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00:14 out there. Hey Psych2Goers, welcome back! In the age of dating apps like Hinge and Bumble,
00:20 it's easy to sit behind a screen and swipe. But meeting your match can still be a daunting
00:25 experience. Does this sound like something you relate to? If so, this video might be beneficial
00:30 for you as we're going to outline some tips for introverts looking to join the dating scene.
00:35 If you want more tips and tricks on living life as an introvert, why not check out Psych2Go's
00:39 very own ebook called "An Introvert's Survival Guide" which can be found on our website and
00:45 is linked in the description box below. With that said, here are 10 tips for dating as an introvert.
00:51 Number 1. Try not to assume how your date sees you. Do you tend to assume what people are thinking
00:57 about you? As an introvert, you might not talk about yourself as much, which means there are
01:02 many things your date won't know about you. How about taking charge of this and bringing up a
01:06 topic on something you like? This way, your focus can be on what you enjoy talking about, rather
01:12 than overthinking how your date views you. Who knows, this might lead you to uncover similar
01:18 interests. Number 2. Do things your way. Do you ever turn down dates because you're not comfortable
01:24 with the suggested activity? If things like bar scenes aren't for you, how about suggesting an
01:29 alternative meetup spot? Places like cafes or restaurants can provide a much more intimate
01:34 space that creates a warm and more inviting conversation. If the person you're dating
01:39 isn't willing to try things you like, then they're most likely not the one for you.
01:44 Number 3. Wear something comfortable and familiar. If you hate wearing a dress and heels,
01:50 forcing yourself into such an outfit is going to leave you feeling out of your comfort zone
01:54 and more self-conscious. If on the other hand, you love wearing a dress and heels,
01:58 then by all means go ahead. The main point here is to wear what you will feel most comfortable in.
02:03 That way, you can focus on engaging with the other person rather than thinking about the
02:07 outfit you're wearing. Number 4. Prep a little on conversational topics. If you find yourself
02:14 being extra anxious over what to talk about, maybe you could try thinking up a few conversation
02:19 starters before the date. This way, you can go into the date feeling more confident and relaxed.
02:24 Some conversation starter topics might include interesting anecdotes of your life or particular
02:29 questions you would like to ask your date. Once the conversations start, it's often much easier
02:34 to maintain them. Number 5. Focus on yourself. Do you tend to overanalyze everything after a date,
02:42 such as if and when they'll text you or whether they'll ask you on another date?
02:47 Rather than obsessing over how the other person thinks the date went, try to focus on yourself
02:53 and what's important to you. This will help you learn to love your introverted demands for
02:57 withdrawal and how to balance dating amongst all the other areas of your life. Number 6. Be well-fed.
03:05 Have you ever been so hungry that you can't focus on the task at hand? Well, there's nothing quite
03:10 like a hungry and therefore seemingly impatient person on a date. If you're getting hungry right
03:15 before, maybe have a quick snack so your attention is not solely focused on your rumbling tummy.
03:20 This will allow you to feel more present on the date and it'll be a more enjoyable experience
03:25 for the both of you. Number 7. Don't take tips from movies or TV shows. Whilst we all might
03:32 have secretly wanted to be as charming as Mary Jensen or as smooth as Joey Tribbiani, there is
03:38 a not-so-fine line between reality and fantasy. TV shows and movies are a great source of
03:45 entertainment but that's all we should view them as, entertainment. Don't use them as a handbook
03:50 to real-life dating because unlike these perfectly scripted, produced and edited shows, our lives
03:56 don't always have the happy ending that movies promise. Number 8. Listen to some music before
04:02 you step out the door. Is music something that alters your mood? Playing feel-good tunes that
04:07 make you want to dance and sing along right before a date can help you feel more energetic,
04:11 enthused and confident. Before your date, how about empowering yourself with your favorite songs?
04:17 Perhaps some K-pop? Maybe some Ariana Grande? Or did someone say Lizzo? Number 9. Allow yourself
04:25 to express things. If you're feeling a certain way, let it out. If you're really enjoying your
04:31 date, let them know. If they've said something that doesn't sit right, you're welcome to share
04:35 your thoughts. Your emotions are valid in any setting so if you have something you want to say,
04:40 say it. It can help the other person feel appreciated and invite them to share how they
04:45 feel and it can also help stimulate interesting discussions. Don't hold yourself back. Letting
04:50 your date know more about how you feel will inevitably let them learn more about who you
04:54 truly are. Number 10. Date someone who gets you. Whilst there's always room for compromise,
05:01 ultimately, you should date someone who gets you and accepts you for who you are.
05:05 If you're wanting some extra encouragement, try new activities. Dating an extrovert can help,
05:12 but if they make you feel bad about yourself or overly push you to do things you don't want to do,
05:17 they probably aren't the one for you. When you're with someone who makes you feel comfortable and
05:22 safe, you shouldn't have to justify your introversion or apologize for who you are.
05:26 So there you have it, 10 tips on dating as an introvert. Did any of these tips help you? If so,
05:32 please let us know which ones in the comments below. If you're wanting to join a community
05:36 especially designed for introverts, please check out our introvert channel called
05:41 Introverts Unite. This can also be found in the description box along with our ebook mentioned
05:46 earlier. As always, thank you so much for watching. If you enjoyed this video, please like,
05:50 subscribe to Psych2Go if you haven't already, and share this with any other introverts you know
05:55 who need some dating advice. Thanks for watching and we'll see you next time.
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