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Host: Nida Yasir
Guests: Dr Sidra Raza, Nausheen Barkat, Shermeen Ali, Farah Aftab, Sajdah Inam,Maham Amir
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Guests: Dr Sidra Raza, Nausheen Barkat, Shermeen Ali, Farah Aftab, Sajdah Inam,Maham Amir
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00:00:58As-salamu alaykum Good morning Pakistan
00:01:23What is the situation? How are you? How are you? How is your life?
00:01:28The mothers are now sitting in the TV.
00:01:31Today, there is a very special program for mothers.
00:01:34Children are so good. They are living with us.
00:01:38And we think that our child is perfect.
00:01:41If someone gives it to her, you don't know the birds.
00:01:45We think that we are in the waves.
00:01:48And we think that she is not our child.
00:01:52If someone gives it to her, or she gives it to her,
00:01:59then if someone gives it to her,
00:02:00then if someone gives it to her,
00:02:02then it will be very bad.
00:02:05If someone gives it to her,
00:02:07if someone gives it to her,
00:02:09then we will understand that she will be a teacher.
00:02:13Whether she is a teacher or an aunt or a friend,
00:02:19or she gives it to her.
00:02:22If someone gives it to her,
00:02:25and she gives it to her,
00:02:27then if someone gives it to her,
00:02:29then you will make a lot of time.
00:02:31So you have to accept that thing, a lot of time you have to accept that thing.
00:02:35You go to denial, no, no, no, no.
00:02:38My child, how can this happen?
00:02:41And because of that denial, sometimes, many mothers give them to their children.
00:02:48There are many dogs, dogs, ducks, abusers.
00:02:54There are children who are growing up.
00:02:57So think about how much responsibility we can raise our children.
00:03:03Because we can create a pillar of one.
00:03:06As the country's responsibility, we can give them good children.
00:03:16And first of all, we go to denial.
00:03:19Our children can't be bad.
00:03:21Why can't it happen?
00:03:23If you don't listen to this concept and you don't listen to this concept,
00:03:27then sometimes we can come to our children.
00:03:32And those parents, who keep their heart and mouth open,
00:03:39hear that these problems are in their children.
00:03:42And they have to save their children's problems.
00:03:46If there is a bad habit that has come to a certain age,
00:03:51where many children take their children from their company.
00:03:54They take many bad things.
00:03:57So they can remove them.
00:03:59They can also remove them.
00:04:00They can also remove them.
00:04:02They can also remove them.
00:04:03They can also remove them.
00:04:04And they can also remove them.
00:04:05They can also remove them.
00:04:06Now we are going to do something.
00:04:07We are going to point out.
00:04:08We are going to do anything.
00:04:09I am not doing bad things, because good people, good things are in every person.
00:04:15This is a package of bad things.
00:04:20But many people overcome bad things and take better things in their lives.
00:04:27They are a good person.
00:04:30If you ask me, what do I do with my children?
00:04:35My children will be a good person.
00:04:46Because if they are a good person, they will be a good husband.
00:04:52They will be a good person.
00:04:54They will be a good person.
00:04:57They will be a good person.
00:05:00They will be a good person.
00:05:05Today, we are going to discuss how we can make our children a good person.
00:05:13What kind of things do they want to make their children a good person?
00:05:19They will be a good person.
00:05:20But they will be a good person.
00:05:23They can make their children a good person
00:05:26They will raise their children in their lives.
00:05:28Good morning.
00:05:58Welcome, welcome back.
00:06:04Good morning Pakistan.
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00:06:25Very nice touch on Baba a.
00:06:26Good morning Pakistan.
00:06:27Good morning Pakistan.
00:06:29Today you have come to learn, because you are such a small baby.
00:06:33Yes, I have tried to learn everything from all of our mothers.
00:06:36Yes, yes.
00:06:37But you also have the ability to take your mouth and take your mouth.
00:06:43We also talk about that.
00:06:45And with us, as mother, Shameen Ali is here.
00:06:48Today you are a celebrity man.
00:06:50You are a mother.
00:06:51Always.
00:06:52Always.
00:06:53Always.
00:06:54How are you?
00:06:55How are you?
00:06:56Happy New Year by the way.
00:06:58This year it is my first time.
00:07:00Don't say it.
00:07:01You forgot.
00:07:02You said that Shameen Nida is a favorite every week.
00:07:06What is the age of today?
00:07:0821 years.
00:07:0921 years later.
00:07:1021 days later.
00:07:12How are you doing that?
00:07:18Okay, let's get a little bit serious.
00:07:20I am going to get a clinical psychologist with you.
00:07:22I don't know why it is said that if someone is an expert,
00:07:26I am going to talk seriously.
00:07:28But it is not our show.
00:07:30It is not that.
00:07:32Format.
00:07:33We are serious.
00:07:34We can explain everything with you.
00:07:36The clinical psychologist, his name is Farah Aftab.
00:07:39Assalamualaikum and welcome to the show.
00:07:40Assalamualaikum.
00:07:41No, you don't need to be serious.
00:07:43Because we don't assess every time.
00:07:45So just be comfortable.
00:07:47If we are uncomfortable,
00:07:48then many people can relate to us.
00:07:50Of course.
00:07:51Of course.
00:07:52Yes.
00:07:52So my other hand is my hand.
00:07:54They are doing good work in their fields.
00:07:57There are also working ladies.
00:07:59My hand.
00:08:00My hand.
00:08:00My hand.
00:08:01My hand.
00:08:01My hand.
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00:08:22Welcome to the show, Sajda.
00:08:23Thank you, Nida. Thank you for having me here.
00:08:26Yes, it looks good. You are wearing your boutique, right?
00:08:28Yes, absolutely.
00:08:29Yes, absolutely.
00:08:32Then, let's sit with you, another mother, who is a professional nutritionist.
00:08:39And today, she is on our show as mother.
00:08:42Dr. Sidra Raza, with us.
00:08:44Assalamu alaikum.
00:08:45Wa alaikum alaikum.
00:08:45How are you?
00:08:46I am good. Allaha shukar.
00:08:47During the break, I will give you nutrition tips and on-air as mother.
00:08:53So, do-do-kaam karaneh aaj aapne.
00:08:55Perfect, perfect.
00:08:56Would love to.
00:08:57And we are with Nauseen Barkat, who is a business owner, entrepreneur.
00:09:04What business is it?
00:09:05Honey is a business and it's the first woman-lit honey brand in Pakistan.
00:09:09I am a beekeeper.
00:09:10Oh my god.
00:09:12How interesting.
00:09:13Honey is related to me.
00:09:15Is it a business or is it a business or is it a nature?
00:09:21All it is.
00:09:22All it is.
00:09:23Nauseen means it's sweet.
00:09:24Oh, oh, oh.
00:09:25That's true.
00:09:26It's sweet in our show.
00:09:28Diabetic patients are still around.
00:09:30Hey, we have honey for the diabetic patients.
00:09:32We will see two men.
00:09:34This is marketing.
00:09:35You can also say something.
00:09:36Honey can take one tablespoon.
00:09:37Honey is safely be taken by a diabetic patient.
00:09:39Oh, oh.
00:09:40And as a, I really want to know that this diabetic honey is what happens.
00:09:43Because the chemical structure is the same.
00:09:45So how it is different.
00:09:46What happens when we say that this diabetic honey is what happens.
00:09:47Because the chemical structure is the same.
00:09:48So how it is different.
00:09:49What happens when we say we want to talk about another one?
00:09:53No but my first question is, because see, why the kids are not young, their abilities are
00:09:56bad.
00:09:57Yes.
00:09:58Because, look, sometimes it's not a child, but it's also a bad idea.
00:10:02Yes.
00:10:03A child is born, leaves out of the room in the labor room,
00:10:06and they have honey and honey to eat honey.
00:10:08There are children, children, children.
00:10:11I'm just going to take you on this platform, Nida.
00:10:15Please tell everyone, please, one year before,
00:10:19it's our honey business, we work with honey,
00:10:21but please do not give honey, one year before, please.
00:10:25Thank you so much for saying that.
00:10:27Please.
00:10:28I said before, I'm going to grow up, then I'm going to grow up.
00:10:30Then, they come to the children.
00:10:32There are also sports.
00:10:34As you heat the honey, they are heat-resistant.
00:10:38The bacteria do not die.
00:10:39And the gut immunity of the child is not so strong that they can kill the sports.
00:10:43That's the reason behind that they don't want to give the children.
00:10:46And now, I say to the adults,
00:10:47they give the honey, and they are so angry.
00:10:50They go to the honey, and they give the honey.
00:10:52People still talk like that.
00:10:53Yeah, yeah, definitely.
00:10:54And there are fights, right?
00:10:56So, my granddaughter, I gave the honey.
00:10:59So, now, whatever she does bad,
00:11:01then she will come right away.
00:11:03It's all moms.
00:11:06She is doing whatever mom is doing.
00:11:08It's always there.
00:11:10Exactly.
00:11:12It's a dog.
00:11:13It's a dog.
00:11:14It's a dog.
00:11:15It's a dog.
00:11:16It's a dog.
00:11:17We're talking about a lot of mistakes, right?
00:11:18But we can't ignore such a big mistake.
00:11:20We can't do it.
00:11:21If you give it a year, if you give it to a child, it won't be worse.
00:11:26So, all moms, please listen.
00:11:28Please.
00:11:29All moms, not dads.
00:11:31Dads, aunts, aunts.
00:11:32Everyone.
00:11:33Everyone.
00:11:34Everyone.
00:11:35Everyone.
00:11:36Those who are strong at home.
00:11:37They have to judge them.
00:11:38Absolutely.
00:11:39Because they say, we have to give the child a hug.
00:11:41They have to grow up now.
00:11:42But in our time, it was that honey and a hug.
00:11:45Now, doctors are very strict.
00:11:47Now, doctors don't give them.
00:11:49They tell you clearly that you can't give them because they have allergies to the child.
00:11:55They have reactions to the child.
00:11:56Children are different, right?
00:11:57Every child is different.
00:11:58If you don't give them, that does not mean that my child won't give them.
00:12:01So, you never know who has allergies to the child.
00:12:03So, you never know who has allergies to the child.
00:12:05Have you been in America?
00:12:07Actually, she was born.
00:12:10Doctors are going to come.
00:12:12My son-in-law was standing there.
00:12:15She is also a doctor.
00:12:16She was here and there.
00:12:17And she said, I have to give the child a hug.
00:12:19So, I said, let me do the ghti.
00:12:21I took the child a hug.
00:12:22And she told me quickly.
00:12:25This is the beginning of the story.
00:12:27So, everyone is saying, because of the nani, she is doing this.
00:12:33I have taken the bowl so much, but I have hidden this thing.
00:12:37And after the birth of the birth of the child, I realized that she gave the ghti.
00:12:41Because it's a matter of pride.
00:12:43It's a matter of that this is not our ghti.
00:12:46Because she gave the ghti.
00:12:47That is the ghti.
00:12:48That is the ghti.
00:12:49I was actually about to say that.
00:12:51Because now, you are saying that you are right.
00:12:53You are right.
00:12:54You are right.
00:12:55You are right.
00:12:56You are right.
00:12:57You are right.
00:12:58That's the ghti.
00:12:59That's the ghti.
00:13:00That's the ghti.
00:13:01That's the ghti.
00:13:02or Dr. Hamesha doesn't say that we have to give it a little bit
00:13:05but it's not that
00:13:07because now these studies are coming
00:13:09so you can actually read up on it
00:13:12how much it is not right for the child
00:13:15Okay, so now let's get to the children's bad habits
00:13:19which start to develop again
00:13:22and if I start to start with you
00:13:25that you are the youngest baby
00:13:27in all of us
00:13:29so if I remember everything I remember
00:13:32maybe I have a lot of things
00:13:34and you will also forget
00:13:35when children are young
00:13:36so what do you think
00:13:38that your first bad habits
00:13:40that you have to take in the mouth
00:13:42or anything like that
00:13:43to cry, to cry, to cry
00:13:44to cry, to cry
00:13:45to cry
00:13:46to cry
00:13:47All the bad habits
00:13:48we are trying really hard
00:13:49we are trying really hard
00:13:51not to eat in the mouth
00:13:52because obviously
00:13:54I work with
00:13:55and I have help
00:13:56always
00:13:57which is not a bad thing
00:13:59I just want to say this to my parents
00:14:01that if you have help with your mother
00:14:03or your daughter
00:14:04or your child
00:14:05there is no bad
00:14:06which means
00:14:07that it is not that she is not good
00:14:08just to be on the clear side
00:14:09just to be on the clear side
00:14:10which is right
00:14:11because this is a phenomenon
00:14:12that is also a phenomenon
00:14:13that is associated with her mother
00:14:14that she does work
00:14:15that she has helped
00:14:16so that she has helped
00:14:17anyway
00:14:18that she has helped
00:14:19to keep my child's hand
00:14:20in the mouth
00:14:21always in the mouth
00:14:22that help
00:14:23also also in the mouth
00:14:24exactly
00:14:25because we have no nail biting
00:14:27because I live in a joint family
00:14:29and there are other children
00:14:30but we have no nail biting
00:14:31but because she has
00:14:32in the mouth
00:14:33she has picked up
00:14:34and she has picked up
00:14:35not blaming on anyone
00:14:37because children
00:14:38have a lot of habits
00:14:39and they see
00:14:40and they see
00:14:41and they see
00:14:42and they see
00:14:43so we have to struggle
00:14:44to do this
00:14:45for all of them
00:14:46because I know
00:14:47the bad things
00:14:48that they are
00:14:49the most important
00:14:50because that is
00:14:51and then they are
00:14:52always going to the mouth
00:14:53oh my god
00:14:54exactly
00:14:55absolutely
00:14:56how do you even manage to do that
00:14:57she is walking in the mouth
00:14:59how old is she?
00:15:00she is four now
00:15:01four
00:15:03my is 11th
00:15:04but because my have been
00:15:05called medicines
00:15:06when she grew up
00:15:07she started in acrylics
00:15:08she was confused
00:15:09she is very shocked
00:15:10to make nails
00:15:12nail paints
00:15:13But obviously, we don't allow things to put on.
00:15:15But you think I should put nail polish?
00:15:17Yes, because she's got nail polish.
00:15:19I've tried this too. She starts to eat nail polish.
00:15:22It doesn't mean that she's...
00:15:24Because obviously, a child's habit,
00:15:26their behavior is very explained.
00:15:28But you've met in Ramadan.
00:15:30She's very out there.
00:15:32She's very outspoken.
00:15:34Her personality is very different.
00:15:36Her mother feels very different.
00:15:38But my child is very different.
00:15:40She's very out there.
00:15:42She has her own opinions about things.
00:15:44And she's very different.
00:15:46But she's very different.
00:15:48My child is 11 years old.
00:15:50She's a picky person.
00:15:52And she's still eating.
00:15:54Now, I've done a technique.
00:15:56I don't know.
00:15:57I've started to show shits.
00:15:59Yes, I show her videos.
00:16:01Actually, I show her videos.
00:16:03And she enjoys those videos.
00:16:05And she's starting to show reels.
00:16:07If you're eating nails,
00:16:09I'm not going to show her videos.
00:16:11I'm not going to show her videos.
00:16:13Because we're connected through Instagram.
00:16:15Yes, yes.
00:16:16So, I started to send that.
00:16:17So, now, last time, I cut her nails.
00:16:19I didn't get to touch my nails.
00:16:20I didn't make my nails.
00:16:21I didn't get to touch my nails.
00:16:23I was very happy that I was thinking of a technique.
00:16:29If we're doing drama, I know that I'm just trying to show.
00:16:31And I said,
00:16:33And I said, Hadiyah, how many nails biting you have to say,
00:16:37Mom, you don't think I'm going to eat nails, you don't need to cut them.
00:16:41When you grow a little, you'll understand it.
00:16:43So I'm going to take a little.
00:16:45Please, tell us.
00:16:46No, no.
00:16:47When we start a habit, it means that it's a habit.
00:16:53It's very difficult to leave a habit.
00:16:55Be it like smoking, right?
00:16:57So you have to learn alternative behavior.
00:16:59Some children can understand that it's rational.
00:17:01Like you have explained to your son, maybe you have to understand it.
00:17:04But she's too young.
00:17:05Exactly.
00:17:05And it's a sensory element.
00:17:07It's not just that I'm going to nail biting.
00:17:11It's like a sensory element.
00:17:12Exactly.
00:17:13So you can learn alternative behavior that when you have a heart,
00:17:17you probably have nuts.
00:17:18Nuts, crackers.
00:17:21This sort of thing so that it can be a sensory need.
00:17:24Oh, good idea.
00:17:25And then later on, you can tell it to be rational.
00:17:28And nail color is a very good idea.
00:17:30But then she ends up eating the nail color.
00:17:32Peel wala laga-dia.
00:17:33So she was peeling her mouth.
00:17:34And then I thought,
00:17:36what can I add to her as a child?
00:17:38Because now she's 4 years old.
00:17:39And then I put it in her hand.
00:17:40And then I put it in her hand.
00:17:42Who will it?
00:17:43She's very happy.
00:17:44And then she says,
00:17:45Mama, put it.
00:17:46Mama, put it.
00:17:47She is very happy with whatever I try to do.
00:17:50But the taste of Karele has developed.
00:17:52Yes.
00:17:52She wants to get rid of it.
00:17:55She wants to get rid of it.
00:17:56But she's unable to.
00:17:57I have a video.
00:17:58Because it's not such a phone habit,
00:18:00which we'll obviously talk about.
00:18:02But it's that when I see things in a video,
00:18:04she sees things and then she sees everything.
00:18:06Look, nails eat this.
00:18:07But while she's telling everybody,
00:18:09she has her finger in her mouth.
00:18:11You have to get rid of it.
00:18:14Because, for example,
00:18:15if you don't want to get rid of it.
00:18:17So maybe you can ask the maid,
00:18:18if she gets rid of it,
00:18:19if she gets rid of it,
00:18:20she gets rid of it.
00:18:22Whenever she's eating,
00:18:23like, you know, take it out.
00:18:25Take it out.
00:18:26And then if the maid,
00:18:27if she sees that,
00:18:29she will not finish.
00:18:31Okay, now that's my help.
00:18:33And she gets rid of it.
00:18:35It's so beautiful.
00:18:36It's so beautiful.
00:18:37It's so beautiful.
00:18:38It's so beautiful.
00:18:39It's so beautiful.
00:18:40Now here we are.
00:18:41But it's so beautiful.
00:18:42Does anyone know a child nail bite?
00:18:45My daughter Yumna.
00:18:46His name is my Yumna's boutique.
00:18:49Alhamdulillah,
00:18:50I own a multi-brand store there.
00:18:52In which we have all our designers.
00:18:54And that was also the.
00:18:56Set up the example for my children.
00:18:58As well as I'm raising them,
00:19:01I can do something else too.
00:19:03Or how we build the community.
00:19:05Because raising in Pakistan,
00:19:07children are slightly different compared to the US, that as an American, Muslim, Pakistani
00:19:15for us, there are many challenges for our children, why do we have to do this, so for
00:19:23us, there are three things that you have done in that environment, that you have positive
00:19:32examples, that if we are going to pray, we will definitely see our children, we can't
00:19:39go to the parties, Alhamdulillah, I have four children, they all are very successful, my
00:19:45son is vice president in a big tech company, my daughter is also HR president, so they
00:19:52all went to Ivy League, all of them, Northwestern, University of Chicago, third one is working
00:19:59for United Nations, but it was a journey to bring them there, because around us, the
00:20:06community is wearing different clothes, I have to explain them, why do we wear these clothes,
00:20:14or why do we not do this, like we say, it takes a village to raise a child, and Alhamdulillah
00:20:21this is my husband's biggest contribution, we raise both children, mother and father
00:20:28single mother and father cannot raise a child, so Alhamdulillah we both were always on the
00:20:34same page, this was ours, and he is also very like, very early, education, you are also
00:20:40education, you are also an educationist, he is also in the classroom already, then the
00:20:43children are good, they are very driven, they are very driven, my husband was a PhD in economics,
00:20:52finance where he was a professor there, and then I went, and I went to education there,
00:20:57educationally, here, and master's economics, maybe mother also wrote this, but some children
00:21:04have a tradition, that is a common mother, I have to say, but I have to say that they have to
00:21:09be a page on a husband and wife, that is very important, you know, shape, if some of
00:21:14their children, they are children, they are small and small, but in that, in that, in that,
00:21:20they are answering, to make sure they have to say from that, and to people, they are
00:21:23at wrong, because if mother says something and father says, let her try from home, and
00:21:28mother will stay back, okay, her father says something and father will say, and mother will
00:21:32say to her, you just see, when you get out of the office, and you stay back home, you
00:21:35are also looking back to home, she feels good to come back to us, she feels good at us,
00:21:40there are some of us, there's some of us, that's that just come back,
00:21:43when they are at the same page,
00:21:44they have to come back and both of us, but the family are at the same time, and if it is
00:21:48It's not that mom, I remember my husband was working like as a professor and other job
00:21:558 o'clock at night, homework was done at 8 o'clock
00:21:58He pulled his tie and took all the children to bring your bags
00:22:02So then at 8 o'clock in the office
00:22:04I said, I need to check your homework
00:22:06I said, let me spend
00:22:09When I was married, I had a sticker on the car
00:22:13The best thing to do your children is time
00:22:16So the best thing is that parents should give the children time
00:22:22Their feeling is nail biting
00:22:24I'm going to tell my daughter, she used to do
00:22:28Because at our house, it was a very intense experience
00:22:32Then I start my business
00:22:34So I felt that I will not stay behind
00:22:36When I go to the doctors, they say that when children are in anxiety, then they start nail biting
00:22:43That's why they wipe the nails
00:22:45So my daughter says that I'm playing games, so I'm playing
00:22:49So that's why I enjoy
00:22:51And she is very intelligent, mashallah and very successful
00:22:56She is also working
00:22:58Or she is the youngest baby of her
00:23:00And how did that nail biting?
00:23:01How did that nail biting?
00:23:03That nail biting, you said that she was wearing acrylic nails
00:23:05She asked some doctors
00:23:07So now she is in that place
00:23:09Okay, no matter, I'm not going to do it
00:23:12That's the challenge for me
00:23:13She worked here on acrylic
00:23:15I feel like this is working on my daughter
00:23:17Now I'm going to take a little tip
00:23:19I'm going to take a little break
00:23:21After the break, we will come back to you
00:23:23So I'll try to take a little bit from you
00:23:24I want to take a little bit away
00:23:25I feel like this is going to take a little bit
00:23:26and it's going to take a little bit
00:23:28Thank you
00:23:29Yes, thank you
00:23:29Good morning
00:23:30Welcome
00:23:32Welcome back
00:23:33Good morning Pakistan
00:23:34First bad habit
00:23:35Nail biting
00:23:37We founded it
00:23:38And now we have a psychologist
00:23:39That is why we were doing
00:23:40What we have a joyful
00:23:42We have told you about our mothers.
00:23:45First of all, there is no bad behaviour.
00:23:48I don't like to say that bad behaviour.
00:23:51No bad behaviour or behaviour,
00:23:54first of all, understand what the underlying cause is.
00:23:57Nail biting is a sensory element.
00:24:00Some people don't have any stress,
00:24:02but when they are firing, they will go in the nose.
00:24:05This age is specifically between 2 to 4.
00:24:10I would say that 1 to 4.
00:24:13Children learn to put things in the mouth.
00:24:15You have seen that they put everything in the mouth.
00:24:17They learn, they sense it through mouth only.
00:24:20After that, this behaviour should be reduced,
00:24:22because it doesn't start nail biting.
00:24:24Then we understand that either the child is in stress,
00:24:27or sometimes it is in intense mode.
00:24:29Not like stress,
00:24:30if someone is watching a movie or a game,
00:24:33that there is an intense mode in which the child starts nail biting.
00:24:38Why? Because it is a sensory need developed.
00:24:40I am saying that sensory need means that
00:24:43when you go into any stress or anxiety,
00:24:46there will be a back cause
00:24:48to cope with the behaviour.
00:24:51It is like smoking.
00:24:52It is like your nail biting.
00:24:54So if we have to reduce behaviour,
00:24:56then you have to remove the underlying cause.
00:24:59Why is that behaviour?
00:25:00It will remove the behaviour.
00:25:01Usually, we focus on alternative behaviours,
00:25:04like we have said that you give a child,
00:25:06nuts, crackers,
00:25:08and then understand that what can impact this nail biting.
00:25:12We use a lot of techniques,
00:25:14like this,
00:25:15but when it is desensitized,
00:25:16like this,
00:25:17or something,
00:25:18I don't know,
00:25:19I don't know,
00:25:20there were lessons in old times.
00:25:21And all of those stuff.
00:25:22It was like a kid.
00:25:23They didn't have lessons in old times.
00:25:24Exactly.
00:25:25I heard a psychologist who said,
00:25:27that if a child is in anxiety,
00:25:29then tell them the other healthy means to release that anxiety.
00:25:33Release that.
00:25:34You start to punch the pillow.
00:25:36Tell them,
00:25:37if you are angry,
00:25:38if you are upset,
00:25:39you can punch a pillow or something like that,
00:25:40so that you feel calm,
00:25:41and that you have high energy,
00:25:42it will not be done.
00:25:43Release that.
00:25:44Okay,
00:25:45let's move on to the other bad habits.
00:25:47Let's do it.
00:25:48Okay.
00:25:49Sharmine,
00:25:50tell me.
00:25:51My daughter,
00:25:52you have grown up with a lot.
00:25:54My daughter,
00:25:55she has grown up with a lot.
00:25:56I didn't have so much.
00:25:57But I remember,
00:25:58one thing,
00:25:59because basically,
00:26:01I have discussed this in your show,
00:26:03that I was a very strict mother,
00:26:05so she was disciplined in this sense.
00:26:07And I don't like the fact,
00:26:08that I was very strict on every thing.
00:26:12But,
00:26:13she had the most trouble for eating habits.
00:26:16And her gag reflex was very strong.
00:26:18So,
00:26:19she immediately vomited vomit.
00:26:20So,
00:26:21I remember,
00:26:22that I was sitting there,
00:26:23one hour,
00:26:24and eating meat.
00:26:25And the last bite,
00:26:26she would throw up the entire thing.
00:26:27Why?
00:26:28And I thought,
00:26:29oh my god,
00:26:30back to square one.
00:26:31Because now,
00:26:32her belly is empty.
00:26:33One hour,
00:26:34I ate the food.
00:26:35And when she was sitting there,
00:26:36she was sitting there.
00:26:37And,
00:26:38when she was sitting there,
00:26:39she was on a thinner side.
00:26:40And,
00:26:41she was on a thinner side.
00:26:42So,
00:26:43all the people,
00:26:44even when I watched,
00:26:45lots of them said,
00:26:46that very cold.
00:26:47And in the back of the mind,
00:26:48that I was,
00:26:49that I have to give her a lot.
00:26:50Because in the family,
00:26:51and children were so depressed.
00:26:52So,
00:26:53that also went to a competition.
00:26:54So,
00:26:55I feel that,
00:26:56that I also struggled,
00:26:58and my son also,
00:26:59that took me because,
00:27:00I also struggled a lot.
00:27:01That I was,
00:27:02that I had to get pressure on it.
00:27:04But eventually,
00:27:05I realized that it is not necessary that I want to eat the food that I want to eat.
00:27:11If I don't understand it, I took a step back and for one year I thought that there is no problem.
00:27:17As far as food is going on, I choose what I want to do.
00:27:21It might not have been the healthiest option,
00:27:24but at least I had to say that it is not hungry, it is not hurting, it is not hurting.
00:27:29When I started to make the food, I started to make the food, it didn't like the food.
00:27:36On the other hand, the food and french fries were very shocked.
00:27:38But it was like, oh my god, it is defried.
00:27:41I said, forget it, at least eat it.
00:27:44Then, I do the same thing, I do the same thing and I do the same thing and I do the same thing.
00:27:50It was a struggle for us.
00:27:52You would get a lot of help from this.
00:27:54If the food and the food and the food and the food and the food and the food and the food and the food.
00:27:59I saw that he didn't eat a sandwich, but he said, give me a cup of butter and I will eat it with my fingers.
00:28:06Before I thought, what is it?
00:28:08It is just fats, it is not protein, carbs.
00:28:12But then I thought, no, anything is going on, it will get the strength, at least it is filled with carbs, I will give it in another form.
00:28:19That child didn't eat eggs, it didn't eat eggs.
00:28:23My mother said, there is protein in the egg, the height is low in the egg.
00:28:26But he would not eat it, he would vomit.
00:28:28I said, let's go, okay, I have found his alternative, cheese, dairy products, this type of cheese, meat, in any form of protein.
00:28:35You have to find alternatives, so I have to struggle with that.
00:28:39This is a gag reflex, it is a big reason that when the child is feeling that he has no control.
00:28:46You are being controlling, this is a control that he has no control.
00:28:50Yes, exactly, that's what it was.
00:28:52Autonomy, it is called self-mukhtarism.
00:28:55This is a basic innate need for every person.
00:28:59You have to self-mukhtarism.
00:29:00So, wherever you give the child control, you can see that your discipline will get better.
00:29:06So, this is when you start, you want this or that.
00:29:09And then, be disciplined, they can discipline her now or form parenting, it is very important.
00:29:13Yes, that is very important.
00:29:15Another thing that comes here, we say that we didn't eat eggs.
00:29:17Can you ask her, what was the problem?
00:29:19She didn't eat eggs from the child.
00:29:21She didn't eat eggs from the child.
00:29:23She is not fond of eggs. She is 16, Masha Allah.
00:29:25And she started not eating eggs until now.
00:29:27That means, she doesn't eat.
00:29:29Once in a blue moon will eat it,
00:29:31and she doesn't eat eggs from the child.
00:29:33If I can't eat eggs from the child,
00:29:35but if I can't eat it,
00:29:37if I can't eat eggs from the child,
00:29:39she says no.
00:29:40I don't eat it.
00:29:41Until now, it is very difficult for me to eat egg one.
00:29:45Yes, for me.
00:29:46Is it for me?
00:29:47I mean, I eat it with a lot of difficulty in the omelette,
00:29:50but people are mad at the end of the child.
00:29:53I mean, I don't eat diet from the child.
00:29:56I can't eat eggs from the child.
00:29:58I don't eat the eggs from the child.
00:30:00I have been drinking water from the child.
00:30:02I know it's just not that.
00:30:03I don't have to eat eggs from the child.
00:30:04I've been eating eggs from the child.
00:30:05For me, there was something about eggs.
00:30:06I was not sure about eggs from the child.
00:30:08I don't know any of it was phobia or how it was.
00:30:09I have eaten eggs of eggs.
00:30:10I still eat eggs from the child,
00:30:11but I've smoked eggs from the child.
00:30:13I still drink food from the child.
00:30:15Sorry.
00:30:16Actually.
00:30:17Please, please.
00:30:18I feel like,
00:30:19With your kids,
00:30:20we need really to be conversational.
00:30:23Yes.
00:30:24It has also been with my middle child,
00:30:27that my child was being a little,
00:30:28why do we have to eat desi food we are living here so explain and then I make a deal with her
00:30:38and then the second time will you eat my dal chawal and then she was very happy
00:30:49before that there was even when she was 14
00:30:57she always asked why do we have to eat Pakistani food why do we have to wear at least dadi was there
00:31:04so I said dadi is in the house so put a little shalwar kameez and then she said one day she will sit and she said I feel like all day I am in pajamas
00:31:14I said no this is not pajamas then we have very long conversation that we are Pakistani even though we are here
00:31:25your dadi will come, puppy will come, baby will come so you need to know our culture too and now you can believe that
00:31:33that I have a picture for my boutique
00:31:35Mama check the hair long they have the best clothes now she has married two years ago so she spent so much time for clothing
00:31:46and I thought to be honest you have developed that he said the girl don't have to wear a mask and say why do we have to marry Pakistani
00:31:56then I have to set up the boundaries with them that look I will accept anyone who will take but it has to be born Muslim
00:32:04so there will be no compromise that he was a Turkish or he was a Mexican that was two years ago converted
00:32:10I am not going to do this
00:32:11but for that you will have to develop a friendship that they don't hide and don't say anything to you
00:32:20honestly tell what is happening outside and what is happening inside and what is happening inside
00:32:26then you have to guide them that you feel what you are doing it is okay
00:32:31every man is a different feeling
00:32:33that communication is very necessary
00:32:35to talk with children today it is very necessary to talk with children
00:32:38that is very important
00:32:39for any other thing
00:32:40I will just add two things here
00:32:42one thing that they have talked about
00:32:43the alternative is to give them a type of type
00:32:46like my children, we are very related to each other
00:32:50so my daughter, who was a child, they have to eat or not eat, they have to eat good things
00:32:55so what would I do is to make them shapes
00:32:58like they come different
00:32:59so I have to do what is happening
00:33:00I have to add their own eggs
00:33:01and make a whole of the nuts powder
00:33:05and make a whole different way
00:33:06like wheat and something
00:33:07so I am from Hunza
00:33:09so that we have all the oils available with us
00:33:12like almond oil or apricot kernel oil
00:33:15so I add them to make shapes
00:33:17so shapes that came in front of them
00:33:19and then they put eggs in their hands
00:33:20so they have to be very happy
00:33:22so I was so happy
00:33:23that at least
00:33:24If I go directly, I don't give eggs, if they don't eat eggs, they don't eat eggs, if they don't eat eggs, if they don't eat nuts, they don't eat eggs.
00:33:30They have done it with their children, I did it too.
00:33:33For other children, it was not allowed to eat outside.
00:33:38It was a period of time, but for Balaj, I did it on Saturday and Sunday.
00:33:42For two days, you can eat your favorite food, you have to deliver it from outside, you have to do anything.
00:33:47But for the whole week, it won't be like that.
00:33:49For the whole week, you have to eat my favorite food.
00:33:52There will also be broccoli, mushrooms, beans.
00:33:55Like, children eat vegetables.
00:33:58So, I have made this routine at home.
00:34:00So, Saturday and Sunday, it's a meal.
00:34:02It's my favorite day.
00:34:04And the rest of the whole week are my favorite food.
00:34:06Routine set, boundaries set is very important.
00:34:09I have to say that in the routine, and I say that sometimes, when children don't eat, this is another aspect.
00:34:14So, when my mother comes to say that my child doesn't eat this, I say, do you eat this?
00:34:19It doesn't eat chicken.
00:34:20There are many times problems in the family.
00:34:22My child doesn't eat vegetables.
00:34:24So, I asked, did you have to eat vegetables?
00:34:26It doesn't eat vegetables.
00:34:27It doesn't eat vegetables.
00:34:28It doesn't eat vegetables.
00:34:29So, at times, before the child's parents, it has to be fine.
00:34:34Including us too.
00:34:35Yeah.
00:34:36That's really important.
00:34:37That's really important.
00:34:38If the child doesn't eat one thing, then we say that the child needs to change the form.
00:34:42It means that if the child loves pasta and gives them high protein, then I gave them keema pasta.
00:34:48I gave them lasagna.
00:34:50So, because it's a culture of today's food.
00:34:52And I know that the carbs, vegetables, I have made it.
00:34:55Complete meat.
00:34:56Yeah.
00:34:57Exactly.
00:34:58These are the clever, smart ideas that you can do.
00:35:00Another last point.
00:35:01That you can develop a child for two years of eating personality.
00:35:05What does the mother do?
00:35:06That is in the books.
00:35:08In the two years, the mother gives the child to shaljum, palak, methi.
00:35:13They don't give such things.
00:35:14What does the child do?
00:35:15They give this food.
00:35:16They give it to the child.
00:35:17They give it to the child.
00:35:18They give it to the child.
00:35:19They give it to the child.
00:35:20Yes.
00:35:21And I gave my child every possible freaking thing that can happen.
00:35:26Whether it's shaljum.
00:35:27Whether it's shaljum.
00:35:28Whether it's shaljum.
00:35:29Whether it's suhanjna.
00:35:30Whether it's all the desi things.
00:35:32Mixed vegetables.
00:35:33And they are like, this child will hurt the child.
00:35:35This child will hurt the child.
00:35:36This child will hurt the child.
00:35:38And I was like, just calm down.
00:35:39And today, my child eats every single thing.
00:35:43Why?
00:35:44Because it has been developed.
00:35:45It has been developed.
00:35:46So, for 2 years.
00:35:47This is a book.
00:35:48I wrote it.
00:35:49It has been developed.
00:35:50Yes.
00:35:51Eating personality is developed.
00:35:52It means the more the child is exposed to different kinds of foods.
00:35:56Don't apply it.
00:35:57That I don't like it.
00:35:59It's horrible taste.
00:36:00I had introduced it to the karela for 8 years.
00:36:03So even the karela and tinda, I gave it all.
00:36:07Now, my child was little.
00:36:10He didn't like baby food.
00:36:11So he ate all the karela and tinda.
00:36:15Yes.
00:36:16Yes.
00:36:17It does not be good.
00:36:18It doesn't even look good.
00:36:19It doesn't have to remove it.
00:36:20It doesn't like taste good.
00:36:21It doesn't taste.
00:36:22It doesn't taste.
00:36:23This is in your mind.
00:36:35WHO says that you give these things,
00:36:38then the inclination of children will be sweetened.
00:36:42Now, what does the mother do?
00:36:43The glass of milk.
00:36:44The child gets three hours of milk.
00:36:46How will she drink milk?
00:36:47She will drink milk.
00:36:48Then, the child will drink milk.
00:36:51She will drink milk.
00:36:53She will drink milk.
00:36:54She will drink milk.
00:36:55Yes, she will drink milk.
00:36:57I will add it with the food.
00:36:59Screen time and food.
00:37:01Yes.
00:37:02Yes.
00:37:03With the screen time.
00:37:05With the screen time, food.
00:37:07Many mothers struggle with food.
00:37:09Let me give the screen.
00:37:11I am doing it for today.
00:37:13We have done it for all.
00:37:15If you eat food,
00:37:17when you are the first child,
00:37:19they are doing everything.
00:37:22Right?
00:37:23Yes.
00:37:24The child is taking milk.
00:37:25Every child is taking milk.
00:37:26But the first child is taking milk.
00:37:28We are at different levels.
00:37:29Of course.
00:37:30Of course.
00:37:31If they don't eat food,
00:37:32I have screened my daughter.
00:37:34But then I realized,
00:37:35I mean, this is not good.
00:37:36I didn't give a lot of screen,
00:37:38but it was in their time.
00:37:40I realized,
00:37:41that this is not their fault.
00:37:42It is my fault.
00:37:43It is my fault.
00:37:44Then I studied a lot.
00:37:45I researched.
00:37:46And then,
00:37:47the research said,
00:37:48that until you don't change the environment.
00:37:50Obviously, the child is crying,
00:37:51I have given the screen.
00:37:52Now, the child knows,
00:37:53that when I cry,
00:37:54my mother will give the screen.
00:37:56Okay?
00:37:57So, the environment is the same.
00:37:58So, the child will not change the behavior.
00:38:00Right?
00:38:01So, until we change the environment,
00:38:02I have changed the environment.
00:38:03Okay.
00:38:04You are crying?
00:38:05One day you are crying?
00:38:06It is okay.
00:38:07You are crying?
00:38:08I am not giving it.
00:38:09Next day you are crying?
00:38:10Yes.
00:38:11You are crying?
00:38:12Yes.
00:38:13You are crying?
00:38:14No.
00:38:15Actually, the screen is disrupting.
00:38:16Exactly.
00:38:17They are disrupting.
00:38:18You are saying,
00:38:19eat the time.
00:38:20Listen to stories.
00:38:21Listen to rhymes.
00:38:22Listen to rhymes and stories.
00:38:23With that,
00:38:24with that,
00:38:25with that,
00:38:26with that,
00:38:27the child is making a mind.
00:38:28As we say,
00:38:29the environment,
00:38:30the child's habits are developing.
00:38:33It is a big role.
00:38:35So,
00:38:36at home,
00:38:37it is a rule,
00:38:38that,
00:38:39the child's habits are being stopped.
00:38:40No one will be able to get the phone.
00:38:41No one will be able to get the phone.
00:38:42No one will be able to get the phone.
00:38:43Good idea.
00:38:44Right?
00:38:45So, rule.
00:38:46Rule is rule.
00:38:47Everyone knows.
00:38:48Because the kids are watching TV.
00:38:49Yes.
00:38:50Exactly.
00:38:51That,
00:38:52that,
00:38:53that,
00:38:54that,
00:38:55that,
00:38:56that,
00:38:57that,
00:38:58that,
00:38:59that,
00:39:00that,
00:39:01that,
00:39:02that,
00:39:03that,
00:39:04that,
00:39:05that,
00:39:06that,
00:39:07no strictnesses,
00:39:08It's,
00:39:09those
00:39:11There's not to,
00:39:12I know.
00:39:13But,
00:39:14when you set it,
00:39:15all mothers,
00:39:16are on their hand.
00:39:17To be called a rule,
00:39:18than be able to witness everything like that,
00:39:20the mother thought that,
00:39:22that not modern.
00:39:23Then move on.
00:39:24At this,
00:39:25your child's the mentality.
00:39:26Which is as good as the mother relaxes,
00:39:27That means for the mother to do.
00:39:28You have made a rule that if you have to watch TV, then you don't watch TV.
00:39:33If you don't watch TV, then you don't watch TV.
00:39:36Then you have to set your tone.
00:39:39For example, if you have to set your child's habits,
00:39:43you will say no TV, then if you don't watch TV, then you are very hard.
00:39:48It's a little bit.
00:39:49We are just sitting in a chair.
00:39:51Yes, no, your tone.
00:39:53You have to go to break.
00:39:56We are going to break.
00:39:59We are going to break.
00:40:01Then we are going to break.
00:40:03One more question.
00:40:04How do you get to children's habits?
00:40:06How do you get to children's habits?
00:40:09Because these habits are a lot of habits.
00:40:13We are going to get a little bit of habits.
00:40:15Good morning Pakistan.
00:40:22Welcome back.
00:40:23Good morning Pakistan.
00:40:24We are all wrong for our children.
00:40:26We are going to discuss it with each other.
00:40:28We are going to try to learn and learn others.
00:40:31You too.
00:40:33This is part of the discussion.
00:40:36In the last segment, what are we talking about?
00:40:39I forgot.
00:40:40Screen time and food.
00:40:41Mobile, screen time and now you can tell us about your books, the experiences, the patients, how did you get away from the screen time?
00:40:52First two years, I won't say two years, I will say first, early four or five years, I will not introduce the children to the screen, that's not good for them, okay?
00:41:01And then I will say it again, so many months, two years, early two years, we develop the habits of children, okay?
00:41:10The child is addicted to screen, screens are not adding anything valuable into your child's life, for the first two years at least.
00:41:22If you want to give it, it should have some limits, 15 minutes, 30 minutes, not like the child is watching 7 hours,
00:41:30so many of us are looking at neurodevelopmental conditions, behavioural issues, speech issues, and the reason is that the child is introduced in early years with screen.
00:41:41Don't eat the food, don't eat the screen, don't eat the screen, don't eat the screen, why?
00:41:45Because maybe we are looking at ease, but the amount of energy we invest, the amount of physical play, the amount of physical play, the amount of cognitive and social development will be better, okay?
00:41:59So how do we reduce the screen?
00:42:01Look, we are talking about this earlier, so now I will say that consistency, strictness and firm are very different, okay?
00:42:09Firm parenting is a discipline, and firm parenting is important.
00:42:13Let's suppose, I will say a simple statement, that if you don't keep the screen, then I will take it, okay?
00:42:21Now the statement is very clear and firm, but if I am saying that if you don't keep it, then maybe I will add some punishment, now this is strict parenting, okay?
00:42:31Firm parenting is a positive response, we don't see the children.
00:42:34I don't understand this, you said that if you don't keep this iPad or mobile, then I will take it.
00:42:40And after that, I don't take it, I don't take it.
00:42:43Only the children say that, the mother should show it, take it and keep it in dialogue.
00:42:51And keep it firm, don't lose control.
00:42:55It means that sometimes become a friend of child and sometimes become a mother of child.
00:43:00Every time, the friend doesn't become a mother.
00:43:02I always say that the mother has to change the face like a girl.
00:43:05Sometimes she has to become a friend, sometimes she has to become a parent.
00:43:09Every time she doesn't become a friend.
00:43:12It's a skill, right?
00:43:13And the mother has to become a skill.
00:43:14It's very different from communication.
00:43:16Our tones are, right?
00:43:18Look, when a child comes to therapy, we can't get angry.
00:43:21Obviously, okay?
00:43:22But with us, they follow all the rules.
00:43:25Why?
00:43:26Because they know that we are firm.
00:43:28We have said that this is not going to happen.
00:43:30Now, the child learns how to manipulate you.
00:43:33Sometimes she will make a cute face, sometimes she will throw tantrum.
00:43:37We have seen that if the child is closed, the child has started crying, you have allowed TV.
00:43:41Now, where the child's behaviour is closed, the next time she will start crying.
00:43:46Exactly.
00:43:47So, no means no.
00:43:48No means no.
00:43:49Yes.
00:43:50No means no.
00:43:51No means no.
00:43:52No means no.
00:43:53No means no.
00:43:54No means no.
00:43:55No means no.
00:43:56No means no not even no.
00:43:57No means no.
00:44:00No means no.
00:44:13If you have completed it, then I said yes, this is how it happened.
00:44:20I give a solution for everyone.
00:44:23Google has put a family link to an app.
00:44:26You can download it from the Play Store.
00:44:28The app is on my child's tab.
00:44:31And the app is on my mobile.
00:44:33I put it in the age.
00:44:35Google has made YouTube kids.
00:44:39I put it in the age of children.
00:44:44It will filter out that these videos will be appropriate for the age of children.
00:44:49The other thing is that I have an update.
00:44:52Google will tell you that the child has downloaded this app.
00:44:55At the time when I am at home, I will get a notification that this app will be downloaded.
00:45:00What are you watching on YouTube?
00:45:02What are you watching on YouTube?
00:45:04If I saw it and saw that there are some inappropriate ones that I might not like,
00:45:08So, when it comes to the app, it has a password code that I have.
00:45:12I opened that password.
00:45:14And I went to that particular channel and wrote,
00:45:17Do not show this next time again.
00:45:20So, I have removed that channel by default.
00:45:22Now, once he was involved with inappropriate words,
00:45:26Then, he said, where is the channel?
00:45:28When I am looking at the channel?
00:45:29I don't know. I don't know.
00:45:30Where is it?
00:45:31But actually, I blocked it on the back end.
00:45:33So, Google has given you a parent's access through the parents' YouTube.
00:45:38Okay, I have added it by default.
00:45:40What app is it?
00:45:41From the name of the family link.
00:45:42Okay.
00:45:43Okay.
00:45:44I have a time limit.
00:45:45Sorry, you have to go ahead.
00:45:46As you said, you blocked it and told your child that I don't know.
00:45:51I don't know.
00:45:52Because now he is a little.
00:45:53Now he is a little.
00:45:54Maybe this is why.
00:45:55I believe that he is a lot of conversation.
00:45:56I don't know the app until 15 years old.
00:45:58You can't understand the app until 15 years old.
00:45:59In front of it, it is also drama.
00:46:00Now you have drama.
00:46:01Sometimes my mother has to become an actress.
00:46:02I agree.
00:46:03I agree.
00:46:04Yes, I am saying that.
00:46:05You have to laugh like this.
00:46:06You have to laugh like this.
00:46:07After 15 years, it is not useful.
00:46:08After 15 years, it is not useful.
00:46:09Because then, it would give you access that the child,
00:46:11After 15 years, it has gone into adulthood.
00:46:13What are you saying?
00:46:14This is the challenge that parents involve in everything.
00:46:19After school hours, the children watching them on TV and watching them.
00:46:25Who are your friends?
00:46:26Who are they?
00:46:27Who are they?
00:46:28They are walking up with their friends.
00:46:29The company matters a lot.
00:46:31Most of them are looking at the reels.
00:46:33They look at the internet.
00:46:35You have to see a flower flower flower with the other flowers.
00:46:38So, everything is flowers.
00:46:41Now we come to another bad habit.
00:46:43In children, often, there are a lot of bad habit in children.
00:46:47It's always like that there are other things that you have to do.
00:46:52Like, when I was a little, my friend was a little bit of a barbie.
00:46:58It started to be a little bit of a barbie.
00:47:01We started to play with barbie.
00:47:03And then we started to play with barbie.
00:47:05When they were taken away with the clothes, I had to go home and go to his house.
00:47:10We saw that the clothes were taken away with the clothes, and the mother was put away with the clothes.
00:47:15So I had to call his mother, once again, because I was a child,
00:47:17I tried to call his mother,
00:47:19that he had to call the clothes from our house,
00:47:22and so his mother had to dress around me.
00:47:25I had to call myself.
00:47:26I had to call myself. I was a child.
00:47:30So my mother had never been in the beach,
00:47:33My mother went to the first time and said that your daughter has been killed and you have done my daughter.
00:47:39This is why you are developing your daughter's wrong.
00:47:42You have not done that, but you have hidden it.
00:47:45The things that she has done is you keep in the house.
00:47:48So this is a wrong thing. My mother has countered them.
00:47:53Maybe they need parenting.
00:47:55My mother knows that her child's behavior is how it is.
00:47:59My mother started to go to school recently.
00:48:01I know that her words are used when she speaks.
00:48:04And when she uses a different language or a sentence,
00:48:08I know that we don't speak at home.
00:48:11She has come from here.
00:48:13She has come from here.
00:48:15Recently, we were talking all together.
00:48:18Because she speaks in a good way in Urdu.
00:48:21She uses a good language in Urdu.
00:48:25And I think that she needs to come to Urdu.
00:48:27She has come from here in Urdu.
00:48:29She has used a sentence.
00:48:32So I saw her and I noticed that she is talking about it.
00:48:37Or her body language is not her.
00:48:40She has picked up somewhere.
00:48:42Then I also thought that we are in my house.
00:48:45Because my house is a big child.
00:48:48So she doesn't have anything come from there.
00:48:50She doesn't do anything from there.
00:48:51She doesn't do anything from there.
00:48:52She doesn't do anything from there.
00:48:53I saw her with her mother.
00:48:55And how many children have been in school.
00:48:58And I asked her with her teacher.
00:49:00And I made up a point where I said she doesn't talk about it.
00:49:05She doesn't talk like this.
00:49:06She doesn't talk about it.
00:49:07Not that I am judging any other kid.
00:49:08Because I don't want to do that.
00:49:10But I went to this race
00:49:12that there was a behavioural change in her
00:49:15which is obviously she is learning from school
00:49:18because it is completely different.
00:49:20And then I asked her to ask,
00:49:21who did this? Hadiyah, who did that?
00:49:24She told me the exact name of the child.
00:49:26She said, she does this, Mama.
00:49:28I said, okay.
00:49:28At that time, I didn't stop her.
00:49:30She's doing this, okay.
00:49:31I told her, it is not nice to say such thing.
00:49:34It is not nice to behave like that.
00:49:35I don't know if she does this on the ground.
00:49:38Which was a very different kind of behaviour from her.
00:49:42So I asked her to ask, Hadiyah, who did it?
00:49:43I asked such a name.
00:49:45I said, no, Mama, that doesn't do it.
00:49:47She did it.
00:49:48And I said, okay.
00:49:49So this is where this is coming from.
00:49:51So I went to the teacher to the teacher.
00:49:53The teacher said, we deal with such kids at school.
00:49:56The kids will pick up obviously.
00:49:57We try to work on it.
00:49:58But the kids are learning.
00:50:00So the mother always knows.
00:50:01This is the meaning of this.
00:50:03If they are doing something,
00:50:04sadly, we have come to the other
00:50:06and if someone doesn't say anything to our child,
00:50:08then we also have come to the other.
00:50:09This is the meaning of this,
00:50:10that as we talked about in our school,
00:50:11it is exactly like the mother knows.
00:50:13Like my child was young,
00:50:15so I knew what is going on in my child's school bag.
00:50:18Exactly.
00:50:19Exactly.
00:50:20I was waiting for her.
00:50:21I was waiting for her.
00:50:22When I came to school,
00:50:24I opened her bag of the sleep.
00:50:26And if I looked at her,
00:50:28I asked her.
00:50:29Absolutely.
00:50:30Exactly.
00:50:31Where did you get it from?
00:50:32Yes.
00:50:33And then I will ask her to return it back.
00:50:35So that whoever is there,
00:50:36or if they don't know,
00:50:38then give them to the teacher
00:50:39that it was in my bag.
00:50:41If you ignored this thing in the bag,
00:50:44that there is something in the bag,
00:50:45and there is a small thing,
00:50:46like razor, pencil, shopper,
00:50:49marker,
00:50:50if you ignored it at that time,
00:50:54then you are ready for tomorrow.
00:50:56She was very young and I opened it.
00:51:02Because she is 16 years old,
00:51:05and I check her one thing.
00:51:07I know how much money I have given in her wallet,
00:51:10so to the exact penny,
00:51:12where you are going,
00:51:13how much money you spend,
00:51:14how many children are,
00:51:15I keep all the calculations today.
00:51:17So I remember when she was a kid,
00:51:19she came back home,
00:51:20and I opened her bag,
00:51:21and we are doing homework,
00:51:22and I saw a very cute pencil holder in her bag.
00:51:25Then I said,
00:51:26this is not yours,
00:51:27where did she come from?
00:51:28And she was like,
00:51:28oh, I think this is my friend's,
00:51:31by mistake,
00:51:32my bag has come from my bag.
00:51:33I was like, no worries,
00:51:34it will be wrong.
00:51:35Because obviously,
00:51:36you make sure that
00:51:38your children are friends,
00:51:40and your parents are in contact.
00:51:41So I had the mother's number,
00:51:43I called her,
00:51:43I said,
00:51:44I just want to drop by,
00:51:46and I dropped a small thing at home.
00:51:49I made sure that
00:51:50I told my daughter to my daughter,
00:51:51and I told her,
00:51:52and I took her with her.
00:51:53We went over to the house,
00:51:54and we said,
00:51:55I'm so sorry,
00:51:56I wanted to have any trouble,
00:51:58and this was the one that came in the bag.
00:52:00So I wanted to drop this over.
00:52:01The child saw me,
00:52:03she was the one who got off the car,
00:52:06gave it back,
00:52:06handed it over.
00:52:08So now,
00:52:09you see, benefit of the doubt,
00:52:10I gave my daughter,
00:52:11that it may be by mistake,
00:52:14and it was not the intention.
00:52:15But it also clarified that,
00:52:18if there was any additional thing in her bag,
00:52:21or in my house,
00:52:23it will be handed over again.
00:52:25It's not a small thing.
00:52:27It was a small thing,
00:52:29and you gave it a big message.
00:52:31I gave it an example.
00:52:33I didn't get angry,
00:52:34I didn't get angry,
00:52:35I didn't get angry,
00:52:36I didn't get angry.
00:52:37It was just a message,
00:52:38which I wanted to point across,
00:52:40that this will not be accepted.
00:52:42Sadly, we are here,
00:52:43we just hush-hush,
00:52:45and under the carpet,
00:52:46and we are here,
00:52:47and we are here.
00:52:48It's a big message.
00:52:49It's a big message.
00:52:50It's a big message.
00:52:51It's a big message.
00:52:52Recently,
00:52:53I started to understand,
00:52:54a lot of things are,
00:52:55so I am starting to understand,
00:52:56that you can't put your hand in your hand.
00:52:58If you have a bag of mom's,
00:52:59you cannot put your hand in your mom's bag,
00:53:02or in others' pocket,
00:53:03or anywhere else.
00:53:04Even in the house,
00:53:05because other children also have family members,
00:53:06I live in the house,
00:53:07I live in the family,
00:53:08or when I go to my mother's house,
00:53:10so if you can't ask any questions,
00:53:12you can't answer anything.
00:53:13She's a house,
00:53:14a camera,
00:53:15she has to come to me,
00:53:17or her father,
00:53:18to ask,
00:53:19or if she has to give her,
00:53:21she always comes to me,
00:53:23and I often say,
00:53:24I don't ask her,
00:53:26but this is not for you.
00:53:28This is for her,
00:53:29she needs to understand,
00:53:30that no matter,
00:53:31why can't she take the tissue paper?
00:53:33What happened?
00:53:34I opened my child's bag,
00:53:37so I have no money.
00:53:39I have no money.
00:53:40I have no money.
00:53:41I have no money.
00:53:42I have no money.
00:53:44I have no money.
00:53:45I go to school for lunch,
00:53:47which I have kept the tissue envelope,
00:53:49and I have no money.
00:53:51I have no money.
00:53:53I have no money.
00:53:54I was afraid,
00:53:55when kids are going to school,
00:53:56I have no money.
00:53:57I have no money.
00:53:58I have only one time,
00:53:59I have no money.
00:54:00I have no money.
00:54:01Then I emailed the teacher to my son. Where is the money from my son? I didn't give him the money.
00:54:11So, first of all, I asked him to call my son. Where is the money from my son?
00:54:16When I asked him, he told me that he had given me. When he asked him, he told me that he had given me.
00:54:21When he told me that he told me that he had given me the money.
00:54:23He told me it was so great that he told me that he would send me my lunch.
00:54:31But I told him that he told me it was not that money from him.
00:54:36Okay, so, he told me that he was such a joke.
00:54:38I also sent this one and communicated to teachers.
00:54:41Teachers said that he takes the money of my lunch but he doesn't eat at the lunch.
00:54:48He spends money.
00:54:50Look, I was doing old parenting, I didn't give money.
00:54:53My daughter, who is a big girl, told me that you have to give a little pocket money in her hand.
00:55:00Because her heart wants to buy some toys from the early age.
00:55:04The value of money is very important.
00:55:07My daughter taught me that she is living in her own life and she is saving money.
00:55:17So why don't you give it to her and then I decided to buy her pocket money in her pocket money.
00:55:25Then she took a locker and gave it to her, and she took money in the locker.
00:55:34You know what I see, I am doing this with my daughter, because when you give cash, it is easy access to everything.
00:55:41On the other hand, I prefer that I have kept an account in which there is not much money.
00:55:46If she is going out with her friends, give her that card, or give your child that card.
00:55:51Because when she is charging the card, you have a notification that she is charging, how much money she is spending, where she is charging.
00:55:57So that way you can actually keep tabs.
00:55:59Where is the money spending?
00:56:00This is a good idea.
00:56:01It will be a little bigger.
00:56:02It will be a little bigger.
00:56:03It will be a little bigger.
00:56:04But it will be a little bigger.
00:56:05It will be a little bigger.
00:56:06It will be a little bigger.
00:56:07It will be a little bigger.
00:56:09I said James, you cannot go to the field trip.
00:56:10I said, you cannot go to the field trip.
00:56:12but I always make sure that if a child comes and says that my friends will get 1000 rupees a day
00:56:19then tell us the limits of that
00:56:22I liked one thing
00:56:24I have to do a story that my little girl at home had to go to field trip to middle school
00:56:33so I said Jimna you cannot go to the field trip
00:56:36that you have to do this
00:56:39I forgot to talk about it
00:56:41a week after that the money was stolen
00:56:43it was 50 dollars
00:56:44it was a field trip
00:56:45so when I came to school
00:56:47I said you have to go late
00:56:49she said you forgot you said you cannot go to the field trip
00:56:53I was so bad
00:56:56honestly
00:56:57that I was about to cry
00:56:59why did I say that
00:57:01but it was that bonding
00:57:03that over the time
00:57:04the kids knew that
00:57:05my mother had to follow
00:57:07it was very important
00:57:10we don't forget
00:57:12there are rules
00:57:13and I think if you want to do parenting
00:57:15then you need to have all those rules that are non-negotiable
00:57:18means there will be no negotiation
00:57:20for example
00:57:21bad language
00:57:22honestly speaking
00:57:23we were not allowed to use bad language
00:57:26more often
00:57:28stupid idiot
00:57:29we were not allowed to go out with our friends
00:57:44like overnight
00:57:45we were not allowed to go out with our friends
00:57:47we never asked
00:57:48because we knew
00:57:49that this is a rule
00:57:50because this is a rule
00:57:51because this is a rule
00:57:52so there should be certain rules
00:57:53that are non-negotiable
00:57:54like
00:57:55this is a rule
00:57:56this is a rule
00:57:57that we have to ask
00:57:58no questions
00:57:59and then
00:58:00this is your habit
00:58:01or your personality development
00:58:02this is your habit
00:58:03and your personality development
00:58:04it happens
00:58:05like my daughter
00:58:06Arshin Naaman
00:58:07she was very small
00:58:08so
00:58:09when she came back
00:58:11we went to someone's house
00:58:12after the break
00:58:13I am so sorry
00:58:14a little break
00:58:15after the break
00:58:16we will see
00:58:17good morning Pakistan
00:58:18welcome
00:58:23welcome
00:58:24welcome back
00:58:25good morning Pakistan
00:58:26today
00:58:27we will highlight them
00:58:30and then
00:58:31we will discuss them
00:58:32and then
00:58:33we will discuss them
00:58:34and discuss them
00:58:35in their lives
00:58:36we will discuss them
00:58:37we will discuss them
00:58:38and learn them
00:58:39and learn them
00:58:40one big problem
00:58:41which is
00:58:42all the mothers
00:58:43who don't study them
00:58:44they don't study them
00:58:45they leave them
00:58:46they are irresponsible
00:58:47in parents-teacher meeting
00:58:48they have told them
00:58:49they did not do home work
00:58:50they do not do good
00:58:51they did not do good
00:58:52so many mothers
00:58:54have to lose their patients
00:58:56to study their children
00:58:58the kids
00:58:59they also look for their children
00:59:00they also get the help
00:59:02they also get the help
00:59:03so what is the situation
00:59:05this is not the case
00:59:06do you understand?
00:59:07I have two problems
00:59:08I have two problems
00:59:09one is
00:59:11I have to set healthy consequences
00:59:12if
00:59:13we have to say
00:59:14that
00:59:15I have to hear a child psychologist
00:59:16I have heard the psychologist and said,
00:59:18I have to take my hand and take my hand.
00:59:20Then it's the last resort.
00:59:22So I said, make a relationship with the child.
00:59:24Make a favorite person.
00:59:26When you have a favorite person,
00:59:28you can't do that.
00:59:30You want to do everything you do.
00:59:32I tried to make a favorite person.
00:59:36So I could make an open-ended discussion.
00:59:38And promote it.
00:59:40That's it.
00:59:42The consequence is that if you haven't read me,
00:59:44you haven't read me,
00:59:46then you won't get a cycle for one week or three days.
00:59:48Or the time of tap will reduce.
00:59:50Or after two days,
00:59:52you won't get a treat for two days.
00:59:56Or if we have planned for a trip,
00:59:58you won't get a trip for a trip.
01:00:00Or you won't get a trip for a trip.
01:00:02Or you won't get a trip for a trip.
01:00:04And I stand by my statement.
01:00:06I make sure he doesn't get
01:00:08what he is wishing for.
01:00:10So that he knows,
01:00:12what you have done.
01:00:14That's the consequence.
01:00:16Okay, that's the tip.
01:00:18You can discuss something else.
01:00:20I think that parents' routine
01:00:22is very important.
01:00:24Every day, parents need to know
01:00:26what is the homework from school.
01:00:28They need to be in touch with their teachers.
01:00:30Because they have a certain percentage of homework.
01:00:34But how big is the child?
01:00:36How big is the child?
01:00:38Until the parents set this routine
01:00:40that they are checking their homework?
01:00:42Until the teens.
01:00:43Early teens.
01:00:44Until the must have.
01:00:45Because after the early teens,
01:00:46they have a habit.
01:00:47But I will add one thing,
01:00:48because I come from a very competitive family.
01:00:50My daughters, my nieces and nephews,
01:00:52all academically very, very strong.
01:00:54So I was initially in the rat race
01:00:58that my child should be first.
01:01:00My daughter was an average student.
01:01:02Neither she was very bad,
01:01:04nor she was top.
01:01:06I think as parents,
01:01:07we need to understand
01:01:08that every child has its own aptitude.
01:01:10Okay?
01:01:11If a child is ace in class,
01:01:13she doesn't do that
01:01:14because of your weakness.
01:01:16She is doing it.
01:01:17She is doing it.
01:01:19We make mistakes here
01:01:21that the child is beating
01:01:23and beating the child
01:01:24and beating the child
01:01:25and beating the child
01:01:26and beating the child
01:01:28and beating the child.
01:01:29I took a step back.
01:01:30When I saw my child's personality
01:01:31affected by the child
01:01:32and constantly studying
01:01:34and after school,
01:01:36your child is sitting at home
01:01:38for 4-5 hours,
01:01:39then the child is
01:01:40how the child is passing
01:01:41their child's life.
01:01:42That's not all life is about
01:01:44in your childhood.
01:01:45I took that step back
01:01:46and I eased off.
01:01:47I said it's okay.
01:01:48If she's an average student,
01:01:49if she's not A,
01:01:50she's not B,
01:01:51but she's healthy
01:01:52and the teachers are okay
01:01:53with the behavior overall,
01:01:54that's all that matters.
01:01:56And over time,
01:01:57I saw a change in her.
01:01:59She picked up on herself.
01:02:00She is now an A student.
01:02:02Mashallah, Alhamdulillah,
01:02:03touch wood,
01:02:04from her shocks.
01:02:05She knows that
01:02:06she's not able to do that.
01:02:07If she doesn't come,
01:02:09then she will stress
01:02:10at home that I didn't score
01:02:11the highest marks.
01:02:12She has that confidence
01:02:13that she won't come.
01:02:15My friend has exactly
01:02:16the same example
01:02:17like you.
01:02:18And one day,
01:02:19she said to her husband,
01:02:20you get good marks,
01:02:21you get bad marks.
01:02:22I belong to you.
01:02:23My love is not equivalent
01:02:25with your marks.
01:02:26And that's she got her confidence.
01:02:28that in the game,
01:02:29she loses her child.
01:02:30She has passed away
01:02:31but she loses her child.
01:02:33That's the song.
01:02:34Yes.
01:02:35I'll add one point.
01:02:36My daughter,
01:02:37when she was young,
01:02:38she didn't study,
01:02:39she didn't study.
01:02:40The first thing,
01:02:41we set her time,
01:02:42she will study.
01:02:43She will study.
01:02:44She will study.
01:02:45Okay.
01:02:46So,
01:02:47she was talking about
01:02:48that,
01:02:49for example,
01:02:50they are weak in Urdu,
01:02:51and all children
01:02:52are struggling in Urdu.
01:02:54So,
01:02:55I told them,
01:02:56see,
01:02:57as much as you practice,
01:02:58like in English,
01:02:59they are very strong.
01:03:00So,
01:03:01in which subjects
01:03:02they struggled,
01:03:03we made this strategy
01:03:04that we will practice more.
01:03:05Maths,
01:03:06Urdu,
01:03:07and when we saw improvement,
01:03:08they gave them a good job.
01:03:09It's not just like,
01:03:10well done,
01:03:11it's not a good job.
01:03:13It's not an appreciation.
01:03:14You really need to encourage.
01:03:15They tell them,
01:03:16well done,
01:03:17you have improved
01:03:18because you have practiced.
01:03:19They know
01:03:20that they have improved.
01:03:21How did they improve?
01:03:22How did they improve?
01:03:23Yes.
01:03:24So,
01:03:25if they have studied in Urdu,
01:03:26like in studying,
01:03:27I said,
01:03:28see,
01:03:29Arshin,
01:03:30you have practiced this.
01:03:31She is good at studying.
01:03:32So,
01:03:33now she knows
01:03:34that if they have a problem,
01:03:35they have a need to practice.
01:03:37So,
01:03:38Alhamdulillah,
01:03:39she is doing better
01:03:40with the practice,
01:03:41with the Maths.
01:03:42But,
01:03:43it's not a shock to students.
01:03:44Then,
01:03:45you will give them a routine.
01:03:46You will teach them.
01:03:47You will start with activities.
01:03:49If you feel good,
01:03:51you will say,
01:03:52okay,
01:03:53do it.
01:03:54So,
01:03:55definitely,
01:03:56when they come in a routine,
01:03:57a habit,
01:03:58eventually,
01:03:59they will go to the home work.
01:04:01And then,
01:04:02the success of them,
01:04:03is also a mistake,
01:04:04that when you become a topper.
01:04:06Absolutely.
01:04:07Make it fun for them.
01:04:08I am the valedictorian of Niqua Valley High School.
01:04:11So,
01:04:12then,
01:04:13that is a competition.
01:04:14That is a competition.
01:04:15I have to go here too.
01:04:16My name is also on this wall.
01:04:18That is also the rule.
01:04:19And,
01:04:20that is the rule,
01:04:21that when you submit home work,
01:04:23right away,
01:04:24you have a class,
01:04:25you have given home work,
01:04:26you have given home work.
01:04:27So,
01:04:28all the marks are full,
01:04:29whatever you will get.
01:04:30If you say,
01:04:31no,
01:04:32I forgot,
01:04:33I am in my locker room.
01:04:34I will submit 2 hours later.
01:04:35Then,
01:04:36most of the children,
01:04:37who have a break in that 2 hours,
01:04:39I have done homework.
01:04:40So,
01:04:41the teacher has the rule,
01:04:42that he will cut 20% marks,
01:04:44and 100% of the characters.
01:04:46So,
01:04:47that is why,
01:04:48that is the concept of my child's school.
01:04:50Yes.
01:04:51That is the school,
01:04:52the curriculum is the same.
01:04:53Yes.
01:04:54So,
01:04:55now,
01:04:56if my son has not submitted home work,
01:04:57when he has done it,
01:04:58he has forgotten it,
01:04:59his marks are gone.
01:05:01What happened?
01:05:02The child has learned the responsibility.
01:05:04If he has done homework,
01:05:05then,
01:05:06he has not submitted it.
01:05:07So,
01:05:08he has the responsibility of his children.
01:05:09He is the same.
01:05:10And,
01:05:11I say,
01:05:12if he has done homework,
01:05:13you have to sit with me,
01:05:14and,
01:05:15what does he get from 5?
01:05:16He has not submitted it.
01:05:17He has not submitted it.
01:05:18He has not submitted it.
01:05:19He has not submitted it.
01:05:20And,
01:05:21we do not have time.
01:05:22Some children,
01:05:23have so many times,
01:05:24in the tuition,
01:05:25and so many children,
01:05:26that,
01:05:27not working on the core concepts of the child's core concepts.
01:05:29So,
01:05:30you stand and realize that,
01:05:31where is the child's problem?
01:05:33We are doing the competition on this.
01:05:35That is the competition.
01:05:36Now I'm going to the next problem because the time comes in problems are very many.
01:05:41You will probably remember that, for example, my father,
01:05:45when I was young, when I was young, I would go to my house.
01:05:51We don't go to the house, but we had a divorce and a divorce.
01:05:56We met with our grandchildren.
01:05:58We met with our children.
01:05:59We met with our children.
01:06:00We met with our children.
01:06:01We met with our children.
01:06:02We met with our children.
01:06:03We listened to them and we went and we met with all the children.
01:06:08We met with our children.
01:06:10But our children didn't come from cameras.
01:06:13Our children, when there is a place, we are not coming.
01:06:17What do we do with them?
01:06:18We don't socialize with gadgets.
01:06:21We live in our own homes.
01:06:23The reason is that we have created our environment that we don't expose outside.
01:06:31We have a church.
01:06:33We have a church.
01:06:34The church is a church.
01:06:35We have a church.
01:06:36We have a church.
01:06:37We have a church.
01:06:39There will be activities for children.
01:06:40For every child.
01:06:41Then there are social groups.
01:06:43There are age groups.
01:06:44They are socially involved.
01:06:48That there are problems that there are no problems.
01:06:50He doesn't go to school.
01:06:51He doesn't go to school.
01:06:52Everyone knows.
01:06:53Everyone knows.
01:06:54Because they know that they are going to have fun.
01:06:56They are going to have fun.
01:06:57They are going to have fun.
01:06:58They are going to have fun on the table.
01:07:00We have to.
01:07:01We have to.
01:07:02Sorry.
01:07:03This is also a lot.
01:07:04My child hurts me if I go outside.
01:07:07I am going to go outside.
01:07:08This is the point of the weekend.
01:07:09Yes.
01:07:10When we go to a restaurant, we can't eat from China.
01:07:13We will leave the children at home.
01:07:14They will not leave the children.
01:07:15They will not leave the children.
01:07:16I understand.
01:07:17Mothers need their time.
01:07:18Father needs their time.
01:07:19That's right.
01:07:20I think that children will be able to leave the children at the earliest age.
01:07:25They will be able to leave the children at the earliest age.
01:07:27They will be able to leave the children at the earliest age.
01:07:28Until my child or my child will not be able to leave the children at the environment.
01:07:33How do they know how to behave?
01:07:35You can see, if we have our children's habits and wrong.
01:07:38I am also doing it.
01:07:40At a time, we didn't take the ball.
01:07:43We were able to take the ball.
01:07:44It was a iPad when it was a Rassiya.
01:07:46When we took it, we were able to take it.
01:07:48That's easy.
01:07:50I said, what are you doing?
01:07:51What are you doing?
01:07:52How are you sitting at home?
01:07:55There are mates sitting in the house.
01:07:57I said, what did we teach them?
01:08:00Because we did not take that child.
01:08:02When we started taking it,
01:08:04we understood that he was living in the house.
01:08:06So he had to understand how to sit and eat.
01:08:10We are playing at home.
01:08:11We are having to get the child.
01:08:13So he then understood.
01:08:14That is exactly the same thing.
01:08:16That is the right thing.
01:08:18We have to start with it.
01:08:20How to eat it, what to do.
01:08:22I have to eat it at 9 years old.
01:08:24Otherwise, we are learning from childhood.
01:08:26Because until we were eating it.
01:08:28He was watching it on the iPad.
01:08:30I think that is a very nice thing.
01:08:32You have also learned something in that age.
01:08:34You didn't shame him, right?
01:08:36Sometimes there are some parents
01:08:38that say,
01:08:40oh, this child is not coming.
01:08:42It is never too late to teach them anything.
01:08:44At all.
01:08:46If he is not doing it in the public,
01:08:48then you will learn his manners.
01:08:50In the outside party or in the restaurant,
01:08:52you will learn his manners.
01:08:54That child will hurt himself.
01:08:56Self-esteem will hurt.
01:08:58Like my gadgets,
01:09:00my child started to socialize.
01:09:02It is a people's person.
01:09:06It will be developed.
01:09:08My son Arshin didn't socialize.
01:09:10So, I made this rule.
01:09:12So, I made this rule,
01:09:14that I will go wherever I go.
01:09:16As an entrepreneur.
01:09:18So, I tried to make them
01:09:20at a conference or seminar.
01:09:22Although they are dry things.
01:09:24But, they have learned how to speak.
01:09:26Even how to speak.
01:09:28As-salamu alaykum.
01:09:30For some children.
01:09:32For some children.
01:09:34It is a very big thing.
01:09:36How to speak.
01:09:38I learned that.
01:09:40It is not about being good parents.
01:09:42It is not about being good parents.
01:09:44It is about being good parents.
01:09:46It is about being independent.
01:09:48In everything.
01:09:50In everything.
01:09:51In everything.
01:09:52In everything.
01:09:53In everything.
01:09:54Now, parents say that they are made in our house.
01:09:55And they are not made in our house.
01:09:56And they have no social skill.
01:09:57No social skill.
01:09:58No social skill.
01:09:59No social skill.
01:10:00It is not about being good parents.
01:10:01It is not about being good parents.
01:10:03It is about being independent.
01:10:04In everything.
01:10:05In everything.
01:10:06In everything.
01:10:07In everything.
01:10:08Now, parents say that they are made in our house.
01:10:09And they have no social skill.
01:10:10No social skill.
01:10:11No social skill.
01:10:12No adaptive skill.
01:10:13They can't do their own room.
01:10:14Why?
01:10:15Because we have not introduced them.
01:10:16Because we have a help.
01:10:17Even if you have help.
01:10:18If you have not introduced them.
01:10:19You have a lot of skills.
01:10:20That they lack.
01:10:21And they don't know.
01:10:22They don't know.
01:10:23In Pakistan.
01:10:24In Pakistan.
01:10:25In Pakistan.
01:10:26In Pakistan.
01:10:27In Pakistan.
01:10:28In Pakistan.
01:10:29In Pakistan.
01:10:30This is a big impact.
01:10:31Because they don't know.
01:10:32How to handle friends.
01:10:33In Pakistan.
01:10:34In Pakistan.
01:10:35There is a great impact.
01:10:37So socialization today.
01:10:39Do not know how to handle friends.
01:10:41Yes.
01:10:42How to do your vΓdeoβ¦
01:10:43Nothing can make you laugh.
01:10:45Whatieszna is.
01:10:46shrine being children.
01:10:47What have they talked with?
01:10:48And what you have said to play in Pakistan.
01:10:50What is other ways?
01:10:51Are we denial of children?
01:10:52Because we don't mind without us.
01:10:53No business anymore.
01:10:54No business anymore.
01:10:55Got it.
01:10:56I don't think so.
01:10:57That they do.
01:10:58I don't think so.
01:10:59And I feel like...
01:11:12And I feel...
01:11:14In number 2, if you have understood that it is uncomfortable in friends' house,
01:11:19take it to the park, take it to the park, take it to the park, take it to the game.
01:11:25Recently, my grandson had a birthday.
01:11:28I would be surprised, 30-40 kids.
01:11:31I said, this is a class fellow in Hamza.
01:11:33My daughter said, these are his gym friends, these are park friends, these are when he goes for a walk.
01:11:41I said, this is my mom, Hamza and Ishaal.
01:11:47This is very important.
01:11:48There are 40 kids and different cultures.
01:11:50Some Egyptian, some South African, different cultures.
01:11:54And they enjoy that.
01:11:56Like someone's birthday party, the kids are going to get ready.
01:12:00They are knowing their culture.
01:12:02They know how to socialize.
01:12:03Kids get mingled.
01:12:05Kids hesitate very often.
01:12:07They say, this is a very boring party.
01:12:10They are boring.
01:12:11They are boring.
01:12:12They are boring.
01:12:13Exactly.
01:12:14They are boring.
01:12:15Never boring.
01:12:16But Nita, if we need to realize that this thing,
01:12:19if a child doesn't want to get into a particular person.
01:12:22That's right.
01:12:23That's right.
01:12:24Then, as we said, that parents have become a safe zone for their children.
01:12:28So, if you click on that, that's what you have done.
01:12:31That's right.
01:12:32So, you can do the same things we've told them.
01:12:34That's right.
01:12:35That's right.
01:12:36That's right.
01:12:37They aren't six feet.
01:12:3812 feet.
01:12:39That's right.
01:12:40We can keep them open every time, every moment, every place.
01:12:44Yes.
01:12:45How do we identify his behavior through?
01:12:48Yes, yeah.
01:12:49There is a change, there is a resistance.
01:12:51Sometimes it happens that the child is being abused in any way.
01:12:56And it starts to isolate.
01:12:58It starts to separate you.
01:13:00Because it can't express it.
01:13:01So this is the behavior that we are very prominent.
01:13:04Bad behavior or good behavior.
01:13:06So we have to notice that in the child's personality
01:13:09there is no reflection, no change.
01:13:12That means it's important.
01:13:17You figure out, being a parent.
01:13:19Identify what is the cause.
01:13:21I think it's easier to communicate.
01:13:25When you have explained the child about good and bad,
01:13:29I always ask.
01:13:31It's clear.
01:13:32It's not like that.
01:13:33There is no problem at all.
01:13:35I communicate very well.
01:13:38It's clear that I have to accept and sit and think.
01:13:41Exactly.
01:13:42Every mother is not so emotionally intelligent.
01:13:45She knows what it is.
01:13:47So keep communication.
01:13:49The child has to tell you everything.
01:13:51When she has to tell you, she has to tell you.
01:13:53She has to tell you.
01:13:54If she doesn't tell you, she has to tell you.
01:13:55What?
01:13:56She has to tell you.
01:13:57She has to tell you.
01:13:58She has to tell you.
01:13:59So, I don't tell you.
01:14:00So, I don't tell you.
01:14:01Communication is necessary.
01:14:03Every mother doesn't understand.
01:14:05She has to tell you.
01:14:06And you are busy.
01:14:08It's a professional life.
01:14:09Your children come first.
01:14:12How big you are doing.
01:14:14You are doing something for them.
01:14:15All of a sudden.
01:14:16Put everything on the side.
01:14:19I started my business in 17 years ago.
01:14:22That time, my children were in high school.
01:14:25But I made sure that they were changing from my business.
01:14:31And they were changing from my business.
01:14:32That no child is not going to be changing.
01:14:34They are going to college.
01:14:35They are going to their grades.
01:14:36They are going to lose.
01:14:37Keep talking.
01:14:38And they are so positive.
01:14:41They know how to build.
01:14:43Quality time.
01:14:44Quality time.
01:14:45I am going to the program here.
01:14:47I am going to the break.
01:14:49There are many things we have to discuss.
01:14:52The children don't have to be finished.
01:14:54And when all of the mothers are empty under one roof.
01:14:57Then I don't know if you are mothers.
01:14:59No.
01:15:00I am so sorry.
01:15:01I worked with parents.
01:15:02Okay.
01:15:03Yes.
01:15:04But then it is your experience.
01:15:05Yes.
01:15:06So thank you so much for your experiences.
01:15:08And sharing your children's little bad habits.
01:15:11They will often hide.
01:15:14But if we don't show their bad habits.
01:15:19We will not do that.
01:15:20Then we will make them a good person.
01:15:22Thank you so much for your children's show.
01:15:24Thank you so much for your children's show.
01:15:25Thank you so much for your children's show.
01:15:26And you will learn a lot.
01:15:27So let's take a short break.
01:15:29After the break, let's see.
01:15:30Good morning Pakistan.
01:15:36Welcome.
01:15:37Welcome back.
01:15:38Good morning Pakistan.
01:15:39So this time we are introducing you.
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01:15:47You have heard of his name.
01:15:49His pimple patch is very successful.
01:15:53After that, Saniderm cracked heel and foot cream.
01:16:03And Dr. Uzma Bhatt is here with us.
01:16:06Who is a aesthetic physician.
01:16:08Assalamualaikum.
01:16:09Assalamualaikum.
01:16:10I am all good.
01:16:11How are you?
01:16:12I am totally fine.
01:16:13I have noticed that the heels are cracked.
01:16:18The skin also leaves.
01:16:19Is it because of the weather?
01:16:22Or is it another science?
01:16:25Is it a serious medical condition?
01:16:27Actually, there is a lot of misconception.
01:16:30People think that the heels are cracked in the morning.
01:16:34It is not the same.
01:16:35It is not the same.
01:16:36But normally it is not.
01:16:37Basically, if your skin is dry.
01:16:41Or dehydration.
01:16:43Or basically, if you have any disease.
01:16:47Not a disease.
01:16:49But if you have diabetes.
01:16:51It is very commonly seen in diabetes.
01:16:53Or hypothyroidism.
01:16:55Which is a thyroid work.
01:16:57Or any fungal infection.
01:16:58There is a medical problem.
01:16:59Which means that the heels are not cracked.
01:17:00Exactly.
01:17:01Exactly.
01:17:02As you see in diabetes, it is really common.
01:17:04That you see that the heels are cracked.
01:17:05And after that, I have told you that the heels are cracked.
01:17:06Especially if you wear dust and open shoes.
01:17:07Then you also see that the heels are cracked.
01:17:08You see that the heels are cracked.
01:17:10And after that, I have told you that no one has a fungal infection.
01:17:14Specifically, if you wear dust and open shoes.
01:17:18Then you also see that the heels are cracked.
01:17:23A lot of females also wear the heels.
01:17:25Exactly.
01:17:26So, due to that, the heels are cracked.
01:17:29In our days, there is a misconception.
01:17:31It is only in the morning.
01:17:33Not in the morning.
01:17:34In your days, it can happen.
01:17:37A lot of people use body lotion.
01:17:39They use body lotion.
01:17:40They use body lotion.
01:17:41They also use body lotion.
01:17:42Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:17:43So, is it true?
01:17:44In body lotion, actually, when it comes to cream.
01:17:47When we compare it, body lotion, when you use moisturizer or anyone, it will evaporate.
01:17:54Okay.
01:17:55But when you use cream.
01:17:57When you use cream.
01:17:58Specifically, if we use Sanyderm Cractyl Cream.
01:18:02Basically, it is locked in your fissures.
01:18:06So, as much as your moisture is trapped.
01:18:09We say that the lipid barrier is strong.
01:18:14And then, your heels will repair.
01:18:18So, with normal lotion, I would suggest that you use Sanyderm Cream.
01:18:25That would be more better.
01:18:27Okay.
01:18:28Look, there are many cracked heel creams in the market.
01:18:32Yes.
01:18:33So, the Sanyderm Cract Heel Lotion or Cream.
01:18:38Is this different or unique from the other cracked heel creams?
01:18:43Yes.
01:18:44There are basically two main ingredients.
01:18:46I think it is differentiated from other creams.
01:18:50One is Calendiola Oil.
01:18:52Okay.
01:18:53Which has your anti-bacterial properties.
01:18:56Which protects it from our infections.
01:18:58Okay.
01:18:59Then, second, we have Argan Oil.
01:19:01Look, Argan Oil is a nutrient-rich formula.
01:19:05As we say in the lame language, that you are giving your skin to your skin.
01:19:09Okay.
01:19:10So, you know, there are also nutrients of the foot.
01:19:14So, when we put it in Argan Oil,
01:19:16we have to keep it in the moisture.
01:19:17So, when we put it in the moisture,
01:19:18it will trap it and keep it in the moisture.
01:19:21And it will trap it in the healing.
01:19:22Exactly.
01:19:23So that, you know, as much moisture is trapped,
01:19:26our skin's lipid barrier is strongly formed.
01:19:30And in this way, the heals will be repaired.
01:19:34Absolutely.
01:19:35Okay.
01:19:36So, the diabetic patient, is it safe to put it?
01:19:41Yes.
01:19:42Because it is a burden of pain,
01:19:43it can be a gangrene.
01:19:44Exactly.
01:19:45Exactly.
01:19:46It's completely safe.
01:19:47And in fact, if for diabetes,
01:19:49we specifically say that you can use it daily.
01:19:55Because it's very important.
01:19:57Because if you know,
01:19:58if there is infection,
01:19:59then it will increase.
01:20:00Then there is bleeding,
01:20:01crack, fissures deep,
01:20:02and then there are other things as well.
01:20:04So, it's very important that
01:20:06those who have diabetes,
01:20:07they start using it in their daily routine.
01:20:10Yes.
01:20:11Okay.
01:20:12If someone's area is getting out of the open bleeding,
01:20:16the cracks are getting out of the open bleeding,
01:20:20then it will also be able to get out of the wound?
01:20:22Yes.
01:20:23Then you can clear the wounds properly.
01:20:25Okay.
01:20:26And under the doctor's advice,
01:20:27you can see why the infection is spreading so much.
01:20:30Okay.
01:20:31So,
01:20:32then you start with the medication,
01:20:33antibiotic as well.
01:20:34But daily,
01:20:35you can use it in this case.
01:20:37Because there is no side effect.
01:20:39Okay.
01:20:40And it heals naturally from it.
01:20:42So,
01:20:43there will not be problems,
01:20:44issues.
01:20:45And again,
01:20:46I have told you that
01:20:47there is Calendriola oil.
01:20:48Calendriola oil basically,
01:20:50you have to prevent the infection from your infection.
01:20:53Basically,
01:20:54it will prevent the bacteria and its properties.
01:20:56Microbial infections.
01:20:57Okay.
01:20:58So,
01:20:59there is a special way to put it?
01:21:00Or the other creams?
01:21:01Yes.
01:21:02So,
01:21:03you can make sure,
01:21:04you can make sure,
01:21:05normally,
01:21:06when we use a health cream,
01:21:07I always tell my patients,
01:21:08that at least two times in a day.
01:21:09Okay.
01:21:10So,
01:21:11you have to put it in the morning.
01:21:12But,
01:21:13specifically,
01:21:14if you are putting it in the morning,
01:21:15make sure,
01:21:16that you have to take a thick layer.
01:21:17And,
01:21:18you have to put it in the thick layer.
01:21:19And,
01:21:20you have to put it in the socks.
01:21:21Okay.
01:21:22We usually do it in the winter.
01:21:23But,
01:21:24with the socks,
01:21:25basically,
01:21:26what happens is that,
01:21:27the nutrients of the cream,
01:21:28the moisture of the cream,
01:21:29it is trapped in the heels.
01:21:30Because,
01:21:31when you know,
01:21:32when the heels become deep fissures,
01:21:33and you have seen also,
01:21:34that,
01:21:35you have seen that,
01:21:36that,
01:21:37that,
01:21:38that,
01:21:39that,
01:21:40for that,
01:21:41it is very important,
01:21:42that,
01:21:43when you put it in the night,
01:21:44put it in the socks.
01:21:45And,
01:21:46put it in the thick layer.
01:21:48Within five to seven days,
01:21:49you will see the results.
01:21:50Okay.
01:21:51Results,
01:21:52will come in five to six days.
01:21:53Within five days.
01:21:54So,
01:21:55this is not the winter season product.
01:21:56No.
01:21:57It is not winter season.
01:21:58You know,
01:21:59people always have this misconception.
01:22:00And,
01:22:01I always say something about my patients.
01:22:04We care so much about the hair,
01:22:06skin,
01:22:07face.
01:22:08So,
01:22:10it is very important,
01:22:11that,
01:22:12you know,
01:22:13your foot care,
01:22:14should be proper.
01:22:15Easily,
01:22:16where can you purchase it from?
01:22:18Easily,
01:22:19you can purchase it online,
01:22:20saniderm.pk.
01:22:21You can also purchase it from there.
01:22:23And,
01:22:24normal pharmaceuticals,
01:22:26your stores,
01:22:27easily available,
01:22:28all over the Pakistan.
01:22:29Okay.
01:22:30Great,
01:22:31great.
01:22:32Thank you so much,
01:22:33Dr. Azmabad.
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