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00:00:10it's the day of the second dinner party of this year's experiment but while on
00:00:16her morning walk Tori has had a run-in with a disgruntled groom
00:00:22oh Timmy boy eh he is interesting I bumped into him which I always do because he's never at home
00:00:31because he doesn't like his wife when I saw Timothy he really ruined my morning hot girl walk first and
00:00:38foremost prick he had not nasty just like real bitter things to say about you mean and I was
00:00:46like oh mate like you're just so bitter he doesn't think that like we're genuine
00:00:55I think we're like the strongest couple of PR yeah well he said that at the dinner party
00:01:02like we're his target like he's gonna come after us because he thinks that you're lying about how
00:01:09you feel about me yeah he's like do you really think Jack's into you like are you really into Jack
00:01:15like if you're really into each other as much as you say that you are like why aren't you sleeping
00:01:20together we'll see what he does at the dinner party but question my integrity he could be on he could
00:01:28be on he's like coming straight for the jugular but he's not very articulate and my job on the outside
00:01:36world was to argue with cashed-up businessmen that was what I got paid to do so if he wants
00:01:43to go I'll go
00:01:44but he won't like it previously intimacy week helped some of our couples people will ask are you in love
00:01:57we headed in that direction for sure deepen their bonds I feel more hopeful and I feel committed to
00:02:04the experiment I just want to give Tristan a big hug and a squeeze I just want to get back
00:02:09to us but
00:02:10for others sorry passion you give me nothing you just give me like autopilot the week proved to be a
00:02:16challenge he was mocking me in a high-pitched voice he mocks you I've booked us a limb to eight
00:02:22oh what
00:02:23yeah and when Tim planned a romantic date with Sarah she cancelled on him I'd like to go out with
00:02:33my
00:02:33girlfriends and I don't know what else to do to make you feel more secure in this relationship that is
00:02:38not fair oh it feels like the gloves are off okay I'm done here tonight I don't really want to
00:02:49be around
00:02:49him this dinner party is going to be an absolute shit storm have you got security here the knives
00:02:55are out Timothy's a shit stirrer and wants to go back myself and Jack as Timothy Jack's a sexual person
00:03:03you're a sexual person it's not happening and Tori I just think you're clucking of nothing face off in
00:03:11an almighty showdown suck it up princess if you don't like it go somewhere else Ben faces the firing line
00:03:18that's bullshit I call bullshit it's bullshit and you see a bulletproof as the table does not hold
00:03:26back that's not a yes or no before all hell breaks loose literally never yell in my face again when
00:03:44Tim
00:03:44reaches his breaking point with Sarah I can't handle a girl who just doesn't take responsibility for
00:03:50anything can I please leave
00:04:02it's been three weeks since the beginning of the married at first sight experiment and after an eventful
00:04:09intimacy week our couples are preparing for tonight's second dinner party I've got two golden eggs
00:04:19shake it shake it shake it shake it right and I thought tonight that I might lay them I mean
00:04:27I'll
00:04:27kind of walk in like hi guys oh I've laid some golden eggs Jesus Christ
00:04:38Jayden could you bring my black shoes
00:04:40oh dear Lord God you look good thanks you look you look very like
00:04:53distinguished for some couples intimacy week has continued to strengthen growing bonds
00:04:59what have you got who's that for did you get me flowers I sure did how are you feeling about
00:05:10Andrea at the moment I'm feeling uh I'm terribly fond of her to be honest with you yeah deep affection
00:05:20adoration adoration all of the above that's really nice also the colors I think oh thank you uh intimacy
00:05:30week was good for our relationship some of the couples call us the lovebirds
00:05:40does that feel long or short as I set the timer for four minutes in this experiment it's not a
00:05:48race
00:05:48it's not a competition but I think we're pretty well placed relative to some of the couples anyway
00:05:56despite a challenging week Cassandra and Tristan are heading into tonight's dinner party in high
00:06:02spirits yes got you some flowers I've got a very strong rule now always beautiful flowers my
00:06:08beautiful flower in the apartment you know they're stunning Trist the DP too tonight dinner party too
00:06:15maybe we just focus on having some fun yeah there'll definitely be some dramas come up but I've got
00:06:20your back I'm assuming you've got my back so we're gonna win tonight's competition of best dress and if
00:06:25not I've got a glass of red sorry Jaden there's a lot between us that we're working on mentally and
00:06:33physically so I really appreciate what he did this morning like so much and they're the most
00:06:40magnificent flowers I've ever received in my life and yeah we're looking forward to the dinner party
00:06:45tonight ladies first thank you how short you are ahead of tonight's dinner party Sarah and Tim are
00:06:56getting ready in separate apartments following a fight after Sarah cancelled another date with Tim
00:07:04I'm a bit flat at the moment you know I do feel a little bit drained which is you know
00:07:09disappointing
00:07:09because I really like Sata and I feel like we've really had great chemistry from the start since the
00:07:16beginning of their relationship Tim has been open and vulnerable with Sarah I want to talk to you about
00:07:22the development of my trust issues I was mistreated in my previous relationship I was lied to gaslit
00:07:30plus I was cheated on a lot so I felt like I didn't have a voice in the relationship and
00:07:36I was never
00:07:36truly heard but the same level of trust was not reciprocated when Sarah refused to hand over her
00:07:43phone what is the point of trusting if we can't actually just trust someone without looking through
00:07:47someone's phone that's not trust trusting is allowing someone to just be like there's nothing there just
00:07:55trust me and that's it a reluctant Tim confessed his trepidation about voicing how he feels around Sarah
00:08:03so Tim does Sarah intimidate you yeah potentially yeah I feel like if I express my emotions it's not met
00:08:14with the least an ear you know despite feeling intimidated Tim organized a date with Sarah in an attempt to
00:08:25show her his assertive side I've booked us a little date oh yeah this is me taking the lead oh
00:08:33cute only for
00:08:35Sarah to cancel for the third time in a row you're the one cancelling dates on me I like to
00:08:42go out with
00:08:42my girlfriend and not have to worry about that kind of stuff we haven't really cleared the air I felt
00:08:51let
00:08:51down by her cancelling yet another day because she was hungover she wasn't really accepting any
00:08:59responsibility for her behavior I feel like I'm trying to like voice my emotions but she does get
00:09:06defensive pretty much everything like that I bring up it's hard to get to that point where I feel that
00:09:14I'm being heard we're just not seeing eye to eye Tim and I have very different ways of dealing with
00:09:22things I think he's a little bit more like emotional and sensitive and he's just too needy I need someone
00:09:36who's a bit more dominant and a bit more like confident and yeah I'm still I'm still not seeing
00:09:41it now I just feel like I don't really like want to be around him
00:09:56as Lauren and Jonathan prepare for tonight's dinner party they are reflecting on the events of their
00:10:02intimacy week I think that obviously this week was challenging for you and I yeah yeah it was a
00:10:07tough week but I think it brought up conversations that needed to be had one day you're literally
00:10:13like I hate you I've never said I hate that is how but that's how it feels and then the
00:10:20next day you'll
00:10:21be like really nice and things will be great feel like I've tried to studies but like by the full
00:10:25day
00:10:26of no real personality coming for me by the next day my wall goes straight back up it has been
00:10:34challenging but like it was good that we're able to like talk about that and it was good to see
00:10:40him
00:10:40have some passion and some personality and to hear how he feels he knows where I'm at I know where
00:10:46his
00:10:46heads are and there's no like bullshit so hopefully we can just enjoy a dinner party tonight and just like
00:10:59move forward during Alessandra's workshop Ellie shared shocking details to the other women about
00:11:06her relationship with Ben I was my idea to have a date night but it ended in mocking at the
00:11:14dinner and
00:11:15me feeling disrespected following their rocky week Ben had a very surprising epiphany I did have a bit
00:11:26of a moment today okay like when I just realized what I want I do want to have kids in
00:11:33the future
00:11:36I reckon Ben is probably gonna get a little bit hate from the girls yeah of how he's been treating
00:11:41Ellie
00:11:42after what Ellie said at Alessandra's workshop I'm keen to see if that sorted or got worse and despite
00:11:50the group consensus Ellie has chosen to remain optimistic about her relationship with Ben
00:11:58yeah I think we look very cute together mm-hmm you look really nice thank you I feel really good
00:12:06about Ben at the moment actually I think if anyone starts to get a little bit mouthy tonight just be
00:12:11like excuse me just feeling a little bit nervous about what could happen especially if Ben just gets
00:12:19you know attacked you know attacked by the others I think the girls were just horrified that he mocked
00:12:25me so just the shop looks on their faces I feel like they may have something to say about it
00:12:34but it's not just Ben at the center of controversy tonight how are you feeling about the dinner party
00:12:42I think it'll be an interesting night like Tori and Jack I'm not buying it I haven't bought it since
00:12:49day one yeah I I'm a connection guy call them bullshit it's very rare for me to just have an
00:12:58instant
00:12:59sexual connection with someone which we've discussed yeah the sexual car I think there's more cracks in the
00:13:08room than everyone wants to admit do you consider us not sleeping together a crack like the slow burn
00:13:17thing doesn't add up look Jack's a sexual person Tori's from my understanding from Lucinda is a sexual
00:13:31person and nothing's happening and then at Alessandra's workshop he admitted to the boys how he's actually
00:13:42feeling I'm a bit of a dominant in the bedroom I just like to lead and like to kind of
00:13:48have it my
00:13:48way because we haven't been intimate it's all just talk at the moment who's who's holding that back
00:13:56truthfully I don't have massive sexual energy with her I think she's sexy I just I don't have a spark
00:14:05of I
00:14:05want to have sex with this girl ASAP Jack said to the boys that sexually he wasn't attracted to Tori
00:14:15which
00:14:15really surprised me you can see that Tori's totally into him yeah I wonder if she knows
00:14:27I've run into Tori and I told her that I said what I said and I'm gonna stand by it
00:14:36there's no
00:14:38there's no question I love a good fight you're right in the storm you've got this great storm
00:14:49background obviously Tim he's had a bit to say I really do think we are the strongest couple here
00:14:56so it's it's baseless what Timothy's going at us for is for being happy and if that's a crime then
00:15:02kill
00:15:02me I just have no issue going like head-to-head with a grown man he's not gonna like sit
00:15:11there and have a
00:15:11yummy dinner and sip wine and pretend like everything's hunky-dory because it's not tell
00:15:16you right now Jack won't stand for anyone disrespecting me or us so he's picked himself um a tough battle
00:15:24all right here we are dinner party number two j-dog and eden we're ready it's gonna be a rollercoaster
00:15:46but I reckon it's gonna be lots and lots and lots and lots of fun I love rollercoasters who doesn't
00:15:57I think you'll be happy to know that I will be off and about I feel like now that everyone
00:16:02knows
00:16:02each other better they're more willing to kind of put it on each other and say what they think
00:16:15oh he's going to the wedding
00:16:17am I lucky
00:16:20I don't know
00:16:22I'm Eric
00:16:25I'm safe
00:16:32so dinner party number two you guys coming off of intimacy week and I have to say I cannot wait
00:16:38to see what has happened since I last saw these couples and one of the things we know about the
00:16:44dinner party after intimacy week is they have a lot to talk about yes I love it when you come
00:16:50and work
00:16:50to make your magic because uh ultimately uh it really takes them out of their comfort zones and that's what
00:16:55we do here in this experiment and hopefully tonight we'll see them uh different as couples and also as a
00:17:02group
00:17:07first ones
00:17:09first ones yeah
00:17:10Sarah and Tim
00:17:12oh
00:17:12very separate entrance
00:17:14frosty
00:17:15frosty
00:17:16icy
00:17:23oh
00:17:24doesn't look great
00:17:28you want to drink
00:17:29yeah
00:17:50uh
00:17:52Sarah and I have
00:17:55we don't have the best vibe at the moment
00:17:58you know she needs a guy to be more dominant and be more like
00:18:06assertive
00:18:07you know I feel like I really was doing my very best for the last three weeks
00:18:12I would plan three dates in a row three weeks in a row
00:18:15she's bowed on the dates every time and like it feels like I can't really do anything right
00:18:20yeah
00:18:20it's it's tough
00:18:21it's challenging
00:18:23so then
00:18:25let's just talk about it
00:18:28all right
00:18:32it just feels like you're like not taking responsibility for bailing on our shit you know
00:18:41I can't give you any more than I'm giving you right now
00:18:46yeah I'm aware of that
00:18:48why can't you just run with how we were going at that point in time
00:18:54I need to be heard like I need to be acknowledged
00:18:58I've said it a few times now
00:19:01you know
00:19:02yes I have
00:19:03thank you very much
00:19:04I have said it every time we've had this conversation
00:19:06oh hi
00:19:08oh hi
00:19:09this is the party I want to see
00:19:10so this is awkward
00:19:11uh Lauren and Jono entering the room
00:19:14while the first couple are having a fight
00:19:17eek
00:19:18hi
00:19:29oh my god
00:19:30I'm just like
00:19:31what have I walked into
00:19:32the only people sitting there are Sarah and Tim and it was so awkward
00:19:39how are you
00:19:41I'm alright
00:19:41how are you
00:19:42yeah I'm good
00:19:43what are we drinking
00:19:45um yeah they're not in a great place and I just feel like it's just super awkward
00:19:51so I'm keen to kind of lift the vibe a little bit
00:19:54how are you guys doing
00:19:55how was intimacy week with you guys
00:19:56the intimacy week was awful
00:20:00intimacy week reduced the intimacy in our relationship significantly I would say
00:20:07do you want to know what task we got
00:20:09oh we'll show you what we got
00:20:13this is what we got
00:20:15we have to cup each other's genitals
00:20:17and stare into each other's eyes
00:20:19oh shit
00:20:20no I'm not joking
00:20:21seriously
00:20:22so it was called genital cupping
00:20:28I get what it is
00:20:29it's like the energy transfer
00:20:30it's all this stuff
00:20:31and I was like
00:20:31okay let's make a
00:20:32let's make a compromise
00:20:34the genital cupping
00:20:35we'll do
00:20:35we'll do 30 seconds
00:20:37and we stood up
00:20:38and we did it
00:20:38and we could not
00:20:39we could not
00:20:40okay
00:20:43hello
00:20:44hello
00:20:44hi
00:20:45hi
00:20:46hi
00:20:46hi
00:20:47folks
00:20:48aww Andrea and Richard
00:20:50the MVPs
00:20:51of intimacy week
00:20:53by far
00:20:54you guys seem to be just cruising through everything
00:20:55yeah
00:20:56have you guys even fought
00:20:57have you had an argument
00:20:58no fights no arguments
00:21:00wow
00:21:05hello my girls
00:21:29he was very hard to listen to on the couch last week in that commitment ceremony because he was so
00:21:34full of self-criticism and self-loat
00:21:37you know the way that he speaks about himself has really affected her
00:21:40we did have a good session
00:21:41they were able to finally go through the eye gazing exercise and I think had a bit of a breakthrough
00:21:53would it make you feel different if you knew that every time you put yourself down in front of your
00:22:01friends that we feel shit
00:22:04yeah obviously
00:22:05yeah
00:22:05good
00:22:06because we literally just go
00:22:07okay
00:22:07oh
00:22:08okay
00:22:09that makes us feel bad
00:22:10okay
00:22:11all I'm trying to do is stop you
00:22:13yeah
00:22:13good
00:22:14yeah
00:22:14yeah
00:22:14but if it stops you from doing it
00:22:16it'll stop this repetitive cycle in your mind of negativity towards yourself when it shouldn't be there
00:22:21Tristan's got some demons that he needs to
00:22:25he needs to overcome
00:22:26and he has the perfect woman to help him with that
00:22:31stop saying bad things about yourself
00:22:35because that plays in your mind
00:22:37I know
00:22:37isn't it great to hear a group of men sitting around at a cocktail party talking about their relationships
00:22:44building each other up
00:22:45yeah
00:22:46it's very good
00:22:47everyone has damage mate
00:22:49you know
00:22:49I know
00:22:50we've all got luggage
00:22:51you know
00:22:51we all do
00:22:52it's been a better week though
00:22:54I've been saying a lot more positive stuff about me
00:22:55mate that makes me happy
00:22:56I'm trying to do more fun stuff
00:22:58just do a quick chance for the boys you know
00:23:00you too
00:23:01you too
00:23:02I look puppies
00:23:05I look puppies
00:23:06I look puppies
00:23:10tonight's going to be a big night babe
00:23:12I know
00:23:13I know someone you're dying to
00:23:15have a beer with tonight
00:23:18yeah
00:23:19I
00:23:20Timothy
00:23:20Big Timothy
00:23:23obviously he's not happy in his own relationship
00:23:25he's not connected with his wife
00:23:26nor is he trying
00:23:28um
00:23:28and yeah
00:23:29he's shining some true colours
00:23:31he's trying to bring us down
00:23:35here we are
00:23:35here we are
00:23:43I think it's tory and Jack
00:23:56so
00:23:57what about you
00:23:59what about you
00:24:00like are you and Jack all good?
00:24:02yeah
00:24:02curious about them because he's so physical and so sexy
00:24:06well so is she
00:24:07and so she
00:24:08and yet they have not really gone there at all
00:24:11they have chosen not to go there
00:24:12so I'll be very interested to know
00:24:13you know how they're doing today
00:24:17so
00:24:18I've been on a walk this morning
00:24:19and I bumped
00:24:21bumped into
00:24:22Timothy
00:24:24and
00:24:24old Tim
00:24:25old Tim
00:24:26and he ended up
00:24:27kind of like
00:24:27walking with me
00:24:28right
00:24:29and I was like
00:24:30ah
00:24:30whatever
00:24:31tells me that
00:24:33um
00:24:35he calls bullshit on Jack and I
00:24:37like he doesn't think it's like genuine
00:24:39he doesn't think that I'm into Jack
00:24:41or Jack's into me
00:24:41what did you say to that?
00:24:44I just said like
00:24:45that's fine
00:24:46you can come
00:24:47you can come to us
00:24:48and I will
00:24:49have no greater joy
00:24:50than going head to head
00:24:51with an old
00:24:51shit
00:24:52oh
00:24:53shit
00:24:54that's got a monopoly man
00:24:59the little birdie is
00:25:00that
00:25:02potentially
00:25:04I've got a few haters in the group
00:25:06really?
00:25:07yeah
00:25:08you've been a little bit worried
00:25:09that people might come at you
00:25:11what
00:25:11I haven't been worried
00:25:12oh yeah not worried about it
00:25:13nah it doesn't worry me
00:25:14the thing is with me
00:25:15when I get like a beer moment
00:25:17about someone
00:25:17I'm just like
00:25:18okay now
00:25:18now
00:25:19like
00:25:20you're it
00:25:21oh my
00:25:22shit
00:25:23Tori's a bad bitch
00:25:26my career
00:25:27is to like
00:25:28go head to head
00:25:29with grown
00:25:31sleazy
00:25:31businessmen
00:25:32I get paid
00:25:33to do this
00:25:34and I'm not sure
00:25:35if he knows that
00:25:36let's do this
00:25:42hola
00:25:43hola
00:25:43whee
00:25:45whee
00:25:46whee
00:25:47yes
00:25:49lucinda
00:25:49and
00:25:50oh that was maracas
00:25:51I love it
00:25:52it's a tribute to you
00:25:54hi Tim
00:25:55hi how you doing
00:25:56oh my god
00:25:56good
00:25:58how you doing
00:26:04it's a little bit cold
00:26:06on the far end of the couch
00:26:08Tori's like hugging
00:26:09a block of ice
00:26:10hello my love
00:26:11how are you
00:26:12hello
00:26:13hi honey
00:26:14oh my god
00:26:15wait so tell us
00:26:16about your intimacy week
00:26:17oh god
00:26:18oh my god
00:26:19I've backed off
00:26:21because he actually
00:26:22needs to
00:26:23just set the foundation
00:26:24I did get to visit
00:26:26Lucinda and Timothy
00:26:27we worked a lot
00:26:28on just establishing
00:26:29the reality
00:26:31of the moment
00:26:31and I encouraged them
00:26:33to basically
00:26:34go back and have
00:26:35a little more fun
00:26:35with each other
00:26:36they were taking
00:26:36everything so seriously
00:26:38and everything so personally
00:26:39it was really dampening
00:26:40the relationship
00:26:41and the connection
00:26:42between them
00:26:42we do get it on
00:26:44really well
00:26:44exactly
00:26:45we get it on
00:26:46really well
00:26:46and I've really
00:26:48contained my energy
00:26:49and I'm just
00:26:50not being
00:26:52the flirt
00:26:53that I was
00:26:54in the first week
00:26:55the balls are in your core
00:26:57but he needs
00:26:58to make the first move
00:27:00I think so
00:27:00on you
00:27:01he needs to approach
00:27:02your court
00:27:03yeah
00:27:04he needs to
00:27:05enter your court
00:27:06he needs to
00:27:07with his balls
00:27:08and his racket
00:27:10no that's just
00:27:12being silly
00:27:12that's taking
00:27:14the court analogy
00:27:15too far
00:27:19he's not
00:27:19he's not leading
00:27:20he's not doing
00:27:21any of that
00:27:22of course he's not
00:27:23and he has the audacity
00:27:25to comment on my marriage
00:27:26give me a break
00:27:31Pac's over there
00:27:32I think this dinner party
00:27:34is going to be
00:27:34an absolute shit storm
00:27:36yeah
00:27:38good luck
00:27:39have you got security
00:27:50here
00:27:51oh look what I'm doing
00:27:52I'm going to pass these around
00:27:53come enjoy
00:27:54oh you're such a mom there
00:27:57Lucinda you're actually incredible
00:27:59Lucinda she's such a gracious
00:28:01lovely lovely lady
00:28:02can I just eat the cantaloupe off
00:28:04and then put the meat back
00:28:05I can do whatever you want
00:28:06gorgeous woman
00:28:07thank you
00:28:08and she just has this calm
00:28:09and relaxed aura
00:28:10about her
00:28:11she's the best
00:28:15I want to find out
00:28:17how Ellie is
00:28:18same
00:28:18that's the I'm concerned
00:28:20because
00:28:20what she said
00:28:22he said
00:28:23is not cool
00:28:25I'm way completely
00:28:26I mean the fact that
00:28:28they went to that dinner
00:28:29and he just like mocked her
00:28:31to the point where she was so upset
00:28:32that she went home in an Uber on her own
00:28:34like
00:28:35that is crazy
00:28:36like he's not here for the right reasons
00:28:38and I feel like he's wasting her time
00:28:43here we go
00:28:47you're not excited
00:28:49I'm just a bit hot
00:28:51um
00:28:54well I'm looking forward to seeing everyone
00:28:57catching up with the girls
00:28:59seeing the boys
00:29:02having a drink
00:29:05it sounds very
00:29:06consoling
00:29:07and manipulative
00:29:08do you know what I am concerned
00:29:09I am concerned that she's gone back
00:29:11and told him
00:29:12that she's relayed what's going on to the girls
00:29:14and he's gone
00:29:15shit
00:29:15I need to coach you
00:29:17why do we make a good team
00:29:19we make a good team
00:29:20because
00:29:20we're the yin and the yang
00:29:22and we balance each other
00:29:24yeah
00:29:25obviously we're going to go in like this
00:29:26like
00:29:27you know
00:29:27a team
00:29:29yeah
00:29:29yeah
00:29:31I feel like what his game plan is
00:29:33he's going to like
00:29:34because
00:29:34if I try and talk to her
00:29:35or get near her
00:29:36I feel like
00:29:36he needs to be in the middle of it
00:29:38like he doesn't want to
00:29:38he's like a bodyguard
00:29:39yeah
00:29:41Ben and Elliot
00:29:42they're going to walk in
00:29:43hand in hand
00:29:44because he's going to do
00:29:45everything he can
00:29:46to make it look like
00:29:47you know
00:29:47they're all good
00:29:48so he doesn't get grilled by the girls
00:29:50he's still going to get grilled by the girls
00:29:52inside
00:29:52woo
00:29:53he's going to come in here
00:29:54putting on a show
00:29:55yeah
00:29:55putting on a show
00:29:56about how amazing everything is
00:29:58and we're going to call the show
00:29:59yeah
00:30:02all right
00:30:03say good day to everyone
00:30:05holding hands
00:30:22the man everyone's waiting to see
00:30:25really glad you guys
00:30:27arrived together
00:30:27because I wasn't sure
00:30:28if that was happening or not
00:30:29oh really
00:30:30yeah yeah
00:30:30I don't know
00:30:31I just heard stuff
00:30:31and I don't know
00:30:32no one was talking specifically
00:30:34but I just had this thought
00:30:35that that might happen
00:30:36and I'm like
00:30:36no we're okay
00:30:37that was quite surprising
00:30:39during our women's workshop
00:30:41Ellie voiced to the group
00:30:43how she had had this experience
00:30:44with Ben
00:30:45where he was mocking her
00:30:46it was great that she spoke up
00:30:47but she likes him so much
00:30:49that I'm afraid
00:30:50that she will allow for things
00:30:52that she knows are not okay
00:30:53Ellie
00:30:54I think we're going to come
00:30:55and have a seat
00:30:56hi
00:30:57how are you my love
00:30:59yeah good
00:31:02I'm just watching Ben right now
00:31:04and do you get a sense
00:31:06that he's aware
00:31:06that the room is partly against him
00:31:09I love the colour
00:31:11bring it on
00:31:12yeah
00:31:13how is everyone
00:31:14good
00:31:14how are you
00:31:15yeah good
00:31:16you better
00:31:17yeah so far so good
00:31:26come see the toy now
00:31:27so we can hear
00:31:29I literally said
00:31:31Ben would get his body
00:31:32and bodyguard her around her
00:31:35so that she could talk to us
00:31:37because he's scared about
00:31:38what she's going to tell us
00:31:41we just wanted to make you okay
00:31:43yeah thank you
00:31:44you're good
00:31:44yeah yeah
00:31:45we're fine
00:31:47we're fine
00:31:48we're fine now
00:31:49but um
00:31:49something else happened
00:31:50on Friday night
00:31:51yeah
00:31:52oh no
00:31:54oh wow
00:31:56something else happened
00:31:57what else happened
00:31:59yeah I just can't
00:32:00I can't talk about it
00:32:02okay
00:32:02if you're not coming to all
00:32:04then don't try it
00:32:04I know
00:32:05yeah
00:32:05you can probably
00:32:06yeah
00:32:08I feel like we should move
00:32:10over somewhere else
00:32:11I suppose it on the couch over there
00:32:13call him on the phone
00:32:13yeah
00:32:15yeah
00:32:15yeah thank you
00:32:19come sit with us
00:32:20I do appreciate Lauren
00:32:23taking this initiative
00:32:24and literally
00:32:25moving her across the room
00:32:27to be able to speak more freely
00:32:29because Ben was hovering
00:32:30right over them
00:32:33wait so after the hours
00:32:34what happened that night
00:32:35let's go from the beginning
00:32:36um so
00:32:38we went to bed
00:32:39and he was like
00:32:40do you really think
00:32:41that I'm your match
00:32:41like we're not a match
00:32:47what
00:32:49and then I just was like
00:32:50so hurt
00:32:51at the time I was like
00:32:52I can't be in the same room
00:32:54like
00:32:54no
00:32:54imagine someone telling you that
00:32:55no that's
00:32:55or you're thinking
00:32:56you have to go to sleep
00:32:57oh no no no
00:32:58I would have been like
00:32:58I'm out of here
00:32:59I'm out of here man
00:33:00yeah see you later
00:33:00so I did go
00:33:01and then we reconnected
00:33:03on Saturday night
00:33:04just you know
00:33:05for a chat and dinner
00:33:06and stuff
00:33:06but he apologised so much
00:33:09he's tried to make it
00:33:10completely right
00:33:11and like I do believe him
00:33:14I think Ben has pulled the wool
00:33:16over Ellie's eyes
00:33:17big time
00:33:20and that's very obvious
00:33:21to everyone
00:33:22but Ellie
00:33:24but did he say
00:33:25why he said that
00:33:26I think the pressure
00:33:28of the experiment
00:33:28just got to him
00:33:29and that's how he reacted
00:33:30he was just telling me
00:33:31I'm not his match
00:33:31I want to leave
00:33:32what about when you were
00:33:33at dinner and you were
00:33:34talking and he was
00:33:35mimicking you
00:33:35and shit
00:33:36yeah and that was
00:33:36another thing as well
00:33:37so it was those two things
00:33:38just imagine how it felt
00:33:40right
00:33:40how's it been
00:33:42going well
00:33:42doing good
00:33:43last few days
00:33:44my next one
00:33:45awesome
00:33:45yeah
00:33:46no I'm grateful
00:33:49so then has he
00:33:49has he said anything
00:33:50about the dinner
00:33:51and what he thought
00:33:52like has he come back
00:33:53from the dinner
00:33:53he's absolutely apologised
00:33:55and apologised to me
00:33:56he got me like flowers
00:33:57um a card
00:33:59like cooked me dinner
00:34:00got me wine
00:34:01we actually have like
00:34:02the best times together
00:34:04is he your person
00:34:05do you see it
00:34:06developing that way
00:34:08would you have babies
00:34:09with him
00:34:09I was hoping so
00:34:12oh my god
00:34:14she's saying
00:34:15oh but it's all good though
00:34:16he's apologised
00:34:17he writes her a card
00:34:19and like
00:34:19well like whatever
00:34:21but like
00:34:22he keeps saying to you
00:34:24that you're not
00:34:24each other's match
00:34:25like
00:34:26to me that's unacceptable
00:34:28when you look at like
00:34:29how he said things to you
00:34:30like
00:34:30we're not the right person
00:34:32like what do you
00:34:32genuinely think
00:34:33he was really stoked
00:34:35when he met me
00:34:36he was like
00:34:36yay I haven't been
00:34:37stitched up
00:34:37and he told me
00:34:39that you know
00:34:40he really wants children
00:34:41he's ready to settle down
00:34:45Ellie is buying
00:34:46what Ben is selling
00:34:47unfortunately
00:34:48I think he's very strategic
00:34:50he's got a good game
00:34:51we don't trust him
00:34:53and we just
00:34:54we have a feeling
00:34:56and like
00:34:57I can totally understand
00:34:58where you're coming from
00:34:59and thank you
00:35:00but like
00:35:01he's showing me ways
00:35:02at the moment
00:35:03of like trying to
00:35:03make it up to me
00:35:04and you know
00:35:05he's like
00:35:05so we're trying to
00:35:06move forward from that
00:35:08so it looks like
00:35:10we have quite a
00:35:11strong connection
00:35:12between the four women here
00:35:13very protective of her
00:35:15so yes
00:35:15I would expect them
00:35:16to come hard
00:35:17at Ben tonight
00:35:18they see right through him
00:35:20that I think is authentic
00:35:21yes
00:35:21and we've seen time and time again
00:35:23in this experiment
00:35:24that the group get really upset
00:35:25when they think someone
00:35:26is being inauthentic
00:35:29there's just a lot
00:35:30a lot of things
00:35:31that just don't add up
00:35:33and if he keeps being
00:35:35like this aggressive
00:35:36confronting person
00:35:38I will ask him
00:35:39we're all gonna happily ask him
00:35:41yes
00:35:42he's gonna get asked
00:35:43more than one question
00:35:44that's for sure
00:35:49ladies and gentlemen
00:35:50dinner is served
00:35:51thanks for the support
00:35:54Ben's in the firing line
00:35:55tonight
00:35:56and
00:35:56he needs to get
00:35:58bulletproof first
00:36:02coming up
00:36:03I think Ben is expecting
00:36:04some questions tonight
00:36:06the group demands
00:36:07answers from Ben
00:36:08Ben is definitely
00:36:10lying
00:36:10I call bullshit
00:36:12that's absolute bullshit
00:36:13thank you
00:36:13it's not a yes or no question
00:36:15it is
00:36:15it is
00:36:16he's full of shit
00:36:17and later
00:36:19Jack's a sexual person
00:36:21you're a sexual person
00:36:22it's not happening
00:36:23it's knives out
00:36:25for Tori and Timothy
00:36:26I'm wondering
00:36:27whether it's gonna last
00:36:28Tori and Jack
00:36:29I still don't buy it
00:36:31there is no connection there
00:36:32I think you guys
00:36:33are all pulling shit
00:36:34out of the air
00:36:35suck it up princess
00:36:36if you don't like it
00:36:37go somewhere else
00:36:58Ben and Ellie
00:37:00walked in hand in hand
00:37:01already Lauren
00:37:02has made mention
00:37:03how annoyed
00:37:04furious
00:37:05agitated she is
00:37:07with Ben's behaviour
00:37:08yeah
00:37:08the girls
00:37:09very much rallied
00:37:11around Ellie
00:37:11I would expect them
00:37:13to come hard
00:37:14at Ben tonight
00:37:15cheers everybody
00:37:17cheers
00:37:18cheers
00:37:19cheers
00:37:20cheers
00:37:21cheers
00:37:22cheers
00:37:22cheers
00:37:23cheers
00:37:24cheers
00:37:24cheers
00:37:25cheers
00:37:26cheers
00:37:26cheers
00:37:27I'm looking at Ben
00:37:28and I'm in that mood
00:37:30right
00:37:30like I feel fired up
00:37:31I don't feel like
00:37:32taking anyone's bullshit
00:37:33and I just feel like
00:37:35calling someone else
00:37:36and I feel like
00:37:36he's gonna be the person
00:37:39how are you
00:37:42okay
00:37:42Ellie obviously
00:37:43disclosed things to us
00:37:46how do you feel about that
00:37:50um
00:37:55you alright
00:37:56yeah yeah yeah
00:37:57um
00:37:59you don't seem
00:38:00you look a bit nervy
00:38:02I think Ben has
00:38:04just expecting
00:38:05some questions
00:38:06tonight
00:38:06it's not nervy
00:38:08it's just
00:38:09I don't know
00:38:09how to say it
00:38:10I'm feeling pretty
00:38:11overwhelmed
00:38:12right now
00:38:14the girls seem
00:38:15pretty riled up
00:38:15about Ben
00:38:16and his actions
00:38:17towards me
00:38:18they told me
00:38:19they were going
00:38:20to question Ben
00:38:21at dinner
00:38:21Ben how do you feel
00:38:24um
00:38:25they want to know
00:38:26why he said
00:38:27that I wasn't as
00:38:28matched
00:38:29why he mocked me
00:38:29I tried to tell them
00:38:31that
00:38:32he was feeling
00:38:33really pressured
00:38:33by the experiment
00:38:34but I don't think
00:38:35that's gonna fly
00:38:36with him
00:38:36just cause we were
00:38:37in the workshop
00:38:38with Ellie
00:38:38and she obviously
00:38:39told us about
00:38:40dinner
00:38:40and the blow up
00:38:42and you know
00:38:42Ellie says one thing
00:38:43and you say
00:38:44something else
00:38:45yeah okay
00:38:46are you guys sleeping
00:38:47in several rooms
00:38:49no no
00:38:50I did
00:38:51last Friday night
00:38:52I took myself
00:38:53off to
00:38:53my own bedroom
00:38:54okay
00:38:55yeah
00:38:55and why
00:39:00I was nearly
00:39:01going to walk
00:39:01out of the experiment
00:39:02really
00:39:02yeah
00:39:03it was just
00:39:04what
00:39:05just everything
00:39:06wasn't
00:39:06too much
00:39:07yeah
00:39:07it was just
00:39:08the pressure
00:39:08of it
00:39:08the pressure
00:39:09of the experiment
00:39:10got to him
00:39:12vague enough
00:39:13to get over the line
00:39:15and get back
00:39:15on track
00:39:16you know
00:39:17it had nothing
00:39:17to do with Ellie
00:39:18like
00:39:18nothing to do
00:39:19with Ellie
00:39:20really
00:39:22that's what
00:39:22you were going
00:39:23to say Ben
00:39:23this is so absurd
00:39:25Ben
00:39:25really
00:39:26how are you
00:39:27going to spin
00:39:27this one
00:39:28hold on
00:39:29hold on
00:39:29wait
00:39:30you told her
00:39:31you told her
00:39:31that she wasn't
00:39:32your match
00:39:33so it wasn't
00:39:33it wasn't
00:39:34not to do
00:39:34with Ellie
00:39:35so that's
00:39:35bullshit
00:39:36I call it
00:39:37bullshit
00:39:39that's
00:39:39absolute
00:39:40bullshit
00:39:41thank you
00:39:43yeah
00:39:45yeah
00:39:47Ben is
00:39:47definitely
00:39:48lying
00:39:49I don't
00:39:50I don't
00:39:50believe a word
00:39:51he says
00:39:52and he just
00:39:53blew up
00:39:53yeah
00:39:53he responded
00:39:54in the way
00:39:54of telling me
00:39:55I wasn't
00:39:56his match
00:39:56and I was like
00:39:57well I'm not
00:39:58going to stay
00:39:58in the same
00:39:59bed as you
00:40:00so I was like
00:40:00I'm out
00:40:01I think the moment
00:40:03he found out
00:40:03that she went
00:40:04public
00:40:05with his
00:40:06mockery of her
00:40:07to the girls
00:40:08and to all of us
00:40:10in the workshop
00:40:11he felt his back
00:40:12against the wall
00:40:13and was like
00:40:14I'm out of here
00:40:15you know
00:40:15he really regrets
00:40:16saying it
00:40:17and I do believe
00:40:18that he does
00:40:18you know
00:40:19he's
00:40:19brought me
00:40:20like flowers
00:40:21wine
00:40:21cooked me dinner
00:40:22and has like
00:40:23written me a long
00:40:24list of like
00:40:25everything he loves
00:40:25about me
00:40:26and she's
00:40:27defending him
00:40:28more than he's
00:40:28defending his own
00:40:29that's right
00:40:30that's right
00:40:30and Ben do you
00:40:31believe that
00:40:31she is your match
00:40:40yeah
00:40:43I don't believe
00:40:44that
00:40:44I don't believe
00:40:44that
00:40:45come on man
00:40:45you can be honest
00:40:46you can say
00:40:47like we're working
00:40:48through it
00:40:50I don't buy
00:40:51Ben's story
00:40:52at all
00:40:54nothing he says
00:40:55seems real
00:40:56to me
00:40:58the reason why
00:40:59I believe we're a match
00:41:00is we get along
00:41:02I'm more of a critical
00:41:03thinker
00:41:03whereas you're more
00:41:05of an emotive
00:41:05sort of outlook
00:41:06positive thinker
00:41:07and it's like
00:41:07a bit of a yin and yang
00:41:10we can just talk
00:41:12and have fun
00:41:13and banter
00:41:13non-stop
00:41:15what is this guy
00:41:16talking about
00:41:17I think he's full of shit
00:41:18and I think Ellie
00:41:19wants to believe
00:41:20what Ben is saying
00:41:21because she wants kids
00:41:22she wants a husband
00:41:23she wants a house
00:41:25she wants a wife
00:41:25who gets fed
00:41:26she really wants to
00:41:27like make this
00:41:27relationship work
00:41:28but Ben is so clearly
00:41:30putting on a show
00:41:31it's like
00:41:33it's wild
00:41:35you've told Ellie
00:41:36definitely already
00:41:37to have kids
00:41:37I'm under the impression
00:41:39that he definitely
00:41:40wants children
00:41:41that's what you said
00:41:42yeah
00:41:46yeah
00:41:47I'm at a stage
00:41:48where I'm ready
00:41:49to settle down
00:41:49if kids are after that
00:41:51yeah
00:41:51that's not a yes or no
00:41:53answer
00:41:53it's not a yes or no
00:41:55question
00:41:55it is
00:41:55it is
00:41:56it is
00:41:57the words are not
00:41:58matching
00:41:58what he's putting forth
00:42:00in terms of affect
00:42:01that's right
00:42:02because you will do
00:42:03anything you can
00:42:04to have them
00:42:05if you want them
00:42:05it doesn't matter
00:42:06if
00:42:06whatever happens
00:42:08if you're 80
00:42:09you'll be like
00:42:09I will find a person
00:42:11and get a surrogate
00:42:12and I will have kids
00:42:13he keeps skipping
00:42:15around the point
00:42:16and it bugs me
00:42:17Ellie is lovely
00:42:19and I feel like
00:42:20he's batting
00:42:21way above his average
00:42:24she seems to be
00:42:25willing to
00:42:26stick by him
00:42:28I don't think
00:42:29that's going to last
00:42:30you're definitely
00:42:31out of saying
00:42:32I don't want to
00:42:33or I'm not sure
00:42:33or whatever
00:42:34but what I'm saying
00:42:35is you need to
00:42:36communicate that
00:42:37very clearly
00:42:37with Ellie
00:42:38because Ellie
00:42:38is here
00:42:39for a reason
00:42:40and she's ready
00:42:41so I feel like
00:42:42what my point
00:42:43of this conversation
00:42:44is to say
00:42:46communicate that
00:42:47clearly
00:42:47say
00:42:47you're allowed
00:42:48to say to her
00:42:49I'm not sure
00:42:49but she needs to know
00:42:51the actual definite answer
00:42:54for people asking
00:42:55Ben a lot of questions
00:42:56he's not doing
00:42:56a lot of answering
00:42:57you know if you said
00:42:58that you didn't want
00:42:59children I'd be like
00:42:59okay all good
00:43:01but Ellie needs to know
00:43:02yeah
00:43:03exactly
00:43:03if these patterns
00:43:05are going to keep repeating
00:43:06well then this isn't
00:43:07going to work
00:43:07you know what I mean
00:43:09Tom will tell
00:43:10Tom will tell
00:43:10no no you should
00:43:11have that answer
00:43:12you should absolutely
00:43:13have that answer
00:43:13exactly
00:43:14she's a lovely
00:43:15beautiful girl
00:43:16I just don't know
00:43:16why you'd say that
00:43:17that's what I'm saying
00:43:18I'm not done
00:43:19with this conversation
00:43:20with Ben
00:43:21he doesn't know
00:43:21he doesn't know
00:43:22I literally cannot
00:43:24see him skating through
00:43:25this he skates
00:43:26through everything
00:43:26and it's like
00:43:27he's full of shit
00:43:27I feel like
00:43:29he's wasting your time
00:43:31coming up
00:43:32what makes
00:43:33their relationship fake
00:43:34the sex thing
00:43:35Timothy and Tori
00:43:37face off
00:43:38Jack's a sexual person
00:43:40you're a sexual person
00:43:41it's not happening
00:43:42you just really need
00:43:44to focus on your yard
00:43:45there is no connection there
00:43:49I just wanted to hide
00:43:50in my little shell
00:44:06I've lost some ranch
00:44:09Tim do you want to do
00:44:10Tim do you want to do eye gazing
00:44:12with me over the table
00:44:14do you want to do eye gazing
00:44:16not right now
00:44:19I'm just like
00:44:20that's so pervy
00:44:21Jono
00:44:22I can't help
00:44:23I got the pervy
00:44:23going
00:44:24I can't help it
00:44:30Jesus Christ
00:44:31big love fest
00:44:33looking around
00:44:34I still think
00:44:35Tori and Jack
00:44:36are full of shit
00:44:36did you get that cast?
00:44:38we've got the genital puppy
00:44:39Tori and Jack
00:44:40they haven't had sex yet
00:44:41I mean he's into
00:44:42some weird shit
00:44:44there's no question there
00:44:45I mean
00:44:46he takes it to
00:44:47a whole different level
00:44:49I still don't buy it
00:44:50how did you stand?
00:44:52because we stood
00:44:52legs wide apart
00:44:54kind of hunched
00:44:56Jack had his leg
00:44:57up on the table
00:44:57and it was like
00:44:58it was a lot
00:45:00it was a lot
00:45:01bullshit
00:45:03this is bullshit
00:45:05oh are you alright
00:45:06you look disgruntled
00:45:09Timothy's absolutely
00:45:10a shit stirrer
00:45:11Jack and I
00:45:12are like so united
00:45:13on the same page
00:45:14like we are super solid
00:45:16so let's go
00:45:17honestly
00:45:20you're very vocal
00:45:21about the authenticity
00:45:22of us
00:45:25I just thought
00:45:26it was a rich comment
00:45:27coming through
00:45:27we're all judging
00:45:29each other
00:45:29make no mistake
00:45:30about that
00:45:31no incorrect
00:45:32I'm not judging
00:45:33anyone at this table
00:45:33so what were the
00:45:34comments
00:45:35like it's about
00:45:36me and my wife
00:45:36what were they
00:45:37whether it's
00:45:38whether it's
00:45:39whether it's
00:45:39whether it's real
00:45:40whether it's real
00:45:41or not
00:45:41do you think
00:45:42we go home at night
00:45:43sleep in separate rooms
00:45:45like eat in separate rooms
00:45:47who knows
00:45:47I don't know
00:45:48it's just
00:45:49it's a comment
00:45:49it's just
00:45:50it's just an observation
00:45:51why do you feel
00:45:53that their relationship
00:45:53is fake
00:45:54what makes
00:45:55their relationship fake
00:45:56the sex thing
00:45:57you know
00:45:57Jack's a sexual person
00:46:01you're a sexual person
00:46:02it's not happening
00:46:05there's no problem
00:46:06with having an opinion
00:46:07I sit there
00:46:08and I've got an opinion
00:46:09on everything
00:46:11you know
00:46:11that's my
00:46:12that's my
00:46:13that's my right
00:46:14and that's my duty
00:46:15you know
00:46:15we don't live
00:46:16in a communist country
00:46:17and I can say anything
00:46:18about anyone
00:46:19at any time
00:46:20suck it up princess
00:46:21if you don't like it
00:46:22go somewhere else
00:46:23I'm just
00:46:24I'm wondering
00:46:25whether it's gonna last
00:46:26there is respectfully
00:46:28I have a lot of respect
00:46:29for you
00:46:29Lucinda
00:46:30there is no connection there
00:46:33there is connection here
00:46:35there is progress here
00:46:37we are leaps and bounds
00:46:39ahead
00:46:40of people
00:46:41that maybe even
00:46:42are sleeping together
00:46:43on a connection level
00:46:44so you are judging
00:46:46your relationship
00:46:47on others
00:46:47no absolutely not
00:46:48because you just said
00:46:49we're leaps and bounds
00:46:49ahead of others
00:46:50I think
00:46:51you just really need
00:46:53to focus on your yard
00:46:54before you comment
00:46:56on specifically
00:46:56the people
00:46:58that are happy
00:46:59yard
00:46:59you know what
00:47:00as much as you want
00:47:01to throw it back at me
00:47:02the slow burn thing
00:47:04is actually real
00:47:05all my relationships
00:47:06has started
00:47:07with a good friendship
00:47:07and I can definitely
00:47:09see a bond happening
00:47:10with Lucinda
00:47:11she's actually quite
00:47:13a gentle soul
00:47:15but Jack and Tori
00:47:16I'm not buying
00:47:17the whole slow burn thing
00:47:19I reckon they're
00:47:20on the way out
00:47:23it's like
00:47:23they can call
00:47:24bullshit on me
00:47:25I call bullshit on her
00:47:28my last two
00:47:29relationships
00:47:30I didn't even
00:47:30look at them
00:47:31like they were
00:47:32relationships
00:47:32like I knew
00:47:33that person
00:47:34for a year
00:47:34I didn't even
00:47:35look at them
00:47:35like they were
00:47:36they were
00:47:37a pretend
00:47:37you know
00:47:38it was just
00:47:38over time
00:47:39I hung out
00:47:39with them
00:47:40weren't they
00:47:40like 23 years old
00:47:41huh
00:47:42wasn't one of them
00:47:4323
00:47:46look
00:47:47let's not get
00:47:48into the finer
00:47:48details of it
00:47:49alright
00:47:50I've dated girls
00:47:51from 53
00:47:53to 23
00:47:54your opinion
00:47:55to me
00:47:55doesn't matter
00:47:56get over it
00:47:57like I don't
00:47:59have a
00:47:59stereotypical type
00:48:01you know
00:48:02and I've said
00:48:03the same tune
00:48:04you know
00:48:05if I
00:48:06connect with
00:48:07somebody
00:48:07over a period
00:48:08of time
00:48:09you know
00:48:09we end up
00:48:10dating
00:48:10I think you guys
00:48:11are all pulling
00:48:12shit out of the air
00:48:14let's see where
00:48:15we're all standing
00:48:16in a couple of weeks
00:48:17I think Timothy
00:48:18is really spiralling
00:48:19here
00:48:20and in the process
00:48:21he continues
00:48:22to hurt
00:48:22and
00:48:24really humiliate
00:48:25Lucinda
00:48:26he's just provoking
00:48:27the entire group
00:48:28and he just sits back
00:48:29and sort of
00:48:30smirks at them
00:48:31Tim I just think
00:48:32you're clutching
00:48:33buddy
00:48:33like you're
00:48:34clutching
00:48:35of nothing
00:48:35so that's an opinion
00:48:36what's an opinion
00:48:38the clutching thing
00:48:39but you are
00:48:40okay
00:48:41you're like
00:48:42oh you mustn't
00:48:42like each other
00:48:43you're not
00:48:43sleeping together
00:48:44you don't even
00:48:45like your wife
00:48:47oh that's
00:48:48that's a little bit cruel
00:48:49that's a little bit
00:48:50bullshit
00:48:53I feel
00:48:54a bit humiliated
00:48:57people sort of
00:48:58throwing back and forth
00:48:59oh you know
00:49:00are you attracted
00:49:01to your wife
00:49:02and how about
00:49:03the 23 year old
00:49:05and like
00:49:05it's just
00:49:06it's a little bit
00:49:07I just wanted to hide
00:49:08in my little shell
00:49:09and sort of
00:49:10yeah
00:49:10I was quite
00:49:13uncomfortable
00:49:14to be completely
00:49:15honest with all of us
00:49:16what does Lucinda
00:49:17think in this situation
00:49:18can we hear from Lucinda
00:49:20I've got to say
00:49:21at this point
00:49:21I'm still assessing
00:49:23if Tim's for me
00:49:24yes
00:49:25you know
00:49:26like let's not
00:49:27discard that
00:49:28because I've
00:49:29I've been in a deep
00:49:30space the last week
00:49:31where I'm actually
00:49:32going
00:49:33what am I signing up
00:49:34for
00:49:34yes
00:49:35you're assessing
00:49:36because actually
00:49:36the lifestyle
00:49:37is really different
00:49:38he's a television
00:49:38watcher
00:49:39he has lots
00:49:40of sugar
00:49:41he is into
00:49:42things and not
00:49:42into things
00:49:43you need to be
00:49:44aware of your
00:49:45own needs
00:49:45absolutely
00:49:46so I'm wondering
00:49:47actually if it's
00:49:48for me
00:49:49so that's where
00:49:50we're at
00:49:50I mean I really
00:49:51am right now
00:49:53in the assessment
00:49:54seat
00:49:54wondering
00:49:56when this is
00:49:57for me
00:49:58at all
00:49:58and
00:50:00you know
00:50:00all this explosion
00:50:02happening around
00:50:02and yeah
00:50:03I actually just
00:50:04wanted to crawl
00:50:05into a hole
00:50:05and get under
00:50:07the doona cover
00:50:07and
00:50:09not even be
00:50:10around it
00:50:11I just felt
00:50:12a bit sick
00:50:15coming up
00:50:16so are you saying
00:50:17that you think
00:50:17you're trying
00:50:18and Sarah's not
00:50:20I feel like
00:50:20we're both
00:50:21trying
00:50:23tensions rise
00:50:24I was let down
00:50:25about you bailing
00:50:26on the third
00:50:27date in a row
00:50:27I was disappointed
00:50:28when Tim reaches
00:50:30breaking point
00:50:30I was just trying
00:50:31to communicate
00:50:32with you
00:50:32with Sarah
00:50:33he actually
00:50:34didn't even
00:50:34plan anything
00:50:35to me
00:50:35I'm like confident
00:50:36no you didn't
00:50:38yes I did
00:50:39shutting me down
00:50:40don't you ever
00:50:42yell at me
00:50:50I just wanted
00:50:52to go around
00:50:52the table
00:50:52with a quick
00:50:53yes no answer me
00:50:54all the way
00:50:55around quick
00:50:55do you like
00:50:57a tongue
00:50:58in your ear hole
00:51:00what
00:51:03hate it
00:51:04no
00:51:05do you like
00:51:06a tongue
00:51:06in your ear hole
00:51:07absolutely not
00:51:08no no
00:51:08anyone
00:51:09yeah barbie
00:51:10yeah
00:51:12I don't actually know
00:51:16I'll try it later
00:51:17and he'll tell me
00:51:18tomorrow
00:51:19what about you
00:51:21Dickie
00:51:21what about you Dickie
00:51:22yes from me
00:51:25hence the question
00:51:31what's up honey
00:51:32yeah he's tired
00:51:33and hungry
00:51:36all the fun about
00:51:37how are you
00:51:37doing all good
00:51:39love you two so much
00:51:41how are you
00:51:42going
00:51:42Tristan from the moment
00:51:44he put this ring
00:51:45on my finger
00:51:46has treated me
00:51:47with care
00:51:48respect
00:51:49like he's put
00:51:50my happiness
00:51:51before his own
00:51:52which we
00:51:53haven't doubted that
00:51:54no
00:51:54not one second
00:51:56yeah
00:51:56he is absolutely
00:51:58amazing
00:51:58and we are
00:51:59working through
00:52:00a shit time
00:52:02excuse my language
00:52:03but we are
00:52:03mentally
00:52:04physically
00:52:05alone
00:52:07together we're
00:52:07working on
00:52:08everything that you
00:52:09can think of
00:52:10to make this work
00:52:12I think they had
00:52:13a bit of a
00:52:13breakthrough
00:52:14after I saw them
00:52:16I am so happy
00:52:17that they're getting
00:52:18real
00:52:18yeah
00:52:19and if they're
00:52:20able to
00:52:21get through
00:52:22these issues
00:52:23and learn to
00:52:24communicate better
00:52:26and understand
00:52:27each other better
00:52:28then it's going to
00:52:28be very positive
00:52:29obviously I care about
00:52:31Cass a whole big
00:52:31bunch you know
00:52:32and I'm trying to
00:52:33get out my stupid
00:52:34comfort zone
00:52:34which I've been
00:52:35getting at every day
00:52:36but it's good
00:52:37because this morning
00:52:38I got up extra early
00:52:39went to the gym
00:52:40you know to train
00:52:41and then brought
00:52:42flowers for my
00:52:42lovely lady
00:52:44the biggest flowers
00:52:45I've ever seen
00:52:46in my life
00:52:46really
00:52:47yeah
00:52:48amazing
00:52:49beautiful
00:52:50Tristan and I
00:52:51went man
00:52:51we are good
00:52:54we're both trying
00:52:55really hard
00:52:56and I'm
00:52:57feeling positive
00:52:58about our
00:52:59relationship
00:52:59let me just
00:53:00kick back
00:53:01with my husband
00:53:02let's just
00:53:03drink some wine
00:53:04all right
00:53:08Timmy
00:53:08what's going on
00:53:09buddy
00:53:09how you doing
00:53:10buddy
00:53:10what's happening
00:53:11how you been
00:53:11traveling the last
00:53:12few days
00:53:13I don't know
00:53:16it's been a tricky
00:53:17few days
00:53:17isn't it
00:53:20I think we're
00:53:21on kind of
00:53:21different pages
00:53:22about things
00:53:23you know
00:53:23like in terms
00:53:24of like putting
00:53:25effort in
00:53:25and like actually
00:53:26trying to make
00:53:27this relationship
00:53:28work
00:53:30so are you
00:53:31saying that you
00:53:31think you're
00:53:32trying and
00:53:32Sarah's not
00:53:35I feel like
00:53:36we're both
00:53:37trying
00:53:39but I'm
00:53:40being portrayed
00:53:41as like a
00:53:41needy
00:53:41like insecure
00:53:43person
00:53:45and I was
00:53:46let down
00:53:46about you
00:53:47bailing on
00:53:47the third
00:53:48date in a row
00:53:49I was let
00:53:49down
00:53:49I was
00:53:50disappointed
00:53:52if I planned
00:53:53three dates
00:53:55for Trist
00:53:55and he cancelled
00:53:56every single
00:53:57one of them
00:53:58I would be
00:53:58so upset
00:53:59like I would
00:54:00I would take
00:54:01it personally
00:54:02I would be like
00:54:02this person
00:54:03doesn't want
00:54:03anything to do
00:54:04with me
00:54:04I'm trying
00:54:05my hardest
00:54:05so I kind
00:54:06of just felt
00:54:07for Tim
00:54:07he's trying
00:54:11three dates
00:54:12I am trying
00:54:14with Tim
00:54:15but I'm
00:54:16at this point
00:54:17in time
00:54:17living together
00:54:18with a man
00:54:1924 hours a day
00:54:21is a lot
00:54:22for a lot
00:54:22of us
00:54:23as we can
00:54:23all agree
00:54:24Sarah
00:54:26Sarah
00:54:30Sarah
00:54:30I just want
00:54:31to ask you
00:54:32because he
00:54:32just said
00:54:33he's planned
00:54:33three dates
00:54:34with you
00:54:34and we've
00:54:35left everything
00:54:36behind to be
00:54:37here for this
00:54:38experiment
00:54:38literally blocked
00:54:39out this time
00:54:40to find a husband
00:54:41and you've
00:54:41cancelled on
00:54:42three dates
00:54:42your purpose
00:54:43and priority
00:54:44is your husband
00:54:44to be here
00:54:45and to try
00:54:45and make it
00:54:45work
00:54:46thank you
00:54:47great point
00:54:49great call
00:54:50the bailing
00:54:51of the dates
00:54:51is huge
00:54:52the first two days
00:54:54we hadn't had
00:54:54good weeks
00:54:55let me just be
00:54:56very clear about that
00:54:57I was not ready
00:54:58to have a date
00:54:59with Tim
00:54:59we weren't in a good place
00:55:00me and Cass
00:55:01had some bad weeks
00:55:02nice to organise
00:55:02a date with her
00:55:03I didn't want to have
00:55:04a date with Tim
00:55:04I wasn't in a good place
00:55:05she gets very defensive
00:55:07she doesn't see any sort of
00:55:09insight into her role
00:55:11in any of this
00:55:12what I feel like
00:55:13is the problem here
00:55:14is that
00:55:15I feel like
00:55:16I've tried to make
00:55:17this work
00:55:18in about as much
00:55:20as I can possibly
00:55:20give him in this
00:55:21present moment
00:55:22I was just trying
00:55:23to communicate with you
00:55:24that's all I was doing
00:55:24I know but to me
00:55:25I'm like confident
00:55:26let me finish
00:55:26I'm glad Tim
00:55:27has got a voice
00:55:28I'm sorry
00:55:29I liked him too
00:55:32but I never said
00:55:34there was anything
00:55:34wrong with that
00:55:35let's just make
00:55:36that very clear
00:55:37I never said
00:55:39there was anything
00:55:39wrong with that
00:55:40the problem was
00:55:41he actually didn't
00:55:42even plan anything
00:55:43like he didn't
00:55:44actually say
00:55:44we're going here
00:55:45we're doing this
00:55:46he just said
00:55:46let's do something
00:55:47on Sunday
00:55:48like it's literally
00:55:49nah I was like
00:55:50you're booked out
00:55:50from 2pm
00:55:51we had something nice
00:55:52no you didn't
00:55:52yes I did
00:55:53you can't shut me down
00:55:55don't yell at me
00:55:56don't yell at me
00:55:56you're shutting me down
00:55:57you're not
00:55:57have a voice
00:55:58you're not letting
00:56:00me have a voice
00:56:00yes
00:56:03don't you ever
00:56:04yell at me
00:56:08you prick
00:56:19he actually
00:56:20didn't even
00:56:20plan anything
00:56:21like he didn't
00:56:22actually say
00:56:22we're going here
00:56:23and we're doing this
00:56:24he just said
00:56:24let's do something
00:56:25on Sunday
00:56:26like it's literally
00:56:27nah I was like
00:56:28you're booked out
00:56:28from 2pm
00:56:29we had something nice
00:56:30yes I did
00:56:31I did that
00:56:32no you shut me down
00:56:33you're shutting me down
00:56:34you have a voice
00:56:35you're not letting me
00:56:36have a voice
00:56:37yes
00:56:39don't you ever
00:56:41yell at me
00:56:43Sarah
00:56:44Sarah
00:56:44you f***ing prick
00:56:47over here
00:56:48over here
00:56:50wow
00:56:51and she has been
00:56:52very loud
00:56:53with the way
00:56:54she's spoken
00:56:54the whole time
00:56:55and eventually
00:56:56it escalates
00:56:56she's pushed him
00:56:58to the edge
00:56:59over here
00:57:00f***ing me
00:57:00you alright
00:57:01f***ing me
00:57:02are you serious
00:57:03yes
00:57:04dude
00:57:04breaking point
00:57:06ah
00:57:06I shouldn't have
00:57:08raised my voice
00:57:09like that
00:57:09now
00:57:09I'm disappointed
00:57:10in myself
00:57:10we've had a very
00:57:12turbulent relationship
00:57:13already
00:57:14and it's been tricky
00:57:15trying to navigate
00:57:16her emotions
00:57:17and her reactivity
00:57:18like I'm patient
00:57:19I'm a patient guy
00:57:20but I'm just
00:57:21constantly being
00:57:22shut down
00:57:22and just spoken over
00:57:24I'm sick of being
00:57:24told what I did
00:57:25or what I didn't do
00:57:26when I know
00:57:27what I'm doing
00:57:29like I've been
00:57:29trying to get her
00:57:30on a date
00:57:30for three weeks
00:57:31now
00:57:32how am I supposed
00:57:32to be assertive
00:57:33it's like we're
00:57:33going here
00:57:34we're doing this
00:57:35and then she just
00:57:36doesn't she doesn't
00:57:37respect the plans
00:57:38that are made
00:57:39and you know
00:57:40this happened
00:57:40three weeks in a row
00:57:41so of course
00:57:42I was disappointed
00:57:43I was let down
00:57:43to me that just
00:57:45shows where her
00:57:46priorities are
00:57:46I understand
00:57:49why you just
00:57:51like you've been
00:57:52on a banjo string
00:57:53I'm just over it
00:57:54man like being
00:57:55talked over nonstop
00:57:56like just like that
00:57:57exactly what happened
00:57:58then
00:57:58I'm talking
00:57:59and then she just
00:58:00cuts off
00:58:00and tells her
00:58:01version of the story
00:58:03but I shouldn't
00:58:04have yelled
00:58:04I shouldn't have
00:58:05raised my voice
00:58:05it was out of
00:58:06character for me
00:58:07to shout for sure
00:58:08I do regret
00:58:09raising my voice
00:58:11yeah I know
00:58:12better than that
00:58:13literally never
00:58:14yell in my face
00:58:15again
00:58:15never yell
00:58:17in my face
00:58:17again
00:58:18Tim is constantly
00:58:19saying that he's
00:58:20not being heard
00:58:22when he had the
00:58:23space to speak
00:58:24about his feelings
00:58:24he said that he
00:58:26had planned a date
00:58:27and said be there
00:58:27at 2pm Sunday
00:58:29I was like
00:58:29I'm sorry
00:58:31I'm allowed to
00:58:32have the weekend
00:58:33to myself
00:58:33Tim's really upset
00:58:35about the dates
00:58:35which I think is so
00:58:37silly
00:58:38I wanted to see
00:58:39my girlfriend
00:58:39on the weekend
00:58:41I just feel like
00:58:42that shouldn't be
00:58:42a problem
00:58:43like he's being
00:58:44too needy
00:58:46I was being attacked
00:58:49he's being
00:58:49egged on by the guys
00:58:50and he's all of a
00:58:52sudden a confident
00:58:52dude
00:58:56Sarah
00:58:56I also just think
00:58:58though
00:58:58don't go back in there
00:58:59until you've had a
00:59:01moment
00:59:01to like
00:59:02deep breath
00:59:03because you're
00:59:03worked up
00:59:04and I'd be
00:59:04worked up too
00:59:05I don't think
00:59:05there's anything
00:59:06wrong with that
00:59:06but you need
00:59:06to take a deep
00:59:07breath
00:59:08Sarah's my girl
00:59:09so I'm always
00:59:10going to have
00:59:10Sarah's back
00:59:10and I want to
00:59:11make sure
00:59:11she's okay
00:59:12but I think
00:59:13that there's
00:59:14wrongs on both
00:59:15sides
00:59:15and they both
00:59:16need to find
00:59:17a middle ground
00:59:19I agree
00:59:21wholeheartedly
00:59:21with Eden
00:59:22you can't go
00:59:22in there
00:59:23fired
00:59:25she pointed
00:59:26screamed and
00:59:26swore on his
00:59:27face as well
00:59:29it's alright
00:59:29it's alright
00:59:30just deep breaths
00:59:30deep breaths
00:59:31I was just like
00:59:32staring
00:59:32and I don't
00:59:33think that's fair
00:59:34that Tim
00:59:34gets all the
00:59:35blame for it
00:59:36at the end
00:59:37of the day
00:59:37Sarah was the
00:59:38one cancelling
00:59:39the dates
00:59:39you know
00:59:40what I mean
00:59:41relax your
00:59:42shoulders
00:59:42you're tense
00:59:46it's been a
00:59:47day
00:59:47it's been a
00:59:47few days
00:59:50one of the
00:59:51things that's
00:59:51really big for
00:59:52me is having
00:59:52a voice and
00:59:53a relationship
00:59:53and being
00:59:54heard
00:59:54that's why
00:59:55I blew up
00:59:56I only have
00:59:57ever yelled
00:59:58ever
00:59:59literally
01:00:00in situations
01:00:01where I've
01:00:02been talking
01:00:03and just
01:00:03constantly
01:00:04been talked
01:00:04over
01:00:04Sarah
01:00:06just doesn't
01:00:07have the
01:00:08ability to
01:00:10listen
01:00:10and hear
01:00:11what he's
01:00:12trying to
01:00:13say
01:00:13she's very
01:00:14reactive
01:00:15she doesn't
01:00:15let Tim
01:00:16finish his
01:00:16sentences
01:00:17but I think
01:00:18the poor guy
01:00:18was just at
01:00:19a point
01:00:20of no return
01:00:21after all
01:00:22like he's a
01:00:23man with a
01:00:23voice
01:00:24he's a great
01:00:24guy
01:00:24just let him
01:00:26speak
01:00:27I think we
01:00:28all blow up
01:00:30and we all
01:00:31react
01:00:31I'm a very
01:00:32reactive person
01:00:35but you know
01:00:37it was a
01:00:38reaction
01:00:38you know
01:00:39it was not
01:00:39great
01:00:40yeah I regret
01:00:41raising my
01:00:41voice
01:00:42I regret that
01:00:43I'm disappointed
01:00:44in myself for
01:00:44doing that
01:00:45100%
01:00:46I need to
01:00:47apologise to
01:00:48Sarah
01:00:48that's the first
01:00:49thing that needs
01:00:50to happen
01:00:50I need to
01:00:50apologise to
01:00:52it'll be really
01:00:52interesting next
01:00:53time we meet
01:00:54Sarah and Tim
01:00:55on the couch
01:00:56to talk to her
01:00:57about accountability
01:00:58and what role
01:00:59she's playing
01:00:59in the problems
01:01:00here
01:01:00because my sense
01:01:01is she doesn't
01:01:02see herself
01:01:02having any role
01:01:03in the problems
01:01:04it's a shame
01:01:05he blew up
01:01:06and wasn't able
01:01:07to simply
01:01:07start communicating
01:01:08earlier along
01:01:09in the process
01:01:10because he's
01:01:11been holding
01:01:11this in
01:01:11for weeks
01:01:12now
01:01:12yeah
01:01:12that's right
01:01:13and that's
01:01:14why he blew up
01:01:15and that's
01:01:15why he blew up
01:01:19I need to
01:01:21apologise
01:01:21because I
01:01:21don't feel
01:01:22comfortable
01:01:22with the fact
01:01:23that we
01:01:23ended at that
01:01:26I'm not happy
01:01:26with my behaviour
01:01:27there
01:01:28do you want to
01:01:29go and have a
01:01:29time or tour
01:01:34both of us
01:01:34are not really
01:01:35seeing eye to eye
01:01:36in this situation
01:01:39I just hope
01:01:40we can have
01:01:40communication
01:01:41like adults
01:01:41should
01:01:42you know
01:02:19you know
01:02:22look firstly
01:02:22I want to apologise
01:02:23for raising my voice
01:02:24to you
01:02:25because that's
01:02:25unknown
01:02:26you know
01:02:27just trying to
01:02:27communicate with you
01:02:28it did feel like
01:02:29I didn't really have
01:02:30a voice in that
01:02:31situation
01:02:31and I felt like
01:02:32when I was trying
01:02:33to talk
01:02:34that I didn't get
01:02:35that
01:02:35so that's
01:02:36that's why
01:02:36that happened
01:02:37but clearly
01:02:38we have
01:02:38a lot of stuff
01:02:39to work out
01:02:40and I would love
01:02:41to be able
01:02:42to work it out
01:02:42with you
01:02:43just like this
01:02:44just talking
01:02:45you know
01:02:46because
01:02:47I feel like
01:02:48we have potential
01:02:49and I feel like
01:02:50we're just like
01:02:50really not
01:02:51matching each other's
01:02:52communication styles
01:02:54yeah
01:02:55and I was
01:02:56speaking
01:02:56and I felt like
01:02:57I wasn't able
01:02:58to finish
01:02:58what I was trying
01:02:59to say
01:02:59that's why
01:03:00I raised my voice
01:03:01so I apologise
01:03:02for raising my voice
01:03:03because that's not
01:03:04I don't want to be
01:03:05in that position
01:03:06I don't want to be
01:03:06that person
01:03:09there's no reason
01:03:10for that
01:03:10for that to happen
01:03:12at all
01:03:13you should never
01:03:14raise your voice
01:03:14at someone
01:03:15just saying
01:03:15you should give
01:03:17someone the voice
01:03:17you have plenty
01:03:18of time to speak
01:03:18I didn't
01:03:19don't make it seem
01:03:20like you do not
01:03:20have the room
01:03:22do not say
01:03:23that you didn't
01:03:24have time to speak
01:03:25don't say that
01:03:26don't say that
01:03:26Tim
01:03:27you had plenty
01:03:27of time to speak
01:03:29I just can't
01:03:30catch break
01:03:30I'm just constantly
01:03:32being spoken over
01:03:33you know
01:03:33and so my patience
01:03:34is just one
01:03:35really thin
01:03:39like
01:03:40say how you feel
01:03:41on a normal
01:03:41day to day basis
01:03:42maybe you wouldn't
01:03:43blow up the way
01:03:44that you've blown up
01:03:45this is up to you
01:03:47up to you
01:03:48to figure out
01:03:48how to verbalise
01:03:49your emotions
01:03:50and say how you feel
01:03:51without tiptoeing around it
01:03:53or talking in circles
01:03:54we're just seeing
01:03:55the pattern unfold again
01:03:57he's tried to repair
01:03:59she said
01:04:00this is just not good enough
01:04:01when I asked you
01:04:02to talk about it there
01:04:03you didn't want
01:04:03to talk about it
01:04:04he's literally offered
01:04:06he's apologising
01:04:06that olive branch
01:04:09and she's bitten it off
01:04:10you were being egged on
01:04:11by the boys
01:04:12and you had
01:04:13you had your moment
01:04:14where you felt like
01:04:15you could do that
01:04:16that was the reason
01:04:17you had a little yell
01:04:19all the guys
01:04:20were egging you on
01:04:21they weren't egging me on
01:04:21they were
01:04:22go Tim
01:04:23say what you feel
01:04:24don't let her know
01:04:24it's me
01:04:25like come on
01:04:27Tim
01:04:29you know
01:04:30I just needed
01:04:32some time
01:04:32you've had your time
01:04:34so why don't you
01:04:34respect my time
01:04:35I'm not doing this
01:04:36because you're yelling again
01:04:39yelling again
01:04:39you said you wouldn't do it
01:04:43Sarah
01:04:44I should have walked out
01:04:45is he alright
01:04:48I'm not doing this
01:04:50I need respect
01:04:51in a relationship
01:04:52everyone needs respect
01:04:55all I need is to feel her
01:04:56and be acknowledged
01:04:58like you know
01:04:58I don't need her to go
01:05:00and change who she is
01:05:02or anything like that
01:05:02I just need her to say
01:05:03look I hear you
01:05:04I feel you
01:05:05can I please leave
01:05:06but I can't handle a girl
01:05:09who just doesn't take
01:05:09responsibility for anything
01:05:11I'm not overly hopeful
01:05:13for us right now
01:05:17and I guess I'm just sort of
01:05:19trying to figure out
01:05:21where that leaves us
01:05:31Australia
01:05:31I am curious
01:05:33how do you feel
01:05:34about one another
01:05:35I'm head over heels
01:05:36it's time
01:05:38I'm thinking
01:05:39you don't want
01:05:40to be with her
01:05:41to come clean
01:05:43do you really
01:05:44want to be here
01:05:46this Sunday
01:05:49love
01:05:49you pushed him
01:05:51to the point
01:05:51that he exploded
01:05:55he yelled at me
01:05:56oh my god
01:05:58has nowhere
01:06:01are you maybe
01:06:02afraid of her
01:06:03to hide
01:06:04Timothy you have
01:06:06some opinions
01:06:07please share
01:06:08I don't regret
01:06:10anything I said
01:06:12I do hope
01:06:13the tin
01:06:14it would be lovely
01:06:17to tickle
01:06:18the possibility
01:06:18an almighty
01:06:20must see
01:06:21Sunday
01:06:21then
01:06:22Monday
01:06:23three new
01:06:25weddings
01:06:25turn the experiment
01:06:27on its head
01:06:29I love you
01:06:29I love you
01:06:29to see you
01:06:29on my feet
01:06:29I love you
01:06:29I love you
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