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hey Mark Sheppard shy guy helped calm and today I just want to share a couple of ideas about why we as men that need to work on ourselves typically I mean as a former shy guy one of the reasons that stopped me one of the things that stopped me from really connecting with the women that I wanted to connect with was a childhood pattern we're growing up all I heard all I heard over and over again from my mom who was an ardent feminist all I heard was how shitty men were two women I mean I that's all I heard how men abused women how men took advantage of women how men saw women as pieces of meat how all men wanted was to have sex with women and that women had to protect themselves and she didn't want me to grow up to be one of those bad men it has a little kid you don't know you take the stuff in so it just became something to the effect where I respected women I respected them so much that you know I couldn't Express sexual desire for them because I would they would be offended and then also you kind of get into those years of middle school where I mean as a guy you are so far behind where women are where where girls are as a boy in middle school you are so far behind where women are where I mean high school girls you know they want to date guys in college right college girls want to date up they don't want to date down right and when you're a middle school and all kind of stuff is happening in your body there's so many opportunities to feel embarrassed and self conscious and awkward and if you're not good at sports you're you're not in the game if you're you know not confident or competent you know with just hanging out boom so the if you're an introvert forget if you books forget right so as shy guys we come to the playing field with a handicap essentially with a disadvantage but here's where as guys the tables turn as you begin to live your life as you begin to realize that everything you've learned about women and everything you've learned about men and how we are supposed to interact is basically a construction it's a fabrication it's a it's a cultural creation it doesn't exist it's not true nothing is true what you begin to realize that women are as lonely and as yearning for connection as you are that shift some things but ultimately women are attracted to something different than we are I mean we are attracted to the package we're attracted initially to wow she caught my eye right it's a visual thing she's attractive she's fit she's healthy she's young that tells our biological mind oh ho she's fertile right she's an eligible female uh and I can pass on my genetic code through her I mean that's our that's what we are programmed to do as animals we are animals but as the shy guy you see that woman and you you see how attractive she is and what you immediately do is you give her all your power you go oh she's so beautiful and you see you know 20 guys hitting on her oh she
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