00:00I like them old.
00:01Not that old.
00:02It's like a history lesson, but then you get to have sex.
00:07When it comes to dating, everyone has their preferences.
00:10Whether it's physical attributes or personality types.
00:13But what about age?
00:14Does age really matter when it comes to dating?
00:17Let's find out.
00:19I typically like to date within my age range.
00:21I prefer to date people my age or a few years older.
00:25My boyfriend is six years younger than me.
00:28I'm engaged now and we're both 30.
00:30I like to date people who are about 10 years older than me.
00:34I typically date guys who are five years older than me.
00:37I like to date women that are like 10 to 15 years older.
00:41Like they do their taxes, but not well.
00:43So how do you determine what the appropriate age is to date a partner?
00:46I think there's something to be said about dating someone who's kind of living in the same experiences that you're
00:51living in and who's kind of in the same phase of life as you.
00:54I have a clear indication of what I want my life to be.
00:57That might intimidate a man who's not 100% ready to figure out what his life is.
01:01I was up one time with a 25 year old till 3 in the morning and I was exhausted watching
01:06YouTube videos.
01:07I don't have time for this.
01:08I just feel like people are people, you know, like what does the age really matter?
01:12According to the well-documented age differential effect, across 37 cultures, men prefer to date younger women and women prefer
01:20to date older men.
01:21I tend to get along with older men just because they've lived like a lot more life than you so
01:27they have a lot to offer and a lot to teach you.
01:29Early graying hair doesn't kill. I love that.
01:31Idris Elba, have you guys seen his beard? Oh my god.
01:35I'm looking for someone who's mature and interesting and has life experience but you kind of have to wonder like
01:40what are they looking for in a younger girl?
01:42When you're an older man dating a younger woman you also have expectations for that younger woman to bring out
01:48in you this younger man, this exciting person.
01:52There's a lot of stigma around males dating younger women and like using them as trophies.
01:58For example, in the book Lolita, it's fetishizing this younger woman who is this ideal perfection of sort of virginal,
02:07pure beauty.
02:08And when you think of it that way, it is so creepy.
02:12So growing up people always told me to date older because that means more mature.
02:16But does age and maturity really have a correlation?
02:19I don't know, you're going to have to ask a scientist on why men mature later. I don't got the
02:22answer to that.
02:23Here are some of the pros of dating someone who's older.
02:26They have their shit together.
02:28With age comes life experience and I mean there's no getting around that.
02:31If you're going to be with somebody older, they obviously have a lot more life that they've lived.
02:35I don't think that maturity correlates directly with age because I've definitely known guys who are older who are not
02:42very mature.
02:43Just because they're older does not mean they're more mature and have their shit together.
02:47Cradle robber, boy toy, cougar, gerbil.
02:51These are all stereotypical names for people that date significantly outside of their age range.
02:56But why is there such a negative connotation to it?
02:58We have this idea of what love is supposed to look like.
03:02The man is supposed to be older and the woman is supposed to be younger, but not too much older,
03:06not too much younger.
03:07When you see an older gentleman with a younger guy, you automatically think like, oh, he must have money or,
03:14oh yeah, he's using that guy for sex.
03:16You automatically go to a judgmental place.
03:18So I'm married to somebody who's 13 years older than me.
03:21I'm 23 and he's 36.
03:23The gold digger reference never really occurred to me.
03:25We were kind of in a similar place of life and I think it was like an intention of like,
03:29we love each other rather than me being like, oh, he's got financial gain and that's what I need.
03:36So my mom dated someone who was five years older than me and he was, I think, like 18 years
03:43younger than my mom.
03:44It was weird at first, but it definitely made me realize that like people can love each other like across
03:49bigger groups of age.
03:52Why is it that when women date younger or older, there's a stigma attached to it?
03:56So I think there's a huge double standard because it's like, yeah, if men do it, it's not a big
04:00deal.
04:01If women do it, it's like, excuse me, who do you think you are?
04:03I don't really like the cougar stereotype, but in the back of my mind, I'm thinking about it and I
04:07don't want to be that person.
04:09I think it comes from this idea that, you know, the man should be the one taking care of the
04:12woman.
04:13Kourtney Kardashian's boyfriend, he's 25 and they're having a grand time, so I don't think there should be a stigma.
04:18I dated a 38-year-old fresh out of college.
04:20It was probably like the first time I was truly authentic in a relationship.
04:23The way women get treated is if they're like trying to hunt down, I think that's kind of trash.
04:28I think that comes from people viewing women in only like a maternal view.
04:32For some reason, you know, me dating a guy 15 years older than me was no big deal.
04:39Me dating someone six years younger than me, like pump the brakes, this is not a good idea.
04:45What I found was these older men were still single for a reason.
04:49They were immature, they were selfish, and they drank like prohibition had just ended.
04:54I think society really truly believes that younger men cannot possibly be mature enough to handle a relationship,
05:03which is kind of ridiculous because younger men haven't been jaded and they haven't been hurt and they're open to
05:11being with someone.
05:13My advice to people who want to date outside of their age range is to just not care what other
05:18people think about you.
05:19You have to own that you guys have an age difference, but you have good intentions and you love each
05:24other.
05:24Don't overthink it too much.
05:25Just go with how you feel.
05:27Unless it is actually wrong.
05:30If you feel like you're with someone that you are an equal with, I think that's the most important.
05:36Do what makes you happy and if you love someone, who cares how old they are?
05:39Know your worth, ladies.
05:40And add tax to it.
05:41Just focus on the person that you're in the relationship with, have fun, and do you.
05:46Don't worry about what other people think as long as it's consensual and legal.
