be there,
41:19you made an opposite choice.
41:24You made an opposite choice every single day for your own child and for children that weren't biologically yours.
41:31You were smart.
41:32The fact that you provide and never give up.
41:35The fact that you are funny and witty in time.
41:37The things I'm sharing is the reason that I love you already.
41:41Appreciate that.
41:42A lot of times people think that like when it comes to fatherhood, especially that you have to like, it's
41:46like these big grand things.
41:49I don't remember all the big things.
41:50Like I played games and yeah, my father didn't show up to my football games.
41:54But what I do remember is the orange slices my mother used to cut up.
41:57And I don't know why that memory sticks out in my head.
41:59But when she used to have orange slices in a bag coming off the field, that was impactful to me.
42:04Yeah.
42:05You know, as much as we would love to say, we're going to sit down every night and have game
42:09night and do these things.
42:10It's just not the reality when I got to get to this job and this job.
42:14Yeah.
42:14Sometimes it's as simple as one little bag of oranges or something.
42:17I like that.
42:18Because it is those small moments like when you say, you know what?
42:22I'm going to have this bowl of cereal with you.
42:25It's saying, I'm going to tell you why I love you.
42:27Yeah.
42:28I'm going to tell you why I appreciate you.
42:30Create the time.
42:31Boom.
42:31Got you.
42:32And no longer will you feel like you're not present.
42:36That's real talk right there.
42:39Let me fight the motion.
42:40I'll get through it.
42:42I'll get through it.
42:43What's up?
42:44Hey, kid.
42:44Hello.
42:46Wow.
42:47I invited these two other fathers.
42:49Come on in.
42:50Come on in.
42:51Did he solve all of your life problems?
42:53It seems that way.
42:54It seems that way.
42:55Great.
42:55Time shall tell.
42:57I invited Tani and Jer here because I wanted Nick to hear from other dads that were all going
43:02through the same things.
43:03It's hard to be a parent.
43:05It's not even hard to be a stepparent.
43:07And I think it's a conversation that a lot of dads don't have with each other.
43:12And it's really nice, you know, to sit with other men who are raising their children and
43:17care, which is who Nick is.
43:19You're such a strong foundation for that family.
43:21And I think it's important you know that.
43:23I just really can't wait to get around the kids and the family and be a better father.
43:28Yeah.
43:30Yeah.
43:34Clocked in, it's my time.
43:35My crime.
43:36You know I got the shot.
43:38I got the shot.
43:39No more wasting my time.
43:41My blood.
43:41I gotta fly.
43:46Is this the most nervous event?
43:47Yes.
43:48It is.
43:49Oh yeah.
43:49I really wanted Nick and Vivian to walk through this house first and alone because it's important
43:55for them to understand that they're the foundation of this family.
43:58I won't make you wait any longer.
44:00Okay?
44:00I'm excited.
44:02Don't cry.
44:03Don't cry.
44:03Don't cry.
44:04Don't cry.
44:05Come on.
44:06Take me first.
44:07Me first?
44:07No, you first.
44:08Come on.
44:08We're going together.
44:09Take it.
44:10All right.
44:12Oh my gosh.
44:19Oh my goodness.
44:21Whose house is this?
44:23Yes.
44:25We have curtains.
44:26We have curtains.
44:27We do have curtains.
44:28We've never had curtains.
44:30Oh man.
44:31This is great.
44:33Golly.
44:34Gosh.
44:37I'm shaking.
44:38This is not our house.
44:40This is our home.
44:41That's why.
44:42It was a house.
44:43It was a home.
44:46Look at the fireplace.
44:48Some screen from the 80s.
44:49Yeah.
44:49The fireplace.
44:50It looks beautiful too.
44:51It's amazing, yeah.
44:53Oh, thanks, Jeremiah.
44:55It's about to take in.
44:56This is amazing.
45:01Oh, the breakfast bar is gone.
45:04More space.
45:07This is not real.
45:10Look at the cabinet.
45:13Organized within each of this life.
45:15Oh man.
45:15I gave them a whole new kitchen.
45:17With plaster walls, by the way.
45:19With a stainless steel backsplash.
45:21Which is, I like to say, kid proof.
45:24Easy to clean.
45:25We have a new sink.
45:26We have a new stove.
45:28Yes.
45:28What do you think I'm going to do?
45:30All new appliances.
45:31A dishwasher that works for the record.
45:33Yes.
45:34Because I ran it today.
45:35But those kids are the dishwashers.
45:37I know.
45:37I can only go so far.
45:39Dishes.
45:40No more plastic.
45:41Yes.
45:43I'm trying not to cry.
45:44No, you're supposed to cry.
45:46Cry for me, because I'm trying not to cry.
45:50Appreciate you, man.
45:51I'm so happy to do it for you guys, honestly.
45:54The house, it's meant to be a place to come together, to dine, to talk, to have conversations.
45:59This house now is built around the moments that this family needs from it.
46:05Last time we were in this craft room, I tortured you.
46:08Yes, we did.
46:08So come check it out.
46:10Oh, my God.
46:11Oh, my goodness.
46:12God.
46:13Damn.
46:15Oh, my goodness.
46:17Look at all this space.
46:19Look at all the organization that is in here.
46:23Damn.
46:23You really transformed this room.
46:25Look at them.
46:27My gadgets are here.
46:29They're organized.
46:30Oh, look at all your vinyl.
46:31Look at my...
46:33She loves vinyl.
46:35Yeah, it's the vinyl for her.
46:41I'm going to live here.
46:43I'm going to live in this room now.
46:44Do you guys want to see your bedroom?
46:46Yes.
46:46That's what I'm excited about.
46:47Okay.
46:48All right.
46:50No way.
46:52Oh, wow.
46:54Wow.
46:55What?
46:56Yeah.
46:57This is not a hotel room.
46:59It's so spacious.
47:00God.
47:00It felt so tight, but we could not move.
47:03We shrunk the room with all that stuff.
47:05Got a king-size bed in here.
47:07It's more room.
47:08This is crazy.
47:10We have to keep it this way.
47:12Serious business.
47:14Look at this lamp.
47:15Yeah, that's dope.
47:17That's the first thing I noticed.
47:18It's cool, right?
47:19Yes, super cool.
47:20I can't wait to try out the bed.
47:21Oh.
47:22Well.
47:23On that note, I'm going to go get some other gays.
47:26I'll be right back.
47:29This is wonderful.
47:30This is what we needed.
47:31So you can't work all the time now?
47:33Right.
47:34I can make some arrangements.
47:38I got somebody with me.
47:40Hey.
47:40I got the family.
47:42Come on, family.
47:43Why Jilly Jolly?
47:44Let's see ya.
47:44Come on.
47:44Yeah.
47:45Here we go.
47:45Here we go.
47:46Go in.
47:47I'm close enough.
47:47Oh, my.
47:48Oh, my.
47:50I know, right?
47:51Welcome home.
47:53You like this, Nico?
47:54Wait.
47:55Y'all like this?
47:56Yeah.
47:56Oh, my God.
47:58How you feeling?
47:59You all right?
48:00You see the house?
48:03Thank you all so much.
48:05Look how cute.
48:05He looks right here.
48:06Uh-huh.
48:06You're a good man.
48:07Thank you, man.
48:08I love seeing a good family win.
48:10I wish we could come into everybody's house and do this for everybody.
48:13Surprise, y'all.
48:14The dishwasher works.
48:15The dishwasher works!
48:17The dishwasher works!
48:20So I know you don't have the biggest sweet tooth.
48:22No.
48:23But the five kids do.
48:24So I set up an entire sundae bar.
48:26I've got you a few flavors and a whole little, like, do-it-yourself situation so you can have a
48:31return to your, uh, to your little dessert nights.
48:33And enjoy the moment.
48:34Absolutely.
48:35You know?
48:36Goddammit, that was amazing.
48:39All right, Nick.
48:41Ready for clothes?
48:42Yes, absolutely.
48:44Okay.
48:44As far as color goes, we got you bright colors, including a jacket that's so bright.
48:49You like it?
48:50Oh, yeah.
48:50Absolutely.
48:51I love that jacket.
48:53Okay, good.
48:53Um, so we really incorporated color, but you'll notice that it's really condensed down.
48:59So hopefully everything in this closet is going to make you feel awesome.
49:03Perfect.
49:03Yes.
49:04Can we just try on?
49:05Let's get through it.
49:06Okay, good.
49:08All right, kids!
49:09Yeah?
49:10Yeah.
49:11We've got a fashion show to start.
49:12Do you want to see what your dad looks like now?
49:14Yeah!
49:15So done.
49:16Good.
49:16Nick 2.0, will you come out, please?
49:19All right, here I come.
49:20Here comes the light.
49:21Oh!
49:23This is nice, right?
49:24Here comes the light.
49:25Oh, yeah!
49:26Ooh!
49:27Damn, Nick looks good.
49:28Damn, I gotta fan myself off.
49:30You are...
49:31Mm!
49:32It's a little too much clothes.
49:33Can you take the jacket off?
49:34Yeah, I thought you guys were...
49:35Oh!
49:38Hey!
49:39Whew!
49:40Ready for the next look?
49:42Hey!
49:45Hey!
49:45Hey!
49:47Hey!
49:47Hey!
49:48The fashionable to our God, honey.
49:50Yeah.
49:51Hey!
49:52Vivian, thos.
49:54I like it.
49:55It looks like it's style.
49:56I think the jacket's such an elevated piece, and then, like, an ultra-casual jean.
50:02Great kicks.
50:02Yeah, I like the shoes.
50:03I love the shoes.
50:04The shoes are real good.
50:05What you think, Lena?
50:06I like it.
50:07You like this one?
50:08All right, come on, come on, come on.
50:09We got one.
50:11We got one.
50:11So, we got a graduation party tonight for you.
50:14How you feeling?
50:15Feeling nervous.
50:16You nervous?
50:17Yeah, a little bit.
50:18I know.
50:18But tonight's a night for the family just to celebrate you and be together before you go
50:22on this next journey of your life.
50:24Shall we do this, everyone?
50:25This house now represents the feeling of love that we all felt when we walked in.
50:30Hey!
50:30You're so welcome.
50:31To that inner child.
50:32I got you, yeah.
50:33We love you guys.
50:35Bye!
50:35All right, guys, thank you so much.
50:36We appreciate you.
50:37Bye!
50:38Nice.
50:38Nice!
50:40Let it out, oh, gotta complete honestly
50:51Let it out, oh, gotta complete.
51:08We just thank the Lord. He's watching over all of us. Amen.
51:12Amen. Good job, young man. That's all right.
51:15I thought you were going to keep talking like Aunt Pat.
51:17I love that Nick is understanding the difference between providing and being present in their lives.
51:22The bond between parents and children is not just about these big moments or presents.
51:28It's about the little moments. Those moments that you find that you say, I love you.
51:32Hi, Mom.
51:34Hi, baby. Looking fine.
51:36Hi. What do you want?
51:39That's not the spirit.
51:41We just finished Nick's house, but family made me miss my family.
51:46Well, your family misses you too, babes.
51:49Nick, I want to thank you for coming into my life since I was six.
51:53You really stepped up.
51:55You being there for me really motivated me.
51:57And being there for my mom, I really, really appreciate that.
52:00Thanks for being appreciative of me. It makes me feel good to hear it.
52:04I know you do. Oh, yeah.
52:06Even though Jeffrey's going away, it is never too late to change the relationship he has with his children.
52:12You make me happy.
52:14Mm-hmm.
52:15You're funny.
52:15I'm funny?
52:16Yeah.
52:17Oh, I didn't know that.
52:19Hi, babe.
52:20Hi, babe.
52:20I just wanted to call and say I love you.
52:22I love you too, my babe.
52:25I want to say thank you for being here for me and putting me on a better path.
52:29I'm not good at expressing my feelings, but like, I love you.
52:32I love you too, Nina.
52:34I didn't think I needed this, but I needed this.
52:40Oh, my God!
52:43Yeah.
52:47I love you.
52:50I love you.
52:51What do you think, Nico, Pico?
52:52Good.
52:53Good?
52:53I'll show you something.
52:54Okay.
52:54You want to show grandma something?
52:56No?
52:56Oh, my.
52:58Shut your mouth.
52:59Well done.
53:01Hey, mom, what are you doing?
53:03Don't fall off the bed, bro.
53:05Well, this opportunity has turned this house into a home.
53:10And it means a lot to all of you all out here celebrating Jeffrey, going off to college.
53:14And it's the great kid, that fat five.
53:19Both this family closer together.
53:21They gave me the best advice.
53:22Be myself.
53:23Don't be ashamed of expressing myself.
53:26And most importantly, understand that I'm enough.
53:31I love y'all.
53:32Appreciate y'all.
53:33Let's eat some ice cream.
53:35All right?
53:36All right.
53:37There is no playbook for parenthood, clearly.
53:40But if you just show up and keep trying, you're going to do all right.
53:46Hi, Mushu.
53:47I miss you.
53:48I miss you, too.
53:50Hello.
53:51Hello, my angel.
53:52How are you?
53:53Tell my kids.
53:54Very well.
53:55I think one of them's awake now.
53:56Thank you for all the sacrifices you've made and all the things you did.
54:00Thank you, baby.
54:01You're welcome.
54:02That fat five helped me take care of my fat five, my five kids.
54:05So it's a blessing.
54:07You know, we're in this together.
54:10We're in this together.
54:13Whatever the weather.
54:15When we started, a lot of people were experiencing fear.
54:19And we're ending this journey with a lot of similar feelings.
54:25I think a big epidemic in this country is this notion that we are alone in our experiences.
54:31We might have different struggles, but we're all suffering.
54:36That's what's so beautiful about this show.
54:38Because whether we're in Atlanta or Philly or Washington, D.C.
54:42or Kansas or Tokyo, at the end of the day, when you walk through someone's door, it's about
54:48them.
54:49It's about their unique individual experiences.
54:53And in some ways, I feel like we've done so little.
54:55Like, there's so many more stories to tell.
55:00Anything can change if a person experiences real love.
55:04And it's pretty incredible to think that I was part of this thing that brought hope to
55:09people or made them feel less lonely or inspired them to do better.
55:14There's no need to say it out loud if this is goodbye.
55:21It's so cool.
55:22There's no need to say it out loud if this is goodbye to the end of the day of the
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