00:00I'm really happy about this bonfire y'all and we got the s'mores the sunset this day was great
00:20it was great it was fun it was nice it was relaxing is exactly what I needed
00:25you and this damn ukulele like where'd you even get this from first of all the bike man the bike man
00:33he taught me look hold on
00:40I've never played this in my life and then he taught me this
00:48I'm proud of you and I just took it honestly I see a future in this for you
00:55no totally like when you guys need me call me
00:59all right y'all so we talked about friendships we talked about family
01:04all of that but we have not talked about relationships the nitty-gritty
01:11I feel like one of the biggest like lessons I've learned through dating is
01:18things about myself and the things that I that I have to work on okay and because I feel like when
01:28you meet people a lot of times they are a reflection of the things that you need to internally work on
01:36and that was really big for me just figuring out my insecurities and different things that I
01:43didn't realize I had but through another person you see like that that wound kind of there and
01:51and the different things that you need to reflect on and fix I feel like through for me personally through
01:59like the ups and downs of situations that I've been in it's very interesting that I
02:06still do believe in love like I'm a lover and that's something that I do want like I
02:11want the family and I want the dogs and the home and maybe a farm like you know
02:16like that's like the the fantasy that I have but I understand that love is
02:23different for everyone so this idea that I have may not be the reality that I get but
02:30that doesn't mean that it's bad it may be better than what I expected you know I'm still young but
02:35I'm old enough to know that I don't have time to waste anymore yeah and I don't want to waste my
02:42time on this anymore don't waste my time yes I'm proud of you guys okay what do you guys feel
02:49are like your do's and don'ts of dating though I feel like
02:53I have a lot of don'ts a do yes would be to not take things too fast
03:04so that's a do not not to do well yeah do not okay no I think that's a good one do not take
03:13things too fast I don't know do not although sometimes yes it can work out well um I think
03:20been there do okay do listen to your gut feeling because that is usually always right yeah so if
03:26you do have those little I don't know it probably is true because there's definitely been a few times
03:32where I second guess myself and then I was really upset because I ended up being right period me too
03:38and I was like hmm see but there's also been times where my gut goes a little off the rails a little
03:46bit and I'm like I need to reel it back in I mean it's it's yeah it's hard to tell you know it is
03:53to differentiate it's very difficult and I get confused sometimes so you confuse yourself I do
04:00I do too no for sure because overthinking is is like a gift and a curse I think right now being
04:08single it's made me um not want to do it just to see how many people will reach out that are in
04:16relationships and I think that that's horrible and I never want to and I think about like when
04:22I dated my ex and you were doing what you wanted to do like how many people were probably laughing at
04:27me when I posted him you know what I mean like like and that's the worst thing ever I'm good
04:33so and I think that now I've gotten to a point of like how I don't post a lot and I'm never really
04:39there but I don't know when I start dating again and I find that guy yeah maybe we'll have like a cute
04:46your back is to the camera pic you know what I mean I feel like you need to have a real serious
04:51conversation of just about if you do want to post each other just what that means and what
04:57will come of that you know and my number one rule is always do not embarrass me yeah I was gonna
05:04say you would think it's that easy but uh is it
05:08so one of the most irritating things is getting ghosted oh yeah I've been ghosted before
05:21I've ghosted someone for good reason um there was no point of closure okay so I ghosted but when you
05:40go someone just out of the blue yeah that's crazy to me I'm like how do you do yeah how do you do that
05:48yeah and like it's just crazy and then come back randomly months later like hey what's up like
05:54no like are you okay are you mentally there like are you actually okay insane but you know that's a
06:03red flag in itself if you ghost me just stay there yep I've been ghosted once but now me and that person
06:10are like really great friends oh really yeah love that's really cool he then came back like
06:15a couple years later was like I actually wasn't ready to like be with you and I didn't know what
06:21to do because I knew like I would have rather like ghosted you than like us try dating and then we
06:27become mortal enemies so he didn't say anything to you at all he literally just disappeared and now
06:32he's one of my best friends wow well that's great that you guys got over that hump I just would
06:36appreciate some words yeah some nice words of hey I don't really know what this is I'm in a weird
06:44place right now so I'm just gonna like remove myself a little bit from the situation and just
06:49be a little distant yeah that would be fine in a weird way I kind of like was like you're right
06:55it would have been horrible if we dated back then but he okay and actually we were we're actually
07:01never supposed to date so I'm glad that you did that because we're like sometimes you think that
07:08you're supposed to date someone but you're actually supposed to be friends yeah it's yes no yeah and
07:12you ruin the friendship by dating them that's true yeah and that's just guys being a little bit too much
07:21and thinking they just want to you know just do whatever they want to do whoever they want to do it
07:25with no intention yeah and then you actually ruin good relationships with people by just taking
07:31it too far so I do have a lot of respect for guys who like know when to reel it back
07:39please have you ever have you ever had somebody do you wrong and then block you
07:46no I haven't had that happen that's like a recent thing that was a recent thing and I was like
07:53interesting well you should feel like this this is like that's why perspective is such a like
07:59great thing because if you shift your perspective it's because he felt like such an idiot and his
08:03guilt was eating him alive that he had to block you because he just couldn't stand it or you just
08:09couldn't stand to see me but unfortunately you will have to see me so yeah let's talk about
08:16the people that were amazing let's give the credit where the moments that were amazing yeah or the
08:21moments you know I do have somebody in my life that was really awesome and so I would say
08:27I was gifted the best birthday ever um that was really nice but the entire relationship was really
08:36nice and I think that's it's so weird because I'm like not friends with my exes at all but I'm
08:41friends with this one um and obviously you know for like with the distance and if he was to be with
08:47somebody and I was to be with somebody I totally respected but like a really really kind gentle soul
08:53and I think that was my best ever when I look back at it now best ever relationship and how I was
08:59treated and really set the bar oh good so anybody come and has to really like top that yeah I
09:07recently went on like the best ever date and it was like a surprise I just was telling you guys this
09:12but um it was a surprise I was just like he was like hey I'm coming to get you at 8 a.m and I'm
09:19like well what are we could we possibly be doing at 8 a.m what are we doing skydiving he goes yeah
09:24and I'm like what are you talking about I've obviously never gone skydiving before and I was like
09:29it's something I've wanted to do but I was really scared to do that but I'm like you know what
09:33I'm just gonna go for it this this is like me getting over my fears yeah so 8 a.m came to get
09:42me drove out went skydiving we didn't even I was like I didn't even make too much of like
09:47I don't think I said many words yeah I was just very like I jumped out of a full plane no I was
09:54gonna say you have to really like him a full plane you have to really and he went first too and I was
09:59like and we were just like this the whole time because it was so early so we're just like
10:02that is early to be jumping off a plane actually it could be awake why are you awake it actually
10:07it's so unhinged I'm like but regardless of all of that I really like appreciated that
10:16he was like getting me out of my comfort zone and like I love adventures and like experiencing
10:20like the thrills of life so yeah it's fun my best ever relationship is the one I'm in now
10:30it's a lot of growth a lot of self-awareness that I have and I'm proud of myself for getting
10:38to this point um and a lot of like team effort and partnership to where we both have an understanding
10:50of what we both want and how we're going to continue to grow and get there and it's just
10:57a nice sort of feeling to have that's peaceful I'm happy for you I really am you deserve that
11:09thank you yeah can't relate we're on our way don't worry we're on our way there
11:16let's toast to the best ever beach day
11:23okay
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