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00:00You
00:04You guys gonna be okay without me
00:09I'm about to step into someone else's life. I
00:16Can't believe I get to be a real housewife. I'm having breakfast made for me sounds like a vacation
00:24We don't really have bedtimes
00:26Am I in the Twilight Zone? You must be awake no later than 5 30 a.m. You're kind of lazy
00:32I have to preserve this carpet for years
00:36Hey, only for Alita. Oh my god. That one's gonna leave a mark to ruin it. Everyone revolves around you
00:56Let's go without a schedule all things fail
01:02If you don't have a schedule, what are you doing in life?
01:04Cruz come on. We gotta be late. I'm Wendy Osefo and I'm Eddie Osefo. We have three kids
01:09Cruz pass the ball
01:11Carter
01:12Cruz
01:13But you still suck and Cameron and my Nigerian culture
01:18Education is the main focal point. I want my kids above all to be happy. So what you guys gonna learn today at school?
01:28Happy with multiple degrees
01:30I
01:32I'm pretty strict
01:34I don't like my mom's rules, but like we have to obey them. Let's do a little healthy snack
01:39Okay
01:40I don't like healthy snack. Boo
01:42I don't do chips. I don't do sugary drinks
01:45Is that what my kids? What are you eating?
01:47Chips
01:49You say that's what I'm saying
01:51I wake up first at like five. The kids are dressed by seven. They eat breakfast and are ready by 7.15
02:01Dinner between 5.30 and 6. 7 o'clock is bath time. 8.45 is prayer. 9 o'clock is bedtime
02:09Lights out!
02:11Wendy's rules for me are follow Wendy's rules. I'm pretty much her supporting staff
02:17My love of structure comes from having no structure
02:21I was a latchkey kid. My mom worked all the time
02:25I wanted to make sure that when I had kids I was more present in their life. You're gonna miss us. Of course
02:31I feel like someone is coming to take my place and that's never happened. I
02:36Think it needs to be a balance
02:38If I were to give you advice, I would say balance your schedule. There was no question that said what advice would you give me?
02:44Okay
02:45Worst-case scenario I swap lives with someone who has no rules whatsoever
02:52Yeah, count me out
02:58Hello
03:00I'd like for you to meet Breck. Ferrets are just amazing pets. The only bad thing is they're a little stinky
03:07I'm Aletha. I'm a stay-at-home mom. My husband Craig. We are college sweethearts. We have four children
03:13My oldest is Haley, then I have Dylan, Shane, and Skylar
03:22I have created the life of my dreams where I've surrounded myself by everything I love and all my hobbies
03:28We embrace a philosophy of low-demand parenting
03:32Low-demand parenting basically means empowering your children to be independent
03:37So that looks like packing your own lunches. I don't know what you want. You know what you want. You have two hands. You can do it
03:43I hate helicopter parenting hovering over your kid like
03:51Eh, eh, eh. I don't like to be a dictator to my children
03:54Okay, good luck! Cook me a delicious meal!
03:57They go to bed late, play play basketball inside
03:59We don't really have a bedtime, but we don't like stay up around like 1am or 12 or 11 on a school night
04:07A few years ago, we lived in New York. We live such an over-scheduled life. Everything had to be perfect
04:14They were booked out playdates eight weeks in advance. It was so
04:19suffocating and ultimately that led to burnout
04:24When we moved to Florida, I found another way to parent. It's way more stress-free
04:29You don't have to be scheduled and I want to share it with another family
04:33Like our mom just like does her own thing like usually like crocheting playing with the animals
04:38I wish my mom would cook dinner more often and also a mom that's not lazy
04:42I think a real housewife needs to learn about the real world how real Americans live
04:52So we're doing addition stories
04:54I know I know I know I'm practicing that at school. Okay, round up. Yes Carter Cruz pause the match
05:03So, you know, I'm going to a new family. I have no idea where they're sending me
05:09We're gonna find out together. One. Stop glazing
05:12Two, three
05:18Naples, Florida
05:20Naples, Florida
05:21You know Florida has crocodiles
05:22Crocodiles
05:23Oh
05:24It's the swamp people
05:27I'm gonna pray for you
05:28I'm gonna pray for you
05:29Welcome to
05:31Potomac, Maryland
05:33Alright, that one took me by surprise
05:36Google the cast
05:39You know how to spell it?
05:40No
05:41Are you guys gonna be okay without me?
05:43I don't know
05:44I'll be back very soon
05:45No!
05:47For luck!
05:48Bye mommy
05:49Bye mom
05:50Ciao
05:51Bye!
05:52Woo!
06:00Naples is known for his beaches
06:02But is it like Naples?
06:04Or is it like
06:06The Everglades?
06:10I'm very nervous about like the fancy factor
06:13Because that's what housewives are, they're fancy
06:16And I'm literally wearing sweatpants and a sweatshirt
06:20So we shall see
06:23Looks nice
06:24Here we go
06:37Honey
06:38I'm home
06:41Where's the furniture?
06:43Okay, there's a game zone
06:49I feel like I'm in a makeshift Dave & Busters
06:52What's going on here?
06:57So pretty!
06:59Oh, I love it
07:00A nice brick colonial house
07:04Dorothy's not in Kansas anymore
07:06She's in Maryland
07:11Hi!
07:13Oh, you look like a Pomeranian
07:15Hi baby
07:17This is Wendy's family
07:20So it looks like boy, boy, girl
07:22Amazing!
07:26Doesn't look like ball friendly in here
07:28It looks like
07:30A lot of things need to stay in position
07:32And not be broken
07:34Continue on the tour
07:35Lead the way
07:38All four kids
07:40So cute
07:43Can I go in?
07:45Can I open this?
07:47Ah!
07:48What is that?
07:49Ah!
07:50What is that?
07:52Oh, another one!
07:57Oh,
07:59Oh,
08:00What's in there?
08:01I don't even wanna see what is it?
08:02What in the Dr. Doolittle is this place?
08:12Are there animals in here?
08:14Oh, this is my room?
08:16Relax.
08:17I don't know if I'm gonna relax now with them cats running around
08:21What's this?
08:22Dear new child
08:23Dear new child
08:24The rules!
08:25Okay
08:26She didn't wanna use a computer?
08:27Okay
08:28Welcome to Casa de Osefo
08:30I want to welcome you, but also
08:32Uh-oh
08:33Goodbye
08:34Dear new mom, my animals are a big part of our family
08:37So please treat them like your fur babies
08:40Jesus
08:41Oh
08:42In this house, we don't sweat the smalls
08:43Ah!
08:44Ah!
08:45Who are you?
08:47I like dogs
08:48Come here, what's your name?
08:49I'm the new mom
08:51There is a clear schedule in this house
08:53And the schedule must be adhered to
08:55That means you, my dear friend, must be awake no later than 5.30 a.m.
09:02In this house, we don't have a lot of rules
09:04And routines are hard for us to stick to
09:06Bedtimes, chores, and homework
09:08Oh, they don't have a schedule
09:10Hmm
09:11Harder and camera need to be ready for school by 7.15
09:14House is vacuumed and organized by 10
09:18Begin dinner prep by 1
09:19Dinner served no later than 6
09:21Bath time begins at 7
09:22Night time prayers by 8.45
09:24Everyone in bed by 9
09:26Yikes
09:27We moved to Florida from New York four years ago
09:29Okay, to embrace a no-stress lifestyle
09:32Good luck
09:33There's no schedule
09:34No rules
09:35There's nothing here
09:36What am I reading?
09:38Her rules, it was almost like
09:40Down to like five-minute intervals
09:42And that is like the life I left
09:44I did that in New York
09:46So that's gonna be interesting
09:51What is this?
09:53Oh, I love it
09:57Hi
09:58Hi
09:59I'm Craig
10:00Okay
10:01This is my laundry room office
10:03Oh, okay, hi
10:04Hi, I'm Wendy
10:06So good to meet you
10:07So nice to meet you as well
10:08Are you working?
10:09Yeah
10:10What'd you do?
10:11Do some trading and some financial consulting
10:13We decided to put my office in the laundry room
10:16So I have the dual purpose of doing my full-time job and doing the laundry
10:26He's in the laundry room
10:28Like in a little nook, a corner
10:30Washer and dryer has more space than he does
10:32It does work, it works for me though
10:38What does mom do around this time?
10:40She's in her room crocheting or playing with the animals
10:43I think you met some of the cats outside
10:45How many cats is there?
10:46There's five
10:47And two ferrets
10:49And Chachilla
10:50And then we have some ducks outside
10:54Love it
10:56I wasn't expecting someone got a dress to the nines, high heels
10:59That's a bit formal for our style
11:04Come inside
11:05Hi
11:06Hello
11:07Hi
11:08I'm new mom
11:09You're a new mom
11:10I'm Aletha
11:11Can I give you a hug?
11:13What's your name?
11:14Carter
11:15Nice to meet you, how old are you?
11:16Twelve
11:17Oh nice, I have a twelve-year-old son too
11:19Oh, okay
11:20What's your name?
11:21Cameron
11:22Nice to meet you, can I give you a hug?
11:26What's up?
11:27What's up?
11:28Boys are...
11:29Boom
11:30Hi
11:32How are you guys doing?
11:33Good
11:34Oh, you guys are so cute
11:36Thank you
11:37I'm Wendy, what's your name?
11:38Shane
11:39And what's your name?
11:40Skylar
11:41Hi, Skylar
11:42Hi
11:43Hi Dylan
11:44Nice to meet you
11:45You drove yourself home?
11:46Yeah, I just came home from school
11:47Oh, that's so cool
11:49I didn't really know what I was expecting
11:50High heels, makeup, hair, everything
11:53I'm learning how to feed the animals
11:57I was just kind of taking it back
11:59Okay
12:015.30 a.m.
12:02Is that real?
12:03Your mom really wakes up at that time?
12:05Yeah
12:06Yeah, oh yeah
12:07What time do you normally wake up?
12:08Like, I don't set my alarm
12:10So is that like, uh, 6-ish?
12:14No
12:15So, morning routine?
12:16Uh-huh
12:17That's my department
12:18I get to sleep in
12:19What time does mom usually wake up, you think?
12:21Like, 12
12:24She sleeps in
12:25Every day?
12:26Yeah
12:27First thing I got as a parent
12:28I just, I filled my yard with kid toys and ATVs
12:31and all that fun stuff
12:33Is that like chaos?
12:34It is
12:35Ah!
12:36We do something called low-demand parenting
12:37So you allow them to do whatever they want to do?
12:38I kind of do, actually, yeah
12:40How do you guys feel about that?
12:41Yeah
12:42Of course you like it
12:43She's definitely way less strict than our mom
12:46Her kids have ATVs and a lot of pets
12:49Yeah, she's cool
12:50Cool
12:51So what else can I do to be like your mom today?
12:54She likes to cuddle with the animals
12:57Hmm, it's okay
12:59And her clothes are a little more like casual and like comfortable
13:06Here we go
13:07For the record, maxi dresses are super comfortable
13:10For the next 24 hours, I have to live by Aletha's rules
13:15So for now I just crochet and play with animals?
13:19Okay
13:20I'm comfortable
13:23I'm ready, I haven't changed my shoes for you
13:27A little fluffy action
13:28Good enough
13:29I mean, cooking in a suit is definitely a choice
13:36So I guess suit it is
13:38I'm nervous because I don't like to cook
13:40So I have to make a good first impression
13:42Grandma's are pressure
13:45Hi
13:46Hello
13:48This is Kwasan Cruz
13:50Hi, nice to meet you
13:51Can I give you a hug?
13:52This is Aletha
13:53Thank you
13:54Hi
13:55This is Grandma Sue
13:56Can I give you a hug?
13:57Hi, nice to meet you
13:58I would describe Wendy's mom as very loving
14:02But she's not gonna shy away from telling you her opinion
14:05Do we pray now?
14:06Or wait
14:07I'm praying
14:08I'm supposed to pray
14:09They are my children
14:12I'm gonna leave you guys to do what you do
14:14Okay
14:15And then I'll see you later
14:16I'm gonna make okra soup
14:18I've never really eaten okra
14:20So what's a typical dinner you cook for your family?
14:23Oh
14:24I didn't inherit that treat
14:26Is there anything that you want me to get started?
14:29Was the okra
14:31Okay
14:32Am I doing it right?
14:33No
14:34What am I gonna do with you?
14:38No, you're doing it too big
14:40I don't know what you're doing
14:42One, two, three, slice
14:44Even my five-year-old granddaughter knows how to cook okra more than littlers
14:49You have to get it together
14:50You have to treat it with respect
14:52Do you need help cooking with your kids?
14:55My mom comes over and teaches my daughters how to cook and my sons
14:59And you just stay in bed?
15:00Yeah
15:01What kind of person are you?
15:03Maybe she's trying to test me
15:09To break me
15:10But I will not be broken
15:12It makes me very happy
15:13Oh my goodness
15:14That she's passing on the skills
15:16And you are the bystander?
15:18Yes
15:19God help me
15:20We don't have structured bedtimes
15:24No bedtimes
15:25Jesus
15:26Oh
15:35Do you need help cooking with your kids?
15:37God help me
15:39I don't feel like you need to cook to be a good mother
15:42The best reflection of my parenting style is that I always get glowing reviews about my children
15:48They all do really well in school
15:51Even without me enforcing homework
15:53You're against me
15:54I am
15:56Oh my lord
15:57And you're taking credit for your kids coming out, right?
16:01Yes
16:02The way you, you know why?
16:03They have no choice but to work hard
16:07You're kind of lazy
16:17I'm outside, Wendy come, Hailey's home
16:19Hi
16:20How are you?
16:21Nice to meet you
16:22Nice to meet you
16:23Hi Hailey
16:24Hi Shady
16:25Come here
16:26Aww
16:27I like coming Hailey home because like she's like a second mom
16:30She'll take care of us, she'll tell us what to do and what not to do
16:33And she'll just overall guide us
16:35Welcome home
16:36Oh thank you, I hope you're enjoying the farm
16:38Oh we are loving the farm
16:40Hey boys
16:42How you doing?
16:43How's school?
16:44Who's good?
16:4510-4
16:46Hi Simon
16:47So when you guys eat dinner, where do you eat?
16:48Oh right here
16:49Here?
16:50I mean it's not always, sometimes on the couch
16:53Okay
16:54But we broke out to find China
16:55I see
16:57Yeah
16:58And you guys do phones at dinner?
17:00Yeah
17:01Yeah
17:02It works for us
17:03I have a question
17:04I have a question
17:05So you walk the dog
17:06I walk the dog
17:07You do the laundry
17:08I do the laundry, yeah
17:09He does everything
17:10But you take all the kids to their sports
17:11I do take the boys to their sports
17:13I'm like mom, she just leaves me there
17:14But mom comes to your games
17:15And she doesn't even watch them
17:16Because she doesn't watch your games?
17:18It is true
17:19I think she's on her phone
17:20Aw
17:21Aletha doesn't really alter her desires for her family
17:25Does she welcome you at the door with like a hug instead?
17:28No, she's not
17:29She's mostly on the couch most of the time
17:30At the very least you can give your children a hug
17:33Hugs are free
17:35I'm here to fill her shoes so whatever she does, I'll do
17:38Perfect
17:39Go team go
17:48All right guys
17:49We have to stick to schedule
17:51We are behind
17:52So let's clean up
17:53And we gotta
17:54Now I'm gonna pretend I'm like really stripped
17:56That's why I don't like to cook
17:58Too much work
17:59Cause she didn't do any work
18:04Okay, well it's getting dark
18:05Yeah
18:06Yeah, it's getting very dark
18:07Aw
18:08We're tired
18:09We don't really have structured bedtimes
18:12Okay
18:13We typically do our separate ways
18:16And they figure out when they want to go to bed
18:18No bed time
18:20Am I in the twilight zone?
18:21All right
18:22Good night team
18:23Good night
18:24See you tomorrow
18:25Good night
18:26Good night
18:27Ready for prayers
18:28Praise
18:29Father, Son, Holy Spirit
18:30Amen
18:31You're not kneeling
18:32You're not kneeling down
18:33Sorry
18:34Forgive us
18:35Whichever way we have sinned against you today
18:38Everything's so calculated
18:40Down to like the minute
18:41See you in the morning
18:42See you in the morning
18:43825
18:44830
18:45835
18:46Sweet dreams
18:47All right, bye
18:51Seven hours until I wake up
18:53Gotta be up at 530 on the dot
18:56God
18:57God
18:58I'm gonna die
19:10Jesus
19:11Oh
19:12God
19:30Too early
19:31Time to organize book bags and wake up the kids
19:33Rise and shine
19:36Rise and shine
19:48I'm so used to being up at 5am and getting on with the day
19:55There was no breakfast to make, no one to wake up, the kids make their own lunches
20:00Okay
20:05What did you have to do this morning?
20:07Nothing
20:08Absolutely nothing
20:10Just wake up
20:13All right, guys
20:14We're running late
20:16Hi
20:17Are you ready?
20:18Ready
20:19Stay from school
20:20Yeah, let's go
20:21As Wendy, I think Aletha is doing her best
20:24But if she's trying to fill a size nine shoe, she's about a four and a half right now
20:29Hi
20:30So you're coming with, right?
20:31Yeah, sure
20:32Okay
20:33Does she usually wear pajamas?
20:34No, she doesn't
20:41You having fun?
20:42Fun
20:43Yeah, it's a lot of work
20:44Oh, it is, it is morning
20:45It's freezing
20:46And we're running late this morning, too
20:48Yup
20:50Hi
20:51Good morning
20:52I'm just doing some homework
20:53Come sit
20:54Yeah, come sit
20:55I'm so not used to being an idol
20:56And I don't know what to do
20:58I mean, we could go downstairs and we could, um, go do the animal morning routine
21:07Parents
21:09I'll hold them back
21:11And you're gonna get the poop
21:12And you're gonna be great
21:13Okay
21:14All right
21:15And this goes in here?
21:16Yeah
21:18And you did it
21:19That was it
21:20It said
21:21That mom's job
21:22Was to do that
21:23It's, it's like five minutes worth of work
21:26Oh, Rick
21:27Bubba, why y'all moving?
21:29My rules cannot come soon enough
21:32Somebody call Delta, get my flight
21:34Get my flight
21:35Oh my God
21:37Dad
21:38Oh
21:39Chris, what are you doing?
21:40What are you doing?
21:53Time for vacuum
21:57Vacuum with heels
21:58Definitely a first
21:59Wendy is really particular about vacuuming and vacuuming in straight lines and leaving lines in order to know where you vacuum
22:17And it doesn't look like she's really focused on what she's vacuuming either
22:23It's a lot of different directions that she's going in
22:26Oh
22:27Oh
22:33Being a real housewife is a lot more work than I expected
22:38Wendy's rules just have no room for error and no room to relax
22:42I cannot wait to change the rules of the house
22:44The dog break
22:49Welcome home from school
22:50The boys are home
22:51Hey Skylar, how are you?
22:52Welcome home
22:53Hey
22:56Aw, you're really cute
22:57Aw, you have a good day?
22:59Just by her embracing her brothers, it's clear that Hailey is the mom of this house
23:06These kids, and now Hailey, need a hands-on mom
23:10I'm ready for it to be my roles
23:14All right guys, we're done with the rules
23:19So we're gonna throw them away
23:22It's time to make the big switch
23:23This is my rules now
23:24Welcome to Wendy's world
23:27Now it's my rules
23:30The first order of business
23:33Structure
23:34Family dinner at 7pm
23:36No devices
23:37No
23:40Okay, how about like should we add some more like fun
23:44Yes
23:45Some more kids stuff into it
23:47The kids have no rules now
23:49And it's gonna be okay
23:51Woosa
23:52It's fine
23:53Just keeping an eye on the kids who now have no rules
23:56It's gonna require more work
23:58Bye
23:59See you soon
24:01I don't know if I'm necessarily looking forward to that
24:03I want us to all come together
24:06And I'm going to spend one-on-one time with each of you kids
24:10Doing what you like to do
24:12Sounds great
24:13Let's do it
24:14I hope the kids get out of my new roles
24:16That with everything I do
24:18The children know
24:19That they are at the center
24:21Let's crochet in the office
24:22And they matter to me
24:24We're kind of just like creating
24:26Like a baseline
24:28Of like links
24:29Oh
24:30You're doing really good
24:32So do you do this with your mom often?
24:34Or
24:35Yeah, she taught me
24:36It was like really fun
24:38You know baby Skylar was talking about football
24:40And he was talking about how your mom really doesn't go to his games
24:45Maybe she's like a little like aloof in her own world
24:47In the sense it's like maybe she's on her phone
24:49But like when I was growing up like she was like a PTA mom
24:52Me and Dylan were in theater
24:54Yeah
24:55And she was like making the costumes
24:56So the mom you grew up with is not the mom that Skylar and Shane grew up with
25:01Like she was very type A in New York
25:03And like since moving to Florida kind of like laid back a little bit
25:07That it's kind of like two different people
25:09I'm glad that my mom honestly is not as stressed out as she used to be in New York
25:13But sometimes I would wish that my mom could be a little more present for my brothers
25:17Kind of like how I had it when I me and my sister were growing up
25:20It's so interesting because when you came home
25:22I saw the way you embraced Shane
25:25There was a sense of motherness that came with you
25:28Yeah
25:29So do you ever feel like you and your mom switch roles
25:31Like she's the child and you're like the mom
25:33I kind of like parent the kids how I want to parent my kids when I'm older
25:37Like with more structure and with more regiment
25:39Like I don't know if that makes me sound like crazy
25:41No it doesn't make you sound crazy
25:43Military person
25:44No I completely get it
25:45Hailey
25:47Has to be a mom
25:49Because her mom isn't stepping up to the plate
25:52She's only 19
25:54At this point
25:55You don't even know
25:56I don't know
25:57I was like does she know
25:58I don't know what this is
26:02Who's ready?
26:03We're gonna have fun creativity time
26:06And get a little messy
26:08A little messy?
26:09Yep
26:11This is crochet
26:13Oh I know what that is
26:14So have you ever crocheted before?
26:16Uh in my class in art I have
26:18Really? That's so cool
26:19Paint
26:20I knew it
26:21When I was trying to heal from burnout I started to craft
26:26This is about to be messy
26:29The Ocephal kids lead such a structured life
26:32I figure crafting was such a great way to just blow off some steam
26:35And have some unstructured fun time
26:37Water, soluble
26:38We'll find out
26:39We'll find out
26:40Yeah
26:41Try to make each of your loop the same size
26:44Oh my god
26:45Dad
26:46What? Oh
26:47That wasn't me
26:48Dad
26:49This is your fault
26:50Not my fault
26:51Oh my gosh
26:52Cruz
26:53Ay
26:54That one's gonna leave a mark
26:55Cruz
26:56What are you doing?
26:57I'm not taking a fall for this one
27:06Oh my god
27:07Dad
27:08Oh
27:09That wasn't me
27:10Cruz
27:11Cruz
27:12Ay
27:13That one's gonna leave a mark
27:14Cruz what are you doing?
27:15It wasn't my fault
27:16Dad
27:17How was it not your fault?
27:18Well I'm not gonna like it at all
27:20No
27:22I don't know what happened
27:23I know exactly how it happened
27:25Cruz
27:26Spilled the paint
27:28Under Alita's watch
27:29Dad's secretly dying inside
27:31Secretly
27:32Look
27:33Oh that's amazing
27:34Amazing
27:35Alisa taught me how to crochet
27:37She's fun
27:38I'm gonna show mom on my crochet work
27:41Wow
27:42Wow
27:43I wanna teach mom how to crochet
27:45You think she'll be good at it?
27:46No
27:52Get it Shane
27:53Every child wants to be seen
27:55So I wanna do what makes them happy
27:57Shane likes the beach
27:58We're going to the beach
27:59Yes
28:00Oh
28:01Dylan likes the piano?
28:03Call me Mozart
28:04Yeah
28:05Okay
28:06That sounds good though
28:07Skylar likes football?
28:08I know that's right
28:09I'm his number one cheerleader
28:10Let's go Skylar
28:11There you go
28:12Touchdown
28:13That's my baby
28:14What about like this right here?
28:16Yes
28:17So you guys are about to do this?
28:31Look how happy they are
28:33They keep almost falling
28:34Oh my gosh
28:35Thank you so much
28:39Dinner is served
28:43That's a lot
28:45This is an example of a typical night for the Shapiro's
28:50Ordering in means no dishes
28:53And that means more fun time
29:00Alright family, let's do dinner
29:03Yes
29:04Come on guys
29:05Okay, so first things first
29:06Cell phones
29:07Ooh
29:08Cell phone
29:10Cell phone
29:12Want all hands on deck in the kitchen?
29:15Graham's got the garlic bread
29:16Who wants to do the salmon?
29:18Dylan I know I can help with that
29:19Awesome
29:20Okay
29:21Close
29:22High five
29:23Wendy
29:24Yes
29:25I'm bored
29:30Come here my child
29:32Come here Shane
29:34Oh
29:35Talk to me, what's going on?
29:37I just want to go on the bus
29:38No
29:39No
29:40That's right in the thick of dinner
29:42My mom would like me
29:44Different rules
29:45Grandma said no
29:46No
29:47Dang
29:48So it's no
29:49Don't worry, you'll enjoy this
29:50This right here is an example of the lack of the structure in this house
29:53Bro, get off the table
29:55What are you doing?
29:56It does not take four degrees to understand that these kids need some rules
30:01Let's do this salmon
30:03Let's eat
30:04Let's eat
30:05Let's eat
30:06Yeah
30:07Bro, broccolini
30:08She said home cooked meal
30:09Mmm, yummy
30:11The salmon is good
30:12The salmon is very good
30:13The salmon is very good
30:14Good job
30:15If Shane likes something, he likes it
30:17Mmm
30:18When was the last time everyone set a table like this?
30:20At home, probably not since New York
30:23Really?
30:24I have really enjoyed you guys
30:26I've learned from you so much
30:29Did we meet your expectations?
30:31You exceeded them
30:32Aww
30:33I felt like you're my own
30:36Like I feel like you're my own
30:38I want to make sure you guys are okay
30:40You really listen and I really appreciate that
30:42Like you hear me
30:43We see each other
30:44Oh, that's very nice
30:46That's my girl
30:47I'm so glad you're here
30:48We're having such a great time
30:49Aww, thank you
30:50And then cross me that spaghetti
30:51There's no spaghetti grandpa's going
30:53We ate it all
30:54We ate it all
30:55Wow
30:56That's how good it was
30:57Very good
30:58We ate it all
31:01What time is it guys?
31:03I don't have much
31:04Is it like
31:05Is this usually our bedtime?
31:06We'll probably be praying
31:07I was just going to say
31:08You'd be doing your prayers
31:09But guess what?
31:10No bedtime
31:11Right?
31:12Is this more fun, Eddie?
31:13What do you think?
31:14I'm tired
31:15You're excused
31:17Alright boys
31:189.30 bedtime
31:19Goodnight
31:20Be good
31:21See you in the a.m. for breakfast
31:28Rule change went really well
31:30Here we go
31:34Low stress
31:35High energy
31:36High fun
31:37I need to get my B to rest
31:38I need to rest
31:39You see these babies?
31:42Oh my god
31:43Wendy, please come home
31:48Go to sleep
31:49Hey
31:51Hey
31:52How are you?
31:53How are you?
31:54I'm really sweet
31:55Oh
31:56Cruz did it
31:57Cruz did it
31:58That wasn't me
31:59Cruz did it
32:00Welcome home
32:03Off we go
32:07Aletha's taking us to see alpacas
32:09And I didn't take my allergy medicines
32:12That would be interesting
32:13Geez
32:14Yeah
32:15Sounds like a disaster
32:16When it happens
32:17Exactly
32:18I love finding spontaneous fun new adventures for my family
32:23There's so many other ways to enrich your life other than school
32:27Hi guys
32:28Hi
32:29Hi
32:30Welcome to Black Barn
32:31Thanks for having us
32:33Little Devonte was born 12 days ago
32:36But the alpaca's name was Devonte
32:37Yeah
32:38I want to see that one
32:41I want to see that one
32:43It's good
32:44It's good
32:45Look at that
32:46You're a pro
32:47I like feeding the alpacas
32:50Why are you taking after me?
32:51Am I your favorite lover?
32:53I'm excited for my mom to come here and feed alpacas that she might be scared
32:58I mean look at this guy, he has like boogers
33:00No
33:02Hey hey stop calm down calm down
33:03Calm down
33:05Oh my god they're busting down on my hand
33:10Is this part about bonding?
33:11Yeah
33:12Okay Shay
33:13Okay Shay
33:14Why does it just like
33:17He's just chilling, he's tired
33:21Okay
33:22Let's bond
33:23I'll hold your friends
33:25Okay
33:26It's slinking
33:27I will always remember Shayne for making me hold a fair
33:34And the only reason I held it was for him
33:38This is fun, thanks Alitha
33:42Yeah did you like it?
33:43Yeah
33:44When we get back home are you leaving?
33:46Tomorrow your mom is coming home and then I leave
33:50Oh
33:52Oh
33:53Are you guys gonna miss Alitha?
33:54Mhmm
33:55It was a fun time
33:56Yeah
33:57You guys never let us have fun
33:58We never let you have fun
33:59No
34:00Dude
34:01Once my mom comes home the rules are gonna change back and then it's gonna be boring again
34:06Do you think there is any of Alitha's rules you guys will be instituting moving forward?
34:12I've learned a few things from the Alitha's rule book
34:16You know coming out and seeing nature and the animals and spending time with the kids and outdoors and just watching them smile
34:22I think that that's something I definitely would love to implement in our household
34:25Yes!
34:28The old alpaca loves me
34:30Right
34:36You ready for some breakfast?
34:49Mhmm
34:50Yum yum yum
34:51Alright what do we have?
34:52Good morning
34:53Good morning Craig how are you?
34:55Good
34:56Today is my last day with the Shapiro family
34:58Bobo
34:59Get the hell off the counter
35:01It's been a real treat to see the way that they're all excited when I start cooking
35:08I can get used to this
35:10I hope that from this experience Craig and the kids understand that it's actually an act of love to have a schedule and to prioritize your family
35:23Come more eggs
35:24More eggs
35:25More eggs
35:26Good are the eggs good?
35:27Mhmm
35:28Thank you guys for welcoming me into your home
35:31We do appreciate everything that you brought to us
35:34We had a great time with you
35:35And I'd like to manifest that we change for the better
35:42And change for the better
35:43Yeah
35:44It's important that we remember that the moments are fleeting
35:46And there's not going to be that many of them forever
35:49So putting some of that together time back into the routine
35:52I think will go a long way to just creating even stronger bonds than the kids already have
35:58Alright guys it was so good seeing you
36:02I definitely appreciate how Wendy took the time to like learn about me and my siblings
36:07Wendy definitely went the extra mile to like be invested in our lives
36:11We kind of like embodied like a second mom
36:13Bye
36:14Bye
36:15Bye
36:16Bye
36:28Just know this is the last time you're going to be playing in the kitchen
36:30Hi
36:31Oh my god
36:33Hi
36:34Oh my god
36:35Hi
36:36Oh my god
36:37Oh my god
36:38Oh my god
36:39Oh my god
36:40Oh my god
36:41Welcome back
36:43Hi mom
36:44Hi
36:45Hi
36:46Hi
36:47Hi
36:48Hi
36:49How are you doing
36:50Wendy this is Aletha
36:52Aletha this is Wendy
36:53Hi
36:54How are you
36:55I'm green
36:56How are you
36:57Cruz did it
36:58Cruz did it
37:00Cruz did it
37:01Cruz did it
37:02Cruz did it
37:03Cruz did it
37:04Cruz did it
37:05Welcome home
37:08Welcome home
37:09Cruz did it
37:11Cruz did it
37:12Cruz did it
37:13Cruz did it
37:14I have preserved this carpet for years
37:18Spit up diaper blow ups
37:21Only for Aletha to ruin it
37:24It wasn't even my fault
37:26Zinn need to go for a walk
37:28Okay
37:29You gonna take the kids
37:30Yeah I'm gonna take the kids with us
37:31Let's have a seat
37:32Okay
37:33So I could have a better view of the spot you left on my carpet
37:35Oh god I'm nervous
37:38Would really love to know your honest opinion
37:40Did you really wake up at 5.30 a.m.
37:42Yeah I woke up at 5
37:44Wow
37:45I mean I wish I was a morning person
37:46Like it's such an amazing
37:48I'm not no
37:49Oh really
37:50I made myself a morning person
37:52Because of my kids
37:54I know
37:55But I also feel like I did that so many years
37:57I got that you do your own thing
38:00You take up space in the house
38:02And everyone revolves around you
38:05And then it really struck me
38:07Because that daughter of yours Haley
38:09Who is so amazing
38:11Thank you
38:12She gives to your other children
38:15The type of mothering that she wishes she had
38:21She said
38:22You see me
38:24I felt like that means that she has felt unseen
38:31From one mom to another
38:33Try to meet your kids where they are
38:36A part of them still wants to be seen
38:39Yeah
38:40By you
38:41Yeah
38:42I noticed that Craig takes the kids to school everyday
38:46Mhm
38:47I know he's doing what he does in the house
38:50Out of love for you
38:52I would like impart upon you like
38:55Maybe a day or two during the week
38:57Yeah
38:58Like help him out
38:59Yeah
39:00Because what I foresee happening
39:02Is you guys are going to just exchange burnout
39:05Like
39:06He also like he's a little bit of a martyr
39:08Also wait, can I say something real quick?
39:13Yeah, give it to me
39:14Because I gave it right to you
39:15I know you did
39:16Welcome to Housewives 101
39:18Okay, go ahead
39:20I think that my biggest takeaway is that the kids feel like it's too scheduled
39:24And there's not enough fun
39:27I want you to build in some more flexible free time
39:31Flexible free time
39:32So that they can find their passions, their hobbies, and they can find joy
39:38You can find joy
39:39Flexibility, fun, and free time
39:43Yes
39:44I love that
39:45Do you think that you're going to keep the basketball home?
39:48That's the first thing I'm taking down when you leave
39:50Really?
39:51It has to go
39:52There is nothing breakable
39:53Take that with me
39:54Why?
39:55What is the worst case scenario?
39:56I don't know
39:57Maybe coming home to a red carpet, Alita
40:00I don't know
40:01It'll be okay
40:02Girl
40:07But also, thank you for opening up your home to me
40:11Yes
40:12Thank you for ruining my carpet
40:14Yes
40:16My conversation with Wendy
40:17She reminded me that as much as I want to empower my kids
40:20And I want them to be independent
40:22They still need a mom
40:23They still want their mommy
40:24Hey moms
40:25Hey
40:26We're back
40:27Hey guys
40:28Alita's about to go bye-bye
40:30So I think I have a lot of work to do
40:31Being even a better team player with Craig
40:35And maybe doing a little bit more housework
40:38And I don't like that
40:39But I'll do it
40:40Bye
40:41Bye
40:42I hope you get to keep the basketball guys
40:44I really like
40:46I really campaigned for you
40:48So we'll see what happens
40:50All right
40:51Thank you so much
40:52You're so great
40:53Thank you so much
40:54Send my love to my kids over there
40:56I will
40:57Love you guys
40:58All right
40:59Thank you for everything
41:00Thank you
41:01I learned from the Shapiro family
41:02There is space to give my kids more latitude for free play
41:07I think I'll leave the basketball hoop in the kitchen for a few days
41:11By the weekend it's gone
41:13The fun time's gonna be gone
41:16Back to the rules to go
41:17I don't want your rules
41:19I want Miss Alita's rules
41:20Alita gave me this bracelet
41:22And it says
41:23It's okay
41:24You're okay
41:25Breathe
41:26Yo, how transformational
41:28It's
41:29Almost home
41:31What did you think about my eggs that I made?
41:45Our eggs that I made
41:46Oh, that was a good look
41:54You're living
41:55Oh my god
41:56You have to push in
42:01Come over
42:09Let's breathe
42:10Let's breathe
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