Married at First Sight UK Season 10 Episode 9

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Married at First Sight UK Season 10 Episode 9  #MarriedatFirstSightUK #RealityRealmUS Reality Realm US

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00:00I won't leave.

00:01And there was zero tolerance for Sarah.

00:04You went around gossiping about your husband.

00:07You were laughing at it.

00:09As her scathing behavior towards Dean was exposed.

00:12This man is talking about how lovely his partner is,

00:16and you are on the other side of the room disrespecting him.

00:21It's not me. It's not who I am.

00:25Tonight.

00:26Hello.

00:28It's Experts Week.

00:29Do I have permission to remove your robe?

00:31While some couples lean into physical intimacy...

00:34Ooh, I hope you know where the key is for that.

00:36Anita's patience with Paul wears even thinner.

00:39Surely you should know what you want by now.

00:41Are you expecting me to be fully committed after two weeks?

00:44I need to know where this relationship's going.

00:47No, I'm not hanging around.

00:48And an unwanted interference in one couple's marriage.

00:52Other people don't need to know my shit,

00:54because you'll see a side of me which probably you won't like.

00:57I'm not having it solved it.

00:59I was trying to come to a relationship.

01:00I'm not.

01:01Couldn't give a flying...

01:02I'm here for my relationship.

01:03...causes two husbands to collide.

01:05It's one of the people just, uh...

01:06basically just...

01:08...off.

01:09It's super...

01:09You're not part of this relationship, so see yourself out.

01:21I'm absolutely starving.

01:25There's a hair in me pineapple.

01:27It's yours.

01:31Oh, my God.

01:33It's the morning after the group's first commitment ceremony,

01:38which Daveed could not attend as he felt unwell.

01:43I'm never doing it alone again.

01:45I felt really guilty about not being there.

01:47Your letter was absolutely gorgeous.

01:49It did make me feel supported.

01:51Hopefully I made you proud.

01:53I am proud of you for doing it by yourself.

01:55Of the boys who look the best.

01:57It's rude.

01:58It's actually just rude at this point.

01:59You look really guilty for failing.

02:01Who looked the best out of the boys?

02:02Me.

02:03Me.

02:03I do.

02:04There you go.

02:05Yes, you did.

02:17I felt like I was a bit blindsided yesterday

02:19at the commitment ceremony

02:20when it was revealed that Sarah was kind of talking about me

02:22in not the most positive of waves sometimes.

02:26It was a lot.

02:27I didn't expect everything to come out.

02:29Like, it did come out, you know, it did catch me off guard.

02:32Disrespect is a big thing to me.

02:33It's like my biggest red flag.

02:36Hearing that word, there's like, whoa.

02:38Like, I was literally white-knuckling the couch, I think.

02:40I was like, ah, this is intense.

02:41Like, what's going on?

02:44It wasn't nice to hear.

02:45Yeah, absolutely.

02:46Yeah, and it, like, and it wasn't okay.

02:47Like, usually I'm like, it was okay, and it's not okay,

02:49because I want my wife, like, championing me.

02:52It was hurtful, and I needed to get that across,

02:55because usually I'd be like, it's okay, it's okay.

02:56But I feel like this time I'd be like,

02:57no, that did hurt my feelings.

02:59I want my wife in the corner saying all the great things about me.

03:02Like, he's funny, he does these caring things for me.

03:04I don't want to be sitting there worrying, like,

03:06oh, did I annoy her?

03:07Is she going to tell everyone I annoyed her?

03:08And, yeah, and it's something I didn't think I had to think about.

03:11It was a bit of a wake-up call, and I do need to, you know,

03:15obviously consider your feelings at all times

03:17and think before I say anything.

03:20I found our first commitment ceremony pretty hard.

03:24You know, I really, really liked Dean.

03:25I would never want to hurt him.

03:28I'm ready to move on, you know, taking those baby steps

03:31and just seeing where it takes us.

03:33I just want to make sure that you're okay.

03:35Yeah, it was hard, but, like, I am okay.

03:37Like, you know, I mean, I'm okay.

03:39But it's one of those things, we won't let it happen again.

03:41You know, like, it's one of those, like, we can let that happen,

03:43but that's it, lying under it.

03:45Yeah, 100%.

03:45So it'd be silly to hold on to a grudge

03:48when we've both said sorry and said our piece, like,

03:50got to move on, fresh chapter,

03:52and hopefully be in a better place on the couch next week.

03:55There were some great points that Paul and Charlene touched on.

04:07Did anything stand out for you?

04:09The fact that obviously we did argue just to separate

04:12and just have that time away before we start back fresh,

04:15you know what I mean?

04:16Just make sure that everything is just all clear.

04:19I feel like the commitment ceremony in general was quite intense.

04:23I think it gave Devani a bit of a reality check

04:25and a little bit of a shake-up as well.

04:27I felt like he opened up last night

04:29and I just understand a little bit more

04:30how to best support him as well.

04:33It feels like we hit the reset button properly now.

04:38Obviously, they said I should have a little bit more fun,

04:40let down my hair.

04:41We're actually strong.

04:43The things that we need to work on is just mainly our communication,

04:45and that's what I'm going to go into this week doing.

04:48I'm excited.

04:53I was open and honest at the commitment ceremony.

05:00I wrote leave because that's how I felt.

05:03Paul and I haven't actually had that initial spark.

05:06Obviously, being in the separate apartments,

05:08we're not living in the same space,

05:11but Paul is a kind, sweet man.

05:14I want to show that I am being open

05:16and see if he does start asking questions

05:19and showing a bit of interest.

05:27Stranger!

05:27Hello!

05:29After the first ceremony,

05:30I'm feeling a little bit upset.

05:33Got your peace offering?

05:35Oh, bless.

05:36I thought Anita and I had a lot in common.

05:38I thought we had a great foundation stone to build on.

05:41It's nice to be nice, isn't it?

05:42Mm-hmm.

05:43In my wedding vows, I said I would give it 100%.

05:46It would be nice if she allows me to try and give it 100%.

05:49Why did you think I wrote leave?

05:53Well, you said you came in to find love.

05:55Yeah.

05:56I think there was a word missing.

05:58I came to find instant love

05:59because it was only eight days in.

06:04I won't leave

06:05because of the lack of interest in me and my life

06:09because I think that is the basics

06:12of starting to get to know someone.

06:16Obviously, when we were in this apartment last time,

06:19it was, can you remember my children's names?

06:20And you said, no.

06:22You want to be asked the questions

06:24to volunteer the information

06:25and I volunteer the information.

06:27Are you expecting me just to go,

06:31I'm Anita, I've got two children,

06:33I've got three grandchildren,

06:34I'm an operations manager.

06:36Do you expect that?

06:39Yeah, because that's what I did.

06:40Because you're good at talking about yourself.

06:46We're here to find out about each other.

06:48We're married.

06:49Paul definitely needs to ask more questions.

06:53If I'm not feeling it,

06:54I'm not getting what I want,

06:55then I'm off.

06:56I'm done.

06:57How you doing, you all right?

07:07Yeah, good, you?

07:08Yeah, good.

07:09A bit tired, but I'm all right.

07:10I know, me too.

07:11Yeah, eventful evening?

07:12Yeah.

07:13After the intensity of yesterday's commitment ceremony,

07:16some of the couples went to let off steam at a local bar.

07:20Stephen and Nellie have had a bit of a disagreement.

07:27After the commitment ceremony,

07:28Stephen did go into himself,

07:30and then naturally,

07:31Nellie needed a little bit of reassurance.

07:33And I feel like a couple of people picked up on it,

07:35said to him,

07:35I'll go up to her,

07:36and I feel like, as a typical man,

07:38when people are telling you to do so,

07:39and he kind of fights against it a bit more.

07:41And I think he just was, like,

07:42going into himself more and more,

07:44wasn't he?

07:44Yeah.

07:50It was really good at the commitment ceremony,

07:52but last night,

07:54Stephen and I had our first bit of conflict.

07:57I think the last couple of days,

07:58I've just felt, like, a little bit on edge.

08:01He's not been the same as he was on the honeymoon.

08:03It's been an absolute spot,

08:06and I couldn't have asked for a better match.

08:07Despite their perfect honeymoon...

08:09Where the hell have you been for 34 years of me life?

08:12I don't know what to say.

08:15Stephen's approach to validation...

08:17Reassurance for me can be quite hard to give

08:20if I feel like I've given enough.

08:22Mm-hmm.

08:23..fuelled Nellie's insecurities.

08:25We just had a really, really good time,

08:27but then I would think,

08:28he's not giving me a kiss this morning.

08:30And then I think, yeah, it's because he doesn't like you.

08:33I probably did need a little bit of validation,

08:37and I was being needy.

08:39But he does feel distant.

08:41Then last night, we all went out for some drinks.

08:44Other people started picking up on it a little bit.

08:47Some of them were saying to Stephen, like,

08:49tell her how good she looks, and he didn't like that.

08:52I'm really sorry that it's upset him,

08:54but these are my friends.

08:56I need to lean on them.

08:57I need that reassurance.

09:01Last night made me feel a little bit uneasy.

09:03Kia walked in with Nellie,

09:05asking me to compliment her.

09:07Absolutely no idea why Kia's got involved.

09:11I believe Nellie said something to the group

09:13about our relationship.

09:14That needs to stop,

09:15because it'll just wind me up even more

09:17if more and more people get involved in stuff

09:18they shouldn't and don't need to be involved in.

09:20Let's just talk over, I guess, what happened yesterday.

09:26People were coming in, Kia being the main instigator,

09:29telling me that I've got to compliment you

09:31and how you've worn this top just for me only.

09:33So I'm thinking, what has Nellie been saying?

09:35I was just telling them that you have pulled back

09:40a little bit since Honeymoon and stuff.

09:42That was all.

09:44Kia was just trying to have my back more than anything

09:46and just try and make me feel a little bit good.

09:48It feels like you're going behind my back and talking.

09:49I would never...

09:50No, but this is what I mean.

09:51In the moment, that's what it felt like.

09:56I didn't ask them to have this conversation with you.

09:58Other people don't need to know my shit.

10:04It's just going to blow up this situation

10:05worse than what it actually is.

10:07I can't be having people, I can't have to be again,

10:10because you'll see a side of me

10:11which probably you won't like.

10:17Let's be honest,

10:18you haven't been the same since the Honeymoon.

10:21And that's why I needed a bit more reassurance from you.

10:26I've been standoffish

10:27because you've already created scenarios

10:29of when things are going to go wrong.

10:31I'm thinking, oh, shit,

10:33is she now going to look for things?

10:35But that's what I do,

10:36and that's what I said to Paul on the commitment ceremony.

10:38I'm doing this, and I hate that I'm doing it.

10:41Sorry, I don't want to go upset,

10:43but I hate that I'm doing it

10:44because I'm going to potentially throw something away

10:46that is just my protection mechanism coming up

10:49so that I don't get blindsided,

10:51and this is why I'm single.

10:53But if you're already in that self-sabotage mode

10:55or got shit in your mind,

10:57that's just going to make it ten times worse,

10:59just be yourself,

11:00it will get back to the Honeymoon stage.

11:02But that comes in time.

11:04I hate getting emotional about these things.

11:06It sucks having to tell someone it's because of my past.

11:09I am a little bit worried about

11:10if I am going to push him away,

11:12but, well, we can't go on like we were,

11:14so I haven't got a choice.

11:15Like, do you feel like that's everything off, like...

11:17My main issue is with other people,

11:19and I'll have those conversations with other people.

11:23Still feeling annoyed with a few things.

11:25Really want to have a conversation with Keir today.

11:27I don't want people meddling in Nellie and Ida's business.

11:30You're not part of this relationship,

11:31so see yourself out.

11:32Last night, drinks were flowing,

11:40and we were having a fun time,

11:42but Leah was being a little bit flirty with Rebecca.

11:45She has said to me before

11:47that she's got a flirty personality,

11:48and it's something that I've dealt with in my past,

11:50so I just don't want to feel like I'm being disrespected.

11:54Last night, I started to feel like

11:58you were being overly familiar with Rebecca,

12:00and then because we've had conversations before

12:03and you've said you're quite a flirty person...

12:05No, I didn't say I'm a flirty person.

12:07I said people sometimes...

12:08You've got a flirty personality, you said.

12:10So you did say that,

12:11and then I started to feel like

12:12you were being overly familiar with Rebecca,

12:15and it started to make me feel a little bit like I was like,

12:17hmm, that's a bit muggy.

12:19I think because she's from a similar area to me,

12:22I do gravitate to her.

12:24So I do feel like it's more that than anything,

12:26but I think the bottom line of that is

12:29you realise at this point

12:30that you liked me more than you thought,

12:33because you got a little bit jealous over Rebecca.

12:34That's why you thought, I'm going to pounce on you.

12:37OK, let's get into that, shall we?

12:40You got jealous.

12:41Obviously, that's coming from somewhere.

12:42I wouldn't feel that way if I just saw you as a friend.

12:46I feel like we both are getting a little bit closer

12:48to that romantic side.

12:51We had a kiss last night,

12:52which is not something we've been doing.

12:54Yeah, it was nice, to be fair.

12:56We shared a kiss last night.

12:58If I'd just purely viewed Leah as a friend,

13:01behaving that way,

13:02it probably wouldn't have bothered me.

13:03So the fact that it did,

13:05obviously there are some feelings there

13:06that I maybe wasn't aware of.

13:08I need to speak to Kia after last night.

13:19I didn't like the way he was acting with Nelly.

13:21Parade around like a bit of me.

13:23Who's at the door now?

13:31Hello.

13:32How are you?

13:32I need to tell him,

13:33look, your actions for last night don't sit right with me,

13:36and now it's affected my marriage.

13:41Last night, I got frustrated with you.

13:45With everything going on with Nelly and I,

13:46with the distance and stuff,

13:47I just wanted people just to basically just fuck off.

13:52Kia, you brought her over to me,

13:53it was like,

13:54comment on her like outfit,

13:55comment on like her breast.

13:58In that way,

13:58I don't want anyone to get involved.

14:00Just leave me alone.

14:04Sorry,

14:05I'm actually still just confused as to what I've done.

14:09Nelly had said that she was feeling down,

14:11didn't feel very cute about herself,

14:12so I bigged her up to make her feel like she was cute.

14:14I then walked her in,

14:16gave her a spin and said,

14:17look how amazing your wife looks.

14:20It was more the comment of like,

14:22look at how good her breasts look.

14:23She wore this top for you.

14:24I was literally saying directly to her,

14:26look at those boobs, look at those boobs.

14:28When you hear like,

14:29look at your wife,

14:29you automatically assume it was just directed at me.

14:32I can't be held accountable for your assumption.

14:35I'm not having it sold it.

14:36I was trying to come to a new relationship,

14:38I'm not,

14:38couldn't give a flying fuck if I'm completely honest,

14:40I'm here for my relationship.

14:42I was being supported the same way I was supported,

14:44for absolutely anyone.

14:45That's who I am.

14:46I am a cheerleader.

14:46I'm a positive person.

14:47It's what I do.

14:49And if you've assumed one that,

14:50that's on you.

15:03I am a cheerleader.

15:04I'm a positive person.

15:05It's what I do.

15:06And if you've assumed one that,

15:07that's on you.

15:08When people were saying,

15:13no,

15:13you've got to say these things,

15:14I was like,

15:14but I've said it to her when I walked in.

15:18It actually had nothing to do with you whatsoever.

15:20I came in and gave you an opportunity to compliment her,

15:23because I had spent the time outside with her saying,

15:25maybe you just need an opportunity.

15:26I was literally playing devil's advocate,

15:28having your side and having your back.

15:29No one knows the conversation we have back at home.

15:33God,

15:34just stay out of my business.

15:37If Nelly comes to me again and says,

15:39I feel shit about myself,

15:40I don't feel very cute,

15:41I'm going to pick her up again

15:42and do exactly the same thing.

15:44The same as I would for anyone in this fucking room,

15:47because that's what you do

15:48when someone feels low about themselves.

15:52Then,

15:52that's never going to change,

15:54I'm afraid.

15:54I think everyone needs to put effort into a relationship,

15:58Stephen included.

15:59If there are aspects of his relationship

16:01that he doesn't want discussed,

16:02that's the conversation between him and his wife,

16:04not me.

16:07Feeling pretty pissed off.

16:10So I just ended up just walking away.

16:12My relationship is my relationship

16:13and I don't like people getting involved in business

16:15they shouldn't get involved in.

16:18So stupid.

16:24I thought someone's actually at the door,

16:33but it looks like we've got an envelope.

16:35Star.

16:36Oh my God.

16:36Oh my God,

16:37our first golden envelope.

16:39Today marks the start of Experts Week.

16:42I think we've won the lottery, kids.

16:44I can't pick it up with my nails.

16:47We've devised a series of exercises

16:49to help the couples navigate

16:51these early stages of married life.

16:53I feel stressed.

16:55Some couples could find these exercises

16:57challenging or confronting,

16:59but this is a vital part of the process

17:02to allow them to develop deeper levels

17:04of emotional connection.

17:06There is no one-size-fits-all remedy

17:09for any relationship.

17:10So each of us have drawn on our own specific areas

17:14of expertise and devised activities.

17:16Tailored specifically to you as a couple

17:19to help you navigate the challenges you face.

17:21There were some big words in that one.

17:23Okay.

17:25Dear Grace and Ashley,

17:27you are requested to attend a fun workshop.

17:30Nice.

17:31I know that intimacy and affection

17:33has been an issue for your marriage,

17:34and this is something I'd like to help you work on.

17:37Lots of love, Charlene.

17:39Charlene, here we come.

17:40Come on, Charlene.

17:41We have left something outside for you.

17:44Oh, no.

17:46Will I go get it?

17:46Yeah, go, go, go, go, go.

17:49Oh.

17:50Oh, God.

17:52I'm already impressed.

17:53You're joking.

17:54Oh, it's a little vibe.

17:58I mean, that's cool for me.

18:03I might do one leg.

18:04We'll see.

18:05We'll see.

18:05We'll see how it goes.

18:07Dean and I get on great,

18:08but the main thing really missing is the intimacy.

18:12We've obviously not kissed,

18:13you know, being intimate with each other

18:14or anything like that.

18:15So, yeah, I think, you know,

18:18it's quite scary

18:19because you don't really know

18:20sort of what's going to happen and things,

18:21but I know it's what our manager needs,

18:24so I'm really willing to work at it.

18:26I'm excited, yeah, to touch you.

18:30It's exciting, right?

18:32It's a big moment, I guess, in our relationship.

18:33It's the next stage.

18:34So, yeah, I'm hoping it's the start of the touching

18:36and not the end of the touching.

18:38I'm hoping it's the beginning.

18:39Bring it on.

18:40Let's do it.

18:41Let's do it.

18:43I can't wait.

18:45Yep, me too.

18:46I wouldn't like to think what's in store for this workshop.

18:48I hope it's not a massage.

18:49We've already done that on the honeymoon.

18:53Are you OK with it?

18:54On their honeymoon,

18:55Grace's struggles with physical touch

18:57were brought to the surface

18:58during what should have been a romantic massage from Ashley.

19:02OK, is that enough now?

19:05Do it for me.

19:07I will do it for you.

19:08You do so much for me.

19:09I am totally willing to do this for you.

19:15Would you like a hand?

19:16Because you're actually stressing me out.

19:20Me and Leah are trying to build a romantic connection.

19:23At the minute, it's just sort of more of a friendship thing.

19:25So I feel like it's definitely come at a good time

19:27for us to see if we can initiate a bit of a spark.

19:32Ah!

19:33Look who it is!

19:34Hello!

19:35It's important for our couples to understand

19:39that intimacy isn't just about sex.

19:42There are many different ways

19:44in which a physical connection can develop.

19:47With that in mind,

19:48I've set some of the couples' tasks

19:50to inspire trust and understanding between them.

19:54Welcome to my workshop.

19:57I'm sure you're very excited to see me.

19:59Let's talk about intimacy

20:02because one thing that I realise

20:03is that as soon as I say the word intimacy,

20:06everyone gets a little bit nervous.

20:09But intimacy should be fun.

20:12The key is to explore

20:13and that's what I want you to do today.

20:15I don't want you to do anything

20:17that you're not comfortable doing.

20:18So, blindfold your partner.

20:23Not too tight.

20:24OK, OK.

20:25Can you see?

20:26No.

20:27Not too tight?

20:28No, even a bit tighter probably.

20:29Yeah, perfect.

20:30Next to you, what you'll see is some massage oil.

20:34My heart drops a little bit

20:36at the thought of massage.

20:37It's always going to be something

20:38that I find really, like, uncomfortable.

20:40OK, does anyone want me to go on the tickle?

20:42No, that's good.

20:44Ooh.

20:45Feel free to make sounds if you want to,

20:49if it feels good.

20:50Ooh, make some sounds, Leah.

20:51Make it better, then.

20:53OK.

20:54How's that?

20:55Yeah, it's nice.

20:56Good.

20:59I've waited a long time for this.

21:01Like, it's been worth the wait, though, as well.

21:03It's so nice to kind of share that moment.

21:05I think this is a step in the right direction

21:07from what we're missing, really.

21:09More oil.

21:10Ooh, yeah, go on.

21:11Ooh.

21:12That's nice.

21:12I want to be Dean's biggest cheerleader.

21:15I want for things to start going in the right direction.

21:18But, um, it was a little bit funny, isn't it?

21:22Like...

21:23You're really good at it.

21:25Soft hands.

21:27We're giving it a go.

21:28We're giving it a go.

21:29Grace, how does that feel?

21:36I've never been one for massages myself.

21:40I'm trying to focus on the fact that it's a good massage.

21:43Like, Ash is a good masseuse.

21:45OK.

21:46Mm-hm.

21:48I'm feeling a bit stressed.

21:49It's not me.

21:50It's not my kind of thing.

21:51It's beyond my comfort zone.

21:53My comfort zone was, like, 120 miles back.

21:55You're doing amazing.

21:59But, Ash, this is important to him, so I'm trying to have an open mind.

22:04So the partners that are massaging, I'm sensing that you're really enjoying this.

22:09Is it showing that much?

22:10You can see a massive difference from the honeymoon.

22:15Even though she's feeling a bit uncomfortable, she's staying there and she's working at it.

22:19Do you want to swap?

22:20Yeah, we could swap.

22:21Swap? Good.

22:23Especially with Grace, where feelings are starting to build.

22:26Like, she's really sort of throwing herself into this.

22:28And, yeah, nice to see, to be honest.

22:31Do I have permission to remove your rose?

22:33I'm really proud of her.

22:34I'm chuffed.

22:35Is that okay?

22:38Yeah.

22:38Perfect.

22:44Nice.

22:46Nice to touch you.

22:49I really enjoyed getting a bit more touchy.

22:55Yeah.

22:57And I think all it can do is just make us stronger.

23:00Initially, I was slightly nervous, but actually, Dean is doing well at giving the massage.

23:06I'm getting rid of some of that tension.

23:08He's made me feel super comfortable.

23:11So, yeah, he is doing well.

23:14It's nice.

23:15Is it?

23:16Yeah.

23:17Oh, good.

23:18I think you guys have had quite a lot of fun.

23:21Grace and Ashley, the good thing with the two of you is that you have a really good connection.

23:25So, although there is this issue around the skin-on-skin touch, there's a bond that I see between the two of you.

23:32That's key.

23:33Today was important because I did want an opportunity to show Ash that I am trying as well.

23:38He has made a huge amount of effort, and he does deserve someone who's going to put as much in as he does.

23:43Well done, guys.

23:45Now, I think you're absolutely ready for stage two.

23:50Let's take it up a notch.

23:52Oh!

23:52Where is Charlene going?

23:57No way!

23:59What's going to be inside this room?

24:02What is behind this one?

24:04What is going on?

24:05Charlene?

24:06Charlene?

24:07Where are we going?

24:08There's no words.

24:09Here we go.

24:10Here we go.

24:13Oh, my God.

24:15I wasn't expecting that.

24:25Oh, my God.

24:27Holy shit.

24:30Okay.

24:31Oh, strawberries.

24:32There is a table full of sex toys here.

24:35We've got handcuffs.

24:36We've got dildos.

24:37We've got butt plugs.

24:38We've got God knows what.

24:40Does Charlene just carry these around in her bag every day?

24:44Welcome to my table of treats.

24:47You now have an array of lots of different tools that you can have lots of fun with.

24:53You may look at some of these things and think, whoa, that's not for me.

24:57Yep.

24:59But you may look at some of these things and think, actually, I wouldn't mind trying that.

25:04I hope you know where the key is for that.

25:10Oh, yeah.

25:10Go on.

25:11Okay.

25:11You can go harder.

25:12Oh, really?

25:12Yeah, yeah, yeah.

25:13Oh.

25:14Oh.

25:15Harder?

25:16Yeah.

25:16Oh.

25:19I'm just going to stay seated here for a while.

25:20Don't.

25:20Oh, shit.

25:30Oi.

25:32That happens to everyone.

25:34I swear I didn't mean to do that.

25:35I swear.

25:37It went a bit tits up, didn't it?

25:41Can't even think about it.

25:45Just had cream all over my face and a strawberry shoved into my mouth.

25:49Not feeling very sexy and sensual right now.

25:52Do you want another one?

25:53I'm fine, thank you.

25:54Up your mouth.

25:57Ashley.

26:01That's what I wanted, but that's not what I got.

26:04The next activity is fill in the blanks.

26:09Partner A will read out the card and partner B will answer the question.

26:15Right now, I'm feeling...

26:17Intrigue.

26:18Ooh.

26:19I love it when you are cuddly and tactile.

26:29Hmm.

26:30That's nice.

26:32It's because she doesn't say a lot of nice things.

26:35No, often, I mean.

26:37Often.

26:37I don't agree, but okay.

26:45It's a little bit uncomfortable that Leah's just said this in front of a group of people.

26:49I do feel like I have put a lot of effort in and there's this, like, running theme with you at the moment where you will sort of act as if I'm not doing anything at all.

27:00No, I'm not.

27:00I'm just saying it's nice to hear it when you say it because you don't say it often.

27:03That's all.

27:04It's a little bit deflating.

27:09I'm trying to be nice and trying to make the effort and it doesn't always feel like it's received in the best way.

27:15She likes what I'm saying, but there's always a but.

27:18Yeah, it just gets a bit draining.

27:19I will do that more, but I also would appreciate if when I do do it, you don't make a backhanded comment because that makes me not want to do it again.

27:28Okay.

27:32Intimacy Workshop isn't going the best for me, I'll be honest.

27:38Now, because we absolutely love you all, we would like you to choose anything on the table that you might want to go home with and have a bit of fun with.

27:46I promise I won't look.

27:48Cheers.

27:48Bye.

27:50Come on in, guys.

27:51What are we grabbing?

27:52Today was amazing for Grace and I.

27:54Behind closed doors, she's cuddly and affectionate, so it was really nice to be around people and for her to still be okay with it.

28:02It's a huge step for us, I feel.

28:03Huge.

28:05I did it for you.

28:06Oh, well done, guys.

28:10Let's do that.

28:11You basically burn it, it melts, and then you massage.

28:14So, the Intimacy Workshop, I suppose it felt a little bit tense,

28:18but Lee picked up the candle, so I think I'm getting a full body massage in for a treat.

28:23If that's not dibs.

28:25Oh, it's okay.

28:26Yeah.

28:26She's a lingerie gal, yeah.

28:28There's been a lot of pressure in not having that interview with Sarah, that it's been building up and building up, and today's helped kind of deflate that and make it fun.

28:35So, it's keeping that going now on our own, and then hopefully progressing to loving, nice relationship.

28:41This could not have come at a better time for Dean and I.

28:45So many things are there.

28:47The main thing that is lacking is the intimacy side of things.

28:50I still do want to take it slow, but I think it has been just what we've needed.

28:54Hey, hey, hey, hey, values ranking.

29:03That's going to be fun.

29:04Oh, dear.

29:05We'll see how it goes.

29:07Struggling to see eye to eye since their honeymoon, Julia, Ruth, and Devani's task is to both rank nine different values, chosen by the experts, in their order of importance.

29:18Devani and I haven't spoken about values before.

29:20I hope that we get a better understanding of each other as a couple, and that we can understand as well why we're both here and what we're here for.

29:31No begging.

29:32I know what my core values are, and hopefully they do align with Julia Ruth's.

29:39Here we go.

29:41This is my list.

29:43At number one, I'd say humour.

29:45If someone can make me laugh and that, I feel like that makes them so outrageously attractive, you just want to be around that person.

29:53And then sex and looks is important to me.

29:59Okay, so this is my nine.

30:03Hmm.

30:05Devani's put sex and looks at the bottom of his list.

30:09So, I've got a lot of questions to ask.

30:15Sex is quite low down.

30:17Mm-hmm.

30:19Um.

30:21Yeah.

30:22Do you want to explain that?

30:24Like, why you've put it at eight?

30:27I want to know the person before anything else.

30:29And that's why I put it at the bottom.

30:31Not because it's the least.

30:33But it is out of this list.

30:35That is the least.

30:36That's the second least.

30:37So, someone's ambition to you is more important than sex?

30:44Yeah.

30:45Um, okay.

30:47Because all of this will connect a person.

30:49And then this is composites everything else.

30:53Money before sex?

30:55Yeah.

30:58For him, it's looks and sex is the last thing on a man's mind.

31:03On a man's mind.

31:04Looks and sex is the last thing on a man's mind.

31:07Come on.

31:11Okay.

31:13My sex was four.

31:15My sex was eight.

31:16Sex and looks is important to me.

31:18It's a struggle for me because that is not important to you at all.

31:22Mm.

31:23Mm.

31:23It's a little bit, uh, yeah, it's a little bit worrying.

31:31Apparently, it's not enough.

31:34Doesn't care.

31:36It's the bottom of the list, so.

31:37Do you know what's really interesting?

31:41Mm-hmm.

31:41I almost put looks at one, so we literally would have had the polar opposites.

31:46But it does shed a light on things.

31:48It's definitely interesting to see.

31:49Yeah.

31:49I don't know where this leaves me in Damali, just in terms of progressing forward.

31:54It's day one of hitting the reset button.

31:56It was meant to be a fresh start.

31:57It was meant to be fun and banter.

31:59But, um, they're quite opposite.

32:07Opposites attract.

32:17I'll never want to see that picture in my life.

32:20I look about 50 as well.

32:22No comment.

32:23Yeah, no comment.

32:25Go on, then, girl.

32:26Hit me with it.

32:26Dear Rebecca and Bailey, you seem content in the present,

32:30so we're going to ask you to delve into your past by opening your X-Files.

32:36We want you to explore the lessons you've learned

32:38and how you can bring them to bear on your current relationship.

32:41Lots of love, Mel, Paul, and Charlie.

32:43Let's get into it.

32:44Yeah, X-Files, then, yeah?

32:45X-Files.

32:45I'm sure it'll be fine, as long as my ex isn't going to walk in through the door.

32:48Or your ex.

32:50You ready?

32:50Yeah.

32:51Have you ever broken someone's heart, and how do you feel about that now?

32:55Er, yeah.

32:59Yeah.

33:00So, with my long-term ex, we, um...

33:03I'd built a life together, literally built a house together.

33:10You all right?

33:11Yeah.

33:12You all right?

33:12Mm-hmm.

33:13He proposed, and I thought, God, like, I'm going to have to make a decision.

33:19Either, like, marry him, or, like, be more true to this, like, weird, niggly feeling that

33:26I had.

33:27It broke his heart.

33:29Yeah.

33:29I feel selfish that, like, I decided to, like, take that away from him then.

33:36Yeah.

33:36And I know I broke his heart.

33:38He told me I did, so...

33:40Mm-hmm.

33:41Er...

33:42You all right?

33:44Yeah, I didn't want to, like, I didn't, I wouldn't want to make anyone that sad.

33:48But I also felt like I had to be true to myself, but also true for him.

33:54It's such a double-edged sword to see a bit get emotional, because it is hard.

33:58Don't want to see someone upset.

33:59But then also, that vulnerability is somewhat a nice feeling.

34:02It's, like, part and parcel with kind of falling for someone and starting to like someone

34:05more.

34:06So, yeah, I'm relishing it.

34:07Yeah.

34:07Good answer.

34:08Are you all right?

34:08Yeah.

34:09Cool?

34:09Yes.

34:10Happy?

34:10Give me a hug, then.

34:11Come here.

34:12Mm.

34:13Mm.

34:13I find it hard sometimes to open up to people, but being with Bailey, it does make me feel

34:19like it's safe.

34:21I haven't felt that for a while, and it's a really nice feeling.

34:35Ready?

34:36Okay.

34:36Teddy, go.

34:37Yeah.

34:38To help strengthen their emotional connections, Anita and Paul and David and Kia

34:43have been given the Ask Me Anything task.

34:46It's what we wanted.

34:46We're letting go.

34:47We're going to smash it.

34:48Yeah, we will.

34:49I like this.

34:50This is things to do.

34:51It's what we're here for, right?

34:52It's to work on ourselves.

34:54It's to make sure that we get to know each other deeper.

34:57Ready?

34:58Let's do this.

35:00Right now, I have no nerves.

35:02I have my men.

35:04Where do you think you've gone wrong in your previous relationships?

35:08Um, many ways.

35:11Um.

35:12Okay.

35:12I lose aspects of myself.

35:16In my marriage, I changed and edited myself and turned into something I wasn't and became

35:22very vacuous.

35:26Mm-hmm.

35:28Um.

35:28I guess until this point, I've never really gone into a relationship as myself, so I guess

35:37I haven't given anyone a fair opportunity to actually date me or be in a relationship with

35:42me because I just have a different edited or amended version that I think they're going to like.

35:50I guess most of the facade versions of me are pretty shitty people, so yeah.

35:54And I wouldn't want to have dated me either.

35:55They're in the past.

35:57They're in the past.

35:58They are indeed.

35:59You know, I don't judge for anything in the past.

36:06You're good as you are.

36:08I've never met anyone that is more themselves than you are.

36:10Okay.

36:12It's okay.

36:14The more time I spend with Daveed, the more I'm growing and developing because of how

36:19considerate and caring he is.

36:21I like this.

36:22This is nice.

36:23This is lovely.

36:24Yeah.

36:25Kia.

36:26Tell me three things you change about me.

36:29I wish your job didn't involve you having to go away for long periods of time.

36:33Okay.

36:34When you get in your head and overthink things, most of the time, it's a non-problem.

36:40It's a non-issue.

36:41I can work on that.

36:42We can try and do it together.

36:44And the third thing I would change is your perspective on your body image because I think

36:50you're absolutely goddamn sexy as hell and wish you could see yourself the way that I

36:57see you.

36:58It's fake.

36:59Being open with my body makes me a little bit anxious.

37:05But slowly, slowly, I'm getting more confident.

37:08I think it is lovely to see how he sees me.

37:11He makes me feel wanted.

37:12He makes me feel worried about myself.

37:14It's been a while since someone made me feel like that.

37:17It's just nice.

37:18Stop.

37:19Stop.

37:20Stop.

37:21Stop.

37:22Stop.

37:29It's kind of the perfect task this week for us, isn't it?

37:32That's what I've been banging on about all week at the end of the day, aren't I?

37:35I?

37:36Depending on his questions, they'll depend where that actually leaves us.

37:42Did you find that hard?

37:44No.

37:45All right.

37:46Because I've not really asked you much.

37:47Right.

37:48As you've pointed out a few times.

37:50I am a little bit sweaty palms.

37:55I think it's important for me to see some improvement.

37:58So, fingers crossed again.

38:01Will you give the marriage enough time so I can love you for you?

38:11How long's a piece of string time?

38:15I'm not in a hurry.

38:17I just...

38:18It's more a case of I need to know where this relationship's going,

38:23what's on your mind, what you want out of it,

38:26whether you're fully committed.

38:28Are you expecting me to be fully committed after two weeks?

38:31Well, the clue's in the title, isn't it?

38:33Married at first sight.

38:36Surely, you're wanting to commit, aren't you?

38:40I think you can be committed to the process,

38:42to going down that road of building a relationship,

38:46building trust, building respect.

38:48I think you are expecting me to be further ahead than I am.

38:51You've said it takes you time.

38:53It could be six years before you get a spark.

38:56That's the doubt that's set in my mind now.

38:58Yeah.

38:59How long does it actually take you?

39:01I just haven't got that time.

39:04Love is something you build.

39:07My time frame may be different from her time frame,

39:11and that's going to be the sticking point.

39:13I need to know what you're thinking.

39:15Surely you should know what you want by now.

39:18I don't know if Paul understands I haven't got time to waste.

39:21I was in my previous relationship for 17 years

39:24and didn't get the outcome I wanted.

39:27So I need to know where I stand.

39:29I've just wasted 17 years and I don't want to waste time.

39:32Surely we should want the same outcome.

39:35He's 60, I'm nearly 55.

39:37No, I'm not hanging around.

39:53What we're going to have dinner tonight?

39:54Pasta.

39:55Lots of cheese.

39:56Lots of cheese.

39:57Maeve and Joe's exercise for this week involves a visit from one of the experts.

40:02At the commitment ceremony, Maeve voiced her insecurities within the marriage and herself.

40:10Oh, I knew that could be.

40:12As Joe was absent, I'm visiting him and Maeve at their home to offer further one-on-one expertise.

40:19Yes!

40:22Are you all right?

40:24I'm so happy to see you, Paul.

40:26Honestly, like, his home's my home. Do you know what I mean?

40:29No, my home's his home. Is that what you're saying?

40:31Well, anyway, I'm not arse. Just take your shoes off and get comfy.

40:34Where I would love to begin is the commitment ceremony.

40:39Yeah.

40:40Joe, I believe you missed a very important moment. It was profound.

40:46At yesterday's commitment ceremony, Maeve faced the couch alone while Joe was ill.

40:51I think he is really attractive and I feel like he's not going to find me attractive whatsoever.

40:55I think he's too good for me.

40:58I mean, it's quite heartbreaking to hear you say that.

41:01Well, he is.

41:02You need to love on yourself more.

41:05This is more important than your relationship with Joe.

41:09Yeah.

41:11Do you recall a little bit of the conversation that we had?

41:14Oh, God.

41:15Joe compliments me all the time. Like, I couldn't have anyone nicer to say nice things about us,

41:19but I don't believe what he's saying.

41:22At what point in your life did you begin doubting yourself?

41:27Probably when I was with my ex.

41:31He used to talk about my appearance, just negative shit all the time.

41:35Okay.

41:36If someone says it in love to you, you start believing it. Do you know what I mean?

41:39Yes.

41:40How do we take that narrative and switch it to positive?

41:44Maeve, what I would love for us to do is teach you how to receive a compliment.

41:53Taking compliments sounds like a very easy thing to do, but it's not.

41:58I really struggle to take stuff on board.

42:01All right. This is going to be great.

42:04So Joe is going to give compliments.

42:08And when he gives you that compliment, I want you to look in the mirror.

42:14Repeat the compliment.

42:16And you're going to say, I received this.

42:19I believe this.

42:21And thank you for seeing me this way.

42:24Okay?

42:25So hit us, Joe.

42:27I love how you give everyone your energy and everyone just loves you as a person.

42:32That was cute.

42:36What, do I look at myself and say that?

42:39Yes.

42:40Just do it.

42:41I'm trying to.

42:42Go on.

42:43I feel like I got to say it.

42:45This is hard, isn't it?

42:47Yeah.

42:48Why is it hard?

42:49Because I can't take it in.

42:51Okay.

42:52I actually can't.

42:53I can hear him.

42:54I'm listening.

42:55But it doesn't go, like, it's literally in one ear and out the other.

42:58Exactly.

42:59Because you've taught yourself to just not believe it.

43:02And I also notice that you have a hard time keeping eye contact with yourself in the mirror.

43:07Why do you think you're having a hard time looking at yourself in the mirror?

43:11I don't really enjoy looking at myself in the mirror.

43:14Why?

43:15I don't know.

43:16I just don't feel confident in myself.

43:18That's why this is important.

43:19Yeah.

43:20So we're going to do that round again.

43:23But you have to look at yourself in the mirror the entire time.

43:28Joe.

43:29I love how you have my back in any situation.

43:35That is so true.

43:36It's so true.

43:37It's actually really true.

43:38Yeah.

43:39I believe that one.

43:40So you believe that's what I mean.

43:41I don't.

43:42But do you?

43:43Yeah, because I do have your back.

43:44Just say it in the mirror then.

43:45Joe loves the fact that I have his back in every situation.

43:48I receive this.

43:49I believe this.

43:50I actually do, though.

43:52Like, I know I'm struggling, but I feel like it is starting to make me believe him.

43:57This exercise actually makes me feel a little bit better about myself.

44:02It's melting my heart.

44:04You can always tell if an intervention has worked well because the couple is closer.

44:08You come back together and look at it.

44:10Maeve is in your lap right now.

44:11Yeah.

44:12Maeve, you have this story going on in your mind that you were not good enough.

44:18And the more you take in these compliments, what's going to happen to that negative script in your mind?

44:24It's not going to be negative anymore.

44:25It's going to be positive.

44:26It's going to be positive.

44:27When you can connect at your true self, that's true love.

44:31Yeah.

44:32And that's what we're trying to get to.

44:35I'm very grateful for Paul.

44:38Yeah, we're going to work on it and actually do the task going forward.

44:41So, hopefully, he'll improve.

44:43We are making...

44:45Baby steps.

44:46Yeah, but moving in the right direction, 100%.

44:49Well, then, on that note, I'm gone.

44:51Thank you for coming.

44:52Yeah.

44:53100%, this is the beginning of a new Maeve.

44:56I actually want to believe what Joe's saying.

44:58Honestly, I think he's amazing.

45:00And I don't want him not in my life.

45:02I know.

45:03What is the matter with me?

45:05What?

45:07Oh, God.

45:10This place makes you go crazy.

45:19Come on, guys.

45:20To mark the end of Experts Week,

45:22some of the group head out to compare notes.

45:24I am so excited to find out what everyone else has done,

45:28what everyone's tasks have been for Expert Week.

45:31It's a special day if Stephen's getting around, isn't it?

45:33Oh!

45:34First little day out.

45:35Cheers, lads.

45:36Cheers.

45:37I've been loving my time with Bec,

45:38but also excited to see the lads and have a bit of a debrief.

45:42We did a workshop with Charlene.

45:45She had us, like, a secret doorway into this, like, sex dungeon.

45:48Wait, wait, wait, where is it?

45:50Where is it?

45:51Yeah.

45:52Could I have a go?

45:56I'm jealous that you got to do the workshop.

45:57I wanted to do it.

45:58It was actually really good.

45:59It was really good.

46:00Yeah, it was good.

46:01Like, I'm not going to lie, I was a little bit nervous.

46:03I mean, you just, you don't know what you're kind of expecting.

46:06Do you feel like it's grown you closer to him in, like, a different way?

46:09I think it's still too early to tell.

46:12Dean and I, obviously, we haven't had really any form of intimacy at all.

46:16But, obviously, there are different forms of it.

46:18There's different levels of it.

46:19We are still taking baby steps.

46:21Yeah, it was good.

46:22I think it was what we needed.

46:23I said to him after the commitment ceremony, he's constantly got you on this pedestal,

46:27and that's something he said he wouldn't do.

46:29I was like, you know, you also need to be there for you, too.

46:33I think that commitment ceremony kicked her up the arse a little bit.

46:36You know, maybe it's made her realise a little bit more how good Dean is.

46:40She needs to be open and vulnerable to him.

46:42Like, she's been matching for a reason.

46:44Oh, good.

46:45Where are you and Lee now?

46:47Yeah, we haven't, like, we had to have the best night.

46:50How did you not?

46:52No, like, Lee thought I'd come up to you in a bar and was like,

46:55Hey, Rebecca, I fancy you.

46:58But it's not in that way at all.

47:01I think you'd said, like, Rebecca's more my type, gym girl darker.

47:06And also, like I said, you feel like home to me because my friends are like you.

47:12And it was just something that was latched onto, but there was literally nothing in it.

47:17That made her realise definitely that, OK, maybe I do like her a little bit more,

47:22but she still won't admit that.

47:24I can't understand why Lee would feel negative feelings towards it,

47:29because if somebody in the group is pointing it out as being more your wife's type,

47:34then there's going to be some sort of feelings.

47:36But there's just nothing to worry about with me and Leah.

47:41All right then, Steve.

47:42You're the one that holds your cards close to your chest. What about you?

47:44Obviously, for me, look, I never like to show vulnerability

47:47because it makes me look weak.

47:49And when I've done that in the past, then people take the piss.

47:51So I've decided to slow down on the intimacy side of things.

47:54Like, the less hugging, the kissing, which sounds bad.

47:57But why have you kind of made that decision?

47:59Because, like, she's three steps ahead of me because she's opened up and I haven't.

48:02It might get in her head a little bit if she sees you going backwards a bit.

48:06I think if you are doing that, you've got to be super clear as why you are doing that.

48:10I don't, like, needless. I like... It's good to feel wanted, right?

48:13Of course it is. Like, everyone wants to feel wanted.

48:15But, like, just let me breathe. I need my time apart.

48:18I don't think she's, like, super needy.

48:20But then also, if you are... You're saying yourself, you're more on the closed side,

48:24that might bring a little bit of that out.

48:27She really likes you. And I've talked with her a lot, and you know that.

48:31Stephen is overthinking it. He's definitely overthinking it.

48:34He's being way too logical about this. Um, just let go.

48:38It's the only way it's going to work if you say let's go.

48:45So, Stephen came to see you, didn't he?

48:48I think he just needed to kind of vent and go through what had happened in the evening.

48:52He just kind of needed to say it out loud to us.

48:55And I told him, like, time and time again that they're not trying to do it to wind you up.

48:59No-one's aim is to wind you up. No.

49:01Their aim is to pick me up, because you could see that I wasn't myself.

49:04Much better to do it over wine. No.

49:07And you two are good now. That's all squashed.

49:10Yeah, I'm just, obviously, it's still hard, I think.

49:12He still has pulled back, but now I'm like, well, cool, sweet.

49:15You pull back if that's what you want to do.

49:17I'm going to do me. If you want me, then great.

49:21If he doesn't, his loss. Yes, it is, yeah.

49:26I don't really know where I stand.

49:27I just need a bit of consistency.

49:29It's really hard sometimes if the Stephen I've got now is slightly more reserved than the Stephen I met on the honeymoon.

49:36Usually I would be like, okay, cool, I'm tapping out. I'm not going to put myself through this.

49:40So, if you don't want all of me, then see you later, mate.

49:44You can get fucked.

49:48Next time.

49:49On a scale of one to ten, how strong are your feelings?

49:53The second dinner party serves up romantic confessions from some.

49:579.5.

50:01Do you have any regrets so far?

50:03While others face harsher truths.

50:06Yes.

50:08I feel like I'm constantly calling you out for things.

50:10I'm trying to be nice and then they're backfiring on me.

50:14I'm at a point of my life now, I need to know you want the same thing.

50:17I haven't got time to waste.

50:19But it's gossip in the group.

50:21He fucked a girl like two weeks before he came up here.

50:25Wait.

50:26It sparks the biggest conflict of the night.

50:28Who has decided to say I was talking about my sexual activity?

50:31You did.

50:32We were all there.

50:33People are starting to fuck me off.

50:34That, that, that, that, that.

50:38You're fucking cunts.

50:39Wow.

50:40Did he just say that?

50:56I feel you love something.

50:57.

50:58All right.

50:59You are.

51:00Thanks.

51:01All right.

51:04Everybody, you agree with me.

51:05The

51:11church, you want to tattoo yourself?

51:12There that.

51:14The church says

51:16It feels that magic

51:20Was it cool for you?

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