00:00This is Joseph. He fell in love with Nathan.
00:04We've been together for 13 years.
00:06Growing up in Texas and definitely even more so in a Mormon family,
00:11I felt a lot of, quote, Mormon guilt about my sexuality.
00:15Joseph's sister Brianna has always been supportive
00:18and is helping the couple start their own family.
00:21She would be our gestational carrier.
00:23But not everyone is supportive of this.
00:26This is sick, you guys are freaks, white trash.
00:29What you're doing is wrong to the core.
00:32Stella.
00:34No, don't go in the closet.
00:36My name is Joseph.
00:37This is my husband, Nathan, and we've been together for 13 years.
00:40Oh, you did so good on my highlight.
00:43Oh, yes.
00:44It's about time you got it right.
00:47Nothing? I get nothing for that comment?
00:49No, because I know it's not true.
00:51You do each other's hair?
00:53We do.
00:55So I'm a hairstylist.
00:57We literally own a very high-end salon with a boutique,
01:00design jewelry, style you from head to toe.
01:03The sky's the limit.
01:04And he orders me around. He's my boss.
01:07Do as I say.
01:09We met through mutual friends.
01:11I had a girlfriend that did hair and her brother worked with Nathan doing hair.
01:15About a year after I found out about Nathan, I ended up meeting him.
01:19I didn't go into it thinking I would ever date him.
01:22He wasn't necessarily my type.
01:25Once we realized that we had a good chemistry, friendship-wise,
01:29that's when the romance developed.
01:31Ow!
01:33And let me go back, when he says I wasn't his type,
01:35fabulous and funny and, you know, all the good things.
01:39We've been together for about 13 years.
01:42You're still happy and in love, it seems like.
01:44Oh, yeah.
01:47Since day one.
01:48Be more convincing, Nathan.
01:50I am convincing.
01:52Growing up in Texas and definitely even more so in a Mormon family,
01:57I felt a lot of, quote, Mormon guilt about my sexuality.
02:01I knew for sure since I was 14 that I was gay,
02:04but I was very scared of not only admitting to myself,
02:08but also disappointing my family or my parents.
02:11Thankfully, I had the support of my sister, Brianna.
02:14She was the first person that I told that I was gay.
02:17Brianna is not only my little sister, but she's my best friend
02:19and always been my bodyguard and protector.
02:21And fast forward to our adulthood, she was able to agree with me
02:25that she would be our gestational carrier and help us start our own family.
02:29I have always known that I want children.
02:32I was very clear with Nathan from the time we met
02:36that when I was 35, I was bringing babies home.
02:38When he turned about 33, he started like getting on that bandwagon
02:42and I was like freaking out.
02:44But of course, now that it's in process,
02:47like I can't imagine not, you know, doing it.
02:50He's going to be a great dad.
02:51And I knew whenever we dated that he had all the attributes I was looking for.
02:56And I mean, honestly, I've been raising a child for what, 13?
03:00Well, if this is what you did, then I'm scared.
03:02I'm scared because I'm a brat.
03:03Oh, look at you working hard here.
03:07Hold on.
03:10What do you do with this thing?
03:13Oh, my sister, Brianna.
03:15I'm not your sister.
03:16No. Looking at you.
03:18After discussing it,
03:19we decided that Brianna being the carrier was the most important thing to us
03:23because I knew that if something did happen,
03:27I could trust her.
03:28We had our friend Courtney, our best friend, that was going to donate her eggs.
03:33And then we would use both of our sperm.
03:34I've known the guys for about 12 years
03:38and I am the egg donor.
03:40And now you are the baby bed creator.
03:43Our first IVF journey was a little stressful.
03:48A little.
03:49That was a lot of stress.
03:51The drama before the first embryo transfer,
03:54they called me the morning of the transfer and told me, unfortunately, Joseph,
03:58the embryo of yours did not survive the thawing process
04:02and is no longer viable.
04:03So I was devastated.
04:05They ended up thawing out a second embryo.
04:07So then we did get pregnant with twin girls.
04:10And unfortunately, we made it seven weeks before Brianna had a miscarriage.
04:15And it was the most devastating thing that any of us have ever been through.
04:22We're moving forward.
04:23We've done a second embryo transfer after Brianna was able to recover.
04:27And thankfully, she agreed to do it again.
04:29And we're now pregnant with one boy, one girl.
04:32We are eight weeks or less away from the due date,
04:35although it looks like it's a mess.
04:37I don't have to worry because Courtney, aka Aunt Courtney,
04:41will handle all the things.
04:42So I am not alarmed.
04:45Look at this.
04:47So cute.
04:48I know I'm going to feel exponentially more love for these babies
04:51than I do any animal that I've ever had.
04:54And so I'm excited for my heart to grow.
04:56I'm a Grinch right now.
05:04Hello, Brianna.
05:05How are my babies?
05:07Large.
05:08Oh, yay.
05:11Hey, girl.
05:12How are you feeling today?
05:13I'm feeling very large.
05:16Yeah, so tight.
05:17I'm going to pop like a balloon.
05:18We still have like two months.
05:20Today is our 29th week appointment.
05:23So we're going to do an ultrasound to make sure that they're both living
05:27and swimming well.
05:28The thing that stresses me out the most about being a parent
05:31is just the amount of hate in the world.
05:33I cannot begin to express how disturbing it is that people feel the need
05:39to express their opinions of my life and my family
05:43when it has nothing to do with them and their life and their family.
05:46A lot of the reactions I get from people are mostly positive.
05:52But you'll still find that there's a lot of
05:55uneducated opinions out there because they don't really understand
06:00that it's not my DNA mixing with my brother's or even my brother-in-law's.
06:04I'm literally just housing them for nine months.
06:07Some people were so excited, like, this is so perfect.
06:10It's amazing.
06:10You're going to be able to see her every day.
06:12There are people that know how it works.
06:13And some people thought, this is sick.
06:15You guys are freaks.
06:17White trash from Arkansas.
06:19OMG, so sad for those babies.
06:22More mental issues ahead.
06:23Live your life.
06:24Don't bring innocent kids into it.
06:26You're mocking God.
06:28What you're doing is wrong to the core.
06:29God forgive you.
06:31Poor baby going to live in hell one day.
06:33This will be illegal again.
06:34This is sick.
06:36The whole situation is an abomination.
06:39So f***ed up.
06:41And they're all adults that are making these comments.
06:44They're the bullies.
06:46Like, and then they have children and they teach their children that.
06:50Shocking.
06:51I knew that people were going to judge us for being gay
06:53and automatically put us in a category of you shouldn't have kids.
06:59We don't want to focus on the negative and I don't try to give them any attention.
07:02We're going to rise above.
07:04All right.
07:04So they look good.
07:05Size is great.
07:06Your fluid's good.
07:08Your weight and blood pressure are doing good.
07:10So you're cruising.
07:12Good work, Oven.
07:14Thank you so much.
07:15You guys have a good afternoon.
07:16See you later.
07:17We are about to head over to the new salon.
07:19We're in transition moving into our newer, better, larger location.
07:25The appointment went really well.
07:27I didn't feel very uncomfortable.
07:29Like the doctor made me feel very safe.
07:32If I could describe our journey in one word,
07:38I mean, I would say, holy cow.
07:41It's important to live your life for yourself.
07:43You only get one shot, you know?
07:45And if you constantly live your life trying to please other people,
07:50you're constantly trying to be somebody for someone else,
07:54you're just going to have a lifetime of regret.
07:56There are so many haters and ugly people out there,
07:58but there's also a lot of loving people.
08:01And I feel like our story is going to empower people out there.
08:06I think that the beauty of my life is that it's perfectly imperfect.
08:12We're crazy.
08:13Mostly him.
08:14I'm the sane one.
08:16I don't know why I'm crying.
08:17I really am just extremely emotional about the whole process
08:20because it is my life's dream and it's getting true right now.
08:23There are no words to describe the amount of gratitude
08:26I feel toward Courtney and Brianna.
08:29My goal for this family is world domination.
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