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00:00my father grabbed me off my mother because I was in her arms the train pulled away I've
00:14never seen my mother again out of the blue he just said I just want to make sure mom
00:22told you the family secret every year thousands of people come to us looking for missing family
00:29she's my sister she's loved and then she needs to know that she's loved sometimes is to solve a
00:38mystery that's troubled them for decades I'm petrified I'm looking for her I've just got to
00:45try or to end the torment of what they don't know any siblings any answers any anything be great so
00:56imagine the moment hi Alan hi Davina when the burning questions can finally be answered
01:05reuniting families who've spent a lifetime apart
01:20it was after her mum had died that our first searcher learnt a devastating family secret
01:41that had been too painful for her mum to speak of during her lifetime
01:45it's very surreal knowing you have a sister when you're 56 years of age but you have no idea what
01:58she looks like whether she looks like my mum or she looks like my dad
02:01okay where do you want the paint watch how high I can go
02:1456 year old teaching assistant Mandy Irvin and her husband Malcolm recently retired to the coast
02:23we'd wanted to move by the sea for a long time and then Malcolm was made redundant it kind of just
02:30seemed like the ideal time to make the jump I won't give up a day job
02:35today Mandy is returning to Hertfordshire where she and her younger brother grew up it was a very quiet
02:49a rural place I have lots of good memories
02:57this is the house I grew up in with my mum and dad and they lived in it for 54 years
03:03as an adult Mandy stayed in Hertfordshire and after her mum died in 2018 she took care of her dad
03:12it was a Sunday morning I went into the kitchen to put the kettle on and just randomly out of the blue
03:18he just said I just want to make sure mum told you the family secret
03:22and I was like no and he said that they were like 17 and 18 and mum got pregnant they were very happy
03:33about it they didn't tell my mum's mum I think probably deep down my mum probably knew that my
03:40nan wouldn't approve I don't think she liked my dad very much she didn't think my dad was good enough for
03:45my mum she kept it from her mum for the whole nine months of her pregnancy so obviously once baby was
03:54born they had to tell her and that's when my nan took charge my nan was quite a cold fish you didn't
04:04get hugs from her you didn't get kisses from her and my dad said my nan made my mum give the baby up for
04:12adoption I think she hoped that by taking the baby out of the equation that they would split up and
04:19then my mum would find someone more suitable my dad said I think your nan took over and literally took
04:26my mum to get the baby registered and that was it the baby was taken away from my mum and she was
04:32never given any more information about her she was gone so I went home straight away onto ancestry and
04:44found her birth certificate within 20 minutes I was just so shocked I would never in a million years
04:54thought that they would have had a baby and they wouldn't have told us Mandy was born two years
05:02after her sister was adopted they got married when my dad was 19 and my mum was 20 by then my nan
05:08obviously accepted the fact that when my mum hit 21 she was going to marry my dad so whether she liked it
05:14or not before Mandy's father died in 2022 he gave Mandy his blessing to search for her sister Mandy's
05:28brother's also supportive although not ready to be filmed I'm making this photo album for my sister so
05:37that she can get a feel for my mum and dad to know who her parents were I found so only a couple of
05:44photos from 1965 which is when my sister was born so this one she's hiding her belly so I'm not sure
05:51if she's actually pregnant in this one it's the right year I hope that she was adopted into a nice
05:59family and I completely get that it might be too hard for her to have to find out that she's got a
06:06full siblings not half siblings you know proper full brother and sister that she hasn't been
06:12allowed to have a relationship grow up with but I would love to have a sister and I would love to
06:19have her in my life Mandy knew that her sister had been born in 1965 and was called Sandra Tina Fisi but
06:35that is all she knew her birth family had no idea who had adopted her one of our intermediaries went to
06:44the general register office to discover her new name they learned that she'd been called Jennifer by her
06:50new family brought up in Hertfordshire just 10 miles down the road from where Mandy and her family had
06:57lived and she still lives in the area Jennifer known as Jenny has asked me to come to the school she
07:11has worked in for over 20 years starting as a dinner lady she's now an office administrator I hope that
07:21Jenny will be pleased that her sister has been looking for her but there's a lot of information
07:24in this search that will be difficult to hear it's going to be a revelation to Jenny that she was the
07:31eldest of three four siblings and she was the only one adopted ahead of filming our intermediary has told her
07:39that both her birth parents have died homely it's great takes me back so you feel a bit nervous about this
07:49are you a little bit yeah what I'm going to find out it was just going round and round in my head
07:55I've got a sister that's been looking for me so it was a nice surprise but one I wasn't expecting and I
08:05think what was really bizarre as well was she's a TA teaching assistant yeah and I work in this so
08:13tell me about your adult life what's that been like um first part was pretty good but I lost my
08:20um husband when he was 35 oh sorry what happened he had a heart attack what was his name Barry dropped
08:29dead in front of me in the boys and you know yeah that was pretty hard the younger two don't remember
08:37their father they were too little but my eldest does he was seven and that just broke me that really
08:45really broke me it had been a bad year anyway because um in the March I'd lost my dad so that was
08:52I supported mum and then five months later roles were reversed she's helping me help bring up the
09:00children um just get through yeah sorry no don't worry absolutely absolutely my god I didn't know this
09:08this is and and was she incredible yeah was she my rock yeah she was my rock and then about seven
09:16years later um I got together with my second partner Paul the kids adored him you know they
09:24thought it was great fun but sadly um 18 months later he passed away he went on generally so I went
09:34through it all again um and you start thinking this isn't fair this is this is I haven't you know what
09:43I'd done wrong to do you know to deserve this sort of thing and I I yeah I went to pieces on that one
09:49as well um who wouldn't and uh again mum was there what about now um now I've got my partner partner
10:01Martin and I've been with him about 16 years now 16 years that's fantastic yeah and this is an amazing
10:09new chapter yeah it really is that's what I've got to look at it it really is I've got so many things
10:15to tell you fantastic things thank you yeah it'd be nice to have something nice in my life yeah oh
10:21definitely what do you know about what happened when you were adopted and when you were born
10:26um I didn't initially know a huge amount it was only when I got my birth records that I found out a bit
10:34more I thought my mum my birth mum was a single mum but it turns out that she was with my father
10:43when she had me that my mum's mum felt that they were too young and felt that she couldn't keep me
10:50so gave me up for adoption that was all I was ever told this big information I have to tell you
10:55which might be difficult to hear do you know that they got married
10:59no they went on to get married wow
11:06when two years later two years later gosh oh well that does come as a surprise so
11:19that means my sister is my full sibling oh wow oh that's a bit of a shock that is a bit of a shock
11:32and you you also have um a younger brother oh I do birth brother yeah who's 10 months
11:42younger than Mandy as well oh wow your sister Mandy yeah I've got a sister and a brother
11:52are you okay yeah yeah I mean I think I feel for my birth mum a bit she hasn't as far as I'm concerned
12:04done anything wrong in that respect because I had a good life I had a good life with my parents so
12:11she I feel that she did right by me have you always known you were adopted yes since about
12:16the age of four let me tell you a bit about Mandy she's just moved to Selsey in West Sussex to be near
12:22the sea she just loves the sea oh wow Malcolm is Mandy's partner do they have children Mandy has a
12:30daughter from previous previous relationship I'm excited now yeah really excited there's just been so
12:38many questions going round and round in my head and just sort of like you know does she don't like me oh wow oh gosh got the same nose and the same shape eyes
12:55she looks lovely this is my sister this is my little sister
13:03that sounds so nice I'd love to show you a photograph of your birth parents oh yes please
13:13oh wow you look so like your birth mother yeah I can see it
13:24oh god
13:27you've had a lot to deal with in life I'm so happy for you because this is so lovely yeah that is good something nice definitely I can't wait to meet
13:52our next searcher grew up as an only child feeling isolated and yearning for siblings
14:07at the age of 18 she discovered that her childhood could have been very different
14:13my mum never said I love you she couldn't show emotion she lived with a big secret
14:24mum kept me but gave my brother away
14:30Jane's search for her brother has become more desperate with the passing decades
14:37we've wasted all those years teenagers you know the twenties the thirties
14:42they're getting married I really need to find my brother
14:4956 year old Jane Dundas was 18 when her mum told her a secret that she had an older brother
15:08Jane has two daughters and two grandchildren three years ago her life changed when she suffered a heart attack
15:17and she's now waiting for a hip operation
15:21my family are very important now especially after the heart attack I really thought I wasn't going to make it
15:27hello baby they are my life
15:30my mum was very distant to me I think she couldn't show me love because she'd given my brother away
15:39I think it completely changed her as a person so I made sure I was always there for my children
15:46so I made sure I was always there for my children
15:52Jane grew up in Cardiff with her mother Marion and stepfather Stanley
15:58gosh this brings back old memories
16:05well
16:10that was my bedroom at the front
16:13I grew up an only child
16:18it wasn't until Jane turned 18 that her mother revealed her secret
16:26mum sat me down and told me
16:31do you have a brother?
16:33he's called Paul
16:35he's only 11 months older than me
16:38same dad
16:39but when mum fell pregnant
16:42he wanted nothing to do with mum at all
16:45mum was only 23
16:48she wasn't married
16:50and she could not tell nan and granddad
16:53because she knew of the shame it would bring
16:56my granddad was a Baptist slave preacher
16:59and this is what my mother was worried about
17:02so she went away to Weymouth
17:06into a mother and baby home
17:08she had Paul for six weeks and two days
17:12and then had to give him up
17:14she did love him
17:17she told me she didn't want to give him away
17:21but it's never spoken about again
17:23Jane's grandparents had no idea about her mother's first child
17:27but when she became pregnant again
17:29her best friend Sandra suggested that this time she should tell them
17:44can you remember going with mum to go and tell them about me?
17:50she was convinced that her parents wouldn't accept her having a baby
17:55because granddad was a lay preacher wasn't he?
17:57yeah
17:58he was quite
17:59they were fine
18:00and they just accepted it
18:01oh
18:02unbelievable
18:03yeah they were absolutely fine
18:05I remember them being very lovely
18:06very gentle
18:07because I think you know if I hadn't have been for you
18:09I think I would have gone exactly the same way
18:12adopted as well
18:13yeah
18:14my grandparents were lovely
18:18when I was born they accepted me
18:21but people just turned their backs on them
18:24didn't speak to them
18:26they were shunned in the street
18:30they never knew about Paul
18:32she kept it so secret
18:34and it was just so so sad
18:36that he's gone and been adopted
18:40when they would have accepted him with open arms
18:43she'd given him up
18:46she couldn't have him back
18:51Marion died in 2012
18:52without ever seeing her son again
18:56I would have loved it if she was still alive
18:59could have met him together
19:09I want to tell Paul he was wanted
19:11and he was left
19:12I don't know how long I've got left
19:16but no matter what
19:19I'm going to find my brother
19:21I have to
19:22I have to
19:32In adoption cases
19:33the crucial detail needed to trace someone
19:36is their change of name
19:39we discovered that Jane's brother Paul
19:41was now called Stephen Smith
19:43which is a very common name
19:45but it was Stephen's middle name
19:47coupled with his date of birth
19:49that helped us narrow down the search
19:54Our specialist intermediary
19:55found six people who could have been Jane's brother
19:58so we wrote to all of them
20:00and one of them confirmed
20:01that he had originally been born with the name Paul
20:04we'd found Jane's brother
20:07and he was still living in the county where he was born 57 years ago
20:12I'm meeting Stephen
20:21now known as Steve
20:23at his home
20:24he lives with his wife Michelle
20:26and two children
20:27Charlie and Daisy
20:28Steve's adoption happened
20:31because his birth mother
20:33kept his existence a secret
20:36she was afraid of her parents reaction to this
20:39unplanned pregnancy
20:41that secret
20:43changed the course of his life
20:45and now
20:46he has a chance
20:47if he wants it
20:48to meet his sister
20:54ahead of filming
20:55we've told him about his birth mother's death
20:57Steve
21:07Nicky
21:08hi
21:09nice to meet you
21:10you too
21:11thank you for having me today
21:12well thank you for coming
21:13how are you feeling?
21:14er
21:15nervous
21:16yeah nervous
21:17but I'm excited as well
21:18I'm so sorry
21:19that
21:20er
21:21we had to bring you the news
21:22that your birth mother
21:23died in
21:24in 2012
21:25yeah
21:26it would have been
21:27it would have been nice to
21:28um
21:29have actually met her
21:30just to really say
21:31you know
21:32I'm okay
21:33what was your adoption like?
21:34yeah my adoption was fine
21:35it was okay
21:36it made me
21:37hide my emotions
21:38I think
21:39it's you know
21:40you always know you're a bit of an outsider
21:41and a bit different to the rest of the family
21:42so you know
21:43you
21:44don't really show that much emotion
21:46so all of a sudden you have this family thing opening up?
21:48yes
21:49yes
21:50yes
21:51which you know
21:52it's um
21:53a bit hard to process really
21:54did you know that you had a sister?
21:55no
21:56no
21:57that was
21:58that was the big shock
21:59what were you told
22:00about your birth family?
22:01I was told that
22:03er
22:04my mother got pregnant by a guy who had an affair
22:06he was already married with a couple of kids
22:08he didn't want anything to do with her
22:09well
22:10she couldn't keep you because she was terrified
22:13of the reaction of her parents when they find out about this
22:17right
22:18your grandfather was um
22:19he was Baptist lay preacher in Cardiff
22:22ah right
22:23and so
22:24they never knew about it
22:25oh they never knew at all?
22:26never knew at all
22:27oh okay
22:29and
22:30she had
22:32another
22:33baby
22:34by the same father
22:36what the same guy
22:37well my father
22:38oh right
22:39hmm
22:40oh okay
22:41and that's your
22:42full sister
22:43Jane
22:44oh my full sister
22:45okay
22:46because I assumed it would be a half sister
22:48no she's a full sibling
22:49Jane
22:50oh right
22:51oh gosh
22:52oh okay then
22:54well that's
22:55that's er
22:56something isn't it?
22:57yeah
22:58but then you'll already be thinking
23:00how come
23:01Jane
23:02was not put up for adoption
23:04and you were
23:05so
23:06she lived with my mother
23:07right
23:08okay then
23:09her parents
23:10your
23:12grandparents
23:13were
23:14incredibly supportive
23:16oh okay
23:17and so
23:18for your birth mother
23:19Marion
23:20she lived with the fact
23:21that she thinks
23:22if only she had told
23:24her parents
23:25right
23:26about you
23:27you would have been with her
23:29yeah
23:30and everything would have been different
23:34that's um
23:35yeah it's one of those things
23:37things that I suppose
23:38um
23:39yeah
23:41and
23:42Jane just really of course
23:43wants you to know
23:44that your birth mother
23:46so
23:47wanted you
23:48it's nice to know that
23:49she didn't want me
23:50I mean I know it was a really tough decision for her
23:53to put me up for adoption
23:55yeah life could have been so different couldn't it
23:57I'd love to show you a picture of your birth mother
24:02oh okay
24:03yeah
24:04yeah
24:05yeah
24:06gosh she looks like me
24:13yeah
24:14see it in the eyes don't you
24:15yeah gosh
24:16it's a shame she's not here isn't it
24:25yeah definitely my mother
24:28thank you
24:31and do you have a picture of Jane
24:33I do yes
24:34oh yeah
24:35there's your full sister
24:38ah
24:39oh yeah
24:41oh yeah
24:54yeah
24:55that's two people who look like me
25:02you're looking very thoughtful right now
25:04yes
25:05yes
25:06yeah
25:07yeah thinking about having an actual full sister
25:10yeah
25:13yeah it's a good feeling
25:15thank you
25:17so Jane lives near Cardiff
25:19in South Wales
25:20she's got two daughters
25:21and
25:22she's also
25:23a grandmother
25:24big family
25:25yeah
25:26and she's got a big brother
25:28yeah I'm really looking forward to meeting her now
25:30look at this
25:37look at this
25:38how did it go
25:39this
25:40is
25:41my
25:42full
25:43sister
25:44wow
25:45she looks like you
25:47oh she's gorgeous
25:49oh
25:50that's amazing
25:51oh
25:52oh
25:53how many kids does she have
25:57how many kids does she have
25:58she's got two kids of her own
25:59and two grandkids
26:00oh wow
26:01we're gonna have cousins
26:02yeah
26:03fantastic
26:04I'll just completely disappear
26:08amazing
26:20Mandy Irvin is looking for her full birth sister
26:23who was given up for adoption two years before Mandy was born
26:26Mandy's world was rocked by the discovery that she has a sister she was so upset that her parents hadn't told her sooner
26:49I hope that heartache will fall away when she discovers the wonderful news that Jenny's been found
26:56hi
26:57hi
26:58hi
27:00how are you doing
27:01good thank you
27:02yeah
27:03thanks so much for talking to me today I just wanted to ask you what was it like to discover that you had a sister I didn't realize there was anything missing because obviously I grew up and it was me and my brother and that was just life yes um when you feel like that you had a sister and I was like to discover that you had a sister and I didn't realize there was anything missing because I grew up and that was me and my brother and that was just life
27:24yes
27:25um when you find out that you do have a sister you know into your 50s um you suddenly do feel like that something's missing
27:31well I have come here because I've got a bit of news your sister's been found
27:38your sister's been found
27:40you found her
27:42thank you
27:48that's amazing
27:52and is she up for meeting
27:55she'd love to meet me
27:56oh my god
27:57does that mean a lot
27:59yeah it means everything
28:01her name is Jenny
28:03wow
28:04okay
28:05she's really really happy to be found
28:08wow
28:09did she know she was adopted
28:11she knew from the age of four
28:13oh wow okay
28:14she had a fantastic adoption
28:17oh great
28:18she had a wonderful childhood
28:19oh that's just
28:20yeah
28:21she was really happy
28:23oh yeah
28:24sorry
28:25you get your tissue
28:26sorry
28:27don't apologize
28:28thank you
28:29oh god
28:32oh I can't believe it
28:34I can't believe you've done that
28:35it's good news right
28:36oh my god it's amazing news
28:37my brain is just
28:38yeah
28:39does she live anywhere near me
28:44so she lives in Hertfordshire
28:47no
28:48yes
28:49around the corner all that time
28:51ten miles away
28:52and has she lived there all her life
28:54yeah
28:56and
28:57she works in a school
28:59no
29:00yes
29:01she has done for 20 years
29:03wow
29:04yeah
29:05how are you feeling
29:06I'm just so curious
29:07to see whether she looks like
29:08me and my brother are completely different
29:12oh wow
29:13oh she looks like my mum
29:18does she
29:19she looks like my mum
29:20does she
29:21yeah
29:22she looks like my mum's side of the family
29:23yeah
29:24100%
29:25my mum
29:26oh my goodness
29:27is that nice
29:28yes
29:29it's so lovely
29:32oh sorry
29:34she's got my mum's smile
29:37oh she
29:38and her love for big earrings
29:39how mad
29:40isn't that funny
29:41yeah
29:42no
29:43honestly it's absolutely amazing
29:44I really can't believe you found her
29:47so she's written you a letter
29:49so I can read it
30:00so I can read it
30:02dear Mandy
30:04writing this letter is not something I thought I would ever be doing
30:07I know her mother was young
30:08I know her mother was young when she had me
30:12and did what she thought was best for me at the time
30:14and I want you to know that I'm okay with this
30:17and understand
30:18it must have been very hard for her
30:20it's a huge thing for both of us
30:27but I hope
30:30sorry
30:31but one I hope
30:32will be a wonderful
30:33thing of learning laughter
30:36and probably tears as this journey starts
30:39oh
30:40how nice is that
30:43oh that's lovely
30:46I'm so glad that she
30:48you know that she understands about my mum
30:52you know
30:53it sounds very empathetic
30:54yes
30:55how are you feeling
30:56great
30:57great
30:58I'm a bit nervous now
30:59I really can't wait to meet her and find out all about her
31:03I'm so pleased for you
31:04yeah
31:05thank you
31:06I know
31:07I can't believe it
31:20er
31:21new founder
31:22oh my god
31:23who do you look like
31:25god your mum
31:26come
31:27search is over honey
31:29I know
31:30search is over
31:31wow
31:33Mandy has returned to Hertfordshire
31:41where she lived for most of her life
31:43little knowing that she had a sister only ten miles away
31:49I'm a bit nervous
31:51I just think it's the unknown isn't it
31:53she's my sister but I don't know her
31:55surreal
31:59is the main word I would use
32:01seem to have lots of butterflies
32:04but
32:05it's
32:06like
32:07going to be a new chapter in my life
32:08I hope
32:09best friend Julie has come to support Jenny
32:11are you ready?
32:12yeah
32:13I'm ready
32:14right we go
32:15yep
32:16well
32:17let's go
32:18let's go
32:19oh I am ready now
32:20I'll be glad to meet her
32:21I'll be glad to meet her
32:22it's that anticipation
32:23and excitement
32:24now
32:25can't wait
32:32from you on me
32:33not too much crying
32:34no
32:36my hopes for today are that
32:38it's the beginning of a long
32:40long and happy relationship
32:42just thinking about that first look at her
32:58that first hug
32:59and you know
33:01I think you know my mum and dad will be really happy
33:09it's quite scary
33:10you know
33:11hands are sweating in a bit angels
33:12yeah
33:13yeah
33:36hello
33:37my little sis
33:38oh
33:39hello big sis
33:40oh
33:41oh my god
33:42it's so amazing to meet you
33:43and you
33:46oh
33:47I don't want to let a go of you
33:48oh
33:51yeah
33:52yeah
33:53take a sec
33:54oh
33:55is it real?
33:56it is isn't it?
33:57yeah
33:58it's just
33:59erm
34:00that's what
34:01I think
34:02I'm just looking at you
34:03sorry
34:04I can't help you
34:05I'm just looking at you
34:06sorry
34:07sorry
34:08I can't help it
34:09it's just like
34:10I know you're just looking at each other isn't it
34:11yeah
34:12it's just the same eyes
34:13same eyes we do yeah
34:14yeah
34:15and they're mum's eyes
34:16yeah
34:17the fact that you know we are four sisters
34:18not half sisters
34:19yeah that's just
34:20that's just bizarre
34:21no no it's amazing
34:22no
34:23and that you're local
34:24you were local
34:25I know
34:26no that's just really spooky
34:27I just want to stare at her
34:28that sounds really rude
34:30but I just want to stare at her
34:32I have a little sister
34:33I have a little brother
34:34I love the fact I've got an older sister
34:36I can be the middle naughty one now
34:38she feels like my sister
34:40which is quite bizarre
34:42she seems absolutely lovely
34:43I made you an album
34:45photo album
34:46I just wanted you to see
34:49what they were like
34:51oh wow
34:56oh my god
34:58that looks like me as a child
35:00that is just
35:01the curly hair
35:03I had hair like that
35:04that's my mum
35:05oh my god
35:07she was always smiling
35:09and then I've left lots of blank pages
35:12for us to fill in
35:13absolutely
35:14absolutely
35:15absolutely
35:16seems quite outgoing
35:17and bubbly
35:18and I like that
35:19because I'm a bit like that
35:20it was lovely
35:21it was just like
35:22you've been sort of waiting so long
35:24and then it was really really real
35:25yeah it was wonderful
35:26I can't change the past
35:28no
35:29no
35:30no we can't
35:31no
35:32but
35:33but we
35:34can change the future
35:35can't we
35:36yes we can
35:37I hope you like Selsey
35:38because
35:39I'm going to ask you to come down and see me
35:41come and stay
35:42come and see the sea
35:43she's been looking for me for a long time
35:45and now
35:47since I've met her
35:48it's the best thing I've ever done
35:50hello
35:51this is Jenny
35:52this is Malcolm
35:53hi Jenny
35:54nice to meet you
35:55nice to meet you
35:56oh my god
35:57you alright
35:59yeah you two could be sisters
36:01nice to meet you
36:02nice to meet you
36:03nice to meet you
36:04come on baby
36:05hello
36:06nice to meet you
36:08and this is my best mate Julie
36:10oh hello
36:11sister
36:12on a scale of one to ten
36:17a hundred
36:18it's been absolutely amazing
36:19for Mandy and Jenny
36:21Mandy and Jenny
36:22it's a family
36:23it's a family
36:24cheers
36:25cheers
36:38Jane Dundas is searching for her older brother
36:40who was secretly placed for adoption
36:49Jane missed out on having siblings as she was growing up
36:53but ever since she found out she had a brother
36:56she's hoped that one day they might meet
36:59today I get to bring her the good news
37:02that finally that meeting is going to happen
37:06hi
37:11hi Davina come on in
37:12thank you
37:17thanks so much for talking to me today
37:21do you have any fears about the search for your brother
37:24I think the fact that I was kept
37:27and I think that's always been in the back of my mind
37:31would he reject me because she kept me
37:37this is really hard
37:39I know you've been through a lot in the last three years
37:43and I wanted to come today to bring you some news
37:47ok
37:49your brother has been found
37:51does he really?
37:52yeah
37:59really?
38:00yeah
38:01does he want to see me?
38:02does he want to know?
38:03does he?
38:04is he ok?
38:05yes
38:06oh wow
38:07he's called Steve
38:09ok
38:10did he know he was adopted?
38:14he knew he was adopted
38:15oh god
38:16he was told
38:17early on
38:18oh good
38:19although he did
38:20end up feeling
38:22a little bit like a fish out of water
38:24he was comfortable
38:26but he
38:27he didn't really feel like he belonged
38:29has he been told off?
38:31has he been told about mum?
38:33he has
38:35I'm so sorry
38:36yeah
38:37he was sad about that
38:38because she was young
38:40because she was young
38:48that's the bit that hurts me
38:51we've got the same parents
38:52does he know?
38:53we're full
38:54it blew his mind
38:55yeah it blew my mind
38:59he said he would
39:00love to meet you
39:01brilliant
39:03is he married?
39:04he is
39:06he's married to Michelle
39:07ok
39:08he's got two kids
39:11Charlie
39:12who's 14
39:14and Daisy
39:15who's 10
39:16oh
39:17same age as Jake
39:18my grandson
39:20oh wow
39:21they're all ok
39:22where's he living?
39:23he's living in Dorset
39:24in Dorset?
39:25oh lovely
39:26yeah
39:27not that far away
39:28oh thank you so much
39:29would you like to see a picture of him?
39:31one
39:32yeah yeah
39:33yeah
39:34come on
39:41this is
39:42Steve
39:43Steve
39:44hello Steve
39:46he looks like my mother
39:48oh my god
39:51he looks like mum
39:53he's got her eyes
39:54does it mean you feel connected to him already?
40:03immediately
40:04wow
40:05immediately
40:06he's written you a letter
40:07ok
40:08would you mind reading it for us?
40:10i don't think i'd be able to
40:11can you?
40:13ok
40:16dear Jane
40:18i couldn't believe
40:19someone had been looking for me
40:22it would be amazing to meet you
40:25i've had a real mixed range of emotions since being contacted
40:29i bet
40:30from very happy
40:31to really nervous
40:32oh yeah
40:34but i'm now so very pleased this is happening Jane
40:37with love
40:38Steve
40:39i don't love him
40:40oh
40:43oh my god
40:45i can't wait
40:48oh thank you
40:50oh my
40:59Jane's getting ready to see Steve
41:01who's made the journey to Wales to meet the sister he didn't even know existed
41:06today is one of the biggest moments in my life
41:09i honestly didn't think i'd get to this point
41:13mum would be so happy
41:16about today and i'm so sad she's not here
41:22but i want to get there now
41:25and just hug him
41:26i never thought i'd meet anyone from a birth family so um to actually be meeting my sister today
41:35who's been looking for me it's um yeah it's a very special experience
41:40i feel ready now yeah ready to do it
41:42all right
41:45see you later
41:47i'll see you later
41:49hopefully we'll have a big connection
41:53i'm going to give her a big hug
41:54and say thank you for looking for me
41:59he's got 57 years to catch up on
42:01so hopefully i can tell him everything he wants to know
42:05it's getting real now
42:08so not long
42:09so not long
42:31sorry
42:35all right little sis
42:36all right
42:37all right
42:45well thank you for following me
42:51go on
42:57i am so sorry about mum
43:00i know
43:02she'd be so happy
43:04she didn't want to give you web she had no choice
43:06no and i understand that
43:08i've spent all these years wondering whether i look like someone
43:10yeah you do you do
43:12yeah
43:13you are her
43:15honestly
43:16it is uncanny
43:18yeah
43:19thank you for looking for me
43:21i never thought i'd say anything for my family
43:24i was expecting a half-sister
43:25no we're full
43:26i know
43:27full
43:28same with my dad and he
43:29wow
43:31yes
43:32big brother
43:33yes
43:34little sister
43:35i got some photos to show you
43:37this is mum and nan and granddad
43:38he was lovely granddad
43:39wow
43:41nan she was four foot ten
43:43so you were around at this time then
43:44you were right
43:45yeah this was their house
43:46nan and granddad had me
43:47oh okay
43:48they looked after me
43:49that's nice
43:50yeah
43:51yeah
43:52yeah
43:53they were lovely
43:54they were nice people
43:55granddad was the kindest
43:57yeah
43:58you would have been welcomed with open arms
43:59yeah
44:00yeah
44:01i felt an immediate connection
44:03i found him very disulted
44:07he's a wonderful man
44:08and i feel we've clicked
44:10straight away
44:13jane feels like my sister
44:15it feels like yeah a proper connection
44:17yeah it's lovely
44:19and this one
44:21me with the curly hair
44:22and that was in mum's house
44:24and i was about 26
44:27did you have curly hair
44:28no
44:29mum was naturally curly
44:30that's why she went so short
44:31how curly
44:32curly curly
44:33oh
44:34it was you then
44:35wait till you see daisy
44:36oh she curly
44:37oh i'm gonna love it
44:39pull it
44:40hello
44:41hello
44:42hello how's it jess
44:43this is my sister
44:44so excited to meet you
44:46welcome to you
44:48thank you
44:50how are you both
44:51i'm good
44:52this is michelle
44:53hello jess
44:54how are you
44:55how are you
44:56how are you
44:57how are you
44:58oh
44:59oh
45:00this is so lovely
45:01oh this is so lovely
45:02yeah she's got an auntie now
45:03yeah
45:04all of the family
45:05it's been a good day
45:06it's a family now you know
45:07my actual family
45:08and hopefully we'll be able to keep in touch
45:09i just feel whole
45:10absolutely amazing
45:11i just feel whole
45:12absolutely amazing
45:13i just feel whole
45:14absolutely amazing
45:16and to meet scyv's wife and children
45:19really nice to see you
45:20it's nice to meet you
45:21hello
45:22hey guys
45:23hi god
45:28nice to meet you
45:30oh
45:31hi hi there
45:32how are you
45:33hi there
45:34goodSuper
45:34nice to meet you
45:35what is that
45:36oh
45:37oh
45:38hi
45:39hi
45:40hi
45:41hi
45:42hi hi
45:43hi hi there
45:44and for them to meet mine.
45:46It's incredible. I never thought this day would come.
45:51Cheers!
46:14I love you.
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