00:00This is Wes.
00:02He fell in love with...
00:04Cassandra.
00:06People judge us because my wife, Cassandra, is taller than me.
00:09Girls think my husband is my son.
00:11Some of the misconceptions that people make is that I can't protect her,
00:15she is not feminine,
00:17that I suffer from short man syndrome.
00:20Today we're going to be speaking to my twin brother, Curtis.
00:22It was definitely something that was like,
00:24oh wow.
00:26Didn't see that coming.
00:27Would you ever date a woman that's taller than you?
00:29I wonder what we're going to wear today.
00:34Let's go in my closet and figure it out.
00:36My name is Cassandra.
00:37My name is Wes, and people judge us because my wife, Cassandra, is taller than me.
00:41Wes and I met on a dating app in 2017.
00:44I thought he was cute, he was funny.
00:47I think it was an immediate connection, to be quite frank.
00:50And we also love fashion,
00:52and so that's something that definitely pulled us closer together.
00:59Do you want anything to drink? Like anything in particular?
01:02I'm not ice shy.
01:03Ice shy? Okay.
01:04I'm 5'10".
01:05And I'm 5'5".
01:06So we're 5 inches apart, but when I wear heels I'm about 8 inches.
01:11For me, I didn't necessarily have an issue with dating anybody taller than me,
01:15so I just knew that as long as I'm attracted to the person that I'm with,
01:19that's all that matters.
01:20So we actually knew about each other's heights early on.
01:23She just told me she was 5'10", and we never really made a big deal about it.
01:28When I started dating, I didn't want to date anybody shorter than me
01:31because I was just so focused on what would people think about me and the stigma.
01:35However, once I got serious, it was like, you know what,
01:38I really want to find my person.
01:40I kind of let the height thing go.
01:42And I was just like, you know what, it is what it is.
01:44The person is shorter than me, they're shorter than me, it's fine.
01:47As long as I'm attracted to them and they dress good, I'm set to go.
01:52I guess Wes was the first person I was just like,
01:54height really didn't matter, it wasn't a factor for me.
01:58I have dated someone that has been taller than me several times, actually.
02:02Some of the misconceptions that people make is that I can't protect her,
02:06she is not feminine, that I suffer from short man syndrome,
02:11which means that I actually have an anger problem,
02:13that she walks all over me and I have no say-so in this relationship.
02:17Like a complete change of power dynamics
02:20just because she's taller than me and I'm shorter than her.
02:22We should do a TikTok video because we look really good.
02:25Yeah, why not? Let's go ahead, we're going to do a fit check kind of video?
02:28Yeah, we should do a fit check.
02:29Sounds good.
02:30Hey, what's up y'all? Today we're going to do a quick fit check,
02:33starting off with me, of course.
02:36We started posting on social media actively,
02:38so we would do some content as a couple,
02:40but then we also did a lot of lifestyle as well as fashion content.
02:44Passing it over to my wife.
02:47Alright, what up guys?
02:49Today is something simple but cute, so you guys know how it is.
02:53I do.
02:54When we actually got married, we posted on TikTok and we went viral.
02:58We just wanted to post about being a couple,
03:00I think because we both like to dress,
03:02so that was just something that we shared in common
03:05and just did videos because we look good.
03:07So height wasn't a factor.
03:09And there you have it. Let us know what you guys think.
03:12Of course, I think we got a 10 out of 10.
03:14When I was looking for somebody to date,
03:17one of my non-negotiables was,
03:18if you don't know how to dress, I don't want to be with you.
03:22When I met Wes and I saw he can dress,
03:24and he can really put an outfit together,
03:26and he has his own sense of personal style,
03:28I was like, okay.
03:29You look good back there.
03:32People just say all kinds of crazy things on the internet
03:35when they don't feel like it's deemed normal.
03:38For the most part, it is positivity.
03:40However, there are people that just say the most vile and nasty things
03:45about our height difference.
03:47So let's take a look at some of the comments
03:49that we've actually had on our recent videos.
03:51Why does she have to wear heels all the time?
03:53Because I can.
03:54Because you can and you should.
03:56I love when you wear heels.
03:58You love it too, Shannon?
04:00Someone said he's so down-to-earth.
04:03Why am I now seeing that?
04:05That's your hand purse.
04:07You would have thought that, like, you know,
04:09I was some type of alien or something like that.
04:12A lot of people do think that it's peculiar and it's unusual.
04:16And so we get a lot of troll comments.
04:18The man will definitely remain faithful, that's for sure.
04:21Which is so crazy to me because, yes, I am going to remain faithful,
04:24but a cheater's a cheater, and your height doesn't necessarily matter
04:27if you're going to cheat or not.
04:29Then another comment was, like, we want to see your bed.
04:31We have a standard king-size bed, to be quite frank.
04:35A long-distance relationship.
04:38We're only five inches away.
04:40Like, it's not even that big of a difference, but OK.
04:44Somebody said, which one is the man?
04:46What is so concerning about some of these comments
04:49is because there is a height difference in our relationship,
04:52all of a sudden you're no longer feminine, I'm no longer masculine,
04:55and that's not true at all.
04:57And it's just weird to me that people would say that.
05:00I've always been in my soft girl era, never had to get taken out of it.
05:04I rest in my femininity.
05:06He wears the pants. I'm a princess.
05:09The worst reaction that we've ever gotten was they said that my wife,
05:12Cassandra, was actually my mother and I was her son.
05:16It was quite distasteful because I'm not even too sure
05:19what made that person even say that comment.
05:21Honestly, I don't care. I'm a confident person.
05:24I know who I am as a person.
05:26You can say whatever you like, have your own opinion,
05:28but it's your opinion. It's like a nose. Everybody has one.
05:31Yes, I felt a sense of disappointment,
05:34but overall, like, I could care less about what people have to say.
05:38These negative comments actually brought us closer.
05:40At the end of the day, we come online, social media, to, like, show ourselves.
05:44Outside of that, we're not going to pay attention to any of the negative comments.
05:47When we first started dating, on the outside, people would just stare at us,
05:51you know, not really say anything.
05:53How my family and friends reacted, it wasn't really a reaction.
05:56My dad would make a little bit of a joke and be like,
05:59oh, you're just dragging Wes around town.
06:01I'm like, ha ha ha, so funny.
06:03The height difference, so to speak, was not really a factor
06:06with any of my friends or family.
06:08The only comment that I got is, like, when my mom first saw Cassandra,
06:11she was like, wow, she's tall.
06:13But my mom thinks she's actually an Amazon beautiful goddess,
06:17so it's like, you know.
06:20I grew up with my twin brother. We were very close,
06:22and he's never met anybody that I used to date.
06:25He just wanted somebody that had, like, a sense of protection
06:29and that can protect me.
06:31Hey, bro, how are you?
06:33Yo.
06:34What's up, man? How's it going?
06:36What's going on? How y'all doing?
06:38We're doing good, bro. No complaints.
06:40So I just wanted to know, like, what was your first thoughts when you met Wes?
06:44I'll be honest.
06:46It's a dude meeting my sister at the end of the day.
06:49You know, somebody that's interested in my sister.
06:53Take it with a, I don't know, precaution.
06:56I guess it's a brotherly thing to do at the end of the day.
06:59But since I've known him, chill dude, cool dude,
07:04cool dude, get dressed.
07:07Yeah, the only reservations I had this Saturday night
07:10was just making sure that you're treated well.
07:13That was your only reservation?
07:15I mean, yeah.
07:18Now, if you want to get to the grid,
07:20you talk about the court part.
07:22It was definitely something that was like, oh, wow.
07:26Didn't see that coming.
07:28First of all, I didn't know Cassandra's taste,
07:31so being you was kind of like, okay, sure.
07:36Yo, bro, quick question, though.
07:38Would you ever date a woman that's taller than you?
07:41Yeah, 100%.
07:43Probably not to the 7-foot range, to be honest with you,
07:46but, you know, 6'3", 6'4".
07:50I was living with somebody that was taller than me,
07:53and I didn't mind at all.
07:55I really realized that whenever heels was on,
07:57I was kind of like, oh, wow.
08:01But I'm glad to see that you are happy.
08:04It's beautiful to have that arm that I see you guys have.
08:07It's nice. It's really nice.
08:10Appreciate that, man.
08:12I'm gonna start crying now.
08:15All right, bro, thank you so much for chit-chatting with us today.
08:19I really appreciate it.
08:21I hope you enjoy the rest of your day, and I'll talk to you soon.
08:24Likewise, bro. Have a good time. All right.
08:27Peace.
08:28Our relationship works really well because we're one and the same.
08:32Every day we put our best foot forward in regards to the relationship,
08:35and I think that has kept us here where we are.
08:38And this is my bestie.
08:40What I love most about Cassandra is actually her compassion.
08:44What I love most about Wes is that he is so caring,
08:48and he just wants the best for anybody that's in his circle.
08:52He wants me to win. He supports me.
08:55I understand that we are clearly in a different relationship,
08:59and you don't typically see that every day.
09:02If you can't necessarily comprehend or figure out
09:05or even wrap your mind around to understand
09:08how do two people actually get into a relationship, fall in love,
09:12please just keep your judgments to yourself.
09:14Also, stop believing what society has in place for us.
09:17The more you start believing what you want
09:19and start really having an inner look at yourself and loving yourself,
09:24you won't care what society has to say,
09:26or you won't care what is deemed normal.
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