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00:0012 virgins have travelled to a paradise island to take part in a unique experiment.
00:08The word virgin, people see it as a joke. It's quite obsessing.
00:14I'm 23, still a virgin. I feel like there's something wrong with me.
00:19In a world where sex is everywhere...
00:23My God! Terrified, absolutely terrified.
00:26The truth is surprising. There are more adult virgins than ever.
00:31Being a young adult in this day and age, it's difficult.
00:34Social media. Dating apps. Influencers.
00:37TV shows. Porn. Porn. Porn.
00:39Porn is everywhere.
00:40Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other?
00:43Now? Yeah.
00:46This radical retreat is offering a very hands-on solution.
00:50Oh, hell. She's a miracle worker. Woo-hoo!
00:54Oh, God, yes.
00:56Overseen by a group of experts. Yeah.
00:58Like that? I like that.
01:00Ready to do anything to help Britain's virgins.
01:04There's the clitters. Do you have any questions?
01:08Lose the one thing.
01:10Ew. Don't make you nervous.
01:12They feel it's holding them back.
01:14I would love to have sex with you.
01:16I do feel like there's a barrier between me and sex.
01:19I want to lose my virginity.
01:21It's now or never.
01:23But when the moment arrives...
01:25Would you like to move to bed?
01:27Who will be ready...
01:29I just don't want anyone to touch me.
01:32...to go all the way.
01:35You're sorry.
01:36You're sorry.
01:37I feel sorry.
01:45The last few days on Virgin Island...
01:48Oh.
01:49...saw a focus on intimate touch.
01:51It was like watching a porno.
01:53We can explore the things that you came here to explore.
01:56It made Taylor, who identifies as bisexual...
01:59I'm scared.
02:00...confused about her feelings.
02:02Sorry.
02:03We'll just have one minute.
02:06And when Ben...
02:07What does it feel like to you?
02:09A bit of a shame.
02:10...fell under Charlotte's spell...
02:12Yeah, I'll do it.
02:13...he was rejected.
02:15This is my friend, but I'm not interested.
02:18Now, as they enter the next phase, things are hotting up.
02:22That felt good.
02:24Confidence is really key to this group of people.
02:27And I am ready to make them be able to look in someone's eyes...
02:31...and just go after what they want.
02:34Feels nice.
02:48Good morning.
02:49Good morning.
02:50It's another day on Virgin Island.
02:52Oh, here we go.
02:54And the start of a new two-day phase of the course.
02:59The next phase of the course is all about confidence.
03:08Everything here is making me nervous.
03:10So, yeah, just another one in a long line of,
03:13ah, what does this mean?
03:15God.
03:16I'm confident in my intelligence, I'm confident as a person.
03:21But I'm not confident about believing that people want me in that way.
03:25Especially after what happened with Charlotte.
03:27You know, I just feel like I'm not good enough.
03:29So, I think this is going to be tough for me.
03:33Confidence.
03:34I think I'm confident when I'm someone else most of the time.
03:37OK.
03:38That's why I do drama and all that.
03:39There are times where I just don't want to chat to anyone
03:41because I just hate myself so much.
03:42But I wouldn't even get on the bus because I didn't want to talk to the bus driver.
03:46So, I just walk everywhere.
03:47So, I need confidence and hopefully this place will give it to me.
03:51Hello, Dan.
03:52Are you ready?
03:53Look at that.
03:54Bunch of hippies.
03:55Good morning.
03:56Good morning.
03:57Celeste and Danielle's first group workshop will test how ready the group are to banish embarrassment.
04:11We are moving into the next phase.
04:14Confidence.
04:15If you're walking in the world and you're feeling kind of shut down,
04:18you're not going to be attractive, but really accepting yourself for who you are,
04:23you're going to be more attractive.
04:29They've all prepared a date in our rejection story from their past,
04:33which has destroyed their confidence.
04:37So, you're going to take turns to share your rejection story.
04:41Who wants to come first?
04:48No, go.
04:49All right.
04:53First up, drama graduate Tom.
04:57Being a virgin has definitely affected my confidence.
05:01In school, I felt like socially I wasn't developing as well as all my other classmates.
05:07They were all going out, drinking in the park, having fun, all those sort of things.
05:13I was a bit of a goody two-shoes, and I felt like I was trailing behind everyone else in the end.
05:20I always have a voice on my shoulder, always telling me that I'm not good enough.
05:24So, my story takes place third year uni.
05:28I'd just received a message from a former friend, and we started chatting more and more.
05:34And it felt like it was getting a little bit flirty, so I invited her down to my place for my housemate's birthday.
05:40Got to the club.
05:42I thought I was going to make my move there.
05:44I introduced her to my housemate.
05:46So, I went to the bar, and when I turned around, bringing drinks for making out with each other.
05:51Revealing their most vulnerable moments to the group is only half of the process.
05:59So, each person is going to say their biggest rejection, and then immediately getting feedback that you are lovable, that you are attractive.
06:09There's something that shifts in your brain when you do all of that at the same time.
06:15Standing up for Tom is Taylor.
06:17I think in that story, she was in the wrong for playing with your emotions like that.
06:22You are a really lovely person, you need to remember that, and she sucks.
06:27She sucks.
06:34As well as rejection.
06:36I stayed at her house, and there was almost this unspoken sort of expectation that there would be sex.
06:43Not being ready for sex.
06:45I was so nervous about doing something wrong, that I just shut down.
06:49I just wasn't ready.
06:51And running away.
06:52He says to me, so are we going to go all the way?
06:56And I just, yeah, I think I just got the fear.
07:00Are we caring themes?
07:02We're in bed.
07:03He started saying he didn't believe that I was a virgin.
07:06He was quite persistent, like I was lying.
07:09I haven't seen anyone since that, just because now I feel like I don't want to put myself in that position.
07:14But...
07:17Ben, you should be proud of yourself that you didn't feel like you had to go all the way,
07:22and the right person will come to you when it's right for you.
07:25Thanks.
07:27Celeste and Danielle believe that together.
07:29You just stop smiling, you make everybody else smile, and also he's a dick as well.
07:36They can change.
07:37Being able to get the antidotes, like get the medicine, is so crucial and it builds so much confidence.
07:47Each story also gives the experts clues on individual needs to resolve their issue with intimacy.
07:56Last is Taylor, who since coming out as bisexual at university has never had a positive encounter with women or men.
08:04I was dancing with some friends and one of my friends was like, that boy's making eyes at you.
08:09And like pointed out a quite good looking lad on the dance floor and I was like, okay.
08:13And then one of them went, he's coming over.
08:15And I hid behind her and said, dance me to the stairs so I can get out.
08:19And I just remembered I was almost at the stairs and I'm crouched over and the crowds parted and the lights flashed for a second.
08:26I looked straight into this guy's eyes like, and my heart just dropped and I saw his face like, so it was one of those moments where I was always expecting to be rejected.
08:38You're really nice, fantastic, pretty, and it's really nice seeing how you're coming out of your shell, well you're always out of your shell, but out more.
08:48But yeah, you're amazing.
08:49You're amazing.
08:54I just really want to applaud your bravery and your vulnerability to every one of you here.
08:59I felt really awkward. I didn't mind sharing my story. I didn't like being told I was nice.
09:12Yeah, I know.
09:14I suffer from quite a lot of like self-doubt and paranoia.
09:17I think self-confidence is different for everyone and for me I usually just try and fake it till I make it.
09:22You okay?
09:31I just feel a bit like other...
09:36I still feel like they're trying to get to grips with me.
09:41I thought with Taylor it was such like a running away story.
09:44You kind of picture her hiding behind someone else.
09:46She's backing away and it was like, what is happening here?
09:49Yeah.
09:50It seemed like she was so afraid of connection that she just couldn't even bear the thought of it.
09:54Yeah.
09:57I do feel like there's a barrier between me and sex.
10:00Like I've been on nights out where you're like, I'm going to do it, I'm going to have that one night stand.
10:05And you meet someone and they want to take you back to their place and then you hit this wall and you just think, I can't.
10:12When you see like people in love, it is a lot that you're missing out on.
10:15Now I can't have what everyone else gets to have.
10:21After a string of failed encounters with men and an unsuccessful session with male surrogate Andre, could a different approach help?
10:29So I just want to say I'm kind of taking over for Andre.
10:34OK.
10:35How does it feel?
10:36A lot calmer, weirdly, because Andre, really lovely, want to be his best friend but like, just didn't want to like, have any kind of sexual contact.
10:45Do you want to move into some body work?
10:49Yeah.
10:50Yeah.
10:52So I just want you to bring awareness into your feet.
10:58Noticing any tension that you feel.
11:03Kat wants Taylor to concentrate on how it feels to be touched by a woman.
11:08And we'll move to the ankles and the lower legs.
11:18Sorry.
11:19No, no, don't apologize.
11:20It's OK.
11:23Is it like, does it feel like a release?
11:26Does it feel, yeah?
11:27OK.
11:29It's just such a relief to not feel scared at all.
11:33That's amazing.
11:34I feel so silly.
11:46No, why?
11:47I just feel like wasting my own time and everyone else's for so long.
11:53No.
11:55By feeling uncertain?
11:58Yeah.
12:04I think that's enough for today.
12:21After years of confusion, it's the breakthrough Taylor's been looking for.
12:25I always thought I was bi, but being here and having to, like, kind of confront it.
12:30Yeah.
12:31I think I might not like men, like, at all.
12:35OK.
12:36And how does it feel to, like, sit with it and own it?
12:39It feels good to own it, but it's also really scary.
12:41It is really scary.
12:42Yeah.
12:43Yeah.
12:48Oh, God, finally.
12:51Yay!
12:52I'm so excited.
12:53Yay!
12:54This feels so good.
12:55Yay!
12:56It feels so good.
12:57Good cry.
12:58Yay.
12:59I'm glad.
13:00Thank you so much.
13:01I really appreciate it.
13:05I'm just gay.
13:06And I think I've been deluding myself into, like, no, I like men as well, because that's
13:10normal and good.
13:11But, like, I didn't feel scared.
13:15That felt really good.
13:20Hello.
13:21So, how was your, um, what was that one-on-one session you did?
13:24I went to my one-on-one session.
13:25You did it?
13:26Good.
13:27It was with Kat and it was the best one I've had.
13:29Oh, really?
13:30And I'm definitely gay.
13:33Oh, no, thank you.
13:35What a breakthrough.
13:36I know.
13:37We wasted all fucking week.
13:40Happy tos.
13:41We love you, Taylor.
13:43I feel like now I can get more out of the retreat because I know, kind of, what I want
13:48and I'm not pretending that I want other things just to fit in.
14:03Would you sell your virginity?
14:05I would.
14:06I've considered it before.
14:08What would you sell your virginity for?
14:10I'd say a couple hundred plus.
14:13I'd do it for a ten and a packet of donuts.
14:15It's different for boys.
14:16What about your anal virginity?
14:17Yeah.
14:18No!
14:19No, that's staying...
14:20That's his boundary.
14:21Yeah, that's my boundary.
14:22Yeah.
14:23At least one million pounds.
14:26It's the first afternoon of the confidence phase at the retreat.
14:30What language do lesbians speak?
14:32What?
14:33Gaelic.
14:36What do you call a lesbian dinosaur?
14:38Don't know.
14:39Lick a lot of puss.
14:40Ah!
14:41That went.
14:42After helping Taylor find her true self, Celeste and Danielle have left something for the boys,
14:49to see if any of them have the confidence to explore their identities too.
14:53Do you want a pamper, Tom?
14:54I would love a pamper, to be fair.
14:56What, do you want the first mask?
14:57Um, I'd be up for any of it.
14:59Mascara, lipstick.
15:00Perf.
15:06This is an exercise that helps people lower their inhibitions.
15:10Welcome to Emma's salon.
15:11Society can give young men such a narrow view of masculinity, so we really wanted to help
15:16them start to get past some of those myths.
15:20How do you feel now?
15:21Relaxed?
15:22Like I'm being operated on.
15:25Although Ben isn't made up with the makeup.
15:28I wanted it to look like good and natural, not drag queen.
15:32I can be a drag queen.
15:35Tom is in the pink.
15:36He looks like a nice young German boy.
15:40I've never had a girlfriend in my life, no.
15:43Sometimes I come across quite camp.
15:46I'll go out to the club and I'll start slut-dropping.
15:49I'll start singing along to Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, a bit ABBA.
15:54Um, but a lot of people didn't quite know how to differentiate between camp and being gay,
15:59so they kind of saw them as one as the same.
16:01You trust me, yeah.
16:02Why are you holding it like that?
16:04Oh, my God.
16:07I want to lose my virginity, but people just aren't interested in someone who doesn't
16:12have confidence in themselves.
16:15That ain't bad.
16:16That's not bad.
16:17Come on.
16:18It feels so wrong, yet so right.
16:22Made up, the boys have engaged with their soft side.
16:25But now the experts want them to reinforce their strength, too,
16:29and try to get good with wood.
16:32Has anyone felt an emotion and they were afraid to show it because of what someone else might think?
16:40Yeah.
16:43But today, we're going to get to let those emotions out.
16:46So we're letting go of the emotion as the ax splits the wood, you know?
16:52Just tune into some primal emotion in your body.
16:55All right.
16:56It feels like they'd like to go first.
16:59Go on, Dave.
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17:29Yeah, good job, bro.
17:34That was bad.
17:36For 25-year-old Viraj, it's a lesson in resilience.
17:40Oh, my God.
17:41Come on, you've got this.
17:44Yeah!
17:46Good job, Viraj.
17:54Hiya.
17:55How was the chopping?
17:57Oh, I sucked. That was the worst.
17:59Man chop wood.
18:00Man chop wood.
18:01Man use axe.
18:02Getting manly has left many of the boys on a high.
18:06Man talk to girls.
18:08Man break wind.
18:10Are you desperately trying to get your nail varnish off?
18:13Yes.
18:14Have you taken yours off?
18:15No.
18:16I might just stick it out.
18:18I think it's about trying to be in touch with your emotions
18:20rather than letting it all boil up inside of you.
18:23Do you think it worked?
18:25I'm still a virgin, so not yet.
18:31To try and change that...
18:33So, I'll just be touching all over your body but not your genitals.
18:38The experts believe Dave's ready to start the island's most advanced treatment,
18:42surrogate partner therapy.
18:44How are you feeling?
18:47Good.
18:48Yeah?
18:49Yeah.
18:50Okay.
18:51It was really nice.
18:53It felt natural and enjoyable.
18:56It's given me a massive confidence boost.
18:59Meanwhile...
19:01I'd like to just go into an experience of connecting with your body.
19:07Yeah, let's do it.
19:08Okay, I'll try that.
19:09Yeah.
19:10Jason's lessons on how to hug are moving up a step.
19:14You can touch me in a way that feels good to you.
19:17It's amazing.
19:18You see what you notice?
19:21Yeah.
19:22I'm a bummer.
19:23Is it enjoyable?
19:24It is.
19:25Yeah.
19:26Across the island, the make-up session has raised more questions than answers for Tom.
19:35Doing the wood shopping, doing the whole make-up thing.
19:39I really enjoyed that, but...
19:40I know, it just felt like a lot of things about, like, gender coming into it.
19:46I just feel a bit weird, I think.
19:52The experts have noticed a change in Tom too,
19:55so they're sending him for a session with Kat to see if she can find out
19:59what's really going on.
20:02Because so many people over the years have called me gay,
20:05I've kind of started to question my own sexuality sometimes.
20:09For a while I saw myself as a closeted bisexual,
20:11but one of the prerequisites of being, like, bisexual is, like,
20:16you have to like men.
20:17I didn't like men that way.
20:19But I want to learn more about myself and my own battles with identity.
20:24There's just so many things which have made me question that.
20:30How are you doing?
20:31Not so great today, I'd say.
20:34Yeah?
20:35Just struggling a little bit, I think.
20:37Yeah?
20:38Yeah.
20:39I think just working out my place, like, how I fit into things,
20:42dynamic, whether I'm part of the men or the women or the...
20:47Oh, I see, yeah, yeah.
20:48..wherever long and that sort of stuff, yeah.
20:50I think I really enjoyed putting my make-up on,
20:52and it feels like...
20:54It's okay.
20:55Yeah, it's okay.
20:56It's all right.
20:57No, I don't want to do this, it's okay.
20:58It's like tissue.
20:59Yeah.
21:00Thanks.
21:01Yeah.
21:02I don't think I'm quite the full masculine side of things, I do think.
21:09I am slightly more masculine leaning, but I don't think I'm fully man, but...
21:15Yeah.
21:16I'm not too sure.
21:17Yeah.
21:18Yeah.
21:19Yeah.
21:20I'm not too sure.
21:21Yeah.
21:22And does it feel scary to step into the feminine?
21:25It's scary because I don't know what to label myself as.
21:28Non-binary is quite...
21:30I feel it's quite scary.
21:33I'm not sure it is a total fit for me either.
21:36Mm-hmm.
21:37And I don't think I'm quite the full masculine side of things, I do think.
21:40I am slightly more masculine leaning, but I don't think I'm fully man, but...
21:43Yeah.
21:44I'm not too sure.
21:45Yeah.
21:46I'm not too sure it is a total fit for me either.
21:49Mm-hmm.
21:50I want you to try as much as you can to, like, pause from naming things.
21:56Ground it in the body a little bit and just pay attention to how you feel.
22:01Yeah.
22:02Okay.
22:05See you soon.
22:06Yeah.
22:07See you soon.
22:08Not sure I'm totally happy with it at the moment, but that's because we brought up a lot
22:13of stuff that I'm going to work through, but I'm definitely in a happier mindset, let's say.
22:28Yeah, Holly, guess what?
22:30What?
22:31I'm a lesbian.
22:32Ooh.
22:34What's up?
22:35Morning.
22:36Ready to go today, guys.
22:38Away.
22:39Yeah.
22:40It's day two of the confidence phase of the course.
22:44Morning, Dave.
22:45You all right?
22:46Yeah, morning.
22:47This is all I want in life, a good cup of tea.
22:50I'm struggling a little bit with confidence, but I think it's just taking those little steps
22:56for me and I'm really hoping that I can build up myself and build up my confidence.
23:02That's exactly what Celeste and Danielle planned to do next, with a lesson on the foundation
23:07of all romance, dating.
23:09Oh, cheers.
23:10Oh, we're going on a date.
23:12Ooh.
23:13Oh, my God.
23:14Oh, my God.
23:15Oh, my God.
23:16I've been on so many dates.
23:17This would be easy for me.
23:18Yeah, it should be.
23:19So we're going to talk about the skills of a great date.
23:31All those skills that we need to have in order to have great relationships are just skills.
23:38You want to learn them and practice them.
23:42Celeste and Danielle have a rule of three dating skills.
23:46The first one is giving an in-the-moment compliment.
23:49Like, I really love the way your eyes twinkle when you smile.
23:53You know, something that really feels like you're connecting with a person.
23:56The second one is to be able to both give and recognize the look.
24:01And the look means, I'm ready now.
24:03I'm ready to be kissed.
24:04And then finally, the third skill is the lean-in for the kiss.
24:09So we're going to do a little demo and then you're going to have opportunities to practice.
24:14And in this case, practice means role-play.
24:17I'm so glad we finally got here.
24:19It's been a lot of planning.
24:20I know, right?
24:21Yeah.
24:22So, do you like to travel?
24:25Oh, my God.
24:26I love traveling.
24:27Traveling is really my passion.
24:29Where's your favorite place?
24:31Wow, I can't think about anything now.
24:34I can just listen to that laugh all day long.
24:39You're embarrassing me a little bit.
24:43But I like it too.
24:45So that's an in the moment?
24:46Uh-huh.
24:47Do you see flirting what's going on all the time?
24:49Yeah.
24:52You are giving me the look.
24:54I was also getting it from you, I think.
24:58Mmm.
25:08Such a good kisser.
25:12Okay.
25:13You are each other's practice buddies.
25:15And that's really going to help you.
25:16The more you practice, the more it's just going to be like,
25:18Oh, this is normal.
25:19This is just what I do.
25:20That's confidence, right?
25:22Who wants to...
25:25Yay! Come on up, Emma!
25:27I wouldn't really say I've actually ever been on a date in my life.
25:31Who else?
25:33I'll do it.
25:34Yay!
25:36It's hard to kind of open myself up to that world
25:38where I've had such a block on it for so long.
25:43Hello.
25:44Hello.
25:45How are you? Okay?
25:46Very good.
25:47Did you enjoy the show?
25:48Yeah, I did, sure.
25:49What did you like the best?
25:50Not even put me on the spot.
25:55I like how you get lost in your thoughts there.
25:59Always, always get lost.
26:00Somewhere else.
26:01Yeah.
26:02Yeah, in my own world.
26:05I like that you notice that.
26:07I'm very observant.
26:20That was phenomenal.
26:23Any tips for Zac on how he could even give it?
26:28I need the tips.
26:29Maybe if you just took care of the hand a little bit more
26:33and just pay attention to how it feels on your skin.
26:36Yeah, okay.
26:37Just slow down and...
26:38Slow down.
26:39Make sure that it's the right level.
26:41Yeah.
26:42Great job, Zac.
26:43That was a good job.
26:44Good job.
26:45Good job.
26:46After Zac and Emma's masterclass...
26:50A fully nude cafe.
26:52Bold choice for our first date.
26:56The others step up to the dating plate.
26:58I'm a bus driver.
27:00Do you enjoy it?
27:01No.
27:02Do you want to just try giving her the look?
27:06That was it.
27:07That was the eyebrows.
27:12Just want to see if you're catching it.
27:13No, I didn't catch it.
27:14You didn't catch it.
27:15Okay, I wanted to start paying attention to those things.
27:28It's nice talking to you.
27:33Wow.
27:38Last to take the plunge is serial dater Ben,
27:41who, despite having over 40 dates, has always been unlucky in love.
27:48What's stopped me from taking it to the next level
27:50of a lot of these dates I've been on,
27:52I think it's just lack of experience and lack of success
27:54at reading social signals.
27:56I tend to play it safe.
27:57And I think for guys like me who just struggle with that,
28:00making the move and reading the signs, it's very hard.
28:06Who want to try it with Ben?
28:19Did I get to do it?
28:21Good, because this will be our second date.
28:23Yeah.
28:26Well, it's good to see you again, Celeste.
28:28It's good to see you too.
28:30What job do you do?
28:32I coach people to have more intimacy and connection with each other.
28:35Oh, okay.
28:36I like your glasses.
28:38They suit you.
28:39Mmm.
28:40When you get all into the experience, you're really beautiful.
28:43It's all you.
28:45It's all you.
28:47It's all you.
28:51It's all you.
28:56like it all into the experience you're really beautiful thank you tell you
29:01despite celeste's flirting yeah yeah being rejected by the group has hurt ben
29:16so tonight you're going to have another opportunity to just practice skills building
29:22as you'll all be going on practice dates with each other you'll learn so much and give each
29:28other so much from that experience holly how was my kissing skills at a 10. oh solid 9.5 okay it was
29:42what did everyone think of that session that was fun i enjoyed it
29:46tell me how you found the workshop crap awful i didn't like it you know i got up and no one
29:59wanted to join with me because i was really hurt the ironic thing is the conference section which
30:03i knew would be hard has probably wrecked my confidence hello hello for ben it's yet another setback
30:13you okay my confidence found basically shattered my confidence and he's not the only one struggling
30:22i walked out the workshop feeling worse oh really what's wrong with you today
30:29i don't know
30:32the experts feel something is holding emma back and now they want to find out what it is
30:38is how are you feeling i'm feeling all right but i just really feel for ben it's hard isn't it right
30:47when i care for other people it's hard to think about myself you actually have to not so much worry
30:54and take care of everybody else what does it feel like to just say what about me that doesn't feel
30:59natural of course it's the opposite of the habit the habit is what are you okay everybody okay what
31:05about me yeah see if you can see it with them okay what about me let me do it a little bit stronger now
31:14what about me yeah you deserve to be angry like what about you you know what i mean it's your turn
31:22yeah yeah yeah okay oh you need to go ah a little bit what about me yes what about me what about me yeah
31:38what about me what about me that's right i feel like i'm gonna need to punch him back in a minute
31:43oh my god yes i can only that's all i've ever wanted you to say okay right let me strip off
31:56i'm gonna push it out what about me and then punch it yeah yes what about me what about me yeah more
32:03this is this is my body yes yes yes about me fuck you if you've ever made me some shit and
32:12fuck everyone who's taken my kindness for weakness yes it's all about me it's all about you
32:18fuck you fuck you that's what she said yeah
32:27the exercise stares up old emotion
32:30when i was seven i did have a really horrific incident with another child of them touching me
32:38inappropriately it kind of shut me off and brought up this fear of sex and that was so horrible so i
32:50want to move past that horrific experience but it is so difficult it's like a piece of glass you can
32:59chatter some glass but even if you put it back together it will never be the same again
33:05just imagine little emma looking up at you and saying thank you so much thank you
33:13for looking out for me and being the strong independent woman that i always wanted to be
33:20you should be proud of yourself because you're so stronger than you think and wiser than you know
33:38how'd it go a really good session i feel like celeste released a new energy inside of me that i didn't
33:43realize i had right now i feel on top of the world i feel like a brand new complete
33:51version of emma and i'm not going to let people's negative input impact me
33:58i feel like now i'm more open to forming new connections which i haven't taken before
34:04it's not just emma who's feeling like a new person after his session with kat yesterday tom has been
34:11reflecting on gender identity i think my next step to this i probably will tell some more people about
34:16my gender fluidity because i don't constantly have this sort of barrier up all the time or like i'm not
34:22hiding a part of myself anymore which i'm constantly having to do here at the moment
34:26do you want to see her yes after her own issues around identity tom decides to confide in taylor
34:36coming here i've been learning a lot more about my own identity i found that as well
34:42really puts it into perspective it does 100 when i had my makeup put on me yes and then i had to take
34:48it off and i felt a bit oh no i really wanted to keep that on say that it got me thinking a lot about
34:54my own sort of identity i'm not sure i think if gender is like on the spectrum yes i'd say i'm
35:01exactly between uh him and vey them yes so masculine but not but yeah do you still identify as straight
35:09like you like girls yes i still very much like women there's no matter like who i go to bed with
35:15it's like who i go to bed as yeah of course yeah to bed as yeah oh how exciting exciting thank you
35:27it's late afternoon on virgin island
35:31and this evening the group will pair up for date night
35:35so how are we going to do this today is this my first proper date do i class this as a date we can
35:40make it a date we'll see how we'll see what happens one thing i don't want it to be is i don't want
35:45it to be awkward why would it be awkward i don't know i feel like i'm just an awkward person no we
35:49might fall in love after this really maybe maybe sometimes when you look at me i do feel like are you
35:55just looking at me like randomly or are you looking at me maybe some overthinking it just look at me there
36:02oh emma after her session with celeste emma's newfound positivity is taking effect
36:11you do realize like my dream woman will have to be someone who like goes to india with me and has
36:15that dream wedding oh my god yeah you would look really good in a sari no i actually would love that
36:20what color would my dress be like red yeah i picture a red really yeah i picture a red
36:28i don't know the red would suit me i think it would i think any color would suit me why not
36:45now she's opened the floodgates
36:50emma's letting herself go even went through to the second layer later we'll all pose for a calendar
36:58and so are the boys what do you guys like like what do you mean what do you like
37:05but that's such a how do you want to have sex i know i want i want to feel powerful i mean yeah i'd
37:10like it if a girl rides on top of me sure i would like to be dominated i think that's what i like you
37:15like that yeah that's interesting but that's because i'm like a shy version i think i want something
37:20really boring like mission that's me after being rejected earlier the confidence phase of the cast has
37:27yet to help ben i think what's scary about the whole approaching somebody in real life is the
37:32prospect of rejection it's just awkward ben struggles to turn dates from the vertical to the
37:38horizontal so the experts want to see if they can teach him how coming out of this and feel more
37:45confident is why i'm doing it
37:46let's get a little closer and just so our hands are touching your job is to stay present with the
37:56touch how do i make the first move the first physical move because that's quite a big step
38:01and something you always worry about if there is a moment that you feel a connection but you might
38:06just look at her and be like you're so cute you know yeah yeah it has to feel like it's it's time
38:19though naturally yeah when you're confident that's one of the most important things
38:26with the basics covered ben takes the giant leap to the bed
38:30it's nice it's really nice ben
38:47yeah slowly ben's confidence seems to be rising
39:00and whatever you do don't try to get it right there's no getting it right there's only exploring
39:11squeeze me if that helps you to feel more of me
39:14see you soon what i found most helpful is that she can help me get out of my head and get more in a
39:29moment yeah i just feel like i'm a lot more confident going into these sort of situations now
39:33after ben's confidence boost
39:42the whole group get themselves ready for date night
39:46this feels a bigger deal than i thought it was going to be oh it's high you're looking good though
39:51dude yeah you all look good yeah you know virgins could be so sexy
39:55oh lovely the experts have paired them up ready to test their date skills this is nice this is
40:07nice ladies first so kind and they've hit the island's most romantic spot there you go my lady
40:15thank you very much thank you okay you look lovely oh thank you i was worried i'd be overdressed
40:21and i was like i was worried about the same thing having come out as gay taylor's dating expert aisha
40:27giving ben the chance to carry on where he left off with joy how have you been since
40:33we last met yeah fine great for you you're late i hope this is what
40:40so do i actually cheers as they sit down to chat up nice to meet you nice to meet you they must
40:48remember celeste and danielle's three steps of dating i wanted to know actually what's it like
40:53in drasgow is it just full of like frankie boyle posters yeah he's like actually like our mascot
41:04what state did you grow up in florida oh florida i never would have guessed
41:07really apparently 400 people are crazy does that mean you're crazy um i think i am a little
41:15we may be about to get rained on you don't like getting wet i thought that was your whole thing
41:24i appreciate that i appreciate you taking it sexual
41:27you look nice thanks you're very nice oh nice oh 10 10. not to say
41:42short of some dolphins like i've rosy your cheeks on thank you
41:46it's the one thing i hate about myself is it yeah oh well i'm glad i brought up then
41:54you have very nice earrings you like them yeah thank you my friend made them
41:58i've definitely got a good fashion sense yeah better than i've got thank you thank you so much
42:03all these compliments i don't know what to do with them all step two is the look i've practiced
42:10oh yes okay i'm gonna okay give me my energy i'm gonna turn away and look back at you okay
42:22god damn it finally followed by the kiss you're a beautiful girl oh stop it you're a beautiful guy
42:30inside and out but for one couple my niche is like weight loss i like motivation to
42:38want to do personal training and want to help other people yeah i like that about you thanks
42:43date practice is perfect you okay i'm good you sure yeah i'm all right
42:51don't make you nervous a little bit a little bit you don't need to be nervous
42:56i need to try to be a bit more confident with women my family and our hindu culture still believe
43:01in like arranged marriages i don't see that as a bad thing um but i just don't think i'd ever put
43:06myself in that position once i'm a lot more confident in myself i think the type of path
43:11that i want to go down will be love marriage but if i don't put myself out there it definitely won't
43:16happen do you want to take your hands sure that's it i'm just gonna i have cold hands though no it's
43:23okay okay you have nice hands though thank you you've got nice skin i feel like i've gotten darker by
43:31being here to be honest you actually have but you're a nice color
43:39you okay yeah i'm right you okay yeah i'm good i'm all good in my head yeah
43:48look you can tell how cold i am because i was going a bit purple yeah you are going a bit purple
43:52aren't you maybe you can warm them up for me you're going to warm up for you yeah i'll give you a little
43:57peg yeah go on beautiful how was that yeah lovely yeah good for you of course good we got on quite
44:06well and i'm just looking forward to getting to know him more i don't know whether it could be a
44:12bit romantic but i've never had a connection with anyone like i do with virage enjoy that yeah
44:19that was awkward i feel really great i feel confident and i feel like i've pushed outside
44:28like a massive barrier with me with like going on dates she's just an amazing girl and i'm really glad
44:34that um i was with her for that day and you want to hold my hand and we'll make it like an official day
44:38and with that it's time to celebrate the end of another phase of the car
44:51are you feeling confident yes my confidence has definitely grown over the last few days i've kind
44:58of been on a journey in terms of my gender i'm not quite sure who i am but i know at least i'm tom
45:08over the last few days my confidence has skyrocketed so much more than i thought it ever would
45:15and i'm really looking forward to where the journey may take me next it's so exciting and it's so nice
45:21to feel like these new feelings that i'm feeling now that i'm kind of i know myself a bit better
45:27the fear is gone so i'm hoping i can progress faster now that i'm not being held back by my own fear
45:33tomorrow we are taking you to the next level oh my god are you ready
45:42we've come on jane together and you know what's coming next
45:46i just hope we don't go in tomorrow like they're all naked or something that'd be quite scary
45:52next time so this is my buddy for fuck's sake the car centers its toughest phase yet
45:58we're gonna invite you one by one to show yourself out do you know what yolo
46:09and the one-on-ones what's the feeling in your body the sensation of it
46:13disgusting push the virgins further than ever before just like explore
46:28so
46:39so
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