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00:04I'm nervous. I'm going to take it one step at a time. I'm absolutely petrified.
00:11Twelve virgins are travelling to a unique island retreat that could change their lives forever.
00:18This has made me the strangest day of my life.
00:21Being a virgin at the age of 22 feels very lonely. I've just sort of given up all hope.
00:28In a world saturated with sex, more young adults than ever are caught in an intimacy epidemic.
00:35The thought of having sex with someone scares me. It gives me the ick.
00:39I don't feel confident. I'm missing out. Terrified of the thought of it.
00:42Nerve-racking. Gut-wrenching. Embarrassing.
00:45All I think about is what I'm going to get wrong.
00:48Can you point to the outer labia? Nope.
00:55Now, they're getting a crash course in intimacy.
00:59Social media, porn, dating apps. There are so many negative messages and we can help them blossom.
01:06Use it by stimulating the area.
01:08Guided by a team of experts. You see yourself as...
01:12Propulsive.
01:13They'll confront their insecurities.
01:15I'm hiding. How upset actually do you feel?
01:18Exploring intimacy.
01:21In every form.
01:23Yes. Yes. Good.
01:26And maybe...
01:27Do you want to put a condom on?
01:29Have sex with a trained therapist.
01:32Desperate times call for desperate measures.
01:35Or even one another.
01:37Why are you nervous around me? I don't know.
01:39It's so good.
01:41I really do need to change my life.
01:43The question is...
01:45Get a room, guys!
01:46Who will finally be ready...
01:49Just, like, get a bit anxious.
01:51...to go all the way...
01:53Touching the hookah.
01:54Mm-hmm.
01:54...on Virgin Island.
02:05It is such a beautiful day to show up on the island.
02:08It's perfect.
02:09For the next three weeks...
02:10Hi!
02:12Hi!
02:13Hi!
02:13This groundbreaking retreat will be home to 12 young people.
02:17Would you like a hug?
02:18Yeah, go on then.
02:19Yeah.
02:20From all over the UK...
02:22Hello!
02:23You most beauty girls.
02:24Yes.
02:25..who need help.
02:26Well, I didn't fall in the sea,
02:27so I've done better than I thought I was going to do.
02:29LAUGHTER
02:31I've never kissed anyone.
02:32I've never dated anyone.
02:33I've never had sex with anyone.
02:34I am a grade A virgin.
02:37My life just can't go on like this.
02:39I just need to take your phone.
02:40Yes, of course.
02:42The retreat's rules include a full break from the pressures of technology.
02:46So you can just, like, dive in.
02:48Yeah, yeah, yeah.
02:50You see sex everywhere.
02:51Sex sells is the old cliché, be it from social media, porn.
02:56But always playing on my mind is that I can't get an erection.
02:59Being a virgin at the age of 28, I feel almost a failure in many ways.
03:07The group will live on the island for three weeks.
03:10Oh, this is your recommendation.
03:13Totally cut off from the distractions of modern life.
03:16Go ahead and get settled.
03:17OK, there's clothes there.
03:20Including the pressures of their appearance.
03:22Oh, wow.
03:24They're giving off jungle vibes.
03:25I've always hated my body and I've got badly bullied over it in the past.
03:31I'm terrified to be naked in front of someone.
03:35It does make me cry when I think about it.
03:38Yeah, it makes me really upset.
03:46Before the course begins, the group have a chance to get to know each other at the Hangout.
03:50Hello.
03:53Callum.
03:54I'm Katie.
03:55Hi.
03:55Nice to meet you.
03:56Where are you from?
03:58Er, Blackpool.
03:59From Peterborough.
04:00Peterborough?
04:01Yeah.
04:02Shit hole.
04:05I literally don't do anything other than sit on my computer 24-7.
04:10I'm definitely addicted to gaming.
04:13I don't really interact with any girls.
04:16It makes me feel...alone.
04:19Where are you from?
04:21Oh, sorry.
04:22Born in the UK, but raised in South Africa, but live in the UK.
04:26I instantly don't trust men.
04:29Alex, nice to meet you.
04:31It makes me a bit sad, and I don't really know what to do about it, to be honest.
04:37So, how old are you?
04:38I'm 28.
04:39You're 28.
04:40I'm 23.
04:41I'm 22.
04:4226.
04:43I'm quite robotic with women.
04:46I've had no girlfriends.
04:48It's actually a bit sad, isn't it?
04:50We've got another person.
04:51Hi.
04:52Cool.
04:52Hiya.
04:53With sexual intimacy, I feel a little bit broken.
04:58I can't have sex.
05:00I have a condition called vaginismus.
05:02If somebody tried to touch my vagina, it would be pain, and it would be discomfort, and I'm living life
05:08in fear.
05:09The way that you're seen as a woman who can't physically have sex is like, what's the point?
05:18One of the reasons that people are not having sex is there's just a lot more self-consciousness.
05:22Everybody's being watched all the time, you know, by their parents, by social media, by their friends.
05:27Hello.
05:28So, we're seeing a lot more people just not getting out there and connecting.
05:32There's lots of fear around being canceled, and they're terrified of failing.
05:37But we got amazing results last time, and I have really high hopes for this new group of virgins.
05:44Hi, everyone. I'm Ellen.
05:46Ellen!
05:46Nice to meet you all.
05:48How old are you?
05:50Um, 35.
05:53Wow.
05:53Only just.
05:54I don't want to get to 40 and still be the virgin.
06:00The expectation of, you're married, you've got kids, and at 35, I haven't got those things.
06:05I feel like a freak, really.
06:08And, like, I've, you know, let people down.
06:12Yeah.
06:14So, is anyone else in the LGBTQ plus community?
06:18Obviously.
06:18Yeah, you're not going to be the only gay on the island.
06:21Trust me or not.
06:22I grew up in a very traditional town.
06:25There wasn't a lot of open queer people.
06:28When I knew I was bi, I didn't tell my parents.
06:31I was actually quite scared.
06:33I identify as bisexual, but I'm quite a late bloom.
06:37At school, it was a discussion about masturbation.
06:41I thought it was a game show.
06:43I thought it was mastermind.
06:46Hello.
06:47Hello.
06:48My name's Ed.
06:49What seek?
06:49Do you want to know first?
06:50What's your star sign?
06:53Yes.
06:53That's always a question.
06:56I feel like an outsider a lot of the time.
06:59The big part of that is my disability.
07:01I was born by a right pectoral.
07:03Restricted movement in my wrist and my arm, it has impacted the way I am.
07:08I wouldn't have the confidence to talk to girls.
07:11I find it really hard.
07:14Hey.
07:15You're the last one.
07:16Hi, my name's Will.
07:18I've just turned 30.
07:19I'm a virgin.
07:21Being a virgin, it's not something I'm proud of.
07:24Something I experienced when I was younger is premature ejaculation.
07:27I fear that may still be an issue now.
07:29So I think when I have sex for the first time, it's going to be really quick.
07:34The idea of having sex is a far away dream for me.
07:38Yeah, yeah, yeah.
07:39I've never had a girlfriend, ever.
07:41Same.
07:41Yeah.
07:42One of the nicknames I have is Posh Bertie.
07:46I'm a very well-spoken individual.
07:49I've not told anyone that I'm a virgin, but I think people would guess, yeah, he's a virgin to me.
07:57Definitely feel one step behind everyone.
08:01Yeah.
08:02The group knows the weeks ahead won't be easy, but they have a determination to change their lives.
08:09Breathe into your own body.
08:12This unique course has been created by pioneering sex therapists Celeste and Danielle.
08:19And let it out.
08:22The ethos at the retreat is very supportive.
08:25There's so much for them to learn.
08:28We have new exercises, new experts, and some special surprises.
08:35Supported by a team of sex therapists from across the globe.
08:40Trained in a range of touch-based therapies.
08:43Which finger would you like to enter me with?
08:45They'll address the group's anxieties.
08:48She is terrified of lowering the mask.
08:52And push them to their limits.
08:55Amazing.
08:57Hidden away on the island are dedicated therapy spaces.
09:01And private bedrooms, where they'll begin to explore intimacy.
09:06I'm hoping that everybody gets to find out who they are as a sexual being, regardless of being a virgin.
09:12But it is going to be a huge challenge.
09:16Each phase of the course will challenge the group like never before.
09:26As they take their first steps towards sexual connection.
09:39And it all starts here.
09:42Oh my God.
09:43I'm so nervous.
09:45Yeah.
09:45Oh, welcome.
09:46By confronting one of the biggest barriers to intimacy.
09:54Shame.
09:58Welcome to Virgin Island.
10:00We're so excited to have you here.
10:02This phase is all about shame.
10:06Shame really interrupts pleasure.
10:10And so we are shame warriors.
10:12We want to wipe away the shame that gets in your way.
10:17If I could shake off the shame of being a virgin, I'd feel a lot happier in myself.
10:23I feel judged.
10:25And it's not something that I talk about, really.
10:31First, Celeste and Danielle will perform an intimate demonstration, designed to reveal the group's level of awkwardness and shame.
10:39So, this demo is called Pillow Talk.
10:42Oh my God.
10:44There's a bed.
10:45Oh my gosh.
10:46I'm starting to feel a bit sick.
10:47Yeah.
10:48Terrified.
10:48We want to find out who is comfortable watching intimacy and the different kinds of talk and touch that come
10:55with romance, that come with passion, that come with erotic energy.
11:01Oh my God, your eyes are so beautiful and sexy.
11:07And the way you hold yourself turns me on so much.
11:11I think I'm going to have to smell you.
11:19I feel so lucky to be able to touch you.
11:40Any feelings watching it?
11:47Quite weird having to watch it with other people. It's a bit...
11:50Yeah.
11:51I think I just feel a little bit guilty.
11:53I think the idea of watching this and then being asked to do that, that's sinful.
12:03Growing up as a Christian, you kind of feel you should be one way, which is usually a very good
12:09way.
12:09I have to be kind, I have to be soft, but I have a sexual side to myself.
12:15It kind of brings on these feelings of shame and fear because you feel you're doing something sinful for wanting
12:22to experience pleasure.
12:23And I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel right now.
12:29We all have ideas and judgment and what we think we should be.
12:33And all those interventions frees us up.
12:36The best way to work your way out of shame is to start to get a different reaction to shame.
12:45To help the group do that...
12:47You are going to get your scratch on!
12:50No. I ain't doing that.
12:53Celeste and Danielle start with a series...
12:55I am folding my arms.
12:58This is just so awkward.
13:00..of deliberately uncomfortable exercises.
13:03Now I'm going to be choo-choo trained.
13:06Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha!
13:08Oh, my God. Ha! Ha! Ha!
13:10I see myself as very socially awkward and sometimes weird.
13:18Shake it, shake it, shake it!
13:19I was diagnosed with autism.
13:22I get nervous. I get stressed.
13:24My eye contact goes all over the place.
13:27Being a virgin, you just feel very isolated and you feel very ashamed of yourself.
13:34After the warm-up, Celeste and Danielle raise the stakes with a more challenging physical exercise.
13:41So I want a brave volunteer.
13:45Somatic therapy is not just focusing on the brain, it's helping people in a more physical, experiential way.
13:51I'll do it.
13:52Go on, Alex.
13:55For 28-year-old graduate Alex, going first is a chance to face his fears.
14:01Anxiety has played a massive part in my life.
14:03Going to private school, I put myself under a lot of pressure that if I didn't perform my best, I'd
14:08feel I'd let people down.
14:09I never really knew how bad it was until I tried to have sex and was too nervous to do
14:14it.
14:14Anything less than perfect is not good enough for me.
14:17So I'm going to start by touching you for my pleasure and then you're going to touch me for your
14:23pleasure.
14:24I'm starting by connecting with myself and feeling my body.
14:27Let's see.
14:47Want to try?
14:51Yeah, sure.
15:07Is that okay?
15:08Really feeling it in your body, that's what we're going for.
15:13After Alex's attempt, others step up to give it a try.
15:19You like to do it a bit harder.
15:21Harder?
15:26While some get to grips with the exercise.
15:30How does that feel?
15:31It feels nice.
15:33Others can't even bear to watch.
15:46Are you okay?
15:55Are you okay?
15:57Are you okay?
15:58Yeah, yeah.
16:08Anyone else want to give it a try?
16:13Counting one.
16:16Counting two.
16:18Counting three.
16:20No.
16:23Oh my god.
16:24That was hard.
16:25Personally, that was a little bit creepy.
16:28I need to be able to be confident in myself to do the whole touching exercise.
16:32I believe the cool kids call it riz.
16:34I need to have good riz.
16:36At the start, like when they was doing all the...
16:40All that, yeah.
16:41I thought we'd have to do that to each other.
16:42I was genuinely...
16:43Not today.
16:45That's intense for our first workshop.
16:47To throw yourself in as much as possible to experience all these cringe things and embarrassing things was a struggle.
16:53Joy, if you don't mind me asking, why was it so hard for you?
16:56The whole touching thing, why did you get a bit of a reaction to it?
17:01You don't want to talk?
17:03Yeah, not really.
17:03No worries.
17:04That workshop was such an emotionally intense experience.
17:08To come on the island day one and be expected to have some kind of erotic energy is a really
17:13hard thing for me.
17:14I didn't realise how uncomfortable that might make me feel.
17:19Next time, I would walk out.
17:31It's so beautiful.
17:33Yeah, it is, isn't it?
17:34Oh!
17:35Come here, come here!
17:36Lizzie!
17:37Oh, my God!
17:38I've never seen Elizabeth before.
17:40Eww!
17:41Oh, I don't like it.
17:42Come out at night and nibble you.
17:44I might have to tuck my trousers into my socks in case it crawls up my leg.
17:47Ooh!
17:48Yeah, and he's gone.
17:51It's halfway through day one on Virgin Island.
17:54I don't want to name exact figures, but I think it was like one in eight people were virgins at
17:5825.
17:58So, in a room this big, it's like one and a bit of people.
18:01Well, I think in this room it'd be four thousand.
18:04On an island, on a virgin island.
18:09Every day, the experts gather to evaluate progress and work out which therapies will be most effective.
18:15It's very interesting to see how they reacted to different exercises.
18:20Oh, they've got a one on one session here, guys!
18:23Oh, my God!
18:25Afternoons are dedicated to individual therapy sessions for those working through specific intimacy issues.
18:32I don't know if I feel more calm or more stressed.
18:37Everybody has this fear like, oh my God, it's going to be so scary or uncomfortable.
18:41But you have to completely rewire your brain in order for change to really happen.
18:47Hi there.
18:47Hi.
18:49How do you feel?
18:51Kind of on edge, I guess.
18:52Mm-hmm.
18:53The more you can be honest and drop into your truth without too much humor.
18:57Yeah, I can't promise you that.
18:58That is going to allow us to go somewhere.
19:00Yeah.
19:00Oh, I don't like this.
19:02I don't like crying.
19:03I feel like I just can't relax.
19:05I'm still really scared.
19:06I'm not sure why.
19:10Out of all the reactions from this morning, the experts were most struck by joys.
19:16When Will and Marianne were touching, I could see her, some tears came out.
19:23She really struggled with that.
19:28Some came up for you today in the workshop.
19:31Well, I feel like I have this weight on my shoulders of like, I'm a Christian.
19:34You have to be good.
19:35Yeah.
19:35And experiencing sexual pleasure for, like, for fun.
19:39Mm-hmm.
19:39How is that good?
19:40Yeah.
19:41But it isn't just feelings of religious shame that are holding joy back.
19:46I know I have a sexual side to me.
19:48Mm-hmm.
19:48But I have vaginismus.
19:51Vaginismus is a condition related to your pelvic floor and also has a psychological fear
19:58component around the idea of insertion or entry.
20:01The moment I realised that I had vaginismus, it was like this whole idea of a sector of my
20:06life that could be just closed up.
20:08I can't wear a tampon, I can't do a pap smear, and I definitely can't have sex.
20:13It's just, it's so hard.
20:16At one point, like, I literally thought that God cursed me with vaginismus.
20:20I thought he, like, I thought he did it to me to stop me from having sex.
20:24And I feel like it's hard to, like, undo that, that feeling.
20:30Maybe that first piece is about pleasure being good.
20:39I'm really tight. I'm really, like, anxious. I feel like I'm like, no it's not, no it's not, no it's
20:44not.
20:45And that clench happens probably all the way into your vagina.
20:50So, I want you to feel all of the tightness and the clenchedness.
20:54And then you can feel the, the contrast.
20:57Let's feel the clench.
20:59And then...
21:08Like a little shakiness happened in your, did you feel it?
21:12Yeah.
21:13You know what that is?
21:14What?
21:15It's like a little tiny release of trauma.
21:17Oh, wow.
21:18From all the holding.
21:21You deserve to have that circuit of pleasure.
21:30Shame gets in the way of sexual intimacy.
21:33And you cannot get to the other side of shame until you expose it.
21:37I feel a bit, like, in shock. It was, it was quite intense.
21:41I just hadn't even realised all the tension I'd been holding in my body.
21:44It just made me realise, like, how much I need this experience.
21:51For a gold star lesbian, my mind's constantly in the gutter.
21:55What's a gold star lesbian?
21:56Gold star lesbian is someone who has never had sex with a man.
21:59Ah, OK.
22:00The thought of a penis going near me scares me in a way that's like,
22:04ew, get away.
22:04Yeah.
22:05Nothing to do with you guys.
22:06No, no.
22:06I get that.
22:07I'm like, anything below their tummy, I'm like, no.
22:10I mean, you probably all have amazing penises, I'm not saying.
22:14Oh, my God.
22:15It doesn't matter because I come so quick, don't matter.
22:22As the group starts to bond...
22:24Oh, this is really, like, giving hippie vibes, isn't it?
22:27Celeste and Danielle aim to push them further in the next exercise.
22:31Hello.
22:33To help release their shame once and for all.
22:38All right, well, as we said, this part of the course is all about shame.
22:42What we want you to do is write in your notebooks
22:45all the negative things people say about you
22:48and all the self-critical thoughts you keep repeating to yourself.
22:52We really need to get them out
22:54so that we can take the power away from them.
23:00OK, be careful.
23:02The group have been sent off in pairs to share their shame words.
23:06It's difficult.
23:07Yeah, I'm not exactly an open book.
23:10People see me as fat, ugly.
23:14And as they identify their insecurities...
23:17I don't like how I'm not at all that good socially.
23:21It's why I've never been on a date before, really.
23:25Yeah.
23:25..their barriers come down.
23:27Ugly.
23:28Unattractive to girls.
23:31Have been able to get a date in years.
23:33My anxiety, particularly around intimacy and interacting with women.
23:38I worry that I'm just not good enough.
23:44But 23-year-old Katie...
23:46Bad things people are saying about me.
23:49..is right in more than most.
23:51I was once labelled the ugliest girl in school.
23:54Oh, my God.
23:55Um...
23:56A whale.
23:57Fat slash obese.
23:58Ugly.
23:59A liar.
24:00Monster disappointment.
24:02And frigid, because I've never gone with anyone before.
24:06Yeah.
24:08OK.
24:10I know how it feels to have something horrible said to me.
24:14Sometimes I look in the mirror to make myself upset,
24:17because I need a good cry, and it works.
24:20I don't think there's ever been a time where I truly have felt good
24:26in my looks.
24:27Ever.
24:28Oh, no.
24:29Are those things people have actually said about you?
24:32To my face or online, where I've seen.
24:34Online?
24:35Yeah.
24:35People that I know in person.
24:37Oh, my God.
24:38In my life.
24:38Yeah.
24:39I've commented publicly.
24:42Yeah.
24:42Oh, my gosh.
24:43I'm so sorry.
24:53Figuring out the words, though, is only half the exercise.
24:58How did you find that?
25:00It was quite challenging.
25:01I was going to say the same.
25:02Yeah.
25:02It was quite hard.
25:03So, Joy, this one's for you.
25:06Now the experts want them to write their words down on a T-shirt
25:09to confront and let go of their self-doubt.
25:13I'm going to invite you to narrow down from all the things
25:16that you've written, which ones hold the most emotion,
25:20so that you can create a T-shirt that's a symbol of all of that.
25:24Mm-hm.
25:27I'm scared that I'm going to get upset.
25:30Thinking back about all the memories and stuff from school
25:32and all the bad things that I got told,
25:35and I say to myself, it's quite difficult.
25:41But I really do want to be able to get as much out of this
25:44as I can.
25:46It's scary, though.
26:03Good morning.
26:04Good morning.
26:05Good morning.
26:06Hey, you guys.
26:07How are we going?
26:07Good morning.
26:09Ooh.
26:09We've got raisins.
26:11Don't tell me you're eating a lemon.
26:12I like lemon.
26:13Oh!
26:15It's the morning on Virgin Island.
26:19I'm really nervous today.
26:20And the sessions are set to become even more revealing.
26:23As we go through this phase,
26:26I do feel quite a big shame over myself,
26:29so I'm a little bit apprehensive.
26:32I was so nervous at first workshop.
26:33My heart was going.
26:34I didn't realise how nervous I was.
26:36Sex and intimacy are meant to be natural
26:38and experienced by lots of people and enjoyed,
26:40whereas me, I sort of feel scared of them.
26:42Let's go.
26:44I have no idea how far I'm going to go with this.
26:47You know, it's only going to get more intense from here.
26:53Having faced many hard truths...
26:55Hello!
26:57..Celeste and Danielle's next exercise
27:00will challenge the group even further.
27:02Oh, dear, was this bad?
27:04Oh, God.
27:06..with some exposure therapy, Virgin Island style.
27:10Society gives these negative messages to us
27:13about what it means to be a sexual being,
27:15so it's really important to get comfortable with intimacy.
27:21Today, you're going to be exploring erotic life drawing.
27:27We're going to invite our lovely models.
27:30There they are.
27:31Here they are.
27:33The only time that I've seen vagina or boobs
27:36is off, like, Sticky Vicky when I went to Benidorm.
27:39That is probably the only time
27:40I've ever really seen it in real life.
27:42I have seen some images online,
27:45and I'm like,
27:47oh, actually, penises are a bit ugly.
27:50I know the different parts
27:51and the names of the female anatomy,
27:54but, do you know,
27:55I genuinely don't think I've seen one in person.
27:59I'm the most white meat virgin you could possibly meet.
28:04Don't hide.
28:05Keep your eyes open and be curious.
28:24Oh, my God.
28:25So many naked parts right now.
28:28So I don't want you to worry
28:29about showing off your artistic talent.
28:31It's really about looking at a naked body
28:34and letting yourself feel the sensuality of that.
28:37Oh, my gosh.
28:38Oh, my gosh.
28:41Just roll.
28:44It's gonna lie to start this.
28:46Neither do I.
28:46Oh, we got this.
28:48We're expecting to see some discomfort,
28:52embarrassment,
28:53to be exposed to naked bodies.
28:56We can really see the comfort level.
29:01Stop making me laugh, Jason.
29:04Embarrassing.
29:08I can't tell you what's wrong.
29:12All I can see is vaginas and boobs.
29:17Whilst the sight of naked bodies
29:19has everyone giggling awkwardly...
29:21I really feel uncomfortable.
29:24..Ellen is struggling the most.
29:30Growing up, my parents would never talk about sex.
29:34And at the time, there wasn't the internet as there is now.
29:37I'm in my 30s.
29:39If I am gay, then I've not had a relationship
29:42and I've not had experience around sexual intimacy.
29:46Sex, it's something that I feel anxious about.
29:51I don't want to do it.
29:55No-one is seeing mine because it is absolutely terrible.
29:59You don't have to show me if you don't want to.
30:01One-second sneak peek.
30:03Can I have a two-second sneak peek?
30:05No.
30:06So we really want to thank our beautiful models here.
30:13Any thoughts that you want to share?
30:19I was instantly like,
30:21oh my gosh, oh my gosh, I shouldn't be watching this.
30:22I felt the discomfort of that.
30:24Yeah.
30:30It felt like you were literally watching like a group porno.
30:32I was like, oh, I want to look, but I was like, oh, it feels wrong to look.
30:36Yeah.
30:37Nudity felt a bit too soon for me.
30:41Despite being the oldest of the group.
30:43When you kiss someone, do you do it with your eyes open or your eyes closed?
30:47Please don't be that person.
30:50Ellen's lack of experience is clear to everyone.
30:55She was having a hard time to look at you.
30:57Yeah.
30:58I'm excited to have a session with her to introduce her to the first steps of intimacy.
31:04With a storm approaching, Ellen's feeling a little blustered.
31:09Hello.
31:10It's windy.
31:16Ellen.
31:18You have a sexy smile.
31:20Okay.
31:23Lou had a tiny, tiny little exchange of erotic energy.
31:28Yeah.
31:28Yeah.
31:28Okay.
31:29Did you feel it?
31:32No, but I guess I don't know what that feeling is because I've not experienced it before.
31:37Yeah.
31:44You know what I love?
31:47Awkward silences where you just look at each other.
31:49Okay.
31:49Yeah.
31:56A lot of times that's what happens right before a kiss.
32:00Yeah.
32:03But I don't...
32:04I don't want that to happen to you.
32:06No, we're not doing that today.
32:07We're just talking in a flirtatious way.
32:12What do you think?
32:13I'm thinking I'm fine as long as you're on that chair and I'm on this chair.
32:17I'm staying over here.
32:18Don't worry.
32:24Don't worry.
32:25Bye.
32:28How was that, Ellen?
32:30In my head I was like, okay, I'm going to jump in.
32:32And then when I got in there I was like, all of a sudden just like my body closed up.
32:38I don't like the idea of someone coming into my personal space.
32:43That's why I'm here.
32:44Like I've never been very good at it.
32:46And I feel like a failure.
32:50Yeah.
32:56I was like, oh, I'm going to go in.
33:00I don't know.
33:00I'm going to go in.
33:09I'm going to go in.
33:19last night no that's what happened in the dream cake though katie was dreaming of alex for him
33:32yesterday's workshop was a nightmare i demoed with him yesterday i felt he was really frozen
33:41he can be a little in his head so i'm curious if we're going through exercises if he's just
33:46going to perform them rather than like actually experiencing sensation and emotions yeah what
33:54did it feel like when you like touched her panicky i i don't know how calm it looked
33:59or how i looked but yeah my heart was going i was shaking a bit
34:05so danielle's decided to dig deeper hello come on in into what's holding him back
34:12i feel your heart beating all the way to here sex for me has always been quite a nervous thing
34:19i've always had anxiety i've always had performance anxiety sports homework whatever and so the first
34:24time i tried to have sex i couldn't get an erection because i was just too nervous
34:28not being able to get an erection it's constantly playing on my mind it feels embarrassing even to
34:34say because it's like oh this is something that old people deal with but i i just feel like defeated
34:39by
34:40it you spend a lot of time trying to control your body from your head i want to invite you
34:46to start
34:46to let your body control as opposed to the opposite yeah so what i want us to do now is
34:51for you to touch
34:52me and really let yourself enjoy and do what feels good yeah what feels good to you this time danielle
35:00wants to see if alex can fully immerse himself in his sensations are you okay for me to start yes
35:06please
35:08okay i'm going to start with your arm
35:28then move me down to your chest
35:36and then move me down to your chest
35:46penny for your thoughts
35:51the main overriding thing is still that worry of not getting an erection but this is like the building
35:57blocks so i really want us to have soft goals as opposed to hard goals no pan intended yeah
36:04right because your full body is like a big erection you know like your full body is
36:11a pleasure tool it's not only your cock that's a pleasure tool
36:16to get it yeah absolutely yeah what did you do just your mutual touching really
36:29but i think i went into it thinking oh yeah she'll cure me and i won't feel anxious ever again
36:33around
36:34women but you're not going to get cured on the first session yeah
36:41oh are you doing it you do it like that
36:44really i thought it was like that whilst the others start to embrace island life
36:50bertie is finding it harder to adjust
36:53okay okay i'm a mixture of all nerves i don't like you sitting by yourself i'm i'm okay
36:58i do feel like the weak link and the odd one out because i'm not very sociable
37:03i'm still cautious i'm still nervous okay but i'm good you're right yeah it's gonna go brush me gums and
37:10do we're done but what on earth am i going to be like in the days to come when it
37:16gets more challenging
37:17and more intense this whole island is it's it's not just virgin island it's unpredictability island
37:36you know what most women say is the length they want to have sex for
37:42four and a half minutes four and a half yeah no they want to have no sure yeah yeah they
37:49want sex
37:50the actual p and v to be four and a half minutes really what's pmv penis and vagina
37:56oh that's good it's mid-afternoon on virgin island how are you all right i don't know when
38:09everyone's all together it just gets a bit awkward for me you know i like my oh my god nearly
38:12fell off
38:13i like my uh my space a bit more just gonna just take it easy for a bit okay i'll
38:18see you soon no
38:19worries in terms of sex i've got no clue which is pretty embarrassing coming from
38:26someone who's 24 years old but i don't want to be alone in my whole life i just want to
38:32be able to
38:33live normally and just find more confidence in in myself hi celeste aims to start bertie's route to
38:44intimacy by helping him with connection hello oh hello
38:53how do you feel about eye contact aha i knew that was going to come out i am terrible at
38:57it yeah my
38:58eye contact goes all over the place um no matter who i'm talking to well i do feel like you
39:03you think
39:04a lot i am an overthinker so i want to slow it down a little bit like let your brain
39:09relax a moment and then
39:10see what it's like to come back more deliberately and connect and look at me
39:24this is a bit awkward isn't it intimacy is super awkward i know that's not going to go away
39:28yeah so let's just be awkward together
39:42it's hard to take it seriously it is and you don't have to take it so seriously you can think
39:47we're just having fun together yeah yeah you've got some good sexy eye contact you might not know it
40:03and now you're looking at me so much more i feel connected to you
40:09after bertie perfects the sexy eyes great so if you want to scooch over a little bit
40:15celeste decides to increase the intimacy
40:20what if i like came in right there for a second
40:25i mean that was a bit weird but okay yeah
40:32oh that's so nice you just perfectly like invited me and cuddled me wow
40:43i really like it when you kind of rest your cheek against my forehead yeah you're very natural
40:50feels natural feels natural exactly feels good
40:56it's not long before celeste's technique boosts bertie's confidence
41:03i'll see them giving you a little kiss on the floor i felt that i love that
41:07what about can i go on yeah
41:14have i got a lipstick now you're having kids excellent you're having very good
41:18thank you very much love you bye okay bye
41:26so celeste was she was brilliant and this has happened and i feel a lot more relieved and a lot
41:35more at ease with everything that was a bit of a confidence boost for me hi bertie hello
41:41you okay you want to know how it went what do you think let's go
41:49betty's not going to wash his cheek
41:58as the sun sets on the retreat the first phase of the course draws to a close
42:05the first phase of the course has been really intense getting rid of shame is foundational to
42:11being able to have a pleasurable sex life but the way that they have taken it on
42:16it's unprecedented they all have challenges they all have traumas but every individual is beautiful
42:22and unique and the sky's the limit in terms of what's possible here to move forward the group
42:29must let go of their negative emotions oh my god that's a fire hello hello hello so the experts have
42:38arranged a ceremonial bonfire to burn away their lifetime of shame
42:45we've asked you to face your shame directly you have talked about it put it on your t-shirts
42:52and now it's time to let it go the hope is this ritual marks a turning point
42:58and the start of the rest of their lives so for me shame is feeling ugly um
43:08sorry um yeah i felt ugly like most of my life and i feel ashamed of myself for you know
43:19putting on
43:20weight so brave are you ready to let it go yeah it's going in the fire yes
43:34physical appearance is a common theme i look at everyone else around me and i think they're far
43:39more attractive never getting matched than dating apps and it's it makes me feel really crap about
43:44myself fat and ugly unlovable and i take up too much room quite literally i actually got voted ugliest
43:52girl in the whole school oh my god and depending on the people i could be too loud or too
43:56quiet with so
44:06ng is not good enough i always feel like i'm falling short of a lot of things
44:11deep-rooted issues around self-worth are also shared across the group
44:16i feel as though like i might perceived as childish and that i'm a bit unambitious i've been told i'm
44:24too loud it's good just i'm too much for some people and then that kind of leads on to the
44:29second point
44:29which is that i'm unlikeable and unlovable i've not had an adult relationship at all i feel terribly
44:38and want it i seriously do are you ready to let it go yeah
45:03i think i've been like carrying with me some feelings about myself since i was about 12
45:0912. and i think having these horrible thoughts that i'm a horrible person and that people don't
45:18like me and that i'm really dirty and sinful
45:30writing it down on the t-shirt was one thing but to
45:34actually speak it out was liberating yeah i found it really difficult to throw my top in the fire
45:42i'm just hoping i can become more at one with myself shame is something that i specifically
45:48struggle with a lot i feel a lot lighter all my worst things i think about myself are finally like
45:54out there and i burned them next time your dick is connected to my pussy
46:04it's the turn-on phase where the group discover their animal instincts there's another animal next
46:10to you oh no emotions are laid bare quite sad that i'm still stuck with that feeling
46:20and for some things are on the up felt really nice when you're brushing past my genitals would you like
46:25for me to do that for me to do that yeah
46:27yeah
46:28yeah
46:29yeah
46:31yeah
46:31yeah
46:39yeah
46:41yeah
46:41yeah
46:42yeah
46:43yeah
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