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00:00:00Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:03Wow.
00:00:05This is your room.
00:00:06Oh, wait, wait, wait, what?
00:00:09Like, you could have put a picture of me.
00:00:11Didn't have one.
00:00:11I would have settled for a smaller place without a roommate.
00:00:15But our chemistry, it's there.
00:00:18Good night.
00:00:19Good night.
00:00:20Feels very surreal having Elise here with me.
00:00:22But I'm a bit worried that she might find parts of my life
00:00:25that she's not exactly happy with.
00:00:28You keep talking about your ex.
00:00:30You keep bringing him up.
00:00:31I'd rather stay single than back to my ex.
00:00:34I just want to make sure that I'm the man that you want
00:00:37to be introduced to your family.
00:00:39I told you, yes.
00:00:41These issues just keep popping up.
00:00:43And the fact that her family might ultimately not approve of me,
00:00:48I'm feeling this is like make or break.
00:00:53It just felt like the right time to propose to Sheena.
00:00:57I asked you to hold off so she could prove herself.
00:01:00And then you just pull this little sneaky .
00:01:02Now she's got the whole cat in the bag, doesn't she?
00:01:05Sheena and I are going to move forward.
00:01:07You're going to be in our lives, but.
00:01:09You might be surprised, Forrest.
00:01:11I'm so disappointed.
00:01:12My mom would actually step away rather than accept Sheena as my wife.
00:01:16that's tearing me apart.
00:01:19I feel like your idea of being a husband changed.
00:01:23You see, it's like a power.
00:01:25I don't have any, because when I tell you to do something,
00:01:28you don't listen to me.
00:01:30You want traditional roles when it applies to you.
00:01:34I think that you got comfortable.
00:01:36Don't ever get too comfortable, ever.
00:01:38You don't want a bitchy wife.
00:01:42Don't be a asshole.
00:01:45Don't come home, ever.
00:01:48I love you so much.
00:01:50What?
00:01:50Stop telling me lies.
00:01:52There is more to tell him, and I have to get it said before he goes to his uncle.
00:01:57So, my last marriage wasn't with a man.
00:02:00I'm divorcing a woman, Daniel.
00:02:02You're the first man that I've been with in 21 years.
00:02:07It's not, it's not as bad as.
00:02:10Don't come close to me.
00:02:38Good morning.
00:02:39Hi.
00:02:40How are you?
00:02:41Okay.
00:02:42Thank you for taking care of me last night.
00:02:45That's all right.
00:02:46I can't have you feeling sick as soon as you get here.
00:02:48Yeah.
00:02:49You're taking chances.
00:02:51It's busy, good, since I want you more.
00:02:56Yeah.
00:02:58I feel so bad.
00:02:59Like, every hour I was making you, get up and get me water.
00:03:02And so, I had a nice sleep.
00:03:03You were a very big caretaker.
00:03:06Yeah, well, long flight, and you weren't feeling this, so, you know.
00:03:11You were such a good boy.
00:03:14I arrived in Sydney yesterday, and I met my boyfriend Joshua for the first time face-to-face.
00:03:21The plan was for Josh to sleep on the couch last night, but I was up every hour of the
00:03:26night.
00:03:27I was coughing, I was shivering, and he decided to come in the bed with me and take care of
00:03:32me all night.
00:03:33It just feels like it's, like, a sinus infection almost.
00:03:36Like, it's just, like, swollen here.
00:03:38Maybe you can go get me, like, nose spray.
00:03:42Yeah.
00:03:44I am a needy bitch, especially when I'm sick.
00:03:47I need my man to attend to me like a golden retriever puppy, like, running, like, catching a ball.
00:03:53Joshua does that.
00:03:55I feel a little better now with, like, all the water you've been making me drink, and I took my
00:04:00medicine.
00:04:01That's good.
00:04:01It's probably a good start.
00:04:04What is it?
00:04:05It's Vegemite.
00:04:06What's that?
00:04:07You have to try it.
00:04:08It's a big thing in Australia.
00:04:09It smells like sardines.
00:04:13There's no fish in it.
00:04:16Just take a big bite.
00:04:21Suck!
00:04:22Is it good?
00:04:24It's not bad.
00:04:26No, I don't like it.
00:04:27I don't like it.
00:04:29Ew, ew, ew!
00:04:30Joshua, what is that?
00:04:32Is that fish?
00:04:33It's not fish.
00:04:36Do you want a tissue?
00:04:38It's a condiment.
00:04:40I don't know how to explain it.
00:04:41And you love it?
00:04:42Yeah, I do love it on toast.
00:04:44You're not Australian.
00:04:45If you're not eating Vegemite.
00:04:46It tastes like .
00:04:48I hated it.
00:04:53All right, take this Vegemite away from me.
00:04:55All right.
00:04:56There's other stuff like berries and yogurt and stuff, so I'll grab you that.
00:05:00Yes.
00:05:01And then if you feel a bit better, maybe you want to go wander up to the beach and see
00:05:06Bondi.
00:05:07Yeah.
00:05:07Well, don't make me sick.
00:05:11I feel like you already got sick by kissing me all night.
00:05:15Well, we might get Toms too then.
00:05:23Wow, so this is your beach.
00:05:25This is it.
00:05:26Oh, my God.
00:05:27All the guys that wear the what's the Speedo thing.
00:05:30I can't.
00:05:31I can't.
00:05:32I can't.
00:05:36Wow, the sand feels so nice.
00:05:38Very different than Miami.
00:05:39It's like really soft.
00:05:43Do you want to go in?
00:05:44Yep.
00:05:45Wait.
00:05:45I have to change.
00:05:47Towel's in my bag.
00:05:48Oh.
00:05:49So let's figure this out.
00:05:51So here's to cover me.
00:05:53Okay.
00:05:55How do I do that?
00:05:56About this?
00:05:57Well, this one, I can just go like this.
00:05:59Yeah.
00:06:02My top is up.
00:06:05Hold me.
00:06:06Hold me.
00:06:06How do you do this part?
00:06:08All right.
00:06:08So now we're going to go down.
00:06:09Yeah.
00:06:10So.
00:06:11How are you going to do that now?
00:06:15Hold it tight.
00:06:18I'm losing it.
00:06:20A little bit.
00:06:23Voila.
00:06:24Well done.
00:06:28That was pretty impressive.
00:06:31Are you going to protect me if they're sharks?
00:06:34Yeah, I'll do my best.
00:06:35You ready?
00:06:36Okay.
00:06:38Crooked in that skin.
00:06:39No more, no more.
00:06:40I love it.
00:06:41Crush it like a ocean.
00:06:44I'm a good at him.
00:06:46Can I kiss you in some ocean?
00:06:49It's actually insane to even think that I haven't even been here a full 24 hours, and it's so natural.
00:06:56There's a lot of sexual chemistry there.
00:06:59We're so touchy-feely, but he seems a little reserved.
00:07:04So I'm just trying to feel him out.
00:07:09I mean, I do have three weeks here, and I came here to find my potential husband.
00:07:14So getting to be alone with Joshua, it's nice because I want to get into the deeper stuff, for sure.
00:07:23Holy camoly, I'm cold.
00:07:25It's funny, you see adults in there freezing, and then you see little kids, and they're just like following around
00:07:31for hours.
00:07:32When I was a kid, I spent every day at the beach.
00:07:36We'd be swimming in the pool every morning.
00:07:38Okay.
00:07:39But then in the afternoons, we'd be, like, doing the board training every single afternoon.
00:07:45I love learning about you.
00:07:47I want to get to know everything about you.
00:07:48Yeah, good.
00:07:49I want to know the heart.
00:07:50Like, I want you to open up.
00:07:51I feel like you're reserved.
00:07:55Were you reserved in your last serious relationship?
00:07:58Yeah, I probably was a bit reserved in my last relationship.
00:08:00I was.
00:08:01One big fear is probably, I don't know, opening up, and then having it used, like, against me.
00:08:10You know.
00:08:13My previous relationship, we dated for seven years.
00:08:17But I never felt secure.
00:08:19I just felt like I wasn't good enough for her.
00:08:22She just wanted me to be, you know, super successful.
00:08:26And I was constantly being told if I wasn't, she would walk away.
00:08:32So I was always living in fear, I guess.
00:08:35She could just end it at any time.
00:08:38Ultimately, I had my heart broken, and I'm closed off because of that.
00:08:44Like, are you constantly thinking, like, is something on your mind, or, like, it's just...
00:08:48Yeah, I'm always thinking.
00:08:49Always, always thinking.
00:08:51What's your top thought right now?
00:08:53This is...
00:08:54I like that you're sort of asking these questions, but, you know, it's scary at the same time.
00:09:00Because it's opening up and being vulnerable.
00:09:02No, I get it.
00:09:04Like, opening up can be scary.
00:09:07But, you know what?
00:09:09You made me feel safe already.
00:09:11Really?
00:09:12That's, like, an early call.
00:09:14So, it's mostly already the same thing.
00:09:17Yeah, I feel safe with you, too.
00:09:21Hi.
00:09:21Hi.
00:09:27I've never really had a guy say that to me, actually.
00:09:30Like, guys have said a lot of things to me, but feeling safe is not one I've heard.
00:09:35It feels good.
00:09:37I don't think there's anything sexier than a man being vulnerable.
00:09:42So, yeah, the plan was to wait.
00:09:44But, like, he's so sweet to me.
00:09:46He's so attentive to me.
00:09:48He's letting his guard down.
00:09:49Like, it's hard to resist a sexy man that's treating you well.
00:09:52So, we'll see.
00:10:06It's not.
00:10:08It's not as bad as...
00:10:10Come close to me.
00:10:12Daniel.
00:10:15You're telling me you have been a lesbian.
00:10:19Listen.
00:10:20Don't, don't, don't try it.
00:10:21Listen to...
00:10:22Don't even come...
00:10:23Don't, don't, don't try it.
00:10:24Listen.
00:10:25I'm telling you the truth before we talk to your uncle.
00:10:30I want it all out.
00:10:31That's why I said I needed another day.
00:10:33I wanted you to know everything.
00:10:38Hey, Daniel.
00:10:41Daniel.
00:10:42Don't come close to me.
00:10:44Please try to understand.
00:10:46I, I, I, you don't know how hard it was to...
00:10:49I have a lot of secrets.
00:10:50I have no more secrets.
00:10:52Just listen, please.
00:10:54I'm trying to tell you who I am.
00:10:56Jesus Christ.
00:10:58I'm not a lesbian.
00:11:00I'm not straight.
00:11:01I'm not bisexual.
00:11:03I just believe that people should love people.
00:11:06People should love people by their soul.
00:11:08And people should love people for who they are on the inside.
00:11:11Not on what is on the outside.
00:11:15I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:11:18You told me you have had serious of, you know, relationship.
00:11:21I didn't know it's, it's your fellow women.
00:11:23Same sex.
00:11:26Yes.
00:11:28And you, you have been lying to me.
00:11:31I'm sorry.
00:11:34You are evil.
00:11:37I'm not evil.
00:11:38You know me.
00:11:39I take care of people.
00:11:40And I've even taken care of you.
00:11:42I'm not evil.
00:11:43I have a good heart.
00:11:45And I'm a good person.
00:11:46What make, what makes you a good person?
00:11:48Sleeping with your fellow women?
00:11:50That doesn't make me evil.
00:11:53I'm still the same person you fell in love with.
00:11:56The same person who tell lies and keep secrets.
00:12:00I love you.
00:12:02I don't want to hear that from your mouth again.
00:12:04I love you.
00:12:05Don't, don't, don't say that again.
00:12:07You can't tell me not to say those words because I mean it.
00:12:10I am in love with you, Daniel.
00:12:12That's why I'm coming clean to you.
00:12:14I could have kept this a secret forever and not told you.
00:12:17But I'm telling you.
00:12:18Shut your mouth.
00:12:19You have been bitten by a woman.
00:12:21Not even women.
00:12:22Women.
00:12:26You are a liar.
00:12:28I'm just a person who has been lost.
00:12:36Can you hold this ring?
00:12:38No.
00:12:40Hold the ring.
00:12:43I've seen that from your head to toe it's full of secrets and lies.
00:12:48So you're full of evil.
00:12:51I'm not full of evil, Daniel.
00:12:55I'm staying in my room tonight.
00:12:57Yeah.
00:13:09I thought I've seen it all.
00:13:11Or she keep on vomiting secrets.
00:13:15No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:13:21I didn't think he'd call me evil.
00:13:23I'm not evil.
00:13:26I just believe a person loves a person
00:13:28And I don't think there's anything wrong with that
00:13:35Daniel's not going to accept me for who I am
00:13:38You know what?
00:13:40him
00:13:40him
00:13:45Jesus
00:13:53You're officially on the jeepney
00:13:56I only have a week left here in the Philippines
00:13:58And I don't want to waste any time bringing Sheena to America
00:14:02So I have to be very clear here
00:14:05If you file today for the K-1 visa
00:14:09It will be denied
00:14:17We are like me
00:14:23It's actually just coming
00:14:31This is right out there we can see
00:14:35We are here
00:14:36I'm tired
00:14:38Let's get a rest
00:14:57So this is going to be like a village environment, right?
00:15:01Yeah
00:15:02Yesterday we traveled from Nusibet to Fort Dauphin, my hometown
00:15:09We arrived late so we stay in a hotel
00:15:12And now we are going to my family's village for a few days
00:15:18Can't forget my baby wipes
00:15:19I don't know how you guys wash your ass in the village
00:15:22We used water
00:15:27We had a big fight last night
00:15:29I still love him
00:15:31And I want him to meet my family
00:15:34But I don't feel like everything is resolved yet between me and Rick
00:15:42I don't want to ruin this vacation
00:15:44But the way you talked to me yesterday
00:15:48I don't like
00:15:53I went a little overboard
00:15:55I'm sorry for that
00:15:58I'm sorry for raising my voice to you
00:16:02It's just I was so frustrated, you know
00:16:05Hearing about your ex-boyfriend constantly
00:16:09I mean, I can't move forward if you're going to keep going back
00:16:18Okay, I promise I'm not going to talk about my ex
00:16:25Okay
00:16:26We are going to see my family
00:16:28And I don't want to go there in a bad mood
00:16:32I want them to accept you
00:16:34Because I want this relationship work
00:16:39I do too
00:16:42I overreacted yesterday
00:16:44It seemed like she was taunting me over something that she already knows that I'm insecure about
00:16:50And it just totally set me off
00:16:53I want to be here
00:16:55And, um, I want to really give this a chance
00:17:00Yeah
00:17:01There's definitely a strong connection between her and I
00:17:05And I'm glad that Trish is willing to forgive me
00:17:11So
00:17:13I think we can, like, get a quickie in before we go
00:17:16What?
00:17:18No!
00:17:22Let's go now
00:17:29Nice tuk-tuk right here
00:17:31Yeah, it's nice
00:17:44It's quiet, you see
00:17:46Not much people
00:17:48Not what I expected
00:17:53Rough roads
00:17:57The roots are made of aluminum
00:17:59Must get noisy when it rains, huh?
00:18:02Yeah
00:18:03Tuk-tuk-tuk-tuk-tuk-tuk
00:18:04No, what?
00:18:05What?
00:18:08I'm excited to see my family
00:18:11And go back to my village
00:18:13Everything is just simple
00:18:15There is no running water
00:18:18No fancy toilet
00:18:20But everybody are kind in my village
00:18:24And it's beautiful
00:18:27Do you think they're going to be happy to see?
00:18:29Yeah, to see me
00:18:31What about me?
00:18:34They going to be happy to see me, babe?
00:18:36I don't know
00:18:37Meet me
00:18:39They're happy because I bring a boyfriend
00:18:41Oh, okay
00:18:42And they will tell me if you were the good person for me or not
00:18:51Yeah, I just hope those questions don't come too hard and fast
00:18:57I feel a little bit scared
00:19:00My family won't accept Rick
00:19:04Men in my tribe is very strong
00:19:08When they don't like something
00:19:11They are really aggressive
00:19:12Rick thinks he can handle any situation
00:19:17But he can't
00:19:19I'm worried
00:19:20He doesn't know what he's in for
00:19:26Is it right here?
00:19:28Yeah, it's here
00:19:29There's no turning back
00:19:41So we're going to have to call a GP
00:19:43I'm super duper nervous about writing one
00:19:46Oh, you're going to have to
00:19:47How's that work?
00:19:48Well, you can see those signboards
00:19:50Uh-huh
00:19:51Just have to find the right location
00:19:53So then
00:19:54We just have to kill Para
00:19:55Para is the stop
00:19:57Oh
00:20:02So here
00:20:03Oh, here?
00:20:04Yes
00:20:05There
00:20:05All right
00:20:07We're officially on the GP
00:20:13There it is
00:20:14The big part
00:20:19I'm surprised
00:20:20I'm not tapping the top
00:20:22Too hardcore
00:20:22Yeah
00:20:23It's hot
00:20:24It smells like diesel
00:20:29It's been a couple days
00:20:30Since I proposed to Sheena
00:20:31And we are just over the moon
00:20:34In love with each other
00:20:35But not everyone's happy
00:20:39My mom is still mad at me
00:20:41Because I proposed to Sheena
00:20:43Against her guidance
00:20:46And the vibe
00:20:47In the condo
00:20:49Is just really awkward
00:20:52So Sheena and I
00:20:52Have been trying to do our own thing
00:20:54Oh my gosh
00:20:55So this is the ball here
00:20:57All right
00:20:58Here we go
00:20:59We're getting off
00:21:00Yeah, thanks a lot
00:21:01While it really hurts
00:21:03That my mom has distanced herself
00:21:04Right now
00:21:05Is not the time
00:21:06To put the brakes on things
00:21:07I only have a week left
00:21:08Here in the Philippines
00:21:09And I don't want to waste
00:21:10Any time
00:21:11In bringing Sheena to America
00:21:14Good morning
00:21:16Will you have an appointment
00:21:17Mr. Alexander King, please
00:21:20Now that we're finally engaged
00:21:22I called an immigration lawyer
00:21:23In Manila
00:21:24Just so we can get a consultation
00:21:26Oh, hi, sir
00:21:28Hi, good morning
00:21:29Hi, good morning
00:21:30Hi, my name is Sheena
00:21:31Nice to meet you
00:21:33Nice to meet you
00:21:34Nice to meet you
00:21:35Good afternoon
00:21:37Good afternoon, mister
00:21:38Welcome to our office
00:21:39And welcome to the Philippines
00:21:40Thank you
00:21:42I've been enjoying my stay
00:21:43Okay
00:21:43So for this consultation
00:21:45I would like to, you know
00:21:47Make an assessment
00:21:49Of course
00:21:49If you are eligible
00:21:51For the K-1 visa
00:21:53Yeah
00:21:53Now, how long have you been
00:21:55In this relationship?
00:21:57Seven years
00:21:58Seven years
00:21:58Seven years
00:21:59And you have never been convicted
00:22:01Of any crime in the U.S.?
00:22:03No
00:22:04Okay
00:22:04Scree clean
00:22:04Scree clean
00:22:06Yeah
00:22:07When I walk
00:22:08You can hear me
00:22:08Yeah, so
00:22:09Are you working right now?
00:22:13Currently I'm not working
00:22:16But I can prove that I'm getting paid
00:22:18Monthly
00:22:19Okay
00:22:20I'm receiving disability benefits
00:22:23Which is
00:22:25It's a good enough amount
00:22:26To have me, you know
00:22:27Live my basic life
00:22:29And, you know
00:22:29Get an apartment
00:22:30Get food
00:22:31All that good stuff
00:22:35I see
00:22:35So I have to
00:22:38Be very clear here
00:22:40You know
00:22:41Disability benefits
00:22:42Is not an income
00:22:45You know
00:22:46You cannot consider
00:22:47That's income
00:22:48The annual income
00:22:50For petitioners
00:22:51For K-1 visa
00:22:53Is
00:22:53More or less
00:22:5426,500
00:22:56U.S.D.
00:22:57Now
00:22:57Is that shared between
00:22:58No
00:22:59It's only the petitioner
00:23:00That's for the petitioner
00:23:02Okay
00:23:03So
00:23:05If you will
00:23:06File today
00:23:08For example
00:23:09It will be denied
00:23:13My suggestion is
00:23:15You build your
00:23:16Financial capacity
00:23:17You know
00:23:17Find
00:23:18Get full employment
00:23:19Then
00:23:19You can proceed
00:23:24I am
00:23:24In complete shock
00:23:25Right now
00:23:27I feel devastated
00:23:28To find out
00:23:29That my disability
00:23:30Payments
00:23:31That I get monthly
00:23:32Does not count
00:23:33Towards the
00:23:34Amount
00:23:35That I need to bring
00:23:36Sheena to the United States
00:23:37To be honest
00:23:39Because of my autism
00:23:40I am
00:23:41Terrified about
00:23:42Working full time
00:23:44And starting a job
00:23:47In the past
00:23:48I've had jobs
00:23:49That ended
00:23:52Awfully
00:23:53Because I didn't
00:23:54Understand
00:23:55Or I messed up
00:23:56But
00:23:57My back is at a wall
00:23:59Right now
00:24:00That if I don't get a job
00:24:02Our entire dream
00:24:04Of bringing Sheena
00:24:04To the United States
00:24:05Is done
00:24:08So
00:24:08Let's say
00:24:09You know
00:24:09I go back home
00:24:10Yep
00:24:11And I instantly
00:24:11Start working
00:24:12Yeah
00:24:13How long is enough
00:24:14To have the stable form
00:24:16Of income
00:24:17You know
00:24:17Before the K-1
00:24:18Is actually granted
00:24:19So
00:24:20Yeah
00:24:21You need
00:24:22Probably a year
00:24:23Employment history
00:24:26Okay
00:24:27And then
00:24:27You will meet
00:24:28Another year
00:24:29At least
00:24:30To have
00:24:32The petition approved
00:24:33And bring your fiancé
00:24:34To the U.S.
00:24:36Yeah
00:24:40It's quite frustrating
00:24:41For me
00:24:42That I'm the only one
00:24:43Who's been working
00:24:45If he happened
00:24:46To have a job
00:24:47Then
00:24:47He
00:24:48Could have
00:24:49Acquired
00:24:49The K-1
00:24:50Visa
00:24:51Sooner
00:24:53I'm worried
00:24:54That
00:24:54Since
00:24:55Forrest
00:24:56Have
00:24:56A disability
00:24:57It will be
00:24:58Quite difficult
00:24:58For him
00:24:59To get
00:24:59And hold
00:25:00A job
00:25:00Long term
00:25:03Is there
00:25:03Any other
00:25:04Options
00:25:06So
00:25:06Depending on your goal
00:25:07Here in the
00:25:08Philippine immigration
00:25:09We have a
00:25:10Straightforward process
00:25:12If you get married here
00:25:14And he comes to the Philippines
00:25:15And live here
00:25:16There is no requirement
00:25:17Of financial capacity
00:25:18Okay
00:25:18Okay
00:25:19So
00:25:20There will be
00:25:21A hundred percent chance
00:25:23That the petition
00:25:24Will be approved
00:25:25Okay
00:25:26Okay
00:25:27So
00:25:28These options
00:25:29Will depend on
00:25:30Your goal
00:25:34At this point
00:25:35It's sounding
00:25:37Almost impossible
00:25:37For Forrest
00:25:38To bring me
00:25:39To the US
00:25:40I know
00:25:41It's going
00:25:41To be difficult
00:25:42But I think
00:25:43He's going
00:25:44To have
00:25:44To consider
00:25:45Other options
00:25:51Yeah
00:25:55I don't know
00:25:56I'm just real
00:25:57Pissed off
00:25:57And at this moment
00:25:59I'm at a crossroads
00:26:00I don't know
00:26:01How to move forward
00:26:12Can I at least
00:26:13Have my wallet?
00:26:14No
00:26:15Okay
00:26:16Don't talk to me
00:26:17Don't come to me
00:26:25You think you can
00:26:26Just treat me this way
00:26:27You relate me
00:26:28All the time
00:26:29Alright
00:26:30I'm just giving you
00:26:31Space
00:26:31Alright
00:27:01Okay
00:27:03I think I'm still
00:27:06I don't know
00:27:08I don't know
00:27:08I don't know
00:27:08I don't know
00:27:09I don't know
00:27:32I will be very guilty if I leave him on the street but just to be clear I'm very
00:27:39pissed at him he promised a really good day but of course he needs to ruin the
00:27:47moment because it's not your bond if he doesn't am I allowed to come in
00:28:18we're just gonna leave it for now just give her space so she can just calm down we'll talk about
00:28:26it when she's ready I just feel really hopeless with Anna because I'm putting in massive effort
00:28:36to show Anna that I can be romantic and you know she storms out of the the nail salon place
00:28:44and it's
00:28:44just I don't know I'm just real pissed off that she would make a scene in public like this and
00:28:50at this
00:28:51moment I'm at a crossroads I don't know how to move forward mama your day good it's okay
00:29:01every time he we're having a good time he would do this to me right in front in public it's
00:29:10so
00:29:10humiliating I don't think it's powerless the fact that he could upset me this much definitely has our
00:29:18obvious relationship hello
00:29:27how's time baby
00:29:31nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine eight nine nine eight
00:29:37because she's because he goes to a young relation on men and I love a shadow man and a can
00:29:42it
00:29:43Like this, like this, like this, like this.
00:29:44I don't want to be like this.
00:29:46I don't want to see that.
00:29:54Let's talk to you.
00:29:56Talk to you if you talk to me.
00:29:58I don't want to talk to you.
00:30:00It's a bad thing.
00:30:05Don't waste your relationship with your relationship.
00:30:09I am so, so, so tired of it, Chabal.
00:30:12I have to be this timid.
00:30:14Anna, I'm not trying to get you to change.
00:30:16Self-spoken woman.
00:30:18It's like I've, like, sacrificed a lot of my life so you can be happy.
00:30:24And even when I do the things you want me to do,
00:30:27it's something else you want me to do.
00:30:31So I'm like, look, I just give up.
00:30:34There's nothing else that I can do to make you, you know, happy.
00:30:41I feel exactly the same sometimes.
00:30:52I'm so cold.
00:30:53Can you have a shower with me?
00:30:55Okay.
00:30:56I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:30:59Maybe.
00:31:01But, I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:31:04I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:31:24That's it.
00:31:27It's so cold in here.
00:31:34I'm so cold.
00:31:35Can you have a shower with me?
00:31:37Okay.
00:31:39Never thought you would ask.
00:32:02I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:32:05Maybe.
00:32:07But Joshua and I are both super sandy and gross from the ocean.
00:32:11And I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:32:14I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:32:19I'm trying to control myself.
00:32:21But Josh is just, like, so hot.
00:32:23And we've been making out all day.
00:32:26You know, in the back of my mind, I do have some questions.
00:32:28And I do want to see more of him and more of his life.
00:32:32But, like, at this point, like, it feels right.
00:32:35So, I bought some massage oil.
00:32:38And then I think there's some wine.
00:32:39Maybe we can have a glass and relax.
00:32:41I love it.
00:32:42Okay, perfect.
00:32:53Hey, are you coming?
00:32:55Yeah.
00:32:59Everything feels really natural.
00:33:01Everything feels like it's progressing between us.
00:33:04We just draw onto each other, which is, you know, really exciting.
00:33:08We had an amazing day together.
00:33:10And I want to pamper Elise.
00:33:12Now's the time to pour some wine.
00:33:15You know, light a candle and, you know, show that I've got skills.
00:33:24Wow.
00:33:25Look at this.
00:33:26Yeah.
00:33:31Welcome to Sydney.
00:33:32Making you feel better and more relaxed.
00:33:36Cheers.
00:33:36Cheers.
00:33:41Feel like a massage?
00:33:42Yeah, I would love one.
00:33:44I'm going to light it up.
00:33:45This doesn't mean you're necessarily sleeping in the bed tonight.
00:33:48That's okay, I didn't mistake that.
00:33:51Lay on your stomach.
00:33:52Okay.
00:34:00Is that all right?
00:34:01That's okay.
00:34:05Wow, that's a lot of oil.
00:34:09You can go harder.
00:34:11Harder.
00:34:12Wait.
00:34:14You should go down lower.
00:34:17You're, like, trying to be, like, a little respectful, but, come on, give me a little bitch.
00:34:24Give me, like, everything.
00:34:25Slap on the ass?
00:34:26Yeah, slap on the ass.
00:34:27Like, grab my hair with the oil in it.
00:34:30I mean, I don't have extensions for nothing.
00:34:32Ripped me around a little bit here.
00:34:35Wow.
00:34:37It's a family show, I thought you said.
00:34:40Are you nervous?
00:34:42Yeah.
00:34:43Shaking.
00:34:44I can feel it.
00:34:45You reckon?
00:34:46Uh-huh.
00:34:54Guys.
00:34:59What the f*** are you doing?
00:35:03Oh, my God.
00:35:05The timing on me.
00:35:08Hi, Chris.
00:35:09Yeah, hi.
00:35:10Nice.
00:35:11Now it's a party.
00:35:12Now it's a party.
00:35:14I'm going to stop on my car.
00:35:15I'm getting a wine glass.
00:35:19I did not see that coming.
00:35:21I did.
00:35:23I'm naked right now.
00:35:25You know, there's better places to give a naked massage in the house than the communal area.
00:35:29Half naked massage.
00:35:30Yeah, you know what?
00:35:31You're absolutely right.
00:35:31Yeah.
00:35:32But, um, you know, I think I was just blind with lust.
00:35:36Ew.
00:35:37Who would have to say it so weird for, bro?
00:35:43All right.
00:35:44Well, I'm going to go to my room.
00:35:48Well, that just ruined the moment.
00:35:50This is exactly why I don't want a guy with roommates.
00:35:55Can you button me back up?
00:35:58I'm, like, literally in my bra and underwear.
00:36:02Showing your skin to other people?
00:36:04Who is that?
00:36:05Not me.
00:36:06No, I'm not embarrassed.
00:36:07Like, I'll get naked in front of everyone.
00:36:09We know that.
00:36:10But, like, Chris walks in as your hands are groping my body.
00:36:14And it's, like, such a sexual, nice night.
00:36:16And, like...
00:36:16Yeah, I probably should have done it in the bedroom.
00:36:18Not my finest hour.
00:36:21Sorry, baby.
00:36:21Well, that killed the mood.
00:36:24For now.
00:36:27Okay.
00:36:36Andrus?
00:36:37Andrus?
00:36:37Andrus, andrus the head to here.
00:36:38Wait, this is the shower?
00:36:40Yeah.
00:36:41Andrus?
00:36:46Andrus?
00:36:49Andrus, andrus the head to here.
00:36:51Wait, this is the shower?
00:36:53Yeah.
00:36:54Andrus?
00:36:55Oh, hell no!
00:36:56Yes.
00:36:57This?
00:36:58Stop it.
00:37:19Well, babe, this is where you grew up?
00:37:21Yeah, it's here.
00:37:34Hey.
00:37:36Yeah.
00:37:37Is that your rooster?
00:37:38No, not mine, but my neighbors.
00:37:40Oh, okay.
00:37:41We just got to the area of Trisha's family home.
00:37:45I've never seen a home where you have to walk so far to get to off the main road.
00:37:52Ooh, this is a journey.
00:37:54Don't complain.
00:37:56But I'm happy to be here with Trish, because I want a future with her.
00:38:02And if I can get her family's approval, I think that she would be able to see that I'm a
00:38:07good person,
00:38:08and maybe it would make up for what I did in the past.
00:38:14Oh, this is my house.
00:38:15Yeah, this is my house.
00:38:19Oh, that's my sister.
00:38:21Oh, this is your sister.
00:38:23I didn't get to meet her.
00:38:26She does look like you.
00:38:28She's very beautiful.
00:38:29Yeah, she is.
00:38:30Nice to meet you.
00:38:33And who is this?
00:38:35My brother.
00:38:35Oh, this is your brother?
00:38:36Yes.
00:38:38Yes.
00:38:39Yes.
00:38:40Yes.
00:38:41Hello, sir.
00:38:42How are you doing?
00:38:43Nice to meet you.
00:38:45Nice to meet you.
00:38:54Oh, this is your brother.
00:38:56Oh, this is your brother.
00:38:59Okay.
00:39:01Nice to meet you.
00:39:02Oh, how are you?
00:39:04My sister.
00:39:05This is your sister?
00:39:06Yeah.
00:39:06It's so nice to meet you.
00:39:07You look like my grandmother.
00:39:10I wasn't expecting that many people.
00:39:13You know, I keep seeing people pouring in one by one.
00:39:18Just when I'm thinking, that should be everybody there.
00:39:21There's more people coming.
00:39:23Like, how am I going to remember all these people's names and who they are?
00:39:28Bye-bye.
00:39:40Bye-bye.
00:39:44Bye-bye.
00:39:44My dad said you sleep down?
00:39:46Bye-bye.
00:39:49Bye-bye.
00:39:50Bye-bye.
00:39:51Bye-bye.
00:39:51Bye-bye.
00:39:52Bye-bye.
00:39:53The bunk beds remind me of when I was a kid and me and my sister.
00:39:57I never imagined myself sleeping in the bunk bed at my age, but I respect her dad and
00:40:05their culture.
00:40:07Bye-bye.
00:40:09Bye-bye.
00:40:09Bye-bye.
00:40:09Bye-bye.
00:40:10Bye-bye.
00:40:12Bye-bye.
00:40:12This is the shower?
00:40:15Yeah.
00:40:16We just put water in the container and bring it here.
00:40:20Here is no running water coming in.
00:40:23To wrench you off.
00:40:24No.
00:40:25Where does this water come from?
00:40:27From the river?
00:40:29Like, it's something under the ground.
00:40:31A well?
00:40:32Yeah.
00:40:35He's going to show you the bathroom.
00:40:37OK.
00:40:38Oh, man, I smell something already.
00:40:41Out of the toilet.
00:40:43Oh, hell no!
00:40:45Yeah.
00:40:46All I see is a wooden plank with a hole cut out of it, huh?
00:40:52Wait, wait, wait.
00:40:57This is paper to write on.
00:40:59You wipe this with this?
00:41:00Yeah, break.
00:41:02Stop it.
00:41:03That's how I...
00:41:03Sit, sit, sit in this.
00:41:06Oh, good.
00:41:07That's it.
00:41:09I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:41:14But I'm not surprised.
00:41:17Ever since Rick came to Madagascar, he complains about everything.
00:41:24I don't like the traffic, I'll tell you that much already.
00:41:27And they just leave the meat out like this without refrigeration?
00:41:32These are tight quarters right here.
00:41:34They're being kind of squished.
00:41:36It's hot.
00:41:37I hope it's not going to be this hot in those days.
00:41:40Shouldn't they have like some long tongs?
00:41:42No, we don't need the long tongs.
00:41:44You are the only bougie here afraid of something.
00:41:47Oh, my God.
00:41:48Terrible.
00:41:52This is the living room?
00:41:54Yeah.
00:41:55Yeah, this is the living room.
00:42:02Yeah.
00:42:17So they approve that you are here, and it's going to give us a blessing.
00:42:25This blessing is just for accepting you to go around with me.
00:42:31Okay.
00:42:32In my culture, you cannot just walk around with a man outside there without your parents'
00:42:39acceptation.
00:42:40Like, it's not a blessing to get engaged.
00:42:44No.
00:42:45It's just he's giving an authorization to having relationship.
00:42:52It's very blessing.
00:42:54That's it.
00:42:54That's it, babe.
00:42:55It is a silver.
00:42:56Yeah, a bracelet.
00:42:57Instead, that's the one that I can see.
00:43:05Just remember, that's küxiguaran is the one with my brother and there with my family.
00:43:11All of them navigate through SAN bite it or DUI.
00:43:18I never knew what I was primeiro.
00:43:45Thank you, thank you for this.
00:43:56Oh, is that his?
00:43:58Yeah, his breast.
00:43:59Oh, okay.
00:44:24Until he says, I don't want to be with you,
00:44:26until he says those words, I'm not giving up hope.
00:44:29I'm still deeply in love with Daniel.
00:44:32I believe that if he just gives me a chance,
00:44:35he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:44:39Same sex is a disgrace.
00:44:40This is something that you and I cannot settle.
00:44:43Are you still thinking that there's a chance for us,
00:44:45or is there no chance for us, Daniel?
00:45:19Shhh.
00:45:20Shhh.
00:45:24I feel miserable.
00:45:28Numb.
00:45:31Really sad.
00:45:35But I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
00:45:39I just don't know what happens from here.
00:45:44Last night, I came clean to Daniel.
00:45:47I told him everything.
00:45:48There are no more secrets.
00:45:51And he didn't react good.
00:45:53He called me evil.
00:45:55He didn't talk to me.
00:45:57He looked at me with disgust.
00:45:58He's not accepting who I am.
00:46:01So he slept on the sofa.
00:46:03I slept in the bedroom.
00:46:05I'm mad.
00:46:06And I'm angry.
00:46:07And I'm hurt.
00:46:09But I'm still desperately, madly, deeply in love with Daniel.
00:46:15My plan is to go back to Lagos today.
00:46:18I'm cutting the trip short.
00:46:20There's a big fear he's never going to trust me again and that he's going to leave me.
00:46:23But until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says those words, I'm not giving up
00:46:28hope.
00:46:31Telling the truth is a heavier weight between Daniel and I.
00:46:35I don't even know if he wants to talk to his uncle anymore about me lying about still being married.
00:46:41But I believe that if he just gives me a chance, looks at me as Lisa, sees me as a
00:46:47person he fell in love with those months ago,
00:46:49that he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:46:53I still want to be with Daniel.
00:46:55But now it's up to him.
00:47:02How do you feel?
00:47:04Lisa is full of lies.
00:47:06I don't think her lies is over.
00:47:08Because she keep on cooking new ones every day.
00:47:12Why did you call her evil?
00:47:14Because she's evil.
00:47:16Keeping all these secrets.
00:47:18I've been thinking away of how to talk to my uncle about the one she told me already.
00:47:24that she has not been divorced.
00:47:27Not knowing that she has been in a relationship with her fellow women.
00:47:30She's been practicing same sex.
00:47:34So I don't know how I'm going to face him.
00:47:37It's against our tradition.
00:47:47Daniel.
00:47:48Can I ask you a question?
00:47:52Just allow me to be.
00:47:53Like we have to talk.
00:47:55You can't ignore me forever.
00:47:58Please.
00:48:00You need to give me time.
00:48:02I have to think.
00:48:06Can you grab your bags?
00:48:08I can't carry everything to the car.
00:48:12I'm not happy that the person I loved have engaged in this act of same sex.
00:48:18I'm not happy.
00:48:20Another love gone bad again, bad again, bad again.
00:48:25But what obsesses me the most is the lies.
00:48:29I love Lisa.
00:48:31I want to forgive her.
00:48:33But after what she did, I don't trust her anymore.
00:48:36I don't know if I can continue this relationship.
00:48:39You're on your own.
00:48:40Hope you feel the pain of your thoughts inside driving you insane.
00:48:44Don't worry,
00:48:52Oh, this is mine.
00:48:53I can't.
00:48:59Oh.
00:49:01How did you run?
00:49:02Like if you're evading the bus stop 50 times?
00:49:04I'm done with them so many years.
00:49:06I'm done with him but I know.
00:49:06I need to do it.
00:49:07I need to take off his mind.
00:49:08I have to beat him...
00:49:13so are you ever going to talk to me
00:49:17i am totally confused
00:49:20we dated for six months you have every opportunity to tell me whatever you want to tell me
00:49:25but you never did i was scared why didn't you tell my uncle because this is between me and you
00:49:33why does he need to know anything anything yeah you call this anything yeah same sex is a disgrace
00:49:41to any family that involved involved in it it's against our tradition but it's not against
00:49:49american tradition but you are in my country you are my tribe this is something that you and i
00:49:54cannot settle my uncle have to be involved are you promising me that you will not go back to
00:50:01practicing same sex daniel if we're married i plan on marrying you for the rest of my life there's
00:50:07not going to be another woman if i'm with you i'm with you are you still thinking that there's a
00:50:14chance for us or is there no chance for us daniel i don't know i don't think i will continue
00:50:21with
00:50:21this relationship until my uncle comes i should have told you i should have told you before i came
00:50:28and then you could have determined if you wanted to even be with me or not be with me and
00:50:32there
00:50:32wouldn't be all these emotions involved and there wouldn't be all this struggle i should have just
00:50:36told you i was scared to tell you and i was scared to lose you i'm scared of losing you
00:50:46this all comes down to his uncle when he finds out that i lied about me being with women for
00:50:5121 years
00:50:52i'm worried that his uncle will never forgive me and never accept me and this relationship will be over
00:51:02i don't want to talk about this anymore until my uncle comes please
00:51:23that does not hurt that really hurts yeah it's not that's how you know i'm so sexually attracted to
00:51:29because i love popping your pimples did you sleep well i'm pretty tired i can't believe after six
00:51:47months i had sex i feel like i'm not a virgin anymore like i'm a little mad at myself that
00:51:54i should have waited longer but it felt right it was a lot of fun do you think chris heard
00:52:01us
00:52:04uh possibly how many times do you have sex last night twice it was just too hard to keep our
00:52:12hands off each other and just it felt like it flowed it was like missionary it was great and then
00:52:18like to the side was the other one
00:52:22did you get a glimpse of the picture of chris above i forgot that painting was in the room
00:52:26well you didn't even me doggy style i couldn't even see the painting yesterday last night
00:52:33i feel like we're an old married couple like i'm so comfortable with you like usually like
00:52:39at home like if i like sleep with a guy like i just want to like go
00:52:43leave the next day but like i'm stuck with you and i'm here with you and then like
00:52:47like i'm happy that i'm here and like i came
00:52:51you know did you
00:52:53i did
00:52:56chris walking in when i'm on the couch getting massage that definitely brought the mood down
00:53:00he had a lot of making up to do if he wanted to have sex and he definitely made it
00:53:04up
00:53:04it was everything i could have dreamed of and more
00:53:07everything about this man is so sexy except the uncircumcised
00:53:15it's a little weird it's like
00:53:20you know but
00:53:23also there's not like a dictionary on like how to use the extra skin
00:53:27but like like i'm not complaining about it i can deal with that
00:53:35i'm glad that you felt comfortable very quickly
00:53:42i did i'm like one part of me is like super happy but the other part of me is like
00:53:47i should have i should i want to know more
00:53:49that and then but whatever like i shouldn't be so hard on myself
00:53:52just ask anything you want do anything you want say anything you want yeah
00:53:56okay i'll start asking don't hate me okay go
00:54:01so i'm confused about this rental situation
00:54:04like a little annoying that chris like walked in during that like
00:54:08why is he even here with you renting it in the first place
00:54:11because last i knew is you lived with your parents
00:54:15um i mean like we were living together and then
00:54:19we sort of had to get out after we moved out i dropped my stuff
00:54:23to my parents and sort of stayed there for a week but then you know i um
00:54:30i've been living with nat
00:54:32i've been staying at hers because you know
00:54:35she lives a lot closer to work
00:54:37so why i feel like i'm a detective and i'm trying to like navigate this like detective puzzle
00:54:43because you've confused me so much
00:54:46i know now we've talked on the phone a few times
00:54:49but living together i think their relationship's a little weird
00:54:53if it's so platonic and you're just friends
00:54:56why would you have to lie to me about it and tell me you're living with your parents
00:55:00this just smells fishy to me
00:55:05um i just i mean to me it's a little weird that you're living with a girl
00:55:11and like you talk about her a lot too and like
00:55:15i just i don't know like
00:55:18she's my friend you're here you're my you're my girlfriend
00:55:21so it's it's exactly the same as chris i would treat exactly the same as i do chris you know
00:55:26like do you guys like share a bathroom like does she see you naked
00:55:29like like how does that work why is that funny
00:55:32no it's funny because you know i get it that's you know i get why you would ask those questions
00:55:37um yeah of course we share a bathroom right but um she hasn't seen me naked
00:55:41her and i are just friends she's like you know she's a really good friend but you know
00:55:46she knows about you and that you're my partner and you know um i really want you guys to get
00:55:51along because it's important for me well you must feel some sort of way because you didn't tell me
00:55:54you lived with her
00:56:00maybe it was a part of me you know not wanting you to get you know jealous and back out
00:56:04of this
00:56:04before you got here so how do you know when you're telling me the truth
00:56:08well that's your job to believe me and it's my job to prove it to you
00:56:14i'm supposed to meet josh's friends tonight including that so i need to take advantage and
00:56:19get the whole picture of him i want to see how joshua treats me in front of her see what
00:56:24she says to me
00:56:24if there's any skeletons in the closet that joshua hasn't told me that i'm going to find out it's
00:56:29like what else do i not know that i should know i want to give joshua the benefit of the
00:56:35doubt but i
00:56:36don't fully trust him after this at the end of the day like you know you're you know you're mine
00:56:42and
00:56:42you're my number on priority so
00:56:45i know
00:56:52oh i'm i'm 52. 52
00:57:04they want babies
00:57:11.
00:57:27You can help.
00:57:29OK.
00:57:31That's a goat.
00:57:33We call it .
00:57:35We're dressing up.
00:57:36This is swollen up there.
00:57:50Oh, .
00:57:52Enjoy.
00:57:53Oh, thank you.
00:57:57.
00:57:59I don't know if I can hold my legs like this.
00:58:02I'm going to sit like your aunt.
00:58:04I'm going to try that.
00:58:05.
00:58:08Hi.
00:58:12Only women are allowed to sit like this?
00:58:15She's not going to sit like this till the end,
00:58:17just serving the food.
00:58:20So far, everything is seemed pretty good with Rick
00:58:24and my family, even though he's acting like an old man.
00:58:28.
00:58:31My father said, you have to use to do it.
00:58:36But I know my family is going to be asking him a lot of
00:58:40questions, and I don't know how Rick is going to respond.
00:58:51Like, what is the intention to me?
00:58:58I look at her as being a prospective wife to me.
00:59:06.
00:59:07.
00:59:10I love her very much, and I'm hoping that she could
00:59:14possibly love me the same.
00:59:18.
00:59:24.
00:59:39I'm 52.
00:59:46.
00:59:51.
00:59:52.
00:59:54You have the same age as him.
01:00:27Yes, I've been married twice.
01:00:33But now, I'm not married.
01:00:37Do you have a child?
01:00:41Yes. I have two babies, and then I have three adults.
01:01:05They want babies.
01:01:19Trish and I have been talking about whether or not we're going to have kids,
01:01:26and I'm just not ready to make that decision yet.
01:01:48They want respect, and as a mother, we get married.
01:01:58I have a child.
01:02:29I understand that.
01:02:31And now that I see how important this is, it's going to be the forefront of my mind.
01:02:47When are you going to decide?
01:02:52Before, you know, I come to your father and ask for your hand in marriage, I will make a decision.
01:03:00Okay.
01:03:10Trish, you warned me about how strongly her family felt about having kids.
01:03:16But now the heat is on, and I'm starting to feel the pressure.
01:03:21My feelings have grown so much for Trish that I couldn't picture a life without her at this point.
01:03:29But I really don't want to have more kids.
01:03:34I don't know how I'm going to make this decision.
01:03:41Today, I found out that he was living with you.
01:03:43Yeah.
01:03:44How did you knew that?
01:03:44I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:03:48I've tried that.
01:03:48It's never succeeded.
01:03:49Oh, no.
01:03:49I have so many guy friends.
01:03:51Let's put two and two together.
01:03:53Josh lied to me about living there.
01:03:56Something's fishy.
01:03:56Something's shady.
01:03:57So are you jealous of me?
01:04:05anie Olden
01:04:07When you eat your plate, I know how to prepare.
01:04:08Where's theads with refreshes?
01:04:11Can you see where your plate is put?
01:04:12You can't remember everything, all you can eat of meat.
01:04:12Highway or not, the Trustranic持es.
01:04:13You can make your strategy.
01:04:33I'm so frustrated with Jovon, but it makes me feel good when I look good, so I'm just
01:04:39going to do my own thing. Can we talk? That's all we do, talk. So frustrating. I'm really starting
01:05:03to feel hopeless, that we're never going to resolve this problem. I really can't do this
01:05:12submissive thing. I'm afraid that he's trying to change me. But I mean, this is not like
01:05:21a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship where you can just back out. We're married, so I
01:05:30just can't ignore him forever, especially now that he's in my house.
01:05:39Hey. Hey. I like your outfit. Thanks. I mean, do you want to talk any about yesterday?
01:06:00Sometimes I just can't take your arrogance, Jovon.
01:06:09I just think that I feel like I have to fight to be heard. You know, I know you want
01:06:13to come
01:06:14off like, you know, I'm not going to be pushed around. You're going to hear me. It causes more
01:06:22fights than it solves. I get what you're coming from, but this is what you married. I am not
01:06:30the type of woman who would just say yes just to have peace. Ever since I was a child, I
01:06:38felt
01:06:38like I was voiceless. And I saw my mom, you know, she gone through this domestic abuse
01:06:44in the past. The goodness in her was also the reason why she was abused. And I promised
01:06:53myself that's not going to happen to me. Every time you show some sarcastic remarks or
01:07:03you raise your voice sometimes. I mean, we argue. My initial reaction is to stand up for myself
01:07:10if I have to.
01:07:14I know, but Anna, you understand I'm not your father. I don't raise my voice at you.
01:07:20And I'm not this person that's trying to, like, dominate you.
01:07:23I know you're not my dad. The point is, you're hard on me.
01:07:28I'm hard on you, but I'm not aggressive with it. You know, I know I've married a strong
01:07:33woman, but you're a little bit too strong. And that can, that can sometimes work against
01:07:39you rather than for you.
01:07:42I grew up with an abusive father. He died long time ago. But from hearing about my mom's
01:07:53relationship with my dad, I learned from a very young age when to speak up. If I'm not
01:07:59comfortable, I should know how to express my feelings and set boundaries. But maybe there's
01:08:06a way for me to be strong and independent without lashing out.
01:08:15I'm sorry because I haven't realized that I was...
01:08:23And I'll do my best to, you know, I guess just not be so, you know, sarcastic and arrogant,
01:08:35okay? All right? Deal? All right. Come on. Be all right.
01:08:43I'll work it out, okay?
01:08:45Mm-mm, you're sweaty.
01:08:47Oh, let's go to the room where it's cool, man. You want to?
01:08:50Yeah. All right.
01:08:53I just know, you know, whatever issues that me and Anna have had, I'm very proud to be worried.
01:09:00Thank you so much, Mubu. Thank you.
01:09:05I don't know what it is, but every time we make up, he starts to look hot.
01:09:12Oh, yeah?
01:09:15Yeah. Take me a minute.
01:09:19It's ketchup.
01:09:31I get the feeling that we're going all the way.
01:09:35Cause we fall in deep, boy, and I got so much to say.
01:09:39Baby, do I look okay?
01:09:42Absolutely perfect.
01:09:44But it might get a bit cold at night, so maybe grab a...
01:09:49Jacket?
01:09:49Or something, yeah.
01:09:50And guess what?
01:09:51What?
01:09:51I have a purse that matches your outfit perfectly.
01:09:54So I have to carry it?
01:09:55Yeah.
01:09:56That's not great.
01:09:57Am I the one you wanted?
01:10:00Oh, oh, oh, oh.
01:10:02Am I the one you wanted?
01:10:04Oh, God.
01:10:05It's a little nipply out.
01:10:06A little nipply.
01:10:10Do you want to jump up?
01:10:12Yeah.
01:10:12Do you want to jump up?
01:10:13Yeah.
01:10:14Okay, so where do you want to sit?
01:10:16Um, is there upstairs?
01:10:19The plan for today is we're going to go and meet my friends to get her out in the city,
01:10:23in the harbour.
01:10:24I am excited, but nervous, more so.
01:10:27I explained to Elise that I was living with Nat, and she was not happy about it.
01:10:32But I want to prove to her that she has nothing to worry about.
01:10:40Are you falling?
01:10:41Yeah.
01:10:42Falling for you.
01:10:43Oh!
01:10:44That was cool.
01:10:46Wow.
01:10:50This is, like, stunning.
01:10:51Like, not what I expected.
01:10:54It's nice, huh?
01:10:55It's beautiful.
01:10:57Thank you, babe.
01:10:59I love how you hold my purse.
01:11:03Walking into this, I'm afraid of a lot.
01:11:04Like, I'm afraid, you know, am I going to catch him in any more lies?
01:11:08I'm nervous to see how he's going to act towards me.
01:11:10Is he going to be attentive?
01:11:11Is he going to make me feel comfortable?
01:11:12It's really important to be accepted into the friend group.
01:11:15But on the same time, like, I came here for answers.
01:11:17I want answers, and I want to figure out his life.
01:11:19And, like, I don't want to be lied to.
01:11:23Hey!
01:11:24Hello, hello, hello, hello.
01:11:26Hello.
01:11:27Hi.
01:11:28Nice to meet you.
01:11:29Nice to meet you.
01:11:30Nice to meet you.
01:11:30You're beautiful.
01:11:31Oh, you're a young person.
01:11:32I'm tall.
01:11:33Norman.
01:11:33You're not tall.
01:11:34How are you?
01:11:35How are you?
01:11:35How are you?
01:11:36How are you, Steve?
01:11:36Nice to meet you, finally.
01:11:38Nice to meet you.
01:11:39Nice to meet you.
01:11:40And I know you.
01:11:41I know you.
01:11:43Keep back.
01:11:44Keep back.
01:11:46Do you like it?
01:11:48Where are we all sitting?
01:11:50We're all sitting alone.
01:11:50We're all sitting alone.
01:11:51We're sitting, I guess.
01:11:52We'll get attacked by seagulls.
01:11:53Hopefully no one can look at my skirt.
01:11:57Just everyone, man.
01:11:58Yeah, sorry.
01:11:59This is great.
01:12:01Oh, my favorite people.
01:12:03Bye, Steve.
01:12:04I need this.
01:12:06Thank you so much.
01:12:07To my girlfriend, Elise.
01:12:09I don't know why that's so funny.
01:12:11Like, why are you saying it with a smile?
01:12:13It's like...
01:12:14Okay.
01:12:14To my girlfriend, Elise.
01:12:22I've spoken to Elise before.
01:12:24And she comes across lovely.
01:12:27But she comes across very Miami.
01:12:29Like a lot of skimpy clothes, right?
01:12:31Very skimpy, but gorgeous.
01:12:32Like, this is skimpy for us.
01:12:34Yeah, well...
01:12:34Very skimpy.
01:12:35Yeah, yeah.
01:12:36Correct, correct, correct.
01:12:36But she was skimpy, skimpy, skimpy.
01:12:4016 hours.
01:12:41I'm so jet lagged.
01:12:42I'm in this way.
01:12:43You guys...
01:12:44I don't like, I don't like.
01:12:44They're sitting too far away, so...
01:12:45Yeah, I know.
01:12:46Wrap up to this other bar?
01:12:47Yes, let's do it.
01:12:52Are we gonna go in here?
01:12:54Yeah, yeah.
01:12:54Oh, this place looks so cute.
01:12:56Yeah.
01:12:57My impression of Josh's friends is they're all nice.
01:13:03But when I see Nat and I think my boyfriend lives with her, I'm like, is there something
01:13:08like I'm not understanding?
01:13:09Because I don't think there's a sexual connection, but like, I think it's weird.
01:13:13I think it's so weird.
01:13:16Guys, we need to make Elise love Sydney.
01:13:20Okay.
01:13:20So, otherwise, I'll be moving to Miami.
01:13:24I can make you love Sydney.
01:13:25I would love that.
01:13:27Are you staying in Sydney?
01:13:29Bond Ivy.
01:13:30I'm staying in a rental that Joshua and Chris have.
01:13:35Yep.
01:13:37Because today I found out that he was living with you.
01:13:39Yeah.
01:13:40I thought you knew that.
01:13:41Yeah.
01:13:41He was staying in a rental a little bit.
01:13:46So, how did he ask to live with you?
01:13:48Like, how did this happen?
01:13:49Well, he was kind of between places and I was like, why don't you just come and stay
01:13:53with me?
01:13:53Because it was much closer for his work.
01:13:57And, you know, to be honest, I was going through a bit of a rough time.
01:14:00And I needed, I needed comfort.
01:14:03I needed someone there to...
01:14:04Support.
01:14:05Yeah, shoulder to cry on.
01:14:06So, it worked out well.
01:14:09Yeah.
01:14:09I mean, look, as I said, like, she's one of my closest mates.
01:14:14There's a lot to unfold.
01:14:15I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:14:18I've tried that.
01:14:19It's never succeeded for me.
01:14:20I have so many guy friends.
01:14:21Oh, yay!
01:14:22I have so many guy friends.
01:14:24And this is probably Australia.
01:14:26It's probably a little bit different.
01:14:27It's a culture.
01:14:27It's a culture.
01:14:28It's a culture thing, yeah.
01:14:28It's definitely a culture thing, yeah.
01:14:29Or, like, back.
01:14:30We're a bit more easy about it.
01:14:32Yeah.
01:14:32We trust more, I think.
01:14:34Yeah, we trust.
01:14:35Yeah.
01:14:37I think men and women can be friends.
01:14:39Yes.
01:14:39I have a lot of male friends.
01:14:40Yes.
01:14:41I wouldn't ever sleep with Josh.
01:14:42He's my brother to me.
01:14:44So, I find it very weird.
01:14:46Yeah.
01:14:46I think my lies are insecure.
01:14:48Yeah.
01:14:48And hopefully, they'll grow together and grow through that.
01:14:51Yeah.
01:14:51Yeah.
01:14:51And that's how trust is built.
01:14:56I think that he's gonna have a struggle maintaining you and maintaining me, if I have to be completely
01:15:02honest.
01:15:07So, are you jealous of me and our relationship?
01:15:11Yeah.
01:15:11I feel uneasy about it.
01:15:14Yeah.
01:15:14Well, look, I get it.
01:15:15And hopefully, that can change, you know.
01:15:17I think it's more of the fact that we are living with her.
01:15:19Yeah.
01:15:19I guess the question I have, are you paying?
01:15:22Yeah.
01:15:22Like, are you letting them lay there for free?
01:15:25I'm always paying for the whole rental, right?
01:15:28Right, but...
01:15:29You have been generous.
01:15:30I'm being generous.
01:15:31I'm a generous person, and I love doing that for my friends.
01:15:34Yeah.
01:15:34Yeah.
01:15:34Well, I think that she's helping you financially.
01:15:37I think that she has a financial hold on you that's making you feel some sort of...
01:15:41No.
01:15:41No, no, no, no, no.
01:15:42No, I don't.
01:15:43No, that's...
01:15:44No.
01:15:45That's...
01:15:45See, that...
01:15:45That offends me.
01:15:51She took me in and, like, helped me out.
01:15:54So, yeah, you could say financially, help me there.
01:15:56But in saying that, like, it's temporary.
01:15:58Everyone knows it's temporary.
01:16:00I should have been more clearer, and I should have been more transparent.
01:16:04Let's put two and two together.
01:16:06Joshua's struggling financially.
01:16:08He's lied to me about living there.
01:16:11Something's fishy, something's shady.
01:16:13I don't want my boyfriend getting financially supported by another girl.
01:16:17That's disgusting and weird.
01:16:19Like, that's not what I signed up for.
01:16:26Why do we have to live in your country?
01:16:28If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:16:31I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:16:34I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:16:36If he happened to come back to his country, we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:16:43Sorry.
01:16:44I'm so sorry.
01:16:45I'm so sorry, Sheen.
01:16:57So that was eye-opening.
01:17:00Yeah.
01:17:00I know.
01:17:10It's just so much information all at once.
01:17:14There is a lot to think about it, to be honest.
01:17:17Sheena and I just met with an immigration lawyer and everything kind of blew up in my face.
01:17:25I thought this entire time that it was only going to take months to get Sheena to the United States
01:17:30and everything figured out.
01:17:31But now, after hearing that my disability payments that I get monthly does not count and it's going to take
01:17:38years, this is the biggest setback ever.
01:17:44There's just so many things going on in my head right now.
01:17:47I just want to, you know, understand kind of what you're thinking.
01:17:51Well, for me, it's like I wanted to move in the U.S.
01:17:56But the thing is, it's been like seven years, plus you're going to add another two or three years while
01:18:03you find a job and save enough money for the K-1 visa.
01:18:09I don't know.
01:18:12I know that you wanted to go to the U.S., my love, but why do we have to live
01:18:17in your country? That's my good question.
01:18:22It's easier for me to stay here because of the K-1 visa.
01:18:27And I'm a professional here. If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:18:32Then I'll try to help you to find a job as well.
01:18:35I think that's the best option for us.
01:18:42I still have my worries about that, though.
01:18:45With my autism, it makes things hard.
01:18:49And I know I am fighting with my mom, but I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:18:58What makes you upset is, like, he loves his mom, his family.
01:19:03I understand that.
01:19:04But what about me? I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:19:09If he happened to come back to his country, we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:19:14So I will be the one who's stranded, and I will be hurt as well.
01:19:29I just really felt sad, disappointed. I was expecting you that I could be with my partner for the last
01:19:37seven years.
01:19:44I don't know.
01:19:51I don't want to be apart from you that long, and I don't want to...
01:19:57I don't want to give up my mom.
01:20:04Sorry. I'm so sorry I put you in this situation, Sheen.
01:20:10Focus, John.
01:20:14Now that I know that I can possibly stay here and be with Sheena every single day, I feel kind
01:20:21of stuck.
01:20:22Any option I make, I'm either going to hurt the woman I love or my mother.
01:20:30This...
01:20:32This is probably the hardest decision I've ever had to make.
01:20:35She's my second half. I know she's the one for me.
01:20:40And just being with her, being able to talk, joke, have everything, I don't want to lose that.
01:20:46I won't give it away. I won't keep trying.
01:20:58Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:21:01Teamwork makes the dream work, babe.
01:21:03Oh, you're sorry.
01:21:05This is kind of turning me on, babe.
01:21:08I did not know.
01:21:12I'm so hungry.
01:21:14You have a pregnancy clearance?
01:21:17I haven't gotten my period yet.
01:21:19How would you feel if I was?
01:21:25Tell me you love her.
01:21:27I was in love with her.
01:21:29I would have made a move.
01:21:30Dude, you made a move. You blow it.
01:21:32No, no, no, no, no, no.
01:21:34Laura made a move on me.
01:21:36I am thinking about sharing my life and you are keeping secrets from me.
01:21:41This is betrayal.
01:21:49I am a good partner for Trish.
01:21:50This water is cold.
01:21:52Ha, you can survive.
01:21:54I hope Trish's family can see that I'm trying and that I am a good partner for Trish.
01:22:09I'm going to Casablanca right now to see Mohamed. It's kind of surreal. I mean, I have my engagement ring.
01:22:16Mohamed gave to me when he proposed.
01:22:19Putting this ring back on is actually bringing up old feelings.
01:22:23But I don't know how this meeting is going to go.
01:22:27My heart's racing.
01:22:34Why did you just leave?
01:22:36You're upset.
01:22:38So you don't care that I'm upset?
01:22:41So you just walk away from me?
01:22:43After what I found out about Nat, my mind is just in so many directions and I'm freaking out.
01:22:51I don't know what the **** is going on right now.
01:22:55I want to go home.
01:22:58And then he'll be super.
01:23:01She have gotten married five times.
01:23:03And from 21 years, she has been in a relationship with several women.
01:23:09Why am I hearing this one now?
01:23:12This is an abomination.
01:23:14No.
01:23:14I can't help what my past is like.
01:23:16I am willing to do whatever it takes to be with Daniel.
01:23:20I can't believe you.
01:23:22Because of this, the mind will be over.
01:23:26I can't breathe.
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