00:01Sorry, my grandma fell asleep.
00:07I am quarantining in New Jersey with my family.
00:10I live here upstate Vietnam.
00:12We sold our apartment, packed our bags, showed up in Madrid.
00:15A full quarantine took over.
00:17This is our living room.
00:20Snacks.
00:21We are in Greensboro, North Carolina.
00:23We're in Brooklyn.
00:24We're just hanging out.
00:26Here we are in Paris.
00:27Hello.
00:32I'll basically go and just read or wind down while Jess just kind of enjoys her wine by
00:39herself.
00:39This is not anything that we've ever done before.
00:42We've literally started polishing silverware.
00:45On Sunday night, we do want to now sit down and look at the schedule and plan out, okay,
00:49this is like irrevocably our night.
00:51We developed a rule where if you lose a board game, then you have to do dishes when there's
00:56a lot of dishes to do.
00:57We've been watching so much TV.
01:00I like Jeopardy.
01:01Yeah.
01:01She likes to spin the real.
01:04Now we're just watching bad TV.
01:06We watched all the good TV.
01:08We reached the end of good TV.
01:12She's a pessimist.
01:14I'm a little bit optimist.
01:15She cries too much sometimes.
01:17Yeah, I'm definitely an optimist.
01:19I think that that's kind of what gives way to me to take on more of like a mediator role.
01:24I think we're both optimists, but he's more pragmatic.
01:27I think we balance each other out.
01:29I am a pessimist.
01:30I would rather prepare for the worst.
01:32I'm an optimist.
01:33I would say I would be an optimist as well.
01:35I'm a worrier, but I'm an optimistic warrior.
01:40Optimist with concerns, or maybe a realist.
01:43I think you're a realist.
01:45I'm a realist.
01:46That's what I was going to say.
01:47I'm a realist.
01:48Optimism is now like tempered with like a little realism.
01:52I think I'm generally an optimist.
01:53I think I'm a realist.
01:55You know, prepare for the worst, so for the best.
01:57I am more optimistic and Raja is more pessimistic.
02:01I actually think we're both optimistic.
02:02I would probably self-nominate as the optimist in the house.
02:08It literally just balances out.
02:10I'm not super negative about things, but sometimes I'm like, you know, it's the end of the world.
02:14And Sasha's like, well, in that case, we're lucky to have each other.
02:18We're lucky to have loving families, this, that.
02:20And I'm like, yeah.
02:26I've learned that James is an excellent dancer.
02:30What do you like to dance to?
02:32It's so interesting and odd.
02:35He's obsessed with Abba, and we've never like introduced him to Abba.
02:40Nor did we.
02:41Jess has been so good at getting on a Zoom and calling friends and staying in touch.
02:46And it gives her so much energy.
02:49It gives her so much optimism.
02:51And I feel like I've really been able to learn from her.
02:54My assumption that you were a healer and one of the best listeners in the world
03:01has been validated through this process.
03:06I'm going to try to remember what she said for translation purposes.
03:10As everyone has been here together, she's realized that, like, it is actually really special and, like, a blessing for
03:17her to have everyone home.
03:19For example, my dad didn't really do dishes before, but then during the quarantine, he's been, like, very industriously doing
03:26dishes.
03:26Wallace puts pants on at a time when very few people are.
03:33I said the other day that I feel like the ghost in the window.
03:37Like, if you were to drive by, he would just, like, see me in my house dress, like, hair plastered
03:42down to my face.
03:42That's probably the most surprising thing is that she thinks that she is just, like, this monster, but I don't
03:50see that at all.
03:55The world can fall apart around him, and he will, like, convert them up, like, put it in a compartment
04:00of his brain.
04:03Unwavering confidence in himself.
04:05I don't mean this in a negative way, but I just tend to question everything.
04:09I question a lot of what I say and do.
04:11He knows when to sort of put a cap on it and just execute.
04:15I admire that, and I don't have it.
04:18Wallace isn't moody in the same way I am.
04:21Like, she is nice no matter what.
04:26You were just, like, always sweet.
04:28How do you do it?
04:30From the South.
04:32She has this quality of really trying to understand something.
04:36I'm generally just ready to make a decision about anything.
04:44Not to start anything here.
04:46I go to my room, she goes to her room, and we stay there.
04:50Everyone needs to be present for them, like, not only physically, but mentally as well.
04:56It's good to just kind of all be on the same page.
04:58Being married is a choice every day.
05:01What that means to you and what you're willing to fight for and live through day after day after day
05:06is, I think, important.
05:08And that might mean some people can't come on that journey with you.
05:11You have a responsibility to yourself, personally, as well as to the relationship.
05:18I think it's important to remember that you always have yourself, and that's a huge, huge thing to have.
05:25You're not going to try.
05:27You're not.
