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00:00:1018 singles across the country met for the first time at the Isle oh wow and
00:00:20married at first sight it was perfect it was ten out of ten you'd be no
00:00:26passion you give me nothing you just give me like autopilot an intense intimacy
00:00:31week he marks you yeah I just didn't have a spark of I want to have sex with this
00:00:36girl I call bull on that one led to the second dinner party it's not a yes or
00:00:41no question where Timothy Jack's a sexual person it's not happening you're
00:00:50clutching of nothing went hard on Tori and Jack I'm just I'm wondering whether it's
00:00:56gonna last you don't even like you why oh that's that's a little bit cruel but I
00:01:01didn't want to have a date with Tim I wasn't in a good place but when Sarah
00:01:04canceled three dates on Tim their relationship inflow tonight Wow I have a
00:01:21big crush on Dayton it's the second commitment ceremony we have been really
00:01:26attentive and enjoying each other and love is in the air there we go honey I love
00:01:33you guys in a bit before Sarah faces the firing line you were behaving in a really
00:01:40aggressive way your anger your pointing as expert Mel applies the pressure we were in
00:01:48shock and asks the question everyone wants to know what's the genuine reason that you
00:01:54canceled on him three times so but it's not just Mel that will hold people to account Ben that's as
00:02:04bad as it gets
00:02:05as expert John turns up the heat on Ben you're mocking her you have discussed
00:02:11you're a wrong match for me so you've got to come clean with me do you really want to be
00:02:15here
00:02:20and you seem hurt it's a side to Lucinda I was humiliated we've never seen before
00:02:29to stand by somebody that was very happy to point the finger and not be humble as she calls out
00:02:37Timothy for his recent tirade your in one of the most powerful sessions on the couch that's not my jam
00:03:04it's the morning of the second commitment ceremony and as our couples wake up they're still reeling
00:03:12from last night's drama
00:03:19well I'm exhausted I don't know about you
00:03:22how you feeling exhausted oh my gosh
00:03:26yeah crazy night last night
00:03:32oh hi
00:03:34about to make your morning
00:03:36is that for me
00:03:37thought you had a big night last night
00:03:39thanks
00:03:41how you feeling
00:03:42thanks
00:03:42um
00:03:44I feel like
00:03:47emotionally exhausted
00:03:48yeah
00:03:50Tori and Jack's relationship was put under the spotlight last night
00:03:54when Timothy questioned their authenticity
00:03:57why do you feel that their relationship is fake what makes their relationship fake
00:04:02the sex thing you know it's not happening I'm just I'm wondering whether it's gonna last
00:04:08last night's dinner party was a circus with really badly trained circus animals
00:04:14I don't want to argue with stupidity
00:04:18Timothy he's the epitome of stupidity
00:04:21I'm exhausted from having the back and forth with Timothy and I feel super tired having to defend my relationship
00:04:29with Jack just because we still haven't had sex
00:04:31there's no credit there I think he's just picking at us because we're younger and we're stronger and you handled
00:04:37him no worries babe no worries at all
00:04:39thank you
00:04:40last night was a lot but I think Tori and I we were united so you know we get the
00:04:45floor we get questioned we answer it we come together and yeah it creates a really special bond
00:04:50and you can't fake that
00:04:52well I was at the gym expending some energy
00:04:55so I thought I would write you a little letter
00:04:57you wrote me a letter
00:04:59a little bit of a letter
00:05:00I just wanted to do something for Tori this morning so let her know I'm thinking about her
00:05:06things I love about Tori
00:05:11go on
00:05:12I love the way you make our bed
00:05:14I love the way you put a grin on my head
00:05:18I love it when you cuddle me at night
00:05:20I love it when you put up a fight like last night
00:05:25I love the way you make me feel
00:05:28this is a crazy experiment but our connection is real
00:05:32most importantly I love the way we're striving for our happy ever after
00:05:38and of course how we share that ridiculous laughter
00:05:42don't ever change my baby
00:05:44I'm already so very proud of you
00:05:45did you really write this?
00:05:47I did babe
00:05:49that's really cute
00:05:54that's very sweet
00:05:55is that cute?
00:05:56you knew you were a bit of a poet I love this for us
00:05:59moving forward I feel like we're stronger than ever
00:06:02and I've got no questions about the foundation of our relationship and where we're heading
00:06:06so yeah I'm feeling good
00:06:14down the hall Lucinda and Timothy aren't feeling quite as united
00:06:19after Timothy was involved in much of last night's chaos
00:06:24you don't even like your wife
00:06:26oh that's that's a little bit bull
00:06:29are you open to this?
00:06:31I'm open you know and and my last two relationships I didn't even look at them
00:06:36like they were relationship like
00:06:38weren't they like 23 years old?
00:06:40look let's not get into the finer details of it all right
00:06:47last night was so intense I felt so uncomfortable
00:06:50did you?
00:06:51yes
00:06:52but that is my uncomfortable zone what happened last night
00:06:57I was tried and tested last night I felt quite sensitive
00:07:04you know I felt really upset I think Tim could have handled himself a bit better
00:07:09everybody's flinging back and forth that you're into 23 year olds
00:07:15it's hurtful I think Tim needs to humble himself a bit you know rather than pointing all the fingers
00:07:22at everybody else just nurture his own garden and what he's been given you know
00:07:28you prove all the time how different we are rather than celebrating what is actually good
00:07:35yeah
00:07:38our relationship it's not where Lucinda would want it to be
00:07:44but my long-term relationships have always been a slow burn
00:07:49and yeah she's got to figure out whether she can do the time
00:07:52we're the worst
00:07:53what's that?
00:07:54everybody's doing all right we're the worst
00:07:56we are the weakest link you and I
00:08:00right now we're in friend zone I mean at this point he's not even sexually attracted to me
00:08:06so you know I really like the guy but you know there's another part of me that is in deep
00:08:11assessment right now you know I'm here with you and I am grateful for that I really am
00:08:18but sometimes it's really hard
00:08:21to be with me yeah
00:08:22yeah I know
00:08:23I think Tim and I are potentially on really different pages
00:08:27and I don't want to humiliate myself I'm not going to thrash on wink on wink going love me love
00:08:34me it's just
00:08:34not where I'm at you know I want to stay open we have been paired for a reason but right
00:08:41now I'm not
00:08:42really sure where to go from here
00:08:50with just hours until the commitment ceremony
00:08:53damn you're looking good thanks
00:08:56our couples are busy getting ready
00:08:59this shirt looks great
00:09:00dressed yeah you look all right
00:09:01no you look beautiful honey what are you talking about
00:09:04you're gonna wear that tonight
00:09:05I mean it's intimacy week why not
00:09:08tonight they'll face the experts for the second time
00:09:11and reveal whether they want to stay in the experiment or leave their marriages for good
00:09:17you need me to do your coughs that would be lovely thank you
00:09:21first one or second the yeah that one
00:09:24going into the commitment ceremony tonight as always I'm just going to be myself I'm just going
00:09:29to be brutally honest about how I'm feeling in this relationship
00:09:33no this is try this one like I'm hoping that we have a good couch session get some good advice
00:09:40and then we can keep moving forward got it good job oh god that's a sign my wedding ring just
00:09:48fell off
00:09:51as the couples prepare to make their decisions they separate to reflect on their relationships
00:09:58and Ellie is feeling uncertain about where she stands with husband Ben
00:10:04so this morning I'm feeling a bit confused and I'm actually emotionally exhausted
00:10:12because I feel like it's just constant up and down with Ben
00:10:16and it's been like that from the beginning of this experiment
00:10:20I just have a gut feeling like he might be here to promote his business
00:10:27I was my idea to have a date night but it ended in mocking at the dinner and me feeling
00:10:34disrespected
00:10:35he mocks you yeah we went to bed and he was like do you really think that I'm your match
00:10:40like we're not a match
00:10:42and then I just was like so hurt
00:10:46while Ellie has so far given Ben the benefit of the doubt the events at the dinner table last night
00:10:52are also weighing heavily on her mind after the group pushed Ben for an explanation regarding his
00:10:58behavior towards her I was nearly going to walk out of the experiment really yeah it's just just
00:11:05everything wasn't what too much yeah it was just the pressure of it you know and it had nothing to
00:11:09do
00:11:09with Ellie hold on hold on wait you told her you told her that she wasn't your match so it
00:11:16wasn't it
00:11:16wasn't not to do with Ellie so that's last night I did have some concerns about Ben and our relationship
00:11:29you know the other girls and guys were questioning Ben's behavior and yeah it was pretty overwhelming
00:11:35and a bit confronting to hear everyone air their opinions on our relationship
00:11:40yeah now it's left actually a little bit of doubt in my mind
00:11:48oh
00:11:50Tim is also struggling with his decision after an argument erupted between he and wife Sarah last
00:11:57night over her cancelling three consecutive date nights that he had organized he actually didn't
00:12:03even plan anything like he didn't actually say we're going here and we're doing this he just said
00:12:07let's do something on sunday like it's literally i was like you're booked out from 2 p.m
00:12:12wearing something nice no you didn't yes i did that was the door the pair haven't spoken since the
00:12:19dinner party and are currently staying in separate apartments i raised my voice last night and i do
00:12:25regret that you know i was at breaking point and i broke so i'm feeling a bit flat feeling a
00:12:31bit down
00:12:31to be honest right now obviously my relationship's pretty rocky i'm not happy with the way things
00:12:38are that's for sure like it's not a fun time you know on paper we're a really good match
00:12:45so i don't know i've got a lot in common and we've got a lot of shared interests
00:12:48and i really like her but she's not trying to let me in as a partner she's not trying to
00:12:55put any
00:12:56effort in to show me that she wants to just let her walls down and give it a try you
00:13:02know where we
00:13:02are we're in like a shakespearean tragedy two star-crossed lovers are like we could be so good but
00:13:11then it's just like we're just crashing and just beating each other up and just like not seeing the
00:13:18potential in each other so i don't know you know that most shakespearean tragedies they will die at
00:13:25the end right yeah i'm concerned i'm giving up my very best and i've been putting in effort and it
00:13:33just hasn't been reciprocated so you know this decision tonight is a big decision i feel like
00:13:41i'm going to be ashamed to just leave the experiment so early but on the other hand like i don't
00:13:47want to
00:13:47hang around someone who doesn't want to be around me just wasting my time
00:14:08greetings gents greetings everybody hello guys come on in nice to see you all
00:14:24oh hello ladies hello grab a seat settle in
00:14:35hello hello hello yeah
00:14:52good evening everyone welcome to your second commitment ceremony we're landing here right after
00:14:59the finish of intimacy week which i know has been a struggle for some of you but i also know
00:15:06it has been an opportunity for some of you to grow closer together we do know from last night at
00:15:14the
00:15:14dinner party that a lot has gone on it hasn't all been pretty it hasn't all been good but hopefully
00:15:20tonight we can unpack all of it get to the bottom of where you are and help you steer in
00:15:25the correct
00:15:26direction to make your connections and your relationships grow from here our first couple up on the couch tonight
00:15:41yes
00:15:41ellie and ben
00:15:51hello hi
00:15:55so ellie tell me how this week has been for you
00:16:01yeah this week has been very up and down it's like been like a roller coaster honestly
00:16:07I was feeling very hurt um from a night that I had with Ben and we went out on a
00:16:15date night
00:16:16and during the date he began to mock me in like a high-pitched voice and trying to imitate my
00:16:25voice
00:16:25and um he was saying that I was like a bit naive and a bit silly so I obviously felt
00:16:35very hurt
00:16:35you know I told him I did not stand for that behavior and I don't want to be spoken to
00:16:40like
00:16:40that so I went back to the apartment and then Ben arrived home soon after and then
00:16:46we chatted about it and he did apologize
00:16:50but there is another story that happened on Friday night please tell me about it
00:16:59so
00:17:03he told me that I wasn't his match
00:17:10and I was absolutely horrified and just so hurt because I had let down my walls I was becoming
00:17:17vulnerable with this person and you know putting my heart on the line and thinking that we were in like
00:17:22a
00:17:22pretty good place and then to hear that I was just thinking well how is this relationship going to
00:17:29continue if he's just told me he's I'm not his match like how are we going to come back from
00:17:33that
00:17:36so that's why it's been a pretty rough week
00:17:41Ben why did you say that Ellie is not your match
00:17:51I don't know it just came out
00:17:57I just I just was in this cloud of just pressures of the experiment really getting to me
00:18:05just want to get out
00:18:12Ben you have discussed you're a wrong match for me and I'm out of here
00:18:17so that's as bad as it gets
00:18:21when you throw into the mix that you're mocking her
00:18:24I'm thinking you don't want to be with her
00:18:31so you've got to come clean with me here
00:18:35do you really want to be here
00:18:56Ben I'm thinking you don't want to be with her
00:19:03so you've got to come clean with me here
00:19:07do you really want to be here
00:19:18I've asked you a very very straightforward question
00:19:22I've asked you whether you're in or not
00:19:24what's the answer
00:19:29I'm in
00:19:33so she is someone that you see yourself that you might have a future with
00:19:39yes
00:19:42then what's going on
00:19:46Ellie's been nothing but amazing
00:19:49but I just wanted to get away from all the pressure that was on me
00:19:53and I just didn't care who's in the path
00:19:59who here is feeling pressure in this experiment
00:20:01raise your hand
00:20:07everyone's under the same pressures
00:20:09but regardless of how much pressure's going on
00:20:13you cannot mock and get sarcastic with your partner
00:20:17and that cannot happen
00:20:20I agree
00:20:22I regret it so much
00:20:23I'd do anything to not have done that
00:20:29I'm feeling for you right now Ellie
00:20:31I've actually got tears
00:20:37I've been with someone
00:20:39and been treated the way you have
00:20:41and it's nothing to do with you
00:20:44quite often they are insecure in themselves
00:20:46so they try and put you down
00:20:48and make you feel bad
00:20:50to make themselves feel better
00:20:51and I'm sorry to say that Ben
00:20:53I don't know you very well
00:20:55but that's my vibe I'm getting
00:21:00I wanted to say that I really
00:21:02you know kind of dragged you over the fire
00:21:04over the coals last night
00:21:05because you just need to be like
00:21:06like really truthful with Ellie
00:21:09about do you want children
00:21:11because like her non-negotiable
00:21:13she wants children
00:21:14and she wants to be with someone
00:21:15who wants kids
00:21:16and I feel like
00:21:17you kind of were just telling her
00:21:18what she wanted to hear
00:21:19and two days before that
00:21:20you said you didn't apparently
00:21:22like if you're going
00:21:23yeah I want kids
00:21:24and the next day you don't
00:21:25and then you just
00:21:26I don't buy that
00:21:32so Ben
00:21:32what do you say to that
00:21:35so during the week
00:21:36I was having a great moment
00:21:37and I talked to my sister-in-law
00:21:40and I could hear my niece and nephew
00:21:42in the background
00:21:42and they were playing up with her
00:21:46and she was getting me frustrated
00:21:47but it made me really laugh
00:21:49it was adorable hearing that
00:21:51and then there was no magic
00:21:52you know fireworks or anything
00:21:54but it was such a
00:21:54I just remember it was like
00:21:56I'm ready for this
00:21:59I'm ready for that next stage of my life
00:22:02as far as settling down
00:22:03and having a family
00:22:04and then like I bought a bottle of wine
00:22:07and I was telling you
00:22:08like I was like
00:22:09I think I'm really ready for that
00:22:11and I told you
00:22:12that day
00:22:13yeah
00:22:16so you can see where
00:22:17I'm feeling like
00:22:18I'm getting
00:22:20yes I'm in
00:22:21no I'm not
00:22:21and I'm feeling very like
00:22:23whoa
00:22:24you know
00:22:25absolutely
00:22:28so Ellie
00:22:29if you choose to stay in this experiment
00:22:30what do you need from Ben
00:22:33I need Ben to try and just stabilise his emotions
00:22:39I just want him to maybe just take a moment
00:22:42before he reacts
00:22:44you know you have to think before you speak
00:22:46yeah
00:22:47yeah
00:22:50and Ben if you choose to stay in the experiment
00:22:52do you think you've got that in you
00:22:56yeah
00:22:58everything I can
00:22:59100%
00:23:02alright let's go to the decision
00:23:04let's start with you
00:23:06stay or leave
00:23:07Ellie
00:23:11I'm absolutely
00:23:13going to stay
00:23:14continue on
00:23:23Ben
00:23:24what have you got
00:23:25stay or leave
00:23:28I wrote stay
00:23:29and recapping on Friday
00:23:31I do want to have kids in the future
00:23:38so Ben
00:23:39what you've done to Ellie
00:23:41over this week
00:23:42is you've really hit her
00:23:44below the bell
00:23:45with some very
00:23:46very
00:23:47significant
00:23:48comments
00:23:49that have shattered the trust
00:23:50so I want you to know
00:23:53you are really
00:23:54close
00:23:55to being dead in the water
00:23:59what you do
00:24:00from here on in
00:24:02will determine
00:24:03whether you can bring her back
00:24:06get real
00:24:07turn up every day
00:24:08and let's see the authentic Ben
00:24:10that Ellie is wanting
00:24:12and be very careful
00:24:14your words
00:24:14because they're very powerful
00:24:18off you go back to the group
00:24:20thank you
00:24:20thanks
00:24:26honestly like
00:24:27Ben Ben Ben
00:24:29I'm just not buying it
00:24:31Ben's still talking in circles
00:24:33and Ellie's still making excuses for him
00:24:35it's hard up there isn't it
00:24:39he's completely wasting your time
00:24:41and it actually just started
00:24:42to really piss me off
00:24:43to be honest
00:24:49our next couple up on the couch
00:24:58Tori and Jack
00:25:06hey guys
00:25:07hi
00:25:07good to see you
00:25:08welcome to the couch
00:25:09thanks
00:25:16how did you guys find
00:25:17intimacy week
00:25:20we had a lot of fun
00:25:21during intimacy week
00:25:23we learnt a lot
00:25:24about what we are
00:25:24we can definitely say
00:25:26we're closer together
00:25:27absolutely
00:25:29she is a strong
00:25:31well voiced girl
00:25:33and
00:25:33she gave Tim a bit of a
00:25:36rub up last night
00:25:39Timothy
00:25:40you had some opinions
00:25:42of Jack and Tori's
00:25:44relationship
00:25:46yes
00:25:47please share
00:25:56well I wasn't sure
00:25:57whether it was real or not
00:26:13Timothy
00:26:13you had some opinions
00:26:16of Jack and Tori's
00:26:17relationship
00:26:20yes
00:26:21please share
00:26:30well I wasn't sure
00:26:31whether it was real or not
00:26:34based on what though
00:26:35you couldn't answer that question
00:26:36an opinion is based on
00:26:38an observation of something
00:26:40that's all it's based on
00:26:41but what is your observation
00:26:43because they haven't had sex
00:26:44that's what he wrote
00:26:45yeah
00:26:45yeah
00:26:47you know
00:26:47it's
00:26:48I just
00:26:50me myself
00:26:51I just can't line it up
00:26:52and that's
00:26:52that's it
00:26:56so from your observations
00:26:58so from your observations
00:26:59of Jack and Tori
00:26:59you find it difficult
00:27:00to gauge or understand
00:27:02whether they are really
00:27:03into each other or not
00:27:06I'm just a little
00:27:07I don't take everything on face value
00:27:12I don't believe everybody
00:27:15do you feel good about the interaction
00:27:17you had with Tori
00:27:24it was passionate
00:27:26you know
00:27:28it's not an attack
00:27:29personally
00:27:30on you
00:27:31it was just a
00:27:32a difference of opinion
00:27:36we've had a day to reflect
00:27:37though
00:27:37how do you feel about it now
00:27:43I don't regret anything I said
00:27:46and that's it
00:27:57anyway
00:28:01getting back to Tori and Jack
00:28:05the body language
00:28:06all says that you're very much together
00:28:10you seem very comfortable
00:28:12and we know that you had not been intimate sexually
00:28:14has there been any progress in that direction?
00:28:18I think we maintain where we're at
00:28:20when it comes to being intimate
00:28:23yeah we haven't had sex
00:28:24but I think she knows I'm into her
00:28:25and I'm showing her
00:28:26I'm proud of her
00:28:27and I'm still wooing the girl as well
00:28:31I wrote you a little letter today
00:28:33it's like a poem
00:28:34yeah I wrote a little poem today
00:28:38yeah so
00:28:39it was very cute
00:28:39and delivered it with a coffee
00:28:41and I was like
00:28:42okay
00:28:46I am actually really curious
00:28:48at this point
00:28:49how do you feel about one another?
00:28:55yeah I think she's a babe
00:28:58I think she's amazing
00:29:02Tori
00:29:03how are you feeling about Jack?
00:29:05I really like Jack
00:29:06I don't ever feel like I've been in like a healthy relationship before
00:29:12I think they're always quite toxic
00:29:14and I feel like I've always been the one to kind of take the reins
00:29:18and it's just not the dynamic that I ever wanted
00:29:22but with Jack I feel like
00:29:24you're like the perfect amount of
00:29:26like a dominant
00:29:31I'm kind of like the calm to her storm
00:29:33yeah absolutely
00:29:36like I trust him wholly
00:29:38and I've just never had that
00:29:41so yeah I feel
00:29:42how funny am I?
00:29:44you're a bit funny
00:29:45you are a little bit funny
00:29:46our jokes are getting really good
00:29:48our jokes are getting worse and worse by the minute
00:29:52Tori where do you see this relationship going?
00:29:55I see it going like a long long way
00:29:59and that's something that I had in my vows
00:30:02I did want longevity
00:30:04and yeah I absolutely see that
00:30:06with Jack for sure
00:30:07that's nice to hear babe
00:30:08I didn't know that
00:30:09you didn't know that?
00:30:10yeah
00:30:11thank you
00:30:11you're welcome
00:30:13what about you Jack?
00:30:15yeah
00:30:15I see a future
00:30:16and yeah
00:30:18I think it's because
00:30:18I'm setting us up for
00:30:20success
00:30:20like the most success
00:30:21we can have together
00:30:23I'm here for the real deal
00:30:24so yeah
00:30:25I'm blessed to be matched with Tori
00:30:26and I say that weekly
00:30:30we're going to go to the decision
00:30:34Jack
00:30:36um
00:30:38this week I wrote
00:30:42stay with XOX
00:30:45good handwriting
00:30:46thank you
00:30:47thank you
00:30:47thank you
00:30:49Tori
00:30:50I wrote stay as well
00:31:01thank you
00:31:02thanks guys
00:31:03have a good week
00:31:06I wasn't really listening
00:31:07to what Timothy was saying
00:31:09I'd kind of like
00:31:10wanted to drown it out
00:31:12as much as possible
00:31:14his mouth moves
00:31:15and I'm like
00:31:16oh it's bullshit
00:31:16cool
00:31:18what Timothy's going at us for
00:31:19is for being happy
00:31:20and if that's a crime
00:31:22then kill me
00:31:25Tori and Jack
00:31:28yeah no
00:31:30I'm still not buying it
00:31:32Jack's not in the Tori
00:31:34he's being fake
00:31:35so
00:31:36like I'm not sorry
00:31:37for anything I said
00:31:40it's an opinion
00:31:42you know
00:31:44good luck to your
00:31:45six month relationship
00:31:47and that's about all
00:31:48it's going to last
00:31:50still to come
00:31:51love is all around
00:31:53I'm head over heels
00:31:55I think it's pretty obvious
00:31:56she knows that
00:31:57tells me every day
00:31:59wow
00:31:59we have been really
00:32:01attentive and enjoying
00:32:02each other
00:32:03like this is a beautiful man
00:32:04also
00:32:05Lucinda lays down
00:32:07the law
00:32:08I'm not interested
00:32:09to be traversing
00:32:11alongside somebody
00:32:12that's just so
00:32:14up you to the world
00:32:18and later
00:32:19Sarah gets called out
00:32:21why didn't you
00:32:22apologise to Tim
00:32:23when you sat down
00:32:24here tonight
00:32:27he yelled at me
00:32:41our next couple
00:32:43up on the couch
00:32:51Lucinda and Tim
00:32:58hello you two
00:33:04right
00:33:05let's get into this
00:33:08last night at the
00:33:09dinner party
00:33:09what was your take
00:33:10on it Lucinda
00:33:11um
00:33:13yeah
00:33:17I was
00:33:18a little bit
00:33:19humiliated
00:33:24humiliating
00:33:25the 23 year old
00:33:29humiliating
00:33:29to
00:33:30stand
00:33:30by somebody
00:33:32that I've
00:33:32I've been matched
00:33:33with
00:33:33that
00:33:34last night
00:33:35was very happy
00:33:36to point the finger
00:33:37and not be humble
00:33:38with their own
00:33:40experience
00:33:45like
00:33:46what do you
00:33:46actually want
00:33:47to be projecting
00:33:48you know
00:33:48in your frequency
00:33:49do you want
00:33:50to be the guy
00:33:51that's making
00:33:52everybody laugh
00:33:53which is so
00:33:54good at
00:33:55or do you want
00:33:56to be the one
00:33:57that's going
00:33:57your shit
00:33:58bullshit on that
00:34:00that
00:34:00because
00:34:00I'm not
00:34:01interested
00:34:02to be traversing
00:34:04and
00:34:05and journeying
00:34:06alongside somebody
00:34:07that's just so
00:34:08up you to the world
00:34:10and you know
00:34:11pointing all these
00:34:12fingers
00:34:13that's not my jam
00:34:14and that's not
00:34:15something I
00:34:16I really stand by
00:34:21well I mean
00:34:22from where I'm
00:34:23sitting
00:34:23it just
00:34:24it looks like
00:34:25you've lost
00:34:26a little bit
00:34:26of your spark
00:34:28but you seem
00:34:29hurt
00:34:31yeah I am
00:34:32a little bit
00:34:32hurt
00:34:34it has been
00:34:35quite hurtful
00:34:36a lot of
00:34:37this experience
00:34:40it's had
00:34:41moments of
00:34:42deep humiliation
00:34:43I've got to
00:34:44keep
00:34:45you know
00:34:45forgiving
00:34:46and resetting
00:34:47and
00:34:47you know
00:34:48coming to the
00:34:49fore with an
00:34:49open heart
00:34:50and this week
00:34:51I just
00:34:52have
00:34:53been
00:34:54in the
00:34:55observation
00:34:56seat
00:34:57sort of
00:34:58watching
00:34:58and seeing
00:35:00what it is
00:35:01I would be
00:35:01signing up for
00:35:03you know
00:35:04am I signing up
00:35:05for minimum
00:35:06affection
00:35:10am I signing up
00:35:11for somebody
00:35:12that can't
00:35:13share their
00:35:13feelings and
00:35:14emotions
00:35:15am I signing up
00:35:16for somebody
00:35:17that has sex
00:35:18right down the
00:35:19bottom
00:35:19of their
00:35:20values
00:35:24am I signing up
00:35:25for somebody
00:35:26that expects
00:35:27me to do
00:35:27most of the
00:35:28housework
00:35:29and wants
00:35:30to watch
00:35:31television all
00:35:31the time
00:35:32like I
00:35:32you know
00:35:33there's just
00:35:34sort of
00:35:34like qualities
00:35:35that I'm
00:35:36just like
00:35:37oh
00:35:37you know
00:35:38you don't
00:35:38brush your
00:35:39teeth before
00:35:39bed
00:35:39like
00:35:43a lot of
00:35:43it is a
00:35:44misalignment
00:35:45for me
00:35:47and
00:35:47I think
00:35:48it's just
00:35:48a bit of
00:35:49a shield
00:35:49going up
00:35:50or a bit
00:35:50of armour
00:35:51potentially
00:35:54so
00:35:55watching the
00:35:56dinner party
00:35:57last night
00:35:57Timothy
00:35:58anyone that
00:35:59came into
00:36:00your crosshair
00:36:01you took
00:36:01them down
00:36:02or at least
00:36:02attempted to
00:36:06and so
00:36:07I guess
00:36:07the difference
00:36:08between you
00:36:09and Lucinda
00:36:09right now
00:36:10is that
00:36:10she's got
00:36:11quite an
00:36:12open heart
00:36:13whereas
00:36:14you're very
00:36:14guarded
00:36:15and defensive
00:36:19100%
00:36:20yeah
00:36:21you're
00:36:22completely
00:36:22right
00:36:24I've got
00:36:25walls up
00:36:26everywhere
00:36:29you don't
00:36:29want to
00:36:30get hurt
00:36:30you don't
00:36:30want to
00:36:30get used
00:36:31and you
00:36:32don't
00:36:32want to
00:36:33be made
00:36:33out of
00:36:34fool
00:36:35you know
00:36:36in
00:36:37relationships
00:36:40when I've
00:36:40shared
00:36:41parts of
00:36:42me
00:36:42that
00:36:43I
00:36:43generally
00:36:43don't
00:36:44share
00:36:48they run
00:36:48a mile
00:36:51what are
00:36:52you afraid
00:36:52that they
00:36:53might see
00:36:55if they
00:36:55see the
00:36:56real
00:36:56Timothy
00:36:59yeah
00:36:59I'm a
00:37:00disaster
00:37:05I've got
00:37:05more baggies
00:37:06than Qantas
00:37:07there's a
00:37:08lot of
00:37:08stuff
00:37:09I'll just
00:37:10put a lid
00:37:10on it
00:37:10and then
00:37:11I'll move
00:37:11on with
00:37:12life
00:37:16Lucinda
00:37:16wants to
00:37:16unpack
00:37:17that
00:37:18and I
00:37:19don't
00:37:20I want
00:37:20to leave
00:37:20it in
00:37:21the past
00:37:25and that's
00:37:26just how
00:37:26I get
00:37:26by
00:37:29Lucinda
00:37:29what would
00:37:29happen
00:37:31if
00:37:32Timothy
00:37:32decided to
00:37:33go there
00:37:33and unpack
00:37:34it all
00:37:35lay it
00:37:35out on
00:37:36the table
00:37:36let you
00:37:37rummage
00:37:37around
00:37:38in it
00:37:40let's
00:37:41just
00:37:41bless
00:37:42this
00:37:42mess
00:37:43let's
00:37:43get in
00:37:44there
00:37:45you'd
00:37:45roll
00:37:45the sleeves
00:37:46up
00:37:46and dig
00:37:46in
00:37:46absolutely
00:37:47let's
00:37:48excavate
00:37:51Timothy
00:37:51I've got to
00:37:52ask
00:37:52you're looking
00:37:53at Lucinda
00:37:53the person
00:37:54in front
00:37:54of you
00:37:54now
00:37:55you know
00:37:55she's
00:37:56kind
00:37:56open-minded
00:37:57emotionally
00:37:58very intelligent
00:37:59I'm trying
00:38:00to think
00:38:01you know
00:38:01could you
00:38:02possibly find
00:38:04anyone
00:38:04better equipped
00:38:05at dealing
00:38:06with
00:38:07whatever it
00:38:08is
00:38:08that's the
00:38:09baggage
00:38:10that you
00:38:10carry
00:38:14no you
00:38:15you actually
00:38:16couldn't
00:38:17she's
00:38:18incredibly
00:38:18sweet
00:38:19she's got
00:38:19a big
00:38:20heart
00:38:20she thinks
00:38:21of everybody
00:38:22she loves
00:38:23everybody
00:38:24but she
00:38:25looks for the
00:38:26good in
00:38:26people
00:38:27and she
00:38:28looks for the
00:38:28good in
00:38:28every situation
00:38:30unfortunately
00:38:31I sort of
00:38:32you know
00:38:32I look at
00:38:33things differently
00:38:33I look for
00:38:34the negative
00:38:37so what do
00:38:38you want
00:38:38then
00:38:39Lucinda
00:38:40from
00:38:41this man
00:38:42beside you
00:38:44I mean
00:38:45at this point
00:38:46I would
00:38:47need to
00:38:48see
00:38:49some effort
00:38:50and something
00:38:51that I'd
00:38:52want to be
00:38:52part of
00:38:53that's hunky
00:38:54and spunky
00:38:55and you know
00:38:57it's got it
00:38:58going on
00:38:58like at this
00:38:59point
00:38:59it would
00:39:00have to
00:39:00come from
00:39:01him
00:39:02I mean
00:39:03I can't
00:39:03even guarantee
00:39:05that I'm
00:39:05going to
00:39:05reciprocate
00:39:06at this
00:39:06point
00:39:06it's about
00:39:08Tim's
00:39:08willingness
00:39:13Timothy
00:39:14are you
00:39:14willing
00:39:14to
00:39:15get
00:39:15on
00:39:15board
00:39:16yeah
00:39:18I am
00:39:20we have
00:39:20a ton
00:39:21of fun
00:39:22and
00:39:22that's
00:39:23where
00:39:23it
00:39:23sort of
00:39:24starts
00:39:24for me
00:39:29all right
00:39:31let's go
00:39:31to the
00:39:32decision
00:39:34why don't
00:39:35we start
00:39:35with you
00:39:35Lucinda
00:39:36stay
00:39:37or leave
00:39:40I do
00:39:41have
00:39:41some hope
00:39:42for Tim
00:39:43and me
00:39:44I
00:39:44I can't
00:39:45help but
00:39:46still have
00:39:46a little
00:39:47lantern
00:39:47you know
00:39:48for us
00:39:49and
00:39:49so
00:39:50I've done
00:39:51a little bit
00:39:52of an
00:39:52ambiguous
00:39:53Dr. Seuss
00:39:54stay
00:39:54oh
00:39:57gorgeous
00:39:59yay
00:40:01Timothy
00:40:02I've written
00:40:03stay
00:40:07now bottom
00:40:08line is
00:40:09Lucinda's
00:40:09asked you
00:40:09some very
00:40:10simple things
00:40:11coming into
00:40:11this week
00:40:12that she
00:40:13wants you
00:40:13to do
00:40:14you said
00:40:15you're
00:40:15willing
00:40:16can we
00:40:16count on
00:40:17that
00:40:17for sure
00:40:19all right
00:40:20well done
00:40:22I do
00:40:27hope that
00:40:28Tim
00:40:29opens
00:40:30and
00:40:30becomes
00:40:31available
00:40:32to this
00:40:32process
00:40:33you know
00:40:34let me
00:40:34in
00:40:34you know
00:40:36listen
00:40:36to the
00:40:36experts
00:40:38because
00:40:39I do
00:40:39feel
00:40:40that it
00:40:41would be
00:40:41lovely
00:40:41to tickle
00:40:42the possibility
00:40:43and the
00:40:44potential
00:40:44of us
00:40:45coming up
00:40:46I'm very
00:40:48into
00:40:48dating
00:40:48I have
00:40:49a big
00:40:49crush
00:40:49on
00:40:49dating
00:40:49intimacy
00:40:50week
00:40:51works
00:40:51its
00:40:51wonders
00:40:52oh
00:40:53there
00:40:53we
00:40:53go
00:40:53honey
00:40:55I
00:40:55love
00:40:56you
00:40:56guys
00:40:56you
00:40:56the best
00:40:56good
00:40:57students
00:40:58and
00:40:59later
00:41:00the
00:41:01experts
00:41:01hold a
00:41:02mirror
00:41:02up to
00:41:02Sarah
00:41:03you
00:41:03were
00:41:04behaving
00:41:05in a
00:41:05really
00:41:06aggressive
00:41:06way
00:41:07we
00:41:07were
00:41:07in
00:41:08shock
00:41:08and
00:41:09Cassandra
00:41:09hits
00:41:10a
00:41:10nerve
00:41:10I
00:41:11have
00:41:11a
00:41:11question
00:41:12for
00:41:12Tim
00:41:14are
00:41:14you
00:41:14maybe
00:41:15afraid
00:41:15of
00:41:16her
00:41:16a
00:41:16little
00:41:16bit
00:41:17Cass
00:41:18I'm
00:41:18sorry
00:41:18but
00:41:19you
00:41:19haven't
00:41:19seen
00:41:19us
00:41:19in
00:41:20a
00:41:20relationship
00:41:20in
00:41:21the
00:41:21privacy
00:41:21of
00:41:21our
00:41:21own
00:41:22home
00:41:22so
00:41:23don't
00:41:23go
00:41:23saying
00:41:24it's
00:41:24just
00:41:24such
00:41:24a
00:41:24shift
00:41:35our
00:41:36next
00:41:36couple
00:41:36up
00:41:37on
00:41:37the
00:41:37couch
00:41:41Cassandra
00:41:41and
00:41:42Tristan
00:41:46how's the
00:41:46week been
00:41:47oh
00:41:48this week
00:41:48was good
00:41:49he's really
00:41:51trying but
00:41:51would like
00:41:52just a bit
00:41:53more
00:41:53touches
00:41:54and
00:41:54kisses
00:41:55and
00:41:55stuff
00:41:56like
00:41:56last night
00:41:57after the
00:41:57dinner
00:41:58party
00:41:58you gave
00:41:58me a
00:41:58massive
00:41:59hug
00:41:59and
00:41:59you
00:42:00said
00:42:00goodnight
00:42:00and we
00:42:00went to
00:42:00bed
00:42:01and it
00:42:01was
00:42:01like
00:42:01the
00:42:01best
00:42:02hug
00:42:02ever
00:42:02that
00:42:03he's
00:42:03done
00:42:03this
00:42:03whole
00:42:03time
00:42:04so
00:42:05did it
00:42:05feel
00:42:05good
00:42:05it
00:42:06did
00:42:06but
00:42:07intimacy
00:42:08is
00:42:08hard
00:42:08for me
00:42:09and
00:42:09that's
00:42:09the
00:42:09biggest
00:42:10thing
00:42:10I
00:42:10struggle
00:42:10with
00:42:10and
00:42:11what
00:42:11I'm
00:42:11trying
00:42:11to
00:42:11work
00:42:11on
00:42:11a
00:42:12fantastic
00:42:13technique
00:42:13here
00:42:13is
00:42:14to
00:42:14listen
00:42:14to
00:42:14the
00:42:14feedback
00:42:15that
00:42:15she
00:42:15gives
00:42:15you
00:42:17she's
00:42:18telling
00:42:18you
00:42:18take
00:42:19it
00:42:19at
00:42:19face
00:42:19value
00:42:20and
00:42:20do
00:42:21more
00:42:21of
00:42:21that
00:42:21is
00:42:22what
00:42:22she's
00:42:22saying
00:42:23we're
00:42:23going to
00:42:23go to
00:42:24the
00:42:24decision
00:42:28I'm
00:42:35just
00:42:36wondering
00:42:36because
00:42:37you know
00:42:37we're in
00:42:38an
00:42:38experiment
00:42:38and all
00:42:39if we
00:42:39could
00:42:39do
00:42:39a
00:42:40little
00:42:40experiment
00:42:40right
00:42:41now
00:42:41what if
00:42:42you had
00:42:42a big
00:42:42hug
00:42:43right
00:42:43now
00:42:43oh
00:42:43yeah
00:42:43that's
00:42:44easy
00:42:45oh
00:42:46there
00:42:46we
00:42:46go
00:42:47honey
00:42:48I
00:42:49love
00:42:49you guys
00:42:49you're
00:42:49the
00:42:49best
00:42:50oh
00:42:50beautiful
00:42:52did
00:42:52hear
00:42:53that
00:42:55thanks
00:42:56guys
00:42:56thank you
00:42:57well done
00:42:59our next
00:43:00couple up
00:43:01on the
00:43:01couch
00:43:01Eden
00:43:02and
00:43:02Jayden
00:43:08hello
00:43:08hi
00:43:09how are
00:43:10you guys
00:43:10we're
00:43:11good
00:43:11how are
00:43:11you
00:43:12we're
00:43:13good
00:43:13this
00:43:13this
00:43:13this
00:43:14week's
00:43:14been
00:43:14really
00:43:14good
00:43:15really
00:43:15fun
00:43:15yeah
00:43:16how do
00:43:17you feel
00:43:17about
00:43:18one
00:43:18another
00:43:19head
00:43:20over
00:43:20heels
00:43:23yeah
00:43:24I think it's pretty obvious she knows that
00:43:26tells me every day
00:43:29wow
00:43:30I'm very into
00:43:31Jaden
00:43:31I have a big crush on
00:43:32Jaden
00:43:34the respect for me
00:43:35is amazing
00:43:36and I just love how he always checks on me
00:43:38all right let's go to the decision
00:43:39I adore Jaden so obviously I'm staying
00:43:42beautiful
00:43:44not even a question
00:43:46I also write to love us
00:43:48very big love
00:43:50thank you
00:43:53our next couple on the couch
00:43:55Andrea
00:43:56and Richard
00:44:00so why don't you tell us about intimacy week
00:44:04you go
00:44:05I'll go
00:44:08we did intimacy week the week before intimacy week
00:44:15we gazed we hugged we we did everything
00:44:31we did the whole lot
00:44:33so in intimacy week came along
00:44:36you know we cruised all the exercises
00:44:38like it wasn't a big deal for us
00:44:39it was like yeah cool like here we go
00:44:41okay
00:44:42good students
00:44:45we have been really attentive and
00:44:47and enjoying each other
00:44:49and Richie likes kissing
00:44:51I love kissing
00:44:51so
00:44:52I think we're closer
00:44:54after intimacy week
00:44:56I agree
00:44:57like this is a beautiful man
00:45:03we're gonna go to the decision
00:45:08of course I'm staying
00:45:09yeah yeah yeah
00:45:10and Andrea
00:45:12I am um
00:45:13uh uh uh uh
00:45:15staying
00:45:15oh
00:45:17yeah girl
00:45:18she stayed alive
00:45:20well done guys
00:45:21thank you
00:45:25our next couple up on the couch
00:45:32Lauren and Jonathan
00:45:41how has this week been for you guys
00:45:44um
00:45:48intimacy week definitely highlighted the issues for the two of us
00:45:53I feel like Jono feels like he's not heard or like I don't want to hear him and he's right
00:45:59in saying that not that I don't want to hear him but I do give off body language at times
00:46:04that's says I'm not interested
00:46:09what does that look like
00:46:11um it looks like looking at my phone or looking down or not responding I am very aware that I'm
00:46:21doing that in the moment and every cell in my body is saying respond or smile
00:46:28and there's just like something in me I just shut down what do you think about his personality
00:46:36um
00:46:36um
00:46:36um
00:46:39um
00:46:39I think I've used the word boring
00:46:43too nice
00:46:46I've actually said that I find him robotic
00:46:50it just seems like he doesn't feel any real like fire or passion about anything that's going on in the
00:46:57experiment or between us
00:47:01I want to know what Jono feels when he's on the receiving end of that
00:47:05what impacts that can have on him
00:47:07it's going to make him feel like shit
00:47:13why would you want your romantic love interest to feel like shit
00:47:21um
00:47:34I want to know what Jono feels when he's on the receiving end of that
00:47:38what impacts that can have on him
00:47:40it's going to make him feel like shit
00:47:46why would you want your romantic love interest to feel like shit
00:47:56um
00:47:59my brain and my logic tells me that I never would
00:48:01so I can't really compute inside of me why I would want to do that
00:48:10Jonathan
00:48:10how are you feeling about all of this
00:48:14um
00:48:17I hadn't heard the boring one yet
00:48:19that sucked
00:48:24um
00:48:25and that's not me
00:48:28but
00:48:29I think I can be really confident
00:48:36I think it's because of how I've acted that you feel not confident
00:48:39um
00:48:42yeah
00:48:46I think probably hearing
00:48:49some of those things just
00:48:52gets the confidence down a bit
00:48:56so Lauren
00:48:57is Jonathan enough for you
00:49:02Jonathan's definitely enough for me
00:49:04he's got every attribute that I've ever wanted in a man
00:49:07everything that I've said in past relationships
00:49:08you know
00:49:09you're not doing this
00:49:10I want this
00:49:11and now I've got it
00:49:12and now I'm like
00:49:13well what is wrong with me
00:49:15I just go into this like self-sabotage mode
00:49:18and I just
00:49:19I've done it in every relationship
00:49:21and
00:49:22I don't know why
00:49:24what are you so afraid of
00:49:26when it comes to intimate relationships
00:49:29I just feel like
00:49:30I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop
00:49:33when something's really good
00:49:35it's like
00:49:35oh
00:49:36this is too good to be true
00:49:37maybe something bad is going to happen
00:49:39some revelation
00:49:40I'm going to find out he's got like some family
00:49:42in Asia or something
00:49:44I don't know
00:49:45so you're ultimately afraid of being rejected
00:49:51yeah
00:49:54by picking him apart
00:49:56you're going to keep him at arm's length
00:49:58yeah
00:50:01so now you know how you're sabotaging that
00:50:04what would you suggest you do here
00:50:07to change it
00:50:09I think what I
00:50:11want to do
00:50:11is to focus on
00:50:13the good things
00:50:14and there's so many of them
00:50:16he's so caring
00:50:17he's so nice
00:50:18he's just like
00:50:19the most thoughtful person
00:50:20and that's definitely
00:50:21what I need in my life
00:50:24and what about you
00:50:25Jonathan
00:50:26how do you think
00:50:27you can move forward
00:50:29for Lauren
00:50:29it's so important
00:50:30to have banter
00:50:31to have good chat
00:50:32and at the moment
00:50:33I'm not giving her that
00:50:36so that's what I want to work on
00:50:41alright
00:50:42let's go to the decision
00:50:43Lauren
00:50:44what do you got
00:50:46um
00:50:48it's easy for me
00:50:49I really want to work on this
00:50:50I think Jono's an amazing person
00:50:52so I would say
00:50:53yay
00:50:54alright
00:50:55love that
00:50:56Jono
00:50:59it was easy
00:51:00stay
00:51:01beautiful
00:51:05alright so
00:51:06you know how to do this
00:51:07this week
00:51:09put the sarcasm away
00:51:11the negative comments
00:51:13the criticisms
00:51:13replace it with I'm scared
00:51:16bring them close
00:51:17and talk it through
00:51:18and you'll be a different couple
00:51:20next week
00:51:20okay
00:51:21I hope so
00:51:22well done
00:51:22thank you
00:51:25good work
00:51:29Jon was diving in on me
00:51:31and I was pretty vulnerable
00:51:33which is not something
00:51:35that I'm used to being
00:51:36I literally had like a dry mouth
00:51:37and like clammy palms
00:51:39I was like
00:51:41like dying
00:51:43like shaking
00:51:45like every second was so hard
00:51:47I think it was good
00:51:48it was good to open up
00:51:50that other side of me
00:51:51because I'm usually pretty
00:51:52sarcastic and dry
00:51:55I really like Jono
00:51:57so
00:51:58it's good that we have things
00:51:59that we need to work through
00:52:02our last couple
00:52:03on the couch tonight
00:52:07Sarah and Tim
00:52:16hi
00:52:16now look
00:52:19let's cut to the chase
00:52:25watching the dinner party last night
00:52:27clearly the two of you
00:52:29were at loggerheads
00:52:33you were arguing
00:52:35and things were gridlocked
00:52:38I just want to say
00:52:39actually
00:52:43I'm embarrassed
00:52:44at how
00:52:46we aired our dirty laundry
00:52:48in front of everybody
00:52:51so I apologise
00:52:52for the scene
00:52:53that was caused
00:52:54last night
00:52:58that's not ever
00:52:59how I want to deal
00:53:00with any situations
00:53:01in any partnership
00:53:02so
00:53:03just want to say that
00:53:11I'm really curious
00:53:12Sarah
00:53:14as soon as you sat down here
00:53:16do you remember what you said?
00:53:19I said I feel embarrassed
00:53:20and I apologise
00:53:26to who?
00:53:28to the group
00:53:31for causing a scene
00:53:35but not to Tim
00:53:46he yelled at me
00:54:06I'm really curious
00:54:07Sarah
00:54:09as soon as you sat down here
00:54:11do you remember what you said?
00:54:14I said I feel embarrassed
00:54:15and I apologise
00:54:39he yelled at me
00:54:56you were behaving
00:54:58in a really aggressive way
00:55:00throughout the night
00:55:03you were shouting
00:55:04for quite a length of time
00:55:08we were in shock
00:55:10watching your anger
00:55:14your pointing
00:55:16your body language
00:55:19was so alarming
00:55:20we watched Tim
00:55:24control himself
00:55:26throughout the night
00:55:28until you pushed him
00:55:30to the point
00:55:30that he exploded
00:55:36and for the first time
00:55:38Tim
00:55:39we saw you
00:55:39find your voice
00:55:40and express yourself
00:55:42to Sarah
00:55:45I raised my voice
00:55:47last night
00:55:47and I do regret that
00:55:48and I did apologise
00:55:49to Sarah for it
00:55:50and it's
00:55:51you know
00:55:51I don't
00:55:51I never want to be
00:55:52in that position
00:55:53you know
00:55:53because it just makes me
00:55:54feel bad about myself
00:55:56but
00:55:58I've just
00:55:59got
00:56:00to breaking point
00:56:01for me
00:56:04why didn't you apologise
00:56:05to Tim
00:56:06when you sat down
00:56:07here tonight
00:56:14to be honest
00:56:15I guess I didn't
00:56:16I didn't see it
00:56:18but
00:56:18now that I am
00:56:20being called out
00:56:24I apologise
00:56:30from your perspective
00:56:32what was it
00:56:33that you were
00:56:34hearing Tim say
00:56:35that was getting
00:56:36you so riled up
00:56:37oh
00:56:38Cass
00:56:38Cass mentioned
00:56:39something about
00:56:40me cancelling
00:56:41the three dates
00:56:41and then
00:56:43he said
00:56:44he planned something
00:56:45and I said
00:56:45oh
00:56:46you didn't plan
00:56:47anything
00:56:47the first two weeks
00:56:48and then
00:56:49that's when
00:56:49you went
00:56:50yeah I did
00:56:52so
00:56:53what's the
00:56:54genuine reason
00:56:55that you cancelled
00:56:56on him
00:56:56three times
00:57:00so the first time
00:57:02I actually
00:57:03messaged him
00:57:04and I said
00:57:04I'm not in a good place
00:57:05I need to take
00:57:07some time
00:57:07to myself
00:57:08I said
00:57:09let's do next weekend
00:57:11the next day
00:57:12I said to him
00:57:13our groceries
00:57:14are going to go off
00:57:15in the fridge
00:57:15should we just
00:57:16cook that instead
00:57:18and then the
00:57:19following week
00:57:20was I went out
00:57:21with my girlfriends
00:57:21on Saturday
00:57:22and I wasn't
00:57:23feeling great
00:57:23on Sunday
00:57:24I was hungover
00:57:34so what does
00:57:35that choice
00:57:35say to him
00:57:38well
00:57:41I guess
00:57:41that he's not
00:57:42a priority
00:57:43but that's not
00:57:43that's not really
00:57:45how I meant it
00:57:45that he's not a priority
00:57:58is that fair
00:57:59to say to him
00:58:01it's definitely
00:58:02how it feels
00:58:05it feels like
00:58:06there's kind of
00:58:07a lack of effort
00:58:08and a lack
00:58:09of commitment
00:58:10from SADA
00:58:13to this
00:58:14whole experiment
00:58:15I have been
00:58:16really trying
00:58:17to put in
00:58:18energy and effort
00:58:20and
00:58:20it's
00:58:22it's exhausting
00:58:23you know
00:58:23just constantly
00:58:24putting this
00:58:24effort in
00:58:25and not being
00:58:26like heard
00:58:27or seen
00:58:29so
00:58:32I do feel
00:58:33a little bit
00:58:33rejected
00:58:37I have a
00:58:38question
00:58:39for Tim
00:58:42it's just
00:58:43that
00:58:43when you're
00:58:44with us
00:58:45you're a
00:58:46different Tim
00:58:47but then
00:58:48when you're
00:58:48with Sarah
00:58:49you just
00:58:49you're like
00:58:50a colder
00:58:51version of
00:58:51the Tim
00:58:52that I've
00:58:52gotten to
00:58:52know
00:58:53and I
00:58:54just
00:58:54are you
00:58:55maybe
00:58:55afraid
00:58:56of her
00:58:56a little
00:58:57bit
00:59:04Cass
00:59:04I'm sorry
00:59:05but you
00:59:05haven't seen
00:59:06us in a
00:59:06relationship
00:59:07in the
00:59:07privacy
00:59:08of our
00:59:08own
00:59:08home
00:59:09so don't
00:59:10go saying
00:59:10that
00:59:10it's just
00:59:11such a
00:59:11shift
00:59:12we all
00:59:12have our
00:59:12issues
00:59:13here
00:59:13we all
00:59:14do
00:59:14but we
00:59:14don't
00:59:14know
00:59:14what
00:59:15happens
00:59:15behind
00:59:15closed
00:59:16doors
00:59:16so please
00:59:16do not
00:59:17do not
00:59:18insinuate
00:59:19that he
00:59:20is scared
00:59:20of me
00:59:22like I'm
00:59:22some crazy
00:59:23person
00:59:24I'll answer
00:59:25Cass'
00:59:26question
00:59:26because it
00:59:27is a
00:59:27fair enough
00:59:28question
00:59:28because I
00:59:28am pretty
00:59:29high energetic
00:59:29with everyone
00:59:32we have
00:59:33been
00:59:33struggling
00:59:36so I
00:59:38feel like
00:59:38I'm
00:59:39you know
00:59:40dimming my
00:59:40energy a bit
00:59:44I definitely
00:59:45am hesitant
00:59:46with my
00:59:46communication
00:59:47with you
00:59:47because
00:59:48of
00:59:49creating
00:59:49issues in
00:59:50the relationship
00:59:51that I
00:59:51don't want
00:59:51to have
01:00:03Tim
01:00:03what do
01:00:04you need
01:00:05from Sarah
01:00:05to help
01:00:06you to feel
01:00:07more like
01:00:08you really
01:00:08matter
01:00:09in this
01:00:09relationship
01:00:15I feel
01:00:16like just
01:00:16a bit
01:00:16of warmth
01:00:17you know
01:00:19and I
01:00:20feel like
01:00:20just
01:00:21why don't
01:00:22we just
01:00:22give it
01:00:22a crack
01:00:23you know
01:00:25just try
01:00:26it out
01:00:26and see
01:00:27what happens
01:00:28make an
01:00:29effort
01:00:29exactly
01:00:30make the
01:00:30effort
01:00:30and try
01:00:31to make
01:00:31it happen
01:00:31and if
01:00:32it doesn't
01:00:32then it
01:00:33doesn't
01:00:33that's cool
01:00:34but like
01:00:34the ball's
01:00:35in her
01:00:35court
01:00:35in my
01:00:35eyes
01:00:38Sarah
01:00:40why do you
01:00:41think you're
01:00:41finding it
01:00:42so hard
01:00:43to really
01:00:44engage
01:00:44here with
01:00:45Tim
01:00:45and to
01:00:45make him
01:00:46your
01:00:46priority
01:00:49um
01:00:50to be
01:00:51honest
01:00:53I just
01:00:54don't feel
01:00:54like I am
01:00:55at a point
01:00:56with Tim
01:00:58that I
01:00:59want to
01:01:00have the
01:01:00times on
01:01:01the weekends
01:01:03like doing
01:01:04going on
01:01:05dates
01:01:05with Tim
01:01:07so I
01:01:07guess I'm
01:01:08I'm kind
01:01:08of waiting
01:01:09to have
01:01:10that urge
01:01:10to want
01:01:11to do
01:01:11those
01:01:11things
01:01:13um
01:01:14yeah I
01:01:15guess that's
01:01:15where I'm
01:01:16at
01:01:24let's go
01:01:24to the
01:01:24decision
01:01:25then
01:01:25let's go
01:01:26with you
01:01:26first
01:01:27Tim
01:01:32obviously
01:01:33been a
01:01:33challenging
01:01:33week
01:01:37um
01:01:49let's go
01:01:49to the
01:01:50decision
01:01:50then
01:01:50let's go
01:01:51with you
01:01:51first
01:01:52Tim
01:01:57obviously
01:01:58been a
01:01:58challenging
01:01:59week
01:02:00um
01:02:03but
01:02:04I still
01:02:05do see
01:02:05potential
01:02:08and I
01:02:09really want
01:02:10to at least
01:02:10know that
01:02:11I've given
01:02:11it every
01:02:12single last
01:02:12ounce of
01:02:13my effort
01:02:14and energy
01:02:16so
01:02:17I would
01:02:18stay
01:02:29and what
01:02:30about you
01:02:30Sarah
01:02:31stay or
01:02:32leave
01:02:39so
01:02:42yeah
01:02:43I guess
01:02:43for me
01:02:46I still
01:02:47want to
01:02:47give this
01:02:47a chance
01:02:52I feel
01:02:53like it's
01:02:53too early
01:02:54on and
01:02:54that's just
01:02:55not the
01:02:55kind of
01:02:56person I
01:02:56am
01:02:58so
01:02:59I wrote
01:02:59stay as
01:03:00well
01:03:10have a
01:03:11cuddle
01:03:11have a
01:03:11cuddle
01:03:17come on
01:03:18bring it in
01:03:19come on
01:03:21bring it in
01:03:30come on
01:03:32bring it in
01:03:40this week
01:03:41if you do not
01:03:42make each
01:03:43other
01:03:43number one
01:03:44priority
01:03:45you're dead
01:03:46in the
01:03:46water
01:03:47go and
01:03:48do it
01:03:50thanks guys
01:03:53all right
01:03:54go back
01:03:54to the
01:03:54group
01:04:03I don't
01:04:04know
01:04:04it's tough
01:04:04to get a
01:04:05read
01:04:05where
01:04:05we're at
01:04:06at the
01:04:06moment
01:04:06to be
01:04:07honest
01:04:08I'm going
01:04:08to give
01:04:08her the
01:04:09week
01:04:09to try
01:04:10and if
01:04:11she is
01:04:11genuinely
01:04:12sorry
01:04:12then she'll
01:04:13make an
01:04:13effort
01:04:13so hopefully
01:04:14we can
01:04:15turn things
01:04:44around
01:04:45clear the
01:04:46aisle
01:04:46I don't want
01:04:47to tell me
01:04:47how good
01:04:48looking I
01:04:48am
01:04:48I tell
01:04:48myself
01:04:49every day
01:04:49I don't
01:04:49need two
01:04:49people
01:04:50telling me
01:04:50that
01:04:50for love
01:04:51I'd say
01:04:52I was
01:04:52kind
01:04:52caring
01:04:52compassionate
01:04:53and gorgeous
01:04:54but that's
01:04:54just scratching
01:04:55the surface
01:04:55I am
01:04:57a psychic
01:04:58medium
01:04:58read people's
01:04:59thoughts
01:04:59getting married
01:05:00the new
01:05:02weddings
01:05:03I accept
01:05:04you
01:05:04and I love
01:05:05you
01:05:07jeez
01:05:08a lot
01:05:09we'll sweep
01:05:10Australia
01:05:10away
01:05:12it all
01:05:13starts
01:05:14tomorrow
01:05:157.30
01:05:16on 9
01:05:16and
01:05:17the
01:05:17experiment
01:05:18it's degrading
01:05:19it's about
01:05:20disrespectful
01:05:21I'm not talking
01:05:22to you
01:05:22lot
01:05:22to be
01:05:24robbed
01:05:24there's things
01:05:25you can't
01:05:26say
01:05:26and that
01:05:27is one
01:05:27of them
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