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Married at First Sight Australia - Season 13 - Episode 29
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00:00:01Do you see me as the mother-father of your children? Yes, I do see you as a
00:00:04father of my children. After seven weeks of marriage, Feedback Week brought some
00:00:10couples closer together. Only the best for my wife. Thank you for setting tasks that
00:00:16really understand Stephen and I and what we needed. But for others... Sure, I'll take
00:00:22that on board. Even now, I feel like you're getting defensive. I'm not getting defensive
00:00:25having a conversation. Tensions were at an all-time high. I'm not doing it. No
00:00:31thanks. It was just... As Scott avoided any critical feedback, opting to keep the
00:00:40peace in his marriage. I knew if I went too deep, I'd be over the balcony. You're
00:00:47absolutely pissing me off. Danny struggled to give Beck a straight answer. Do you
00:00:52think you will fall in love with me and why? At the dinner party, after weeks of
00:00:59being caught in the crossfire, Alyssa tried to put a full stop to the feud
00:01:05between Gia and Beck. Stop using me! Stop using me as a pawn. And Beck and Danny
00:01:12spiralled. I want you to be wary about what you text people. Two months ago, Daniel.
00:01:17Okay, that was ten years ago. I want out now. I'm wasting my time at a dinner party talking
00:01:23about abusive text messages. I'm here for a wife and a relationship. I'm not here for
00:01:27drama. Do not sit there in front of everyone and not show solidarity to me. Just pretend
00:01:32for two minutes. Tonight, it's the second last commitment ceremony. You ask the question
00:01:41of like, alright, if we go outside the experiment, how quick would you expect, like, a proposal?
00:01:46I say the sooner the better. Wow. And some are already locking in plans for married life
00:01:52outside of the experiment. The man is leaving and he is actually starting to show me what
00:01:57my life here in Sydney could look like. And then... So last week you said that the noise from
00:02:03the group and around Gia doesn't affect your relationship. Do you still believe that?
00:02:10Will Scott speak up and confess how he feels in front of Gia? I will admit, like...
00:02:20The question, what was it? Like, it was a bit... Could you see yourself falling in love with me?
00:02:24Why is Danny dodging the question?
00:02:29Um...
00:02:30Cool.
00:02:34In one of the most confronting couch sessions ever seen.
00:02:38It's a pretty black and white question.
00:02:44Before the blind side...
00:02:49That will leave the room speechless.
00:02:52I just can't believe it.
00:03:08It's the morning of the second-last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:03:13And despite a tense ending to last night's dinner party,
00:03:17one couple continued to shine bright.
00:03:22Good morning.
00:03:24Good morning.
00:03:26Good morning.
00:03:27Good morning.
00:03:27Hopefully you don't burn the roof of your mouth.
00:03:29No, she'll be fine.
00:03:30You know?
00:03:31Last night for Stella and I, yeah, it was great.
00:03:34We were just sitting there, united, chilling out, smooching whilst the drama's happening.
00:03:39We tend to do that when people are kicking off, we're just kissing each other.
00:03:43And then, yeah, we're staying out of it for the most part.
00:03:45I think we are out of the trenches with the drama.
00:03:49I doubt it, but I'm very, very hopeful.
00:03:52I'm very hopeful.
00:03:52Some people cannot help themselves.
00:03:54I see the blokes like Danny and Scott, and they're just ready to not talk about high school shit.
00:04:02Like, Scott is not his usual self.
00:04:05He was just...
00:04:06His light was dimmed.
00:04:08He was just not there.
00:04:09He's dimmed.
00:04:09Yeah, he's dimmed at the moment.
00:04:11He's just not there.
00:04:12Danny as well, definitely.
00:04:13Yeah.
00:04:14I always look at him and he's just so withdrawn and just...
00:04:16They dissociate.
00:04:17They just dissociate and they just go to another realm.
00:04:20They just leave the place.
00:04:21They're just like this.
00:04:22Yeah.
00:04:25I just wish that people like Becca and Gia can stop saying sorry and just don't do it from now
00:04:32on.
00:04:33Don't be sorry and go, I take accountability and just don't do it.
00:04:37How about we try that and then we don't have to keep talking about this BS.
00:04:46While our couples are putting on the final touches for tonight's commitment ceremony,
00:04:52one participant who is not looking forward to seeing the experts is Gia.
00:04:57Last one, I walked out.
00:05:00I don't like commitment ceremonies one bit because I hate being vulnerable and talking
00:05:04about my feelings and commitment ceremonies don't go great for me all the time.
00:05:09Last week, I feel like I was getting in so much trouble for the screenshots.
00:05:12They didn't at all question back.
00:05:15It was just me for sending them.
00:05:16I just felt like I was just attacked and it was unfair last week.
00:05:19It's not fair that I'm always taking the heat for that sort of stuff.
00:05:23I admit I was wrong for sending them,
00:05:25but I'm not the one who said the vulgar things in those screenshots back was.
00:05:29I think it's just going to be more of a rehash of like what you're saying.
00:05:32Feedback week.
00:05:33Feedback week.
00:05:33Also, why'd you walk out?
00:05:34Which it'll just be a discussion of that.
00:05:37Yeah.
00:05:38I adore and I really am falling for Gia, but like this whole experiment has been very
00:05:45tough in regards to the drama side of things.
00:05:47There was so many days where there was just so much heat and heaviness.
00:05:52Tonight, like I'm nervous seeing the experts because this is something that I find a problem
00:05:57and I'm going to address it.
00:05:59I'm not looking forward to how she's going to feel about it, but I can only be honest.
00:06:09One couple that everyone will have their eyes on tonight is Beck and Danny,
00:06:13who had a tense argument at the end of last night's dinner party.
00:06:18Don't sit here and say, I want us to have a good relationship,
00:06:23but we don't because of drama at dinner parties.
00:06:26I just want you to be wary about what you say.
00:06:30I'm very wary.
00:06:31I want you to be wary about what you text people.
00:06:35I'm done.
00:06:36I'm not going back in.
00:06:37I'm done.
00:06:38He says, oh, we're ride or die.
00:06:40We're ride or die.
00:06:41We're not.
00:06:42Just pretend for two minutes.
00:06:44And this morning, there has been yet another unexpected development in their relationship.
00:06:51How are things with you and Danny after last night's dinner party?
00:06:55Really good.
00:06:58There's so much love and adoration within this relationship.
00:07:03We had like a tiny little bit of crosswords last night.
00:07:06Danny sort of had a little wibble wobble.
00:07:08He was like, I'm sure of the drama.
00:07:10And at the end of the day, we've actually come out on top, you know, even though it's kind
00:07:14of crappy for a little while, we always come back together, talk about it and end up with
00:07:23a better understanding of each other and in a stronger place in our relationship.
00:07:27Do you agree?
00:07:28Hmm.
00:07:29I became a girlfriend as well.
00:07:31Still happy with that decision, boo?
00:07:33Still happy with the decision.
00:07:35I feel great.
00:07:35I feel absolutely fantastic.
00:07:37Like, I'm not only a wife, I'm a girlfriend.
00:07:39And I know that everything's hunky dory.
00:07:42Me telling you at the commitment ceremony that I love you.
00:07:46And obviously, I'm in my own head as well, because it's like, shit, like, that's a lot for me
00:07:52to do.
00:07:53Ever.
00:07:54Like, you're the first man I've ever told that I love first.
00:07:57Ever.
00:07:58Feedback week, Danny.
00:07:59How's it been?
00:08:01Been an alright week, to be honest.
00:08:03Like, alright is how I'd describe it.
00:08:04Not amazing.
00:08:06Just alright.
00:08:07Obviously, the question to ask, Bec was just overreacting a little bit there.
00:08:12We know that.
00:08:13That's a fact.
00:08:14Do you think you will fall in love with me?
00:08:17And why?
00:08:18Probably.
00:08:20I'd assume I will, yeah.
00:08:22Am I there yet?
00:08:23No.
00:08:27So, it has sort of scared me that she's got stronger feelings to me than I have to her.
00:08:34Um, up until last week, when she told me she loved me, I didn't realise she was feeling
00:08:37that strongly towards me.
00:08:39She'd never even told me, like, little soft things to, like, soften it.
00:08:43It was just like, that come out of nowhere.
00:08:46That's why when she told me on the sofa, on the couch, I was a bit, like, shocked.
00:08:50My feelings are extremely, extremely strong for Daniel.
00:09:01I love you.
00:09:02Yay!
00:09:06Yay!
00:09:09Woo!
00:09:09Woo!
00:09:12Do you think that you will get there, or are you still not sure?
00:09:15It's hard to tell, to be honest.
00:09:17It's very hard to tell.
00:09:19In regards to intimacy, it's not like I don't want to do it, but it's not like I'm, like,
00:09:27craving to do it as well.
00:09:29Like, I'm United, I mean.
00:09:31Because of constant drama with Beck.
00:09:34Um, so, yeah, that's probably one of the things, the main reason that's holding me back.
00:09:47The End
00:09:59Greetings, gents.
00:10:01Hello, come on in.
00:10:02Good to see you all.
00:10:04Good evening.
00:10:05Good evening.
00:10:06Hi, guys.
00:10:21Hi.
00:10:21Hello.
00:10:22Welcome.
00:10:25Settling.
00:10:30Well, greetings, everyone, to the second-last commitment ceremony.
00:10:35We are very much nearing the pointy end where you have to size up your relationship
00:10:42and really drill down on whether or not you can see a future outside of this experiment
00:10:49with the person that you've been matched with.
00:10:52Now it gets real.
00:10:55Now, in saying that, next week it is homestays.
00:11:00This is done so that all of you can have a look at your partner's life
00:11:04as it exists outside of the experiment
00:11:07and it gives you an understanding, a glimpse of whether you can fit into it.
00:11:14This is really a reality check.
00:11:17In fact, it is absolutely pivotal for you when it comes to your final decision.
00:11:25Take it very seriously.
00:11:27Now, the past week, of course, has been Feedback Week.
00:11:31It's been a real test of how each and every one of you responds to feedback,
00:11:35but also how each of you gives feedback.
00:11:39So we'll be really interested to drill down into how that's gone for each of you
00:11:43and to see what's been the impact on your relationships.
00:11:47And, of course, we saw some of that last night at the dinner party.
00:11:51It was actually quite shocking to see some of the behaviours
00:11:55that occurred at last night's dinner party.
00:11:58And we certainly want to get into all of that.
00:12:03Well, let's get our first couple up.
00:12:05Jira and Scott.
00:12:09Mmm, good to see you both.
00:12:12Yes, John, I'm still here.
00:12:13Are you happy about it?
00:12:15I'm very happy.
00:12:16Oh, I thought you wouldn't be.
00:12:18Yeah, particularly because last time you actually walked off.
00:12:22I did.
00:12:25And so let's go back to what actually happened there
00:12:28because we didn't get a chance to talk to you about that
00:12:33because we were talking about your relationship
00:12:35and where you're at and what a good place you're in.
00:12:38And it was positive.
00:12:40But then something happened.
00:12:42What was it?
00:12:47I was getting in trouble for the screenshots involving Alyssa,
00:12:51but the other person wasn't getting in trouble
00:12:53for what was written in the screenshots.
00:12:55It felt very against me.
00:12:59And I just felt like attacked.
00:13:05And I just felt like it was a bit unfair, to be honest.
00:13:09I just felt like, oh, what about the screen?
00:13:11What was she was saying?
00:13:12Like, just me, me, me.
00:13:13I just cannot.
00:13:16So I had to remove myself.
00:13:17I didn't want to have another argument.
00:13:19I didn't want any more volatile situations.
00:13:22I just, I had to remove myself.
00:13:26All right, so let's break it down.
00:13:28There are two parts to this.
00:13:31One part is what was said in the text,
00:13:36which came out at the dinner party last night,
00:13:39the specifics of it.
00:13:42And there's no getting around that.
00:13:45It's abhorrent.
00:13:47Those words, those phrases,
00:13:52towards another member in this experiment,
00:13:56was appalling.
00:13:59I mean, Beck, the hits keep coming.
00:14:16What was said in the texts,
00:14:19which came out at the dinner party last night,
00:14:22the specifics of it.
00:14:26And there's no getting around that.
00:14:28It's abhorrent.
00:14:30It's abhorrent.
00:14:31Those words, those phrases,
00:14:35towards another member in this experiment,
00:14:39was appalling.
00:14:42I mean, Beck, the hits keep coming.
00:14:50Regardless of what bad place you were in,
00:14:53the way in which you did that
00:14:55was malicious and extremely hurtful.
00:15:00And we don't condone it.
00:15:06That's the first part.
00:15:08The second issue
00:15:11is how they were used.
00:15:13And that's where you come into this, Gia.
00:15:15Yep.
00:15:17It was very high school,
00:15:21trying to really get at somebody
00:15:24while hurting another person in the process.
00:15:30It's about choices.
00:15:32It's about choices in terms of what you write in the text.
00:15:36Then it's choices about what you want to do with that
00:15:39in terms of sending it on or not.
00:15:42I know I was wrong.
00:15:45Looking back now,
00:15:46I wish I never sent the screenshots to Juliet.
00:15:48I was doing the wrong thing.
00:15:50I mean, it was like something happened to me
00:15:54that affected me and to defend myself.
00:15:56I was like,
00:15:56well, let me send some screenshots
00:15:58to do something to that person.
00:16:00And it was just like childish behaviour, to be honest.
00:16:02So it was an eye for an eye.
00:16:03Yeah.
00:16:04Yeah.
00:16:05Okay.
00:16:06We do not want to revisit this ever again.
00:16:10And I'm sure Alyssa doesn't want to either.
00:16:13It is being put to bed
00:16:15as of right now.
00:16:20But, Gia,
00:16:21one of the things I wanted to ask you was
00:16:23when you left last week,
00:16:25Scott was sitting here
00:16:27kind of not really knowing what was going on.
00:16:30And I just wondered
00:16:32whether he was featured
00:16:34in your thinking in that moment.
00:16:37I told him before I ran out,
00:16:39I said, I feel sick, I'm going to leave.
00:16:41Scott, how did you feel?
00:16:45When you realised Gia had left.
00:16:49Well, at the time,
00:16:51I was sitting there and going to myself,
00:16:53she's not left me.
00:16:54I just, because I know how close we are.
00:16:56So I'm like, there's no excuse for her to just bail.
00:16:57But then obviously,
00:16:59the only thing I was just a little bit annoyed
00:17:01was just not being told what was going on.
00:17:03Just communication, that's all.
00:17:08But deep down, I knew she didn't run away from me.
00:17:10So, yeah.
00:17:15So last week you said
00:17:16that the noise around your relationship
00:17:18from the group and around Gia
00:17:20doesn't affect your relationship.
00:17:23Do you still believe that?
00:17:28Last week was probably
00:17:29one of the most heaviest weeks
00:17:30we've had in this whole experiment.
00:17:32More so for Gia.
00:17:33She's had a lot to take on herself,
00:17:35not wanting to be here
00:17:38for a few reasons.
00:17:40There's only so much,
00:17:42you know,
00:17:42I'm here to protect her
00:17:44and cater for her
00:17:44and make sure she's okay
00:17:45and give her reassurance,
00:17:46but there was a lot that happened
00:17:47pretty much every day
00:17:48and I will admit, like,
00:17:51it does make me
00:17:54not be myself.
00:17:58What do you mean?
00:18:00My energy dropped
00:18:01and I just...
00:18:03So I'm just trying to be positive
00:18:06and it's hard sometimes.
00:18:08But feedback week, yeah,
00:18:10it was pretty hard.
00:18:11What was hard about feedback week?
00:18:13Obviously the commitment ceremony was,
00:18:15you know, I walked out
00:18:15and I wasn't good.
00:18:17You know, that...
00:18:18And I just...
00:18:19I was just feeling off, right?
00:18:20So then I get told
00:18:22I have a feedback date
00:18:24and I'm like,
00:18:25oh, my God,
00:18:25I can't do this.
00:18:27I cannot put myself
00:18:29in a situation like this again
00:18:30where I'm arguing with somebody
00:18:32and I'm like,
00:18:32you know what?
00:18:33I don't want to go on the date.
00:18:35So what did you choose to do?
00:18:36I didn't go on the date.
00:18:40With these challenges
00:18:41that we set,
00:18:44you are certainly
00:18:45taken out of your comfort zone,
00:18:47but they're done for a reason.
00:18:49Here we go.
00:18:50It's all right.
00:18:51It's not.
00:18:52It's always about everything
00:18:53but our relationship.
00:18:57God, like,
00:18:58how many more times
00:18:59am I going to get, like, attacked?
00:19:02It's not.
00:19:02It's not.
00:19:03That's what the vibe I'm getting.
00:19:04It's not.
00:19:06I've been apologising.
00:19:07I've been accountable.
00:19:08I've been changing my behaviour.
00:19:10I just feel like
00:19:11the feedback letter,
00:19:14I felt like it was an attack on me.
00:19:16The tasks that we received to do,
00:19:19I just found were just, like,
00:19:21like, not nice.
00:19:24Number one is,
00:19:25Gia, remove yourself
00:19:25from any group chats
00:19:26that you're in.
00:19:29Number two,
00:19:30detox from all social media
00:19:31till final vows.
00:19:33Number three,
00:19:34no physical touch for 10 days.
00:19:37And I was like...
00:19:38That's the thing, I think.
00:19:39I took it.
00:19:40This is how I took it.
00:19:41He took it different.
00:19:41I took it as an attack of, like,
00:19:44oh, my God,
00:19:44like, another thing against me.
00:19:50Why do you feel like
00:19:51people are attacking you?
00:19:52I don't know.
00:19:54You have no idea?
00:19:55Well, that was Stella and Phillip,
00:19:57so I'm not sure why.
00:20:00There's just one thing
00:20:01I like to outlay is, like,
00:20:03whether something's negative or bad
00:20:05or, like, something you don't want
00:20:07to hear or see,
00:20:07we don't need to hold on to it.
00:20:10Because sometimes I feel
00:20:11it does hurt you
00:20:13in a way deep down
00:20:14where it's got to be said out loud
00:20:16or people need to know
00:20:17I hate it or, like,
00:20:18sometimes I feel like
00:20:19you hold on to it
00:20:20with a bit of power behind you
00:20:21and you want to deliver it
00:20:22back to someone.
00:20:25And I feel if we can let go
00:20:26of things a lot easier,
00:20:28we can move past that
00:20:29and then just focus
00:20:30on the other stuff.
00:20:33Because I see the light
00:20:34in everything all the time.
00:20:35Like, these things that are said,
00:20:36letters, it doesn't matter
00:20:37how bad it is.
00:20:38It's not like we're bad people.
00:20:40People just see what,
00:20:41they have an opinion for it.
00:20:42Right, this is your perception, though.
00:20:43For me, for my own personal reasons
00:20:47and what I've been through in life,
00:20:48I felt attacked.
00:20:56I walked into this experiment.
00:20:57I said, even my audition,
00:20:58I don't like negative stuff.
00:21:00I don't like drama.
00:21:01I don't like any of that.
00:21:01I don't want it in my life.
00:21:02And I know Gia's been involved
00:21:04in some of it
00:21:05and we had an agreement.
00:21:06Can you make a promise to me
00:21:07not involve yourself in drama
00:21:09for the rest of this experiment?
00:21:11There's been a few difficult things
00:21:12inside the experiment
00:21:13and I have to know
00:21:16whether it's the pressure in here
00:21:17or whether this is outside as well.
00:21:21Nothing's really affected me
00:21:22in this experiment.
00:21:23The only thing is just the drama stuff.
00:21:24I just, I don't like it.
00:21:26And I just want to make sure
00:21:27and be reassured
00:21:27there's not going to be
00:21:28that shit outside this
00:21:29because I won't tolerate it.
00:21:30That's it.
00:21:32For me, I don't want someone
00:21:33who's going to retaliate
00:21:33in really bad behaviour.
00:21:34That's what I mean.
00:21:37It's about how you carry yourself.
00:21:38It's common knowledge.
00:21:39I would never do that.
00:21:40That's what I'm saying.
00:21:40From the stuff that's in the experiment,
00:21:42I don't want to see that
00:21:43outside the experiment.
00:21:44That's all it is.
00:21:44I'm not saying anything bad.
00:21:45It's just what I've seen.
00:21:46Just, you don't know me well enough then.
00:21:49Babe, I'm only helping.
00:21:50It's just not who I am.
00:21:51I just do not do that in life.
00:21:54I do nursing.
00:21:55I'm a kind person.
00:21:57I would never, but anyway.
00:21:58I'm not saying you're like that.
00:21:59I'm trying to just say
00:22:00what I'm feeling.
00:22:06She's not going to be happy
00:22:07with him saying that.
00:22:08I can guarantee you.
00:22:12Scott's just talking about
00:22:14his experience with you,
00:22:16what he's seen.
00:22:17He can only work with
00:22:19what he's seen.
00:22:19And he has seen you
00:22:21rise to the drama.
00:22:22So he's not saying
00:22:24he knows that that's
00:22:26what you're going to do
00:22:26on the outside.
00:22:27He's saying he knows
00:22:28that that's what you have done
00:22:30within the experiment.
00:22:31So surely that's reasonable.
00:22:33Yep.
00:22:38No, we're getting slammed, Chris.
00:22:40Yeah.
00:22:41You're not getting slammed, babe.
00:22:42It's nothing.
00:22:45No, I'm all good.
00:22:46I'm sorry.
00:22:46I'm all good.
00:22:47All good.
00:22:47I don't like to cry, you know.
00:22:49Just, I'm fine.
00:22:51I'm fine.
00:22:52I'm fine.
00:22:52I'm fine.
00:22:52I'm fine.
00:22:53I'm fine.
00:23:08You're all right?
00:23:09Sorry, I'm all good.
00:23:11Gia, do you feel secure
00:23:12in this relationship?
00:23:14Yeah.
00:23:16What makes you say that?
00:23:18Um, because even when I say
00:23:21I'm going to leave,
00:23:21he's like, no, you can't leave.
00:23:24Um, like when I, like,
00:23:26lose my mind and, like,
00:23:28spiral, he's always there
00:23:29to, like, be positive
00:23:31and try and turn my mood around
00:23:33and I feel like he's got me.
00:23:35Yeah.
00:23:36And I can feel like, yeah,
00:23:37I feel secure in this relationship.
00:23:39What about you, Scott?
00:23:43Well, the thing is, like,
00:23:45yes, we face these hard things
00:23:46and we're not perfect people
00:23:49but I see so many good things about you
00:23:53and that's why I'm here.
00:23:54Like, you're such a beautiful person.
00:23:55Like, we've had a rough week
00:23:57but we always come back to each other.
00:23:58So you feel secure in this relationship?
00:24:00100%, yeah, I feel secure.
00:24:03We just have these little hurdles
00:24:04to get through, understand one another,
00:24:06you know, and keep pursuing
00:24:08our life together.
00:24:12All right, well, let's go to the decision.
00:24:14Uh, let's go with you first, Scott.
00:24:18I'm grateful that we're still here together
00:24:20and then we got through
00:24:20and we're still smiling
00:24:21and I cannot wait for home stays.
00:24:24It's all right to stay
00:24:25and happy two months to my beautiful wife.
00:24:27Aw.
00:24:27That's cute.
00:24:29Gia, stay or leave?
00:24:30Um, I know I need to work on some things
00:24:33and I'm committed to doing that
00:24:34because, like, he's worth it
00:24:36and I need to, like, grow as a person.
00:24:38I can't keep doing these behaviours
00:24:40that I've been doing
00:24:41and I know I'm wrong for that.
00:24:42So, um, I'm just going to be positive this week
00:24:45and move forward
00:24:45and we're going to be in our swimsuits
00:24:47at the beach on the Gold Coast.
00:24:50Little 40s.
00:24:52I've got square boobs, I don't know why,
00:24:53but that's a bikini.
00:24:55That's a bikini.
00:24:56OK, well, I know that that was a very intense session
00:25:00and it's so important for you guys
00:25:02to not brush things under the carpet.
00:25:06I know, Scott, you've mentioned
00:25:07that you like to look on the bright side of life,
00:25:11move forward as fast as you can,
00:25:13leave the past behind.
00:25:14Problem is, if you do that all the time,
00:25:17you don't address the issues that are there.
00:25:20And rather than saying,
00:25:21it's just going to be OK, forget about it,
00:25:24actually instead go, well, tell me more.
00:25:27And for you, Gia, what's really important
00:25:29is that if there's an issue that comes up from Scott,
00:25:32that you stay with it,
00:25:34rather than look at it as a personal attack.
00:25:36This is just feedback about a behaviour.
00:25:40And I can sit here and talk about that behaviour
00:25:43and then as a team,
00:25:44we can do something different moving forward.
00:25:47That'll help us a lot, to be honest.
00:25:49Because sometimes I want to bring things up
00:25:52and then I get a bit scared
00:25:53because I don't want you to get the wrong ideas
00:25:55if I'm trying to attack you.
00:25:57It's because I genuinely care
00:25:59and I just want to fix a few little things
00:26:01that'll help both of us.
00:26:02So I really love what you just said.
00:26:04Now with that, have a great week
00:26:06and we'll see you next time.
00:26:07Thanks, guys.
00:26:08Well done, guys.
00:26:09Cheers.
00:26:10Have a great week.
00:26:33I think I misinterpreted the question.
00:26:44Because it's a pretty black-and-white question.
00:27:02Next up, Rachel and Stephen.
00:27:10Hello.
00:27:11Welcome.
00:27:12Hi.
00:27:12Welcome, welcome.
00:27:13It's nice to see you.
00:27:15Oh, yeah.
00:27:16Feedback week.
00:27:17Tell us about feedback week.
00:27:19Um, I actually think feedback week
00:27:22was great for Stephen and I.
00:27:24We started off with the first tasks of questions.
00:27:27The question of, you know, saying,
00:27:29can you see yourself all in love with me at some point?
00:27:33We both had a big, resounding yes.
00:27:36And so that was really nice
00:27:38because in terms of the way we view our lives in the future,
00:27:44they very much align.
00:27:46And so, yeah, it was really good.
00:27:49It was just a really great task.
00:27:52Feedback week has been, you know, amazing.
00:27:56I got some really good advice from Alyssa
00:27:59of trying to be a bit more of a leader.
00:28:01Which we saw.
00:28:03We saw.
00:28:03We were very impressed.
00:28:05Oh, you saw that?
00:28:06At the dinner party.
00:28:08You did have a moment at the dinner party
00:28:10where you stood up to the group
00:28:12and you spoke on behalf of the relationship
00:28:15in such a mature, such a take charge,
00:28:19such a masculine,
00:28:20such a all-there kind of way.
00:28:25We were very impressed
00:28:27and we were literally cheering that on.
00:28:29It was a really, really good moment
00:28:32to see Rachel beaming
00:28:33because you were beaming.
00:28:35You were so proud of your man speaking up to the group.
00:28:41Setting those boundaries for the group
00:28:43and for the two of you.
00:28:45Well, I'm going to implement that not just for one day.
00:28:47It's going to be just in the relationship.
00:28:49I've got to put my captain's socks, undies and hat on.
00:28:53And, yeah, take a bit of charge and leadership.
00:28:57Captain, I like it.
00:28:59Captain Steve-o.
00:29:01I'm going to get a hat for him.
00:29:05How did it feel in the moment
00:29:06to speak to the group the way that you did
00:29:09and to ascertain those boundaries
00:29:10and make yourself be heard so clearly?
00:29:14I know I'm pretty quiet in the dinner parties
00:29:17and I sort of like to keep things to myself
00:29:19because I feel like it's just a little bit easier
00:29:21to keep your mouth closed.
00:29:24In some situations,
00:29:26I guess it was good to, you know,
00:29:28finally be heard.
00:29:30I can imagine so.
00:29:34You guys have really been a bit of a slow burn
00:29:38but every week we start to see something emerge,
00:29:43the intimacy, the speaking up.
00:29:45There's a lot of change in the two of you that I see
00:29:48and it's on a week-by-week basis.
00:29:51What's it doing to you, Steve-o,
00:29:54in terms of how you're feeling about this lovely woman?
00:29:59I feel really connected to Rachel.
00:30:01We're getting closer.
00:30:03I feel like, as well, saying to Rachel,
00:30:05I feel like I've come such a long way
00:30:06from the wedding
00:30:07and the ups and downs that we've had.
00:30:09So, feeling, yeah, really good.
00:30:13Rachel, for you towards him,
00:30:15what's going on inside of you?
00:30:17So, I really like Stephen.
00:30:20I've been very clear about that.
00:30:21I'm very connected with Stephen.
00:30:24It's just so comfortable to be ourselves
00:30:26and have fun and, you know,
00:30:29it's just amazing.
00:30:30And so, I'm at the point now
00:30:32where my man is leading
00:30:34and he is actually starting to show me
00:30:36what my life here in Sydney could look like.
00:30:42That really shows, through your body language,
00:30:45is just how close and comfortable you are
00:30:49with one another
00:30:51and loving, dare I say it.
00:30:55Are we reading this correctly?
00:30:57Does it feel comfortable to be sitting like that?
00:31:00This is common, you know, in the apartment.
00:31:03Now you're showing off.
00:31:06Mate.
00:31:10So, with that in mind,
00:31:11we're going to go to a decision.
00:31:12Yeah.
00:31:13Let's kick it off with you, Rachel.
00:31:17This is a huge shock, I know,
00:31:19but I've written stay
00:31:21and I put, like, the sun and, like,
00:31:23that's water from our little beach days.
00:31:27Cute.
00:31:28And Steve-O.
00:31:29I like where this is going,
00:31:30so why would I do anything else besides stay?
00:31:38Good on you guys.
00:31:40Thank you so much.
00:31:41Well done.
00:31:42Great.
00:31:42Thank you so much.
00:31:51High fives.
00:31:52It's a nice one.
00:32:08Our next couple on the couch.
00:32:12Chris and Sam.
00:32:18Hello, you two.
00:32:19Howdy.
00:32:20Hi.
00:32:20Hello, guys.
00:32:22How we doing?
00:32:24Well, I've got to say,
00:32:26this is a very different energy
00:32:28from the two of you,
00:32:29not what we're used to at all.
00:32:32You're like a very different couple right now.
00:32:35Yeah.
00:32:37Do you want to let us in?
00:32:42Chris, you don't look very happy.
00:32:43No, I'm just like, um...
00:32:45Like, first of all,
00:32:47you asked me a question last week.
00:32:49Are you starting to envision a life
00:32:51outside of the experiment?
00:32:52I thought it was admirable
00:32:53that I was actually thinking
00:32:54after the experiment,
00:32:55and I said,
00:32:55perhaps, potentially,
00:32:56Sam based himself in Sydney.
00:32:58It came from a really good place.
00:33:01But Sam was upset
00:33:02that I didn't consult him
00:33:03before answering the question
00:33:04that you asked me.
00:33:06And then he said to me,
00:33:0810 minutes prior to the dinner party,
00:33:10your three apologies weren't genuine enough.
00:33:11I'm going to bring it up
00:33:12in front of the group.
00:33:14We could have facilitated that
00:33:15in the apartment
00:33:16in a more private,
00:33:18controlled environment.
00:33:20I feel like I've, um,
00:33:22you know,
00:33:22been dragged through the coals.
00:33:23All right, I'm just going to go to Sam
00:33:25because there's something
00:33:25I just want to clarify here.
00:33:27Why was it that you felt
00:33:29the need to bring this up
00:33:30in that group context?
00:33:33I wanted feedback from the group.
00:33:34I can go talk to my friends,
00:33:36you can go talk to your friends,
00:33:37and we can try and, like,
00:33:38see if we can move past this.
00:33:41Because I just couldn't see
00:33:42getting to a conclusion
00:33:43with just the two of us
00:33:44because I was just getting shut down.
00:33:47That's why.
00:33:50There are some pretty big lifestyle changes
00:33:53ahead of the two of you.
00:33:56Chris has got children coming.
00:33:57Yeah.
00:33:57You know, Chris has the farm.
00:33:59Yeah.
00:34:00And, you know,
00:34:01clearly life's going to be
00:34:03very much rooted
00:34:04around Chris's existing world.
00:34:06Yeah.
00:34:07And a lot of movement
00:34:08and compromise on your part, Sam.
00:34:11Is this the elephant
00:34:13in the room here
00:34:14for the two of you?
00:34:17Does it feel like
00:34:19it'll be you
00:34:20making all of the sacrifice?
00:34:23I'll be making big moves.
00:34:25Yeah, so 90% of the sacrifice
00:34:26would be on me
00:34:27to, like, fit into Chris's life,
00:34:29which is fine.
00:34:30Like, I know that.
00:34:32I'm prepared to do that
00:34:33if we fall for each other.
00:34:35But I just didn't want to feel
00:34:37like I had no say
00:34:38in even how that would look.
00:34:41I just feel like
00:34:41there could be
00:34:41a bit more empathy
00:34:42around the fact
00:34:43that there's a lot
00:34:44that I have to change
00:34:45and I would have really liked
00:34:45if you discussed that
00:34:46with me before.
00:34:50How does that sit
00:34:51with you, Chris?
00:34:52Yeah.
00:34:55My answer to you
00:34:56was coming from a good place.
00:34:59That question that you asked me,
00:35:00are you thinking about life
00:35:01outside of this experiment?
00:35:03Which I thought
00:35:04was such a cute question.
00:35:05That question has now, like,
00:35:07spiralled into something
00:35:09so much bigger
00:35:10than what we had anticipated
00:35:11and it's put a huge rift
00:35:13between us, obviously.
00:35:15And, yeah.
00:35:16Sam.
00:35:18I've been watching you
00:35:19and you look a bit withdrawn.
00:35:23What has all this,
00:35:24do you feel, Sam,
00:35:25done to your relationship?
00:35:28To be honest, like,
00:35:29it's really sad
00:35:31because you guys saw me
00:35:32at the last commitment ceremony
00:35:33and I even wrote
00:35:34in my journal afterwards
00:35:35that a life with Chris
00:35:36could be magical
00:35:37and amazing
00:35:39and it's just, like,
00:35:40taking the feet out
00:35:41from underneath me.
00:35:43Yeah.
00:35:45It sucks.
00:35:48Chris,
00:35:49one of the things
00:35:50I sit here very curious
00:35:51because, essentially,
00:35:53you were in a great place
00:35:55a week ago
00:35:56and then
00:35:57Sam has brought something up
00:35:58gently to just say,
00:36:00you know,
00:36:00I felt a little bit excluded.
00:36:01I thought
00:36:03that would have brought you closer
00:36:05but, in fact,
00:36:06the reaction he got
00:36:09pushes him away
00:36:10rather than brings him close.
00:36:12Yeah.
00:36:14And one of the things
00:36:15I went to is,
00:36:17did you take Sam's reaction
00:36:19as something of a rejection?
00:36:25Because what I'm thinking
00:36:28is that your anger
00:36:29was coming from hurt
00:36:30and fear
00:36:31and it often does.
00:36:33You've taken it
00:36:34very personally
00:36:35and I want to put that to you.
00:36:37If that's the case,
00:36:39what might that be about?
00:36:43Maybe just
00:36:44unsuccessful relationships
00:36:46in the past,
00:36:48you know,
00:36:48like, yeah,
00:36:49and I have been hurt a lot.
00:36:52Here's the thing.
00:36:54He's bringing this conversation
00:36:56up in front of the group
00:36:59not because he wants
00:36:59to throw you under the bus
00:37:01but because he wants
00:37:02to be able to talk to you
00:37:03and he feels like he can't
00:37:05to the point
00:37:06where he's too scared
00:37:07to bring up
00:37:08a conversation with you
00:37:09and he needs to take it
00:37:10to a larger group.
00:37:12That has got to get you
00:37:14starting to look
00:37:15at yourself
00:37:16and how
00:37:17you're talking.
00:37:19This is a real
00:37:20moment
00:37:21of truth for you
00:37:23because
00:37:23a communication style
00:37:26has contributed
00:37:26to the real crisis
00:37:29that you're in now.
00:37:33That doesn't mean
00:37:34that you can't recover
00:37:35and tonight
00:37:36is one of those
00:37:37absolute key crossroads
00:37:38for you, Chris.
00:37:40Mm-hmm.
00:37:41Yeah.
00:37:46All right.
00:37:46Let's go to the decision.
00:37:49Let's go with you first, Chris.
00:37:50Stay or leave?
00:37:52I've been going back
00:37:53and forth
00:37:53the last couple of days
00:37:55and I've actually decided
00:37:57that I need
00:37:58and I want to go
00:37:59put my dad hat on
00:38:00and I would like to leave.
00:38:25and I want to go
00:38:29put my dad hat on
00:38:30and I would like to leave.
00:38:45Maybe no.
00:38:46No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:38:53It's a huge turnaround
00:38:55from last week.
00:38:57Yeah.
00:39:00I just think that
00:39:01I need to concentrate
00:39:02on this next thing
00:39:04that's coming
00:39:04and he's going to be
00:39:06he's an amazing guy
00:39:07and he'll be amazing
00:39:08for someone
00:39:08I just don't think
00:39:09it's me for the moment.
00:39:23Sam, what's going on
00:39:24for you right now?
00:39:31I just didn't see that coming.
00:39:33I thought
00:39:37I thought, you know,
00:39:39this is the first hiccup we've had
00:39:40and we've both come into this
00:39:42ready to take on feedback
00:39:46and then try and implement that
00:39:47and see if that could help.
00:39:50And it just hurts
00:39:51to be like
00:39:52you've just given up
00:39:55because it got tough
00:39:56for a few days.
00:40:01So yeah,
00:40:02I just can't believe it.
00:40:06Let's go to your decision then, Sam.
00:40:08What have you got?
00:40:09As much as Chris gave up a lot
00:40:10to be here,
00:40:11I gave up a lot
00:40:11and I wanted to leave here
00:40:13with absolutely no regrets
00:40:15either way,
00:40:16like 100% knowing
00:40:17if Chris was the guy for me.
00:40:20Right now,
00:40:20I feel like
00:40:21I would have regrets
00:40:22and I wouldn't know completely
00:40:23if we could have made it work.
00:40:26Like I was prepared
00:40:27to take on anything
00:40:27you guys had to say
00:40:28and try and
00:40:30put it into work.
00:40:39Well, as you know,
00:40:41in this experiment,
00:40:42the rules are
00:40:42if one person says stay
00:40:43and the other person says leave,
00:40:45the couple stays
00:40:46for another week
00:40:47and they work
00:40:48on the relationship.
00:40:51It might seem
00:40:52like a lost cause,
00:40:53but frankly,
00:40:54we see couples
00:40:56absolutely turn things around
00:40:57in one week.
00:41:02but it will require
00:41:04some heavy lifting
00:41:05from the both of you.
00:41:11I mean,
00:41:12the one thing
00:41:12about you two right now
00:41:13is that it's not friendly.
00:41:15So when you think about
00:41:17how you're going
00:41:17to take on this week
00:41:19to start talking
00:41:20to one another
00:41:21in a respectful way
00:41:22and acting
00:41:23in a considerate way
00:41:24and from there,
00:41:26you can start to see
00:41:28how it changes
00:41:29your relationship.
00:41:31Let me remind you
00:41:32it was only a week ago
00:41:33that you were loved up
00:41:34on that couch
00:41:35excited about the future.
00:41:41But with a weenus
00:41:42can come change
00:41:46and all you've got to do
00:41:47is treat each other
00:41:48in a friendly way.
00:41:53All right.
00:41:54Thank you both.
00:41:56Good work tonight.
00:41:57Well done.
00:41:57That was hard.
00:42:06Well done, darlings.
00:42:11Well done, guys.
00:42:16I'll just be a guy.
00:42:22OK, our next couple
00:42:23on the couch,
00:42:25Alyssa and David.
00:42:26Oh.
00:42:30Hello, you two.
00:42:31Hello.
00:42:31Hello.
00:42:32Welcome.
00:42:35How was feedback week
00:42:36for you guys?
00:42:38So obviously,
00:42:39feedback week
00:42:39started with some receipts
00:42:40from Juliet.
00:42:43from last couch session
00:42:44that we had.
00:42:45That was the start
00:42:46of our feedback week,
00:42:48which was kind of negative.
00:42:50You hear about,
00:42:51oh, just the messages,
00:42:52but they were actually
00:42:53really vicious.
00:42:55Yeah, it wasn't OK.
00:42:57It was,
00:42:57it definitely was a fresh,
00:42:58it was fresh hurt
00:42:59for David and I.
00:43:01Yeah, look,
00:43:03seeing those text messages
00:43:04just reopened wounds
00:43:06that were obviously
00:43:07closing over.
00:43:09Obviously,
00:43:10it was a negative vibe
00:43:11to feedback week.
00:43:12We didn't want to see that,
00:43:13but it came to us.
00:43:14So, yeah,
00:43:16yeah, moving on from that.
00:43:19Feedback week
00:43:20actually went really well
00:43:21because we managed
00:43:23to talk about
00:43:24some things.
00:43:25Yeah, we talked about
00:43:26a plan for when
00:43:26we left the experiment,
00:43:27what that was going
00:43:28to look like,
00:43:29you know,
00:43:29a bit of long distance maybe
00:43:30and then figure out
00:43:32like if we're moving
00:43:34to maybe Adelaide.
00:43:37So obviously,
00:43:38you know,
00:43:39getting to an age
00:43:40in the next couple of years
00:43:41I want to have a family
00:43:43and I want to be
00:43:44in Adelaide for that.
00:43:46And that was something
00:43:47that I hadn't talked
00:43:48to David about,
00:43:49but he was amazing.
00:43:50He was like,
00:43:51I understand if you need
00:43:52to be with your family
00:43:53and you need extra support,
00:43:54then we're going
00:43:55to move to Adelaide.
00:43:56And I understand
00:43:56raising kids
00:43:57is not an easy task.
00:43:58So, you know,
00:43:59she's obviously got
00:43:59her family there,
00:44:00her mom and her mom's
00:44:02a legend.
00:44:04Alyssa would be
00:44:05a fantastic mother.
00:44:06She notices everything
00:44:07about me,
00:44:08you know what I'm saying?
00:44:08Like she helps me a lot.
00:44:11I did say that
00:44:14she reminds me
00:44:15of my mother.
00:44:17She might be like,
00:44:18don't wear that shirt.
00:44:19It doesn't look good on you.
00:44:21Like just straight
00:44:22to the point and direct.
00:44:23That's what my mother
00:44:24would do.
00:44:25So that's what makes me know
00:44:26that she's got deep feelings
00:44:27and she cares
00:44:28because like she tells me
00:44:29things that challenge me,
00:44:31you know,
00:44:31and she doesn't just settle.
00:44:33Like she's always
00:44:34looking to grow.
00:44:35She brings out
00:44:36the best in me as well.
00:44:37And I think that's
00:44:38someone I need in my life,
00:44:39someone who's always
00:44:40going to push me
00:44:40to be better.
00:44:41Hmm.
00:44:42So you're in a good place,
00:44:43guys.
00:44:44I feel like we're
00:44:46the strongest
00:44:47we've ever been.
00:44:48Yeah.
00:44:48I would agree.
00:44:49Right now.
00:44:49We are.
00:44:50We definitely are.
00:44:51That's great.
00:44:52Yeah.
00:44:52Brilliant.
00:44:53Let's go to the decision.
00:44:55Alyssa,
00:44:56what'll it be?
00:44:56Well,
00:44:57obviously,
00:44:58got an exciting week
00:44:59coming up.
00:45:00Homestay.
00:45:00Homestay.
00:45:01I'm about to convince you
00:45:02that you might like Adelaide,
00:45:05so...
00:45:06Stay.
00:45:06What was that?
00:45:07Fabulous.
00:45:08Show you around.
00:45:12So I wrote,
00:45:13stay.
00:45:14I go to Lil Plains.
00:45:15Oh!
00:45:16Fly,
00:45:16fly,
00:45:17take me home,
00:45:18baby.
00:45:19I love it.
00:45:21Ready to go.
00:45:21Yeah.
00:45:22There has been
00:45:23some really
00:45:24tough times
00:45:25for you guys,
00:45:26and you've just
00:45:28turned toward each other,
00:45:29backed each other,
00:45:30and supported each other
00:45:31like a real team.
00:45:33Thanks, guys.
00:45:34Well done.
00:45:35Well done.
00:45:44Coming up...
00:45:46Frankly,
00:45:46when I watch you
00:45:47on the couch,
00:45:49you seem uncomfortable.
00:45:51The experts
00:45:51apply the pressure
00:45:53to Danny.
00:45:53If you could do it
00:45:54over again,
00:45:55how would you
00:45:55answer it?
00:45:57I'd just say yes.
00:45:59Yes what?
00:46:00I could see myself
00:46:01all in the love of you.
00:46:02Yeah.
00:46:02That's as simple as that.
00:46:04And would that be the truth?
00:46:19Our next couple
00:46:21up on the couch,
00:46:24Philip and Stella.
00:46:25Ooh!
00:46:29Hello.
00:46:30Hello, hello.
00:46:31Hi.
00:46:32Welcome.
00:46:34Last week
00:46:35was a little bit tough
00:46:37for you two
00:46:38on the couch.
00:46:39I see such a different
00:46:41energy just
00:46:42walking up to the couch.
00:46:45I really want to thank
00:46:46Mel for her advice.
00:46:48Focus on the emotional
00:46:49safety that he's
00:46:50providing and giving me.
00:46:52And it's such a
00:46:53simple thing when you think,
00:46:54but I...
00:46:55I didn't think about it.
00:46:56And that was just
00:46:57like a penny drop
00:46:58moment for me.
00:46:59I really...
00:47:00I really want to
00:47:01thank you guys
00:47:01because I think
00:47:02if not the confinements
00:47:03of the experiment,
00:47:05probably would be
00:47:05a different story
00:47:06at the end of the day.
00:47:07So, yeah, thank you.
00:47:09It's these uncomfortable
00:47:10chats that need to happen.
00:47:11It's not...
00:47:12You're having a go.
00:47:13It's just...
00:47:13Yeah.
00:47:14It helps.
00:47:15It helped us this week
00:47:16tremendously.
00:47:18Great to hear.
00:47:19We ended up having
00:47:19a good week.
00:47:20She was a lot more gentler,
00:47:22like, you know,
00:47:23coming and leading
00:47:23with kindness.
00:47:24She's just been a little
00:47:25bit more gentle
00:47:26just with her delivery.
00:47:27I can see sometimes
00:47:27she just...
00:47:28As she sometimes
00:47:29starts talking,
00:47:30she'll just stop
00:47:30and then she'll just
00:47:31go a little bit softer.
00:47:33Just things like that,
00:47:34you know?
00:47:34Just little subtle
00:47:35differences that you can tell.
00:47:37Like, yeah,
00:47:37don't get me wrong,
00:47:37Stella's still stellar.
00:47:39But, you know,
00:47:40but she's a little bit...
00:47:41Yeah, she's just...
00:47:42Moving on.
00:47:43A little bit different energy
00:47:44and we actually
00:47:44had a really, really good week.
00:47:46Go ask the question of,
00:47:47like, all right,
00:47:48if we go outside
00:47:48of the experiment,
00:47:49how quick would you expect
00:47:50like a proposal
00:47:51or something like that
00:47:52just to, like,
00:47:52fully escalate things?
00:47:54You know,
00:47:55you're just asking randomly.
00:47:56Just throw it out there.
00:47:56It's a free question.
00:47:58I said six to 12 months
00:48:00and Stella was just,
00:48:01like, ASAP.
00:48:03So it's just kind of like...
00:48:04I said the sooner the better.
00:48:05Wow.
00:48:08Sometimes I thought
00:48:09that, like,
00:48:09I was fully over-invested
00:48:10and I was showing too much
00:48:12because that's a general
00:48:13trade of mine.
00:48:14I just go all in,
00:48:15you know?
00:48:15I show all my cards.
00:48:16Here they are,
00:48:16you know?
00:48:17I never really hold back.
00:48:18That's kind of like
00:48:19a trade of mine.
00:48:20But it was good
00:48:21to get the reassurance.
00:48:22But, yeah, we...
00:48:23Can I just point out
00:48:23something that's quite
00:48:25stark for you, Stella?
00:48:28Last week,
00:48:29you were essentially
00:48:30pushing him away
00:48:31and creating that space.
00:48:33And this week,
00:48:34you're saying,
00:48:35you want a real-life proposal.
00:48:38Well, let's put it that way.
00:48:40I didn't say,
00:48:40I would like a proposal.
00:48:41That was a free question.
00:48:42Let's clarify.
00:48:43And I got really shy.
00:48:45I got really uncomfortable
00:48:46and I said,
00:48:47the sooner the better,
00:48:48you know?
00:48:48The sooner the better.
00:48:49Yeah, so...
00:48:49But still,
00:48:50the stark contrast,
00:48:51I guess, from last week.
00:48:52How does that feel
00:48:52from your perspective?
00:48:54Like, I'm crazy.
00:48:55I'm trying to make sense of it.
00:48:57It's a bit confusing.
00:48:58No, it's not being crazy.
00:48:59But it's just,
00:49:00it's extreme.
00:49:00Can't really give up.
00:49:01It's extreme.
00:49:02And it has an emotional impact.
00:49:04So I'm just wondering
00:49:05how that feels for you.
00:49:06No, it's good.
00:49:07It shows that she's forward-thinking.
00:49:09She sees me in her future
00:49:10and that she's like
00:49:11the real deal,
00:49:12you know?
00:49:12When you think about the future,
00:49:14is this something
00:49:15that you can see
00:49:16for the two of you?
00:49:17Yeah, yeah.
00:49:18Definitely.
00:49:18Most definitely.
00:49:19So, yeah.
00:49:20Pretty, pretty confident.
00:49:23It's interesting tonight
00:49:25that the first thing
00:49:26I noticed
00:49:26was the way
00:49:27you looked at him again.
00:49:28Oh.
00:49:29Yeah, I'm in love again.
00:49:31You were back
00:49:31into that sort of
00:49:32starry-eyed interaction
00:49:33where you gaze at him
00:49:35in extended ways.
00:49:38Oh, you're going
00:49:38to make me cry.
00:49:41We just,
00:49:42we just...
00:49:42We lost that last week.
00:49:43Yeah.
00:49:44I would say
00:49:45I just fell back
00:49:46into my feelings,
00:49:47into my body,
00:49:48into showing up for myself
00:49:49and then showing up for him
00:49:50because if I don't show up
00:49:52for myself,
00:49:52I can't show up for him
00:49:53and that's the main difference.
00:49:55And ultimately,
00:49:56I think you had to get
00:49:57out of your head
00:49:58and into your heart,
00:49:59which is ultimately
00:50:01what we were trying
00:50:02to get you to do.
00:50:04All right,
00:50:05well, with that being the case,
00:50:06let's go to the decision.
00:50:08Stay or leave?
00:50:09The decision is very simple
00:50:10and being back into my heart.
00:50:14Another beautiful stay.
00:50:15Excellent.
00:50:16Look at that, eh?
00:50:17Perfect.
00:50:18And Philip?
00:50:19It's a stay.
00:50:21Strong.
00:50:22Strong stay.
00:50:23Strong stay.
00:50:24Strong stay.
00:50:25Strong stay.
00:50:26Well, thank you.
00:50:27We really,
00:50:28I personally really appreciate
00:50:29the advices that you guys give.
00:50:31Good work.
00:50:32Will do.
00:50:33Thanks again.
00:50:34Ciao.
00:50:43And our final couple
00:50:44up on the couch,
00:50:46Bec and Danny.
00:50:47Oh, I'm scared.
00:50:56Right.
00:50:57Feedback week.
00:50:58How was it?
00:51:00Do you want to,
00:51:00you talk?
00:51:01I'll talk.
00:51:01It's been good.
00:51:02It was challenging
00:51:03to begin with,
00:51:05but it ended
00:51:06really, really well.
00:51:07Why was it challenging?
00:51:12So, obviously, like,
00:51:13I told Danny
00:51:14that I'm in love with him.
00:51:16The last commitment ceremony.
00:51:18You certainly did.
00:51:20It's how I feel,
00:51:21so I'm going to say it.
00:51:25And I meant it.
00:51:28But when we sort of did the questions,
00:51:30there was one question that came up was,
00:51:32can you see yourself falling in love with me?
00:51:36And Danny didn't say no,
00:51:37but he sort of umdenied a little bit
00:51:39and I just spiralled.
00:51:43So, what was his exact answer?
00:51:47Uh, potentially, yes.
00:51:49I assume so.
00:51:50Oh, no.
00:51:52So, how did that feel?
00:51:54Um, I was upset.
00:51:55I was hurt
00:51:56and I was kind of embarrassed.
00:52:03I thought that he
00:52:05would have said,
00:52:06I'm not there yet,
00:52:07but yes.
00:52:08I just thought that it,
00:52:10that he would be
00:52:12a little bit further along
00:52:13than potentially,
00:52:14yes, I assume so.
00:52:16But I need to
00:52:17allow Daniel to
00:52:19be on his journey
00:52:21in this relationship
00:52:23and I'll be on mine
00:52:24and don't regret it.
00:52:25Be me.
00:52:28I'm in love.
00:52:30He's not there yet.
00:52:32Don't allow that
00:52:32fact to ruin
00:52:34how good it feels for me.
00:52:44Danny.
00:52:49Let's go to that discussion,
00:52:50shall we?
00:52:51And when the question
00:52:52got asked,
00:52:53tell us again
00:52:54what you said
00:52:55and then why you said it.
00:52:57Well,
00:52:59the questions asked
00:53:01sometimes I struggle with,
00:53:02to be honest.
00:53:03I think I misinterpreted
00:53:05the question.
00:53:08But the question,
00:53:10what was it like?
00:53:11It was a bit...
00:53:11Could you see yourself
00:53:12falling in love with me?
00:53:14Because it's a pretty
00:53:15black and white question.
00:53:31I think I misinterpreted
00:53:33the question.
00:53:36But the question,
00:53:37what was it like?
00:53:38It was a bit...
00:53:38Could you see yourself
00:53:39falling in love with me?
00:53:40Because it's a pretty
00:53:41black and white question.
00:53:51From my point of view,
00:53:53I don't feel,
00:53:54as a man,
00:53:56like,
00:53:56if I give back
00:53:58my word on something,
00:53:59I'm always going to stand to that.
00:54:02And I don't think
00:54:04saying,
00:54:04yes,
00:54:05I can 100%
00:54:06fall in love with you
00:54:07would be the right thing
00:54:08to say
00:54:09because it's almost
00:54:10making a promise,
00:54:10which I don't think
00:54:12you can promise that
00:54:12before you're in love
00:54:13with someone.
00:54:16But let's just
00:54:17remind ourselves,
00:54:18the question wasn't,
00:54:20do you promise
00:54:21that you will fall
00:54:22in love with me?
00:54:23Yeah, I know, John,
00:54:23100%.
00:54:24It was,
00:54:24can you see yourself
00:54:26falling in love
00:54:27with me?
00:54:30Yeah.
00:54:31And do you know what?
00:54:32Like,
00:54:33I can't sit here
00:54:33and make excuses.
00:54:34I just answered
00:54:35the question
00:54:36shockingly.
00:54:37You know what I mean?
00:54:40It was a mistake.
00:54:41I made a mistake.
00:54:42I'm only human.
00:54:44Like,
00:54:44I didn't,
00:54:45I didn't mean
00:54:45to make Beck
00:54:46feel like that.
00:54:47It wasn't
00:54:47my intention.
00:54:50when,
00:54:51when we
00:54:51revisited it,
00:54:53I,
00:54:53um,
00:54:54we talked about it.
00:54:55Yeah, we talked about it.
00:54:57And we
00:54:57patched it up,
00:54:58you know.
00:55:02Um,
00:55:02yeah,
00:55:03I just,
00:55:04I made a mistake.
00:55:06It's all right, baby.
00:55:10Danny,
00:55:11I've got a question
00:55:12because I'm curious.
00:55:14Frankly,
00:55:15when I watch you
00:55:16on the couch,
00:55:17you seem
00:55:18uncomfortable.
00:55:21I do find this
00:55:22uncomfortable,
00:55:22to be honest.
00:55:23It's not something
00:55:23I'm good at.
00:55:24What's uncomfortable
00:55:24about it?
00:55:26Just sitting here
00:55:26talking about
00:55:27your feelings.
00:55:29I turn up
00:55:30and do it
00:55:30because obviously
00:55:31it's more for Beck.
00:55:33If I had it my way,
00:55:34I wouldn't be here,
00:55:35no chance.
00:55:36But we need this, baby.
00:55:37Is it more for Beck?
00:55:41A hundred percent.
00:55:45Like,
00:55:46a lot of blokes
00:55:46do things
00:55:47they don't want to do
00:55:48because of their...
00:55:48Hold on a second,
00:55:49doll.
00:55:49One second, babe.
00:55:51Adore you
00:55:52so much.
00:55:53I love you,
00:55:54actually.
00:55:55But
00:55:56this is not all
00:55:57for me, doll.
00:55:58No, I know that.
00:55:58They're like...
00:55:59You're being,
00:55:59they're helping you too.
00:56:01Trust me.
00:56:04These couch sessions
00:56:05are not just for Beck.
00:56:06You signed up
00:56:07to the experiment
00:56:08on your own
00:56:10saying that you wanted
00:56:11to break some patterns.
00:56:13So this is the chance
00:56:14for you to do that
00:56:15and that's your part
00:56:16where you have to
00:56:16rise to the occasion
00:56:18and choose to do that
00:56:20with enthusiasm.
00:56:22Enthusiasm, thank you.
00:56:23Thanks, Alessandra.
00:56:24You're welcome.
00:56:25No, but it's true.
00:56:26You want your partner
00:56:27to want to
00:56:29and that's the game changer
00:56:30when somebody really
00:56:31wants to be there for you
00:56:33and chooses to make
00:56:34your priority
00:56:35day in and day out.
00:56:36Wow, that's the game changer.
00:56:38It would be for you.
00:56:40It certainly will be for Beck.
00:56:44And what you know now
00:56:46is when you're particularly
00:56:47talking about commitment,
00:56:49future,
00:56:50feelings,
00:56:53you do have to choose
00:56:54your words very carefully.
00:56:58You do indeed.
00:57:00If you could do it over again,
00:57:02how would you answer it?
00:57:04I'd just say yes.
00:57:08Yes what?
00:57:09I could see myself
00:57:10wanting to love with you.
00:57:11Yeah,
00:57:12that's as simple as that.
00:57:14And would that be the truth?
00:57:18Of course,
00:57:19I wouldn't say it
00:57:20if it wasn't the truth.
00:57:20So yeah.
00:57:23I just answered it wrong.
00:57:25That was a bad answer.
00:57:28I think the best thing
00:57:29with Daniel and I
00:57:30and I've learnt
00:57:32is that, you know,
00:57:33we always come out
00:57:34better and stronger
00:57:35because now,
00:57:37moving forward,
00:57:38we're in this together
00:57:39and it makes me feel
00:57:41like I'm not
00:57:42going to get hurt.
00:57:44It means so much.
00:57:47And like,
00:57:48for example,
00:57:48he planned this date
00:57:50and I walked
00:57:51into our apartment
00:57:51and there was candles
00:57:52lit everywhere
00:57:54and all over the apartment
00:57:55was post-it notes
00:57:58telling me
00:57:58how he felt about me.
00:58:02So he's learning, guys.
00:58:04He's learning.
00:58:04I'm not all bad, am I?
00:58:06And then,
00:58:07we went up
00:58:08and he asked me
00:58:09to be his girlfriend.
00:58:14I know you're married
00:58:15but what inspired you
00:58:17to ask Beck that question?
00:58:19I'm trying to think.
00:58:22Like,
00:58:23it was important
00:58:24to Beck, you know,
00:58:25because like,
00:58:26obviously...
00:58:26Why was it important to you?
00:58:34Um...
00:58:34Well, because it gives
00:58:35Beck security.
00:58:38But why is it important
00:58:39to you, Danny?
00:58:43Well, I'm married to Beck.
00:58:44Do you know what you mean?
00:58:45So it's like,
00:58:46but, but, like,
00:58:47I think it,
00:58:48it was more...
00:58:53Um...
00:58:53Yeah, I think Beck
00:58:54just wanted that added
00:58:55security that, like,
00:58:56do you...
00:58:57But why was it important
00:58:57to you
00:58:58to ask her that?
00:59:04F***s.
00:59:20Yeah, I think Beck
00:59:21just wanted that added
00:59:22security that, like,
00:59:23do you...
00:59:24But why was it important
00:59:24to you
00:59:25to ask her that?
00:59:29F***s.
00:59:36Because I know
00:59:37it'd be special
00:59:37to Beck.
00:59:40But why was it
00:59:41important to you?
00:59:54Because I wanted to be
00:59:55my girlfriend,
00:59:55like,
00:59:57you know?
00:59:58Um,
00:59:59yeah,
00:59:59that's why I'd done it.
01:00:02Cute.
01:00:09How did it feel?
01:00:10So good.
01:00:16It's really special to me.
01:00:20Alright,
01:00:21well, on that note,
01:00:21we're going to go
01:00:22to a decision.
01:00:23Beck.
01:00:24I wrote stay
01:00:26and then I wrote boyfriend,
01:00:27hee-hee.
01:00:28Oh.
01:00:30Cheer.
01:00:31Boyfriend.
01:00:33Danny.
01:00:35Leave.
01:00:36Can you imagine?
01:00:37Yeah.
01:00:39So I've just done
01:00:40a cheeky stay.
01:00:42That's lovely.
01:00:43Where's the love part
01:00:44this week?
01:00:45It was in a rush.
01:00:46Oh, okay.
01:00:49This week,
01:00:50I think,
01:00:50for you, Danny,
01:00:53clearly
01:00:53and plainly,
01:00:55let her know
01:00:56how you feel
01:00:57about her.
01:00:59Everything that you
01:01:00wrote on those
01:01:00post-it notes,
01:01:02translate that
01:01:03into your verbal
01:01:03communication with her
01:01:04this week
01:01:05because it worked.
01:01:06It's been the best
01:01:06week of my life.
01:01:10You got a big
01:01:11thumbs up for that
01:01:12so do more of that.
01:01:14Make her that priority.
01:01:21Thank you both.
01:01:22Thank you so much.
01:01:23Appreciate you.
01:01:41We'll see you next time.
01:01:43Tomorrow night.
01:01:45The experiment goes across the country.
01:01:48Welcome home.
01:01:50Wow.
01:01:51Home stays week
01:01:52has arrived.
01:01:54Over two big nights,
01:01:55our couples get a glimpse
01:01:57of what married life will look like
01:02:00beyond the experiment.
01:02:02Woo, passenger princess!
01:02:04Stephen sets sail on an exciting new future with Rachel.
01:02:08This is such a special place for him.
01:02:10How lucky am I for him to have welcomed me into this?
01:02:13I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.
01:02:16Oh, hang on.
01:02:20My vibes on the wedding day weren't really positive,
01:02:23and I'm here to protect her.
01:02:25Stella's outspoken guests from her wedding day are back.
01:02:28So, like, I've...
01:02:30I'm getting... Sorry to interrupt you.
01:02:31I'm getting some not-so-confident vibes from over here.
01:02:36And then...
01:02:37Welcome.
01:02:38Scott shows off to Gia his waterside home.
01:02:42Oh, it's a bit messy.
01:02:43So random.
01:02:45Weird.
01:02:45This wouldn't be big enough.
01:02:46It'd be better if that wasn't there.
01:02:48Is Gia the most high-maintenance house guest Scott's ever seen?
01:02:52Um, my house is way cleaner.
01:02:55Yeah, I couldn't live here.
01:02:57If the roles were reversed and I was at Gia's house,
01:02:59I wouldn't say anything but nice things.
01:03:09You
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