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00:06I can't hear you what's up y'all I see you cowboy hat I see you all right you guys
00:16we're going to
00:17keep this show rolling this next one is going to be interactive so get your hands ready all right
00:25because we are presenting real dating dilemmas and you the crowd are going to decide whether to
00:33swipe left or swipe right I'm gonna get my ass off the stage because I don't want no hats I
00:41ain't dating nothing you hear me but coming to the stage this will be hosted by Shelby Stewart with
00:51dating expert and she's got her own show on own y'all Kendra G and truth hurts let's play y
00:59'all let's
00:59play hey y'all I need a little bit more energy from y'all come on hey y'all I
01:12love that I love that
01:14so I want to welcome you all to the dating reset so as some of you guys may know dating
01:20today comes
01:20with a lot of questions and a lot of opinions so from dating apps and situationships to commitment
01:26and communication it can feel like the rules are constantly changing so today we're pressing reset
01:32with an honest conversation about what healthy dating looks like what's worth holding on to and
01:37what we should leave behind joining me are two people who never shy away from sharing their
01:43perspectives on modern relationships please help me welcome she has a new show on own dating download
01:49Kendra G and truth hurts
02:10so we can just go ahead and jump right in y'all okay so if you had to describe dating
02:16in 2026 using just
02:18one word what would it be and why ladies first of course okay delusional I'm gonna use the word
02:26delusional because you know I host the dating show Kendra G singles and we got the new show coming out
02:32on
02:32the Oprah Winfrey Network dating download so I've been talking to single people for the last six years
02:37and I think that you could find a unicorn faster than some of the men that the ladies tell me
02:44that
02:44they're looking for so I'm gonna use delusional I would say that it's just complicated ah that would
02:50be the word complicated I think that we over complicated if anything so I would just go with
02:54complicated for sure I like that complicated complicated and delusional okay so what would
03:01you guys say is the biggest misconception people have about dating today um I think that we have unlimited
03:07options here's the deal if you want something fun you have unlimited options if you want a weekend
03:12fling I think you have unlimited options but if you're thinking about something serious long-term
03:18a person that if you're in the hospital tomorrow and they're showing up and you can't walk how many
03:23people are on that list that's not a long list so I think we have the misconception that we just
03:30have
03:30so many options to choose from I'm in agreeance right um I think that a lot of women get the
03:37false
03:37belief that they have options that they actually don't I think that a lot of women have a phone
03:41full of erections pregnancy scares but they don't have the options options to me is a is a roster full
03:47of men that want to marry you court you and treat you properly I think one of the biggest problems
03:51with dating is people have they require things that they cannot provide for themselves as well
03:55but you know what sometimes women do provide what they're asking for but that could be a challenge
04:00too because we'll get women that literally do make three hundred thousand dollars literally does have
04:07her own home so now that's her requirement for a man and then you know as a man sometimes that
04:13man
04:13that matches her wage doesn't always select her in a romantic way I know this about a lot of women
04:20that have their own money right there's a chapter in my book called it's called it's true
04:23accountability right and there's a chapter called she is successful she's sexy but she's single
04:29yeah and the issue with a lot of these women is they expect for a man to come in and
04:33just get with
04:34their program and it doesn't work like that for a woman that wants a high value man a lot of
04:38those
04:38women are going to confuse leadership with control he's going to come in and provide structure and a
04:43lot of self-sufficient women refuse to acclimate when a man comes in that house and provides
04:48leadership can I speak to that I know you know now you know but let's let's define high value
04:53because I don't like the term high value because usually high value is predicated on money access
04:59looks um I like the word high demand because high demand yes the man with the money the looks
05:05is desired by a lot of women but when we say value that's an individual thing it goes back to
05:10what I just said a second ago value to me is the person that shows up for you so you
05:14can know a rich
05:15man he could be fine but does he show up for you he's actually a no value man if you
05:20think about
05:20it that way so we gotta we gotta rewrite this high value slogan because that's the misconception and
05:26that's why men are walking around with an s on their chest because they feel like they got the money
05:31they got the fame they got the looks but ladies that's our fault because we made them that way we
05:37gotta take that power back if a person doesn't show up for you that's a no value human may I
05:41speak to
05:42that for one second if you don't mind we're gonna have to move on we're gonna move on to the
05:47next
05:48question y'all so what's one dating rule or piece of advice people should retire for good I'm gonna
05:54let you go first the lady's gonna go first we're gonna let you go every time because I just talked
05:58it's fine okay so say it one more time I apologize so what's one dating rule or piece of advice
06:03people
06:04should retire for good um dating is not one size fit all so you gotta learn yourself a red flag
06:10for me
06:11may not be a red flag for you you know I'm saying and that's why it's so unique I get
06:15women who
06:15don't mind if a man has other women if they're paying her bills that wouldn't work for me but
06:20guess what neither one of us are right or wrong you gotta know yourself and you gotta date according
06:25to who you are you gotta be real with yourself so I think putting this one size fit all rule
06:31on every
06:31individual is the mistake I think that we need to retire dating one man at a time I think that's
06:36the
06:37dumbest stuff that you could possibly do you know what I agree with that but I don't believe
06:40I say date them but don't have sex with them well you have to compartmentalize them and sex is just
06:45an adult thing but you have to put people in certain brackets so you can be able to navigate it
06:49properly
06:49well sex is more than just a sex thing sex is also a soul tie thing and this is why
06:54sometimes with
06:55women when they have sex you are in you're allowing a soul to enter your body even though it might
07:00not be
07:00a good man the soul now is a part of your system and that's why it's hard to get it
07:04out of you
07:05so I think you have to be very careful with who you be intimate with not just from the soul
07:10way
07:10but also from the health way we don't talk enough about the the true consequences when we're sexually
07:17active like you don't want to share a straw with somebody but you're going to share your body with
07:21somebody so no I agree with you with dating a lot of men but I do not promote dating having
07:27sex with
07:27all of them I would not encourage a woman to ever sleep with every man that she comes in contact
07:31with
07:32right we would hope that she would be selective okay but also I feel like a lot of women are
07:36prisoners right to this this standard of if I sleep with a man I'm a hoe and I'm gonna be
07:40judged and
07:40this is how these women become imprisoned right and just existing and not living and that's the problem
07:45with a lot of these women they get out here and they're trying to date strategically and using your
07:49brain today to never work it's emotion is meant to be felt and so for me right I would tell
07:54these
07:54women you got to get out here and live your life and let it and let everything just sort out
07:58the way
07:58it's gonna sort out yeah and live your life and remember that you're a queen and everybody doesn't
08:02deserve access you can't be a queen without a kingdom though we gotta be real though no but no
08:06you could be there's there's kings without first of all you can be a queen without a king how
08:12absolutely so you're are you saying can you be a king without a queen no you can be a king
08:16no you
08:16can be a king without a queen but you can't be a king without a kingdom you don't come from
08:19royalty
08:20well okay outside of that let's just go to the part because I don't want to miss this part
08:23because it's very serious the the sexual act is what is I believe hurting a lot of women
08:29because most women are not mature enough to have sex and just walk away like it was nothing a lot
08:35of times when women allow a man into their body they now want the dream like we slept together you're
08:41my husband we're building a house and he probably isn't worth any of that so I'm just gonna disagree
08:46I definitely agree with date as many men as possible but keep the legs tight
08:52I love it I love that I love that and you don't walk away with an std when you do
08:57that as well
08:58okay you get to go home bed at night std free so do you all think that people today are
09:05looking for
09:05love or they're looking for perfection I'll go I think that most people are dating out of a place
09:11of survival and so because they're dating out of a place of survival they cannot navigate these dating
09:16waters properly because they want somebody to come in and help them and when you're looking for help
09:20you become desperate and in desperate times is desperate measures I think that we have a lot
09:25of men and women that are just lost out here when they're just clinging on to anything that's willing
09:29to offer a helping hand so that would be my thing with dating everybody's dating out of survival
09:34unfortunately I think that I agree with that I think when relationships thrive thrive the most
09:39codependency is the the ingredient that kind of keeps it together I think that people think they want
09:46love but it's gonna sound so cliche but it's so the truth love starts with you so the way a
09:51person
09:52treats you is the way you treat yourself so a lot of times when women are dealing with a man
09:56and he's
09:58he's disrespecting you he's not calling you back he's doing everything but loving on you the question
10:04you need to ask yourself is why don't I love myself enough to release myself from this because
10:09that's not love I think we give love a bad rap at times love is really taking care of yourself
10:15being confident not conceited and having a standard that a person has to rise to the occasion and if
10:21they don't it's cool because I'm me and back to what I was saying I think that it's hard to
10:27date for
10:28love when I need my bills paid I think it's hard for me to date for love when my lights
10:31is getting
10:31ready to get cut off right and that's the call to but no you're absolutely right I agree with this
10:35that's why I said the cold dependency that's why that's why sometimes with women and you talked
10:39about this in your book when you do well financially she might be single because the one thing that
10:44usually keeps her is her lights are off well baby my lights are on the whole year it's paid off
10:49okay
10:49the house is paid off so you can't get me with finances so now you got to get me with
10:53being genuine
10:54you got to get me with treating me right you got to get me with monogamy and sometimes that's more
10:59difficult for a man a man sometimes would rather pay to disrespect you than to treat you right
11:06and be monogamous I'm gonna be honest I think that a lot of women right I think that they've stopped
11:11dating for love because they've dated for love and ended up with nothing in return yeah so now it's
11:16like well you know what you're going to give me something I'm going to leave here with something
11:20because loving you wasn't enough a lot of women love men right for the potential of the man or
11:24they look at him and say I'm going to build him up and they've never got anything so they look
11:28like
11:28it has to be transactional now I refuse to be empty-handed I totally agree with that they're
11:32scoring so now they're like I'm gonna get a bag absolutely I mean I was crying I didn't even get
11:36a
11:37purse I get you absolutely so okay I'm going to we're gonna do a little rapid fire round so I'm
11:42gonna throw up throw out a few topics and you give me your answer first and then tell me why
11:48dating apps helpful or harmful I'll let you go first I think that it makes people I think it's
11:56harmful and I cannot tell you why and I'm gonna tell you why I think that it makes people socially
12:01awkward for one we need to get out the house and engage more um also but it leaves people in
12:06this
12:06space of being a prisoner to comfort comfort when you're comfortable you won't change you're going
12:10to stay right there women wish they can just amazon a man they wish they could just door dash a
12:14man
12:14to their house and it'll never work yes so I own a dating app Kendra G singles the dating app
12:20and the reason I support no it's okay I'm not mad at you I'm not mad at you I want
12:24you to be
12:24your truth absolutely so that's what I love about you um my dating app is unique though it's not the
12:29regular dating app it has the show so this year alone I have four weddings from people who are
12:34getting married that met from my dating app that would have never met any other way because what
12:38the show does you know I have prime example I have a doctor that was in New York and I
12:43had a girl that
12:44was in Indianapolis and they got married because she came on the show and now they have a beautiful
12:49family together so all the weddings this year I'm going to literally Antigua in two weeks another
12:54girl she was living I want to say in Baltimore and her husband is a doctor he's in New York
12:59they're
13:00getting married in two weeks in Antigua and they met from my dating app so the difference with the
13:04Kendra G singles dating app is the show so it gives you a chance to see the person around the
13:09world and
13:10then a girl I just got back from a wedding like in May a girl got married in Paris she
13:15was in Paris her
13:16husband was in DC he relocated to Paris to meet her and they would have never met if it wasn't
13:21for my
13:22dating app so everything he said about dating apps is true except for the Kendra G singles and let me
13:27just admit I said and no her dating app is exceptional right it wasn't but her dating app is the
13:32exception
13:32is not the standard I love you and we know for a fact that long distance relationships are rough that's
13:37the it's hard to maintain a relationship under the same roof let alone in Paris and Baltimore not saying
13:42no no he's absolutely right and what I'm talking about they are moved so what I'm saying is they
13:48met initially they were in no for sure but you're absolutely right for something serious and real
13:53someone's gonna have to sacrifice and make that move and that is right and I do want to co-sign
13:57people do get comfortable at times with dating apps you could be anybody with a filter but honey
14:02who are we without the filter without the hair without the makeup that's that real stuff and you
14:07gotta have that real stuff to have a real relationship okay if they wanted to they would
14:13fact or fiction fact fact fact super fact fact no no argument it's really that simple like it's
14:22really that simple and and don't be affected if they're not doing it they just don't want you but
14:26it's okay because they got bad taste because you know you the shit oh I forgot we don't swear essence
14:30let me say this for every woman that's in the crowd right now if a man is not trying to
14:35impress you
14:35he does not like you yeah if he is not trying to impress you he does not like you and
14:40I'm not
14:40saying that he has to be rich but if you work at Popeye's he's gonna put extra biscuits in your
14:44bag you understand what I'm saying he is going to go out of his way to show you just what
14:49you mean
14:49to him extra jelly honey on the side he should be trying to impress you or get him away from
14:54you
14:54I love that all right chemistry or compatibility which one matters more
15:02oh I think a lot this is difficult let me tell you why it's difficult because again when we go
15:08back to the time when marriage was high it was survival kind of what he said like first of all
15:13you didn't have social media so you just had to be the baddest woman on your block you had to
15:16be the
15:17baddest in your high school maybe the baddest in college that was all like your grandmother was the
15:21baddest man that your grandfather saw now we have social media where men are looking at women
15:27all every single day so I think chemistry at times people go towards but you can have chemistry
15:34with a mass murderer you know you could you can have like because sometimes let me tell you why
15:39it's that bad boy it's that thrill it's that exhilaration but you can't be compatible with a mass
15:45murderer you're gonna either be dead or in jail those are the options right so I would say compatibility
15:50but I think that's the one at times where if attraction's not there if money's not there
15:55they're gonna overlook that option I think that chemistry gets us through the night compatibility
16:00gets us through a lifetime yeah okay I like that answer yeah chemistry gets us through the night
16:05I meet you we bob I like you you like me we exchange energy cool but if we're not compatible
16:10a lot of
16:11people are waking up to people that they can't stand and that's because they skipped the friendship
16:14process so that's a whole nother can of worms but definitely for sure okay biggest red flag and biggest
16:20green flag what in dating huh and what biggest red flag I don't like liars and I know we say
16:29that we
16:30are like I want you to be truth with me so what gives me the opportunity to make a real
16:35decision
16:35although I don't think a lot of people want the truth because even in my dating show at times when
16:40when men in particular say their truth they get a lot of pushback for women women have the grace y
16:46'all get
16:46to say he got to be six feet he got to make a hundred okay he got to do all
16:50these things but
16:50when a man says I want her to be skinny or I want her to have her real hair or
16:55I want her to wear no
16:56makeup a lot of women feel away and I'm like no they got to have the grace so I think
17:02for me a red flag
17:03is not being honest green flag is being truthful tell me the truth and allow me to make the decision
17:10a red flag for me would be a lack of support I need support one of my love languages and
17:16it's an
17:16extra one that's not actually in the list right but I am big on reciprocation right I want you to
17:21love
17:21me like I love you I want you to pour into me like I pour into you I'm big on
17:24that I don't I made a post
17:26where I said I do not do nonchalant people right like you got to be shalant about me I want
17:30you to
17:30be crazy about me like I'm crazy about you um and so that would be a red flag for me
17:36a green flag
17:38compatibility we got to be compatible you got to match my draw you got to match my drive you got
17:42to match my ground so yes absolutely compatibility I love that I love that so I want to see where
17:47the
17:48audience stands on this conversation so I want to show up hands for each question I'm going to ask
17:54who thinks dating apps have made dating harder I want you guys to react you know it has because
18:03it's giving more options so it kind of says what I just said about now before your grandmother just
18:08had to be the baddest woman in your city now you got to be the baddest woman in the world
18:12and it's
18:13truthful like it was a doctor in New York and all the girls in New York weren't good enough for
18:18him
18:18he ended up marrying a girl that was in Indianapolis so what dating apps do I hate the word competition
18:24but it increases the options for the type of person you want to date to have okay the next question
18:30who
18:30believes the person who asked for the date should pay
18:36but what if the woman asked for the date she should pay no she should not yes she should she
18:41absolutely should hold on hold on hold on a woman listen if it don't got to be an expensive date
18:47it
18:48doesn't have to be an expensive date okay you can go to somewhere you can I believe you could go
18:52to
18:53duck and donuts and have a conversation so why can't you pay but I feel like if a man wants
18:57you to pull
18:57out your pocket on the first date to me that's very telling and I don't think a man that really
19:03wants to court a woman because men take pride in being providers so I'm not saying if a woman
19:08makes the gesture like hey are you a free for lunch okay go to lunch go to Applebee's it could
19:15be $20
19:15but no I don't believe a woman not the first date now when you're in a relationship you're gonna
19:20probably pay y'all in a partnership but that first date no the man should pay
19:25we got any female bosses in the audience any any females that got their bag right in the audience
19:30and I can't drop speaking to the audience man and for the female bosses in the audience it ain't
19:36about nothing if I want to take you to Dunkin Donuts it ain't about nothing if I want to take
19:40you to Applebee's because big girls play by a different set of rules I wanted to take him out
19:45and I did it and it's not about anything does that close the deal in what way did you like
19:50I mean
19:50if the woman wants something long term her paying for the date does the deal close like does she end
19:56up being in something serious long term like all of that I'm gonna be honest I think it would set
20:01her apart I think it would make her stand out I think it would make me say oh my goodness
20:05I'm
20:05appreciated for once I paid for the last 9,000 dates somebody thought enough of me to get me some
20:10munchkins from Dunkin Donuts thank you thank you she might get married but this goes back to what you
20:15just said a second ago that so many women are so scorned because they have done that right there's
20:20a lot of women that have paid for first dates paid for trips paid for a lot of things when
20:25it came to
20:25a man and then you see him with another woman and you're like I invested all this money into this
20:30guy I think if a man is serious about you he's gonna be okay with spending $30 on a breakfast
20:36date
20:37and if he can't spend $30 on a breakfast date I don't think he's the one
20:40okay y'all we're about to close so I'd love for each of you to finish this sentence
20:48the dating reset starts when what the dating reset reset reset it starts with you it's everything
20:56starts with you you are the the bar to how people are gonna treat you so you have to show
21:02up and show
21:03people how to treat you so the dating reset starts with you I think that the dating reset starts when
21:09you get out of your comfort zone you have to get out of your comfort zone and I just want
21:13to leave
21:13the women with this right a lot of y'all are getting out of long-term relationships and you've lost
21:17yourself there's power and reinvention you will never get back to the woman that you used to be
21:22she is dead and gone you don't look the same you don't talk the same you don't walk the same
21:26your body doesn't even react to touch the same get outside and start living and stop existing we're not
21:32living by the rules of these other people we're gonna get outside and play by home man
21:36I appreciate you and be safe when you're playing by these here you go it wasn't about sex it was
21:41about living Kendra I agree I do agree with that and I hope we not holding out with there was
21:46no
21:46coochie and you've been giving it away for the last 50 years neither no well start holding out on it
21:51because that's the way she's been giving away for the last 15 years and it didn't work for her
21:54let me cook for a second because okay okay please give one more round of applause for Kendra G
22:02and truth hurts please plug in your show I want to say this so all the ladies in here if
22:08you're
22:08single make some noise if you're a single woman listen I love you and I want you to know that
22:14right now in this moment in your single season you are vibrating high and maybe you'll meet someone to
22:19partner with life with or maybe you won't but don't make meeting a man the predication of your happiness
22:24I want to make sure I said that um download the Kendra G singles dating app and I have a
22:29new show
22:29on the Oprah Winfrey Network um it starts July 29th on all digital platforms called dating
22:36download and before y'all go if you do not know how to date you need a male's respect the
22:41perspective
22:42that's blunt and honest and that's not going to lie to you then you book a counseling session with me
22:47I am true first you can go follow me on Instagram we got a show called you don't know ish
22:52about men
22:53it's me and my good brother wild luck from New Orleans make sure you guys get your tickets we are
22:58going
22:58on tour come out and learn come out and vibe come out and enjoy yourself I love y'all I
23:02appreciate
23:02y'all I love you one more round of applause
23:07y'all I love y'all so much
23:08y'all I love y'all so much
23:08y'all so much
23:08y'all so much
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