00:00Have you ever or are you currently dating a jealous person?
00:04Been there and done that, but I'm here to give you some advice.
00:07Girl, I'm just trying to give y'all some serious advice because this is some serious stuff.
00:11My name is Melissa.
00:12My name is Amber.
00:13Hey guys, my name is Josh.
00:15I'm Heaven and I'm here to give you advice on dealing with a jealous significant other.
00:19Listen, I'm no professional or expert, but hopefully you hear something today that makes
00:24it a little bit easier for you.
00:27Here are some signs that the person you're dating is jealous.
00:30If this person is constantly checking your phone, they're constantly like telling you
00:36what you can and shouldn't wear.
00:37Another sign of jealousy can be just overall lack of trust,
00:41trying to be too controlled and trying to control your life.
00:43If they block you from going out with your friends or tell you to stop hanging around
00:47certain groups of friends, then they might be jealous.
00:51If they feel the need to ask you questions about your whereabouts,
00:55where you been, who you going with, how long you going to be there.
00:58That's definitely a sign as well.
00:59They constantly question who you're with.
01:02Whenever you're out and they're calling you a million times and texting you,
01:05asking you where you're at when you're coming home, they're jealous.
01:08They're asking questions about your social media, like who's this person.
01:12If you go out with your family, they're like, who's this bish?
01:14You're like, that's my mom.
01:15They may have an issue with your friends from the opposite sex.
01:18If your partner doesn't want you to have any friends of the opposite sex.
01:22Shawty, let me tell you something.
01:25Let it go.
01:25Because that is a jealous significant other.
01:28So here's some advice on how to deal with a jealous significant other.
01:32Find out why they're jealous in the first place.
01:34Jealousy and insecurity usually comes from being hurt in past relationships.
01:39Jealousy tends to come out of fear.
01:40And a lot of fear comes out of uncertainty.
01:42So it could be that person is afraid to ask or afraid they're going to lose you.
01:47And the best way to get through fear is to talk about what you're afraid of.
01:50Once you find out why they're insecure, try to help them through that hurt.
01:54Reassure them that you wouldn't do anything to lose their trust.
01:58I have the bold conclusion that I think jealousy is sometimes totally fine,
02:01as long as it's in control and you understand where it's coming from.
02:04But I think a lot of people are very quick to say, break up.
02:07I think communication is key.
02:09Always give communication a shot first,
02:11before you throw away something that could be really special.
02:13Be honest and express your true feelings.
02:16Expressing your feelings is imperative in any healthy relationship.
02:22If what this person is doing is affecting you emotionally, you have to give them that feedback.
02:28If it is jealousy that's going on, you certainly need to talk to your significant other because
02:33you need to let them know, hey look, these are my expectations for somebody that I'm with,
02:38and you are making me feel super duper uncomfortable.
02:43Don't ignore the signs in your relationship.
02:45If you truly feel that you did nothing wrong,
02:48or that you're in the right and that the person is just bugging or tripping,
02:52stand up for yourself.
02:54Tell them how you truly feel.
02:55Never threaten to leave if you don't actually plan on leaving.
02:59So when you say you're going to do something, girl, you better do it.
03:02Stick to your guns.
03:04And you know what?
03:05Don't do it alone.
03:06Employ the help of your friends, your family.
03:09Never do anything like that alone.
03:11Listen to your instincts.
03:12If you think someone is overreacting or that they're hurting you,
03:16remove yourself from the situation.
03:18Love yourself more than ever.
03:20At the end of the day, you know that you don't deserve to be treated a certain way.
03:23You don't have to clock every single move that you're doing.
03:26A relationship is about balance and trust.
03:28So if you're not getting that in your relationship, it's time to move on.
03:31All in all, every relationship is different.
03:34As long as you're happy and ultimately safe, then it's up to you.
03:38At the end of the day, you've got to do what's best for you,
03:41what feels natural to you, what feels healthy to you.
03:44And reflect on yourself.
03:45Ask yourself what actions you're doing and if you are doing anything to cause the jealousy.
03:49Put yourself in their shoes.
03:51If you know that something isn't feeling right, trust your gut.
03:54It's okay.
03:54It's okay to walk away.
