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00:00:22You're going to die.
00:00:27Do you know how old I am?
00:00:28Oh my God, okay, I'm 54 and that's it, there you go.
00:00:40Got your seatbelt on?
00:00:42Yeah, oh shit, oh God.
00:00:48I am 27.
00:00:54Oh my God, oh wow, seriously, can I see your driver's license?
00:01:05Wow, okay, did not expect that.
00:01:09I figured that was going to happen.
00:01:14Oh my God, that's insane.
00:01:17I literally thought you were like 10 years older.
00:01:20Um, okay, my youngest is 22 and my daughter's 25.
00:01:30And three years before that, I gave birth to my oldest, so he's 29.
00:01:35My son is older than you.
00:01:38Does that scare you?
00:01:48You know, honestly, the only, the biggest thing that scares me is the outside perception
00:01:54of everybody in the universe.
00:01:57I can't control it.
00:02:02No, you can't control it.
00:02:04Absolutely.
00:02:05Yeah, it scares me, but it's also just pretty amazing that, like, I connected with you
00:02:11and I had no idea how old you were.
00:02:14I didn't want something I can't control to mess this up because...
00:02:19Right.
00:02:19I feel like we hit it off from day one.
00:02:22And it would have hurt a lot.
00:02:30I'm, I am really excited to continue our relationship and get to know each other better.
00:02:38Whatever's next.
00:02:43I know I play with fire.
00:02:48It's good.
00:02:48I know where the fire can burn
00:02:53Nothing can, but nothing gain
00:02:55It's worth the price I have to pay
00:02:57To see if this is real
00:03:01Yeah, love is a reason
00:03:03One that I want to take
00:03:06If you believe in love, show me something.
00:03:11If I had known his age going into it,
00:03:14like, I would have never probably started dating him.
00:03:17Like, I had a child before he was even born.
00:03:23They're her kids. They're not my kids, you know.
00:03:27Eventually, they're our kids. I don't know.
00:03:31Love is a risk.
00:03:33One that I want to take.
00:03:35You know, his age is reflective of how much experience in life he has.
00:03:39So now that we're moving on into the real world
00:03:42and we're going to live with each other,
00:03:44it will be interesting to see how well we can adapt to that life.
00:03:49I'm sexually attracted to her. I'm physically attracted to her.
00:03:52I'm emotionally attracted to her.
00:03:53So I'm looking forward to as much time with her as possible
00:03:57to just grow this connection and see where it can go.
00:04:00I'm excited.
00:04:01Love is a risk.
00:04:03One that I want to take.
00:04:05You gotta jump.
00:04:07Now look at that.
00:04:08There's no escape.
00:04:10Love is a risk.
00:04:12One that I want to take.
00:04:15To you.
00:04:20Guys, I'm sure you know who I've been talking to.
00:04:23Justin.
00:04:23Yes.
00:04:23And Jorge.
00:04:24Yes.
00:04:25But they are literally total opposite.
00:04:28And they're both really good guys.
00:04:29Yeah.
00:04:30And I just don't know.
00:04:32Are you still torn?
00:04:32i don't i don't know like they're literally just two different she's like it's so hard that two
00:04:37men are riding over me oh my gosh god it's so hard so difficult no no like no it's it's
00:04:45like
00:04:45the thing with me is with like my connection with justin we've talked about like our lives and stuff
00:04:50and like outside of this and i can like clearly like see like our life like together yeah but
00:04:56with jorge i get like excited and like i noticed that yeah you get a little more giddy like
00:05:02yesterday jorge had his shirt off and i did not know he had tattoos i literally was up there and
00:05:08i could not stop staring yeah and like the sun his body was like glistening i was like
00:05:13that being a spy i know little slut yeah i love it oh my gosh me just drinking the tea
00:05:23my intention coming in here was i want to find love i've been in love once before
00:05:30and i got heartbroken that's the only time i've been in love that's hard you know you have to really
00:05:37um put your heart out there and be vulnerable but um yeah i'm ready for that
00:05:55we're supposed to buckle these nah right
00:06:08god this is gorgeous i came here to find a connection and to meet a lot of people
00:06:15but to ultimately find that person that i do want to settle down with oh my god
00:06:22i think i have a pretty clear sense of who i am and i think i value things that are
00:06:27more mature
00:06:27than most people my age do turn your gear yeah i'm really excited to hopefully continue my connection
00:06:34with derek honestly he seems like a really sweet guy seems like he has his life together
00:06:40i would like to talk to him more but i'm happy i'm happy that i've even started to find something
00:06:47i can do the pedaling and i can move it but the gear situation kind of had me
00:06:52it threw you off but you helped me out so
00:06:55so you're not a mountain biker i'm a stationary biker yeah i have never considered myself outdoorsy
00:07:02i actually was just hiking in austria it was awesome it was a solo trip
00:07:06you did it by yourself yeah yeah awesome what brought that on i feel like i'm always saving
00:07:11money to travel you know like everybody's like oh i'm gonna travel at some point but it's like
00:07:15thank you yeah um it's like when am i going to yeah like now is the time right yeah are
00:07:20you a big
00:07:21traveler is that important to you absolutely i travel a lot i love the fact that you booked a trip
00:07:26yeah where else have you traveled i've been to spain i've been to london more in spain did you
00:07:30um barcelona love seville did you love it yeah barcelona's the best how could you not love it
00:07:36yeah um i was with my whole family too which was really nice yeah um like i have a pretty
00:07:41small
00:07:41family so it was and it was my grandparents and then like my great aunt my aunt and my mom
00:07:46okay um
00:07:47but it was like our last family trip with everybody together yeah how was that i mean it was it
00:07:53was
00:07:53fantastic it was great families like it's very important to me like i said i'm from a small family
00:07:58and i like want to have a big family yeah so i just appreciating those moments together is like
00:08:04that's like a big part yeah no it's what i love yeah i'm the same family's so big okay so
00:08:11big to me
00:08:11yeah no i completely agree i didn't get into details about my family my two boys that i have now
00:08:18i do want to tell her but it'll be a shocker i think if i tell pfeiffer that i have
00:08:24a 15 year old son
00:08:25and a five-year-old hopefully that doesn't change the connection we have and the feelings that she
00:08:31has from you though hey jolene do you want to walk with me oh yeah okay you can bring the
00:08:46blanket oh i
00:08:47can really yeah why not yes i have been on the apps before and i'll be so crazy that i'll
00:08:54swipe
00:08:54when i drive and i'm just like kind of addicted to it i'm looking for something authentic and organic
00:09:00i feel like dating girls in the past like i've gotten parts of the one we're going to the promise
00:09:06room see you guys later no i'm just kidding i'm kidding i'm kidding so coming into this it pushes
00:09:12me to talk to girls who i normally would not and it's opened my eyes a bit already
00:09:19damn girl you ballsy with it well i don't know what else i'm supposed to say i might crush you
00:09:25no you're fine okay okay i was terrified going into this because i live a very comfortable routine life
00:09:33but there's like this little this piece right here that just wants someone to be like come here
00:09:37you compliment me thing you know my ex-husband and i we took good care of our children together
00:09:45and we continue to do so and um i remember driving home one day from work and just being so
00:09:51thankful
00:09:52for my life because i had this wonderful man at home who like takes my son to baseball and just
00:09:58feeling true happiness and it didn't work out we just kind of grew apart but i want to feel that
00:10:07again
00:10:08i so badly want to ask you how old you are really yeah but i don't know why i think
00:10:14it's just
00:10:15like instinct but i'm trying to let that go i know but i'll tell you what i look young
00:10:24okay so i'm probably older than you think i am i'll just give you that that's it oh god i
00:10:30hope so
00:10:42i'm not used to like doing this dating like multiple people at the same time so this is just
00:10:47really hard and i want to try to move as respectful as i can to both the guys we're here
00:10:52today to do some
00:10:54forest bathing i have here some blindfolds one person leads one person follows and the person who leads
00:11:03has the responsibility of getting them to experience the forest with their other senses
00:11:10vanel is amazing we work well together to me energy wise i want to show her a little bit the
00:11:16gentler
00:11:16side the other side of her and i've experienced in the past where you know i don't let everybody see
00:11:22that side of me um because not everybody protects that side of me right but in her case she's just
00:11:28i
00:11:29don't know something about her he's gentle energy i love it if i trip and fall it's over with lift
00:11:34your foot there you go come on you think i'd let you fall no kidding just trust me you trust
00:11:41me
00:11:41i do trust you all right am i walking straight yes walking straight now keep walking real slow
00:11:50i got you you will not stumble you will not fall i will not let that happen okay
00:11:57oh you did so good oh my gosh you got me all the way here that was good good job
00:12:05you enjoy it yeah i feel excited um i feel like jittery i feel i don't know i just had
00:12:14a really good
00:12:15time with jorge i've been wanting to just like see a different side to him because he has a really
00:12:20like big personality and today i was able to just like see him more calm more serious he seems like
00:12:27he's a little bit older than me um i'm sure he probably is but he has like um a young
00:12:33spirit in a way
00:12:34so honestly the age factor with jorge doesn't bother me you're my only connection like i'm not
00:12:41really really wow because i'm not like i told you if i look at someone and i'm not
00:12:49feeling it and i know it won't be genuine like i'm not gonna do it because it's not gonna be
00:12:53real
00:12:54but i'm not saying that to put pressure on you you're not good
00:13:02justin and jorge are literally total opposites and i don't want to spend too much time tuggling
00:13:08between two guys i want to like make a decision soon but ultimately like i thought i was leaving
00:13:14here with justin um and deep down in my heart i kind of feel if justin was truly the person
00:13:21that
00:13:21i felt like okay that is the one then maybe i wouldn't be so conflicted i like when a man
00:13:27makes
00:13:28that no new wants me well i think i've made it known have i now
00:13:52you gotta catch me up i think i mean i feel like i'm in a really lucky spot um i'm
00:13:58really happy with
00:13:59where i am with derek right now um how far apart do you think you and derek are in age
00:14:06um i would say like 13 to 16 years okay okay that's my guess okay is there any like reservations
00:14:14you have about like a future with him it feels really weird to be like wow this person and i
00:14:19are
00:14:19really aligned and everything seems to be going smoothly like where is the big like when is the shoe
00:14:25going to drop yeah but i'm just kind of a scaredy cat too with this sort of thing that's okay
00:14:29but i
00:14:31think for your age i don't know what your age is but i can guess and i think that you
00:14:34have a good head
00:14:35on your shoulders thank you that means a lot and i think you're a lot more confident than i was
00:14:39at
00:14:39your age and like putting yourself out there how about you i want to hear all about where your mind
00:14:45is
00:14:45that how you're feeling about things yeah so this has really been pushing me out of my comfort zone
00:14:51i think that's great yeah yeah what's funny is like in talking to some of the men they're like
00:14:55if a girl came after me i think it's hot as i know they say that but at the same
00:15:00time like i don't
00:15:01want to be a chaser like i'm not chasing anyone no so it's like yeah do we push ourselves out
00:15:07of the
00:15:07comfort zone and try something different or do we just keep the status quo and yeah yeah oh my god
00:15:28make sure you strap it on i found one i got you there's a few women here that have caught
00:15:35my eye but
00:15:36honestly i'm feeling some vibes with libby it's very just playful she is fun younger very extroverted
00:15:44how did i know you were not going to know how to do this libby is complete chaos in the
00:15:51best ways
00:15:51possible i think i do not do huddles at all you're fine oh god you're fine you're good can i
00:16:05back out
00:16:06i am feeling a little bit of pressure and nerves because i need to go into this date and you
00:16:11know
00:16:12show up be myself but i think i have a tendency to get a little bit nervous when i'm interested
00:16:17in
00:16:17somebody and kind of um feel a little bit more reserved and closed off so i'm hoping today i can
00:16:24just
00:16:24let my guard down and be normal at this point andrew's really the only one that i genuinely find
00:16:32myself attracted to and although my mind is running in circles about the kid thing and the age thing
00:16:41and whatever i definitely have a little crush on him
00:16:47i'm gonna definitely give you the ick today i'm gonna be like i'm over this and if i hear screaming
00:16:53i'm gonna
00:16:54pretend i don't
00:16:57i'm gonna be like i'm gonna be like oh my god
00:17:18like i can't believe i almost cried libby is my type like spot on like my group chat is going
00:17:27to
00:17:27be like dude i thought you were going to do something different it's not that i haven't
00:17:32tried i've talked to a bunch of people and i'm not saying that i'm not going to keep experiencing
00:17:36this experience and talking to other people but i mean you know if you just something's you something's
00:17:43you and i think that you know for me it's been fun to date younger um healthy i don't know
00:17:51probably
00:17:52not fun yes we survived we made it yeah you weren't helpful though i think i was nothing but
00:18:01helpful personally but i'm glad you got through it and i guess it was a fun thing for us to
00:18:06do
00:18:06it wasn't day two and you see me scared like that up there but as long as you didn't get
00:18:10the ick
00:18:11i did you got the ick no i'm kidding you're all good you're all good i mean go on i
00:18:17think there
00:18:18could be like a strong connection there it's like i'm seeing a lot of her like funny side and maybe
00:18:25there's like a little intimidation there or whatever or nerves you know we're all we all have a little
00:18:30bit of that but i can tell there's like this other side to her that's like super sweet and soft
00:18:36i
00:18:37think if she does have that side like to her i definitely think that you know there would be
00:18:41something there okay thank you all right can i ask you something yeah and like don't get offended
00:18:47you're funny as shit but like are is there like a softer side to you like a more
00:18:53like serious like i really do want to have more kids i really do want to find my person i
00:19:00really am
00:19:00here to connect with someone i feel like i love our banter i love how we just laugh and give
00:19:06each
00:19:06other back and forth and don't compliment each other um but is that like a serious side like a
00:19:14warm side to you that's funny that you're like you want to ask me that why is that it's hard
00:19:20for me
00:19:20because i know like in the past like when i fully let people in and been 100 that side of
00:19:27myself it's
00:19:28kind of hard to recover after you get really hurt you know i just have to like warm up to
00:19:33that place
00:19:34because i don't know i get i'm kind of like guarded in the beginning i can say um but yeah
00:19:41we'll get to
00:19:42that place see it's it strides for me to tell you that you're sort of kind of cute okay well
00:19:47i'll take
00:19:47sort of kind of cute um i feel like i know a lot about you but i wanted to ask
00:19:52you more about
00:19:53your daughters because i feel like i don't know how much about them do you want to know how old
00:19:58they
00:19:58are i know i wouldn't tell you the other day just tell me you freak 14 and 12. sorry was
00:20:06that i can't i
00:20:07can't hide anything on 14 and 12. um i'm a little shocked a little shocked i don't think um i
00:20:19was
00:20:19expecting that that's that's new does this surprise you shock what are you thinking i thought they were
00:20:26way younger than that i'm curious as to how old you probably think i am oh shoot i don't know
00:20:32and i
00:20:32don't want to make guesses and i'm a little scared don't strike me as an old person
00:20:40what is old to you i don't know you just great skincare any recommendations yeah drink a lot of
00:20:47water okay thanks for that thank you so much stay out of the sun yeah i'm just feeling a little
00:20:54bit
00:20:54shocked and overwhelmed and i think i might need a little bit of time to reflect on it i'm not
00:21:00that far
00:21:01from 14. so i'm definitely gonna take a minute and reflect
00:21:21i've been to spas but nothing like this i'm keeping myself open to meeting the other guys
00:21:28but i don't have the same connection with others that i do with west
00:21:43what i want when it comes to relationships is marriage now i'm not saying the next girl that
00:21:48i date is going to be my wife but if i could choose it would be a hundred percent going
00:21:53into this date the
00:21:54three that i had my eye on are vanessa lindy and katherine i'm looking for a woman that i can
00:22:00spend
00:22:00my life with a woman i can take home and my parents my mom is happy my dad's happy to
00:22:04see this woman next
00:22:05to me no matter her age oh my god i think west right now is at the time in his
00:22:13life where he likes to have fun
00:22:15he does immature things like backflips into the goal plunge and i'm really continuing to try to like
00:22:23throw that out the window it's like really tough for me what do you think of it i think it's
00:22:29beautiful
00:22:30here i love it it's relaxing i like getting to know you baby yeah what would you want to know
00:22:40i mean things i can't ask but why not you ask me anything
00:22:48what i wonder how old you i know we're not supposed to be dating and i just want to get
00:22:52to know you
00:22:53i could take you to the promise room we could we could line it up real quick
00:22:58and i'm i'm up for that i know it's kind of crazy like all in right here right now but
00:23:05you know that's it i'm not crazy i think you are you know with younger guys sometimes they get
00:23:13caught up in like the new stuff you know the new is exciting i think part of me is like
00:23:19have has
00:23:20these like walls up like why is he so complimentary so like soon like what is his game here my
00:23:27flirty
00:23:28aspect can be a red flag to people but the things i say are genuine they're honest and i think
00:23:34like
00:23:35more feelings and actions show how i really feel rather than like things i say
00:23:49absolutely natural beauty that we have around it i know it's so pretty i love it and this
00:23:54natural beauty in front of you oh wow that was very smooth that was very smooth i've got to give
00:24:00your props for that good job high five mama hey guys how are you i don't want to interrupt no
00:24:09you're
00:24:09fine you can um i was wondering if you want to go to the other pool we didn't go there
00:24:13yet let's go
00:24:13okay all right i'll bring him back don't worry you guys have fun okay you take your time okay
00:24:19i have not been successful at dating i lived in a small town my whole life i've met everyone i've
00:24:25dated
00:24:25everyone i wanted to date this one might be deeper will you save me if i now i have the
00:24:31opportunity
00:24:31to meet people from all different places all different ages and i want to explore things and
00:24:37i want to see who's out there are you are you upset right real i'm really not i'm actually happy
00:24:44about
00:24:44that okay good i was waiting for that i'm like you know i don't like to compete for attention me
00:24:48neither
00:24:48but i didn't i didn't i didn't know so i would have given you another five minutes and then i
00:24:53would
00:24:53have stolen you away i didn't want to like i was just trying to get a little reaction oh it's
00:24:58called
00:24:58triangulation a little little triangle you're trying you were trying to triangulate well it worked
00:25:03look here we are it did work here we are where'd you tell me you live again i live in
00:25:08miami you are
00:25:10such a miami boy i think i'm gonna visit you one day absolutely 100 no after this entire thing we're
00:25:16we're going back to miami together together i won't make you come to ohio to see me i told you
00:25:21ohio is my like backyard okay yeah coming in yeah i love it okay yeah i'm glad that we got
00:25:28to have
00:25:28our time together yeah and we'll have more time together i hope yeah for sure is that cool with
00:25:33you mm-hmm it's cool with me all right good okay good get your hand oh she didn't really answer
00:25:39it
00:25:39i'm sorry i sold you away for a lot of girls i'll try not to do that no i'll continue
00:25:43to do that okay
00:25:44all right sounds good should we kiss this is a quick one
00:25:53you have a nice look
00:26:02you're so beautiful thank you glad that you appreciate it this won't be the end of this you
00:26:07think okay good see you tomorrow and the next day and the next day okay good okay good all right
00:26:12i'm happy about this yeah i'm not bad
00:26:21six two huh hey that's six one and a half you don't have to lie with me anything over five
00:26:28eight is a win
00:26:58i came here for a true connection like i really want to find someone um a husband
00:27:04you know um someone to love and that truly loves me i actually like lavender you do yeah
00:27:11coming here i found two amazing guys that you know i really connected with and like i just have a
00:27:18lot
00:27:18to figure out i i just i don't know i just really don't know what to do ladies first okay
00:27:24yeah yeah okay
00:27:26my connection with vanell so far has been really great we have really good strong kind of uh chemistry
00:27:32it's not common to like really have somebody that you meet and you kind of connect with on
00:27:37all those levels and that quickly um so i would ask vanell to go to the promise room today i
00:27:45would
00:27:45um i don't know that she necessarily feels the same way about me but the truth is that is how
00:27:53i feel about her
00:28:00tell me about yesterday oh my date yeah we went for his bathing and stuff yeah not really my vibe
00:28:08but
00:28:08i got to have a conversation with corje yeah but now i also like someone else too and i'm just
00:28:16not
00:28:16used to like being in that position yeah like dating multiple people at once or opening up myself to
00:28:22dating multiple people but like this experience you know forces you to do that yeah yeah who do you feel
00:28:29like you have more chemistry with you guys are just so different we are so different um yeah i think
00:28:37i
00:28:37have chemistry with you yeah um the different kind of chemistry with jorge yeah it's just different
00:28:49i'm not gonna lie a lot of the time i was thinking about jorge and i don't know i just
00:28:58am
00:29:02i think today i kind of got the clarity that i was wanting and it's more of just like a
00:29:08feeling like
00:29:09when i was with jorge yesterday on our date i was more like getting like nervous
00:29:14and today with justin it was more of like i didn't really feel that
00:29:23anything else you think about no
00:29:31you sure
00:29:34i feel like those wheels are turning up there
00:29:49i just don't want to like upset him or like break his heart or
00:30:01i just feel bad
00:30:06what do you worry about um
00:30:12i don't know i guess i just like worry that like
00:30:17maybe we're just not a good match
00:30:24okay
00:30:27it's a little bit
00:30:30bittersweet i guess because it's like you've been i've been through this before where you connect with
00:30:35somebody like on a visceral level and then something comes in between you and um yeah it's part of
00:30:43dating
00:30:56just because i was her first connection doesn't mean that i was her best connection
00:31:03i really hope jorge sees the same kind of beauty and perspective in her that i see in her
00:31:11because i know that she deserves that i don't know that i know what the rest of my life will
00:31:17look
00:31:17like but i am still open to finding like my person and i hope that they're out there uh that's
00:31:24the goal for me
00:31:33so how'd you sleep how'd you feel
00:31:35it was pretty good yeah the cold plunge and the hot tub it felt really good
00:31:39so great back then yeah for sure since the spa date i've just been feeling really like
00:31:45icky as soon as the kiss happened i was like what am i doing like this is not me at
00:31:51all
00:31:52like i felt like i moved way too fast and then it just didn't feel right to me afterwards it
00:31:58just
00:31:58made me take like a big step back and like rethink what i was doing the last thing you said
00:32:04to me it
00:32:05was like honesty it's about honesty honesty like do this journey let's just keep that word in mind you
00:32:10know you know if there are other people you want to explore dates with like i wouldn't be upset like
00:32:15i want you to like have this experience like a full experience for you and i don't want you to
00:32:20feel
00:32:20like likewise yeah part of that is what we're here for and no matter what comes out of this
00:32:24i appreciated that i appreciate this it's like yeah that's priceless honestly right every guy that i
00:32:30date has been a love bomber and immediately just throws everything into it acts like everything's so
00:32:36great and i'm so perfect and everything's right and so the fact that like everything with chris
00:32:41happens so fast so touchy-feely and everything there was something in my brain that was like warning
00:32:46warning like this is not good this is not healthy so at this point i'm feeling like you know chris
00:32:53really
00:32:53isn't the one i didn't want to be disrespectful to you or your time so i'm glad that it was
00:32:59well
00:32:59received so that we had our time honestly i had a great time getting to know vanessa but i would
00:33:07love
00:33:07to get to know other girls while i'm here because i feel like i would regret not doing that and
00:33:12i'll
00:33:12be happy for her as well if she ends up with somebody else here and actually finds love
00:33:26i think that we should spend back on our conversation i know you were kind of asking about
00:33:30like the more serious serious side of me yeah i want to see that side yeah and i know that
00:33:37like
00:33:37i might come off as just kind of all funny and like silly you don't want to put yourself out
00:33:43there that
00:33:43much and like possibly get hurt yeah that yeah there we go i get it yeah yeah so how's relationship
00:33:50was said um mother of your children um it's amazing honestly you guys kiss we kiss like really good
00:34:02like it's really amazing i mean at one point maybe we did but no that's kind of how the kids
00:34:08are made
00:34:08that is how kids are made yeah oh my god oh god made me blush like a little bit maybe
00:34:18a little
00:34:18uncomfortable there i'm just kidding i'm sorry i have to no worries yeah all right well let me ask you
00:34:25this you know my daughters are like 14 and 12 so like my life is very established in baltimore like
00:34:33it
00:34:33just is like my business is there my kids are there you know say we continue this like do you
00:34:40see
00:34:40yourself in a long distance relationship do you see yourself possibly like relocating if you know things
00:34:47went that far yeah well um i think i'm somebody who like when i like somebody i go all in
00:34:53and honestly
00:34:54i am catching a little bit of real feelings for you and there's a there's a five okay fly fly
00:35:01fly
00:35:02fly help help help i'm so such an outdoorsy man yeah i've heard that before with your man this is
00:35:07like the best second time i saved your life i think we're on like four now yeah according to you
00:35:12at least four right now yes every time we spend a little bit more time together i'm seeing there's much
00:35:19more to her than i thought i mean i'm looking for a ride or die and i think honestly after
00:35:26tonight i
00:35:27want to see where it goes i haven't really felt like this in a while about anyone and i guess
00:35:34i don't mind
00:35:56i came here looking for a different way of dating
00:36:04luckily for me like i'm sitting in a position where like i have made a connection and i'm looking
00:36:10to like build on that i want to take libby to the promise room because i want to continue to
00:36:23commit
00:36:24to this connection that i have with her she keeps me a little off balance and somehow i just
00:36:31i find myself wanting more of that for me having two daughters you know i'm not making that commitment
00:36:41with anyone if i can't see them possibly being in my daughter's lives
00:36:45hey hey hey hey i would say libby's definitely in her 20s there's just this energy about her that's
00:36:55it's just like hard to ignore
00:36:57let's take good time
00:37:00and go for a slow drive
00:37:02i feel nervous overall because there's a level of commitment to it that is really serious
00:37:10but i could potentially genuinely see a future with andrew because i think that
00:37:15he has a lot of qualities that resemble things that i'm looking for in a future partner i think
00:37:21that he accepts those parts of myself that i sometimes feel insecure about
00:37:27initially when i learned that andrew had kids i was extremely thrown off
00:37:31my fear is that our lives are just too different and we're going in different paths but i'm trying to
00:37:38be open-minded through this whole experience i'm nervous for andrew to find out my age because i
00:37:44think that it's possible he thinks i'm a little older than i am i don't know if he thinks realistically
00:37:50after hearing my age that i'm somebody who could be a serious potential partner for him
00:38:12surprise hi
00:38:16thanks you look handsome
00:38:25okay so i came here because my life back home definitely felt like it was a little bit out of
00:38:36a standstill so i wanted to take a different approach um i wanted to be a little bit more
00:38:42intentional with finding a connection with someone and from the moment i sat down across from you i
00:38:51knew i was in trouble you bring out a side of me that's typically more introverted and it just leaves
00:39:00me wanting more so i know that you know i have two kids one's 14 and one is 12 and
00:39:10it's just very
00:39:11important for me to be able to be with someone where i can merge my entire life and i'm just
00:39:18hoping
00:39:18that that's something you will be open to growing into at some point i've never been scared of the
00:39:27fact that you had kids and honestly that was one of the things that i liked about you it made
00:39:31me take
00:39:32you more seriously so it doesn't bother me and you chose to be here even though i was kind of
00:39:38hard to
00:39:38get through to at some times a little bit a little bit and and i'm excited for the rest that's
00:39:45to come
00:39:49oh hi oh my gosh you're asking me to marry you i am oh this is crazy
00:39:56right
00:39:59you're so you're so nervous i know you're okay i'm typically not nervous yeah big commitment it is a big
00:40:06commitment will you commit to me yay good job okay well i feel like there's only one more thing
00:40:22for us to do um
00:40:27i am 38 years young
00:40:34don't know if i was expecting 38. definitely a little shocked no i i thought you were younger like
00:40:42i thought you were a lot younger but um it's gonna be okay are you scared i'm a little nervous
00:40:52okay
00:40:52what i'm glad i am 22.
00:41:14i feel like you've shown me enough that you know despite the age gap
00:41:23I've seen another side of you that is more serious and if you're all in on this
00:41:30and you didn't run when you hurt my age I'm not going to either so don't they
00:41:36say the age is just a number it's just a number yeah so we're good
00:41:50I'm feeling shocked I've dated younger women before but this is definitely the biggest
00:41:59age gap and yeah I mean it makes me nervous I am a little shocked about Andrew's age honestly
00:42:07don't know what I was thinking it was but I don't think I thought it was 38
00:42:15I didn't think I would ever be with somebody 16 years older than me
00:42:25when I was 22 yeah my life was was crazy um I definitely wasn't ready to be fully committed
00:42:34to someone I don't think I feel like if I think about it too much I'm gonna get in my
00:42:38head like
00:42:39you know can she meet me where I'm at in life can I meet her where she's at in life
00:42:44but I'm already in it there's no turning back
00:42:58so I told you what it was like for me growing up yeah what was it like for you did
00:43:03you did you play
00:43:04outside do they have outside I did but like I was an only child so I was always begging my
00:43:09dad to
00:43:10like yeah like when he was working you know did you have neighbor kids to play with I did but
00:43:15we
00:43:15moved when I was about seven or eight so after that yeah I was kind of by myself yeah you
00:43:21know I came
00:43:23here wanting to find somebody find a connection in the past I'm notorious for running away from
00:43:28something when it gets serious and I want a real relationship that's not something you know I've
00:43:34had in a while oh I like this this is so pretty it is it's gorgeous all right we gotta
00:43:38walk and stop
00:43:39in the middle and look down I want to find love everybody in my family is married everybody has a
00:43:52partner two years ago my mom was diagnosed with cancer we recently just lost her and just watching
00:44:04my dad like be there for her and just how much he loved her it just made me realize like
00:44:10I'm alone
00:44:10and it's time for me to find my person I wish I had like a penny or something to make
00:44:15a wish in here
00:44:23I wish that Vanessa likes me there we go yeah initially I connected with Chris but it wasn't
00:44:31something that was like really meaningful and I'm not gonna settle honestly I feel like Logan is really
00:44:38a gentleman like I could see some potential here he's so cute yeah that's nice Vanessa and I had a
00:44:44really good conversation and I'm excited to continue to get to know her more I feel like we have a
00:44:49connection there's no question about it I wouldn't mean to ask where you're from because your eyes
00:45:08are just so exotic incredible looking honestly I'm from Bakersfield California I mean there's just
00:45:13something like I said when they asked me like what's your type and I said eyes so many times me
00:45:17too yeah
00:45:18me and Vanessa had a connection but that ended very quickly so Leah with her beautiful smile just
00:45:24walk up to me and she's somebody that I've been wanting to get to know from the beginning but we
00:45:30didn't have really any time to have a serious conversation where do you live I live in Miami
00:45:37well I mean my background is Lebanese my mom and my mom was born in Haiti actually I'm ready for
00:45:43something exciting and something I haven't had yet which is love I want the right person who wants me
00:45:50and chooses me because it sucks not finding somebody like when I first had the first like
00:45:57go around first of all it was disappointing we didn't get to talk I know because I was like and
00:46:01I was like oh well there he goes and I was like one day but here we are so that's
00:46:06cool Chris is the guy
00:46:07that I would want to approach me and I'm like really surprised and happy that I finally connecting
00:46:13with someone so I'm super hopeful that I'm oof let's pray let's pray that he's ready because I am
00:46:34how have you been I think good I think I've just obviously like our last conversation I told you
00:46:42that I had another connection here and I was just like needing clarity and yesterday I went on a date
00:46:48with him and you not being there just made me realize how much I like you I think for the
00:46:54remainder of this process like I just want to continue this with you I don't know but I want to
00:47:09be
00:47:10I'm really clear on the now I think that she and I have an insane connection it's difficult to
00:47:18actually find someone you really connect with but I feel somewhat anxious to tell her my age because
00:47:24I've experienced in the past where the age came up and she was like oh no I I can't date
00:47:30that's like
00:47:30dating someone that's close to my dad's age so I hope she'll be accepting of it I really do
00:47:37so what do you say so if you want to pursue it then I mean I do I do too
00:47:42all right there
00:47:46Jorge just makes me feel seen like he accepts me for who I am and I love him
00:48:05honestly like dating him like I could tell he is older than me um I would think that he's probably
00:48:13like in his 40s but my dad told me that doesn't want me to get married to anyone 10 years
00:48:19older
00:48:20than me so the 40s needs to be pushing it this definitely is a big day for me I want
00:48:47to take
00:48:48Jorge to the promise room because I see a future with him I can't put into words like the chemistry
00:48:55we
00:48:56have it's just a feeling oh friend you seem to know my mind before I speak Jorge makes me excited
00:49:08he
00:49:08makes me happy he's just a man like a man I just looked like I was gonna say that all
00:49:16the worst work
00:49:17I really like I really like being around him that's the second time I've done that oh my gosh okay
00:49:23stop
00:49:27I'm nervous about learning his age I don't know if I could move forward with him if he's over late
00:49:3240s that's just a huge age gap huge and my family would freak out I am a little bit nervous
00:49:46because well
00:49:48actually I have some things on my heart I want to talk to Jorge about I would potentially have to
00:49:55walk
00:49:55away from really wanting to be with Jorge if our conversation doesn't go well I am preparing myself
00:50:05for the worst a little bit because I just don't know how he would react it would be literally
00:50:10heartbreaking to walk away from Jorge it's okay I really like him
00:50:24Vanilla is truly a genuine interesting intriguing woman who I'm enamored with
00:50:38it's like been so many different things in a brief amount of time that I've been attracted to
00:50:43I want to find out more I want to continue down that road I haven't felt connected to a woman
00:50:49in
00:50:49quite some time it would suck if Vanilla was affected by my age because that would be the end of
00:50:58the
00:50:58connection right so it would suck that we can't pursue it further and find out more and see if
00:51:04this is really what we both believe it is I'm a little bit nervous with that but ultimately if it
00:51:13bothers her then it wasn't meant to be right
00:51:16it's the way it goes
00:51:22what will be will be
00:51:26that's never made much sense to me
00:51:30and I'll be damned if I lose control
00:51:34how are you? I'm nervous
00:51:35don't be
00:51:36come here
00:51:46so coming into this experience
00:51:51I wanted to find a genuine connection
00:51:56and coming to this I wanted to find a potential husband
00:52:03and since meeting you I feel like I found that
00:52:10I didn't think that I would find a connection this deep with you
00:52:16with you I feel safe
00:52:18I feel cared for
00:52:20I feel protected
00:52:23I feel respected
00:52:25and I like that you are yourself
00:52:28with whoever you're interacting with
00:52:36you're doing good
00:52:38yeah
00:52:39coming to this experience I was hopeful but still like
00:52:43nah I said it's not gonna happen you know
00:52:45but hopefully that I could find
00:52:47you know the woman that I wanted to be in my life
00:52:50you know and that means a lot to me
00:52:51and that's it's not easy as you know
00:52:54it's not easy at all
00:52:55it works well with us
00:52:57because your quiet confidence and energy
00:52:59cool me out
00:53:01because I'm on 10
00:53:01you know that
00:53:02you've seen how I am
00:53:03and so I need that
00:53:05I really need that and want that in my life
00:53:08it is what it is
00:53:09you know when you know
00:53:09yeah
00:53:10you know
00:53:10thank you for that
00:53:11but I do have something on my heart
00:53:14that I have been wanting to tell you
00:53:16okay
00:53:20so you know faith is really important to me
00:53:23and honoring God in every way I can
00:53:25is really important to me
00:53:31one of the ways
00:53:32I have made a promise to God is to honor God
00:53:36with my celibacy
00:53:38I've been celibate for almost two years now
00:53:40and I did make a promise to wait till marriage
00:53:43and I think in my past relationships
00:53:46when it came to my faith
00:53:47I've been very wavering with that
00:53:49and I'm at a point in my life
00:53:51where I'm no longer doing that
00:53:54so I need someone that
00:53:56understands how important that is to me
00:53:58and that wants to walk on that journey with me
00:54:04so I just
00:54:06need to know
00:54:07like what you think about that
00:54:13well
00:54:14first off
00:54:15I'm not
00:54:15I see you're getting nervous about it
00:54:17yeah
00:54:18and there's no need to be nervous about it
00:54:20because
00:54:20if that's what you're feeling
00:54:22and if that's what
00:54:23is important to you
00:54:24you don't have to be nervous
00:54:24you can say it
00:54:25with your chest
00:54:26you can say it like you mean it
00:54:27because
00:54:28that's what you mean
00:54:29right
00:54:29um
00:54:30is that something that I've done
00:54:31or is that something that I've
00:54:33actually
00:54:34actively practiced
00:54:35no
00:54:35I haven't
00:54:36no
00:54:36is it something that I would respect with you
00:54:38of course I'll respect it with you
00:54:39um
00:54:40I'm not gonna back off of you
00:54:42now
00:54:43after we've gotten to this place
00:54:45because you say that
00:54:46that's not
00:54:46that doesn't scare me
00:54:47you know
00:54:48it doesn't make me
00:54:49I'm a grown ass man
00:54:51you know what I'm saying
00:54:51come on
00:54:52I'm not afraid of that
00:54:53no
00:54:53it's okay
00:54:55you know that makes
00:54:56get the kiss
00:54:57that makes me really happy
00:54:58mm-hmm
00:55:00I think also
00:55:01something else
00:55:02I wanted to talk about
00:55:04is like
00:55:05I don't know
00:55:06if you have kids
00:55:07if you want kids
00:55:08like
00:55:10you wanna know
00:55:11if I want kids
00:55:11yes
00:55:12but
00:55:13I'm not gonna have kids
00:55:14outside of a marriage
00:55:15mm-hmm
00:55:16that's not gonna happen
00:55:17that's not gonna happen
00:55:18so if
00:55:19if I'm gonna have
00:55:20a child
00:55:21with someone
00:55:21we have to be
00:55:22in a marriage
00:55:23that's not gonna break up
00:55:24I'm not willing
00:55:25to have no baby mamas
00:55:26no
00:55:27I'm not having that
00:55:27so that's not gonna happen
00:55:29but to answer your
00:55:30your question
00:55:30yes
00:55:31I wouldn't mind
00:55:31having kids
00:55:32if you're my wife
00:55:34well then that's
00:55:34what we're talking about
00:55:35mm-hmm
00:55:36so yes
00:55:37the answer's yes
00:55:38any more questions
00:55:39mm-hmm
00:55:41get them out
00:55:41no
00:55:42that's
00:55:42that's
00:55:43all I pretty much have
00:55:44you sure
00:55:45mm-hmm
00:55:46I'm excited too
00:55:48now's the time
00:55:50I don't know
00:55:51I'm just really happy
00:55:52that I found you
00:55:53in this experience
00:55:54like really
00:55:55like I feel like
00:55:57if I'm being really honest
00:55:58like
00:55:59maybe I was meant
00:56:00to come here
00:56:01to meet someone like you
00:56:02like you have really
00:56:04made this experience
00:56:06just so amazing for me
00:56:08um
00:56:08thank you
00:56:09yes
00:56:11are you not nervous anymore
00:56:12no
00:56:13you calm me down
00:56:14so fast
00:56:16that's what it's supposed to be
00:56:17yeah
00:56:18so now we're here
00:56:19in this promise room
00:56:20we're here in this promise room
00:56:21promise room
00:56:22and you need to know my age
00:56:27but hold up
00:56:28so
00:56:29are we
00:56:30making that commitment
00:56:32I choose to yes
00:56:34you choose to
00:56:35I choose to as well
00:56:37so I'm gonna put it on first
00:56:39cause I think
00:56:39I think that's the
00:56:45okay
00:56:48does anything about
00:56:50you finding out
00:56:51my age scare you
00:56:52I guess you're gonna tell me now
00:56:53yes
00:56:54yes
00:56:55I am
00:56:56I'm 27
00:56:59what
00:57:00you're 27
00:57:04mmhmm
00:57:05that
00:57:06that
00:57:07man
00:57:09whew
00:57:09okay
00:57:10yeah
00:57:11I'm
00:57:11you know
00:57:11this is the way
00:57:12God's testing my words
00:57:13like okay
00:57:14age is not nothing but a number
00:57:15okay
00:57:16doesn't bank me back off of you
00:57:17you can
00:57:18so you ready for mine
00:57:19cause I don't know
00:57:20if you're ready for this
00:57:21I am
00:57:22I really don't know
00:57:24I really don't know
00:57:24if you're ready for this one
00:57:25you ready
00:57:26mmhmm
00:57:29I'm 60
00:57:36I'm too far gone
00:57:40there's no way back
00:57:43I'm caught in the ecstasy
00:57:47every time that you're next to me
00:57:49look what you do to me
00:57:51I don't know how
00:57:53I can face
00:57:54everybody
00:57:55now
00:57:55every time I
00:57:57try
00:57:57I just
00:57:58mess up
00:57:59something inside
00:58:00me
00:58:01knows that
00:58:02I need something
00:58:03different
00:58:34I need something
00:58:36you
00:58:36you
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