00:00I'm Alex. I'm Shalon. And I'm Shantel and we are in a polyamorous throuple. I've always known that
00:06okay I think girls are beautiful. I never had a threesome before. I've never been a one-a-woman
00:10before. I'm looking like okay well if we're doing this we're doing this. We do get a lot of judgment
00:15for our relationship. The ladies don't like each other on the low. I should no longer be allowed
00:20to procreate in life. So what happens if he cheats on the second wife? What I found the hardest to
00:27deal with was my dad having an affair. I was mad. It was hard for me to hold it together. I don't
00:31want to talk about yours. No I enjoy cooking though. I am not gonna lie. I enjoy cooking because
00:38making a good meal brings the family together. We are the Porter family. Shalon is my beautiful
00:43first wife. We have two children together. This is my second wife Shantel and last year we had a
00:50beautiful baby girl Soraya that also came in the picture expanding our family to a wonderful great
00:56number six. You consider us a polygamist which is a man with multiple wives. I am the wife
01:02to Alex and the sister wife to Shantel. Alex is my boyfriend. Each of them are individual
01:08relationships. Mine and Shantel's relationship is different from mine and Shalon. There's a special
01:12bond that me and Alex have just because we've grown up together and we've persevered over so much.
01:20And he stopped coming home after work. Every day after work he just come home shower I'm going to
01:26hang out with the boys. Come home shower I'm going to hang out with the boys. And eventually something
01:29just told me hey just look at his phone. And when I opened up his phone he had screenshots of him
01:36and her. And then I had texted him what I seen and he actually just told me. I'm seeing someone else.
01:43I don't want to talk about it no more. Can I boss for a tissue?
01:48Thanks. I've always been open-minded. I've always known that okay I think girls are beautiful. I liked
01:55her a lot. Shantel's energy never came off as aggressive or like I'm your replacement. I didn't
02:01have a reason to be mad at Shalon. And from that point I was like okay let's just continue to go
02:07about the night and see where it flows to. I never had a threesome before. I'd never been to want a
02:12woman before. I'm looking like okay well if we're doing this we're doing this. The backlash that we
02:18get from our social media yes we get a lot. The comments be like oh my god he's a manipulator he ain't
02:24nothing. They were trying to put me and Shalon against each other. They write you in your DMs and
02:29tell you the same thing in your DMs so they feel you're not responding to the comment.
02:33Wife. This is directed at me. Leave the situation. Let them have each other and find yourself.
02:41Somebody save me. No. I'm fine in my situation. I'm not held hostage. If I want to leave I can leave.
02:48We did start a whole campaign hashtag free Shalon. Free me. I should no longer be allowed to procreate in
02:54life. That's just an overall slug. It's like damn like that keyboard life is real. That thugging
03:02behind the keyboard. Y'all thumb shit hurt sometimes. I don't even see how y'all can be
03:06keyboard thugging but then you see me in public and it's like oh you're a really nice person. I like you.
03:12The ladies don't like each other on the low. Oh they be like you see how she looks at her? She hates
03:17her. They put us against each other all the time and like if you don't me you know damn well I do not
03:23compete with nobody for nothing. They like each other. They dislike me. I can't believe people are
03:28normalizing cheating. Normalizing cheating you look up the definition of cheating. Everybody in
03:34this situation is in the know. So how can it be cheating from the beginning? That's what they
03:38mean. You already go back on our whole thing of how this situation came about. I know people don't
03:43like the cheating aspect portion of it that I did. You know it was horrible. I would admit it was
03:48horrible. It was selfish. But we both had a little situation of infidelity. So for everybody that was
03:54like oh she should have cheated back. She did. So what happens if he cheats on the second wife?
04:02I mean he would just cheat on the second wife. I wouldn't be able to just cheat on the second wife.
04:06I'd be cheating on both of them again. You know what the? I wonder how he feel if the shoe was on
04:12the other foot. Would you be open to accepting if his wife wanted another man? This question gets
04:17asked a lot. No the shoe doesn't have to be on the other foot. It's on my foot. It's on his foot. It's
04:22on her foot. He's always told me if I feel like going out and getting me another man or woman it's my
04:28choice. This is sick and disgusting especially when there are children involved. When they involve the
04:33children that should not even be a thought. I would leave the children completely out of it. How you feel
04:38they're being raised. Whatever they're being exposed to. You questioning my ability to raise
04:43my child. You're questioning how I'm what I'm exposing to the children. Nah. Mind your damn
04:50business. As long as you don't speak about any of our kids you can say whatever you want
04:54about all of us. You know of course you're gonna get ridiculed behind people behind online. It's
04:59what online does. It's what the internet does. Internet serves negativity. Appreciate y'all spreading
05:04the knowledge of what's possible for unions and relationships. Definitely understand that's a
05:08heavy cross to carry but y'all do it with extreme style and grace. Definitely appreciated
05:14that. It's so dope to always have like that type of support and those kind words you know
05:19to be given to you. These are clearly people who took a tough situation and grew learned and
05:25healed through it. Yes. I like that one. I remember reading that one because I was like that's exactly
05:30what happened. Nobody ever asked her that question before. People don't understand that there's
05:36different dynamics of a relationship. You can love people the way you want to love people and it
05:41doesn't matter how other people feel. What I found the hardest to deal with was my dad having an affair.
05:46I was mad if you want me to be honest. Before Chantel came around I have never heard the term
05:50poly. I kind of understood what was going on. My relationship with Chantel was awkward at first
05:55but over time I kind of just started to accept her more. I'm just happy Chantel's a part of my family
06:06now and I could actually look at her as another mom. She even gave me a little sister. I've been
06:10asking for a sister for the longest. I just took it for what it was and as long as they were happy,
06:15as long as they see my mom happy. Me and Chalon, we did used to be in a relationship romantically and
06:21now our new dynamic is we do date Alex separately. What is the challenges of sharing the bed together,
06:28all three of us? We each have a designated spot to sleep at. Me, it's the middle. They will put me
06:33in the middle. I've asked for the edge repeatedly. It is hot in the middle. It's funny. I know, I lost
06:38my napkin. So I leave the bed and I go sleep on the couch. The plan for the day is getting ready,
06:44going out and celebrating this beautiful young lady's 21st. It's my baby. It's my baby. My oldest baby.
07:03The first official 21 birthday drink with her parents. I know, I'm excited.
07:07No, you're excited. No, these are official. You all ain't green. I believe how far we came as a
07:14family is leaps and bounds. We started off in a rocky position, but we grew to know each other
07:21and learn how to love each other in different ways, in different fashions. And I think as the
07:26days go by, we continue to learn each other and build our love even stronger. I always look positive
07:32overshining the negative. Anything is possible as long as y'all are ready to do the work,
07:36commit to the situation and let love win overall. Life is an adventure. Yes. Yes. And that's all.
07:42That's what we're going to live by.
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