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hey it's Stephan up on here from too shy to date calm on a recent livestream I was asked a question and it was a great question but I didn't know how to answer it the question was who was your biggest inspiration at overcoming shyness and I was stumped I didn't know how to answer it because to be honest I couldn't think of one person that I could follow along you know their development their life and where I really seen somebody that's been on the journey that I have been on in the extreme way that basically I've seen myself go from one to the other and so I said you know what what was my inspiration was the unpleasantness and the stress and the pain and it caused caused me when I was so shy and when I was constantly asking myself what people thought of me when I constantly held myself back from doing what I wanted to and when all I wanted to do is just to be myself and feel confident and comfortable around anyone so what I thought maybe I'll do in this video briefly you know maybe I explain that story a little bit to you like how I've gone from one to the other because if I didn't find a person that would inspire me to go on this journey then maybe there aren't so many people out there that that have been on the same journey as I have maybe they weren't forced to grow so far and so much because they didn't have a unique set of circumstances that I was in when I came out of puberty you know I was extremely self conscious I was very concerned about how people saw me I was stopping myself all the time I only ever thought about what could be the worst possible outcome how I could avoid difficulties defame challenges problems conflict okay and all of these elements basically created a sense a strong sense of holding back all the time which in hindsight now I would describe as China's at the time I just thought the world was a dangerous place because that's how I would have thought about my surroundings I thought people were kind of scary and generally out to get me and I didn't really see myself as shy but in hindsight I'm like wow this guy was so shy right and I came to London I tried to study acting in a different language in English because I'm German I came from Germany of course and that was a huge challenge for me of course and even though it was very challenging I was crazy enough to try to attempt it and then I was in drama school and drama teachers drove me crazy because they wanted me to lose my accents and to constantly welcome accents so I got extremely self conscious about speaking I already had a lot of stress associated with communicating with people so it got worse and worse and worse and frankly when it came to women I was still massively shy because I was now seeing myself as even weaker as before because I was speaking in the second language and I felt very self conscious about how I was speaking and who I was and all of those things the culmination of all of t
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