00:00 This is Alex.
00:02 She fell in love with Mitch.
00:04 But Alex isn't just romantically involved
00:07 with her husband.
00:08 - I date other people whilst my husband's at home.
00:11 - It would be way more upsetting for me
00:13 to see her walking down the street
00:15 holding hands with someone else
00:16 rather than having sex with someone else.
00:18 - But the couple's unconventional arrangements
00:21 have brought them judgment online.
00:22 - That ain't a husband, he wants to be a pimp.
00:25 I'm a bad wife.
00:26 People have said that our relationship's just weird.
00:30 - And whilst Alex frequently dates other men,
00:33 the same is not the case for Mitch.
00:35 - The thought of Mitch dating another woman,
00:39 it's like, no.
00:40 (laughing)
00:43 - So today I am looking at dresses
00:51 for pictures for my dating profile
00:54 and I'm gonna show you my husband Mitch
00:56 for some options.
00:57 I think I'm gonna take this one to Mitch
01:00 to see what he thinks.
01:01 We first met when we were 14 years old.
01:05 He just stopped and gawked at me
01:07 and he didn't know what to do.
01:09 - That's true.
01:10 - This is too much for a first date.
01:12 - Might be a little bit.
01:13 - Yeah.
01:14 - Yeah.
01:15 Went out for two weeks, you dumped me.
01:16 - Yeah, that's true.
01:17 - And then I didn't give up.
01:18 Seven years later, I got back together.
01:20 - Very persistent, yeah.
01:22 - Me and Alex have been together
01:23 for just over 10 years now.
01:26 As a couple, we are massively judged
01:29 because we don't do the traditional thing.
01:32 You know, I date other people.
01:34 Mitch is predominantly the one that's at home
01:37 with the kids, which to some people,
01:39 that's really bizarre 'cause it's usually the woman.
01:41 Some people have said I'm a bad mom,
01:43 I'm a bad wife.
01:45 People have said that our relationship's just weird.
01:49 I think when I started OnlyFans,
01:51 I faced such a big wave of judgment
01:55 that it almost gave me the confidence
01:58 to just live my life as I want to.
02:01 I said, you know, I'm thinking about opening up
02:03 a dating app, how do you feel about that?
02:06 And then it wasn't even really a long conversation,
02:08 really, was it?
02:09 - No.
02:10 - Because we've sort of had little bits
02:11 of conversation here and there,
02:13 and we've said it's not really a big deal to us.
02:15 - I think my main thing is just honesty.
02:18 - Yeah.
02:19 - Loads of people cheat, and I think the worst part
02:20 about it is the dishonesty.
02:22 I don't think people having sex with other people
02:23 is actually that big of an issue, to be honest.
02:26 - Even if I tried to lie to him about something,
02:29 he would know, you would just know,
02:31 so it's just best to always be open
02:33 about this sort of thing.
02:34 Okay, I'm ready.
02:35 Today we are going to take some new photos
02:39 for my dating profile.
02:41 - I guess some people would think it'd be quite odd,
02:43 assisting her to do the pictures for her dating profile,
02:45 but, you know, she's on OnlyFans,
02:47 and if people want to see pictures of her,
02:48 they've got the internet,
02:50 so I don't really see that it's any different.
02:52 - I'd never want to meet any of the dates.
02:54 I think that would just be a bit weird, to be honest.
02:56 - I do have a type.
02:57 - I think Alex's type is kind of a bit geeky,
03:00 more dad bod than gym bod, I would say.
03:03 - I love geeky men that are good at maths.
03:07 I don't know why, that's just my thing.
03:09 - He's really good at this times table.
03:11 (laughing)
03:13 - Times table gets you in the mood, doesn't it?
03:16 - I'm just like clever people.
03:19 - I do sometimes feel guilty about going on dates
03:23 whilst Mitch is at home.
03:25 I do feel bad, but I will text him and be like,
03:28 are you okay, is everything fine?
03:31 - I just enjoy the peace, to be honest.
03:32 I can watch whatever I want on the TV.
03:34 - Just watches football, don't you?
03:35 - Yeah, peace is just watch sport.
03:37 - He loves it.
03:38 - Play football manager in peace.
03:39 - He loves it. - He's great.
03:40 - Living his best life.
03:41 - Yeah.
03:42 - Thank you.
03:43 Just on the dating site, just having a little look.
03:48 - Right.
03:49 - With the dating, it's more of just fun.
03:52 I can't catch feelings for these people.
03:55 I can't fall in love with them
03:56 because that's what our marriage is.
03:59 That's our thing.
04:00 We're in love with each other and that's our marriage.
04:03 So this is just fun.
04:05 So I've made that very clear on my dating profile
04:08 that it is just something casual.
04:09 I'm not looking for a relationship or anything like that.
04:12 - I think it would be way more upsetting for me
04:15 to see her walking down the street,
04:17 holding hands with someone else
04:19 rather than having sex with someone else.
04:20 It's different for different people.
04:22 I think some people have that need or desire
04:25 to want to sleep with other people.
04:27 I don't believe it's a human nature
04:29 to just have one partner for the whole of your life.
04:32 Having said that, it's not something
04:33 that I'm particularly fussed about
04:35 and it's not something that I desire at this moment in time.
04:38 - The thought of Mitch dating another woman,
04:42 it's, no.
04:44 (laughing)
04:47 - I mean, why would you?
04:48 You've got me.
04:49 - It's true, yeah.
04:50 You don't go out for a burger
04:51 when you've got steak at home and all that.
04:53 - I do have a sugar daddy.
04:54 He has bought me designer bags.
04:58 He has paid for holidays.
05:01 Whenever I want a takeaway, he pays for it.
05:03 So if I'm out, I will text my sugar daddy
05:06 and he will pay for the day as well
05:09 'cause he likes to pay for the dates.
05:10 - The money side of it doesn't particularly bother me,
05:13 to be honest.
05:13 Our relationship is our relationship
05:15 and that's not gonna change.
05:16 If someone was prepared to pay for all that for me,
05:19 (laughing)
05:20 I wouldn't turn it down.
05:22 - We get so much judgment as a couple
05:25 every day on social media.
05:28 - It's like every half an hour someone says something.
05:31 That ain't a husband, he wants to be a pimp.
05:34 Extreme friend zone.
05:36 - He has a gay face.
05:38 (laughing)
05:40 What's a gay face even look like?
05:42 - Men these days are a disgrace.
05:44 - I think you just gotta have the perspective
05:46 that Twitter isn't the real world
05:48 and that 99% of people just don't care what you get up to.
05:52 - I think I'd much rather do something
05:54 that is controversial to people
05:57 than be these people typing out hate all day.
06:01 Imagine that, spending your day being really nasty
06:04 to people online.
06:05 - It's a really miserable existence to go through.
06:06 - That's really quite tragic, to be honest, isn't it?
06:09 - I mean, we get a lot of trolling as a couple,
06:11 but Alex also gets quite personal ones as well.
06:14 - Even with her pimp's approval,
06:16 I'd rather pick my nose than pick that creature for a date.
06:20 Wow.
06:21 - It's really annoying to see her get the level
06:24 of sort of abuse she gets online.
06:26 - So many people say to me,
06:27 like even other OnlyFans creators,
06:29 that I don't know how you put up with this.
06:31 I've never seen anyone get as much crap as you do.
06:33 But yeah, I am a human being.
06:35 Like some days it is really hard, isn't it?
06:38 - You show me like comments
06:39 and I look at the profile picture
06:41 and it's like a really fat, bald, ugly old man.
06:43 And you think, really?
06:46 People in glass houses should not be throwing stones.
06:48 - I have never, ever in my life ever been trolled
06:53 by a hot, successful, happy person.
06:56 - Doesn't happen.
06:57 But to be fair, it's also people making sensible points.
07:00 Like why are people's preferences
07:02 a thing for society to debate?
07:03 Enough.
07:05 Kind of a point.
07:05 - Bosh.
07:08 - I feel like we have a really strong relationship.
07:09 - Yeah, I think it's, to be honest, it's really rare.
07:12 Like we've known each other for a very long time
07:15 and we've been through so much.
07:19 - Oh!
07:20 (laughing)
07:20 - Like obviously he does my absolute head in sometimes,
07:23 but I couldn't live without you.
07:26 Like I really couldn't.
07:27 I couldn't go through life without him.
07:29 I would say to the people who judge our relationship,
07:32 thank you for giving us an insight
07:35 to how miserable you are in yours.
07:37 - I think just try and open your mind a little bit
07:39 and realize that not everyone's the same
07:41 and that different people
07:42 wanna live their life differently.
07:44 And what makes one person happy or one couple happy
07:47 isn't gonna make everyone happy.
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