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00:00:00Yes, you should be good, but only to me. You should do great things, but only for me.
00:00:06Please be good to me. That's what we want from our friends, our partners, our relatives, right?
00:00:12There is a great problem with this demand.
00:00:15But what are the right reasons to be in a relationship?
00:00:18You can't say I have a reason to enter a relationship.
00:00:22And when you are just incidentally with each other, then relationship is most beautiful.
00:00:26But the book also says that true love is never incidental.
00:00:30I'll edit it.
00:00:35So when you say be discreet and very careful about it, what does it actually mean then?
00:00:41It means don't be taken in by performances.
00:00:44It's a matter of one evening.
00:00:45Paste a grin.
00:00:49Act nicely.
00:00:50Pull the chair for her.
00:00:51Open the door for her.
00:00:52For reasons of exchange of pleasure, towards you, he is just performing a role.
00:00:59And this will stop.
00:01:01And then we wonder why we have loveless lives.
00:01:05Even, like, I'm not sure about my own nature.
00:01:08How can I predict someone's nature then?
00:01:11Your nature is to not remain confounded.
00:01:14That's why you have the mic this moment.
00:01:16See, I have seen, so many of couples have seen closely, they are very much in a bad condition.
00:01:23Now what to do?
00:01:24Where does this come from?
00:01:27If you have a person in front of you, who is committed to nonsense, why are you committed
00:01:32to that person?
00:01:33So I was going through your book, chapter 80, Be Whole Before You Belong.
00:01:47You must learn aloneness.
00:01:49And then you have said, then even if you approach the other, even if you relate, it will be a
00:01:55relationship of health, a relationship in which you have something to give, a relationship
00:02:00of joy, not of dependence and desperation.
00:02:03So this gives me an idea that one must not have any expectations in a companionship.
00:02:09But at the same time, I have understood from your videos that the role of companion is to
00:02:15reflect you and uplift you.
00:02:18And that there is something within us that feels the need to relate.
00:02:21So we better be discreet or careful and very selective about it if we anyway need to have
00:02:27a companion.
00:02:29But being discreet or selective, does it not mean that there will be some expectations?
00:02:36You know, the expectations are in negativa.
00:02:39The fellow you are relating to must not be an exploiter.
00:02:43You must not be an exploiter.
00:02:45The role that you are talking of is not really a role that is put on.
00:02:57The mirror does not perform the role of a reflector.
00:03:01The real companion is like a mirror.
00:03:06Reflecting your reality back to yourself is not really a role that person performs.
00:03:12It's the nature of the mirror.
00:03:14There is a difference between somebody's role and somebody's nature.
00:03:18The real companion is not performing a role.
00:03:26Right?
00:03:28It's a nature.
00:03:30And that's a nature not limited to one person.
00:03:35If you are with someone.
00:03:39Who is like a mirror.
00:03:42That person will be like a mirror to everybody.
00:03:46Not a role he selectively performs in front of you as a partner or a friend, whatever.
00:03:55A mirror is a mirror to.
00:03:58A mirror is a mirror to everybody.
00:04:02But if you want to have someone who performs a role exclusively for you,
00:04:08then you will have a problem.
00:04:10And that's what we want.
00:04:11Yes, you should be good, but only to me.
00:04:15You should do great things, but only for me.
00:04:18And if you are caught doing great things for her,
00:04:23then you have had it.
00:04:26Right?
00:04:28And that's the problem.
00:04:29Now you are demanding a role rather than nature.
00:04:33Now you are demanding a role rather than nature.
00:04:39But the problem is, if somebody performs a role for you,
00:04:45he is just putting it on.
00:04:48And no role can be performed consistently and exceptionally throughout life.
00:05:02Roles are roles.
00:05:03You get into a role and then you get out of a role.
00:05:09Either you get tired or you just find some other role more tempting.
00:05:14But what we want is people playing a particular role for us.
00:05:20No.
00:05:20The real companion deserves to be valued
00:05:37for who he is.
00:05:44Not for what he selectively does.
00:05:49for you in particular.
00:06:03But then you will say,
00:06:06Then, I mean, what is special about the relationship?
00:06:11If he is a mirror to me,
00:06:13and he is also a mirror to the neighbor,
00:06:16then there is a great problem.
00:06:20So you want to own and possess.
00:06:23Right?
00:06:24So you want to limit the mirror.
00:06:26The problem with the mirror is,
00:06:28even if you shatter it,
00:06:29it still remains a mirror.
00:06:33Every bit,
00:06:34every piece,
00:06:35every fragment,
00:06:36still remains a mirror.
00:06:40Just that the relationship is gone.
00:06:44Now,
00:06:46you have thrown it away
00:06:47and shattered it.
00:06:49You can do whatever you want to,
00:06:51but
00:06:51if the person is like a mirror
00:06:56and that's a nature,
00:06:57nature cannot change.
00:07:01Someone who has attained
00:07:03to his real self
00:07:06now cannot be
00:07:08plucked away
00:07:09or snatched away
00:07:10or torn away from that.
00:07:14Impossible.
00:07:16You are getting it.
00:07:19Please be good to me.
00:07:21That's what we want from our friends,
00:07:22our partners,
00:07:23our relatives.
00:07:24Right?
00:07:24Please be good to me.
00:07:26There is a great problem
00:07:28with this demand.
00:07:32If the fellow is actually good,
00:07:35the demand is useless.
00:07:43He can't help being good.
00:07:44He will be good
00:07:45irrespective of your demand.
00:07:47So why are you demanding?
00:07:49And if the fellow is not good
00:07:50and you say,
00:07:52please be good to me
00:07:53because I am somebody to you,
00:07:54then he will perform a role.
00:07:58You will find him
00:08:00being bad,
00:08:02very crudely speaking,
00:08:03very bad to the world
00:08:05or at least relatively bad
00:08:06to the world
00:08:07and good to you.
00:08:11This kind of a dichotomy
00:08:12we see everywhere.
00:08:13Right?
00:08:13Right?
00:08:17The father can be
00:08:18the most corrupt person
00:08:19possible in the office
00:08:21but performs the role
00:08:24of a great father,
00:08:27a great sire
00:08:28to the kids.
00:08:32The fellow can be
00:08:33the most violent person
00:08:34possible
00:08:35heading an animal
00:08:38slaughter factory
00:08:39but to the wife,
00:08:43he is a loving husband.
00:08:44We see that all around.
00:08:46Right?
00:08:46Now that's why
00:08:47these things
00:08:48crack open.
00:08:49because
00:08:51the kind of behavior
00:08:53this person
00:08:54is displaying
00:08:55towards the kids
00:08:56or the wife
00:08:57is just a
00:08:59role,
00:09:01not his
00:09:02nature.
00:09:06And roles
00:09:07begin and roles
00:09:08end.
00:09:10Just as you put on
00:09:12your shirt
00:09:12and then
00:09:13take it off.
00:09:16Don't you say?
00:09:16one hat
00:09:17then the next hat
00:09:19and then you wonder
00:09:21how come
00:09:24the fellow
00:09:24has suddenly
00:09:25become disloyal
00:09:26or disinterested?
00:09:28nothing has happened
00:09:32suddenly.
00:09:33He was
00:09:34in one character
00:09:36and now he has
00:09:38moved to
00:09:39another character.
00:09:42Would have been
00:09:43far
00:09:44more wise
00:09:46of you
00:09:46to choose
00:09:48someone
00:09:49on
00:09:51his nature
00:09:52rather than
00:09:54his action.
00:09:55a role
00:09:56is an action
00:09:57right?
00:09:58Something that
00:09:59you perform.
00:10:02But why
00:10:02don't we do
00:10:03that?
00:10:03If choosing
00:10:04someone
00:10:04on his
00:10:05or her
00:10:06nature
00:10:06is so much
00:10:08better,
00:10:08why don't
00:10:08we do
00:10:09that?
00:10:09We have
00:10:10already
00:10:10discussed
00:10:10the reason.
00:10:11because
00:10:14someone
00:10:15who is
00:10:15truthful
00:10:16will be
00:10:17truthful
00:10:18not just
00:10:19to the
00:10:19wife
00:10:20or the
00:10:20kids
00:10:20or the
00:10:21father
00:10:21or the
00:10:21mother.
00:10:22That fellow
00:10:23will be
00:10:23truthful
00:10:23to
00:10:24everybody
00:10:25and that
00:10:27will be
00:10:27unacceptable
00:10:28to the
00:10:28family.
00:10:32See,
00:10:33if you
00:10:33really love
00:10:33us,
00:10:34then you
00:10:34should be
00:10:34truthful
00:10:34to us
00:10:35and for
00:10:36our
00:10:36sake,
00:10:37you
00:10:37should
00:10:37exploit
00:10:39the
00:10:39world
00:10:39or keep
00:10:40the
00:10:40world
00:10:41aside
00:10:41at
00:10:41least.
00:10:45We
00:10:45want
00:10:46loving
00:10:46people
00:10:47in our
00:10:47lives,
00:10:49but we
00:10:49get annoyed
00:10:50if they
00:10:51radiate the
00:10:52same love
00:10:53to the
00:10:53entire
00:10:53world.
00:10:57We
00:10:58don't just
00:10:58get annoyed.
00:10:59See how
00:11:00look at
00:11:01the breadth
00:11:01of the
00:11:02grin.
00:11:03He's
00:11:03saying it's
00:11:03a scandal.
00:11:06It's not
00:11:07merely an
00:11:08offense.
00:11:08It's a
00:11:09scandal.
00:11:10I mean,
00:11:11yes,
00:11:11you have
00:11:11to be
00:11:11loving,
00:11:12but towards
00:11:13me,
00:11:15not towards
00:11:16the entire
00:11:17cosmos
00:11:17and especially
00:11:19not towards
00:11:20this neighbor.
00:11:26Getting hit.
00:11:29That's where
00:11:30the problem
00:11:30is.
00:11:33You don't
00:11:33have to
00:11:33expect.
00:11:34not.
00:11:36If you
00:11:37really dare
00:11:37to be
00:11:38with the
00:11:38right
00:11:38one,
00:11:41he or
00:11:41she will
00:11:41be great
00:11:42for you
00:11:43by
00:11:44his nature.
00:11:48Not
00:11:49because of
00:11:49your
00:11:50expectations.
00:11:53Not
00:11:53because of
00:11:54your
00:11:54expectations.
00:11:55You bring
00:11:56a scorpion
00:11:57to your
00:11:57life.
00:11:58You keep
00:11:58expecting
00:11:58whatever you
00:11:59want to.
00:11:59it will
00:12:01sting.
00:12:07You bring
00:12:08the sun
00:12:09to your
00:12:09life.
00:12:10You may
00:12:10keep
00:12:10expecting
00:12:11whatever,
00:12:12but it
00:12:12will
00:12:12brighten up
00:12:13your life.
00:12:14The problem
00:12:15is the sun
00:12:15brightens up
00:12:16not just
00:12:17your life.
00:12:21And that's
00:12:22something we
00:12:23cannot tolerate.
00:12:25That's
00:12:25something the
00:12:25little ego
00:12:26just cannot
00:12:27tolerate.
00:12:29So we
00:12:30say it's
00:12:30fine to
00:12:31have a
00:12:32fraudster in
00:12:32my life.
00:12:38Let him
00:12:38display fake
00:12:39love.
00:12:43But even
00:12:45that fakeness
00:12:46should be
00:12:46just for
00:12:47me.
00:12:50I'm
00:12:51alright with
00:12:51fakeness as
00:12:52long as it's
00:12:53an exclusive
00:12:54fakeness.
00:12:57That's the
00:12:58deal we
00:12:58make.
00:13:01And then
00:13:02we wonder
00:13:02why we have
00:13:03loveless lives.
00:13:04our nature
00:13:13is to be
00:13:14committed to
00:13:14the highest.
00:13:16So if you
00:13:17bring the
00:13:17right person
00:13:18to your
00:13:19life as a
00:13:20companion,
00:13:22he cannot
00:13:22be committed
00:13:23to the
00:13:24lowly things
00:13:25within you.
00:13:26Right?
00:13:28He cannot
00:13:29say I
00:13:30accept you
00:13:30as you
00:13:31are.
00:13:31even if
00:13:35you are
00:13:35internally so
00:13:36dirty and
00:13:36so ugly,
00:13:37I'll still
00:13:37say I
00:13:38love you.
00:13:38He won't
00:13:39do that.
00:13:40He'll be
00:13:40a challenge.
00:13:41Just as a
00:13:42mirror is a
00:13:42challenge.
00:13:46He'll say I
00:13:47love you so
00:13:47I want you
00:13:48to rise.
00:13:50I want you
00:13:50to rise.
00:13:51And let me
00:13:52be very clear,
00:13:54as you
00:13:55are in
00:13:56your state,
00:13:57I don't
00:13:57really see
00:13:58anything
00:13:58valuable.
00:14:01this we
00:14:02don't want
00:14:02to hear.
00:14:03Do we?
00:14:07And if
00:14:08that fellow
00:14:08is really
00:14:10worth anything,
00:14:15he'll
00:14:15relate to
00:14:17highness,
00:14:20beauty,
00:14:25excellence.
00:14:26in all
00:14:29fields of
00:14:30life,
00:14:31he'll be
00:14:31committed to
00:14:31that.
00:14:34And he'll
00:14:34be choosing
00:14:35excellence
00:14:36wherever he
00:14:37is or
00:14:38she is.
00:14:41So let's
00:14:42say you
00:14:43wait for
00:14:43him in
00:14:45the house
00:14:45to celebrate
00:14:47something silly
00:14:47like an
00:14:49anniversary.
00:14:49and he's
00:14:53in the
00:14:54office,
00:14:55committed to
00:14:56a project
00:14:57that is
00:14:57really
00:14:57important,
00:14:58infinitely more
00:14:59important than
00:15:00an anniversary.
00:15:02But this
00:15:03will put you
00:15:03off.
00:15:04You'll be
00:15:04totally upset,
00:15:05right?
00:15:05You don't
00:15:06see that
00:15:09he is
00:15:09actually paying
00:15:10a tribute
00:15:11to your
00:15:11relationship by
00:15:12saying I'm
00:15:13committed to
00:15:13the highest.
00:15:14so if I'm
00:15:17with you,
00:15:18that's good
00:15:19news because
00:15:20I can be
00:15:21with only
00:15:22the highest.
00:15:24You'll
00:15:24instead be
00:15:25angry.
00:15:28Today is
00:15:28our anniversary
00:15:28and instead
00:15:29you are busy
00:15:30with something
00:15:30in the office.
00:15:31Don't you
00:15:32see the
00:15:33fellow is
00:15:33not committed
00:15:34to you as
00:15:34a person.
00:15:35The fellow
00:15:36is committed
00:15:36to excellence.
00:15:40The fellow
00:15:41is committed
00:15:41to value,
00:15:43worth.
00:15:44And if
00:15:46on that
00:15:46day something
00:15:47of worth
00:15:48is calling
00:15:52in the office,
00:15:56he should be
00:15:57there and
00:15:57he should
00:15:57celebrate it.
00:16:02Do you
00:16:03see where
00:16:03we go wrong?
00:16:07We want
00:16:08to possess
00:16:09and we
00:16:09want to be
00:16:10possessed.
00:16:11And only
00:16:12something small
00:16:12can be
00:16:13possessed.
00:16:14who can
00:16:15possess the
00:16:15sky?
00:16:16But you
00:16:16can possess
00:16:17a small
00:16:17piece of
00:16:18land.
00:16:22But you
00:16:22insist that
00:16:23you will
00:16:23possess.
00:16:23So what
00:16:24you get
00:16:24is a
00:16:24small piece
00:16:25of something
00:16:25and that
00:16:28satisfies you.
00:16:29You say
00:16:30at least
00:16:31it is
00:16:31exclusively
00:16:31mine,
00:16:32even if
00:16:33it's
00:16:33small.
00:16:36You know,
00:16:36I can't
00:16:37share the
00:16:37sky with
00:16:38everybody.
00:16:39Then you
00:16:40can't love
00:16:40the moon.
00:16:42Then you
00:16:43can't
00:16:45respect the
00:16:45sun.
00:16:49Can you?
00:16:51Because
00:16:51nobody can
00:16:52own them.
00:16:52so we
00:16:57settle for
00:16:57little dust
00:16:58which we
00:16:58can keep
00:16:59in our
00:16:59pocket
00:16:59and zip
00:17:01it.
00:17:02Totally
00:17:02mine.
00:17:03I cannot
00:17:20overemphasize
00:17:21on this.
00:17:22Goodness
00:17:22is not
00:17:24a role
00:17:25performed
00:17:26in a
00:17:29relationship
00:17:30goodness
00:17:33is nature
00:17:35itself.
00:17:37If you
00:17:38are looking
00:17:39for somebody
00:17:40good,
00:17:43don't
00:17:45just see
00:17:45how that
00:17:46person is
00:17:47towards you.
00:17:49You will
00:17:50have to see
00:17:51how that
00:17:51person is.
00:17:54And these
00:17:54are two
00:17:55very different
00:17:55things.
00:17:56for reasons
00:17:59of exchange
00:18:00of pleasure,
00:18:00anybody can
00:18:01display good
00:18:04behavior
00:18:05towards another
00:18:06person at
00:18:08a given
00:18:08place,
00:18:08at a given
00:18:09time.
00:18:10Right?
00:18:11The shopkeeper
00:18:12wants to sell
00:18:13something to
00:18:13you.
00:18:14Seen how
00:18:14nicely he
00:18:15behaves?
00:18:15goodness.
00:18:25So,
00:18:25that's not
00:18:26an indicator
00:18:27of somebody's
00:18:28goodness.
00:18:30A particular
00:18:31kind of
00:18:32behavior at
00:18:33a particular
00:18:33time towards
00:18:34a particular
00:18:35person does
00:18:36not indicate
00:18:36the worth
00:18:39or intrinsic
00:18:40goodness.
00:18:41No.
00:18:43But that's
00:18:43what pleases
00:18:44us.
00:18:44Right?
00:18:45You know,
00:18:48what really
00:18:49impresses me
00:18:50is that
00:18:54he's totally
00:18:55violent
00:18:55towards
00:18:56everybody.
00:18:57Just keeps
00:18:58kicking and
00:18:59slapping.
00:19:01But the
00:19:01moment he
00:19:02comes to
00:19:03me,
00:19:03he becomes
00:19:04very sweet.
00:19:07That proves
00:19:08all the more
00:19:09how deeply
00:19:09he loves me.
00:19:10No.
00:19:10That proves
00:19:11all the more
00:19:12how deeply
00:19:14you are in
00:19:15danger.
00:19:20Because he
00:19:21is what
00:19:22he is
00:19:23throughout
00:19:23the day.
00:19:25Towards
00:19:26you he is
00:19:27just performing
00:19:27a role
00:19:29and this
00:19:31will stop.
00:19:42So when you
00:19:43say be
00:19:43discreet and
00:19:44very careful
00:19:45about it,
00:19:46what does it
00:19:46actually mean
00:19:47then?
00:19:49It means
00:19:50don't be
00:19:50taken in
00:19:51by performances
00:19:53by roles.
00:19:55By roles.
00:19:58Anybody can
00:19:59be
00:19:59good,
00:20:02good looking
00:20:04in the
00:20:07moment
00:20:07of making
00:20:09the deal.
00:20:11Right?
00:20:14It's alright
00:20:15and not
00:20:16very difficult
00:20:17to act
00:20:18great on
00:20:19a date.
00:20:21It's a matter
00:20:22of one
00:20:22evening.
00:20:26One evening.
00:20:28Paste a
00:20:28grin.
00:20:32Act nicely.
00:20:33Pull the
00:20:36chair for
00:20:37her.
00:20:39Open the
00:20:40door for
00:20:41her.
00:20:43Don't be
00:20:44carried away
00:20:45by that.
00:20:45Whether in
00:20:46business or
00:20:48in society or
00:20:49in politics or
00:20:50in religion,
00:20:52the elections
00:20:52are approaching
00:20:53and the
00:20:54candidate comes
00:20:55to you
00:20:56and acts
00:20:57extremely polite
00:20:58and humble
00:20:58and friendly,
00:21:01more family
00:21:02than family
00:21:02and you
00:21:06say,
00:21:06oh I'm
00:21:06swayed.
00:21:08This is the
00:21:09perfect candidate
00:21:10I'm going to
00:21:10cast my vote.
00:21:12This is a
00:21:13performance,
00:21:14not his
00:21:16nature.
00:21:19But
00:21:20you will
00:21:21be careful
00:21:23about the
00:21:24other's
00:21:25nature only
00:21:26when first
00:21:26of all you
00:21:27worry about
00:21:27your own
00:21:28nature.
00:21:30If you
00:21:31are somebody
00:21:31who lives
00:21:32throughout in
00:21:33performances,
00:21:35in personality
00:21:36rather than
00:21:37reality,
00:21:39then in the
00:21:40other also
00:21:41you will
00:21:41value
00:21:42performance and
00:21:43personality
00:21:44rather than
00:21:45reality.
00:21:48And then
00:21:48you will be
00:21:49duped and
00:21:51shocked.
00:21:53only you
00:21:53will be
00:21:53responsible.
00:21:56So like we
00:21:57know a lot
00:21:58of wrong
00:21:58reasons to
00:21:59be with a
00:22:00companion like
00:22:01societal pressure
00:22:01or having a
00:22:02child or
00:22:03financial
00:22:04dependency.
00:22:05But what are
00:22:06the right
00:22:06reasons to be
00:22:07in a
00:22:07relationship?
00:22:09Actually you
00:22:10can't say I
00:22:11have a reason
00:22:12to enter a
00:22:13relationship.
00:22:13Right
00:22:14relationship is
00:22:14essentially
00:22:15reasonless.
00:22:16If you have a
00:22:17reason, then you
00:22:18have a self-interest
00:22:19and that would
00:22:20mean exploitation.
00:22:22I have a
00:22:23reason to
00:22:24approach the
00:22:25chicken and
00:22:27that reason
00:22:27would imply the
00:22:28death of the
00:22:29chicken.
00:22:31And then I
00:22:31will say I
00:22:32really love
00:22:33chicken.
00:22:35Our love is
00:22:36deadly, is it
00:22:37not?
00:22:38Because we
00:22:38always have a
00:22:39reason.
00:22:41Who is the
00:22:41one carrying
00:22:42the reason?
00:22:42the ego,
00:22:45right?
00:22:47And if the
00:22:48ego has a
00:22:48reason to go
00:22:49towards something
00:22:50or somebody,
00:22:52it's not good
00:22:54for that
00:22:55thing, that
00:22:56person, not
00:22:57at all.
00:22:59So real
00:22:59relationship would
00:23:00always be
00:23:01reasonless, meaning
00:23:03incidental.
00:23:05Incidental.
00:23:07They just
00:23:08happen if they
00:23:09have to.
00:23:12you don't
00:23:14plan them
00:23:15out.
00:23:19You don't
00:23:20target them.
00:23:21This year I
00:23:22must get
00:23:23married.
00:23:25And that
00:23:25to which
00:23:26this, this,
00:23:26this and
00:23:27this condition.
00:23:32That's how
00:23:33they talk in
00:23:33the villages
00:23:34often.
00:23:34You know,
00:23:35the marriage
00:23:36season is now
00:23:38approaching.
00:23:39And this
00:23:39marriage season
00:23:40I'll ensure
00:23:43Surekha is
00:23:43gone.
00:23:47I mean,
00:23:48come on.
00:23:51Three more
00:23:52sisters are
00:23:52waiting.
00:23:54What's more,
00:23:54the youngest
00:23:56brother is
00:23:57getting very
00:23:58restless.
00:24:01I suspect
00:24:02he is seeing
00:24:03somebody from
00:24:04some other
00:24:04caste.
00:24:05So before
00:24:06he jumps
00:24:07into something
00:24:08disrespected
00:24:12I should
00:24:15rather marry
00:24:16her off
00:24:16and clear
00:24:18the way
00:24:19for the
00:24:19next ones.
00:24:24What kind
00:24:25of companionship
00:24:26can you
00:24:26expect
00:24:27in such
00:24:30conditions,
00:24:31with such
00:24:32attitude?
00:24:33if it
00:24:37happens,
00:24:38it happens.
00:24:40And then
00:24:41you don't
00:24:42know,
00:24:42because beauty
00:24:43can't be
00:24:43planned.
00:24:44You can't
00:24:45have an
00:24:45image
00:24:46of truth.
00:24:51You
00:24:51then
00:24:52are concerned
00:24:54more about
00:24:56yourself.
00:24:58Let me
00:24:59live rightly
00:25:00and let me
00:25:01walk the
00:25:01right path.
00:25:02if in the
00:25:04process of
00:25:04walking the
00:25:05path,
00:25:08I get
00:25:12a fellow
00:25:13traveler,
00:25:16fine,
00:25:18we'll be
00:25:19related,
00:25:21not really
00:25:22to each
00:25:23other,
00:25:24but firstly
00:25:26to the
00:25:26common
00:25:26destination.
00:25:27destination,
00:25:28the same
00:25:31road,
00:25:32the same
00:25:33direction,
00:25:34similar
00:25:37destinations,
00:25:38so companionship
00:25:40becomes natural,
00:25:41which doesn't
00:25:42mean that the
00:25:43two of us
00:25:44are latching
00:25:46on to each
00:25:46other.
00:25:48Actually,
00:25:48our primary
00:25:50commitment is
00:25:51towards the
00:25:52shared destination.
00:25:53incidentally,
00:25:56we are
00:25:57with each
00:25:58other and
00:25:59when you
00:25:59are just
00:25:59incidentally
00:26:00with each
00:26:00other,
00:26:01then relationship
00:26:02is most
00:26:03beautiful
00:26:03because you
00:26:07are with
00:26:07each other
00:26:07but not
00:26:08looking at
00:26:08each other.
00:26:10You are
00:26:10looking in
00:26:12the same
00:26:12direction.
00:26:14When you
00:26:15look at each
00:26:15other
00:26:16constantly,
00:26:16you eat
00:26:17the other
00:26:22up.
00:26:24What else
00:26:25can you
00:26:25do?
00:26:26Constantly
00:26:27looking at
00:26:27someone,
00:26:29gone,
00:26:31finished.
00:26:37For an
00:26:38hour or
00:26:39two,
00:26:39the other
00:26:39fellow can
00:26:40appreciate
00:26:40the beauty
00:26:40of your
00:26:41eyes.
00:26:44After
00:26:44that,
00:26:45he'll
00:26:48want to
00:26:48run away
00:26:48but you
00:26:53have held
00:26:54him captive
00:26:55with your
00:26:55mere eyesight
00:26:56wherever you
00:26:57go.
00:27:02I'm
00:27:03tracing you.
00:27:11Are you
00:27:11getting this?
00:27:13But the
00:27:14book also
00:27:14says that
00:27:15true love
00:27:16is never
00:27:16incidental.
00:27:17I'll edit
00:27:18it.
00:27:24So don't
00:27:25we have to
00:27:25be conscious
00:27:26about it
00:27:27like when
00:27:27we say
00:27:27we have to
00:27:28be very
00:27:28careful
00:27:28who we
00:27:29let in
00:27:29our lives.
00:27:30See,
00:27:30right now
00:27:31how does
00:27:31it matter
00:27:32to me
00:27:32whether
00:27:35you are
00:27:35asking the
00:27:36question
00:27:36or he's
00:27:37asking a
00:27:37question
00:27:37or he's
00:27:38asking.
00:27:38My primary
00:27:39commitment
00:27:39is to
00:27:40the truth
00:27:40irrespective
00:27:42of who
00:27:42holds the
00:27:43mic.
00:27:43I have
00:27:44to be
00:27:44truthful
00:27:44and in
00:27:47being
00:27:47truthful
00:27:47I have
00:27:48a great
00:27:48relationship
00:27:48with you
00:27:49right now
00:27:49which doesn't
00:27:51mean I'm
00:27:51committed to
00:27:52you.
00:27:52I'm committed
00:27:52to the
00:27:53truth.
00:27:54That's what I'm
00:27:55talking of.
00:27:56think of
00:28:01the British
00:28:01period.
00:28:02We have
00:28:02had several
00:28:03cases.
00:28:04Freedom
00:28:04fighters.
00:28:05Think of
00:28:06Bengal.
00:28:08Think of
00:28:09Surya
00:28:09Sain.
00:28:10Freedom
00:28:11fighters.
00:28:13Right?
00:28:14Both are
00:28:14committed to
00:28:15freedom.
00:28:18Committed to
00:28:19freedom.
00:28:22And the
00:28:22entire
00:28:23relationship
00:28:23that has
00:28:24happened and
00:28:25that is so
00:28:25beautiful.
00:28:27And then
00:28:28they chose
00:28:29to die
00:28:29not for
00:28:30each other
00:28:30but for
00:28:32freedom.
00:28:36That's the
00:28:37relationship
00:28:38worth having.
00:28:40That's where
00:28:40beauty is.
00:28:42Yes,
00:28:42we are
00:28:43together
00:28:43because
00:28:44I respect
00:28:46what you
00:28:47respect.
00:28:48and it's
00:28:53not you
00:28:54that I
00:28:54respect.
00:28:57You
00:28:57respect the
00:28:58sky,
00:28:58so do I.
00:29:00That's the
00:29:00reason the
00:29:01two of us
00:29:01are together.
00:29:03Not because
00:29:04we want to
00:29:05breed kids.
00:29:07Not because
00:29:08you are a
00:29:10man, I'm a
00:29:10woman and
00:29:11there has to
00:29:11be a
00:29:12biological
00:29:13attraction.
00:29:15No,
00:29:15none of
00:29:15that.
00:29:21Yes, there
00:29:21is body and
00:29:22we cannot
00:29:22deny it.
00:29:23Fine, if a
00:29:23man and
00:29:24a woman are
00:29:24together, they
00:29:25will have a
00:29:26physical
00:29:26relationship also
00:29:27at some
00:29:27point, that's
00:29:28fine.
00:29:28But that's
00:29:29not the
00:29:29primary thing.
00:29:33Primarily, we
00:29:35are together
00:29:35because we are
00:29:37looking in the
00:29:37same direction.
00:29:38are you
00:29:46getting it?
00:29:48That's for
00:29:49sure.
00:29:49The second
00:29:50edition would
00:29:51be out soon
00:29:52and we'll
00:29:54edit out
00:29:54those lines.
00:29:58See, I'm
00:29:58always a
00:30:00little shaky
00:30:02about these
00:30:02things.
00:30:03I write
00:30:03something or
00:30:05I say
00:30:06something and
00:30:07then I say
00:30:08are you
00:30:11sure it
00:30:11will be
00:30:12received
00:30:12rightly?
00:30:15That's why
00:30:16the videos
00:30:16have to be
00:30:17edited.
00:30:19Any line
00:30:20that can be
00:30:21taken to
00:30:21mean something
00:30:23else on
00:30:25the side of
00:30:26safety, it
00:30:28is trimmed
00:30:28out.
00:30:30Though that
00:30:30also takes
00:30:31away from
00:30:32the punch of
00:30:34the statement.
00:30:35But what to
00:30:36do?
00:30:36we are always
00:30:37looking for
00:30:39something that
00:30:40can be
00:30:41interpreted in
00:30:44a favorable
00:30:44way.
00:30:53Yes, you're
00:30:55saying something.
00:30:56Acharya Ji,
00:30:57Namaskar.
00:30:59So, Acharya Ji,
00:31:01I got your
00:31:02point and I
00:31:03have been
00:31:03following the
00:31:04point and
00:31:04it's really
00:31:05helping me
00:31:06in enhancing
00:31:07my companionship
00:31:08with initially
00:31:10I entered
00:31:11into without
00:31:12choosing for
00:31:13the right
00:31:13person.
00:31:14Like casually
00:31:15it happened
00:31:15by parents
00:31:16twice.
00:31:17It used to
00:31:17happen in
00:31:18India, you
00:31:18can see that.
00:31:19Still it's
00:31:20happening, like
00:31:20two partners
00:31:21don't choose
00:31:23each other,
00:31:24they are chosen
00:31:24by their
00:31:24parents.
00:31:26Suppose
00:31:26something like
00:31:27that happens
00:31:27I have seen
00:31:28a few couples
00:31:30very closely
00:31:31that one
00:31:32person is on
00:31:33the higher
00:31:34level and
00:31:34one partner
00:31:35is on the
00:31:36lower level.
00:31:37So the
00:31:37person who
00:31:38is on the
00:31:41higher level
00:31:41she just
00:31:42drains her
00:31:43energy to
00:31:43uplift her
00:31:44partner or
00:31:45his partner.
00:31:47So how can
00:31:48she save
00:31:49herself?
00:31:49Because ultimately
00:31:50I see that
00:31:50after 20 or 25
00:31:51years she is just
00:31:52torn out.
00:31:53She just
00:31:54says I have
00:31:55given everything
00:31:56to a person
00:31:56but this person
00:31:57hasn't changed
00:31:58but as I
00:31:59thought that
00:32:00this is my
00:32:00duty to
00:32:00uplift that
00:32:01my partner
00:32:02so but she
00:32:04just fails
00:32:05and I have
00:32:06seen so many
00:32:07not so many
00:32:08but yes few
00:32:09couples I have
00:32:10seen closely
00:32:10they are very
00:32:11much in a
00:32:11bad condition
00:32:12now what to
00:32:13do?
00:32:14So what
00:32:15suggestion can
00:32:16you give that
00:32:17partner who is
00:32:18on the higher
00:32:18level and she
00:32:19has given so
00:32:20much energy to
00:32:21uplift her
00:32:22partner just
00:32:24I wanted to
00:32:25know that.
00:32:26Do we know
00:32:27our duties
00:32:29really?
00:32:30Where did she
00:32:31pick that from?
00:32:33This is my
00:32:34duty to keep
00:32:35exerting myself
00:32:38on my partner
00:32:39for 25 years.
00:32:40Where does
00:32:41this come from?
00:32:42How does she
00:32:43know that this
00:32:44is her duty?
00:32:46How exactly?
00:32:49Who told her?
00:32:50and if you
00:32:52ask her she
00:32:53will have no
00:32:54specific answer.
00:32:55She will say
00:32:56but you know
00:32:56this is the way
00:32:57it is in the
00:32:57society and in
00:32:58the tradition
00:32:59and my mom
00:33:00told me and
00:33:01the TV serials
00:33:02told me and
00:33:03the culture
00:33:04told me.
00:33:04Culture told me
00:33:05yes.
00:33:06That's the thing.
00:33:08And I am the
00:33:08Sita and I
00:33:09want to be
00:33:10Ram.
00:33:12I want to
00:33:13make him
00:33:13Ram.
00:33:14Just like
00:33:14that.
00:33:19None of
00:33:19that.
00:33:20None of
00:33:20that.
00:33:21Yes.
00:33:22See please
00:33:22understand.
00:33:26This might
00:33:26sound a
00:33:28little odd
00:33:29if someone
00:33:33if you're
00:33:34in a
00:33:34relationship
00:33:35and that
00:33:36fellow
00:33:37forgets
00:33:40you for
00:33:41the sake
00:33:42of something
00:33:43worthwhile
00:33:44don't regret
00:33:46that.
00:33:47Celebrate
00:33:48that.
00:33:49Yes.
00:33:49Yes.
00:33:50Of course.
00:33:52Celebrate
00:33:52that.
00:33:54Don't
00:33:55be worried
00:33:57that you
00:33:57are no
00:33:58longer
00:33:59occupying
00:34:00his mind
00:34:00space.
00:34:01Yes.
00:34:03If you
00:34:04are worried
00:34:05that tells
00:34:05of your
00:34:06insecurity.
00:34:07Correct.
00:34:08And this
00:34:08insecurity
00:34:09becomes
00:34:09violence.
00:34:11I must
00:34:11constantly be
00:34:12present in
00:34:13your thoughts.
00:34:14Yes.
00:34:16You must
00:34:16be prepared
00:34:17to vacate
00:34:18all the
00:34:19space for
00:34:20something that
00:34:21really matters.
00:34:24Equally
00:34:24you too
00:34:26must have
00:34:26in your
00:34:27space
00:34:27something that
00:34:29really matters.
00:34:31If you
00:34:32have a
00:34:32person in
00:34:33front of
00:34:33you who
00:34:35is committed
00:34:35to nonsense
00:34:36why are you
00:34:39committed to
00:34:39that person?
00:34:41Makes sense.
00:34:42Yes.
00:34:44That person
00:34:45is committed
00:34:45to nonsense
00:34:46and you say
00:34:46for 25 years
00:34:47I have been
00:34:48committed to
00:34:48this person.
00:34:49Do you see
00:34:50what you're
00:34:50saying?
00:34:51You're saying
00:34:52I'm committed
00:34:53to nonsense.
00:34:54Exactly.
00:34:55In an
00:34:56indirect way.
00:34:57Yes.
00:35:02Why?
00:35:05Your
00:35:05responsibility
00:35:08is towards
00:35:10who you
00:35:10are.
00:35:11You're not
00:35:12a husband
00:35:12or a wife
00:35:13or a brother
00:35:14or a friend
00:35:15or a sister
00:35:15or a father
00:35:16or something.
00:35:17You're a
00:35:17human being.
00:35:19You're a
00:35:20human being.
00:35:21Your fundamental
00:35:22responsibility
00:35:22is to attain
00:35:24your highest
00:35:24potential.
00:35:26Yes.
00:35:28Born alone
00:35:28you will die
00:35:29alone.
00:35:30Yes.
00:35:32In fact
00:35:33we
00:35:33live alone
00:35:36as well.
00:35:39You are
00:35:39sent off
00:35:40to jail.
00:35:41Do others
00:35:41accompany you?
00:35:43That was
00:35:43the question
00:35:44while Miki
00:35:45asked.
00:35:46Hmm.
00:35:47And this
00:35:48one question
00:35:48was enough.
00:35:49he went
00:35:54to his
00:35:54wife
00:35:55and he
00:35:55said
00:35:56I'm doing
00:35:57all these
00:35:58wild things
00:35:59robbing
00:35:59people
00:36:00killing
00:36:00them
00:36:01and most
00:36:05of the
00:36:05money that
00:36:05I bring
00:36:06is used
00:36:09for this
00:36:10family
00:36:10not for
00:36:11me alone.
00:36:12so when
00:36:13I'll get
00:36:16the punishment
00:36:16for all
00:36:17these sins
00:36:19my deeds
00:36:20will you
00:36:22all accompany
00:36:22me?
00:36:24In a
00:36:25moment of
00:36:26rare honesty
00:36:27the wife
00:36:27said no.
00:36:32And
00:36:33Valmiki
00:36:33became
00:36:34Rishi
00:36:34Valmiki.
00:36:36He was
00:36:37called
00:36:37Ratnakar
00:36:38before that.
00:36:41He said
00:36:41I've
00:36:42understood.
00:36:44It's
00:36:45between
00:36:45me and
00:36:46me alone.
00:36:47Nobody
00:36:47else can
00:36:48walk it
00:36:48for me
00:36:49or even
00:36:50walk along
00:36:51with me.
00:36:57Yes.
00:36:58Are you
00:36:58getting?
00:36:59So that's
00:37:00your fundamental
00:37:00responsibility
00:37:01towards the
00:37:04self.
00:37:05And that's
00:37:05not the
00:37:06lowly kind
00:37:06of selfishness.
00:37:07that's
00:37:12deep
00:37:13wisdom.
00:37:13That's
00:37:13the
00:37:14highest
00:37:14spirituality
00:37:14to attain
00:37:15to the
00:37:15highest
00:37:16self.
00:37:19And
00:37:20in that
00:37:20process
00:37:21if you
00:37:23get a
00:37:23companion
00:37:24wonderful
00:37:25but it's
00:37:26not for
00:37:27the sake
00:37:27of
00:37:28companion
00:37:28that you
00:37:29walk the
00:37:29road or
00:37:30do you?
00:37:32Do you?
00:37:33No.
00:37:33You book
00:37:34a flight
00:37:35or a
00:37:35train
00:37:36ticket.
00:37:37If you
00:37:38get a
00:37:38worthy
00:37:39companion
00:37:40wonderful.
00:37:42Otherwise
00:37:42what matters
00:37:44is that the
00:37:46destination is
00:37:47right and
00:37:47the train
00:37:49doesn't get
00:37:50late.
00:37:50That's all
00:37:51that matters.
00:37:51Right?
00:37:53If you get a
00:37:54companion that's
00:37:54fine.
00:37:55If you don't
00:37:55get a
00:37:55companion even
00:37:56that is
00:37:56fine.
00:37:57you are
00:37:59open to
00:37:59both.
00:38:01Am I
00:38:02open to a
00:38:02relationship?
00:38:03Yes.
00:38:04Am I
00:38:05hungry for
00:38:05a relationship?
00:38:06No.
00:38:08If there is
00:38:09something
00:38:10worthwhile the
00:38:11next seat
00:38:11let's try
00:38:15a conversation
00:38:15and if there
00:38:18is nobody
00:38:18there I'll
00:38:19get busy
00:38:19with a
00:38:19book.
00:38:22I'll get
00:38:22busy with a
00:38:23book.
00:38:24I'm not
00:38:25dying to
00:38:26chat with
00:38:27him or
00:38:28her or
00:38:29no.
00:38:35This
00:38:36compulsive
00:38:37need to
00:38:39be around
00:38:40somebody,
00:38:41to stick
00:38:42to somebody,
00:38:43to cling,
00:38:47I repeat
00:38:47is a
00:38:48betrayal of
00:38:49life itself.
00:38:51You are
00:38:52being dishonest
00:38:53to yourself
00:38:53and violent
00:38:54to the
00:38:54other.
00:38:56most of
00:39:02it arises
00:39:03from
00:39:03an
00:39:05ignorance
00:39:05of the
00:39:06self
00:39:06and the
00:39:06resultant
00:39:07purposelessness.
00:39:10If you
00:39:10have
00:39:11randomly
00:39:12boarded a
00:39:12train
00:39:12you have
00:39:15nowhere to
00:39:15go.
00:39:18Right?
00:39:19Getting
00:39:20generally
00:39:20bored
00:39:21for the
00:39:22sake of
00:39:23entertainment,
00:39:24general
00:39:24time
00:39:24pass,
00:39:26you say
00:39:26fine,
00:39:26there is
00:39:26this
00:39:27train,
00:39:27must be
00:39:27going
00:39:27somewhere,
00:39:29let me
00:39:29hop on.
00:39:31Then
00:39:31obviously
00:39:32your entire
00:39:33purpose will
00:39:34be to
00:39:34hunt.
00:39:36These are
00:39:37my fellow
00:39:37passengers.
00:39:38Hello.
00:39:39Hello,
00:39:39hi,
00:39:40so,
00:39:40how many
00:39:42babies?
00:39:42this fellow
00:39:45is jobless,
00:39:46purposeless,
00:39:47nothing to
00:39:47do in
00:39:48life.
00:39:50So,
00:39:50all that
00:39:51he is
00:39:51doing is
00:39:52trying to
00:39:53form
00:39:53relationships.
00:39:57Radiate
00:39:58your
00:39:58nature.
00:39:59I repeat,
00:40:00is the
00:40:00sun not
00:40:01related to
00:40:02every
00:40:03speck of
00:40:04dust
00:40:05in the
00:40:06solar
00:40:06system?
00:40:08But the
00:40:09sun is
00:40:09not
00:40:09trying.
00:40:10that's
00:40:13nature.
00:40:15Be who
00:40:15you are.
00:40:18And in
00:40:18that,
00:40:19there would
00:40:20be great
00:40:20relationships,
00:40:21even without
00:40:22your
00:40:22knowledge,
00:40:24even without
00:40:25your effort.
00:40:26You don't
00:40:27have to
00:40:27wait.
00:40:29You don't
00:40:29have to
00:40:29plan.
00:40:33You don't
00:40:34have to keep
00:40:34looking over
00:40:35your shoulder,
00:40:35is there
00:40:36somebody
00:40:36following me?
00:40:37Nobody,
00:40:38I am still
00:40:38so lonely.
00:40:40Do you
00:40:43see how
00:40:44great
00:40:46potentials
00:40:47get destroyed
00:40:48just because
00:40:50your
00:40:51intention,
00:40:52your energy
00:40:53starts
00:40:53flowing in
00:40:54the direction
00:40:55of hunting
00:40:56for company?
00:41:00It's a
00:41:00very cruel
00:41:01game that
00:41:02Prakriti and
00:41:03our bodies
00:41:04play.
00:41:05when you
00:41:08are at the
00:41:09peak of
00:41:09your energy
00:41:10and your
00:41:13intellectual
00:41:14prowess,
00:41:15that's also
00:41:16the time
00:41:17of your
00:41:19peak
00:41:20reproductive
00:41:20action.
00:41:25Such a
00:41:26cruel thing
00:41:26to happen.
00:41:27so the
00:41:29energy,
00:41:30the powers
00:41:31that could
00:41:32have gone
00:41:33towards
00:41:34building a
00:41:36life,
00:41:38go towards
00:41:40hunting a
00:41:41partner.
00:41:41other.
00:41:54Especially in
00:41:55rural and
00:41:57semi-urban
00:41:58areas,
00:42:00this is still
00:42:00happening in
00:42:01India.
00:42:01the girl
00:42:06has completed
00:42:07her graduation
00:42:07and is
00:42:08sitting at
00:42:09home since
00:42:10three years.
00:42:11Doing what?
00:42:12Nothing.
00:42:13Just waiting
00:42:14to be
00:42:15married off.
00:42:19Look at
00:42:19the wastage
00:42:20of human
00:42:20potential.
00:42:27Look at
00:42:28the wastage.
00:42:30And that's
00:42:31not only in
00:42:31India particularly,
00:42:33everywhere in
00:42:33the world,
00:42:34it's very
00:42:34common for
00:42:35women to
00:42:37give up the
00:42:39higher things
00:42:39in life for
00:42:40the sake of
00:42:41company.
00:42:45For the
00:42:46sake of
00:42:46company.
00:42:56What kind
00:42:57of company
00:42:57it is?
00:43:01that is
00:43:03conditional
00:43:03on you
00:43:05quitting
00:43:06what is
00:43:06high.
00:43:10Surely it's
00:43:11not auspicious
00:43:11for you.
00:43:23Anything more
00:43:24on this?
00:43:31Up to this
00:43:31point of
00:43:32my life,
00:43:32I used
00:43:33to believe
00:43:33treat
00:43:33people how
00:43:35they treat
00:43:36you.
00:43:37If someone
00:43:38hate you
00:43:39for no
00:43:39reason,
00:43:40just give
00:43:40them a
00:43:40reason to
00:43:41hate you
00:43:41and just
00:43:42move on.
00:43:42That was
00:43:42I thought
00:43:44up to
00:43:44now.
00:43:45But now
00:43:46when I
00:43:46think that
00:43:47there is
00:43:47a true
00:43:47nature
00:43:48of a
00:43:48person
00:43:48and there
00:43:49are people
00:43:50playing
00:43:50roles.
00:43:51I meet
00:43:52twenty
00:43:52people
00:43:53in my
00:43:54whole
00:43:54day
00:43:54and
00:43:55for some
00:43:56I am
00:43:56like God
00:43:57I help
00:43:58them and
00:43:58I am a
00:43:59good friend
00:43:59of them
00:44:00but for
00:44:00some I am
00:44:01like enemy
00:44:01they just
00:44:02hate me.
00:44:04So even
00:44:04like I am
00:44:05not sure
00:44:05about my
00:44:06own nature
00:44:06how can
00:44:07I predict
00:44:09someone's
00:44:09nature
00:44:10then?
00:44:10That is
00:44:12my
00:44:13question.
00:44:13You have
00:44:13to start
00:44:14from where
00:44:15you are
00:44:16to start
00:44:16with yourself.
00:44:18How come
00:44:19you don't
00:44:19know your
00:44:20nature?
00:44:20Your nature
00:44:21is to not
00:44:22remain
00:44:23confounded.
00:44:24That's why
00:44:24you have
00:44:25the mic
00:44:25this moment.
00:44:26Right?
00:44:27You had
00:44:28a doubt.
00:44:29You didn't
00:44:30like it.
00:44:31So you
00:44:31stood up
00:44:32and asked.
00:44:33That's
00:44:33nature.
00:44:35Realization.
00:44:36Knowledge.
00:44:36That's
00:44:37her nature.
00:44:37Both.
00:44:38That's
00:44:38her nature.
00:44:40Right?
00:44:41But I
00:44:42do have
00:44:42capacity to
00:44:43like change
00:44:44my nature.
00:44:44No, you
00:44:45have the
00:44:45capacity to
00:44:46hide your
00:44:46nature.
00:44:48You have
00:44:49the capacity
00:44:49to suppress.
00:44:50It can't
00:44:51be changed.
00:44:51It can
00:44:51be suppressed.
00:44:52It can
00:44:53be obfuscated.
00:44:54How do
00:44:55we differentiate
00:44:55sir?
00:44:56Like which
00:44:56is like the
00:44:56true nature
00:44:57and which
00:44:58one I am
00:44:58suppressing
00:45:00it and
00:45:00which one
00:45:01I am just
00:45:01showing it
00:45:02to the
00:45:02people?
00:45:02Check for
00:45:03fear and
00:45:03temptation.
00:45:05If
00:45:05something is
00:45:06being done
00:45:07under the
00:45:07influence of
00:45:08fear or
00:45:09greed,
00:45:10it's a
00:45:10suppression
00:45:11of your
00:45:11nature.
00:45:13Right now
00:45:14by asking
00:45:14this question
00:45:15there is
00:45:15nothing that
00:45:16you really
00:45:17get apart
00:45:18from clarity.
00:45:21Right?
00:45:22So there can
00:45:23be no greed
00:45:23really.
00:45:24You won't
00:45:24be paid for
00:45:25asking this
00:45:25question.
00:45:25and once
00:45:28you know
00:45:29that
00:45:30realization
00:45:32is your
00:45:33nature,
00:45:35you also
00:45:36know that's
00:45:37not just
00:45:37your nature.
00:45:39That's
00:45:39the inevitable
00:45:40destiny of
00:45:41every single
00:45:42human being.
00:45:43That's what
00:45:44pulls us.
00:45:46That's what
00:45:46calls us.
00:45:48That's what
00:45:48is love.
00:45:51To surrender
00:45:52yourself to
00:45:52that, to
00:45:54the highest
00:45:54possible to
00:45:55the skies.
00:45:57And then
00:45:57that's what
00:45:59you evaluate
00:45:59people on.
00:46:03You see,
00:46:03please understand,
00:46:04once you
00:46:05see what
00:46:06is best
00:46:09for yourself,
00:46:10once you
00:46:10see what
00:46:11we are born
00:46:11for, each
00:46:12one of us,
00:46:15that's what
00:46:16you respect
00:46:16then in
00:46:17everybody.
00:46:19Right?
00:46:19A wise
00:46:20man, a
00:46:21seer, a
00:46:24thinker,
00:46:27even if
00:46:31he kicks
00:46:31you, you
00:46:34must still
00:46:35be with
00:46:35him.
00:46:37You won't
00:46:38say he's
00:46:38not being
00:46:39good to
00:46:39me, so I
00:46:40won't be
00:46:40good to
00:46:40him.
00:46:41No.
00:46:44He kicks
00:46:45you, you
00:46:46should still
00:46:46be with
00:46:47him.
00:46:47At the
00:46:48same time,
00:46:49a dog
00:46:50licks you,
00:46:51you won't
00:46:51lick him
00:46:51back, or
00:46:52would you?
00:46:54You won't
00:46:55say he's
00:46:55being good
00:46:56to me, so
00:46:56I'll be
00:46:56good to
00:46:57him.
00:46:57The dog
00:46:58licked me
00:46:58and now
00:46:59I'm
00:46:59licking
00:46:59the dog.
00:46:59But I'll
00:47:00feed him,
00:47:00it is good
00:47:01to me, it's
00:47:02loyal to me.
00:47:03Why will
00:47:03you feed him?
00:47:04It's my
00:47:04pet.
00:47:05What if
00:47:05he has
00:47:05rabies?
00:47:07Why?
00:47:09Just in
00:47:09case it's
00:47:10my pet,
00:47:10I will...
00:47:11Your pet,
00:47:12right?
00:47:14Your pet.
00:47:14We don't
00:47:17do that to
00:47:17strays very
00:47:18often, but
00:47:19to pets.
00:47:21I have
00:47:21nothing against
00:47:22dogs, I
00:47:22love dogs.
00:47:23It was to
00:47:24make a
00:47:24point that
00:47:26I use this
00:47:27example.
00:47:28Please
00:47:28understand.
00:47:30What you
00:47:31are saying
00:47:31is, the
00:47:32dog is
00:47:33being good
00:47:33to me, so
00:47:34I'll feed
00:47:34him.
00:47:35What you
00:47:35don't see
00:47:36implicit in
00:47:37your assertion
00:47:38is that if
00:47:39even the
00:47:40wisest man
00:47:41is not
00:47:41good to
00:47:42you,
00:47:42you will
00:47:45not respect
00:47:45him.
00:47:47Please
00:47:48understand,
00:47:48because the
00:47:49person is
00:47:50wise, even
00:47:52his disrespect
00:47:53towards you
00:47:54would be
00:47:55good for
00:47:55you.
00:47:58If the
00:47:59fellow really
00:48:00has his
00:48:01heart in
00:48:02the right
00:48:02place, even
00:48:03if he
00:48:04kicks you,
00:48:05it would
00:48:05be good
00:48:05for you.
00:48:06all actions
00:48:13hold the
00:48:13quality of
00:48:14the actor.
00:48:15If the
00:48:15actor is
00:48:16wise, even
00:48:18a violent
00:48:19looking action
00:48:20will be good
00:48:20for you.
00:48:22Equally, if
00:48:23the fellow is
00:48:24an animal at
00:48:25heart, even
00:48:29his good
00:48:29looking actions
00:48:30will be
00:48:34dangerous for
00:48:35you.
00:48:38And that's
00:48:39where we
00:48:39don't draw
00:48:40the line.
00:48:40We say, but
00:48:41you know, he
00:48:41is acting
00:48:42nicely.
00:48:44He is
00:48:44acting nicely.
00:48:45Well, acting
00:48:46is acting.
00:48:47Look at the
00:48:47actor.
00:48:51The one
00:48:51performing the
00:48:52action, if
00:48:53he is not
00:48:53well, even
00:48:54the acts
00:48:55of kindness
00:48:56that he
00:48:57performs will
00:48:59prove dangerous
00:49:01and even
00:49:03the punishment
00:49:03that you
00:49:04get from a
00:49:04wise person
00:49:05will prove
00:49:08life-saving.
00:49:13So, how
00:49:13do I come
00:49:14to know that
00:49:15he is actually
00:49:16wise and he
00:49:16is not
00:49:16pretending to
00:49:17be wise?
00:49:18Already
00:49:18answered that.
00:49:19By knowing
00:49:19yourself, you
00:49:21must know
00:49:22where your
00:49:24bondages are.
00:49:26You must
00:49:26know how
00:49:27ignorance envelops
00:49:28us all.
00:49:29and then
00:49:30you will
00:49:31realize who
00:49:32is not so
00:49:33ignorant.
00:49:34You will
00:49:34realize who
00:49:35is challenging
00:49:36ignorance and
00:49:38bondages.
00:49:39It has to
00:49:39start within.
00:49:49You had a
00:49:50question?
00:49:51Yes.
00:49:52We'll come to
00:49:52you after that.
00:49:53Hello, sir.
00:49:56I wanted to
00:49:57ask, this
00:49:58would be
00:49:58applicable for
00:49:59any relationship
00:50:00or any
00:50:01companionship, but
00:50:02then again, do
00:50:03the same thing.
00:50:04We should
00:50:04apply for
00:50:05every person
00:50:06we associate
00:50:07with, be it
00:50:08a family member,
00:50:08be it a
00:50:09friend, or
00:50:10be it anyone
00:50:11we would spend
00:50:12our time with.
00:50:12Any adult.
00:50:13Any adult.
00:50:14Yes.
00:50:14Any conscious
00:50:15adult.
00:50:15Okay.
00:50:16This does not
00:50:17apply to those
00:50:18who are mentally
00:50:19infirm or
00:50:21kids.
00:50:23Otherwise, we
00:50:23will have to
00:50:24follow this.
00:50:25Every single
00:50:26person with the
00:50:27exception of
00:50:28kids or the
00:50:30mentally unstable.
00:50:31only these two
00:50:33are exempt.
00:50:33Sure.
00:50:34Secondly, I
00:50:35would also want
00:50:35to highlight on
00:50:37one of the
00:50:38aspects she
00:50:38spoke on.
00:50:40If one person
00:50:41is at a higher
00:50:41place and
00:50:42another person
00:50:43is little lower
00:50:44than the first
00:50:45one, here the
00:50:47lower gets
00:50:48benefited and
00:50:50is also improving
00:50:51on so that
00:50:52they both are in
00:50:53the same direction.
00:50:54But then again,
00:50:54how about the
00:50:55higher person?
00:50:56That person also
00:50:57has to look
00:50:58somebody more
00:50:59higher so that
00:51:00he can be
00:51:01anchored or
00:51:03is it the only
00:51:04relationship between
00:51:05the two?
00:51:07Good.
00:51:08Yes.
00:51:09Yes, right.
00:51:10Okay.
00:51:11One arm.
00:51:14Yes.
00:51:15You must allow
00:51:17it to raise
00:51:18yourself.
00:51:19Hold the one
00:51:20who sits
00:51:21higher than
00:51:23where you are.
00:51:25And with the
00:51:25other arm,
00:51:26hold someone
00:51:27who can be
00:51:29pulled in.
00:51:29Who has to
00:51:30be pulled up.
00:51:30Sure, sir.
00:51:32Thank you so
00:51:32much.
00:51:37So these
00:51:38days, modern
00:51:39psychologists,
00:51:40they emphasize
00:51:41a lot on
00:51:41emotional
00:51:43availability and
00:51:44EQ and
00:51:46efforts.
00:51:48Efforts.
00:51:49So I feel
00:51:51that these
00:51:51things should be
00:51:52effortless.
00:51:53Like one part
00:51:53of my mind
00:51:54says it should
00:51:55be effortless
00:51:55because we have
00:51:56to focus on
00:51:57the main thing
00:51:57in our life,
00:51:58right?
00:51:58See, please
00:51:59understand,
00:52:00psychology is
00:52:01about keeping
00:52:02you functional
00:52:04and stable.
00:52:06does not
00:52:08mention at
00:52:10which level.
00:52:14Right?
00:52:15You go to a
00:52:16psychologist.
00:52:18He will
00:52:19never care
00:52:20for your
00:52:21liberation from
00:52:22your inner
00:52:23bondages.
00:52:24The psychologist
00:52:25will say you
00:52:26are alright if
00:52:27you are behaving
00:52:28alright.
00:52:30You are alright
00:52:31if you are
00:52:31behaving in a
00:52:33socially acceptable
00:52:34way, then you
00:52:34are alright.
00:52:37Which means you
00:52:38could be at a
00:52:38lower level of
00:52:39consciousness, but
00:52:40still if you are
00:52:41behaving in a
00:52:42stable, consistent,
00:52:44predictable,
00:52:45acceptable way,
00:52:46then you are
00:52:47alright.
00:52:49Then you are
00:52:49alright.
00:52:51It is not
00:52:52about elevation
00:52:55of your internal
00:52:57level.
00:52:58It is not
00:52:58about getting
00:53:00to the right
00:53:01center within.
00:53:02No.
00:53:04So when
00:53:09they say
00:53:10efforts.
00:53:11Yes, obviously
00:53:11put efforts,
00:53:13this, that.
00:53:15The entire
00:53:15thing is
00:53:16be stable
00:53:17at whichever
00:53:19level you
00:53:19are.
00:53:21Whichever
00:53:22level.
00:53:24And in
00:53:25most relationships
00:53:26that suffices.
00:53:27Does it not?
00:53:29My husband
00:53:30is an idiot
00:53:31but doesn't
00:53:33cause trouble.
00:53:34stable, stable
00:53:35idiot.
00:53:43But wisdom
00:53:45is often
00:53:46maverick.
00:53:48We would
00:53:49rather have
00:53:50a stable
00:53:51idiot as
00:53:52our partner
00:53:52than a
00:53:55maverick
00:53:56sage.
00:53:56and when
00:54:02you go to
00:54:02a psychologist
00:54:02the psychologist
00:54:04would say
00:54:05the idiot
00:54:05is alright
00:54:06because he
00:54:06is stable.
00:54:09But the
00:54:09sage, there
00:54:10is certainly
00:54:10some problem
00:54:11there.
00:54:13He is behaving
00:54:14in socially
00:54:15unacceptable
00:54:16ways,
00:54:18unpredictable
00:54:18ways.
00:54:19there is
00:54:21some problem
00:54:22with this
00:54:22man.
00:54:25So many
00:54:26great thinkers
00:54:26and philosophers
00:54:27if their
00:54:29case studies
00:54:30are presented
00:54:31to psychologists
00:54:32they will say
00:54:34this one
00:54:34is sick
00:54:36bring him
00:54:38to the
00:54:38clinic.
00:54:39In fact
00:54:39take him
00:54:40to some
00:54:40rehab.
00:54:44I have all
00:54:45the respect
00:54:45for the
00:54:46field of
00:54:46psychology
00:54:46just that
00:54:47psychology
00:54:48doesn't
00:54:49care for
00:54:50liberation.
00:54:51That's all.
00:54:53Psychology
00:54:54doesn't
00:54:54care for
00:54:55liberation.
00:54:55So when
00:54:59they say
00:54:59you have
00:55:00to put
00:55:00efforts
00:55:00in a
00:55:01relationship
00:55:01like how
00:55:02important is
00:55:03it?
00:55:03So as
00:55:04to equalize
00:55:05things
00:55:05to flatten
00:55:07the ground.
00:55:08But ideally
00:55:08we don't
00:55:09need to
00:55:09put efforts
00:55:10right?
00:55:10If you
00:55:11have to
00:55:11put in
00:55:12efforts
00:55:13they must
00:55:14arise
00:55:14from love.
00:55:17Out of
00:55:17love you
00:55:18care for
00:55:18the other
00:55:19but then
00:55:19also not
00:55:20too much
00:55:21selectively
00:55:21towards the
00:55:22other.
00:55:23In love
00:55:24obviously
00:55:24there is a
00:55:25lot of
00:55:25effort
00:55:26but those
00:55:27who have
00:55:27known they
00:55:27have said
00:55:28it is an
00:55:28effortless
00:55:29effort.
00:55:30You may
00:55:30get tired
00:55:31from the
00:55:31outside
00:55:32but it
00:55:33doesn't tire
00:55:34you down
00:55:34from the
00:55:35inside.
00:55:36So within
00:55:37it all
00:55:37happens very
00:55:38spontaneously
00:55:39therefore
00:55:39effortlessly.
00:55:42It is not
00:55:43the contrived
00:55:44kind of
00:55:44effort.
00:55:46It just
00:55:47happens.
00:55:47It just
00:55:48happens because
00:55:48it has to
00:55:49happen just
00:55:49like the
00:55:50flow of a
00:55:50river.
00:55:51There is so
00:55:52much happening
00:55:52but no one
00:55:54making the
00:55:55effort for
00:55:56it.
00:55:58And how
00:55:58important is
00:55:59emotional
00:55:59availability?
00:56:00What do
00:56:00you mean by
00:56:00that?
00:56:03Emotional
00:56:03availability what
00:56:04is that?
00:56:05Which means
00:56:05somebody comes
00:56:06to sob
00:56:07and your
00:56:09shoulder must be
00:56:09available?
00:56:11Yeah?
00:56:13Maybe being
00:56:13available.
00:56:13Be
00:56:14emotionally
00:56:16available?
00:56:17or somebody
00:56:20comes to
00:56:21dump his
00:56:22garbage?
00:56:24And you
00:56:26must vacate
00:56:27your inner
00:56:27area for
00:56:28that?
00:56:29Right?
00:56:31The kind
00:56:32of filth
00:56:33that cannot
00:56:33be disclosed
00:56:34to anybody.
00:56:35That should
00:56:35not be disclosed
00:56:36to anybody
00:56:36because it
00:56:37carries no
00:56:37value at
00:56:38all.
00:56:39But because
00:56:40you are my
00:56:40partner,
00:56:41four hours
00:56:42of your
00:56:42time I
00:56:42will eat
00:56:43up.
00:56:43just to
00:56:46unload my
00:56:47garbage,
00:56:47not unload,
00:56:49dump.
00:56:51And if
00:56:51you refuse
00:56:53to listen
00:56:54or your
00:56:56phone battery
00:56:57dies down,
00:56:59then you
00:56:59will be
00:56:59called
00:56:59insensitive.
00:57:04I am
00:57:05being
00:57:05emotionally
00:57:06open to
00:57:07you and
00:57:08you couldn't
00:57:09even keep
00:57:09a spare
00:57:10phone ready.
00:57:13every day,
00:57:15four hours
00:57:16in the
00:57:16night,
00:57:18emotional
00:57:20connectivity
00:57:20is happening.
00:57:24Every night
00:57:25without
00:57:25exception.
00:57:26And what
00:57:26is that
00:57:26about?
00:57:27You know
00:57:28when I
00:57:28was two
00:57:29years old
00:57:29then I
00:57:30had this
00:57:30trauma and
00:57:32now my
00:57:33boss,
00:57:34she is
00:57:35such a
00:57:35bitch.
00:57:40Hmm?
00:57:40And I
00:57:44hate that
00:57:45singer.
00:57:48Please
00:57:49think of
00:57:49my
00:57:49emotions.
00:57:52I'm
00:57:53just a
00:57:53little fat
00:57:54and yet
00:57:55when I
00:57:56was 12
00:57:57I was
00:57:57told by
00:57:59that
00:57:59particular
00:57:59aunt and
00:58:02I'm still
00:58:02carrying
00:58:03that.
00:58:07Please
00:58:08listen to
00:58:08all this.
00:58:10it's the
00:58:11work of
00:58:12that
00:58:12own
00:58:12individual
00:58:13to work
00:58:13on their
00:58:14own
00:58:14emotions.
00:58:15This is
00:58:16cruel.
00:58:17This is
00:58:18outright
00:58:18cruel.
00:58:19Do you
00:58:19see this?
00:58:22And the
00:58:23psychologists
00:58:23make it
00:58:24sound like
00:58:24it is a
00:58:25very basic
00:58:25thing to
00:58:26expect
00:58:27emotional
00:58:27availability.
00:58:29I don't
00:58:29feel it
00:58:29is basic.
00:58:30It is
00:58:31one thing
00:58:31to act
00:58:32as a
00:58:32mirror.
00:58:34It is
00:58:34one thing
00:58:35to be
00:58:35available
00:58:36to
00:58:36clarify.
00:58:37it is
00:58:40another
00:58:40thing
00:58:41to act
00:58:42as a
00:58:44waste
00:58:45basket
00:58:45for the
00:58:46other.
00:58:48These are
00:58:48two very
00:58:49different
00:58:49things.
00:58:49Do we
00:58:50draw the
00:58:50line?
00:58:52You come
00:58:53to me
00:58:53with your
00:58:54clutter and
00:58:54your
00:58:54confusion
00:58:55and I
00:58:56help you
00:58:58clear it.
00:58:59That is
00:58:59one thing.
00:59:00The other
00:59:00thing is
00:59:01you have
00:59:02become
00:59:02habituated
00:59:03to dumping
00:59:04your rubbish
00:59:04on me.
00:59:06Why?
00:59:06Because there
00:59:07is nobody
00:59:07in the
00:59:08universe
00:59:08who would
00:59:08listen to
00:59:09it.
00:59:10So I
00:59:10am the
00:59:10only
00:59:10unfortunate
00:59:11one.
00:59:12Because I
00:59:13happen to
00:59:13be your
00:59:14partner.
00:59:15So you
00:59:16bring all
00:59:16your
00:59:17nonsense
00:59:17and throw
00:59:19it on
00:59:19my face
00:59:19and say
00:59:21this is
00:59:22why we
00:59:23are
00:59:23emotionally
00:59:23related.
00:59:28These are
00:59:28two very
00:59:29different
00:59:29things.
00:59:31In one
00:59:32you are
00:59:33a genuine
00:59:33seeker.
00:59:34asking for
00:59:35clarity.
00:59:37In the
00:59:37other
00:59:37you are
00:59:40violent.
00:59:40You are
00:59:40cruel.
00:59:41You don't
00:59:41need clarity.
00:59:44In fact
00:59:44you want
00:59:44to drag
00:59:45the other
00:59:46down to
00:59:46your own
00:59:47level.
00:59:49What if
00:59:49the other
00:59:49is a
00:59:50writer or
00:59:50a scientist
00:59:51genuinely
00:59:52good job
00:59:54to do
00:59:54and you
00:59:56want hours
00:59:57of his
00:59:57time
00:59:58for this
01:00:01kind of
01:00:02emotional
01:00:02hobnobbing.
01:00:04and if
01:00:08it doesn't
01:00:08allot you
01:00:09that time
01:00:09you
01:00:10weep
01:00:10buckets
01:00:10and accuse
01:00:12him of
01:00:13infidelity
01:00:13surely you
01:00:15are seeing
01:00:15someone else.
01:00:23So familiar
01:00:24right?
01:00:27Even I
01:00:28know.
01:00:28we know
01:00:38what we
01:00:38are doing
01:00:39after wasting
01:00:39four hours
01:00:40of somebody's
01:00:41time and
01:00:41then we
01:00:42say I
01:00:43don't want to
01:00:43waste more
01:00:44of your
01:00:44time.
01:00:44So you
01:00:45already knew
01:00:45right?
01:00:47You already
01:00:47knew you
01:00:48were wasting
01:00:48my time
01:00:49all along.
01:00:51Now having
01:00:52wasted my
01:00:53time you
01:00:54also want to
01:00:54have the
01:00:55moral upper
01:00:55hand.
01:00:56so you
01:00:57are saying
01:00:57no I
01:00:57don't want
01:00:58to waste
01:00:58any more
01:00:58of your
01:00:59time.
01:00:59It's
01:00:59already
01:00:59been
01:01:00four
01:01:00hours.
01:01:02And I
01:01:02know you
01:01:03are not
01:01:03interested in
01:01:04listening to
01:01:04what I'm
01:01:05saying.
01:01:06Having
01:01:07robbed him
01:01:08of his
01:01:08four hours
01:01:09now you
01:01:10are accusing
01:01:11that he
01:01:12is not
01:01:12interested.
01:01:17So I'm
01:01:18disconnecting
01:01:19and if you
01:01:20really love
01:01:20me you
01:01:21will call
01:01:21me back.
01:01:21run away.
01:01:31Blog,
01:01:32D&D,
01:01:33whatever you
01:01:33can do.
01:01:39At least
01:01:40don't inflict
01:01:41this treatment
01:01:42on somebody.
01:01:44Right?
01:01:45And don't
01:01:46be so
01:01:47desirous,
01:01:48don't be so
01:01:49needy that
01:01:50you tolerate
01:01:51when this
01:01:53happens to
01:01:53you.
01:02:05For two
01:02:06hours he
01:02:07is telling
01:02:09you about
01:02:09his office
01:02:10politics.
01:02:10Nonsense!
01:02:11What do you
01:02:11have to do
01:02:12with his
01:02:12office politics?
01:02:13what elevation,
01:02:16what enlightenment
01:02:16is there in
01:02:17sharing the
01:02:19details of
01:02:19office politics?
01:02:24You know
01:02:25that
01:02:25Piyun,
01:02:26he is all
01:02:27the time
01:02:28ogling at
01:02:28the boss's
01:02:29secretary.
01:02:31What great
01:02:31revelation!
01:02:34The listener
01:02:35is now
01:02:36enlightened for
01:02:36sure.
01:02:40And you
01:02:41are sharing
01:02:41your recipe.
01:02:45You then
01:02:46put some
01:02:46methi in
01:02:47this and
01:02:48then...
01:02:50Why?
01:02:58No,
01:02:59but these
01:02:59little things,
01:03:00that's what
01:03:00is love,
01:03:00no?
01:03:01Is it not?
01:03:02No,
01:03:03sir.
01:03:03Nalpe Sukham.
01:03:12There can be
01:03:14no joy
01:03:16in
01:03:17pittiness.
01:03:23Only
01:03:24in the
01:03:25infinite,
01:03:26only in
01:03:26the
01:03:26boundaryless,
01:03:27only in
01:03:30that which
01:03:31is unbounded,
01:03:35free totally,
01:03:36there is joy.
01:03:38Yovaybhumatatat Sukham.
01:03:40Why are you
01:03:44dragging the
01:03:45other down
01:03:46to your
01:03:46petty affairs?
01:03:47First of all,
01:03:48you should
01:03:49give up
01:03:49your own
01:03:50petty affairs.
01:03:50if you have
01:04:00to share,
01:04:01share
01:04:01greatness.
01:04:04If you have
01:04:05to share,
01:04:05share beauty
01:04:06and excellence.
01:04:08Share the
01:04:09stories of
01:04:09your daring
01:04:10struggles.
01:04:14Have
01:04:14something
01:04:15that can
01:04:16inspire the
01:04:16other.
01:04:17but we
01:04:19don't have
01:04:19any of
01:04:20that.
01:04:21So what
01:04:21do we
01:04:22share?
01:04:25Today
01:04:25again I
01:04:26saw the
01:04:26peon going
01:04:27after that
01:04:27woman.
01:04:33What
01:04:33kind of
01:04:35rubbish?
01:04:39But it's
01:04:40entertaining,
01:04:41right?
01:04:41So just to
01:05:00close this
01:05:00topic.
01:05:04Okay,
01:05:05I'll just
01:05:05say it
01:05:06anyway.
01:05:07Just to
01:05:07close this
01:05:08topic,
01:05:08the ultimate
01:05:09goal should
01:05:10be to
01:05:10overcome
01:05:11the need
01:05:11of
01:05:11companionship.
01:05:13Just to
01:05:13close this
01:05:13topic,
01:05:14I'll open
01:05:14another
01:05:14question.
01:05:31Is this
01:05:32not
01:05:32company?
01:05:33Is this
01:05:33not sufficient?
01:05:35What more
01:05:36do you want?
01:05:37No,
01:05:37no,
01:05:38actually I
01:05:39got my
01:05:39answer to
01:05:39this
01:05:40question
01:05:40yesterday
01:05:40because this
01:05:42is a
01:05:42conversation
01:05:43going on.
01:05:43When you
01:05:44are with
01:05:45a book,
01:05:46when you
01:05:46are in
01:05:47your lab,
01:05:48when you
01:05:49are working
01:05:50with anything,
01:05:53right?
01:05:54You can
01:05:54be rightfully
01:05:55immersed in.
01:05:56How is that
01:05:57not sufficient?
01:05:59I am not
01:05:59talking of
01:06:00austerity or
01:06:02celibacy or
01:06:02brahmacharya here,
01:06:04none of
01:06:05those things.
01:06:07I am
01:06:07talking of
01:06:08your first
01:06:08love.
01:06:09Your first
01:06:10love has
01:06:11to be with
01:06:11this,
01:06:13with anything
01:06:14that's
01:06:16exalted,
01:06:17with anything
01:06:17that's of
01:06:18the skies.
01:06:19That has to
01:06:19be your
01:06:20first love,
01:06:21first
01:06:22relationship.
01:06:24And from
01:06:25that first
01:06:26love,
01:06:27if other
01:06:27relationships
01:06:28emerge,
01:06:29please welcome
01:06:29them.
01:06:31We are
01:06:31not talking
01:06:32of remaining
01:06:33solitary all
01:06:34life.
01:06:35No,
01:06:36no,
01:06:36you anyway
01:06:36cannot remain
01:06:37solitary,
01:06:38we are
01:06:38surrounded all
01:06:38the time.
01:06:42Do you
01:06:42get this?
01:06:43We are not
01:06:43talking in
01:06:44the traditional
01:06:45way of
01:06:46forbidding
01:06:47relationships.
01:06:48We are not
01:06:48doing that.
01:06:51What we are
01:06:52saying is,
01:06:53if you relate
01:06:54to the other
01:06:55from a false
01:06:56center,
01:06:57the relationship
01:06:57becomes a
01:06:58curse.
01:06:59and from
01:07:01the right
01:07:02center,
01:07:02your first
01:07:03relationship
01:07:04is with
01:07:05rightness
01:07:05itself.
01:07:09When that
01:07:10is your
01:07:10first
01:07:10relationship,
01:07:11all your
01:07:12other
01:07:12relationships
01:07:13fall in
01:07:15place,
01:07:17acquire that
01:07:18flavor,
01:07:18that aroma.
01:07:22That's all.
01:07:24That's all.
01:07:24I definitely
01:07:25resonate with
01:07:26this.
01:07:26Yes,
01:07:29yes,
01:07:30yes.
01:07:30We all
01:07:30are waiting.
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