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Open House The Great Sex Experiment Season 1 Episode 6
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00:00It's contraceptive, known to man, is wedding cake.
00:05But is it possible to open up your relationship without harming it?
00:10It's a complete mystery, the whole thing. This is it. We don't know what to expect.
00:13These curious couples are about to find out.
00:17Oh, that is gorgeous.
00:18They're traveling to a unique retreat.
00:20Hello, you all right?
00:22Where, with the help of a specialist relationship therapist...
00:26Life is short. Why limit sex to just one person?
00:31...and a group of single, available and sexually liberated residents...
00:36It's just natural to have sex with multiple people.
00:41They're about to discover if their sexual fantasies...
00:45Oh, jeez!
00:48...can become a reality.
00:50We like the idea of group sex.
00:52We were just wondering if you'd like to spend the night with us.
00:54And whether or not they'll be able to break one of society's greatest taboos.
01:00I should have been thinking about the man that I love and how he was feeling.
01:05And have sex with other people.
01:08Oh, my God!
01:10Wow, I was not expecting that.
01:14This is the most up my comfort zone I've ever been.
01:16I'm nervous.
01:27Yeah.
01:28I've got butterflies.
01:29How are you feeling?
01:31Yeah, I'm buzzing.
01:32Checking into the retreat are Ellie and Chaos, whose love affair began online.
01:37When I first saw Ellie, she was wearing these very small shorts and her bum was, like, kind of hanging out.
01:44Oi! Oi!
01:44It was a very hot day, so...
01:47You ready to have fun, Ellie?
01:48Yeah.
01:49Can't wait.
01:51Chaos was quick to take the relationship to the next level.
01:55I prepared this video.
01:56Will you be my girlfriend?
01:58Then it went viral.
01:59I went bright red.
02:01I went literally the shade of a tomato.
02:03And all the comments were saying about how...
02:06Yeah.
02:08Sit!
02:09As a professional GB athlete, Chaos knows how to stay cool under pressure.
02:15I'm just a really chilled and laid-back person.
02:17I have complete trust in Ellie and what she does.
02:21So I have nothing to worry or be jealous about.
02:23And being super fit helps him keep up in the bedroom.
02:27We do do it, like, well, every day.
02:31The chemistry is good, so we're quite adventurous.
02:34Top notch.
02:36I would probably say that I have a very high, like, sex drive.
02:41And, yeah, it's hard to find someone that matches that.
02:43Now the couple want to find out if opening up their relationship,
02:47starting with a threesome, will help them keep the spark alive.
02:52I'd say the honeymoon period is over,
02:54but we're still very much so attracted to each other.
02:57I do think it's a bit naive to think that you can be with one person for your entire life.
03:03Can you see it?
03:05Yes.
03:05Oh, my God.
03:07How are you doing?
03:09Here to welcome them are hosts Jess and Tom,
03:12who are in a long-term open relationship themselves.
03:14How are you feeling?
03:16Very excited to see what's to come, yeah.
03:19Hello.
03:20Hello, everyone.
03:21Hi, everyone.
03:22Now, Kea.
03:23Nice to meet you.
03:24Nice to meet you.
03:25God, you look so good.
03:26Yeah.
03:31Intimacy therapist Dr. Laurie Beth
03:33wants to help the couple take their first steps into non-monogamy.
03:37Hey, Rabba Chair.
03:39It's good to meet you, too.
03:40So why don't you tell me what has brought you here?
03:43We thought this would be the perfect opportunity to have a threesome.
03:48Yep.
03:48Seeing Eddie, for example, kiss another girl or anything like that,
03:52I'm attracted to that, so...
03:54I think that's Kea's ideal scenario.
03:56I mean, that's kind of every guy's dream, to be honest.
04:00What do you think other people might bring to your relationship?
04:03I mean, more fun, I guess.
04:05Yeah, I guess.
04:05Yeah, okay.
04:06Yeah.
04:06More fun.
04:07Yeah.
04:08So where are you in your sexuality?
04:11I've always said I don't really label things.
04:12I never consider myself as straight or bisexual.
04:15I've always had attraction to both sexes, so that's really how I feel.
04:20So opportunities are structured with that in mind?
04:24Yes, yeah.
04:25What is jealousy like for you?
04:27I've never been jealous in my life, really.
04:30I mean, I've nothing.
04:30I don't know how...
04:31Like, there's nothing that will make Kea's jealous, he says, so that's interesting.
04:36Not that I know of, anyway.
04:36Yeah, yeah.
04:38But nothing that comes to mind.
04:39What's jealousy like for you?
04:41Slightly a bit jealous.
04:42I mean, it would be strange not to be.
04:43I don't think that he would ever do anything behind my back, so I do fully trust him in
04:49that way.
04:49But I can be a little bit jealous.
04:53Okay, so before you date together, Ellie, I want you to go on a social alone.
04:59I want you to explore your bisexuality on your own first, without Kea's there, so you
05:04don't have to worry about jealousy.
05:06You'll have the opportunity to meet someone, spend the night with them, and lay the groundwork
05:11for a threesome.
05:13Yeah, that sounds good to me.
05:14Cool.
05:15It's hard to predict how someone will react seeing their partner give or receive pleasure
05:20from another.
05:21She's not actually sure she might get jealous seeing him with another woman.
05:25It can be fine one minute, and absolutely not fine the next.
05:31We're going to go away and have socials, so mine's tonight.
05:34That's what's got my nerves going, but I guess I'm excited as well.
05:39Give me a hug.
05:45We're going to throw ourselves into it, I think.
05:47Give it 100%, see what it's about.
05:49Yeah, and have fun with it.
05:53The couple have only just arrived at the retreat, and one of them has already made a big impression
05:59on the residents.
06:00When Ellie came in, yeah, she was so confident, I was just like, I didn't even care about
06:05the car, I was just looking at her like, oh, she looked classy as well.
06:08Very.
06:08She is bisexual.
06:09Oh, she is bisexual.
06:10Yeah.
06:10Oh, okay, cool.
06:11And he's straight.
06:12There's a lot of girls that are okay with getting with a girl, but wouldn't want the guy
06:16to have sex with her.
06:17Girl, yeah.
06:18So they'll be having fun, and he can just watch.
06:20Watch.
06:20Yeah.
06:21Are you scared?
06:26A little bit.
06:28Next to check into this exclusive retreat, are couple Helen and Steve from Dorset.
06:33My first impression of Steve, I thought he was Jack the Lad.
06:38Remember, you sent me a picture of a bed at a hotel, a four-poster bed, saying, are we
06:43going to hang out?
06:44I thought, who does this man think he is?
06:46She had a lovely smile, but it was her arse.
06:49She had a very nice bum.
06:53I didn't fall in love with him.
06:54He irritated me.
06:56He would contact me about three times a year on Facebook.
06:59All right, babe, when are we going to get married then?
07:02And then my house burnt down, and he offered to help.
07:06And I don't know, I kind of really fancied him with his brush, painting my walls.
07:11And now she drives a Range Rover Sport.
07:12What a life.
07:13I mean, well, Cushty, you couldn't go wrong with me.
07:16Oh, look at the river.
07:19Look at the size of that lake as well, look.
07:21Don't have too many drinks, Steve.
07:22You'd be skinny dipping in there.
07:24Damn right I will.
07:25The couple have been together for four years and have a one-year-old child.
07:30My daughter is my baby girl.
07:32My pride and joy.
07:34And she'd make anyone broody?
07:36Broody, does that mean horny?
07:38No.
07:39He's funny with words.
07:41He doesn't get them all.
07:42Helen and Steve have no complaints between the sheets.
07:45I'd rate Steve 9 out of 10 in the bedroom.
07:48This tongue is better than anything you get at Ann Summers.
07:53Ann Summers has got nothing on my tongue.
07:56That's fair.
07:57It's true, don't it?
07:58Yeah, that's fair.
07:59Oh, my gosh.
08:00The size of that.
08:02Steve and Helen are here to explore if being in an open relationship with other people can make them stronger as a couple.
08:09Here we are.
08:11Let's go.
08:13It's an opportunity to discover what we both really, truly want.
08:16I think this will make a huge difference to our relationship.
08:21Wow, pretty, isn't it?
08:22I'm excited about going on this journey.
08:24It's definitely an eye-opener.
08:25Hey, guys.
08:30It's nice to meet you.
08:31I'm going to give you a hug.
08:32How are you doing, mate?
08:34You all right?
08:34Yeah, really good, mate.
08:35Smart hat, that, isn't it?
08:36Nice to meet you, I'm Josh.
08:38Welcome to the house.
08:40Take you on a tour around the place, yeah?
08:42Yeah, I'll take you this way.
08:44Hi, are you all right?
08:44Good, thank you.
08:45Nice to meet you.
08:46There's a steam.
08:52He's got thrown in the deep end.
08:53Obviously, with letting them, it's quite hard.
08:55Yeah, I might feel a little bit uneasy, him going on a date with someone else.
09:00So, yeah, cross that bridge when I come into that.
09:08You've got to get me some sexy outfit.
09:11Ellie and Chaos are hoping to bring another woman into their relationship.
09:15But before they date as a couple...
09:17I mean, I'm no fashion expert, but I think it goes.
09:23Dr. Laurie wants Ellie to explore her bisexuality without having to manage her jealousy.
09:29So she's going on a solo social.
09:31Being a little bitch right now.
09:33You need to have it a little bit up.
09:35No, like, point.
09:36Yeah, like that.
09:37I love staring at a palette.
09:41If she makes a connection with someone,
09:43she'll have the opportunity to invite them to spend the night with her.
09:47It is amazing that I'm finally kind of getting to explore this
09:52when I'm in a relationship with Chaos.
09:54It's going to be a great experience.
09:56Yeah.
09:57Sexy, yes.
09:58I think she's going to enjoy herself,
10:00and I look forward to hearing all the gossip about it.
10:04Yeah, you look good.
10:05Fun.
10:06Looking good as well.
10:06Does it look good?
10:08Yeah.
10:08I'm excited to get to know new people and have fun.
10:11I'm taking it as it comes,
10:12so we'll have to wait and see what is in store.
10:15Have fun.
10:17What?
10:18No.
10:18I'll see you tomorrow.
10:19I'll see you tomorrow.
10:20Love you too.
10:21Tonight, Ellie has a chance to socialise
10:30at a party where all the guests share a belief
10:32in the benefits of non-monogamy.
10:36Hi.
10:37Hello.
10:37You OK?
10:38Good.
10:39Nice to see you again.
10:39Nice to see you too.
10:41Host Jess is on hand to make sure things run smoothly.
10:45I wanted to introduce you to Ellie.
10:47So have you been having a good day?
10:49Yeah, so, I mean, we're throwing the D-pad.
10:52I don't know what to expect.
10:53I really don't know.
10:55It would be nice to find out their expectations as well.
10:57I don't know whether they'd find me attractive.
11:01Do you have, like, a relationship with a girl?
11:02No.
11:03Have any of you?
11:04No.
11:05No.
11:06I have.
11:07Yeah?
11:08How was that?
11:10Chaos is quite comfortable for me to get with a girl
11:13because he obviously finds that attracted to him.
11:16Hi, ladies.
11:17But he doesn't find it with men,
11:19so he wouldn't want me to do that.
11:21What are you?
11:22Sagittarius.
11:22OK.
11:23Yeah, I'm Cancer.
11:24OK, yeah.
11:25So?
11:26Chaos and Leo.
11:27Oh, really?
11:28My ex was Leo.
11:30Oh.
11:30Yeah, so...
11:32We're picking the same ones as well.
11:34Aries and Leos, they're, like, the ones
11:36I've always been, like, romantically involved with.
11:39So drawn to you.
11:40Yeah.
11:41Yeah, literally know what other signs are.
11:42Me being Aries and Chaos being Leo.
11:44How long have you two been together for?
11:49A year.
11:50Oh, OK.
11:51Like, we...
11:51We were dating before that.
11:53Oh, OK.
11:53And we were pretty much exclusive when we were dating,
11:55so it's been more than a year.
11:56Yeah, but efficient.
11:57Yeah.
11:58A year.
11:58Yeah.
11:59Well, our anniversary is on the 27th of this month.
12:02Oh, OK.
12:02So, see.
12:03Yeah.
12:03Only 15.
12:04Uh, no, not yet.
12:06A threesome.
12:06Yeah!
12:07A threesome!
12:08Don't!
12:08That's what he wanted for his birthday.
12:09Oh, of course you did.
12:11Gracie, you're available on the 27th.
12:13Yeah.
12:13Oh, yeah.
12:14I'm wonderful.
12:17Cheers, baby.
12:19Cheers.
12:19Cheers.
12:20To help Ellie get comfortable with non-monogamy,
12:23the residents have arranged a game of spin the bottle.
12:26That's you.
12:27That is a 100% new girl.
12:30Whee!
12:32Kissing someone else while in a committed relationship
12:34is a first for Ellie.
12:36I'm nervous, because I feel like it's all eyes on me,
12:40so that makes me very nervous.
12:46Oh, let's go, let's go.
12:48Literally.
12:48It's easy, because we're sat next to each other.
12:50Exactly.
12:52Whee!
12:54Yes!
12:54Yes, ladies!
12:56That's really cute.
12:57Yeah, you've got very nice lips.
13:00Oh, thank you.
13:00For me, kissing the girls, there's no feelings involved.
13:04It's just a game, like, just have fun with it.
13:12Ooh!
13:14Oh!
13:15Hey!
13:16Game over.
13:17Ellie's decided she would like to spend time alone
13:20with one of the residents.
13:22With girls, it's harder to choose.
13:24They're all so lovely,
13:25and I didn't get to kiss Gracie,
13:28and obviously she's, like, so pretty.
13:30And I chose Gracie.
13:32Yay!
13:32Yay!
13:32Yay!
13:33Yay!
13:34Don't make me laugh!
13:35Yay!
13:36Yay!
13:37For Ellie, the date is an opportunity
13:39to lay the groundwork for a threesome
13:42before boyfriend Chaos gets involved.
13:45Her vibe is great.
13:46Like, she seems really fun.
13:48I do fancy Ellie, yeah.
13:49She's really, really sweet.
13:51She's definitely my type.
13:53So, yeah, I think me and Ellie got on really, really well.
13:56And the girls could see it as well,
13:57so that's also a good sign.
13:59It definitely makes me nervous,
14:02but I just take it step by step,
14:05and, you know, if you're comfortable with it,
14:07then just have fun with it.
14:08Ellie is on a date without Chaos before the couple trial opening up their relationship together.
14:26Would you like to even do the honors?
14:28Yeah, you first, darling.
14:31Oh, adorable.
14:32This is cute.
14:33This is literally, like, glamping.
14:35It is, isn't it?
14:36And she's invited Grace to spend some one-on-one time with her.
14:40I'm going to take my heels off.
14:41Please, get comfortable.
14:43Cheers.
14:44Chin-chin.
14:45This is obviously my first time on a date with a girl,
14:48so that is really exciting,
14:50and, like, I can't wait to explore that side of my sexuality.
14:53I guess you're, like, open to getting to, like, know me and, I mean, Chaos as well.
14:59Yeah.
15:00You'd be happy to, like, have a relationship with someone who's in a relationship
15:03or be involved in their relationship, like...
15:07Yeah, either way.
15:08Like, because it would be me coming to, like, your two's relationship,
15:12whatever works best for you two.
15:15While Ellie and Grace get to know each other more intimately,
15:19Chaos is keeping himself busy.
15:21I would like to think she's having a good time.
15:26And I'll find out tomorrow.
15:29I feel a little good just to work out.
15:31I'll just tie myself out.
15:33But the only thing is there's loads of wasps in here,
15:36and bugs are a big no-no for me.
15:40Oh, fucking spiders.
15:42So I don't know how I'm going to sleep tonight in this room
15:45knowing there's two wasps flying around.
15:49Back in the yurt,
15:50the girls have found a game to play.
15:53Shall we try these dices out?
15:55Yeah, you want to?
15:59OK, so you're my lover.
16:01OK, cool.
16:01So you've got to lick me.
16:03Where do you want to...
16:03Are you having me to lick you?
16:05I'm having me to lick you.
16:07OK, I'll just let you be surprised.
16:09That was nice.
16:16That was nice.
16:17That was nice.
16:17And that's actually, like, one of my spots.
16:19So I was like...
16:20OK, cool.
16:24You can't go wrong with it.
16:25I threw myself into it and, like, tried to see whether I could develop, like, a deeper connection.
16:29OK, my turn.
16:30OK, my turn.
16:33Massage.
16:34Oh my god, yes!
16:35Yeah!
16:38You've got very, very, very soft skin.
16:40No, yeah, it's very nice.
16:42Oh, it is so good.
16:44Well, I'm going to say, well, clearly it was just kiss my boobs, so feel free to boob kiss, kiss my boobs.
16:52Yeah, well, I'll give a little...
16:57Loved it.
16:58Yeah?
16:59Yeah.
17:03Before I turn the light off, do you want to have a little kiss?
17:09I just feel like, you know, there's been so much tonight.
17:14It was quite a new experience, so maybe, I don't know, maybe I was just a bit nervous.
17:18It kind of hurts me when I already have an emotional connection with someone else in a relationship.
17:24Committed couple Helen and Steve have come to the retreat to explore opening up their relationship to other sexual partners.
17:41Hey, guys.
17:42Hello.
17:43Come on in and sit down.
17:44Dr. Laurie is on hand to help the couple brave their first few steps into non-monogamy.
17:49So, what brought you here now?
17:54I want to date other people, have a connection with someone.
17:58You're the driving force, would that be a fair thing to say?
18:01Would you say May?
18:02Yeah, definitely.
18:03On this experience, I've pushed this a little bit more because I want Steve to recognize things that are important in a relationship.
18:11Because there's a lot of things that we don't do together.
18:14What's the romance like in your relationship?
18:17Steve's very, very busy all the time.
18:20You know, I'm a busy person too.
18:23We don't have a massive amount of time for each other.
18:26If romantic is nice, I could write you a list.
18:29I'm always nice to her like that.
18:30I'm just that sort of guy.
18:32Isn't it?
18:33That's not romantic though, is it?
18:34Romance is whining and donning someone and taking them out.
18:36We've not been for a day.
18:37I took you on the back of my jet ski.
18:39Steve, do you have any ideas of things that you would like to do?
18:42I don't think I could just meet someone and just jump into a bedroom.
18:45I think you'd have to get to know the people more.
18:48Consensual non-monogamy takes lots of different forms.
18:51This gives you the opportunity to see how different things feel.
18:54And to challenge some of your boundaries that come from monogamy.
18:58We've got quite a good relationship with sort of, you know, we don't have the insecurities or anything.
19:04You love me, don't you?
19:05Of course, babe.
19:06Oh, there you go. See?
19:07Well, that was a pretty quick response.
19:11So tonight, you're each going to go on a social, spending the nights separately.
19:16Then you're each going to have the opportunity to choose somebody to spend one-to-one time with.
19:22You don't have to do anything, but I'm encouraging you to push out the boat a little bit.
19:27Yeah, lovely.
19:28Come on then, Steve.
19:30Nice to meet you. See you later on.
19:32You too.
19:36This is a really interesting couple.
19:39I suspect that there's an emotional void in Helen that is really driving this whole thing.
19:44But I'm not sure that meeting and potentially having sex with other people is going to fill that void.
19:51I'm really curious to see how they do on their socials.
19:55That's so nice, isn't it?
19:57Yeah.
19:58So nice.
19:59So where do you find yourself at with this?
20:04I don't know. I think, I don't know.
20:07It's very hard, Steve, isn't it?
20:10Yeah.
20:11I am looking forward to my social. It's a good bunch of people.
20:14It'd be good to get out and enjoy the company and see where it takes us.
20:17I just plan to have some fun.
20:19But Steve is considering the potential risks.
20:23I wouldn't mind being game and experimenting and that.
20:26Would you let me go and bang, sorry, sleep with one?
20:29Would you let me go and sleep with one of these women?
20:31Just to go on a trial, just to see what I was like.
20:34It's not a laughing matter, really.
20:35It's okay, Steve.
20:36This is very serious decisions, Ellie.
20:38All right, put the whip down.
20:39Last night, Ellie went on her first ever date with a girl.
20:52Hello.
20:53Hello, stranger.
20:54While boyfriend, Chaos, spent the night alone.
20:57Yeah, I think Gracie's really attractive.
20:59She has, like, such a nice smile and, like, her skin is so good.
21:02I love her freckles, her hair, everything.
21:05But it's not that, like, I really want to rip your clothes off kind of thing.
21:09I was, like, nervous to see my own boyfriend.
21:12Are they new?
21:13No, they're Gracie's.
21:18So, tell me about the night.
21:20What was your night?
21:21What did you do?
21:22You tell yours.
21:24Well, we played Spin the Bottle.
21:26Yeah.
21:27So I kissed Kelsey and Chanel.
21:30When Ellie told me that she was kissing multiple girls doing Spin the Bottle,
21:34I thought that was quite hot, to be honest.
21:36I mean, who wouldn't?
21:37I think that's, for me, that's a turn on.
21:40So I've got, yeah, I'm all for that.
21:42Then, Gracie.
21:45And we went to a yurt.
21:47I ended up licking her neck.
21:48I mean, she licked my neck.
21:51And I, like, kissed her boob.
21:53So you had quite a fun night, then.
21:55Tonight, the couple will have the chance to invite someone on a date together,
22:00in the hope of having a threesome for the first time.
22:03I just don't know how I'm going to feel about you going and kissing people.
22:07Well, you know it's going to...
22:09Something like that is going to happen, you know that.
22:11Yeah, but obviously you don't have to.
22:16No, but...
22:17I'm going to be nervous and maybe jealous, I don't know.
22:20For me, him kissing girls, that's definitely tiptoeing on, like, boundaries.
22:35Helen and Steve are getting ready for separate socials.
22:39Got chicken legs at a minute.
22:41Dr Laurie wants them to try and make a connection with someone
22:43and then invite them to spend some time together alone on a date.
22:47My expectations are to have fun and go on dates with a couple of people.
22:53It will be nice.
22:54The social will be an opportunity for Helen to experience romance.
22:59Something she thinks her relationship lacks.
23:02Remember Christmas Eve?
23:03I wanted us to wear Christmas pyjamas
23:05and watch a movie together and you were at the pub.
23:08Yeah.
23:09It's Christmas, innit? It's when you go out Christmas, innit?
23:10No, family time.
23:11Family time.
23:13I'm out of here.
23:14Oh, have fun.
23:15Love you.
23:17One more.
23:26The retreat's sexually liberated residents are ready to welcome the couple.
23:31Sorry, thank you.
23:33Hello.
23:34I'm good, thank you.
23:35It's nice to see you, you look stunning.
23:38Steve.
23:39How are you doing?
23:40How are you doing?
23:41How are you doing, man?
23:42I don't get many parties like this to you.
23:43No, you're not.
23:44No.
23:45No, absolutely not.
23:47Hello.
23:48How are you doing?
23:49You all right?
23:50How are you doing?
23:51Enjoy.
23:52Have a nice evening.
23:53What's happening, girls?
23:54So what brings you here, then?
23:55Experience, innit?
23:56Yeah.
23:57Have you ever done anything like this before?
23:59No, never.
24:00I just mean, like, an open relationship.
24:01No, never.
24:02Never went on dates or anything like that with anyone else.
24:04No.
24:05I had, like, a threesome or anything.
24:06No.
24:07No.
24:08Ready to spice things up later.
24:09You're like, yeah, let's go in.
24:10See how the boat goes, innit?
24:11Yeah.
24:12Not used to dating etiquette, Steve takes a novel approach to flirting.
24:17What's your ideal date night, then?
24:19Bit Emmerdale Farmer in front of the telly, innit?
24:22I was only joking, only joking.
24:24I'll be straight out there.
24:26Put that on a date night, you're joking.
24:28It's quite hard.
24:29I'm not really a person to talk into depth about sexual life like that.
24:33I like more privacy.
24:35I don't like to boast about things that I've done or boast about things that I'd like to do.
24:39So, are you, like, into anything kinky, then?
24:42I used to be very bad.
24:44What do you mean very bad?
24:45I used to be a ladies' entertainer.
24:47No!
24:48Oh, wait, like a magic mic!
24:50You're a magic mic!
24:51Yeah!
24:52Can I see a move that you used to do?
24:54I might show you one of those.
24:55Oh, come on!
24:56What's the typical type of person you do when you go for?
25:00I've never been all for the big sort of hench guys, kind of all the muscles and that.
25:05At her social.
25:06You two are all right, because you've got definition.
25:08How much do you weigh?
25:10I'm 14.
25:11Helen is wasting no time getting to know the residents.
25:14That's muscle, then, isn't it?
25:15That's muscle.
25:16Yeah, because you've got, like, a 30-inch waist, don't you, or 20?
25:19Yeah, 32, 32.
25:20Oh, yeah.
25:21Yeah.
25:22And how tall are you?
25:23I'm 6'1".
25:24And, obviously, you work out.
25:26You don't do that lifting your breakfast spoon in the morning, do you?
25:29I love it.
25:30You know what I mean?
25:31These guys are great.
25:32Everyone's chatting, everything's flowing.
25:33It made me feel like I can be myself, so I'd like to know where it kind of goes from here.
25:37You've got a lot of banner right now, but that's how it comes out.
25:40I don't.
25:41I'm shy as they come.
25:43I feel like Helen's rolled out, and me and her were clicking, we were having a bit of banter.
25:47I'd definitely like to take her out just to show her that it can happen.
25:51There's more things out there.
25:53Hello.
25:54Hello.
25:55Hello.
25:56How are you?
25:57Phenomenal.
25:59You know, I got some eyelashes on, so it's all good.
26:00Fresh.
26:01Yeah, you know.
26:02Where are you from again, sir?
26:03Dorset.
26:04Somerset.
26:05Like, so southwest-y, yeah.
26:06What do you do for a drop?
26:07I just set up a barista coffee business called the Screamin' Bean.
26:10What was on your mind when you thought of Screamin' Bean?
26:13My sister said you cannot call it that because it is just disgusting.
26:18Yeah, thank you.
26:19Like a clitoris, it's a bean.
26:20It's clicky there, isn't it?
26:21I just don't know how you didn't see that, Screamin' Bean.
26:24Architect Josh has taken a shine to Helen.
26:27You sound like an experienced lady.
26:29What do you want?
26:30Oh!
26:31Um, commitment and time.
26:32Commitment and time.
26:33Absolutely.
26:34Helen's a lovely lady.
26:37I love talking to her.
26:38She just seems like an absolute genuine person that, um, just, you'd want to be around.
26:43I think with tattoos, people go, oh, what's your tattoo, Helen?
26:46And it just looks like a little F.
26:47Where are your tattoos?
26:48Where are your tattoos?
26:49Well, you can't really see it.
26:51It's in there.
26:52Oh, see it later.
26:53Another time in the film.
26:54See it later.
26:55Later.
26:56And Helen has also made a connection with Josh.
27:01I liked the way that Josh asked me what it was that I wanted.
27:06Because that, I feel, is important.
27:08And the fact that he'd done that showed that he values the other person's sort of needs.
27:14So, uh, that one was a bit of a winner for me.
27:22On the other side of the retreat, Steve is loosening up.
27:25He's decided to give the female residents a taste of his ladies' entertainment.
27:42The striptease dance vibe.
27:43I'm not gonna lie, I thought there was a dick in my mouth at one point.
27:55Yeah, that's some way to meet someone anyway.
27:57Just balls straight in the mouth.
27:59Um, he's a really fun character.
28:03You can take your mask off now.
28:04You ready?
28:05Oh, man!
28:06I'm so shy, I'm so shy.
28:07I'm so shy.
28:08You're not shy, I'm so shy.
28:09Yeah, no you're not.
28:10You're not shy at all.
28:11I'm so shy.
28:12Thank you very much.
28:14I think my striptease went down really well with the girls.
28:37They were very excited.
28:38There was a very large amount of screaming.
28:41It's nice to make someone smile.
28:44I'm so shy.
28:45I'm so shy.
28:46I'm so shy.
28:47I'm so shy.
28:48I'm so shy.
28:49I'm so shy.
28:50I'm so shy.
28:53As the social winds down, Helen is getting closer to resident Josh.
28:58There's something that you said today which made me think, yeah, that's a really decent thing.
29:04I want to know.
29:05I'm interested in you.
29:06You're a lovely, uh, a lovely person to talk to.
29:08Yeah, full of energy.
29:09A hell of a lot of fun, that's for sure.
29:13And she's invited him to go on a romantic date.
29:16For me, it's an emotional connection with someone that I can get on with.
29:20Someone that actually wants to listen.
29:22And that's the reasons why I've picked him.
29:24Shall we go?
29:25Yeah.
29:26Bye.
29:29Helen picked me.
29:30It was a nice surprise.
29:31She had the pick of the guys and she brought a lot of laughter out of me.
29:34And, um, I think she's just a great person.
29:37And I just would love just to get to know her a little bit more.
29:40Post-strip, partner Steve also wants to spend some one-on-one time with one of the residents.
29:48Jess?
29:49Yeah?
29:50She chose you to come and have a little bit of beer, didn't she?
29:52Yeah?
29:53Yeah, we'll have fun.
29:54Yeah, we'll just have some fun.
29:55I'm really looking forward to going to spend some quality time with Jess.
29:58She's one sort of person.
30:00Very, very weird to be in this situation.
30:03To go off with a different woman whilst my wife knows.
30:06I will enjoy it.
30:08Jess! Jess! Jess! Jess! Jess! Jess! Jess! Jess! Jess!
30:11Jess! Jess! Jess! Jess! Jess!
30:13We're gonna have some fun definitely and, yeah, we'll just see where the night goes. Yeah.
30:16Committed couple Helen and Steve are dating people outside of their relationship for the
30:34very first time. After you. Oh, lovely. Oh, thank you. I'll take your jacket if you'd like,
30:43but I think you're cold, so I'm not going to take it. Oh, bless you. Helen is being romanced
30:47by Josh from West London. Would you like a glass of wine first? Yes, please. Yeah? I'm excited
30:53to spend time with Josh. He just seemed really kind of relaxed, chilled and genuine, and I
30:58kind of like that. Me and you are going to have a fantastic time. Yeah. Look, cheers to
31:02this. Thank you for picking me. After you, Jess. It's cute in here, to be fair. While Steve
31:09is having a one-to-one with Jess from Belfast. Locking the door, securing it. Jess is a very
31:17nice, bubbly girl. Oh, fuck it. I think she's on the same wavelength as I am to see how things
31:24occur and how things progress. Steve struggled with flirting earlier, but being alone with
31:30Jess seems to bring out his playful side. So you live in Glasgow then, yeah? No, Ireland.
31:36How fast? Yeah. Ireland's not a different country, is it? It is. Is it? Yeah. No, it's
31:42like a little thing just above England, isn't it? No! I like the accent, man. I like it.
31:46The Scottish accent or the Irish accent? Irish accent. Irish? Do you think I have an Irish accent?
31:50Yeah. Would you like another drink? Yeah, I'll take a top-up. What? A top-up? I'll take a top-up.
31:55A top-up. The day is going really well. Jess is quite a bubbly person and quite a good laugh
32:01to be around. She's definitely got a bit of a banner and maybe we could see what progresses.
32:06Helen says she hasn't been on a single date with Steve in their whole four-year relationship.
32:12When I started working on building sites, I was scared to go up and do chimneys.
32:16You worked on building sites. What did you do?
32:18So small talk over dinner is providing welcome attention.
32:23I used to just, like, sort out concrete blocks. They're, like, 80 to 100 kg.
32:29Fucking hell! Are you joking? No.
32:31I got told that I'd chat people to death, but, you know, it's not really a bad thing.
32:35I enjoy it. I love it. You've got a lot to say.
32:37Josh was actually really gentle and quite attentive.
32:41I kind of liked that, that he actually wanted to listen to me. It was just nice.
32:50I used to be a David Beckham person.
32:52Yeah?
32:53Yeah, I used to dress up with David Beckham.
32:54I can see that, to be fair. I can see that.
32:56You're definitely not Victoria.
32:58I'm not Victoria.
32:59You're definitely not.
33:00What do you mean?
33:01You're not that way.
33:02What an insult.
33:03No, I take that as a fucking massive compliment.
33:05A compliment?
33:06Listen, you've got a bit of physique.
33:08Yeah.
33:09Yeah, that Victoria's got bones.
33:10Do you like curves then?
33:12Yeah, I like something.
33:14A bit of...
33:15A bit of something?
33:16Are you more of, like, a boobs guy or, like, a bum guy?
33:18An arse.
33:19An arse guy?
33:20A bum guy?
33:21A bottom.
33:22A bottom guy.
33:23A bottom person.
33:24From what I've understood of you so far, I feel like you need support.
33:28I feel like you need people around you that will boost you up.
33:31I've never had that.
33:34There wouldn't be nothing nicer than the fact that someone actually believing in me and guiding
33:39me.
33:41Do you go, mate?
33:42I love everything you subscribe to.
33:44I think you can tell that I'm having a fantastic time.
33:48Are you?
33:49Yeah, I feel like I can't comment on the situation.
33:51You can't comment on the situation?
33:52No.
33:53No?
33:54I'm enjoying myself.
33:55Of course I am.
33:56Good.
33:57I've been on a date for a long time.
33:59Tonight has been, like, a real eye-opener.
34:01For me, it was about getting to know someone because that's something I feel is missing from
34:07my relationship at the minute.
34:08So, yeah, I've really enjoyed my time.
34:17Back in his yurt...
34:19Do you get whipped all the time?
34:20Do you like all that whipped shit?
34:22Depends who you're with.
34:23And despite turning the conversation kinky...
34:26I could do more with my tongue than what most people would do with the whole of their
34:29body.
34:30Yeah?
34:31Definitely, yeah.
34:32You think?
34:33Yeah, a million percent, a million percent.
34:34I'm coming to Ireland with you.
34:35You're coming back with me?
34:36Yeah.
34:37I'll meet you that time.
34:38Yeah.
34:39Come on, then.
34:40I'll come there.
34:41That's right.
34:42Steve's decided to call it a night.
34:44Did you have fun with me?
34:45Yeah, yeah.
34:46We're cracking.
34:47I've really had a great time.
34:49Jessie's a very nice girl.
34:50If I was 21, I think, and I'd come onto an experience like this, I think I'd be well-gained
34:55for doing it all.
34:56But we've been together for 40 years, and that's something I don't want to lose.
35:06Oh, give me a cuddle.
35:13No, I love you.
35:14After a night experiencing their first ever taste of non-monogamy, Dr. Laurie wants to
35:21help the couple reflect on their dates.
35:23Okay, so let's start with the early part of the evening.
35:28How was that?
35:29Fun.
35:30It was all right?
35:32I picked my dates.
35:34Yeah, we shared a couple of drinks together.
35:36Mm-hmm.
35:37Yeah, we clicked.
35:38We got on really well.
35:39And yeah, he's a nice guy.
35:40I went on a date with a girl called Jess.
35:42Mm-hmm.
35:43I did a little show for the ladies while we were in there on the actual thing yesterday.
35:47So I took her with me just to get to know her a bit more.
35:50You enjoyed the time?
35:51Oh, it was a lovely time with her.
35:52Very lovely girl.
35:53Very, very nice person.
35:55Now that you've both had romantic dates with other people, how do you feel about open relationships?
36:00The whole idea of this experience really was to sort of better our relationship.
36:06I do always feel that he lives life in the fast lane and sometimes that, you know, not all my needs are met.
36:13I do agree with what she's saying and I do work a substantial amount of time.
36:17But it has made me realize now that I do need to spend a lot more time with Helen and be more there for her because I'm not usually there.
36:23Oh, that's good.
36:24Which to me is a good thing about coming onto here.
36:26And it's made me realize I don't think I could be in an open relationship.
36:29No, you could just say no.
36:30Hand on my heart, I really don't.
36:31It's not unusual, you know.
36:33Often couples think they're ready and then they have to go away and work on themselves and their relationships.
36:38It's taught us to sort of work on our relationship, definitely.
36:43It's been definitely an eye opener.
36:45100% an eye opener.
36:47Yeah.
36:49Thank you for throwing yourselves into it and I wish you all the best.
36:52Thank you very much.
36:53Have fun.
36:54We will.
36:55Nice to meet you.
36:56You too.
36:57Take care.
36:58Bye, love.
36:59This was a really interesting couple.
37:06Helen was really not getting enough attention from him.
37:09She's not getting the romance from him that she wants.
37:11And she was hoping that non-monogamy was a solution to that.
37:14I am happy that they feel that they learned something in this process.
37:18And they felt that they had something positive to take away.
37:21After you.
37:22Definitely feel happy we're leaving.
37:24Yeah.
37:25But in a good way.
37:26Spend some more quality time definitely is a big thing.
37:28I definitely, definitely haven't spent enough time with her.
37:30And he's learned.
37:31Yeah.
37:32This has opened my eyes to see that.
37:33I didn't expect Steve just to openly say that he really wishes that he could spend more
37:40time with me.
37:41We've bettered our relationship maybe.
37:43Yeah, I think we have bettered our relationship.
37:45It did make me well up a little bit actually.
37:47You know, because it made me feel that I've got a lot of what I wanted to from this experience.
37:58Tonight, Ellie and KS are going on a social together.
38:10Hey, you look gorgeous.
38:11It's so good to see you.
38:13Yeah, I thought it was my first time.
38:15Oh, you're amazing.
38:16And based on their preference, only women are invited to the party.
38:21I really like your tattoos.
38:22Oh, thank you.
38:23They're really cool.
38:24Do you have your tattoos yourself?
38:25Yeah, I've got a few random ones to be honest.
38:28If anything was going to happen in our relationship, it would be together.
38:32So it's good to experience this with Ellie.
38:35And this is the ideal scenario for me.
38:37So I'm happy.
38:38I love tattoos.
38:39What's your favourite tattoo that you have?
38:40I'd say my favourite one is this one here.
38:44Because my granddad's from Barbados and he passed away, so.
38:47I think he's enjoying himself, yeah.
38:48And talking to the girls, if he wouldn't.
38:51They're looking for someone to invite on a date and potentially have a threesome with.
38:56I just want to get in the pool.
38:57Have you been in the pool at all?
38:58I know.
38:59Is it?
39:00It's a pool party.
39:01Why are we not all in the pool talking?
39:03Exactly.
39:04I love float.
39:05I like go on my back when I do that as well.
39:07Backstroke.
39:08And all anyone can see is the boobs just go in like.
39:13Just two pairs of tits just like gliding.
39:16And it looks like chaos has made a connection with Precious.
39:20We should get in the hot tub is what we need to do.
39:22Have you been in the hot tub?
39:23I know.
39:24Save in these two spaces.
39:26I mean Precious is an attractive woman.
39:29I would say physical attraction was, yeah, it was definitely there.
39:33So, ladies, our lovely couple have made a decision on who they'd like to spend the night with.
39:38Precious.
39:39Hey!
39:40My girl!
39:43What attracted me to Precious is that she was just...
39:47We had stuff in common and she was just easy to talk to.
39:50And she's been in an open relationship before.
39:52So, I think Ellie will definitely feel a little bit of jealousy as that's just her.
39:57Layers.
39:58Let's go.
39:59Let's go.
40:00I think if everything goes well, we have a good, you know, couple of drinks, have dinner, the chemistry is there.
40:06Who knows what could happen?
40:07No, we've never done a joint date.
40:09So, you know, that's going to be in itself something new.
40:12Obviously, she's lovely.
40:14So, that's maybe where, like, jealousy might come in.
40:28Ellie and Chaos came to the retreat to see if they could open their relationship to another woman.
40:33And tonight, they are on a date with Precious.
40:38Oh, you've got a neck tattoo.
40:40Oh, I didn't...
40:41What...
40:42Do your tattoos have any meaning?
40:43Erm, it just means I'm a gift, to be fair.
40:46Really?
40:47Fair enough.
40:48I mean, Precious, gift, you know.
40:50It's just...
40:51It's just that.
40:52Yeah.
40:53I'm excited, a little bit nervous, because I have no idea what to expect.
40:57And, obviously, it's going to be a bit intimidating at first.
41:00I'd say the best-case scenario is that Ellie's comfortable to bring Precious into our relationship.
41:08You're a boob man, aren't you?
41:10I...
41:11I think you like bums, but I think you like big boobs.
41:13Eagles.
41:14I mean, I like...
41:15You like both.
41:16But if I choose, I would go bum over boobs.
41:18Oh, yeah.
41:19Yeah.
41:20I think her emotions were just running higher than me, because I got the feeling that she
41:24wanted us to dive in and try more, but the wobble came from just me not wanting to do anything.
41:32Precious, who's been in multiple open relationships, is worried Ellie might not be entirely comfortable
41:38with the situation.
41:40So, when a girl kisses, you know...
41:42Yeah.
41:43Do you go...
41:44Oh, yeah, well, that's never...
41:46That hasn't happened, no.
41:47So, if I kissed him, you would get upset?
41:50I don't know.
41:51Oh, you see?
41:52If you asked me...
41:53Yeah, you'd be like, I don't care.
41:54I would be like, Dad, I don't care.
41:55Exactly.
41:56So, like, I don't know.
41:57Do you have to be sure?
41:58Exactly.
41:59So, then that makes me think, like, I might...
42:00Then, you know...
42:01Then you aren't.
42:02I think I overthink it.
42:03Why are you so reserved or scared about it?
42:05I don't know.
42:06Because I feel like...
42:07I feel like I'd get jealous.
42:08Do you think he would get jealous?
42:09Yeah.
42:10You're stunning and you seem like you've got your confidence, right?
42:12Yeah.
42:13The person who ever kisses your boyfriend is not going to take him away.
42:16He's yours.
42:17She's still insecure about sharing her boyfriend, her partner with somebody else.
42:24And she's concerned that he will then get more attached to the other person.
42:31Okay.
42:32Well, I'm going to pop.
42:33I'm going to go, I think.
42:34It's hard to imagine, you know, your partner getting someone on a sexual level.
42:38I don't know what it is.
42:40I feel insecure, like...
42:41I know Ellie was upset, but obviously this is a hard thing to do because we are emotionally
42:48invested in each other.
42:49We love each other.
42:57Last night, Ellie and KS' date ended prematurely.
43:00Hey!
43:01Hey, you all right?
43:02Yeah!
43:03You're comfortable.
43:04Now Dr. Laurie wants to help the couple work through what happened.
43:09How was last night?
43:11Um...
43:12I wasn't, like, comfortable with doing, like, things with other people, I guess.
43:18Right.
43:19My insecurities and jealousies, yeah, it was a difficult thing to go through.
43:23If you had to put a name to those insecurities, what are they?
43:28Like, how would you describe them?
43:31Um...
43:34Like, not feeling good enough.
43:36In general or with him?
43:38No, like, myself.
43:39In yourself.
43:40So when you look at the world, that's how you feel.
43:43Yeah.
43:44So have you compared yourself to other people?
43:47Yeah, definitely, yeah.
43:49And yet, you're a gorgeous woman, right?
43:54And he clearly adores you.
43:57Correct.
43:58Yeah.
43:59Well, I'm...
44:00Yeah, and I'm seeing that as well, so...
44:02What's come out of this is that considering opening up and considering non-monogamy has brought
44:07up your feelings of not being good enough.
44:10Yeah.
44:11You know, it's not...
44:13It's not a jealousy.
44:14I don't know.
44:15It's hard to explain, but...
44:17You're not describing jealousy.
44:19What you're saying is that you end up feeling uncomfortable because you don't feel good
44:23enough.
44:24And the fear then is, I'll be replaced.
44:26And so, coming here has highlighted that.
44:29Yeah.
44:30So you can actually go away and work on that particular bit.
44:33You know, non-monogamy is, like, difficult.
44:36Yeah.
44:37You're not yet ready to open up.
44:38You're just not there.
44:39Yeah.
44:40You're not going to do on your own.
44:41And as a couple, to be in a place where you will be able to open up and feel strong enough
44:47in the relationship.
44:49It's been wonderful to have you here as our guests.
44:51I've really enjoyed meeting you.
44:54It's been so good meeting you as well.
44:55I think you'll do fine.
44:56Thank you very much.
44:57Cheers.
44:58We're all very good at hiding our vulnerabilities.
45:03And it's only when things are out of our control or out of our comfort zone that these vulnerabilities
45:09surface.
45:10It's really hard to know if non-monogamy will work for you or not until you try it.
45:17We thought we would test, like, dip our toes in the waters and see what we think of it.
45:22But speaking about it and then doing it is a completely different thing.
45:26We're so happy that we did it, really.
45:28I think that it's something great that everyone, if they could, have a go.
45:33You all right with that?
45:35Yep.
45:36All good.
45:37You got that?
45:38Yes.
45:39There you go.
45:40This process has definitely brought us closer as a couple.
45:56If you're a curious couple or single and are interested in being part of the next.
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