00:00My older sister she had got married and moved out the family home because we've got quite a lot of
00:04years between us and my parents would literally just leave me at my sister's house so it'd come
00:09to the weekend and it'd be a Friday afternoon evening or Saturday morning and I would just be
00:13like they'd like literally they were staying with your sister and you know I've got so much respect
00:18for my sister and my brother-in-law they took me in they helped look after me but it started
00:23happening every kind of it was every other weekend and then it became every weekend and I used to
00:28kind of question my sister and say but why does like my mum not like want to spend any time
00:32with
00:32me like I love being here but I don't always have to be here and obviously my sister knew what
00:37was
00:37going on but she didn't really know how to communicate that to her younger sister. I was very emotionally
00:42confused for a long time and I used to always think well my mum must just be having a bad
00:47day
00:47but those bad days were like all the time so that obviously isn't normal for a parent to have about
00:52a bad day. I also know that with my parents obviously now when I reflect back they definitely
00:57had two different sides to them so they had the side that they showed at home which was really
01:02cold emotionally unavailable aggressive but then to the outside world they were the complete like
01:09amazing parents they were perfect they had a big circle of friends and coming from a South Asian
01:13background as well they had a lot of like South Asian community that they would go to see and spend
01:19time with so I used to question a lot of things with my mum's behaviour because she would lie about
01:23everything.
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