00:00I get comments about my look when I'm out in public.
00:02Sometimes I get gasps of shock.
00:04Worry about yourself. I'm doing fine.
00:06I'd love to put a number on how many tattoos I've got in total,
00:09but it's impossible.
00:10I've been called a bad mother because of my tattoos.
00:12I don't see why having tattoos makes me any less of a parent.
00:15The purpose of today is to tell my brother
00:18that I am thinking about having my tongue split.
00:21I'm quite scared, actually, because I think he's going to kick off.
00:23Is it dangerous?
00:25I started getting tattooed when I was 15.
00:29That's when I had my first.
00:30And then I was always obsessed with them.
00:33I get a lot of negativity online for my look.
00:36It can be either about my appearance,
00:39as in, like, the aesthetics that I have,
00:41or my tattoos.
00:43I also get judged for being a tattooed mother.
00:46It's completely ridiculous.
00:47I don't get it, to be honest.
00:49I don't see why having tattoos makes me any less of a parent
00:51than somebody who doesn't have tattoos.
00:54I get comments about my look when I'm out in public.
00:56Sometimes I get compliments.
00:58Sometimes I get gasps of shock.
01:00Negative comments that I usually receive,
01:02they're always kind of backhanded compliments.
01:05So it'll be like,
01:05well, I like the tattoos,
01:07but I don't like the ones on the face.
01:09Or, she's got good tattoos, but she's taken it too far.
01:12Those comments annoy me because it's like,
01:14you're either saying something nice or you're not.
01:16Which one is it?
01:18I never cover up my tattoos when I'm out with my daughter.
01:21No, I...
01:23I try to dress more respectfully as a mother.
01:26You know, I'm not really wandering around in hot pants
01:29and crop tops anymore,
01:30but I don't have the figure for it anymore.
01:33But no, I dress how I want to dress.
01:35Oh, that looks nice.
01:37I love dressing her up.
01:38I really do.
01:39I usually try and keep it quite casual.
01:41Like today, she's just got leggings and a t-shirt on.
01:44When she was first born,
01:45she did actually have lots of extravagant dresses and outfits.
01:48And I soon realised that
01:51there's definitely a chore trying to put those on her.
01:56So now we go nice and casual, don't we, darling?
02:01Life's completely different now.
02:04The late nights now involve feeds and changing
02:08and weekends are now filled with soft play and mum clubs.
02:14I wouldn't change for the world.
02:16I'd rather have her every single day for the rest of her life
02:20than go to another party again.
02:24I've got lipstick all over her.
02:28If people were to judge my daughter
02:31for her having lots of tattoos like they do me,
02:33I would just tell her to ignore it
02:35because, you know, people are still going to judge you
02:37regardless of whether you did or you didn't do it.
02:40It's really hard to find a boyfriend.
02:42I think, like, guys are really put off
02:44by the whole face tattoo thing.
02:47They don't mind, don't you think?
02:48They can be covered.
02:50But as soon as they go on the hands and face
02:53and they want to take you and introduce you to their parents,
02:55the parents are like, oh, no, I don't like that.
02:58So generally, I think that guys tend to avoid me
03:01because of my appearance.
03:04And then adding a child into the mix with that baggage,
03:07they're a bit like, no.
03:10So I'm not finished with tattoos yet.
03:12I've got a lot more to get.
03:13And I really like my tongue split.
03:15It's something I've thought about for years.
03:18So it's something I'm looking into now.
03:20My little brother has quite a weak stomach.
03:23And I think that he is going to not be happy about it.
03:28I think he'll retch, to be honest.
03:31Becky is an unbelievable mother.
03:33Genuinely, I've never known anyone to be so attentive
03:36and so caring yet let her do her own thing at the same time.
03:41She's really bringing her up well.
03:43She gets stared at every second of every day.
03:47Honestly, I think it's probably the forehead tattoos
03:49that do it.
03:50I think people see that, and they're like, OK,
03:53why has she done that to herself?
03:54But people shouldn't really be like that
03:56because everyone's got their own body.
03:59Hi, babe.
04:00Hi.
04:01You OK?
04:01Yes.
04:02How are you?
04:03I'm fab, thank you.
04:04Oh, I missed you.
04:05Missed you too.
04:06So basically, for a long time, I'm getting my tongue split.
04:17Why?
04:18Because it is my body and my choice.
04:22OK.
04:24But I'm OK.
04:25What do you think about that?
04:27Terrible.
04:27Why is it terrible?
04:29Honest reasoning.
04:30I just find it weird.
04:32I don't understand why anyone would want to have two tongues.
04:36Who's going to find that attractive?
04:39But it's not for them.
04:40It's for me.
04:40It's something I want to do.
04:42How do you do it?
04:43What is it?
04:45So they just cut the tongue in half,
04:47and then they sew it down each side
04:48so it doesn't stitch back together.
04:52What, is it dangerous?
04:53You can lose your tongue.
04:55It could heal, get gangrene, fall off.
04:57I wouldn't be able to speak again.
05:00You can be left with a lisp.
05:03So yeah, there's obviously a danger.
05:05I feel like the tongue-splitting vibe is not one for me.
05:10Definitely, I don't think.
05:11Probably 99%, maybe 99.5% of people
05:15would say that's not a good idea.
05:17But obviously, it's their own.
05:19If she wants to do it, she wants to do it.
05:21I do think mothers with tattoos get judged.
05:23I don't know why they do, because I
05:25don't think there's any difference to a tattooed
05:27person and a non-tattooed person raising a child.
05:31It's literally just artwork on your skin.
05:33The only thing I have to say to anybody
05:35who judges my parenting skills or judges me as a parent
05:39due to the way that I look is, worry about yourself,
05:43because I'm doing fine.
05:45Rory is amazing.
05:46We're both doing really, really well.
05:49I don't think there's any issues in my parenting
05:51skills whatsoever.
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