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When modern daters navigate the complexities of finding love, the journey often leads to unexpected encounters and heartfelt connections. This episode of First Dates (2013) delves into the intimate moments shared between individuals seeking a meaningful relationship, exploring their hopes, anxieties, and the crucial first impressions that can shape their romantic futures.
Watch as new couples embark on blind dates, revealing their personalities and life stories. The episode highlights the challenges and triumphs of contemporary dating, from awkward silences to genuine sparks of chemistry, offering a candid look at the pursuit of companionship.
Explore the universal themes of vulnerability and anticipation as daters put themselves out there. This installment of First Dates provides a compelling narrative of human connection and the endless possibilities that unfold when two hearts dare to meet.
#FirstDates #DatingShow #RealityTV #LoveStories
Watch as new couples embark on blind dates, revealing their personalities and life stories. The episode highlights the challenges and triumphs of contemporary dating, from awkward silences to genuine sparks of chemistry, offering a candid look at the pursuit of companionship.
Explore the universal themes of vulnerability and anticipation as daters put themselves out there. This installment of First Dates provides a compelling narrative of human connection and the endless possibilities that unfold when two hearts dare to meet.
#FirstDates #DatingShow #RealityTV #LoveStories
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00:02Do you feel a bit rusty, Romance?
00:03Yes, very rusty.
00:05Definitely need a WD for our day.
00:08I need some help.
00:09It's hard out there.
00:11I am very single at the moment.
00:14I've ran out of swipes.
00:15I've completed Tinder.
00:18In the heart of Britain's most romantic city.
00:21Aloha.
00:23Fred and his team.
00:24This is Captain Fur Potato.
00:26Our matching hopeful singletons.
00:28We're getting married, Merlin.
00:30In a place where love is always on the menu.
00:34I've got a bit in your finger.
00:35You didn't go that far down the strip.
00:39These daters...
00:40He probably thinks I'm having a poo or something.
00:42..are searching...
00:45..for the one.
00:48Would you chase me around the bedroom?
00:49Absolutely. Get your coat.
00:52For some, stepping into the unknown...
00:56..can lead to surprising sparks.
00:59I work in the adult industry.
01:01Do you have an office for that?
01:02I have a dungeon.
01:04..but finding a connection...
01:06..a love story is about to begin.
01:09Shut up!
01:10..isn't always easy.
01:12Please tell me you actually last longer than three minutes.
01:18Help me!
01:20In the end...
01:21Hi.
01:22..it comes down to one...
01:24Thanks for seeing you there.
01:25..big question.
01:27Would you guys like to see each other again?
01:30This isn't a total quiz, is it?
01:32This is The First Dates Restaurant.
01:43You have to have an open mind when you're doing it.
01:45I'm a dominatrix.
01:46Interesting.
01:48You have to be open to different people.
01:51Spanking, bondage-tying.
01:53Where do I sign up, though?
01:55People that might spark interests in you that you didn't know about.
01:59I'm half of a hip-hop duo.
02:00Right?
02:01They end up in their 40s.
02:04I've always found the people that surprised me
02:06were the ones that I'd actually like.
02:08A millionaire-ishly familiar, that's what I want.
02:10Close. Jolly close.
02:17Hello.
02:20Ready to prove she's full of surprises and hoping for sparks
02:24is engineer Ellie.
02:26My day-to-day job consists of a lot of grinding.
02:30When I say grinding, I mean angle grinding.
02:36I'm the only woman in my company that I work for,
02:39but just because I'm a woman doesn't mean
02:40I can't get a forklift license.
02:42You do have to mark your territory.
02:44How are you, Ellie?
02:45I'm good.
02:46Nice to meet you.
02:47Nice to meet you.
02:48Are you ready?
02:49I'm so ready.
02:50Come with me.
02:51Sometimes I speak before I think.
02:54Being blunt can sometimes annoy the guy that I've dated.
02:57A lot of my thoughts will be quite brutally honest.
03:02Have you been on mini dates?
03:04Quite a few, yes.
03:05Quite a few.
03:06Maybe too many.
03:07They've mainly been dating apps, but that's obviously not worked yet.
03:10Not working.
03:11No, but that's okay.
03:12That's why we're here.
03:13And what are you looking for tonight?
03:14Someone that's a bit fun, that wants to have a laugh, a good time.
03:19I would like someone who's confident and also someone who's slightly willing to embarrass themselves.
03:25Should I get you a drink?
03:26Do you want some tea?
03:26Yeah, I'll have a look at the menu, please.
03:29Someone who doesn't care so much about what other people think.
03:35Not afraid to cause a reaction is nuclear project manager Callum.
03:41When I meet people and I tell them my job, they tend to think,
03:44God, he's Thomas Simpson.
03:46I've been told I look like Wallace from Wallace and Gromit a few times as well,
03:49which is, again, not a compliment, is it?
03:53I grew up being a nerdy kid.
03:55He used to love dinosaurs and Pokemon and all that sort of stuff.
03:58I think nerdy people are just generally kind.
04:02Hello.
04:02Confident young man.
04:03Feeling confident, feeling good.
04:05You are. How are you? Nice to meet you, Callum.
04:06How are you doing?
04:08I don't think there's any shame in being a bit geeky.
04:10I think it's something you should cherish, to be honest.
04:16Your date has arrived.
04:17Oh, lovely.
04:18Yeah.
04:19Shall I take you through?
04:19Yes, please.
04:20Have they been you?
04:21I'm looking for somebody who's quite adventurous.
04:23A little bit nerdy.
04:24It's actually popping.
04:26How are we going?
04:27Hello.
04:28I'm Ellie.
04:28Callum, nice to meet you.
04:29Nice to meet you.
04:29You look lovely.
04:31Oh, thanks.
04:32It's a pleasure.
04:33You all right?
04:34Yeah, I'm good.
04:34How are you?
04:35I'm good.
04:35How are you feeling?
04:36I'm nervous, I'll be honest.
04:38Me too.
04:38You look great.
04:40So do you?
04:41Do you want some water?
04:42I'll do that.
04:43Don't worry.
04:45If I can even pour it properly.
04:46It's just spill all over the floor.
04:49What do you do?
04:50I do engineering.
04:51No way.
04:52Oh, you used to be an engineer.
04:53No way.
04:54What did you do?
04:54I was civil.
04:55I used to like work in my nuclear and stuff, so.
04:57That's cool.
04:58I really wanted to go into nuclear.
04:59No, no.
05:00I didn't go into nuclear.
05:02So what do you do now?
05:03I'm a project manager.
05:04I've actually been thinking about doing more project management stuff.
05:06I feel like that's the path for engineers though, isn't it?
05:09I feel like once you get like, I was going to say big enough, that sounds really cocky then.
05:11No, like, once you get good enough.
05:14I am kind of a big deal, okay?
05:15Do you?
05:16No.
05:18Cheers.
05:18It's water.
05:20I was like, that's the ick already, isn't it?
05:28So kitsch.
05:29Love it.
05:30Shall I get you something to drink?
05:32I would love something to drink.
05:33What would you like?
05:33A French martini.
05:35I think the French martini comes in a coupe glass based on Marie Antoinette's breast.
05:39That's right.
05:40Thank you so much, Fred.
05:44Bookworm turned author Becky is ready to turn her fiction fantasies into hard facts.
05:53We stumble upstairs and into the bedroom.
05:55His experience is evident and I'm pleased.
05:58I like a man who knows what he's doing.
06:00Look what I've got for you, Becky.
06:33First time I'm having one.
06:33He told me that I wasn't his type, but the next day he sent me a dick pic.
06:38Oh.
06:39What about sexual chemistry?
06:41Is it important for you?
06:42Hugely important.
06:43Is it?
06:43You might not want to necessarily rip their clothes off, but, you know, just undo a few buttons.
06:48Looking for someone who's upstanding, full of integrity and treats a woman right, but at the same time has got
06:56a naughty side and he will do all kind of spontaneous naughty things.
07:03Would it be really important that she was a good kisser?
07:05I guess it would.
07:06I guess it would.
07:06Yes, I guess that's what I, that's, that's the message, isn't it?
07:09Becky's date is retired English teacher turned poet.
07:13Paul, can it sweet words steal Becky's beating heart?
07:18Love feels like a, a warmish volcano going off inside.
07:24Just a huge feeling just comes out of nowhere.
07:28Oh my God.
07:29That's what it's all about.
07:31How are you?
07:32I'm good.
07:33Bonjour.
07:34Nice to meet you.
07:34Bonjour.
07:35Are you excited about today?
07:36Yeah, I've only recently sort of started dating.
07:39Now's the time to start looking for that person I should really be with.
07:43Right.
07:43It's been so long, really.
07:45Hope springs eternal.
07:46What's important for you?
07:48I like cultural things.
07:49I like the arts and theater and music and all that sort of thing.
07:52So do you write or?
07:54I do write, yes.
07:55My type should probably be creative.
07:58I took quite a light long hair, really.
08:00Come with me.
08:02Mouth shape, but I suppose it's kissability.
08:05Here we are.
08:06Hello.
08:06Hello.
08:07Lovely to meet you.
08:08I'm Becky.
08:09How'd you do?
08:13Thanks, Fred.
08:14Enjoy your date.
08:15That's for you.
08:17Oh, how lovely.
08:18Oh, that's very kind of you.
08:21It's a forget-me-not to symbolize fresh starts.
08:24New beginnings, that sort of thing.
08:26Uh, I love spring flowers.
08:28Yeah.
08:28Just everything blossoming.
08:30It's just really, really nice.
08:31So what did you do?
08:32Um, well, I was a lecturer for many years in drama,
08:36and then I took early retirement, and now I'm a writer.
08:40Well, I'm the same.
08:41I'm a writer.
08:42I was a teacher for many years of English language and literature.
08:45Right.
08:46But since I've retired, I'm in London.
08:48OK.
08:48I'm in the British Library at the moment, researching.
08:50Oh, one of my favourite places.
08:51Yeah.
08:52Yes.
08:57Are you ready?
08:59I will put this in the middle.
09:01That looks very nice.
09:02All good?
09:03All good.
09:04You're welcome.
09:07Right, are there any, um, like, turn-offs you have, or red flags, I guess?
09:13I don't know what I turn-offs, but I, like, kind of, like, I know what I want.
09:15What do you want?
09:16I want someone who's, like, nice, and I want someone who's, like, fun.
09:20Yeah.
09:20Because I feel that's been, like, severely lacking in things in the past.
09:24Really?
09:24Um, I had, like, a pretty rough year last year.
09:26It was all about, so...
09:27Why was it rough?
09:28Me and my partner split up just before Christmas,
09:31because I was, like, cheated on pretty badly.
09:33Oh, no!
09:34It was on and off for, like, a few years, so...
09:36That's annoying.
09:37Every time it was off was because of cheating.
09:40That relationship was the only time I felt in love with somebody.
09:45It kind of feels like all fairy tales and magic and all that sort of stuff when you're in it,
09:48but then you kind of don't realise how much you lose yourself sometimes.
09:53That's painful.
09:55Yeah, I've not had the, like, best dating history.
09:58Like, everything that I liked about myself, she didn't...
10:00If I'd reach for her hand in public, she'd yank it away.
10:04It was almost like I felt she was a bit ashamed of me.
10:07And that kind of beats you down after a little while.
10:10I want to change that. I want to break the cycle.
10:11Yeah.
10:12Because I feel like when relationships go sour, like, the fun just leaves.
10:16Yeah.
10:17It's only when your friends step in and say you're a bit of a shell of yourself
10:21that you kind of realise how far you've slipped.
10:23They say that's not normal in relationships, or you seem really shy all of a sudden or really nervous.
10:28Then you kind of think, why am I feeling this way?
10:32You kind of just look back and you realise, like, you were just not meant to be together.
10:35Yeah. That's horrible.
10:37I wanted to take time away just to fully recover.
10:41I didn't want to take any dramas from my last relationship into a new one.
10:45I feel really good. I feel really good.
10:47Like, no, I want to do, like, this stuff this year, like, buy a place and travel a bit more.
10:53That's good.
10:54Would you want to get married one day?
10:55Yeah, definitely.
10:56Yeah. I do.
10:56Do you?
10:57Yeah, one day.
10:58One day.
10:59I'm not saying right now.
11:07I get, like, I don't know, well-broody at the moment.
11:12Yeah.
11:12Well, cos, like, I've seen my mates, like, having kids and stuff.
11:15And it's just, like, so cute.
11:16It's like they've got the whole family things.
11:18Yeah, it's kind of cute.
11:19I always, like, said to myself, like, when I left uni, like, oh, I'll get married and
11:22have a kid before 30.
11:23I'm like, got to get fucking cracking.
11:26No, like, we're running out of time here, like, I know.
11:41Hope steals like strong perfume into spring air.
11:45Expectation stands on tiptoe, not daring to breathe.
11:49Who are you?
11:50You hover ahead of me like an angel as we are born into a new season, the spring of our
11:56age.
11:56Well, I'm no angel, I'll tell you that, but very good.
12:01He wrote her a pre-planned love poem.
12:04How cute is that?
12:06That's really sweet.
12:07Yeah, love.
12:07I think I'd absolutely love that.
12:09I would die for that.
12:10I'd like to know that someone's thought about me before they've even met me.
12:12Yeah, he's not even met her yet and he's writing her a poem.
12:15Actions.
12:17This is why I don't do food on dates.
12:18No, it's a bit awkward, isn't it?
12:20Yeah.
12:20How have you found, like, dating since uni, then?
12:22It's more difficult to, like, meet people when you're not at uni.
12:27Yeah.
12:28So you have to kind of, like, rely on the dating apps, but then obviously, like...
12:31They're shit.
12:32They're awful.
12:33I've been on quite a few dates actually last year, just because I was like, wow.
12:36Right, no, no, no, no, no, no.
12:39It was just so easy to do, like, them so often, you know what I mean?
12:44Too much choice.
12:44But then, yeah.
12:45My nana was just like, you've got to kiss a few frogs before you meet a princess.
12:48But obviously, it didn't work out with anyone.
12:52I would say I'm really sorry it didn't work out, but I'm not.
12:55You're very attractive, by the way.
12:57So there you go.
12:58Look at you, like...
12:58Thanks.
13:01Now you say something nice about me.
13:02No, I'm joking.
13:03You're also very attractive.
13:06How old are you, by the way?
13:07I'm 29.
13:0829?
13:09How old are you?
13:10Is that...?
13:10I would say, guess, but I feel like I don't really want to guess.
13:13I'm awful at this.
13:15Gone.
13:1525.
13:16Yeah, 25 in a couple of weeks.
13:18Oh, no, wait.
13:18You must have graduated, what, like, a week ago?
13:20And in that case, or...?
13:21Last year.
13:22Wow.
13:22Age gap, no.
13:24Yeah, I probably started uni when you finished.
13:26Don't say that.
13:30The majority of 25-year-olds have so many options, but also it's a bit terrifying.
13:35I could settle down and get a job.
13:37I could go back to uni.
13:38I could take a year off.
13:39I could travel the world.
13:41I don't know.
13:41I could literally do anything, and I think that is so scary.
13:45I'm having, like, a quarter-life crisis.
13:47It's like, what do I do?
13:48Which way do I go?
13:49What's, like, number one at the moment?
13:51Right now, I think it's good to have a job.
13:54A child?
13:55A job, not a child.
13:57Right.
13:58No time soon.
13:59No, that wasn't, like, a panic look at it.
14:00It's all right.
14:00I was just, like, trying to hear.
14:01Panic for me.
14:02A what?
14:02Dating in your mid-20s is really strange, because so many people are at different points in their
14:08life, but they're the same age.
14:10People could do anything at this point in time.
14:13They could get married.
14:13They could have babies.
14:14Or they could just have a date.
14:16It's tricky.
14:18I feel like I'm, like, approaching a bit of a, like, mid-life crisis.
14:21What do I want to do with my life?
14:22I was like...
14:23Yeah.
14:24I'd love to, like, I don't know, open a CAF, I think, and just, like, have a little quiet life.
14:28Nice.
14:29Right now, I want to have fun in my life.
14:33I'm not at the stage where I really want to settle down.
14:36I would like to have adventures with someone.
14:40Life is so short, and why not have fun?
14:43I think I would like to do a ski season.
14:45I like climbing.
14:46Oh, sick.
14:47Do you?
14:47I've done it, like, when I lived in Bristol.
14:49I'm scared of heights, so...
14:50Oh, God, you don't like heights!
14:52I'll try anything once, honestly.
14:54I tried CrossFit to try and, like...
14:56Oh, yeah?
14:56...make friends last summer.
14:58Oh, how do you make friends as an adult?
14:59Yeah, no, literally, how do you make friends as an adult?
15:02Do you ever go on, like, nights out, anymore?
15:03Ever.
15:06No, I'll be staying in net.
15:08OK.
15:09Yeah.
15:10I still have nights out.
15:14Hello, you wonderful people. How's it going?
15:16My name's Kyle. You look a good gentleman.
15:18Very natterly dressed.
15:20Yeah, he does.
15:21Do you know what you wanted to drink at all?
15:23I would like wine, I think.
15:24Yeah? A white wine?
15:26Yes, that sounds good.
15:26Awesome.
15:27Thank you very much.
15:28So, what do you write?
15:30Well, I wrote last year a cultural memoir, which is about the effects of technology on relationships
15:37between men and women and how the whole kind of scene has completely changed.
15:41OK.
15:41And that all came out of a very bad situation I was in with an ex.
15:48When I separated from my ex, it was a very, very dark time.
15:55I needed a period of time for my heart to mend again, because it was broken, definitely.
16:01What I thought was there was no longer there, so I had to reshape my future.
16:07About nine months or so after we separated, that's when I thought, now is the time to start looking around,
16:14so that's when I started online dating, which led me into a lot of adventures.
16:18That's really what my book was all about.
16:20It was great fun for a number of years.
16:51I met lots of different men.
16:52I met lots of people in real life rather than Toy Boys online.
16:56Yes.
16:57I'm looking for both love and lust.
17:00To me, they co-exist.
17:02I want that companionship.
17:04I want that connection, because that's important to me.
17:08It's interesting that you can have so much chemistry zinging off the screen, but when you actually meet in real
17:14life, there's absolutely nothing there.
17:16Yeah.
17:17Yeah, Toy Boys.
17:24I did see online there are Aphrodite bitters.
17:28Yes.
17:28Is it kind of like bitters of love?
17:30Yes.
17:31So I think we should be putting a few dashes of that in every cocktail.
17:33Every single drink.
17:34Seriously, these are cocktails, man.
17:36You cannot claim any health benefit from a cocktail.
17:39I beg to differ.
17:40I really beg to differ.
17:41It gives you happiness.
17:41I know, yeah, whiskey makes you frisky.
17:43Cider makes you a good rider.
17:45Rum will make you...
17:47I'm going to leave you guys to it, man.
17:49I'm not part of this.
17:50Okay, what other ones can we come up with?
17:5334-year-old John is a disco DJ.
17:56He knows how to get the party started, but his love life seems somewhat off track.
18:02You must get women throwing themselves at you.
18:04Nah.
18:05This is a misconception.
18:07I don't know what fat boys Lynn does.
18:09It's not true.
18:11I'd like to know what the trick is, because I haven't found it yet.
18:16My outfit is inspired by a certain Chandler being...
18:21Eventually, Chandler got it right, so I'd like to think my story would be a similar ending,
18:26I'd hope.
18:27I'm looking for my moniker, yes.
18:29Look at that suit, lovely.
18:30Thank you very much.
18:31Nice to meet you, John.
18:32Yeah, pleasure.
18:33You go on many days?
18:34Uh, I try.
18:35You try?
18:36I've...
18:36Yeah, I'm experienced.
18:38You experienced, although I'm here now, so it's fine.
18:40Last chance saloon.
18:42Here I am.
18:44I am quite picky.
18:45All right, let's go.
18:47How do you approach girls?
18:49I don't.
18:50Take a seat, mate.
18:51He will fix you up.
18:52It's that awful fear of rejection.
18:55Maybe I should go to, like, dating school, where they, you know, teach you to be fearless.
18:59So, tell me a bit about who you're looking for.
19:01A brunette, like a slim figure and everything.
19:04Maya Jammer vibes.
19:05Okay.
19:06That's my vibe.
19:06That's your vibe.
19:07But whether I'm their vibe, I don't know, so that's why I'm here.
19:11Warm, funny, outgoing, smiles at me in that way that any other girl smiles at their boyfriend.
19:19That's the aim of the game, isn't it?
19:21It's not hard, is it?
19:24With a smile that could save the planet, environmental campaigner Susha is looking for someone to burst her bubble.
19:32Bubbles are just whimsical goodness.
19:35Because if a guy can't appreciate bubbles, then we're not on the same level of whimsy.
19:40I feel like people meet me and they think that I'm, like, really, like, overly sweet and cute.
19:47And, like, they're just like, oh, you want to save the world?
19:49My life is, like, full.
19:51It's an open book waiting for someone to walk into.
19:56I'm looking for, at the risk of being too ambitious, the love of my life.
20:01Good to meet you, Susha.
20:02I'm so excited.
20:03The date is here.
20:04Okay.
20:05He's at the bar.
20:08My type is someone who is funny, first and foremost.
20:12Dark eyes, dark hair.
20:14We love a beard.
20:16Love just a moustache, too.
20:18Hi.
20:19Hi.
20:20How are you?
20:20Nice to meet you.
20:21Nice to meet you.
20:22Oh, sorry.
20:23You all right?
20:23What's your name?
20:24I'm Susha.
20:26Susha.
20:26Like sushi, but Susha.
20:27Sushi, Susha.
20:28And you?
20:29John.
20:29John, nice to meet you.
20:31What can we get you to drink?
20:33A blooming lovely.
20:34So where are you from?
20:35I'm from London.
20:36What about you?
20:37I live in Hometan.
20:38Oh, easy.
20:39I live in Whitechapel, so really close.
20:41Nice.
20:41What do you do?
20:43I work for an environmental charity.
20:45Cool.
20:46Yeah, doing their digital comms and social bits.
20:49Oh, nice.
20:50That's nice.
20:50What about you?
20:51By day, I work for the council, doing their video stuff.
20:54Like community hero content.
20:57Oh, love.
20:58Yeah.
20:58Maybe working on a new social content stream at the moment,
21:02that is literally trying to do, like, community hero stories.
21:06Heroes need to be heard.
21:07I see why I've been matched.
21:08Yeah.
21:09Well, cheers.
21:09Cheers.
21:11Cheers.
21:11I can't tell her.
21:12Sorry.
21:17The other day, I had some Wotsits, and I was having them with chopsticks.
21:21You're so cultured.
21:22I love Chinese restaurants.
21:25Chinese, not Italian.
21:26My dad's parents, like, immigrated from Italy to America.
21:29Oh, no way?
21:30Yeah.
21:30I kind of, like, fixate on stuff, and I'm, like, really fixated on the American election.
21:34Really?
21:36It's just baffled.
21:36It's crazy, isn't it?
21:38Yeah.
21:38Who says romance is dead?
21:39We're talking about politics.
21:41Yeah, I know.
21:41Like, I'm really showing my age now.
21:44Like...
21:45Yeah.
21:46Thank you, though, about my stocks and shares, ISA, I'm about to open.
21:49Tell me all about that.
21:51I'm looking to invest.
21:52No, no.
21:54What's the, like, weirdest thing that's put you off somebody?
21:56Oh, I took someone on a date.
21:58Yeah.
21:58And we went cold water swimming, because I was like, that's fun.
22:02I got in, and then he just could not get in.
22:05He was like, why does anyone do this for fun?
22:06And I was like, because it's fun.
22:08I don't know.
22:09I do that.
22:10Do you?
22:11Yeah, I do that, yeah.
22:12Yeah, I do, like, rivers and stuff.
22:13There's a quarry near me that I do it.
22:15I love it.
22:15I think it's great.
22:16Cold water swimming is something that, like, older women always do.
22:19Are you older than you say you are?
22:20Is that what you're about to say?
22:20Maybe, secretly.
22:22But it's a bit of a thrill, isn't it?
22:24Yeah.
22:26I like to think it was a vibe, but I can get it wrong.
22:32So I don't want to get my hopes up.
22:34I have won by the bill.
22:35I'm going to leave it here.
22:37Should we split it, then?
22:38I'm happy to take it.
22:40I'm happy to split it.
22:41No, it's OK.
22:41I got it.
22:42Don't worry.
22:42Yeah, it's fine.
22:43All right.
22:45That's fine.
22:52I forgot all of my cards.
22:58Like, what's that?
22:59Oh, my God.
22:59What's that?
23:00What's happened?
23:01I can't even dine and dash for being recorded.
23:06Would you like to see each other again?
23:10I'd like to see you again.
23:12Yeah.
23:13I'd like to see you again, too.
23:14Oh, good.
23:15Cool.
23:18Good choice.
23:19Yeah, good choice.
23:19Have a good evening.
23:21You too.
23:21Have someplace fun now?
23:23Hopefully.
23:23OK.
23:25I think we've got a similar sense of humor in that.
23:27It's both a little bit awkward and a little bit dry and strange.
23:35You're a little bit strange.
23:37This is nice, isn't it?
23:38So nice.
23:39So flowery.
23:42Yeah, I'd fancy you.
23:44Wow.
23:45Yeah, I thought you were very attractive when I walked in.
23:47Thanks.
23:49I thought you were, too.
23:50Well, you are, still.
23:51I'm both getting awkward now, yeah.
23:52I know.
23:52Past tense now, you still.
23:54Thanks for getting it, as well.
23:55That's all right.
23:56You're a bit older than me.
23:57You've probably got a bit more savings from me.
24:09Eva, can you help me a second?
24:11Absolutely.
24:12Let's go.
24:12Grabbed out, man.
24:14This is a moose bush, and they call it a mouth pleaser.
24:19It's got an aphrodisiac in it, apparently.
24:22Chuck it all in once, apparently.
24:24Oh, gosh.
24:25Oh, he's gone for it.
24:26He's gone for it.
24:27He's gone for it.
24:27Nice, Paul.
24:28I'll take a few minutes to calm down after that one.
24:31HE LAUGHS
24:32It's amused your bush.
24:34It's amused my bush, yes.
24:36My bush has never been so amused.
24:56HE LAUGHS
24:57I've had a child, but it didn't work out.
25:00My mental health was in the doldrums for a long time.
25:03I got ill with depression.
25:05Clearly, that relationship could never work.
25:08So I've been in therapy trying to get over this.
25:11Oh, it must have been so difficult.
25:12And it's years and years of it, yes.
25:14Thanks to the hard work of mental health services and myself,
25:18Finally, I feel I've come to terms with what happened to me.
25:21I've understood it.
25:22And that makes me feel, you know, I could be,
25:24I could be a good partner for somebody now.
25:27It's only just in the last year, really,
25:28I felt it's a time for new beginnings, you know.
25:31So I would like to spend it with someone, really.
25:36I do feel that I'm ready for a relationship.
25:39Here I am, hoping to find the one.
25:42Did you know immediately if you were attracted to somebody?
25:45You can tell if there's a spark.
25:47Usually, I can tell, yeah.
25:50What is it I'm expecting to feel?
25:54Well, I think if you have to ask yourself, then there's no spark.
26:14Hey, how are you doing? Nice to meet you.
26:17How are you getting on? Are you all right?
26:18Omnible. Terrible.
26:19Yeah.
26:20Totally over.
26:21Is that fun? Yeah.
26:23I'm joking.
26:24How are we doing with the menu?
26:26What are we thinking?
26:27I think we're going to go for sharing messe.
26:29Lovely.
26:30Thank you very much.
26:32So, what do you like to do?
26:34A disco DJ.
26:36That's cool.
26:36How long have you been DJing?
26:39Ten years.
26:40We had a tenth.
26:41Oh, mad.
26:41Yeah, we had a tenth birthday last year.
26:43In fact, if you're going, if you're about to pull out a
26:47fucking sticker, oh, my God.
26:49You're welcome.
26:50I have a sticker for you, too.
26:51Oh, my God, what is it?
26:52It's a climate sticker, so if you don't care about the climate,
26:55let's see.
26:55We have to care about the climate.
26:58That's cool.
26:59It's not cool, but it is cool.
27:01That's like a melting.
27:02Yeah, the earth do be melting, it's hot.
27:05That's cool.
27:05Oh, my God, I love, thanks.
27:08Do you know what you're looking for at this point in your life?
27:10Well, I'm at that point in my life where everyone's getting married
27:13and having kids.
27:15And I am not, so I'm kind of thinking, yeah, I need to seek that.
27:21Need to or want to?
27:22Yeah.
27:25When was the last relationship?
27:2718 months.
27:28Like, she dances on a cruise ship.
27:31Mmm, fun.
27:32I know, I was like, fucking holidays sorted then, lovely.
27:37So, like, met her in Birmingham.
27:38Fair work is my annual leave.
27:40The way we met was in, like, a...
27:42Went to a Beatles tribute band.
27:44Love, you met in the wild.
27:46Yeah, I know, weird.
27:48Like, obviously, she's, like, being a dancer, she works her way.
27:51So, you know, the plan was to go out and see her,
27:53and then halfway and everything, so it's looked forward to,
27:56and, you know, I actually thought this was going to be something,
27:58and then...
27:59Mmm.
28:00Just got a call of, like, I need to tell you something.
28:04Oh, no.
28:06It's just like, oh, it's just, you know, slept with someone on the ship.
28:10And I was like...
28:15I don't wish that upon anyone.
28:18It just felt a bit empty, you know?
28:20You're kind of like, what now?
28:23She just wanted to walk back into my life.
28:26I need to rebuild the truck.
28:27There was no grovelling, which is not what I was there for,
28:30but also, like, come on.
28:32I do deserve better than that.
28:34Everyone deserves better than that.
28:35If I was to do that, I would be round her house,
28:38I'll be with flowers, I'll be begging her, and there was none of that.
28:42So I just thought, you're worth more than that, I think.
28:45Mmm.
28:46I told her it was, uh, not for me.
28:49We all want to be loved, and life is for sharing,
28:52and if you do that with a companion, that's the goal in life.
28:56I mean, it wasn't even that long, but it was one of them
28:58where I actually thought, okay, this could go somewhere.
29:00Yeah.
29:01So it was...
29:02Do you think you were in love?
29:04Yeah.
29:12This is Andy, who, at the age of 72,
29:15is living life in the Barthelaine and getting revved up for romance.
29:22When I'm riding my motorbike, I feel really free.
29:26I can zip along at speed, just watch the world go by.
29:30It's just a great thing to do. I love it.
29:32You look like a man without a care in the world.
29:35Oh, I hope so.
29:35I like that.
29:36Okay, good.
29:37But you don't find women on the back of a motorbike.
29:39Tell me, why are you single?
29:41I have no idea. I wish I knew that.
29:43I've been single for five years, Fred.
29:44What about your friends and family? Do they introduce you to people?
29:47My family's all over the place. I've got a few friends around,
29:50but most people you know are married or in relationships.
29:53I hope I'm a little bit unconventional.
29:55Currently, my body wants to go to sleep, but my head is not letting me.
30:28Come with me. I'll take you to your table.
30:29I'm not going to be adventurous in some degree. It's a bonus if they want to go on my motorbike.
30:36Ready to kickstart her love life is footballer Jan. But will Andy play ball?
30:42Taking up football at the age of 69 probably isn't what everybody does.
30:48I play central defence and the men have put my little emoji as the chopper.
30:57They reckon I kick their ankles. They're just babies.
31:01You're looking amazing. Thank you. So do you. Thank you very much.
31:05A lot of people say climate challenge. I've got a spirit of adventure.
31:11I don't worry about going to Spain and playing football with somebody I don't know.
31:15Why wouldn't you do that? Come with me. Thank you.
31:18I want someone with a bit of adventure and not routine.
31:23Oh, what a lovely table. Thank you. Hello.
31:26Hello. Nice to meet you.
31:27Hi. I cannot stand routine.
31:30I don't want to eat spaghetti bolognese every Monday.
31:33Enjoy your date. Have fun. Thank you. I will.
31:36Sorry, what's your name? Jan. Jane? Jan. J-A-N.
31:41Jan. Okay. Andy. Short for Janet, but I hate that name.
31:45Okay. Well, I'm short for Andrew, so only my mum calls me Andrew.
31:50I absolutely hate the name Janet.
31:52You do? Okay. I'll try not to call you Janet then, Jan.
31:58I wear hearing aids. I can turn you off if I want, so be careful.
32:02Well, I hope that doesn't happen.
32:07So what kind of cultural things do you like to do?
32:09They're obviously theatre a lot. Yeah, yeah.
32:11But I play saxophone, so I play in a jazz band.
32:13Does that mean that you like jazz then? I do, yes.
32:16Yeah. I love blue notes from that period.
32:20Yeah, I absolutely love that. They love it.
32:22Yeah, obviously they've matched us because we've got a lot in common
32:25in terms of academic background. Yeah.
32:26That sort of thing. Do I feel attracted to you? I think I do.
32:31You don't do flirting, do you? I don't. No, I have no idea.
32:34That's majorly important. Yes, I wouldn't know if someone was flirting with me.
32:39Yeah. No, can you learn it?
32:44I feel like I'm a teenager. I've never done this.
32:46You know, and I'm nearly 70.
32:49You know, I'm starting again at this stage of life.
32:52It's about putting out feelers to sound out another person,
32:59but also to let them know how you feel, that you are interested in them.
33:04And it's not just, you know, two friends meeting for lunch or something like that.
33:08So it's also showing the other person that you're interested in them.
33:13We had a lot in common, but that's as far as it went.
33:18I can play you visual commons. I like your hair, all that sort of thing.
33:22And if that's all true, I do feel that.
33:24Do you like my hair? Yes, I do like your hair.
33:29We seem to be on different parts of our dating journey.
33:32I like something that's a lot more flirty and sexy, and I didn't get any of that.
33:37Do you feel that you're cut off emotionally?
33:40Yes, I think I've lived in a sort of desert for a very long time.
33:43It sounds like it, yeah. I'm not quite sure how to connect properly.
33:46Yeah.
33:50I feel a bit like Paul in Wonderland, you know.
33:54Yeah.
33:54A bit out of my depth, because I've so little experience in it.
33:57Yeah, yeah.
33:59You're trembling on the verge of something new.
34:02Yeah.
34:04Would you like to see Tupper again?
34:08Well, Paul, I think you're a lovely guy. Thank you so much for the Forget Me Nots.
34:12And thank you so much for the poem. I thought the poem was fantastic. You're so talented.
34:17But for me, no, there won't be another date, I'm afraid.
34:21No, I agree. We had a good time. I really enjoyed your company. I think you're very interesting.
34:25And we obviously share a lot in terms of our kind of backgrounds and so on.
34:29But I think we agreed we're not a dating couple.
34:33No.
34:34Thank you so much.
34:37Have a lovely evening.
34:38Thank you. Bye.
34:40I've just been told how to date by the headmistress.
34:43And surely it's not a headmistress job to tell you how to date.
34:47She was very nice, though, and she did it very nicely. I mean, she's a good headmistress, I think.
34:52I hope everything goes well for you.
34:54And for you.
34:55And thank you so much for everything and for paying for the meal.
34:59Thank you, Paul.
35:00Bye.
35:01Bye.
35:13There's a great line in Friends where
35:17Ross says to Phoebe, I think it is.
35:20When you go on a date, just do little bits of crazy.
35:24Don't give him all in one go.
35:25All the crazy at once.
35:26So I started playing football.
35:28You play football?
35:30I know. It's insane.
35:32Well, I wasn't expecting that.
35:33I know.
35:34I go to Spain to play in tournaments.
35:37What a little bit of crazy do I do?
35:39I play in a samba band.
35:41Brilliant. What instrument?
35:42I play a timbre, which is a hand drum.
35:46And the other one, I play the big surdoos, big drums with sticks.
35:50Yes.
35:51Oh, wow.
35:52So how did you get into that?
35:53I'm absolutely useless at anything else, really.
35:55I can't.
35:56It's better than sitting at home watching daytime TV.
35:59I like to be looking and seeing and touching.
36:02Yes.
36:02Feeling and smelling things there, you know.
36:05Oh, this is really nice.
36:06I'm so relieved.
36:08Yeah, absolutely.
36:11I love a man that has a special talent.
36:14I did want to actually show you something.
36:15Oh.
36:16I've actually brought it with me.
36:17Go on.
36:18Like this here.
36:19So, um, this is Diablo.
36:22Has this ever helped you pull?
36:24Um, so I don't think it's helped me, no.
36:26Keeping you.
36:27Keeping you.
36:32How do you know when you're in love?
36:34How do you know?
36:35Yeah, how do you know when you're in love?
36:41Asking for a friend.
36:43Oh.
36:43Of course.
36:44In the way that, the way that I've been dating in the past, like, two years,
36:48I've loved a lot of things about a lot of people.
36:50I don't think I've been in love.
36:52Hmm.
36:54My mum, she's the, the role model for love that I have.
36:58She's truly taught me, like, the meaning of unconditional love.
37:01She had two young kids, but, like, she's done so much to help me.
37:07Dating energy comes in waves, right?
37:08Like, sometimes you'll be up for it, sometimes you're swiping,
37:11sometimes you're like, I hate this.
37:12And now, I'm looking for a husband.
37:18I have not introduced anybody to my mum because nobody has been marriage potential.
37:26What I actually want is, like, a lifelong partnership based off of love and commitment
37:32and connection and family and all that good stuff.
37:35That's what's important to me.
37:37So, have you been dating a lot recently?
37:42Um...
37:43Please.
37:44No, I'm just trying to think, like, is it the...
37:47Oh, sorry, I was talking to the...
37:48The thing, it wouldn't stay on my fork.
37:50Oh, you talk to your food now? Good Lord.
37:52I talk to everything.
37:55Please, tell me the answer. Go.
37:58Do you talk to yourself when you're alone?
38:02I talk to myself, like, non-stop.
38:04Do you have a voice in your head?
38:06Not do you hear voices.
38:07Do you have a voice in your head?
38:08Where are we?
38:12See, that's when you talk to your potato.
38:14That's a good time to have a word with it.
38:17Do I have voices in my head? No.
38:19You don't.
38:21No, you don't.
38:22I'm mad.
38:23Yeah, see, I only found out, like, two years ago,
38:25that not everybody has a voice in their head.
38:30And it seems like you just found out now that people do.
38:44How is it going?
38:45It's going pretty good.
38:46Right.
38:47You know what you remind me of?
38:49You've seen this series on TV called One Day,
39:20and there is this...
39:21You've been married, or...?
39:22Married twice.
39:23OK.
39:23Like you, married very young, lasted 13 years.
39:28OK.
39:28But the second time, it was short, short to speak, really.
39:32OK.
39:32Silly, really.
39:33I was pregnant, I was pregnant, so we got married.
39:36Getting divorced was probably the best thing for me,
39:39because it gave me the impetus to do all sorts of amazing things.
39:44The whole experience was, at the time, painful, but ended up being the right thing.
39:50I made the decision, really, to concentrate on a career and the children.
39:55So I took a one-year-old and a seven-year-old and relocated to America, because I had that
40:02opportunity.
40:03What was your job?
40:04Sales research, really. It was a complicated business.
40:07I lived in America for 25-plus years and brought up two boys, so...
40:13Well done.
40:13It was wonderful, actually.
40:16I've never seen myself as a brave person.
40:19I think you just take some risks.
40:22Just having a great time, I'm sure.
40:25Yeah, they did, they did.
40:26If it makes you nervous, it's worth doing.
40:30Hello there.
40:31We have a sirloin steak for you, Alan.
40:35See you very soon.
40:36Thank you very much.
40:36That looks lovely.
40:38Enjoy.
40:39So how old are your boys now, then?
40:41One is in his early 30s, one is in his late 20s.
40:47Now both of them are happily married, have their own homes and are settled.
40:53And now you think, well, actually, I don't need to be a mum anymore because they're fine.
40:59Now I have to plan the next bit of my life.
41:03I am fine on my own for long periods of time.
41:07It doesn't bother me.
41:09No.
41:09But the one time I have felt really lonely is when you go to, like, a family function.
41:16On your own.
41:17And everybody's, and you're fine when you're there.
41:20But then at the end, everybody leaves in their couples and gets in their car and you think,
41:27I'm on my own again.
41:37Tell me, do you know what your attachment style is?
41:43Anxious, secure or avoidant?
41:45I don't know.
41:47If you have an anxious attachment style, you might be looking for more communication in relation to,
41:52like, figuring out what a relationship is.
41:55And if you have an avoidant style, you run away from conflict.
42:00Yeah, I don't know, I haven't really looked into that.
42:05I feel like I could learn a lot.
42:08Do you want to see each other again?
42:12Do you want to go first, shall I?
42:14If you want.
42:17I'd be very happy to see you again.
42:22I, I, I don't think romantically.
42:27However, as a person, as a friend, as a, as a, someone who values a lot of things, I believe
42:35in us.
42:36I just don't think there was that kind of connection with us.
42:39So, have we decided what we'd like to do about the bill?
42:42She has all of it.
42:43No, I'm joking.
42:43I'll take it.
42:44Great.
42:44So, all for you.
42:45Are you sure?
42:46Yeah, ma'am.
42:47I think he was probably, do you want to say too intelligent for me?
42:51I felt like I learned a lot in space, so that we were there.
42:54Oh, no way.
42:56I was just a bit like, what?
42:58Up to you.
42:59Ah.
43:00But, come down to a disco any time.
43:03Free engine.
43:05It was nice meeting you.
43:06Yeah, I had a lovely time.
43:08Yeah, I'd love to hear you DJ sometime.
43:10Yeah, I know.
43:10Fine.
43:11Yeah.
43:11All right.
43:12I'm this way.
43:15See you later.
43:16Take care.
43:16Bye.
43:22These are really good martinis.
43:24I have to say now.
43:25Live dangerously, Jo.
43:27Live dangerously.
43:29That is a guest table.
43:31Look at them.
43:32And if it's not, I owe you tenner.
43:34I believe you.
43:35I don't need the tenner.
43:36I'm with you.
43:37I've been away for three weeks.
43:39Where were you?
43:40Marley.
43:41I actually did New Zealand, and also Cook Island.
43:45Ooh.
43:46Which was lovely, but it was a bit weird, because it's a very romantic place, and I had this
44:22lovely room.
44:25Oh, I've got a motor, I have a motorbike.
44:27I had a Kawasaki at one point.
44:30I'm happily set on the back, but not actually doing the driving.
44:33Okay, well, you can...
44:34I'm too dangerous doing the driving.
44:36I've got space for a pillion.
44:39Would you like to see each other again?
44:42You first?
44:43No, you could go first.
44:45Go on.
44:46Yes.
44:47Oh, absolutely yes.
44:49Yes.
44:53No, no, no, can we do...
44:55Do you want to do 50-50?
44:56Because I have my cards.
44:57Do you want to be short or a long answer?
44:59I'm happy to do half of that.
45:00No, thank you.
45:02When we first started talking, it was easy.
45:05It was good.
45:06Yeah.
45:06Yeah, I just remember it as being smooth.
45:09From the beginning, I loved it.
45:11Thank you very much.
45:13Have a good evening.
45:14That was lovely.
45:15Great, you're welcome.
45:16Yeah, some of the things we want to do...
45:18It's almost identical.
45:19It would be lovely to do it with somebody else instead of doing it solo.
45:23I'm smiling.
45:25Would you like to go for a drink now?
45:27I would love to go for a drink now.
45:29And then we'll talk about another day later.
45:31Absolutely.
45:38You'll find a karaoke bar.
45:39What's your song?
45:40Any Elvis song.
45:41Elvis is...
45:42I haven't told you about that yet.
45:46And when you realise that I do, I do love you.
45:53I want to take you dancing in the dress, yes.
45:58Are you happy to do the ride?
46:00I am.
46:01OK.
46:02Well, what's a bonus?
46:04But I want to see you drive your bike fast.
46:07Yeah, OK, OK, OK.
46:07Once you're in love.
46:09I think that I'm alive.
46:11I do love you.
46:13I do love you.
46:33I do love you.
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