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00:00Let's be clear. Selfish people are not monsters. They have no horns or recognizable traits.
00:09at first sight. They often hide behind familiar faces, among friends, colleagues or even
00:16relatives. In fact, they are often charming and friendly, capable of winning over anyone.
00:23with a joke or a smile. But their world revolves only around themselves, as if
00:29were the center of the universe and everything else was just an extra. Every gesture,
00:36every word, aims to get something for himself, even at the cost of trampling on your needs
00:41or ignore your feelings. They are true masters of manipulation, they make you feel special,
00:48They shower you with attention, but only to ask you for favors, increasingly bigger and more demanding. You
00:54Come on, they take, without ever really giving back. And when you try to say no, they make you feel
01:01guilty, as if you were the selfish or insensitive one. Phrases like, I thought I could
01:07count on you, or only you can help me, push you to give in again, even when you are
01:13exhausted. They know exactly which buttons to push to get what they want, reading your
01:19emotions like an open book. The result? You feel used and empty, while they seem
01:26always win, as if your energy were their fuel. And reciprocity? It doesn't exist,
01:32Because for them, giving is just a means to get even more. You are always there.
01:37for them, but when you need them, they disappear with a thousand excuses, leaving you alone in the moments
01:44difficult. The road is always one-way, always and only towards them, without ever a
01:51A real U-turn. It's like talking to a brick wall. Everything you give comes back to you.
01:57like an empty echo, without warmth or gratitude. These people don't change the script. They take,
02:06They demand and leave others empty-handed, often without even realizing it. Recognize
02:13This scheme is the first step to protect yourself and to avoid falling into the same trap again.
02:19It's not your fault you got involved. They're skilled at making you feel indispensable,
02:25as if they couldn't move forward without you. But now that you've acknowledged them, you can change.
02:31the rules of the game, set limits and take back control of your life. And stop
02:37finally to be just an extra in their story, becoming the protagonist of yours.
02:43Saying enough is not just a matter of small favors or simple daily courtesies. It is
02:52a profound question of energy, time and mental health, which we often transpire out of fear of
02:58disappoint others. Every yes you say reluctantly sends a silent message to yourself. My
03:06needs do not count as much as those of others. This attitude, repeated over time,
03:12It erodes your self-esteem and makes you feel smaller and smaller, almost invisible. People
03:19Selfish people are like energy vampires. They feed on your availability and leave you exhausted.
03:26and empty, without strength for yourself. Learning to say enough means protecting your resources,
03:33consciously choose who to dedicate them to and when to do so. If you don't set clear limits, you become
03:39the favorite target of those who take advantage of your kindness and helpfulness. Say
03:45Enough, change the dynamics of your relationships. Teach others to respect you and recognize you.
03:52Your value. True respect is built starting from yourself, from the way you treat yourself.
03:58and consider yourself every day. Stopping those who take advantage of you is an act of love towards
04:04yourself, a fundamental step for your well-being. It is telling the world, firmly and
04:10Serenity, I have value, my time counts and I deserve respect. And this is one of the most profound feelings.
04:17liberating and powerful you will ever experience in your life.
04:21How do you recognize someone who's taking advantage of you? Watch out for the signs. First, haste. They have
04:30always urgent, they put pressure on you so you don't think. Second, the lack of
04:37balance. You always give, they never do. A healthy relationship is an exchange, not a
04:44monologue. Third, how do you feel after watching them? If you feel empty or used, listen.
04:52That feeling. Your emotions are a warning, don't ignore them. Fourth, language.
04:59Manipulative. They use exaggerated compliments or make you feel guilty if you decline.
05:06like only you can help me or you have disappointed me are warning signs. Recognizing these
05:12Tactics helps you avoid falling for it again. When you hear these phrases, turn on your inner siren.
05:19Trust your signals, they are your best defense.
05:26Saying no is difficult, but it's the key to your freedom. We often feel guilty or
05:32We fear disappointing others, but saying no is an act of courage and respect towards ourselves.
05:37yourself. It's the first step to taking control of your life and not letting yourself be guided only by others.
05:43from other people's expectations. It doesn't mean being mean, but respecting yourself. Saying no is
05:51A way to assert your needs and limits, without feeling selfish. Those who respect you
05:57He'll truly understand your no. Anyone who doesn't is probably not worth your time. Authentic relationships
06:04They are based on mutual respect, not on the fear of losing someone. You don't need a thousand
06:11Apologies. I'm sorry, but I can't, that's enough. Being clear and sincere is often the best choice.
06:18The better. The more you justify yourself, the more you leave room for manipulation. The less you explain, the more you reinforce.
06:24Your location and safety. You can also offer alternatives. I can't today, but on Saturday.
06:31Yes. This way you show that you care about the other person, but without sacrificing yourself. This way you show
06:38Availability, but on your terms. Remember that your time is valuable and deserves respect.
06:46Saying no is a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it becomes. It may seem difficult at first, but
06:53With practice it becomes second nature. Start small, build confidence. Each time.
07:00By saying no, you strengthen your self-esteem and your ability to choose. The world doesn't
07:06collapses if you say no; in fact, your limits will be respected more. You'll discover that those who want you
07:13well, he will continue to do so. Saying no doesn't close doors, it opens new ones for you. It allows you
07:20to choose what's best for you and live more authentically. It's an act
07:25of care towards your well-being. Be kind, but firm. Take the time to listen to the
07:32your needs and respect them. And remember, your peace of mind comes first. Only then
07:38you will be able to experience healthier relationships and a freer life.
07:41Let's get down to business. How to say no assertively? Use "I" messages. I feel
07:53I'm under pressure when I have too many requests. Express your needs without accusing. Another
07:59Technique is a broken record. Calmly repeat your position, without giving up. I'm sorry,
08:06But I can't help you. Repeat it if they insist. Silence and body language reinforce
08:12your message. Stand up straight, look them in the eyes, stay calm. Don't fill the silences.
08:18with excuses. Communicate confidence. Your decision is final. This teaches others to respect.
08:26Your limits. Here's how to apply this in real life. Pushy coworker? I understand.
08:35The problem, but I can't right now. We can talk about it on Monday. Dude, is it one-way? I'm glad.
08:43You're throwing a party, but I can't help you on Saturday. I hope you can figure it out. Relative.
08:49invasive. Nice to hear from you. I'm busy now, let's meet up this weekend.
08:56The structure is simple. Validate the other person's need. Express your "no." Offer an alternative.
09:02If you want. No elaborate apologies are necessary. Clarity and kindness are enough. So, protect your
09:10time and space without guilt. Every time you do it, you become more confident.
09:17Try it. And you'll see the difference. Healthy relationships are built like this. You don't always have to be...
09:24Available. You deserve respect too. All these strategies only work if you believe
09:33in yourself. If you don't think you deserve respect, no technique will last. Your value doesn't depend on
09:39no matter how much you tell others. Repeat it. My needs are important. Celebrate every little thing.
09:46Success. A no said. A protected hour. Treat yourself as you would a friend. With kindness and
09:53Understanding. Make a list of your qualities and reread it when you feel insecure. Remember
10:00who you are, regardless of the approval of others. Self-confidence is the first
10:06True, you must say. It all starts here. Boundaries are the fence of your life.
10:16They decide who can enter and under what conditions. Understand your limits. What are you?
10:22Are you willing to do? How much time are you willing to dedicate to others? Communicate your boundaries clearly.
10:28And calm down. Don't expect others to understand them. Tell them yourself. Maintaining them is difficult,
10:35but necessary. If you say no, don't give in after insistence. Every time you enforce
10:42You draw a boundary, you strengthen it. It may create friction at first, but over time people will understand.
10:49The relationships that remain will be those based on true respect.
10:52In short, you deserve respect. Always. You don't have to earn it by sacrificing yourself for others.
11:03It's your birthright. Respecting yourself makes you better with others, too.
11:09Your relationships will become more authentic and mutual. The path isn't always easy.
11:16There will be doubts and feelings of guilt. Some will distance themselves, but those who truly love you will...
11:22It will remain. You're clearing out, and only the relationships that nourish you will remain. Start today.
11:30Honor your needs. Say a few gentle nos. Believe in your worth. Protect yourself.
11:36It's selfishness. It's intelligence and love. You deserve a peaceful and happy life. The remote control
11:43Your life is in your hands. Change the channel. Choose self-respect.
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