00:00Women, you know, they get jealous when their man is looking at somebody else or when they are going to someone else.
00:06Is expecting loyalty in a relationship, in any kind of relationship, is that dependency?
00:12Most relationships are founded on physicality, right?
00:16You don't fall in love when you are six years old, do you?
00:19But when you are 16, you say I have fallen in love, it's a hormonal thing.
00:23That fellow is the worst, he is disloyal to the truth,
00:26he is disloyal to all kinds of virtues and highnesses possible.
00:31You won't call him disloyal, as long as he doesn't go somewhere and have sex.
00:36But why don't we broaden our definition of loyalty?
00:38Please ask, there must be something within you worth offering loyalty to.
00:45If as a woman, as a human being, you bring great value to the relationship
00:50and the other is still an idiot to go and scavenge somewhere else, let him go.
00:56There must be something in that house, there must be something in that house.
01:00Remember, first thing.
01:07Sir, but is expecting loyalty in a relationship, in any kind of relationship, is that dependency?
01:16What do you mean by loyalty?
01:17You just said that women, you know, they get jealous when their man is looking at somebody else
01:25or when they are going to someone else.
01:27So, is expecting loyalty dependence?
01:30Because that is basic.
01:31A person should not be doing that when they are in a relationship.
01:37You see, what do you mean by loyalty?
01:40That's my question, first of all.
01:43Most relationships are founded on physicality, right?
01:49When it's a man to woman thing, let's accept the bare fact, it's a physical thing.
01:57Later on, you may say this is love and emotions and feelings and whatever but it's a hormonal thing, first of all.
02:02So, you don't fall in love when you are six years old, do you?
02:08But when you are sixteen, you say I have fallen in love.
02:10It's a hormonal thing.
02:12So, it is about the body.
02:13I'll have your body, I'll control your body and that's how you define loyalty.
02:22That fellow is the worst culprit in the world when it comes to any other matter.
02:30He is disloyal to the truth, he is disloyal to the country, he is disloyal to all kinds of virtues and highnesses possible.
02:40You won't call him disloyal, as long as he doesn't go somewhere and have sex, right?
02:47He cheats in the office, he accepts bribes, he doesn't work, he is a climate offender, he is the worst kind of human being possible.
03:04But you will not accuse him of disloyalty or infidelity or cheating.
03:07You will not accuse him because he is still reserved his body for you and you say as long as his body is reserved for me, I won't accuse him of cheating.
03:22Right?
03:24He is going out there and hacking the forests, destroying the environment.
03:28He is disloyal even to the highest truth that you may call as God or whatever.
03:42He is disloyal to every possible thing in the world but you will have very little problem.
03:48But the day he goes out and sleeps with someone else, you will say he is cheating.
03:55What kind of definition of loyalty is this?
03:59This simply tells that the relationship is founded on the body.
04:03Why?
04:04Because the woman has been trained to consider herself the body.
04:07Because the woman considers herself the body, therefore she becomes extremely sensitive about the man's body.
04:16Much the same applies to the man also, we know.
04:20Because the man has also been trained to see himself as the body.
04:26But why don't we broaden our definition of loyalty?
04:29Please, please ask.
04:30Why don't you tell the man, you couldn't be loyal to any kind of virtue, how will you ever be loyal to me?
04:46You aren't loyal even to the gods, how can you be loyal to me?
04:56But you usually don't have a problem, in fact you feel good.
04:58You know, he is disloyal to everybody for my sake.
05:03So, it's a superlative kind of loyalty now.
05:10Why does he cheat in the office, cheat in the sense of taking bribes?
05:13Why is he such a corrupt person?
05:15Because he wants to have more money to offer me gifts and to take me to Dubai.
05:21That's why you know, he takes so much bribes.
05:28For me, he kills animals.
05:31For me, he destroys forests.
05:34That shows that he is even more loyal to me.
05:37What kind of loyalty is this?
05:39What kind of body-centric approach is this?
05:42You know, what the honest reply would be, but sir, as we have become, we have very little apart from the body to demand loyalty to.
06:03All that we have is the body.
06:08Knowledge we didn't gain.
06:10Professional experience or expertise we didn't gain.
06:13Skills we didn't gain.
06:16Freedom we didn't gain.
06:18Courage we didn't gain.
06:19All that we have is this body.
06:20So, I demand that he remain loyal to this body.
06:25I am helpless.
06:26What else can I demand?
06:28But then, if you demand him to be loyal to your body, your body is much the same as anybody else's body.
06:35Show me what is unique in anybody's body.
06:41Show me what is unique in anybody's body.
06:43And then, how is it surprising that relationships founded on body inevitably fracture?
06:57If he came to you for your body or if you went to him for his body, then there are bodies abound and galore.
07:07Only the faces are somewhat different.
07:09You can hide the face.
07:10The rest of the body is same.
07:14You won't even notice the difference.
07:17Especially when it comes to sexual matters.
07:19What difference is there?
07:24There must be something within you worth offering loyalty to.
07:30Am I demanding too much?
07:33Am I demanding too much?
07:37What do I have?
07:38First of all, that somebody, anybody can be loyal to.
07:44I must have the right content to speak before I demand you to listen.
07:48Right?
07:50Justified?
07:50Fair enough?
07:51Right?
07:53Am I spewing trash at you?
07:58Continuously talking nonsense.
08:00And still I demand you should be loyal to this speaker.
08:04Am I justified?
08:05Please tell me.
08:06Now as a man or a woman, all that I bring to the relationship is the body because that is what is biologically given.
08:16Other things have to be earned and I never cared, never strived to earn anything else.
08:21All I have is the default biological body that has grown up to become that of an adult and sexually active man or woman.
08:28This is the body that I have and I am bringing this body to the table and asking him or her, please be loyal to this body.
08:38How fair does this sound?
08:42How fair does this sound?
08:43If I want you to listen to me, I must first be careful that I bring value to you.
08:52What value does the body bring to a relationship?
08:55No, the body does bring value to a relationship.
08:57I understand sexual gratification.
08:59But that value can be substituted.
09:03There are so many other bodies that will bring the same value to the table.
09:07Therefore, what right do you have to complain?
09:09Conversely, if as a woman, as a human being, you bring great value to the relationship
09:24and the other is still an idiot to go and scavenge somewhere else,
09:34let him go.
09:35You are bringing diamonds to the relationship.
09:48And the fellow is still going out into the muck
09:51and collecting dirt and dust.
09:56Let him do that.
09:58Drop him.
10:01The fellow has no discretion, no value system.
10:05No respect for greatness.
10:09Better let him go.
10:15He is doing a few things
10:22clandestinely.
10:26He hides.
10:27Tell him, do it in the open.
10:29You are totally free.
10:30Now go.
10:35But remember, first thing, ask yourself, what value do I bring to the relationship?
10:45And if the value that you bring to the relationship is only physical, only hormonal,
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