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00:00:00Il y a des choses qui mettent des doubts dans ma tête.
00:00:02Vous n'avez pas été ici, though !
00:00:05...et une conférence à café.
00:00:07F***, F***, vous !
00:00:08...et cause dîner-partie despair pour Maeve.
00:00:11Il n'y a pas à l'aider de m'aider encore.
00:00:14Non s'il vous plaît et de vous dire que vous l'avez et de vous.
00:00:16Hé !
00:00:18...et une échecante entrée.
00:00:19C'est bollocks.
00:00:21Oui, nous avons été intermédiaux.
00:00:22Ce n'est pas tout de suite.
00:00:24Elle a été éloignée depuis un jour.
00:00:26Et elle n'a pas changé.
00:00:27Vous avez été éloignée à toutes les filles.
00:00:29...that spoilt l'appetite de l'équipe.
00:00:32Julie Ruth, cette relation est faite.
00:00:35Je ne vais pas le faire.
00:00:36Je ne suis pas ici pour un mariage.
00:00:38Je n'ai pas besoin de faite.
00:00:40Elle est en train d'une absolue de l'expérience.
00:00:44...tonight...
00:00:46Vous aurez toujours la relation physique.
00:00:48Je suis très pleased avec ce que ça va.
00:00:50...as des couples révèlent dans leur close-ci.
00:00:52Vous avez fait le plus fabuleux de me trouver tout ce que j'ai besoin.
00:00:56...
00:00:58...
00:00:59...
00:01:00J'ai vu que Joe ne peut pas être honnête avec ce qu'il veut dire.
00:01:04Je vois Joe, si je vais vous faire tout ce qu'il me dit,
00:01:06il ne va jamais jamais croire à quelqu'un.
00:01:08C'est shit.
00:01:09Et un réconnement pour Julia Ruth.
00:01:11Je n'ai jamais entendu quelqu'un s'il y a eu et le mentiré en tout mon vieux.
00:01:16Vous n'êtes pas intéressé à votre mariage, nous tous connaissons ça.
00:01:19Comment ça ne va pas manipuler dans le groupe ?
00:01:21Devane, est-ce qu'il y a quelque chose que Julia Ruth va faire que tu ne vas pas forgive ?
00:01:25...gives Devane une décision dilemme.
00:01:27Il y a beaucoup de shit qui s'est passé cette semaine.
00:01:30...I've decided...
00:01:33...to.
00:01:44I loved the dinner party last night.
00:01:47We were close enough to the chaos,
00:01:50but far enough away to, like, not be directly involved.
00:01:53Yeah.
00:01:53It's the morning after the dinner party.
00:01:56That was the craziest dinner party we've had so far.
00:01:58Julia Ruth saying, oh, Stephen would be my type.
00:02:01Who am I emotionally and physically attracted to ?
00:02:05She chose Stephen.
00:02:08How are you feeling about going into the commitment ceremony ?
00:02:11I feel like we're going in quite strong.
00:02:12I'm just so glad that me and you are just in it together.
00:02:16I feel like me and Rhys are definitely going in the right direction.
00:02:20We're going in the low direction.
00:02:25There's quite a lot of strong couples, really.
00:02:28We might be one of the weakest.
00:02:29Yeah, I don't think it's been our best week.
00:02:35The environment this week for me has been like a pressure cooker.
00:02:38I feel like April hasn't been able to see the real me.
00:02:41I've not been able to be myself around her.
00:02:44This week has sort of made me realise I'm not really sure who Leo is,
00:02:48because he keeps telling me like he's not being himself.
00:02:50This isn't normally his personality.
00:02:53So, yeah.
00:02:55A bit confused who Leo is currently.
00:02:59Shit.
00:02:59I feel we can't seem to have a consistently good week.
00:03:06It's not that I'm tapping out or anything.
00:03:08Like, I want to work through this.
00:03:09I want to be here with you.
00:03:10I want to do this.
00:03:11I just need a bit of help.
00:03:13I really like Grace.
00:03:15We're both truly, truly working at it,
00:03:18and I think we have since the very beginning.
00:03:21We're sort of fighting for it more than anyone.
00:03:24Like, is it supposed to be this hard?
00:03:27Do you think your feelings have changed?
00:03:28No.
00:03:30No, no.
00:03:34I just want to feel that we're united.
00:03:39Mm-hmm.
00:03:42I very much still want to be here.
00:03:45I still want to make this work.
00:03:47Just because we've been in it so long now,
00:03:49and I keep waiting for the good bit.
00:03:52I really think we do have so much potential.
00:04:00My feelings are kind of coming and going,
00:04:02because we have so many roadblocks and obstacles.
00:04:06I mean, I went into last night thinking we weren't going to have problems.
00:04:18Well, we don't have any problems, but, I mean, other people try to start some.
00:04:21What's pissed me off is I do feel like we had a nice week,
00:04:24and then Julie-Roof's just done that mad spin-off,
00:04:27and it's like, put a dampener on it, or she's tried to put a dampener on it.
00:04:30The drama that was happening between her and Devani,
00:04:31she's just tried to deflect to make it about me and you.
00:04:33I don't think Julie-Roof is here for the right reasons.
00:04:37I feel like she has made us all aware of the fact
00:04:40that she doesn't see a future with him.
00:04:42She doesn't find him attractive.
00:04:44It just doesn't seem legit to me.
00:04:46So I think she's just here to stay in the experiment.
00:04:49I do believe that Devani's feelings for Julie-Roof are real,
00:04:53and I feel like they have been from the beginning,
00:04:54but I do feel like everything that Julie-Roof is saying now at this point is bollocks.
00:04:58We listen.
00:04:59And we don't judge, apparently.
00:05:03Has Devani just thrown in the biggest curveball ever,
00:05:07showing solidarity to say, face it,
00:05:09and then waiting to be in front of the experts to say,
00:05:12actually, no, I'm leaving?
00:05:13No, I imagine.
00:05:14Because that, I think, would throw everyone off.
00:05:16I'd be sitting there in my popcorn if I could.
00:05:19Last night's dinner party was full of drama.
00:05:23I think a lot of the focus was on Julie-Roof and Devani.
00:05:27So what did Julie-Roof get asked?
00:05:29Is there anyone else you're emotionally and physically connected to?
00:05:33An experiment.
00:05:37It's a bit much that.
00:05:40I told you, didn't I, a couple of days ago, I was like, I have a sneaky feeling.
00:05:43You are her type, and I just thought, she's going to say his name, I know she is,
00:05:47and then obviously she said it.
00:05:48Julie-Roof definitely fancies Stephen.
00:05:51I mean, so do I, but, like, you're not emotionally connected to him.
00:05:55You don't know him like I do.
00:05:57You don't have pillow talk at night with him like I do.
00:05:59As long as she doesn't act on it, whatever.
00:06:07How are you feeling after last night?
00:06:09I'm mentally and emotionally drained.
00:06:13I don't really have much to say.
00:06:14Kind of left me speechless last night.
00:06:16I heard from pretty much everyone, to be fair, all the stuff that Julie-Roof has been saying.
00:06:22It wasn't easy to hear, for sure.
00:06:24Especially since we have actually been progressing.
00:06:28Last night's dinner party felt like a slaughter.
00:06:32It felt like meat and a pack of wolves.
00:06:34It felt like a feast.
00:06:35It felt like the Hunger Games.
00:06:36But I'm really proud that I didn't lose my temper.
00:06:39I listened to try to get my word in, even if they didn't want to listen.
00:06:42I'm just proud of how I handled myself last night.
00:06:47They were surprised about the 180 switch.
00:06:50It's not a 180.
00:06:51We have been fighting for a while.
00:06:53We always come back.
00:06:54So if we have arguments, take time apart, and come back together, it's nothing new.
00:06:58They're looking into it, thinking, and obviously questioning if it is real.
00:07:08The word fake was thrown out.
00:07:10By Kiyo.
00:07:12I think it's hard for Kiyo to champion our relationship because he had made that mutual pact to not tell anyone until we were both ready to do it together as a team.
00:07:28For me personally, it was a heavy toll.
00:07:40It's all about how we go through this commitment ceremony, to be fair.
00:07:44My decision today is not based on the opinions of other couples in this experiment.
00:07:50It's based on the progression of Devanya and I.
00:07:53If we can move past trust being broken on both ends of our relationship.
00:07:59I feel like going to the commitment ceremony today that Devanya has more people on his side.
00:08:07When I'm sitting on that couch today, I really just don't want to hear it from them.
00:08:13Our relationship has progressed.
00:08:15It is actually about you and me behind closed doors.
00:08:20Respect is a huge thing for me.
00:08:22Once you start disrespecting someone over and over again, it becomes a habit.
00:08:27If it continues, then obviously that's just behavior that I'm just not going to stand here for.
00:08:32I'm really not sure what I'm going to do tonight.
00:08:34I'm really not sure what I'm going to do tonight.
00:09:04Welcome to the fourth commitment ceremony.
00:09:24After what sounds like an intense week for many of you.
00:09:28We're now over halfway through the process.
00:09:31And as you head towards taking these relationships to the outside world,
00:09:35it's time to take a long, hard look at your marriages.
00:09:41So, let's begin.
00:09:47First up on the couch, Leisha and Reese.
00:09:56Good to see you.
00:09:57Hello.
00:09:57Good to see you.
00:09:58Reese, it looks like when you sat down, you did a slide over to the side.
00:10:04Getting comfortable.
00:10:05Yeah, yeah.
00:10:05You need space.
00:10:06No, no, no.
00:10:07You need the space.
00:10:10I'm curious, what is life like in the Leisha-Reese household?
00:10:13Chilled.
00:10:14Yeah, chilled.
00:10:15We like watch films, like home cooking.
00:10:18I love that he's like enjoying my food because it's like a big part.
00:10:20Very good cook.
00:10:21Yeah.
00:10:22Very good cook.
00:10:22We just like chat.
00:10:23Well, I chat.
00:10:24He listens, so.
00:10:25I'm a good listener, so.
00:10:28Okay.
00:10:29If you were to categorize the satisfaction of your relationship from zero to ten, with ten
00:10:34being Rebecca Bailey satisfaction.
00:10:36Yeah.
00:10:37I would say seven.
00:10:38Ten.
00:10:39Oh.
00:10:41Okay.
00:10:42So, it's a seven.
00:10:43Mm-hmm.
00:10:44Leisha, where do you think the improvement could be?
00:10:46What brings you to a ten?
00:10:47Obviously, he needs to open up a lot more.
00:10:50He needs to be a little bit more vulnerable.
00:10:52Cuddling, kissing, that's there, but.
00:10:55One of the things was, I'm not spontaneous enough.
00:10:59In the bedroom.
00:11:02Okay.
00:11:02We've got routines.
00:11:05If I can ask, what's the routine?
00:11:08It's a bedtime.
00:11:12We get to it, like, say, in the evening, whereas I think Leisha wants it a little bit
00:11:17more, I don't know, lunchtime, morning, like, any time she gets it, you know?
00:11:21Are you okay?
00:11:23It's still happening.
00:11:23Why during meals?
00:11:24It's still happening in the evening.
00:11:27In bed, that's the comfy spot, right?
00:11:29You know, it's not even always lights out.
00:11:31It's just a comfy spot.
00:11:33Okay.
00:11:34What I hear you saying is then you prefer to have sex in the evening at the end of the
00:11:39day.
00:11:39End of the day.
00:11:39Perfect way to finish the day.
00:11:41Right?
00:11:42Yeah.
00:11:42Okay, all right.
00:11:43But Leisha, do you feel like you desire to have sex at a higher frequency than Rhys?
00:11:48Yeah.
00:11:50If I feel like I want to do it, I'll just do it.
00:11:52Or, like, if we wake up in the morning, we'll just do it.
00:11:54But Rhys is like...
00:11:55I'll schedule it in.
00:11:57You're scheduling it?
00:11:57Yeah.
00:11:58Okay.
00:11:59I feel like when you start doing, like, routines and that, it can get quite, like...
00:12:02It gets boring?
00:12:03Yeah, a little bit.
00:12:04And obviously, like, we're still so new to each other and, you know, like, it's just
00:12:08trying to make things spicy and open things up a little bit more and hopefully it will
00:12:12just bring us closer together.
00:12:14That's the kind of end goal, really.
00:12:16I'll be honest.
00:12:17Like, Leisha's sex drive is a lot higher than mine.
00:12:20I'm human, right?
00:12:21I'm not a machine.
00:12:21But I suppose what's important, though, Leisha, is to allow for the emotional relationship
00:12:32to develop here.
00:12:34Because I think it's when it's at a stage where you are really close, where you've known
00:12:38each other for maybe a longer period of time, maybe then you might want to take it to the
00:12:42next step and kind of reignite the intimacy in a different way.
00:12:47I just want to go, like, deeper with Rhys.
00:12:49You know, all my life I feel like it's always been quite superficial and, like, that's not
00:12:53really what I want.
00:12:55Emotional connection.
00:12:56This is the key.
00:12:58You will have a higher satisfaction level in sex the stronger your emotional connection.
00:13:03This is something that we need to continue to work on.
00:13:05You rated the relationship a seven.
00:13:07So that means that it is mostly all good.
00:13:10Yeah.
00:13:11So are you happy with where the relationship is going?
00:13:16I would say yes.
00:13:18All right.
00:13:19All right.
00:13:19This is good.
00:13:20So now let's go to a decision.
00:13:22Leisha, ladies first.
00:13:23I'm really enjoying, obviously, getting to know Rhys.
00:13:26I have got very strong feelings for Rhys, to be honest.
00:13:30I just want a little bit more reassurance, if you can.
00:13:34Let's try and experiment with each other and just, like, get to know each other.
00:13:37I'm happy where things are going, so I'm going to stay.
00:13:42Thank you.
00:13:46So, yeah, I'm enjoying waking up with Leisha.
00:13:49I'm enjoying chilling with Leisha.
00:13:50I'm enjoying eating your food.
00:13:52I'm enjoying connecting to you more and more.
00:13:54So for that reason...
00:13:56Stay.
00:13:57Stay.
00:13:57Stay.
00:14:02All right.
00:14:03So next week, when you come back, I would love if you could report where you feel with
00:14:08with regard to your emotional safety with each other.
00:14:10Okay.
00:14:10That sounds good.
00:14:11Is that fair?
00:14:12Yeah.
00:14:12All right.
00:14:12Thank you.
00:14:20Next up to the couch.
00:14:21Lee and Lea.
00:14:24We've had a really lovely week, to be honest.
00:14:38I don't know what you did to her brain last week, but you've done something right.
00:14:43There's been a huge shift in her vulnerability.
00:14:47I just felt more open to Lea and the fact that I've just been trying to be in the moment and
00:14:53not be in my head and think too much about what the future looks like and just enjoy the
00:14:59feelings as they come in the moment.
00:15:00And by doing that, it's just made us closer and more susceptible to things progressing.
00:15:07And I understand, Lea, that you organised a date for Lea.
00:15:11Lea, what was that like for you to go on this beautiful date?
00:15:14It was really cute.
00:15:15She had all of my favourite things.
00:15:17She had, like, my favourite chocolate, flowers, the colours from our wedding.
00:15:20She does put a lot of thought into the things that she does for me and it means a lot.
00:15:24Can you tell me a little bit more about intimacy and taking things to the next level?
00:15:27Had Mother Nature not have knocked on the door for both me and Lea this week, I think
00:15:33things probably would have progressed in that area.
00:15:37Lovely.
00:15:38Excellent.
00:15:38This is good.
00:15:39This is good.
00:15:39OK.
00:15:40Now, of course, we heard that at the dinner party about the transition, the shift being
00:15:46fake, not being very genuine.
00:15:48Lea, what are your thoughts on that?
00:15:50It's just a shame that that happened because we come into the dinner party yesterday off the
00:15:54back of a really nice week where we feel like we'd really actually made progress.
00:15:58And then to have that, it was just like...
00:16:01It's tarnished the week.
00:16:02Yeah, it's just shit.
00:16:05I think at this point, Julia Ruth's been called out for so many lives that she's backed into
00:16:11a corner and all she's trying to do is change her narrative.
00:16:14I didn't even want to bring this to the couch.
00:16:15I didn't want it to get angry on the couch.
00:16:17I wanted to talk about, like, how good we've been this week.
00:16:19But it's pissed me off.
00:16:22We do listen to the feedback from other people.
00:16:25But ultimately, you know the truth.
00:16:27Feedback is fine.
00:16:28But lies is not fine.
00:16:30But what's really important is that the two of you communicate that you are good.
00:16:35And it sounds like you've had a phenomenal week.
00:16:38Probably the best week we've had.
00:16:39I just think, like, with me, like, I know that you care about me as a person and I hope
00:16:52that you know that I feel the exact same about you.
00:17:00I just feel really grateful for you.
00:17:03It sounds like the two of you are in a really good place.
00:17:10Let's go to a decision.
00:17:12Leah, what's your decision?
00:17:14I feel with Leah, we have definitely connected on a totally different level than I've ever
00:17:19had before.
00:17:20And it's gone to a different point now.
00:17:24I'm now at that level where it could blossom.
00:17:29So, for that reason, we'll stay.
00:17:32I just feel like, as a partnership, we feel really strong at the moment.
00:17:45And we've made a lot of progress this week.
00:17:47And I want to continue to make that progress and see where this can go and just be in it
00:17:53with you.
00:17:53And I know I wouldn't want to be doing this with anyone but you.
00:17:59For that reason, I chose to stay.
00:18:02Have fun this week.
00:18:10Thank you.
00:18:11Thank you.
00:18:11Next up to the couch, if we could have Rebecca and Bailey.
00:18:30Come on, buddy.
00:18:34Welcome.
00:18:35Welcome to you both.
00:18:36Hello.
00:18:37Thank you so much.
00:18:38How are we doing?
00:18:39We're good.
00:18:40Good, yeah.
00:18:40Good.
00:18:41Bailey, did you sew those sleeves?
00:18:44Did you?
00:18:45Did you?
00:18:46Not tight enough because I keep falling down.
00:18:48Sorry.
00:18:48All right.
00:18:48So now, we finally had some real conflict.
00:18:54Yes, Paul.
00:18:55What happened?
00:18:56So, we did the spa day, the drinks day.
00:18:58So, I was on the spa day.
00:18:59Bailey was on the drinks day.
00:19:00And one of the questions that we got in the golden envelope was, who do you have a crush on in
00:19:06the group?
00:19:07I said, well, you know, Bailey isn't typically my type.
00:19:11If we look at someone like Joe, PT, tattoos, blue eyes, he looks like the last person that I dated.
00:19:20We don't have a pact, but we have, like, an unspoken agreement.
00:19:23We're in this little bubble together, and when these things try and infiltrate our bubble, we always have, like, the utmost respect for each other.
00:19:29And he knows that if he did mention somebody else's name, it probably upset me and vice versa.
00:19:33It blew up, didn't it?
00:19:36And we argued about it because I'd broken what we had agreed.
00:19:40How did you deal with it?
00:19:42I felt Bailey was very dismissive.
00:19:44He wouldn't look at me.
00:19:47I went over to him to touch him.
00:19:49I was pleading with him.
00:19:50I apologized over and over.
00:19:52Okay.
00:19:53So, there was a boundary in place.
00:19:54Yeah.
00:19:55Bailey, you respect the boundary.
00:19:57Yeah.
00:19:57In the moment, did you feel like you were respecting the boundary or that you broke the boundary?
00:20:02In the moment, I didn't realize that I was breaking the boundary.
00:20:07Now, when you two come together and you see Bailey's reaction, do you then feel like you crossed the boundary?
00:20:15Oh, 100%.
00:20:15I'm not really a jealous person, but it was the fact that I was like, how do I answer these questions going forward now?
00:20:21How's she going to answer them?
00:20:22I feel like I'm lost now.
00:20:23Is that why you two chose not to stay in the same apartment that night?
00:20:28Which was hell.
00:20:29How did you eventually resolve or have you not resolved?
00:20:34I asked Beck, would you be happy if I answered that question?
00:20:36And she said no.
00:20:37So, I said, okay, how do we move forward then?
00:20:39I'm still happy to dodge these questions.
00:20:41I just need to know that you'll do the same.
00:20:43Yeah.
00:20:43And Beck said, yeah.
00:20:44And then for that was the moment when I was like, okay, the bubble isn't burst.
00:20:47We still have our pact.
00:20:49This is just a small blip.
00:20:50It's not like anyone did anything that bad.
00:20:52Being away from him was, yeah, it was awful.
00:20:54So, I do think it's made us stronger.
00:20:56It's made us closer.
00:20:58But just gave me like a wake-up call of what life will be like if Bailey's not there every night.
00:21:04I missed her.
00:21:06Made me realise that although we got over our first argument, I don't want to be arguing all the time.
00:21:09I think the myth is that conflict is bad in relationships.
00:21:14But as you go through conflict, you learn resolution of the conflict.
00:21:20And inevitably, that makes couples come together stronger.
00:21:25I'm worried that if it doesn't work and we can't make it work, that I'll be left.
00:21:33I'm going to cry.
00:21:33That I'll be left where I was before, heartbroken, because then he's not in my life anymore.
00:21:45There's so many reasons to be unsure.
00:21:47And that's what was blocking me to tell Bailey that I loved him and why I just couldn't take that next step.
00:21:57That's what was blocking me from saying it.
00:21:59Oh, hey!
00:22:03I do love you.
00:22:15I love you loads.
00:22:17I love you too.
00:22:17It's beautiful.
00:22:24I love that you took your time.
00:22:26Yeah.
00:22:27And I love that eventually...
00:22:29I feel like I'm interrupting.
00:22:31I'm getting very distracted.
00:22:32I'm sorry.
00:22:33I'm interrupting you two.
00:22:33I'm back in the room.
00:22:34Oh, Paul.
00:22:35I'm back in the room.
00:22:36I'm sorry.
00:22:37We have nothing to talk about.
00:22:40Can we go to a decision?
00:22:41Yeah.
00:22:42I have felt you've just grown closer and closer this week.
00:22:45And it is really nice to hear you say it and tell me that you're in love with me as well.
00:22:48So, not a doubt in my mind that I'll be...
00:22:50Oh, I'm staying.
00:22:54I'm staying.
00:22:54It feels good.
00:22:55Yeah.
00:22:56Yeah.
00:22:57Yeah.
00:22:58Yeah.
00:22:59It feels good.
00:23:03Doesn't it?
00:23:03And you know what?
00:23:04And that feeling doesn't have to end.
00:23:06Yeah.
00:23:06Yeah.
00:23:06That's the beauty of it.
00:23:07It doesn't have to end.
00:23:08Thanks very much.
00:23:09Cheers, guys.
00:23:10Thank you.
00:23:10Thank you.
00:23:11I've waited patiently to hear those words, and it was very much worth the wait.
00:23:19It was really nice to hear, yeah?
00:23:22Love you.
00:23:23I feel like you're milking it now.
00:23:25I'm going to milk it.
00:23:30Next up to the couch, if we could have...
00:23:33Grace and Ashley.
00:23:36Thank you.
00:23:41So, this week, love, hate.
00:23:49That's a good way of saying that.
00:23:50How did the week go for you?
00:23:55So, we had a bit of an incident, and I kind of felt sideswiped with something that happened.
00:24:02It caught me off guard, and I think maybe for the first time I had, like, a wall go up.
00:24:08Let's unpack what happened.
00:24:10So, two of my hates were relevant to what happened.
00:24:13So, one was, I hate when you make jokes that paint me in a bad light.
00:24:18And one was, I hate when there's an altercation or a dispute.
00:24:23It's usually something I've done wrong or interpreted wrong or taken badly.
00:24:27And so, in the discussion, I used a very recent example that had happened that day.
00:24:35Ash took issue with the example I used.
00:24:38We'd had a drunken tiff, a dispute.
00:24:41We kind of just squashed it.
00:24:42I think we both agreed it was just not really, like, worth making more of.
00:24:45But then, when summarizing that to others, Ash's summary was, Grace was being a bit of a dick.
00:24:52So, I used that as, like, one of the jokes that paint me in a bad light.
00:24:58He says, I reacted and I laughed, and I should have called him out for it there and then if it upset me.
00:25:03But either way, if I'd have called it out, I think Ash would have told me to lighten up and it's just a joke.
00:25:08Or, he would have said, laugh it off, be playful.
00:25:12My understanding is that Ash feels that was calculating of me, that I twisted it, that I'm trying to put him in a bad light.
00:25:26Is that fair? That's about the long and short of it.
00:25:29I felt betrayed in that moment.
00:25:33It hit me bad.
00:25:34Honestly, I didn't know how to deal with it.
00:25:37And I was just so caught up and sort of spinning in my own head and thinking, what am I doing here?
00:25:43I've struggled with it.
00:25:47Like, from the very beginning, I've had to prove my character, prove my character, prove my character.
00:25:53It's like a banter thing.
00:25:55You give it to get it, whereas I give it and then it affects, and I'm not used to that.
00:26:01Do I want to change that part of me?
00:26:07I've found it hard to kind of bounce back from that.
00:26:09It's made me relive and rethink about everything.
00:26:11I think I've thought I might be a month off here.
00:26:16So you think you were reconsidering your marriage?
00:26:19So you think you were reconsidering your marriage?
00:26:38I wouldn't say reconsidering the marriage.
00:26:50I went in to kind of dissect it.
00:26:54I just want to be really clear.
00:26:56I come from an Aussie family.
00:26:59Banter's not off limits.
00:27:01We do have jokes, and they're funny, and they're thoughtful.
00:27:04Like, but your jokes are usually relating to actual problems that we're having that are not funny to me.
00:27:10When you say things that are actually, like, upsetting, there is a difference.
00:27:14Can I share an observation?
00:27:17The two of you use humour a lot in your communication, and I wonder if it's worth reflecting on whether each time you inject humour in,
00:27:29it's for the sake of humour and levity and playfulness and fun, or is it as a bit of a defence mechanism?
00:27:35Could you be using humour as a way to sort of deflect from the issue or to protect yourself or to gloss over something that's going on?
00:27:45100% in my case, I think.
00:27:47And I think the reason we're picking up on this is because the humour's not landing with you guys.
00:27:52And you are both genuinely funny people, and this was one of the reasons that we were so excited about you as a match.
00:27:58You do share that humour.
00:28:00But this is happening at the moment.
00:28:03So I wonder if it's just worth, not now, but, you know, during the week, having a bit of a conversation about what role does humour play in our communication?
00:28:12Where do we want to use it?
00:28:13And where will we not use humour?
00:28:16For example, if we are having one of those more difficult conversations, let's not use the throwaway line or a bit of sarcasm.
00:28:22Let's keep that out of it for now, because it's being misinterpreted between the two of you, and it's doing some damage.
00:28:28Yeah, I agree.
00:28:30Okay, good.
00:28:31I second that.
00:28:32Excellent.
00:28:33All right.
00:28:34I'm curious.
00:28:35Who's funnier between the two of you?
00:28:37Me, obviously.
00:28:41This is very resolvable.
00:28:45It's a little hot right now, but it's very resolvable.
00:28:47Okay.
00:28:48Can we go to a decision?
00:28:51Ashley?
00:28:52Yeah, I'm in this.
00:28:53I've said that from the very beginning.
00:28:54I do find it hard at times, and I know you do as well, but I feel like every time we work through something, we are so much stronger when we come out the other side.
00:29:04So this could be absolutely amazing.
00:29:06So I'm going to say stay.
00:29:10What you guys are describing is what I want.
00:29:23I want us to attack problems together.
00:29:25I want us to use humor appropriately.
00:29:29I do want that.
00:29:31I want to do the work.
00:29:32Let's actually do the work.
00:29:33Let's do it.
00:29:37Stay.
00:29:38Thank you both.
00:29:44All I have to say is do the work.
00:29:58Next up to the couch, Nelly and Steven.
00:30:05Hi.
00:30:06Hello.
00:30:06Good to see you.
00:30:08Really nice to see the two of you.
00:30:10How are you both doing?
00:30:12Good.
00:30:13I feel like it's been a really positive week for us.
00:30:15With the commitment ceremony last week, I think I just felt in that moment that I probably didn't support Steven as much as I should have.
00:30:23I wish I said at the time that I don't think Steven ever did any of that intentionally.
00:30:26I think, like you said, it was a good person with bad behavior at that time.
00:30:29Well, it sounded like it generated conversation between the two of you to establish what you both want and don't want in the relationship and what is actually happening here.
00:30:39It kind of prompted those conversations to have and the timing with the love-hate was just perfect.
00:30:45When it comes to the like side of things, I was able to go into more detail as to why I love certain things about her.
00:30:50I know it hasn't been easy for you in terms of some of the feedback that you've received, but it sounds like you've really reflected on it.
00:30:58The natural side of things has come back out, like, I know we joke about, like, give me a smooch and stuff, and you're like, if you want to just kiss me, just grab my face and kiss me.
00:31:05So I do.
00:31:06Just do it.
00:31:07I'm like, come here.
00:31:12This week, I think, before, I didn't have the safe space to be myself.
00:31:15I honestly feel like you've created that, so I'm just going to be me, and if you don't like it, fine.
00:31:19I'm sure you will.
00:31:20And that sounds amazing.
00:31:21It sounds like the two of you have really grown over the last week.
00:31:25I feel like this is a different couple that we're seeing.
00:31:27Very much so.
00:31:28Any worries or concerns that you have?
00:31:30So.
00:31:33What I've heard, what Julia Ruth has been saying in the last week about Stephen, when that was brought up yesterday at the dinner party, I did make a bit of a light joke about it.
00:31:42But Stephen's always made me feel quite secure that he's not interested in looking at other people.
00:31:46I mean, I was shocked to hear my name come out yesterday.
00:31:50It's been a start.
00:31:51Nearly choked me red wine when I heard my name.
00:31:53But I was always going to reiterate, I'm a one-girl guy, and I'm married to Nelly.
00:31:57That'll be the same.
00:31:58I'll always work on a marriage with Nelly, and I'm only interested in Nelly in this whole experiment.
00:32:02I had a weird gut feeling that it was going to happen, and I said it to you.
00:32:06It sounds really petty, this, but not dinner party this time, the dinner party before, she'd just laugh a little bit too loudly.
00:32:14Just, you know, little things like that, or hold eye contact for a bit too long.
00:32:18I thought Nelly had been crazy, but it's transpired that after last week's commitment ceremony, she'd met some people from the group and said that she'd really fancied Stephen, and that she needs to stay for two more weeks because she hopes she gets in for partner swap.
00:32:35That's just not right at all.
00:32:41Let me finish.
00:32:42Everyone was doing a huge X, Y, Z.
00:32:43Julia Ruth, let me finish.
00:32:45There was a group of us.
00:32:47Julia Ruth brought up that she wanted to couple swap, ideally with Stephen.
00:32:51How can, at one moment, you be giving me advice as a friend and making sure that I'm okay, but then in that same sort of day, a few hours later, telling people that you fancy Stephen and you've got to stay in the game for two weeks so that you can couple swap with him?
00:33:04Jesus fucking Christ.
00:33:08Who does that?
00:33:09It blows my mind.
00:33:11I haven't had more than six conversations with Stephen.
00:33:13The honesty box came up, and I answered it, so, okay, fine, I dug myself a grave, but, like, it's...
00:33:18Yeah, I don't know.
00:33:27Can I please, like, I can't do this anymore.
00:33:31Okay.
00:33:32That's fair.
00:33:33It's just not fucking fair.
00:33:35It's just too much, honestly.
00:33:39Irrespective of comments that come in, the two of you are very solid, and that's really beautiful to see.
00:33:45We finally said, look, we're going back to day one, when we first met.
00:33:50We have allowed ourselves to be more fun, because that's the Nelly I loved from the wedding.
00:33:56Stephen, did I hear you say that that's the Nelly that I love?
00:33:59I just wanted to make sure.
00:34:00Yeah, we heard that.
00:34:01Yeah, you heard that, yeah.
00:34:04When I spoke to you, Mel, like, it was always, I want someone just to be them.
00:34:08Be comfortable to be yourself at all times.
00:34:11Keep doing you.
00:34:11Sounds like the two of you are in a really good place, so it's so lovely to see this.
00:34:20Let's go to the decisions.
00:34:22After a rocky couple of weeks, I feel a lot more secure.
00:34:27I feel like I'm myself again.
00:34:29I can be fully myself, so thank you for allowing me to do that.
00:34:31But I am really looking forward to seeing how we can get deeper and more connected from here.
00:34:39For that reason, I have decided to stay.
00:34:41We've made a hell of a lot of progress in a week.
00:34:50I think, obviously, I'm very happy with the space you've created for me, how caring you are as a person, how you're putting me first, which is crazy to me to even think about someone else does that for me.
00:35:02So, yeah, like, it was probably the easiest decision I've made for a long time.
00:35:08For me, it's stay.
00:35:14It is just so wonderful to see where the two of you have arrived.
00:35:19You know, looking at the journey over the last few weeks, it's been so tough for both of you.
00:35:24So good on you.
00:35:25Thank you so much.
00:35:26Thank you.
00:35:27Thank you so much.
00:35:28Thank you.
00:35:38Our next couple on the couch, Abigail and John.
00:35:47Hi.
00:35:48Hello, you two.
00:35:50Welcome.
00:35:51Thank you.
00:35:52You've had a love-hate week.
00:35:54How's it been?
00:35:55I did find it hard trying to find anything I hate about John.
00:35:59I really had to kind of, you know, think things that we could potentially, like, improve, like, as a couple.
00:36:05Such as?
00:36:06He does, like, doubt himself.
00:36:07So I just wanted him to kind of know what an incredible, like, guy he is.
00:36:12And I wanted him to kind of see what I see.
00:36:16And also, I see an absolutely incredible lady looking back at me.
00:36:20And I want her to know that she is an incredible lady.
00:36:22It's interesting to hear you both reflecting back to each other that you think each of you could have a little more confidence or a little more self-belief.
00:36:31Yeah, it's nice that we can be so open and honest with our communication, because I think, honestly, that's what's made us, like, become, like, so strong as a couple.
00:36:39Even if, you know, we do kind of have bumps in the road, like, I'm not worried anymore, because I know that we can just communicate effectively and just, like, talk about it.
00:36:47Honestly, everything's so good.
00:36:55I have fallen for Abby.
00:37:00So, yeah.
00:37:06Wow.
00:37:07Abby, how does it feel to hear that?
00:37:09Like, amazing.
00:37:10It's just so nice to hear, and it just puts me at ease, because, like, I tell you all the time, I've not felt this way about someone before.
00:37:17And I get scared, because I'm like, is this normal?
00:37:19Like, am I okay to have these feelings so early on?
00:37:22When I've asked my friends in the past, like, how do you know when someone's right for you?
00:37:27They're like, you just know.
00:37:32Now I understand what they mean.
00:37:36I just know.
00:37:37Well, it sounds like you're certainly making lots of progress in terms of that emotional connection.
00:37:51What's happening physically?
00:37:52We definitely have the physical connection as well, so I'm very, very pleased with how that's going.
00:37:58And that's another thing, like, weirdly, we spoke about this.
00:38:02We spoke about the physical connection before the physical connection.
00:38:05Why do you say weirdly around that?
00:38:08I've never had those conversations before about, like, what I like in the bedroom, what I don't like in the bedroom.
00:38:13We've had those conversations before doing the thing.
00:38:16I think Sharlene's going to give you a gold star.
00:38:19But it is very healthy to have the conversations beforehand about what you like, what you enjoy, what you don't like, what your boundaries are.
00:38:25You know, and I think for so many couples, they don't have those conversations, and then problems arise later on down the line.
00:38:31So it's very healthy to hear you say that.
00:38:33Thank you.
00:38:34Good stuff.
00:38:35All right.
00:38:35Well, I think we'll go to a decision.
00:38:37Great.
00:38:37My feelings, yes, just keep getting stronger, stronger for you.
00:38:42And I couldn't have asked for, like, a better man, better husband.
00:38:46So that's why I have decided to say...
00:38:51Stay.
00:38:57Beautiful.
00:38:57And to you, John.
00:38:58I'm having the absolute time of my life, and I just love that I'm having the time of life with Abby.
00:39:03We're already looking beyond, and I'm really, really excited for what that holds for us.
00:39:08So with that in mind, I've decided to stay.
00:39:11Wonderful.
00:39:11Well, thank you both so much.
00:39:19We are so pleased with the progress you're making.
00:39:22Keep going.
00:39:23Thanks.
00:39:24Thank you.
00:39:30How cute are you, is mine?
00:39:34Next up on the couch tonight...
00:39:38Maeve.
00:39:39Woo!
00:39:40Hello, beautiful.
00:39:45How are you? It's all right?
00:39:46So sorry to see you on this couch alone again.
00:39:49It's not ideal, but...
00:39:52Well, of course, today Joe's not here because he's at his granddad's funeral.
00:39:57Yeah.
00:39:58And he's been having a bit of a rough week.
00:40:02But I imagine you've been having a rough week.
00:40:05Yeah, it's pretty shit, like...
00:40:07Yeah.
00:40:07I have been all over the shop, like...
00:40:10I've been in my head a lot.
00:40:12I'm in limbo right now.
00:40:13I don't know if I'm coming or going.
00:40:16Today is about you having an opportunity to talk to us about what's going on for you.
00:40:21We're not going to try and guess what's going on for him.
00:40:24Yeah, because that's what I'm doing.
00:40:25I'm guessing everything.
00:40:26I'm second-guessing everything that, like, I've done, like, thinking that I've not supported him enough and, like, I don't know if I feel like it's my fault that he's not here.
00:40:35When there's an absence of information, we try and fill in the gaps.
00:40:39And sometimes the way we fill in the gaps is a lot more dramatic, sometimes a lot more of a catastrophe.
00:40:46Oh, I've been spiralling, like...
00:40:48Than is actually there.
00:40:49Yeah, it's not okay.
00:40:50Yeah.
00:40:50Sometimes it can be helpful when you're overthinking things to try and separate out what's going on here that's emotional and what's rational.
00:41:01So the rational part is really any evidence, any real conversations, real behaviours that you've observed or been a part of that might tell you how Joe's tracking in this relationship.
00:41:13Like, I know he's going through a lot, and I know he is, but I'm trying to put myself in his situation.
00:41:19Like, I know when I'm going through a lot, I don't want to speak to anyone.
00:41:21I don't really communicate with anyone.
00:41:23Obviously, I want to make it work, but at the same time, am I wasting me time?
00:41:26When you're in a relationship like this, there are certain things that you can control.
00:41:32And what do you think they are?
00:41:34Me? I don't know.
00:41:35Yeah, you do know. And you're right.
00:41:37Yeah.
00:41:37You're absolutely right.
00:41:38So let's just focus on you.
00:41:40Yeah.
00:41:40If you could imagine looking down on you and Joe from the outside, would you think that the two of you are compatible?
00:41:49Well, this is what I'm struggling with.
00:41:51Honestly, he's the kindest soul.
00:41:53He just gives off this warm vibe, and that's all I've ever wanted.
00:41:57There are stuff that I think, oh, yeah, we're good, but there's other parts that I think, nah.
00:42:03How can we move forward from this?
00:42:05But what can be really helpful here is to hone in on the things that are important to you.
00:42:09What would they be?
00:42:12What, like, loyalty?
00:42:14Mm-hmm.
00:42:16Trust.
00:42:16Mm-hmm.
00:42:18Communication.
00:42:19Okay.
00:42:19So how would you rate loyalty and trust in the relationship at the moment?
00:42:27I don't know.
00:42:28The trust side right now, like, sometimes I feel like he's not being completely honest with what he wants to say.
00:42:37You're an intuitive woman, and your instinct is telling you something here.
00:42:42Yeah.
00:42:42And I think it's really important to listen to that.
00:42:44What do you think your instinct is saying?
00:42:49Well, some friend's not right.
00:42:54I've got all these questions in me head that I need answered.
00:42:58I wonder if it would be helpful to fill in some of those gaps by opening it up to the group.
00:43:06Oh.
00:43:09None of us have really spoke to Jo that much in that way.
00:43:11From an outsider's point of view, it does look...
00:43:14I don't know.
00:43:16She does need answers.
00:43:17I'm in an awful position at the moment, watching Maeve and how much she's struggling with it.
00:43:29And then knowing how much Jo is struggling with it, and Jo has opened up to me, like...
00:43:35Ugh.
00:43:36See?
00:43:42I...
00:43:42I've seen Jo struggling.
00:43:43We went to the spa, and he sort of opened up about a few things.
00:43:53Like, I don't...
00:43:54I don't feel like...
00:43:56I'm kind of torn between things that he said, and then being in that safe place, and him having one.
00:44:08You've opened up, and you've been honest with me, but then you have them with her,
00:44:12and he's put me in a really shitty position.
00:44:17I'm between a rock and a hard place.
00:44:19If I go spilling everything he said to me, then he's never going to trust anyone again.
00:44:29If you're asking my opinion, with the headspace that he's in...
00:44:33I don't think he can give you what you need.
00:44:37If you're asking my opinion, with the headspace that he's in...
00:44:57I don't think he can give you what you need.
00:45:01This is a really good point.
00:45:08What do you need in a relationship?
00:45:11Someone that's going to be there for his.
00:45:13Someone that's going to have me back.
00:45:15Someone that's not just going to leave his.
00:45:17Is this shit?
00:45:31You like me?
00:45:32Oh, my.
00:45:35Is this shit?
00:45:41Yeah.
00:45:42Yeah.
00:45:42I just feel that probably right now.
00:45:52I do think he needs to focus on himself.
00:45:55And I probably need to focus on myself.
00:46:04Is it time for you to choose you?
00:46:10Yeah.
00:46:10And what might that look like?
00:46:13Go in.
00:46:26Well, look, we're going to go to a decision.
00:46:29So from your perspective, we're just interested in what your decision is tonight.
00:46:34I've got so many questions that I need to know.
00:46:43Yeah.
00:46:45Erm.
00:46:48I want me answers.
00:46:54I don't know.
00:46:55I need to just talk to Jo.
00:46:56So, I'm going to stay.
00:46:59Well, you are certainly surrounded by love here.
00:47:08You have all our support as well.
00:47:10And we understand that you need some of your questions answered before you're ready to make
00:47:16a call on what's right for you.
00:47:17Yeah.
00:47:17So we support you in that.
00:47:19You can go now.
00:47:20Thank you.
00:47:20Thanks, mate.
00:47:22Cheers.
00:47:23Come on, mate.
00:47:27Our next couple on the couch, April and Leo.
00:47:35Hello.
00:47:42Hello.
00:47:42Hello.
00:47:43Welcome.
00:47:43How are we doing?
00:47:44Welcome back.
00:47:44Good.
00:47:46Well, you've been living together for a week.
00:47:48Mm-hmm.
00:47:49Now, I know really one of the key goals for the two of you this week was for you, Leo,
00:47:53to be a bit more vulnerable and a bit more open and to really show more of yourself, the
00:47:58deeper level of yourself.
00:48:01April, did you get to see more of the vulnerable side of Leo?
00:48:05Um, the concerns that I raised on the honeymoon and when we were here last time about, you know,
00:48:10him being more inquisitive and trying to, like, get more depth in the relationship and
00:48:13be open are still there.
00:48:15That is definitely a bit of a blockade in our relationship.
00:48:19I don't feel like I've been able to give April, like, the full me.
00:48:28I've struggled to communicate stuff with her just because I'm not used to talking about
00:48:31my feelings.
00:48:32I get the impression that the two of you are operating a little bit independently at the
00:48:36moment and we could maybe do something more from a teamwork perspective here.
00:48:41Leo, what would you say you need in the next week in order to step into more of that
00:48:48open version of yourself?
00:48:50I think for me, a little bit of reassurance.
00:48:53I know what we had during our honeymoon and I know we've had a few setbacks, but it doesn't
00:48:57mean that we can't move forward now.
00:49:00You're probably figuring out that April's one of the most open people you're ever going
00:49:05to meet.
00:49:05She is.
00:49:06Which is such a wonderful place for you to land.
00:49:10It is.
00:49:10She's exactly what I need.
00:49:12Yeah.
00:49:12Yeah.
00:49:12Oh.
00:49:12Yeah.
00:49:13So trust her and allow her to see what's underneath the lid.
00:49:17Yeah.
00:49:18Yeah, definitely.
00:49:19I'm just looking forward to showing you, April, the real me.
00:49:23You've seen two sides of me from the honeymoon to this week.
00:49:27I feel like I'm going to learn to find the balance in between where she's going to see
00:49:33my personality shine through as well as me being able to open up and have these deeper
00:49:37conversations.
00:49:38Wonderful guys.
00:49:41Good work.
00:49:42We're going to go to a decision.
00:49:43Leo, why don't you show us what you've got?
00:49:46You've enabled me to open up and be more vulnerable, which is helping me to obviously progress in
00:49:53this relationship.
00:49:55And so my decision is to stay.
00:50:03Thank you.
00:50:04And to you, April.
00:50:05It hasn't been the easiest of weeks, but I fully understand it.
00:50:10Do you know what I mean?
00:50:10Like the process is hard.
00:50:11It is intense.
00:50:13We can move on and grow and be better together.
00:50:17So I have decided to stay.
00:50:21Fabulous.
00:50:27All right, you too.
00:50:28Well, this week's all about teamwork.
00:50:30Good on you.
00:50:31Thanks, guys.
00:50:32Thank you both.
00:50:32Thank you.
00:50:33Well done.
00:50:33Next up on the couch, Daveed and Kia.
00:50:49Hello, guys.
00:50:50Hi, guys.
00:50:52We're having a green moment.
00:50:53Yes.
00:50:54Love it.
00:50:55How are you both feeling?
00:50:57We've had the best week.
00:50:59We played with otters.
00:51:00We've had a wonderful time.
00:51:03Okay.
00:51:04You played with otters.
00:51:05Because it's Daveed's favorite animal and he's always wanted to do it.
00:51:08So I organized it as a surprise for him.
00:51:11It was just such a special moment.
00:51:12It was like once in a lifetime thing that I never thought I would be able to do.
00:51:15I didn't notice how much in common he has with otters.
00:51:19Oh, my God.
00:51:22They both very cute.
00:51:23They both very cute.
00:51:25It's not just that they're cute.
00:51:26It's that they're needy and loud and need to eat all of the time and have short attention spans.
00:51:29There was more than them just being cute.
00:51:31Perfect partner.
00:51:31Let's look at moving forward with the two of you.
00:51:38What would you like help with in your relationship?
00:51:41I think we're on the right path.
00:51:42I think this week just proved that as well.
00:51:44We are having more fun.
00:51:47We're on the right path.
00:51:48And just getting to know each other more, I guess.
00:51:51We've still got things that we haven't discussed.
00:51:53But we're going to be fine.
00:51:54We're good.
00:51:54We communicate.
00:51:55We're great.
00:51:56This is good.
00:51:57Okay.
00:51:57Let's go to the decisions.
00:51:59Let's start with Kia.
00:52:02You have done the most fabulous job finding me someone that is everything I need and everything I didn't realise I did.
00:52:10Like, I've just never known anyone that's grounded me and made me feel so comfortable.
00:52:14I am, of course, going to stay.
00:52:17Lovely.
00:52:18Brilliant.
00:52:23Okay, and Daveed, what's your decision?
00:52:25You make me feel seen.
00:52:30You always have my back.
00:52:32What else can I ask my partner than making me feel special every day?
00:52:35So my decision is to stay.
00:52:43Have a good week, guys.
00:52:44Thank you so much.
00:52:45Thank you, guys.
00:52:45And thank you so much for my husband.
00:52:48You're welcome.
00:52:51Yay!
00:52:52Next up on the couch, if we could have Julia Ruth and Devani.
00:53:10Hello.
00:53:12Hello to you both.
00:53:13Hello.
00:53:15Probably know this is going to be challenging.
00:53:17Yeah.
00:53:18And what I would love is full transparency and honesty.
00:53:25Devani, if you could walk through what happened at spa day.
00:53:32All right.
00:53:33So, obviously, the first part of the spa day was great.
00:53:35And then there was a game, which was which couple is not going to be the one that's going to survive or something like that, right?
00:53:40And so, everyone said, myself and Julia Ruth.
00:53:45But I knew what was going on on the intimacy level.
00:53:49This is something that we've been keeping quiet for a long time.
00:53:54So, at what point did you start having sex?
00:53:56Oh, second weekend of the apartments.
00:53:59Oh, cut.
00:54:00Right.
00:54:01No, please.
00:54:02At what point did you make the pact not to talk about your physical intimacy?
00:54:06I don't think you have to go to her.
00:54:15We don't have to get into the details, but it sounds like you had sex multiple times.
00:54:20Okay.
00:54:21And the reason why I'm painting this picture, if you will, is because I want us to get to this point where you were at the spa.
00:54:27Sounds like you were confused as to what your relationship was with Julia Ruth.
00:54:32Were you thinking that you were going to leave the experiment?
00:54:34Yeah.
00:54:35Rightly so, yeah.
00:54:35Okay.
00:54:38So, a question that we have, and that seems like a lot of your friends have, was what changed between that feeling of, I'm going to leave, and you walking into the dinner party hand in hand?
00:54:52We kind of spent, I think it was two, three days apart.
00:54:55When we did come to give up, we just had to hash out how everything was.
00:54:59So, that's where the clarity came, and then we kind of developed from there, where it was like we had more conversations, she was being vulnerable.
00:55:06That was cool, and that was an extra step in development in our relationship.
00:55:10Okay.
00:55:11Was it vulnerability, or were you being warped?
00:55:20I saw it as vulnerability.
00:55:22Okay.
00:55:22From that conversation, it felt like she was emotionally attracted to you.
00:55:26Yeah.
00:55:26I'm not sure about the physical.
00:55:31You sound confused about the physical attraction, but yet you had sex.
00:55:37Can we just get an answer to that?
00:55:39So, Julia Ruth, this is, literally, your partner is unsure if you are physically attracted to him.
00:55:46What is the answer?
00:55:48If this is a yes, I'm going to fall off my fucking seat.
00:55:56Yes.
00:56:02This is huge.
00:56:03You just said yes.
00:56:05So, you're saying, yes, you are attracted physically to Devani.
00:56:10Okay.
00:56:11Less than 24 hours ago, you said you were attracted to Steven.
00:56:21Why did you feel the need to make a pact in the first place not to disclose your intimacy?
00:56:26Literally just because it felt like, at least for me, quite a lot we were dealing with anyway.
00:56:31We were called the hot and cold couple, and it just felt like another can of fuel.
00:56:36Maybe that wasn't the right thing to do.
00:56:38I fully agree with that.
00:56:40By doing that, there's a tremendous amount of lies.
00:56:43Yeah.
00:56:43And quite honestly, a lot of wasted time.
00:56:47Devani, I think you have been had, tooken, hoodwinked, bamboozled, led astray, run amok.
00:56:55That's what I think.
00:56:57If you don't wake up, you are going to be in for a terrible life, my man.
00:57:03You've got to snap out of this.
00:57:10Julia Ruth, everyone has clocked you.
00:57:16Devani, the only person who has not clocked this is you.
00:57:20Devani, the only person who has not clocked this is you.
00:57:46Devani, the only person who has not clocked this is you.
00:57:50This has got to change.
00:58:01Not just for this relationship, or is it a relationship?
00:58:05I don't know.
00:58:08It goes back to what Bailey said to me yesterday.
00:58:11Maybe it's because I like her too much.
00:58:13Maybe.
00:58:15But do you feel like you have been respected throughout this journey?
00:58:19No.
00:58:20Do you feel like you've been used on this journey?
00:58:23Used is a strong word, but I'll stick to the disrespect 100%.
00:58:27I think also, Devani, what we've seen is that throughout this process that you've kind of lost yourself a little bit.
00:58:34I think the very fact that you weren't really clear on when this pact was suggests to me, and this is my opinion,
00:58:40that actually this was something, Julia Ruth, that you had decided on,
00:58:43and that you, Devani, went along with it.
00:58:49Julia Ruth, I can see that there's a lot going on for you here.
00:58:53You are listening to this conversation.
00:58:54There's a lot of accusations, and I really want to know what's going on for you.
00:58:58The whole thing of me telling Devani to make this pact is completely wrong.
00:59:06I will say when I've done wrong and put my hands up, that's fine.
00:59:09Are you saying there wasn't a pact?
00:59:11No, there was, but it wasn't me telling Devani that you have to agree with what I'm saying.
00:59:16You do have a big voice and a big say, and you do say your piece,
00:59:21so it's not that I'm controlling what you say or put words into your mouth and tell you what you can and can't do.
00:59:26We both came to that agreement.
00:59:30It's not fair because I've said to you multiple times,
00:59:33if you feel that you have felt mugged off, if you feel you want to walk off, you can walk off.
00:59:37You're here on your own, and if you want to stay, then you stay.
00:59:40I'm not manipulating or trying to emotionally pull you anywhere.
00:59:44You do know you have your own voice.
00:59:46So you haven't intentionally tried to get a reaction from the group for favor towards you?
00:59:52Never.
00:59:54Okay.
00:59:54That is what happened last night.
00:59:56Trying to deflect from your own problems and emotionally manipulate the group
01:00:00into thinking that there's something else going on to get the heat off of you.
01:00:05I've never heard somebody sit on a couch and lie so much in all my life.
01:00:10I'm actually shocked.
01:00:12Like, everything that's coming out of your mouth is just a lie this whole time.
01:00:16You've said from day one, Julia Roof, you're not interested in your husband.
01:00:20We all know that.
01:00:21I've defended him from day one.
01:00:22First, I just thought he's a positive guy.
01:00:24And then I started thinking, maybe he's just delusional.
01:00:26I've been saying he's delusional.
01:00:26Because you speak to everyone, all of your friends, everyone in this group,
01:00:30and you say, I don't fancy the man.
01:00:31I don't know why we've been matched.
01:00:32He's got none of the qualities that I like in the man.
01:00:34And I hear this stuff.
01:00:35That's interesting.
01:00:35And then I see Devani smiling and talking because there is stuff happening behind closed
01:00:38door.
01:00:39He thinks he's doing the right thing by protecting you, not talking about intimacy.
01:00:42How is that not manipulating the group?
01:00:44And then in the space of a day, now all of a sudden you find him attractive.
01:00:47You want to make it work.
01:00:47You're sleeping with him again now.
01:00:49And now he's attractive.
01:00:49A couple of days ago.
01:00:51That's ironic.
01:00:52Devani, is there anything that Julia Ruth will do that you won't forgive?
01:00:58I don't think he would have kept the intimacy quiet.
01:01:00He would have sung it from the rooftops because he's obsessed with you.
01:01:03So I don't think you made that pact mutually.
01:01:05He would have sung it to everyone that would listen because I think he loves you.
01:01:07I think he really likes you.
01:01:10I've rarely seen the entire group in unison on one thing.
01:01:16But Julia Ruth, what I hear you say, that's not true, right?
01:01:21So what you're saying is that they're lying.
01:01:23There's parts.
01:01:24There's certain things.
01:01:25I'm not saying the whole thing.
01:01:27I've said the attraction has been very slow and not been there from the start.
01:01:31You haven't said that, Julia.
01:01:33You said you are not attracted to him.
01:01:35Don't carry this on.
01:01:36This is wrong.
01:01:38Every single person in this room sees your story differently.
01:01:45Fair.
01:01:46What would we say your emotion is right now in this moment that we're talking?
01:01:51All over the place.
01:01:53This is the moment where I say this could be a breakthrough moment for you.
01:01:57There's a saying, right?
01:01:58There's not necessarily bad people.
01:02:00There's good people, but with bad behavior.
01:02:02Right?
01:02:03You think that a lot of your behavior has been questionable.
01:02:05I sense, Julia Ruth, that you're hearing us in terms of maybe the impact that some of your behavior has had on Devani.
01:02:15It was shocking that everyone came and told me what she said.
01:02:20So that cut deep.
01:02:26I've seen qualities that are good outside of everything else that she's done.
01:02:29I'm not going to paint her as a negative individual.
01:02:31She's got her flaws like everyone else.
01:02:34I just don't understand how you can see the real hurt when she's been lying to you the full time.
01:02:39Everyone has said their piece, right?
01:02:42Yeah, for sure.
01:02:42Devani, Julia Ruth, this is your life, right?
01:02:45We're here to give you as much insight as we can, but it's up to you to make decisions.
01:02:52Let's go to a decision.
01:02:56Devani, if you can give us your decision first.
01:03:00Um, there's a lot of shit that's happened this week.
01:03:06There's a big disrespect to left, right, flipping, center, underneath the rug and whatnot.
01:03:16I know what I came here for.
01:03:19It has to be 100% authentic.
01:03:22100% truthful, 100% honest.
01:03:34I don't need to be here.
01:03:39I've decided to.
01:03:46Next time...
01:03:47I want that room.
01:03:48The couples head off to a retreat.
01:03:50I love it!
01:03:51...as some embrace the escape.
01:03:54I know that it's love.
01:03:55I'm on the love road.
01:03:56Are you feeling real enough?
01:03:59Others start to check out.
01:04:01There are personality traits that I need in a partner that I'm not seeing.
01:04:05Any kind of connection is missing at the minute for me.
01:04:07And as Maeve's frustrations grow...
01:04:08I'm sitting here when everyone's talking about their relationship and look at me like a fucking
01:04:13bug.
01:04:14...Ashley delivers a devastating truth.
01:04:16When I asked him, do you love her?
01:04:18He couldn't really answer it.
01:04:20Now I want to feel like a fucking idiot.
01:04:24I don't know what else I can do.
01:04:26I understand.
01:04:28The letztendly of things is very funny.
01:04:29Thank you.
01:04:30No.
01:04:34The end, I am so sorry.
01:04:34Thank you.
01:04:36You're listening to this at lounge.
01:04:41And now I want to switch to you.
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