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A gushing and glowing LeToya sits with our very own Charli Penn, to have a girl chat about the power of prayer and love.
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00:00Miss Luckett.
00:00Yes.
00:01Luckett, welcome to.
00:02Excuse me.
00:03Miss LaCoya Luckett, welcome to the club.
00:08Yes!
00:09God has been all up there through your life and your prayers
00:13lately.
00:13Yes.
00:14You are a newlywed.
00:15Yes.
00:15You prayed for the man of your dreams.
00:17I did.
00:17You found him.
00:18He found me, yes.
00:19OK, he found you.
00:21Yes.
00:21You found love.
00:22Yes.
00:22He proposed you got married.
00:23The wedding was everything.
00:26And now you guys are expecting your first baby.
00:28It's happening.
00:30And you are glowing, by the way.
00:32I am.
00:32I thought it was my bronzer.
00:34You are so glowing, and you know it.
00:36You're happy.
00:37It's all in your cheeks.
00:39It's everywhere.
00:39I am excited.
00:40I cannot explain the joy.
00:42I can't.
00:42How many more?
00:43It's a lot.
00:45You know, you pray for things, and me and you
00:48have had this conversation probably several times.
00:51Many.
00:51But you pray for things.
00:53And what I did learn to pray for, because we have our wish list,
00:57but I've learned to pray for whatever is in your will.
01:00And I found myself throwing out my list that I'd had held dear
01:05to my heart for several years of what I wanted out of the man
01:08and what I felt I wanted to do in the next few years.
01:12And I ended up throwing that list out, because I was like,
01:15all right, Lord, because if that ain't in your plan,
01:17if that's not in your will, I don't want it.
01:19So, and also, it left, it kind of took the, it took the reins
01:27out of my hands.
01:27Right.
01:28You were no longer in control.
01:29I was like, I don't want those.
01:29Right, right.
01:30Which he's been in the whole time and probably laughing at me
01:32this whole time.
01:33Like, girl.
01:33That's what people say, right?
01:34Girl.
01:34Like, now I get it, guys.
01:35Now I get it, guys.
01:35And I got sick of running into the wall.
01:38I got sick of running into the wall.
01:40When I do it, when I, and I'm not saying that you shouldn't get
01:43out there and go for yours, but I am saying that when you really
01:47hand the reins over and get out of the driver's seat of your life
01:51and really allow God to step in and do what he's been doing
01:55all along and get out of the way, then boom, it happens.
02:00And so, maybe a couple of months after I threw that list out
02:03and said, God, I'm giving this over to you, it happened.
02:06And he found you.
02:07I mean, literally.
02:08He really did.
02:09Your love story.
02:10It was so random.
02:11You were at a wedding.
02:12Talking to another guest, a friend of yours.
02:13Yes, I was.
02:14And she's like, oh, wait, I know a good dude.
02:16Yes.
02:17And when I tell you, our conversation was like, I'm trying
02:20to find a man, girl, and I'm sick of this.
02:22It was like, you know what?
02:23I'm in the space to just be cool.
02:25Like, if I leave this world and I don't get the chance to be
02:30a wife and I don't get the chance to be a mother and I don't,
02:33like, he's blessed me with so many things up until this point.
02:36How can I not be, you know, grateful?
02:39So whatever he has for me from here on out, I'm cool.
02:43I just want my energy to be good.
02:45I want to have, I want to be a better person.
02:47I want to have a better heart, all these different things.
02:49And I think after her hearing me say all that, she was like, I got somebody for you.
02:54And I was like.
02:55Just as confident, right?
02:57Just like that.
02:57And I was weirded out at first.
02:59I was.
02:59I was like, I don't do weird blind days.
03:02Like, sorry, fast.
03:04I don't.
03:05And it was her, the brother of her boyfriend.
03:08So you knew, like, she was vouching for him.
03:10Yes.
03:11Like, that's a cosign right there.
03:12Yes.
03:13Which, which that made me feel comfortable.
03:14Right.
03:15Because honestly, had I met him in the club or at the grocery store.
03:16It would have been a no.
03:17Yeah.
03:18But when she was like, no, he's a good job.
03:20He's a great father.
03:21He's, this, told me his whole life story.
03:23She gave you the resume.
03:24The resume.
03:25I was still like, but your boyfriend cute.
03:28So you're going to give me the, mm, the, mm, the, mm.
03:31Which is normal.
03:32We would, most women would automatically go there.
03:34Because when do you have, when does my, when do mothers produce a lineup of handsome,
03:40gorgeous.
03:41It's rare.
03:42Men.
03:43Like all around gorgeous?
03:44All around, like all the brothers cute.
03:45So you were skeptical.
03:46Very.
03:47And then.
03:48And saw the picture and was like, no, wait a minute.
03:50Hello.
03:51Wait a minute.
03:52Hold on.
03:53But I did.
03:54I said, you know what?
03:55I don't want to, I don't want him to know my name.
03:57I don't want him to know what I do.
03:58That's what I love about your story.
03:59He didn't know you.
04:00He didn't know me at all.
04:01We talked on the phone for a whole month.
04:02We're praying together before we even met each other.
04:05I love it.
04:06And then he, I mean, he would ask me to send him selfies and I would like send him my wrist,
04:09a picture of my wrist.
04:10Teaser.
04:11I was.
04:12And he was like, I could tell by your knuckles and your ankles that you find.
04:16I was like, I love you already cause you crazy.
04:18So he's funny.
04:19He is.
04:20Out of his mind.
04:21Um, and when we finally met, it just, I mean, we clicked.
04:24And you know, he's from Texas.
04:25And I'm like, out of all the people, you from Texas?
04:28What?
04:29For real?
04:30You sound like literally the man you prayed for.
04:32And I always said I wanted to raise my children in Texas.
04:35I've been living in LA for 13 years and nothing wrong with LA.
04:38But I was like, I want to be closer to my mom.
04:40I want to be closer to my family.
04:42And he's from Texas?
04:44Really?
04:45Like what?
04:46So when he got on the phone, his accent automatically.
04:48I was like, aw, bruh.
04:49Smitten.
04:50I'm at the crib.
04:52So at what point were you like, I just met my husband?
04:55Did you know?
04:56Oh, um.
04:57How did you know now?
04:58I think by our third week on the phone, I was like, this feels way too good.
05:06Like this, this feels kind of awesome.
05:08Am I crazy?
05:09Am I just lighting up?
05:10And you do just know.
05:12You know how you have people be like, you'll know.
05:15Yes.
05:16You do.
05:17You're crazy.
05:18But you really kind of do know.
05:19And it also kind of scares you, right?
05:20It does.
05:21Because you're like, am I jumping in too soon?
05:23This a lot.
05:24Am I risking at all?
05:25Yep.
05:26And the hesitation wasn't there.
05:27And I was able to be myself.
05:29I was able to have conversations that I was probably scared to have with, you know, past
05:33boyfriends and things like that very early on.
05:36I wasn't afraid to talk about what I truly desired.
05:39I love that.
05:40You know?
05:41And this is who I am.
05:42I was comfortable.
05:43Yes.
05:44And I was confident.
05:45And I was like, if you don't like it, brother.
05:47Then bye.
05:48And he was the same way.
05:49So he was also clear on the woman he was looking for.
05:51He was very clear.
05:52And he had prayed for the same thing.
05:53Had been abstinent for the same amount of time.
05:56This love story is just...
05:57It was just kind of popping.
05:58It was just kind of popping.
06:00And just like that.
06:01Here's the other thing.
06:02My friends knew.
06:03Cause they didn't go with the whole like, Toya, you know you just went through some stuff.
06:07So they felt good about it too.
06:09Soon as they met him.
06:10That's a really good sign.
06:11Soon as they met him.
06:12Cause usually your girlfriends, even your best girlfriends are like, proceed with caution.
06:17Watch yourself.
06:18They met him and they were like, okay.
06:20Oh my.
06:21John Gray, who had prophesied to me on his show, within three minutes was like, that's
06:26him.
06:27Wow.
06:28So when he asked you to marry him, you were just like, absolutely.
06:30No hesitation.
06:31What?
06:32No hesitation at all.
06:33None.
06:34None.
06:35And I have to say, as I've been covering it daily, your love story, you have been glowing
06:37ever since.
06:38Every time I see you, you're like, hey.
06:40So it's not the bronzer?
06:41Oh my, it's definitely not the bronzer.
06:43Love looks good on you.
06:45I'm so happy for you.
06:46I'm so happy for you.
06:47I just, you know what?
06:49Because I feel like, and I know people talk about living your best life.
06:54Right.
06:55And when I tell you, me and Tommy, honestly, have been through some of the craziest situations.
07:02And when I say this, I'm speaking honestly, and I'm sharing our testimony that we will
07:07probably share one day together.
07:09I love that.
07:10But the enemy don't like marriage.
07:13These are facts.
07:14He doesn't like marriage.
07:16These are facts.
07:17They will try you.
07:18And he will try you.
07:20And things have come up.
07:23And I mean, not terrible things, but things that can shift your relationship, have presented
07:29their self, has very early on in our relationship.
07:32Right.
07:33And we stood firm.
07:34That's why it's very important.
07:35And together, it's very important to have that prayer life.
07:38It's very important to communicate.
07:40Even things that you might be afraid to communicate with each other.
07:44On our honeymoon, I mean, I'm talking too much.
07:48Because every time I get in front of you, I talk too much.
07:50I mean, it's just, you know.
07:51Because I'm comfortable with you and you're my girl.
07:52I appreciate it.
07:53But we, literally on our honeymoon, we were having the deepest conversations.
07:58I love that.
07:59We talked about, you know, things that happened in our past that, you know, nobody really
08:04knew.
08:05Just all kind of stuff.
08:06And it was those, will you love me still?
08:08Will you love me still moments?
08:09I love them.
08:10Will you love me still?
08:11And the way we showed up for each other.
08:12You know what I mean?
08:13These are conversations that, honestly, couples need to have probably a little bit sooner than
08:17they do.
08:18They wait five, ten years down the line and be like, I didn't know him.
08:20I didn't know her.
08:21And then it's like, oh wait, you don't even got her.
08:23Oh, you feel that way about this?
08:24Like, it's very specific.
08:25You've got to talk.
08:26And you don't want to rush it.
08:27But like, you also need to know.
08:29Have the conversations.
08:30Try before you lie.
08:31Communication is so important.
08:32Absolutely.
08:33We have an 80 year old couple that was counseling us.
08:3680?
08:37Yes.
08:3880 years.
08:39They've been married 60 something years plus.
08:40Oh, so they know if you've been.
08:42And was sitting in front of us.
08:43We'd have been through it all, this and whatever.
08:45There's nothing that you can tell us that we have not been through.
08:48And we're going to tell you, you can get through whatever.
08:51Premarital counseling.
08:52I will advise it.
08:53All these things that people say you should do.
08:56You should do.
08:57You should really do them.
08:58And most of us don't.
08:59Because we're like, oh, it's in a book or whatever.
09:01But I love him and he's so cute and he has a good bank account.
09:03And it just feels right.
09:04And I feel so secure.
09:05And he's such, he makes me laugh, girl.
09:07Meanwhile, a year later, the post.
09:09Meanwhile.
09:10About the divorce goes up on Facebook or Instagram.
09:12Exactly.
09:13And it doesn't just be about those little minor things or those worldly things.
09:18Like, there has to be a deep connection between you guys.
09:20And we have found that.
09:21And it gets, I mean, deeper and deeper every day.
09:24We've learned to listen to each other, too.
09:26I love that.
09:27That's so important.
09:28Now to become parents together.
09:29This is the second biggest decision you'll ever make.
09:32In life.
09:33In life.
09:34And honestly, I'm super excited.
09:36I'm terrified because this is my first, I mean, I have Madison, of course, who is our six-year-old.
09:42That's my, my mother, my daughter-in-love, I love to call her.
09:45Daughter-in-love, I love that.
09:46Yes, my daughter-in-love.
09:47She's adorable, by the way.
09:48She is.
09:49And she's a sweetheart.
09:50And she's very vocal about her feelings.
09:53And she's very.
09:54I love it.
09:55She's a, she's, you don't think at six years old.
09:57They're so self-aware that they're so, they have all these awesome questions.
10:02And they just want to know.
10:04I can tell that you two are getting very, very close.
10:07Yes.
10:08Fully connected.
10:09We talk about everything.
10:10And he allows me the space.
10:11That's the thing that I love about my husband.
10:13Because it's kind of weird coming into something that's been established for six years.
10:17Right.
10:18Already.
10:19And trying to have some type of voice.
10:22When she's like, girl, I know you.
10:23Right.
10:24Do you know what I mean?
10:25Facts.
10:26And he, we sat down and had a conversation when we first got married.
10:28Madison, this is, you know Miss Latoya in this capacity.
10:32But now she's mommy in love.
10:34You have to have another kind of respect for her.
10:36You can, you're open to have those conversations with her.
10:39You're open to be open with her.
10:41I love that.
10:42But you will respect her.
10:43Don't come, if she's already told you something, don't come to me and ask the same question.
10:47So important.
10:48We're on the same team.
10:49So we established that in the very, very beginning.
10:52We sat down with her beautiful mom as well and her husband.
10:56And we talked about how we were going to raise Madison.
10:59What's best for Madison.
11:00And that's like something that I don't think, I mean, because my parents were divorced.
11:04I don't think that my parents had those conversations and there was confusion because of that.
11:09Right.
11:10We don't want that confusion.
11:11Exactly.
11:12So I'm getting a lot of rehearsing.
11:13I love the effort that you guys, I mean you guys are not playing around this solid foundation,
11:17solid blended family.
11:19You're welcoming your baby into a happy, blissful, peaceful relationship.
11:23Girl, I'm just, I'm all about this love.
11:26But it's a lot of news.
11:27Like I got new husband.
11:29So to become a wife.
11:30Yes.
11:31Is a lot.
11:32A lot.
11:33Yeah.
11:34Yeah.
11:35You got to stay prayed.
11:36You ain't been on your knees so much in your life until you take somebody's hand in marriage.
11:38I'm telling you.
11:39And if you mean those vows.
11:41Yes.
11:42You have to stay prayed up.
11:43I'm a new mommy.
11:45Mommy to be and mommy of Madison.
11:47I moved to Dallas, which yes, is Texas, but it's a different place.
11:51I'm from Houston.
11:52Right.
11:53New home.
11:54New, you know, I'm just in a new space.
11:56So I'm, I've been just, I say to God, I'm like, Lord, this is my biggest faith walk that
12:02I've ever had in my entire life.
12:04I don't know what I'm doing half the time.
12:06So I need you to guide me.
12:08I need you to guide me.
12:09I want to say the right things.
12:10I want to make sure that I'm listening at all times to everyone, my husband, my daughter,
12:15listening to my body.
12:16Now that I'm carrying a child, I got a lot of listening to do.
12:20Right.
12:21But I've always appreciated you guys.
12:24And the reason I let you guys in is because you've always made it feel like a safe place.
12:29You know, especially for African-American women.
12:32We don't get a lot of platforms like this.
12:34And we see you.
12:35Right.
12:36Yeah.
12:37That's what we do.
12:38Yeah.
12:39And I appreciate that.
12:40And we want to celebrate with you.
12:42The milestones.
12:43It's not messy.
12:44No.
12:45That's great too.
12:46You're not trying to just get the tea, to share the tea, to put the ugly spin on it.
12:50No.
12:51It's, it's, it's, you, you empower me even through our conversation.
12:54So that's why I feel, you know, oh, and that's why he's okay with it.
12:58You know, Tommy, um, when we shared our story with you.
13:01Yes.
13:02We got the exclusive for the wedding.
13:03You got the exclusive for the wedding.
13:04You got the exclusive for the engagement.
13:05Pretty much got the exclusive for the baby.
13:06We got the first quote after the baby.
13:07I mean, appreciate it back.
13:08I love y'all.
13:09We're on your side.
13:10We're on your team.
13:11We love it.
13:12And invite me to the shower.
13:13Okay.
13:14Okay.
13:15And you better come.
13:16Um, absolutely.
13:17Cause you were supposed to come to the way.
13:18Yes.
13:19And y'all got busy.
13:20So this time, just please let me know.
13:21I know.
13:22And I did only tell you two weeks before.
13:23Yeah.
13:24I need some notice.
13:25Okay.
13:26I want to be fabulous like you.
13:27I know.
13:28Now you have how many months to go?
13:29You have five months notice.
13:30I got, I got, I got a little time.
13:31Okay.
13:32So I'm expecting that save it in.
13:33It's going to be in Dallas.
13:34Okay.
13:35I'm there.
13:36I like Dallas in the fall.
13:37Yeah.
13:38It's nice.
13:39Look, I'm not as hot, but it's cute.
13:40Thank you so much.
13:41You're the best.
13:42Give me the thumbs.
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