Why Do We Suffer? Desiring and Not Desiring

Pulkit Sharma - Clinical Psychologist & Author

Why Do We Suffer? Desiring and Not Desiring  Why is suffering such a universal part of human life? In this video, Pulkit Sharma, Clinical Psychologist, Psychoanalytic Therapist, Spiritual Counselor & Author, explores a simple yet profound idea: much of our suffering comes from not getting what we want — and getting what we never wanted.  Throughout life, we create inner fantasies about how our career, health, family and future should be. When reality doesn't match these expectations, suffering begins. At the center of this struggle is the “I” — I want this. I don't want that. I am not getting what I want.  Understanding this movement of the mind can help us look more deeply into the roots of our suffering — and perhaps discover a different way of relating to life.  This is an excerpt from a talk given by Pulkit Sharma in 2017 — and its message remains remarkably relevant even today.

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00:00In essence, not getting what we want,

00:06whatever our internal fantasy is,

00:08that my job should be like this,

00:12my health should be like this,

00:13my family should be like this,

00:16my future should be like this,

00:18you know,

00:20we just need to work on what we need.

00:22If we don't get it,

00:24we will suffer.

00:25And the other thing is very common,

00:28we got that thing

00:29that we have never done

00:32the pain and the pain

00:33and the pain.

00:35People may say,

00:37I never wanted arthritis.

00:39You know, I have never asked

00:41that I should get schizophrenia,

00:45but I have got schizophrenia.

00:47So that is the subject.

00:49So the thing is,

00:51getting what we don't want

00:55and not getting what we want.

00:58is the most important basis

01:00cause of all kinds of suffering

01:02throughout the world.

01:03And throughout history.

01:06This means,

01:07we, I,

01:09because the entire focus

01:12is on I.

01:13I am not yet.

01:14I am not.

01:15I am not.

01:17I am not.

01:18I am not.

01:19I am not.

01:20But you'll be doing what you want.

01:22You are not.

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