00:00My name is Oliver Dent. I am a firefighter for Hertfordshire Fire and Rescue Service and I'm based out of Hatfield.
00:07This is my story.
00:10On the 4th of September, 2022, I saw my baby's heartbeat at 7 weeks.
00:16I was going to be a dad.
00:18Something I had dreamt about for years and something I had felt destined to become.
00:23We were both so excited and instantly started to change our whole life.
00:27How we wanted to tell our family, what gender, clothes, who would they look like.
00:33All of these exciting things go through your head in seconds.
00:37Symptoms go.
00:39Boobs aren't sore anymore.
00:41She doesn't feel sick.
00:43Something isn't right.
00:45EPU.
00:47That's the early pregnancy unit.
00:49Somewhere you never want to be when you're having, wanting, craving a child.
00:54I saw my baby, a little bigger than before.
00:58Arms, legs, head, all formed.
01:02But there was no heartbeat.
01:05The dream had gone.
01:07Our little rice miscarriage number one.
01:10I had to be strong for her whilst feeling heartbreak that I've never experienced before.
01:15Fast forward to March.
01:17I go upstairs.
01:19I look on the bed and there's a pregnancy test.
01:23And there's also a baby grow that reads,
01:26I love my daddy.
01:28This time I'm going to be a dad.
01:31We pay for an early pregnancy scan as soon as we could.
01:35Nothing there.
01:37There's no heartbeat.
01:40The same emotions hit me but this time it feels a bit weird.
01:47I've never felt so unlucky.
01:5120%.
01:53Little baby pip.
01:55Miscarriage number two.
01:57So what do we do?
01:59We decided to go private for some blood tests.
02:02They came back normal.
02:04Bad luck?
02:06Do we need further testing?
02:08The specialist advice was keep going.
02:10The odds are now in your favour.
02:13Well if the specialists who have studied for years say this,
02:16then it must be.
02:18Pregnancy number three.
02:20Positive test.
02:22Anxiety.
02:23Excitement.
02:24More anxiety.
02:25Bleeding.
02:26Bleeding.
02:27No baby.
02:29Miscarriage number three.
02:31Baby nugget.
02:32Gone.
02:33We were now officially part of a 1% club.
02:36A club that no one wants to be in.
02:40So whilst we were finding another clinic to go to,
02:43we had another pregnancy.
02:45As soon as we were pregnant we weren't anymore.
02:48Baby dot.
02:49Miscarriage number four.
02:52A family friend pointed us in the direction of Dr. Shihata
02:55and Dr. Edge in Epsom,
02:57geniuses of the fertility and pregnancy world.
03:00Blood tests and scans show that my partner had high natural killer cells,
03:06which you only find out that you have those whilst you're pregnant.
03:10It basically meant that every pregnancy we have,
03:13the natural killer cells would kill the pregnancy.
03:16So, where are we now?
03:21As of writing this, or reading this should I say,
03:24we are 33 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy.
03:28It's cost a lot of money,
03:30but what is money compared to happiness and a healthy baby?
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