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Trending ang usapin kung sino nga ba ang dapat masunod sa relasyon ng mag-asawa. Hihimayin natin ang usaping “In Real Life” kasama ang relationship and parenting specialist na si Maribel Sison-Dionisio at Sexbomb Sunshine Garcia. Panoorin ang video.
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00:00Mga kapuso, usapang love and relationship tayo ngayong umaga
00:03lalang mga in real life situations sa mga nagmamahalan
00:06pag-uusapan natin sa pinakabago naming segment na
00:10IRM Tim!
00:12Naku, maraming makaka-relate dito.
00:15Ang una natin, pag-uusapan trending topic.
00:17Sino ba ang dapat masunod sa mag-asawa?
00:20Tinanong nga natin ang ilang kapuso natin dyan.
00:26Mga opinion ng mga kapuso natin dyan.
00:29Definitely.
00:30Kasi both of us, nagde-decision.
00:33Pareho kayo.
00:34Ano sabi? Ito, ito'y decision ko. Ano pala tingin mo?
00:37So, meron pa rin consultation sa kanya.
00:40Ako ang nasusunod kasi ako naman yung nagbabadjet.
00:44E basta bibigyan lang ako, bahala na ako.
00:47Dapat, dalawa pa rin.
00:49Ang mga bigayan, give and take lang.
00:52Kailangan lalaki talaga.
00:53Kasi mas mataas ang task ng lalaki kumbara sa babae.
01:26Kami-kami pa lang, dami na naming opinion din.
01:26Tawa na raw kasi, di ba, nagiging as one dapat ang dalawang tao sa lahat ng bagay at desisyon.
01:31Una ka naming tatanungin, Sunshine, kayo ba ni Alex, paano ba ang dynamics ninyo?
01:35Um, depende yan kasi.
01:38Pagka may kailangan kaming pagdesisyon na talagang tawag dito, yung malaking bagay,
01:48parehas yung opinion niya, opinion ko, pinagsasama namin.
01:52Hindi po pwedeng ako kagad ang masunod or siya.
01:55Kasi baka mamaya meron akong nakikita na hindi ko,
02:00dahil gusto ko ako masunod, yung reason niya, hindi ko na nakikita.
02:06Depende yun eh.
02:10Nagjoin kaming dalawa kung ano yung tamang desisyon para doon.
02:14Pero pagdating sa bahay, automatic ako yun.
02:17Luluto, ulam, grocery, automatic ako yun.
02:20Correct, correct.
02:21Sunshine, paano kung meron kang gustong gawin o ang asawa mo?
02:25Gano'ng kayo kasupportive sa isa-isa?
02:28Um, parang sa kanya, bilang public servant siya, gusto niya talaga sa politics.
02:35Hindi ko pwedeng kontrolin niyo na wag, ayoko, ayoko nang, although magulo talaga yung buhay niya.
02:42Yun yung gusto niya eh, yun yung passion niya.
02:44Same sa akin na ito yung passion ko, pagsasayaw, ito yung grupo ko, pwede ko bambalikan sandali.
02:50Parehas namin sinusuportahan yung gusto namin.
02:53Kasi hindi ito ownership na, ay, hindi po pwede.
02:57Wag mong gawin yan, hindi ka dapat ganito, hindi ka dapat ganito.
03:01Hindi ganun eh.
03:02So, nagbibigayan kami dalawa.
03:04Mas maganda yung parehas yung sinusuportahan, kung ano yung gusto nung isa't isa.
03:08Oh, what makes each other grow.
03:10Oo, mag-grow kayo eh.
03:11Kasi pagkita yung suporta ni Alex sa kanya, diba, doon sa concert.
03:14O ito naman, Coach Marie Bell, narinig mo na yung mga opinion natin.
03:18Paano naman yung mga sitwasyon na, hindi kagaya nung kay Sunshine, sila nag-uusap talaga.
03:22Paano kung magkaiba yung gusto nung mag-asawa, sino nga ba ang dapat masunod?
03:26Pag magkaiba, at madalas pero naman pagkakaiba.
03:29So, pag-usapan.
03:31Hindi yung si lalaki lang susunod o si babaeng susunod.
03:35Pakinggan muna natin yung pananaw o yung pag-iisip ng bawat isa.
03:39May storya yan eh. May kwento yan.
03:41At kadalasan, pag narinig mo yung background at saka yung background niya,
03:46nagkakaroon ng liwanag at mas madaling gumawa ng decision, a joint decision.
03:52Okay? So, yun yung naayos.
03:54May iba naman talaga, maski na nagkwentuhan sila, eh talagang naiiba.
03:58Because maybe they have different values or different ways of doing things.
04:03So, ngayon, pag-uusapan.
04:05Can we, is there another way?
04:07Okay. Kasi gusto ko ito, gusto mo yan.
04:11Can we have both?
04:12Diba? Agree to disagree.
04:14Or diba kasi may ego, marami yung ego, pride.
04:17That's in the way they need to be right.
04:19Alam mo naman sa relationship, marami yung different factors eh.
04:22For example naman sa usapin ng trabaho,
04:24may karapatan ba ang asawa na huwag siyang payagan sa mga gusto niyang gawin?
04:29Coach?
04:30Hindi. Dapat pag-usapan again.
04:32Kasi katulisad na ni sunshine.
04:34Pero may iba gano'n na, ayaw nilang tatrabaho yung wife nila.
04:37Eh, hopefully, pinag-uusapan yan bago nag-asawa.
04:40Kasi magiging issue yan eh.
04:42Or baka si wife can do a part-time job.
04:44Or baka si husband ayaw rin magtrabaho, gusto niya house-husband.
04:47May ganyan din.
04:48So, pinag-uusapan ito and you have to negotiate.
04:51Now, pag hindi nahihirapan kayong dalawa,
04:53dito tatawagin niyo yung mga ninong at ninang niyo sa kasal.
04:56Hopefully, pwede silang magpayo sa inyo.
04:59Kaya may ninong at ninang tayo sa kasal
05:01para tumulong sa atin to be objective about the issue.
05:06Right.
05:06If not, then you go to a professional.
05:08Ah, tama.
05:09Which is what you do, no?
05:10Yes, which we do.
05:11So, sabi mo yung ninong-ninong sa kasal si ninong.
05:13Pwede rin.
05:14Para libre na.
05:14Yung consultation.
05:16Kaya pala, important talaga yung pagpili nyo na ninong at ninang.
05:19Hindi lang yung sikat, hindi lang yung politiko o mayaman.
05:23Yung mapupuntaan nyo talaga.
05:24Ikaw, Sunshine, may instances ba na hindi kayo agree ni Alex
05:27dun sa ilang mga decision?
05:29And how did you handle it?
05:30Marami.
05:31Kasi sa buhay pag-aasawin, hindi naman laging nag-coconnect kayo ng decision.
05:36Meron kaming mga hindi pinagkakaunawa,
05:40hindi tayo nagmamatch ng decision natin.
05:43Pinag-uusapan talaga namin.
05:44Okay, sige.
05:46Give and take.
05:47Sige, mas tingin ko lamang ng 10% yun sa'yo.
05:51O, di sige, ikaw na muna dyan.
05:53Decision mo yan.
05:54Ano bang tingin mo?
05:55Tingin ko kasi ganito mama,
05:57or ikaw papa, ganito, ganyan.
06:00Okay, sige.
06:00Pag nakita ko naman din talaga na mas tama siya,
06:04hindi, ipibigay mo sa kanya.
06:05Hindi ko yaano yung pride ko na,
06:07hindi, dapat ako.
06:08Ganon din siya.
06:09Kasi minsan, di ba, as lalaki,
06:11dapat siya ang masusunod.
06:13Pero pag nakita niyang tama,
06:15tama ka naman mama,
06:17okay, okay, sige, tama yan.
06:18Ako ang nasusunod.
06:19At meron din yung time,
06:20but you agree to disagree,
06:21pwede rin, di ba?
06:22So, oo.
06:23Pero very mature kasi yung parang relationship
06:25ni lender, almost.
06:27Parang they respect each other's opinion.
06:28May respet, may pag-uusap, may respeto.
06:31Di ba?
06:32Tapos yung merong percentage,
06:34sige, I'll give in.
06:35Baka hindi mo magawa 100% sa gusto mo.
06:37Pero may partial na papayag.
06:39Pwede rin.
06:40Pwede rin yun.
06:41Di ba?
06:41Ang ganda, oo.
06:42Coach, paano naman ang tamang pag-handle
06:44ng differences sa mag-asawa?
06:46Yung iba kasi dinadaan sa social media,
06:48yung away.
06:49Di ba, baby?
06:50Ay, nako.
06:51Teka lang, ano ba yan?
06:52Pag-usapan niyo muna.
06:53Exactly.
06:54Di ba?
06:54Kasi paglitabas mo sa social media,
06:56nagsusumbong ka doon,
06:58eh, hindi tama yun.
06:59Napapahiyana yung isang.
07:01Pagsumbong ka kay Ninong at Ninang,
07:03private, di ba?
07:04O, itulfo.
07:07Wag muna ako.
07:09Oo, tama.
07:11Pero kadalasan sinasabi namin,
07:13wag sa tatay or nanay niyo
07:14kasi pumapanig sila sa isa.
07:16Pag hindi naman papanig sa'yo,
07:18magagalit ka.
07:19Ako yung anak mo,
07:20bakit hindi ka nag-align sa akin?
07:22Tama ba na sabi nila,
07:23magsumbong ka daw sa in-laws mo?
07:24Hindi rin.
07:25Hindi din.
07:26Basta nobody related.
07:27Nobody related.
07:28Not any of the parents.
07:29An objective person.
07:30Magsumbong sa Diyos.
07:31Ayan.
07:31Pagdasal mo muna.
07:33Kasama yan.
07:34Kasama yan.
07:34Napaka-importante.
07:36Or di ba yung entourage mo,
07:38you have very good friends.
07:39That's true.
07:39Both of you.
07:40That's true.
07:40Yan yung ano,
07:40kaya gumawa ka ng sumbungan community mo.
07:43Council.
07:44Council.
07:45Tama.
07:45And at the same time,
07:46medyo ano,
07:48kabig din ng konti.
07:49Huwag naman todo-todo reklamo din.
07:50Kasi pag nagkaayos ang kayo
07:51ng asawa mo,
07:53nasiraan mo na siya dun sa mga kaibigan.
07:55Galip na sila sa kanya.
07:57Kaya pipili ka
07:58ng mga mature
07:58and they will not align.
08:00At hindi sila mag-isip,
08:01ay, sama mo.
08:02Ito ginawa mo sa friend ko.
08:03Yung gano'n.
08:04At kaya din na lang sabihin
08:05sa friend nila mismo
08:06na actually,
08:07baka ikaw yung medyo.
08:08Kaya choosing,
08:10ang ginagawa ng iba,
08:11may agreements silang dalawa.
08:13Agree tayo yung dalawa,
08:14itong town to,
08:14we can trust.
08:15And they can be objective.
08:16At hindi tayo parang
08:18minamaliit
08:18or magkakwento.
08:19Ang galing no,
08:20coach,
08:21what you taught us,
08:22yung entourage mo pala
08:23ganun ka-importante.
08:24Kasi silang takbuwan mo.
08:25Hindi lang pala sila
08:26for fun, fun, fun
08:27noong araw nung kasal ninyo.
08:29Kasama na rin si fan
08:30doon,
08:30pero pang problema, yes.
08:32Pero yung pala takbuwan mo,
08:33may yung, di ba,
08:33when you get married,
08:34that's like the first day
08:36of your life together
08:37forever.
08:38So dapat,
08:38babalikan mo yun
08:40mga pinagkatiwalaan mo
08:41to be in your entourage.
08:42Agree, agree.
08:43And you educate yourselves
08:44together with your entourage.
08:46Parang about relationship,
08:47di ba?
08:47Parang tulungan tayo na,
08:49kunyari yung
08:49once a week couple date,
08:51nagawa niyo yun,
08:51hopefully, di ba?
08:52Yes.
08:53Asa mag-asawa.
08:54And then,
08:54every day,
08:55you have your 20 minutes chat.
08:57Ito yung mga ways
08:58to maintain a relationship din.
09:00That's beyond all the noise.
09:02Marami kasi kayong ginagawa.
09:03Busy kayo,
09:04may mga anak kayo,
09:04may mga trabaho.
09:05But that 20 minutes,
09:07pag hindi ka sana,
09:08ay mahaba yan.
09:08Kaya may deep night kayo ni Paolo.
09:10Before, alam mo,
09:11buti sinabi mo,
09:12it's been a while.
09:13Ayan, every Wednesday.
09:15Dati, every Wednesday.
09:16O, pa, yan.
09:16Dawa sabi ko.
09:17Reminding you.
09:18Kami, every Wednesday din yan.
09:20O, every Wednesday.
09:20Maganda midweek kasi.
09:21Kasi Saturday, Sunday,
09:23maraming oras.
09:24So, midweek,
09:25nagkoconnect kayo.
09:26Even on our date.
09:27Huwag movie.
09:28Even on our kwentuhan.
09:29Yes.
09:30Ibabalik namin ng Wednesday.
09:32Ah, Wednesday.
09:34Paano ba malalaman, coach,
09:35kung yung behavior ng partner
09:37ay nagpoprotect lang?
09:38Or kasi baka
09:39ayaw lang niya mapahama
09:40ang asawa niya?
09:41Or controlling na?
09:42Ikaw ba,
09:43was there ever a time,
09:44Sunshine,
09:44na you felt na
09:46hindi ka pinayagan
09:47or parang
09:48kinocontrol ka
09:49ng asawa mo?
09:49May mga time
09:50na hindi niya ako
09:52pinapayagan.
09:52Ganito lang yan.
09:53Pag nasa Bulacan kasi ako,
09:55may mga usapan kami
09:56na,
09:56oh,
09:57andamit,
09:58kailangan medyo
09:59yung presentable.
10:00Alam ko naman din
10:01kung kailan ko
10:02kasi ipipresent yung sarili ko.
10:03Yes.
10:03Pag nasa Manila,
10:05di,
10:05pero kung may party,
10:06ayan,
10:07syempre medyo,
10:08kung ano yung ako dati,
10:10pero hindi ko siya
10:12naisip na kinocontrol niya ako
10:13kasi may free pa din akong
10:16bahala ka mama,
10:17basta alam mo
10:18kung paano mo
10:19ipipresent na maayos
10:20yung sarili mo.
10:21Hindi siya yung
10:22wag mo suotin yan.
10:23Ay,
10:23bakit yan ang suot mo?
10:24Palit.
10:24Walang ganon eh.
10:25Hindi siya ganon eh.
10:26Pero ikaw mismo,
10:27gets mo,
10:28na parang pag nandito tayo
10:28sa sitwasyon na to,
10:30ganito pala.
10:31Ganon siya.
10:32May say that,
10:33go ahead, sorry.
10:34So, maganda yun,
10:34may guidelines kasi
10:35ang mag-asawa.
10:37Dressing up,
10:38eating,
10:38where to go,
10:39what to do,
10:40na pinag-uusapan.
10:41Para nun,
10:41nababawasan nga
10:42ang conflict then.
10:44But when it comes
10:44na nakakaiba,
10:45again,
10:46pag-usapan,
10:47sana,
10:47alam mo,
10:47maganda yan
10:48for this occasion,
10:49pero this one,
10:50for now,
10:50sana yung sinuot mo
10:51yung sang araw,
10:52that's better.
10:53At yung nasabi din sa akin
10:55ng asawa ko,
10:56ni Alex,
10:57nung naging vice governor siya,
10:59ang ambilin niya lang sa akin,
11:02huwag mong babaguhin
11:03yung sarili mo.
11:04Kung ano ka yun ka.
11:05Hindi mo kailangan
11:06mag-adjust sa ibang tao
11:07na sabihin nila na
11:08dapat hindi na ganyan
11:09yung arti niya.
11:10I salute you, Alex.
11:12Very good.
11:13Dama yan,
11:14dapat gano'n naman tulagod.
11:15Gano'n talaga dapat.
11:16Bakit bigla,
11:16for kinakaposisyon ako,
11:18iba na tayo,
11:19iba na tayo lahat.
11:21Of course,
11:21we all evolve,
11:22pero you know,
11:23we are who we are.
11:24Yung essence natin
11:26sa pagkataon.
11:27Kaya yung importante
11:28siyang sabi natin,
11:29na bagong mag-asawa,
11:32you've spent time
11:32with each other
11:33three years sana
11:35para makita mo
11:35yung totoong pagkataon,
11:36what you're passionate about,
11:38what kind of person you are.
11:39Kala ko three days eh.
11:40Oo, hindi.
11:42Three years pala.
11:43Parang pagdatingin
11:43the future,
11:44parang hindi yung,
11:45parang gulat na gulat ka naman.
11:46Dati pa naman akong ganito,
11:48di ba?
11:48Parang ngayon niya lang nalaman,
11:49ganito pala yung ganito,
11:50may ugali pala yung ganito.
11:59Kasi the friendship
12:00is the one formed
12:02in the three years eh.
12:03Hindi naman kaagad yan.
12:04Di ba?
12:04Pag friends kayo,
12:06nag-a-adjust ka.
12:07May say din nga pala
12:07yung ilang kapusok natin
12:09sa topic na kung sino ba
12:10ang dapat masunod
12:11sa mag-asawa.
12:12Sabi ni Delia Luz Fernandez,
12:13para po sa akin lalaki,
12:15gaya nga po sa kasabihan
12:17na dapat po ang babae
12:18ay magpasakop
12:19sa asawang lalaki.
12:21Ano po ang reaction dito?
12:22I think that's,
12:22ano yun ang nakalagay ba
12:23sa Bible?
12:24That's in the Bible.
12:25But actually,
12:26the one in the Bible,
12:28nakalimutan nila,
12:29there is a paragraph
12:30before that
12:31that says,
12:32the husband
12:33is the head of the church
12:35and it assumes
12:36that the husband
12:37is responsible.
12:39So we will follow
12:40when responsible
12:41and he's thinking
12:42of the whole family.
12:43Kung responsible siya.
12:45Exactly.
12:45Para kung hindi.
12:46Kaya nga,
12:47kung hindi,
12:48eh di ba,
12:48kailangan mag-isip din si misis
12:50about these things.
12:52So,
12:53yung konteksto na yun
12:54usually,
12:54is taken out of context.
12:56So with equality din naman,
12:58eh,
12:58what is good for him
12:59will be good for her
13:00is very important.
13:01Ayawag niyo,
13:01yung di-dare si Coach,
13:02ah,
13:02alam niya yan.
13:03Kahit Bible,
13:04alam niya,
13:04kala niyo, ah.
13:06Ito naman,
13:07sabi ni Norma Espeho,
13:09sabi niya,
13:09depende sa sityosyon,
13:11if yung wife
13:12ang nagkahanap,
13:13hanap buhay
13:13at tamad ng lalaki,
13:15dapat wife
13:16ang may lase.
13:17Your thoughts,
13:19Sabi nga daw nila,
13:20kung sino daw
13:21may hawak ng pera,
13:22kung siya ang may power.
13:23Yes,
13:24wields the power.
13:25Well,
13:26if that works for them
13:28and they like it that way,
13:29fine,
13:30di ba?
13:30At kung magtatagal
13:31yung relasyon na ganyan.
13:32Pero Filipino male,
13:34malabo, no?
13:35Mahirap eh.
13:36Yung pagtanggapin nila
13:37na house husband sila,
13:38meron.
13:38Meron din naman.
13:40Meron din naman.
13:40Maswerte nga eh,
13:41masarap nga yun.
13:42Oo nga.
13:43Kasi,
13:43walang power play,
13:44ah sige,
13:45kasi kung wala yung ego.
13:46Yes.
13:47Kung wala yung ego,
13:48exactly.
13:48Ego yung what is in the way.
13:50may pangapanahon,
13:52ang mga lalaki,
13:53they get a good job,
13:55tapos nawawalaan.
13:56We have many cases,
13:57kaya nga,
13:58you cannot say that
13:59the breadwinner
14:00changes over time.
14:02So,
14:03mas maswerte si misis
14:04sa kanyang trabaho.
14:05Totoo din.
14:05Totoo din.
14:06Support.
14:06Kasalamat tayo.
14:07Support.
14:07And then si husband,
14:08we'll do more household chores sana.
14:10Right.
14:10And we appreciate nila
14:12isa't isa,
14:13di ba?
14:13For that.
14:13Thank you for taking care
14:14of the house,
14:15of the kids.
14:16Sunshine,
14:16Niko naman,
14:17final thoughts mo dito
14:18sa hot topic natin
14:19ngayon umaga.
14:20Basta kung ano yung
14:21mag-work sa inyong mag-asawa,
14:23kasi hindi natin
14:24pwedeng i-apply
14:25kung ano yung
14:25nag-work sa aming mag-asawa,
14:27isabihin ko din na,
14:28o, dapat
14:29ganyan ang asawa mo,
14:30o, dapat ganyan kayo.
14:32Hindi po pwede yun.
14:33Kasi,
14:34nasa inyong
14:35pag-uusap yan mag-asawa.
14:37As long na
14:38nakikita nyo
14:38okay naman kayo doon,
14:40mag-grow kayo,
14:41hindi nakakasakalang asawa nyo,
14:43hindi possessive,
14:45hindi controlling,
14:47at,
14:47yun nga,
14:48yung pag-grow,
14:50eh, okay kayo.
14:51At happy.
14:52Maganda yung sinabi niya.
14:53Wala yung possessive,
14:54controlling,
14:54yan ang mga nakakasira.
14:56Walang,
14:57wala rin
14:57one-size-fits-all.
14:59Kasi,
14:59iba-iba,
15:00what happens behind closed doors,
15:01eh,
15:02nasa mag-asawa lang.
15:02The one-size is you communicate.
15:04If you may deadlock,
15:06then get help.
15:07Okay.
15:08Huwag niyong hayanan
15:09na mag-team.
15:10Mag-fester,
15:11yung mag-tagal.
15:11Kasi,
15:12magiging bulkan tayo.
15:13Katulad,
15:14ano yung bulkan na nag-aira kayo?
15:14Sasabog na lang someday
15:16with the smallest thing,
15:17di ba?
15:17Parang,
15:18ba't nag-layas na yun?
15:19All right,
15:20yung one-size-free size.
15:21Oh,
15:22it's very good.
15:23Thank you so much,
15:24Coach Maribel and Sunshine.
15:27Naku,
15:27tims up na usapan natin.
15:28I love it.
15:29Di ba?
15:29Basta tukol sa love,
15:31relationship.
15:31Pag-uusapan natin yan
15:32dito sa
15:34IRM.
15:36Ikaw,
15:36hindi ka pa nakasubscribe
15:38sa GMA Public Affairs
15:39YouTube channel?
15:40Bakit?
15:41Pagsubscribe ka na,
15:42dali na,
15:42para lagi una ka
15:44sa mga latest kwento
15:45at balita.
15:46I-follow mo na rin
15:46ang official social media pages
15:48ng Unang Hirit.
15:50Salamat ka puso.
15:50Ba-daf.
15:51Ba-daf.
15:52Ba-daf.
15:52Ba-daf.
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