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Married at First Sight Australia - Season 13 - Episode 32
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00:00:01Previously...
00:00:01Welcome home!
00:00:03The homestays saw some lock-in plans for their lives beyond the experiment.
00:00:08I'm open to moving now.
00:00:10I've got everything that I want in an apartment.
00:00:12I've got my reassurances.
00:00:14We are coming out stronger.
00:00:16Stephen stepped up, giving Rachel reassurance for their future.
00:00:20What I see is a wife outside the experiment.
00:00:26After a tense few days on the farm, Sam and Chris made a shock decision.
00:00:32I can't see this working.
00:00:34It's all good. It is what it is.
00:00:35It's not how I envisioned it would end.
00:00:38I really thought Chris would fight for me a bit.
00:00:41You want to have a family.
00:00:43You don't want to keep putting it off.
00:00:46Following advice from her mother, Alyssa began to spiral.
00:00:49I'm just getting very overwhelmed with what I have at stake here
00:00:54and what I could potentially be walking away from.
00:00:56Leaving David disheartened...
00:00:58The way Alyssa is handling the situation, it is making me uneasy.
00:01:03Tonight...
00:01:04Throughout this experiment, I have been patient.
00:01:06But when you're dealing with the mum, the family, friends,
00:01:10they all said that I'm a great guy for her,
00:01:12and she still sees negatives, there's nothing else I can do.
00:01:16Has David reached his limit?
00:01:18That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:01:21You never say space.
00:01:24It's the second last dinner party of the experiment.
00:01:28I can see we can do life together,
00:01:30but I feel a lot more confident now that we can take this out onto the outside.
00:01:34Have Rachel and Stephen become this year's new power couple?
00:01:38Who would have thought?
00:01:39Who would have thought?
00:01:41The person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:01:45But babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:01:48Tensions rise when Sam and Chris air their concerns.
00:01:51You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey.
00:01:55And I've never been aggressive to you.
00:01:58And then...
00:01:59I think, like, for me, as a man, I feel like...
00:02:03Oh, God.
00:02:04Oh, my God.
00:02:06What are you on about?
00:02:07Yeah.
00:02:08It's the shock debate that will divide the table.
00:02:12That was not what I was getting at.
00:02:14Are we serious for this?
00:02:30Our couples have returned from their homestay.
00:02:33And our brides and grooms are enjoying a new sense of closeness.
00:02:38After stepping into the life that could be waiting for them outside the experiment.
00:02:43Hi.
00:02:45Hey.
00:02:45Bonjour.
00:02:46Bonjour.
00:02:47Recharged and hopeful, the couples now turn their attention to the second last dinner party
00:02:53of the experiment, eager to reconnect after time apart.
00:02:58Are you excited?
00:02:59I am excited because it's been a very long time since we caught up with everyone.
00:03:05We don't know what the hell is going on.
00:03:08It's going to be exciting.
00:03:10A lot of guys to come up.
00:03:12This is...
00:03:12I'll be straight up with you.
00:03:13This is the most anticipated dinner party I'm looking forward to.
00:03:17Yeah.
00:03:17Really?
00:03:18How come?
00:03:18We went through...
00:03:20The ups and downs.
00:03:21We went through the ups and downs.
00:03:21The trenches.
00:03:23But coming out of the end of it, good.
00:03:25Yeah.
00:03:26Everything's...
00:03:26Everything is exactly where it needs to be.
00:03:28For Rachel and Stephen, Homestays sparked a breakthrough in their marriage, unlocking a new confidence
00:03:35in their relationship.
00:03:37Hello, hello.
00:03:38Hello, sexy.
00:03:39Looking good.
00:03:40I appreciate that.
00:03:41I like the red.
00:03:42Right now, we've just come off the back of Homestays and it was amazing.
00:03:46Something definitely clicked for Stephen and I.
00:03:48It was that this could work.
00:03:51I think that's really what it is.
00:03:53I'm ready to, like, load up the boat again and get straight back up to the Central Coast
00:03:57and just, you know, start hanging out and yeah.
00:04:01So, it was really good.
00:04:02We had such...
00:04:04It was such a great Homestay and I'm actually just really excited to share that with everyone.
00:04:09And that's it.
00:04:10I'm glad you had a good time and you could see, you know, a little bit of my lifestyle.
00:04:16After Homestays, it's given me confidence.
00:04:18I feel a little bit better outside the experiment now.
00:04:21Like I said to Rachel, can I see myself falling in love with you?
00:04:26Yes, I can.
00:04:27And I mean that and Homestays really gave me confidence in that.
00:04:32I think we're really lucky.
00:04:34You know, other couples may not have had a good Homestay,
00:04:37so we're really lucky to have had the good experience that we did.
00:04:42While Homestays brought some closer...
00:04:46For Scott, welcoming Gia into his home presented new challenges.
00:04:51What's that?
00:04:52It's a neck brace.
00:04:54Why is it pink?
00:04:55Why is it pink? Why not?
00:04:57You're trying to find a problem.
00:04:59Is it your ex or something?
00:05:00Yeah.
00:05:00Do you trust me? Like, do you trust my words?
00:05:03Do you trust me as a person?
00:05:04Yeah, I trust you.
00:05:06Yeah, why?
00:05:08I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells because I feel like if I want to bring up something,
00:05:12I feel like you might misinterpret it the wrong way.
00:05:15I know I trust you, but can I commit to moving and everything if you never feel like, you know,
00:05:21that you love me?
00:05:22But back at the apartments, eternal optimist Scott is determined to hit reset and look on the bright side.
00:05:29I feel great.
00:05:31I just feel good walking into this dinner party, being able to share, like, good moments that we've had.
00:05:36I feel like it'll be good.
00:05:37Like, I feel like tonight's going to be a really good, positive night to share what we've done for Homestays.
00:05:43Yeah.
00:05:44At the end of Homestays, we had a bit of a discussion, but we hashed it out.
00:05:50Today, we're going to the dinner party with positive attitude, we're great, we're in a really good place.
00:05:54I want to keep it like that.
00:05:57Yeah, I mean, I'm pretty happy with where we're at.
00:06:01I'm coming to the end now, this is the last or second last one.
00:06:04Mm.
00:06:05So, yeah.
00:06:07Do you think it would cause problems if you, you know, raised some concerns?
00:06:12Oh.
00:06:16Pretty much.
00:06:18Let's just do it, get it done.
00:06:20I'm excited.
00:06:21You look good, we feel good, and I'm ready to walk into a nice dinner party.
00:06:27Yep, me too.
00:06:30For Bec and Danny, what began as a promising homestay took a dramatic turn.
00:06:36If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you, they would.
00:06:43I think, obviously, because Danielle fancied me, she didn't want to, like...
00:06:49I'm joking.
00:06:51I'm joking.
00:06:52I'm joking.
00:06:52It's like a serious moment.
00:06:56These moments make me feel like shit.
00:06:58It's serious for me.
00:07:00You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say,
00:07:04oh, your cousin wants to me.
00:07:06Like...
00:07:07I never said that.
00:07:08Yeah.
00:07:08I'm done.
00:07:09You're a f*****g boy.
00:07:10f*****g boy.
00:07:11F*****g thing.
00:07:14F*****g.
00:07:15And now back at the apartments, an even bigger shock awaits.
00:07:23so since we got back to sydney from homestays things are great like cheers baby cheers girl
00:07:31the last night like since we've been back like there's not really any need to talk about it like
00:07:35he made a joke it frustrated me he got frustrated with me and then we wake up the next morning
00:07:42we
00:07:42give each other a cuddle we have a shag and we move on cheers it's all blown over like
00:07:50shocking oh stop it for most couples homestays brought them together but for one couple it
00:07:59marked the end of the road going to the dinner fight tonight yeah i'm going alone and obviously
00:08:06chris and i left each other at homestays i wrote some questions down and maybe we could just be
00:08:12like really raw and honest with each other about all the answers first question is do you accept
00:08:20full responsibility for your defensiveness and the aggression i felt from you last week
00:08:29yeah you don't have to agree yeah no i agree i just feel like we've just i've already suffered
00:08:34enough from this i honestly felt like i was um 15 getting in trouble by a teacher or something
00:08:39do you have feelings for me um okay um in the beginning uh yes but i just think um yeah
00:08:52we also
00:08:52have some um differences as well and i just want to put my dad hat on and like live my
00:08:59best life
00:09:01homestays was my last plea to see if he was going to fight for me at all
00:09:06but chris just kind of gave up so i did break up with chris on the farm but i'm going
00:09:14to the dinner
00:09:14party because i want that last chance to sort of just like find out why chris actually didn't want
00:09:21this relationship i just want clarity on what the hell happened but sam isn't the only one struggling
00:09:30with the fallout of their homestay during their trip to adelaide alissa received a wake-up call
00:09:37obviously i want to settle down in adelaide but what are your thoughts about me moving to sydney
00:09:43just for a couple of years i would hate that
00:09:49um you know you want to have a family and you don't want to keep putting it off
00:09:56people sometimes take 10 years to fall pregnant that's the truth yeah i know about mom i don't
00:10:01know that yeah i've never tried that's right but you don't know that a couple of years
00:10:06i don't think you've got a couple of years to wait
00:10:12it's really stressful now and after a confronting conversation with her mum
00:10:18alissa unraveled and david was left wondering where he fits i will be honest with you
00:10:26i i started to spiral like i want to have a family in the next few years
00:10:33don't want to miss out on being a mum and if we're going to make this thing work
00:10:37david might have to move to adelaide alissa i'm really sorry babe i have to ask this to you
00:10:43you've sat here and you've talked a lot about what your wants and needs are
00:10:49what about yeah david now back at the apartments david has had a wake-up call of his own
00:11:00oh man i'm feeling at my limit post home stays
00:11:09can i see myself living in adelaide absolutely but you know after having you know come back to sydney
00:11:16and having time to just come down from the high of home stays i am feeling a bit low and
00:11:22that is
00:11:22because there were a couple things that have still like trinkled in the back of my mind
00:11:29could you see yourself living here to be honest yeah
00:11:36i know that you're willing to move here which is great but i don't know i feel like i'm getting
00:11:42overwhelmed with it because you're like literally overwhelmed i am i am i am because it's like
00:11:48a lot david actually is everything that you've asked i know right now this is too good to be true
00:11:55like and that is also another reason why i'm scared too throughout this experiment i have been patient
00:12:02because i know there is something in this relationship to fight for
00:12:06but when you get to that point where like you're dealing with like the mom the family
00:12:11friends they all said that i'm a great guy for her and she still sees negatives there's nothing else i
00:12:18can do i've hit my limit and i'm not going to push any further it's getting very real that i
00:12:25could
00:12:25potentially be putting everything on the line for someone who doesn't want to to meet me halfway
00:12:33so today i know i need to be honest for me i think it's important to just express how i
00:12:38feel
00:12:40looking handsome thanks babe you're looking gorgeous i love the dress thank you well we're
00:12:44kind of almost matching
00:12:48how are you feeling going to the dinner party after homestays
00:12:54homestays was a massive massive week so i'm at the point where like i said you know i'm happy to
00:13:01give all the space you need i'll take the space i need because i definitely need space
00:13:08yeah like i feel like i've just gone put it all on the line
00:13:12and you know at the end i'm not going to force anything
00:13:18that's the first time i've ever said heard you say that you need space
00:13:22i know but you never say space you're always like you're more like let's like whatever this is the
00:13:28first time you've ever said space yeah i know that that kind of like rattled me a little bit
00:13:33normally i'm the one that needs space so you know what if he needs space gladly because i need space
00:13:40right now just from my head and i don't need any of this pressure right now i feel like i'm
00:13:45at my tether
00:13:46i feel like he's at his tether we're both tired and he's been snoring louder than usual like it's just
00:13:51been a bit of a emotional roller coaster the reason i need space because yeah i am a calm person
00:13:58but i'm getting to my limit where i just need to take some space for my own brain because i
00:14:04feel
00:14:04like i put my cards on the table but it almost felt like you were just looking for the negatives
00:14:09and when someone's looking for the negatives too much of why things can't work like i'm not going to
00:14:14force that i'm not going to force a connection if it's just me looking for the positives and someone
00:14:18else is looking for anything to be like why this can't work i would be lying to you if i
00:14:27said i
00:14:27wasn't questioning things right now and questioning our relationship i am in that headspace so i'm not
00:14:35going into the dinner party with elissa feeling my best self i'm sure you're in a similar boat babe i'm
00:14:41just as as tired as you yeah exactly i'm just this is time exactly yeah i'm just as tired as
00:14:47you i get it
00:14:58it'll be the honor of getting up let's get out of here yep let's go
00:15:05up to you off to me thanks off to the gallows we go
00:15:14don't want to do this
00:15:28well dinner party number seven the second last one before we wind this all up and it is a very
00:15:36important one because they've come back from the homestays as they start to get a glimpse of what their
00:15:42life will be like with this person in the real world this is a really crucial part of the
00:15:49experiment for them because some of them will bond closer together through the homestays i think it's
00:15:55going to be really good what about you i'm excited whereas others will start to really fall apart and
00:16:01question their overall compatibility with their matches
00:16:08it's noisy they'll hear that in the mics they'll hear that and you do that all the time you don't
00:16:14even realize
00:16:19well the homestays throws up the ultimate question could this relationship last in the
00:16:24outside world we're going to see you tonight
00:16:33oh first in first one's in
00:16:38rachel and steve-o
00:16:39no one to talk to you but ourselves are you sick of talking to me yet
00:16:44straight to the bar straight to the bar babes i don't think i've seen steven look so relaxed
00:16:50and so really walking in with rachel yes very unified tell me one thank you that's good oh my gosh
00:17:00thank you so much gotta look after you oh i appreciate it me and rachel we're good we've
00:17:07walked into the cocktail party we're first in there we're pouring drinks we're cracking jokes
00:17:11i'll just take this with me oh you're gonna take that okay probably the most relaxed i've ever been in
00:17:16a cocktail party we're in a good place we're both so keen to uh get out of this experiment see
00:17:33where
00:17:33life takes us especially after the homestays all righty oh my gosh here we are cheers hopefully uh
00:17:40ah you know it's just us we can have all the food and the drink i mean i wouldn't be
00:17:45mad about it
00:17:46babes i mean i'm just i think i'm just really really excited to share how much fun we had
00:17:54and like and how good
00:17:58isn't that nice that a couple is sitting here talking about themselves not everybody else yes this is great
00:18:04oh chicken yeah you're gonna make you blush and the enthusiasm yeah in rachel's voice and face as
00:18:13she is just excited to tell people the good news they had a good week
00:18:26stop rubbing your name oh
00:18:31me i'm trying to understand you because i don't understand you you're confusing the
00:18:35out of me well
00:18:50this whole i'm at my limit i need space it sounds really bad
00:18:58does it
00:19:28yes
00:19:30so maybe we gotta word it different it's not taking space from each other it's just taking
00:19:35space to process everything okay oh look who it is oh my god oh my gosh oh alissa and david
00:19:51hang on how are you mate dude that's all i can do
00:19:55good to see you likewise man looking good oh that's some energy there isn't it oh yeah we've got a
00:20:06lot to evaluate let's just get some uh evaluate okay okay
00:20:18so are you prepared for everyone to find out that i'm a better fisherman than you or oh hang on
00:20:23whoa
00:20:28walking into the cocktail party tonight you know i was obviously i've been on a low post the home stays
00:20:35i've sort of just been feeling deflated
00:20:40oh right in my face and i did make it known to alyssa that you know i am sort of
00:20:44one in my own space you
00:20:46know in my head just to sort of figure things out um so i did walk in on a low
00:21:12walk in on a low post and i was like you know we're not perfect we still have a
00:21:16couple things to work on. Get a drink and get in here, brother. I always look at the bright side.
00:21:20If there's something that's really bad, I just see the more good in someone. Can we carry that?
00:21:25Thanks.
00:21:29All right, Chris, why don't you tell me what's running through your head and going into this?
00:21:33One saving grace for me is that last time I was in this car with Sam, it was just so
00:21:38yucky and
00:21:39awkward. So I'm grateful not to have that, you know, at the moment. Well, it was so awkward,
00:21:45you could cut the tension with a knife. And I could not wait to get out of the car. I
00:21:50just hope
00:21:52this, you know, situation with Sam and I can get squashed pretty quickly so I can have a couple
00:21:57of shams and try and enjoy my night. Yeah, no, this is definitely not how I expected to be going
00:22:03to a
00:22:04dinner party in the experiment. I think Chris and I started off really strong and everything was going
00:22:07good. And then at some point he just flipped and it all just sort of fell apart. And I don't
00:22:11really
00:22:12know what that flip was into him.
00:22:17You know if Sam's coming tonight?
00:22:19Oh, I definitely know he'll be going. Yeah.
00:22:21He wants to go to get the whole group's opinion and two cents on our dirty laundry.
00:22:28But you know what? There's two sides to this story. And coming to the dinner party to back
00:22:33myself and say my side of the story.
00:22:41Yeah. And that's what we're going to be.
00:22:43Oh!
00:22:44Oh!
00:22:47Oh!
00:22:48Oh!
00:22:49Chris is alone.
00:22:50How are you going?
00:22:51Oh!
00:22:51Oh!
00:22:51Okay, that's a surprise.
00:22:53Hi.
00:22:54Hey, bud.
00:22:55So Chris walks in solo.
00:22:58Well, shit.
00:23:00That's not my prediction.
00:23:02Drink, drink, let's go drink, let's go drink, let's go drink, let's go drink.
00:23:04I mean they were very bad at the commitment ceremony. Chris had written leave, Sam was absolutely
00:23:09in tears about it all. There was a hope at the homestay they might be able to turn it
00:23:13around. But this looks like it's actually not been salvaged.
00:23:18The brown's orange.
00:23:19Yeah, yeah, I'm alright.
00:23:20You look very tanned.
00:23:21Thanks, babe.
00:23:22The fit's good.
00:23:23The fit's good.
00:23:23My life's not.
00:23:24I would love one, babe, thank you.
00:23:25Your life is okay.
00:23:27Yeah, thanks, babe.
00:23:27You've got this shit, babe.
00:23:28You've got this shit.
00:23:29Yes, obviously it didn't work out.
00:23:31Oh, okay.
00:23:32Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:23:33No, it's fine.
00:23:33I feel like maybe Sam and I can unpack it together.
00:23:36Okay, alright.
00:23:37So you don't want to talk about that?
00:23:38No, I'll give you, I'll give you a little run, I'll give you a little rundown.
00:23:41It's really hard seeing them not walking together.
00:23:43Because I genuinely had hope that they would get past this.
00:23:48Seeing Chris walking in by himself, like, it was genuinely, like, pretty heartbreaks.
00:23:54Basically, um, yeah, Sam ended it with me two days into homestays.
00:23:59He ended it with you.
00:24:00This is the second day.
00:24:01He ended it.
00:24:02Yeah.
00:24:02He ended it with you.
00:24:04Yeah.
00:24:04Oh, Sam ended it.
00:24:06I wonder why.
00:24:08So, yes.
00:24:08I wonder why.
00:24:10Obviously we had, like, a, you know, a pretty bad couch session.
00:24:14I took accountability.
00:24:15I decided that I wanted to learn and grow from the feedback that I got.
00:24:18Yes, you said that.
00:24:19Um, so I went into homestays trying to turn it around.
00:24:21Gia knows.
00:24:22I spoke with you about it.
00:24:23Yeah.
00:24:24Boarding flowers, made him dinner.
00:24:25I tried everything that I could to turn it around.
00:24:27But unfortunately, um, yeah, it didn't work for us.
00:24:30And it was really, it was a real shock because I thought we were actually doing quite well.
00:24:33Like, you know, I started to get those feelings back for him again, so.
00:24:37So Chris was saying he started getting feelings for Sam again.
00:24:40Okay.
00:24:41So he was shocked by it.
00:24:43Wow.
00:24:43Blindsided.
00:24:45So, it's pretty, it's pretty sad.
00:24:47Um, but I respect Sam's decision to exit.
00:24:50Um, and we actually weren't even going to come tonight.
00:24:52Like, they, we, he left the farm.
00:24:54We were just going to leave it at that because we unpacked a lot of it.
00:24:57Um, but I've decided to give Sam the respect of coming tonight so we can both talk to you guys
00:25:01about it.
00:25:02Yeah.
00:25:02And, um, let you know what's happened and then sit in front of the experts and get their advice.
00:25:07But, like, no ill feelings towards Sam.
00:25:08I respect his decision.
00:25:10But, yeah, she's single again.
00:25:12Oh, thank you.
00:25:15I love you.
00:25:16Yeah.
00:25:18Alyssa, how was yours?
00:25:20Uh, I feel like I'm still processing everything.
00:25:26Yep.
00:25:27It's crunch time, right?
00:25:28It's crunch time.
00:25:28For you guys, yeah.
00:25:31Um, but we'll talk about it later at the dinner party.
00:25:36Okay.
00:25:40Phil.
00:25:41Hey!
00:25:43Hey!
00:25:44Hey!
00:25:44Hey!
00:25:44Phillip and Stella.
00:25:45Hi, babe.
00:25:47You look amazing.
00:25:48Hi.
00:25:49How you going?
00:25:49How you doing?
00:25:51How you doing?
00:25:51How you doing?
00:25:52How you doing?
00:25:54The best part?
00:25:55We had a really good home state, you know?
00:25:57I got clarity.
00:25:58So, it's been decided.
00:26:00Uh, I will be making that move happen sooner rather than later.
00:26:03He looks tan.
00:26:04Do you not spray tan?
00:26:06Huh?
00:26:06Do you not spray tan?
00:26:07We went to the beach.
00:26:08What the hell?
00:26:08And I just thought, you know what?
00:26:10Like, it's time to go for an adventure.
00:26:15Hey!
00:26:16Hey!
00:26:17I love the distraction!
00:26:20Ah, he's Beck and Danny.
00:26:22Beck and Danny.
00:26:24Hello.
00:26:25How are you?
00:26:25I'm feeling phenomenal walking into this cocktail party tonight.
00:26:29Danny and I are in a great spot.
00:26:32We are planning our future together.
00:26:34Cheers.
00:26:36We had great homestays and I've got no beef with anyone.
00:26:39Oh, my God.
00:26:39Pigs fly.
00:26:40What the hell?
00:26:41I'm not arguing with anyone.
00:26:44Hello.
00:26:45How was homestays?
00:26:46Cheers.
00:26:47Cheers.
00:26:47How'd you go?
00:26:48How was Adelaide?
00:26:49Oh, we did.
00:26:50Yeah.
00:26:51We had a great time.
00:26:52It was good.
00:26:53Like, I got back and I was a bit drained, to tell you the truth.
00:26:58It was, it's a lot.
00:27:00Like, I felt a bit uncomfortable in our house and I felt a bit out of place.
00:27:03And it made me think about, like, the logistics of the move more.
00:27:07Like, how it's going to work.
00:27:09Or, or, because I'm not just going to move in with that.
00:27:11Of course.
00:27:11And live, like, ah, put my feet up.
00:27:14This is rent-free.
00:27:15Yeah.
00:27:15That doesn't sit well with me.
00:27:16So, it just solidified there's more things we need to talk about.
00:27:20Of course.
00:27:20Of course.
00:27:23So.
00:27:24Yeah.
00:27:24We're going to do it, I think.
00:27:25Yeah, awesome.
00:27:26Crazy.
00:27:28Love it.
00:27:29I think Danny and I are probably the strongest in the experiment, if I'm honest with you.
00:27:33And, like, it feels like it can only go up from here.
00:27:37Yeah.
00:27:41Coming up.
00:27:42I would never just move in.
00:27:44Danny's jaw-dropping confession.
00:27:47From my point of view, anyway, I suppose everyone looks at it different.
00:27:49But it makes you feel like a ****.
00:27:51Has the whole table talking.
00:27:53What?
00:27:54Are you on it now?
00:27:55I'll be honest.
00:27:56I'll be honest.
00:27:57Oh, God.
00:27:58Oh, my God.
00:28:10Oh, my God.
00:28:11Here we go.
00:28:17When did you talk to him last?
00:28:18The last time he spoke to me was the Friday after he left.
00:28:24And all he said was that he wanted to come to the dinner party for the ceremony.
00:28:29Yeah, I don't know what the energy's gonna be like with Sam.
00:28:31I hope he comes in, like, nice.
00:28:34I just, yeah, I just can't deal with any more, you know.
00:28:45Yo!
00:28:48Hello, everyone.
00:28:49Oh, here's Sam.
00:28:49Here he is.
00:28:51How you going?
00:28:52Good, how are you?
00:28:52Good.
00:28:53You look nice.
00:28:54Yeah, how are you?
00:28:55Not too bad.
00:28:56Hello.
00:28:59Sam.
00:29:00How are you, Matt?
00:29:01I'm hugging, like, chest height, but I've got a vertical problem.
00:29:06Hey, look at me, brother.
00:29:07Thanks, thanks, thanks.
00:29:08You're gonna get a drink.
00:29:09Come on, let's get your drink.
00:29:09Let's get a drink.
00:29:10I hope he doesn't come at me, like.
00:29:12Why are you worried?
00:29:13Oh, I just, just, just.
00:29:15No, I just can't deal with it, like.
00:29:18Alright.
00:29:19No, you're okay.
00:29:21How are you?
00:29:23How are you?
00:29:23Are you okay?
00:29:24Uh.
00:29:25I just feel a bit like, there was no real effort while we're away.
00:29:29Really?
00:29:29But we'll get into it at the table, yeah.
00:29:31No, no, no.
00:29:31He's given us a bit of a brief.
00:29:35What was he saying?
00:29:36Just, um, that you guys, you know, went to homestays, like, he cooked dinner one night,
00:29:40or you guys had dinner one night, and he thought the first night was going okay.
00:29:44Um, and then obviously you guys both had a chat and decided that it wasn't right.
00:29:49Yeah.
00:29:51Dude, he didn't drive.
00:29:54You're eating up his bullshit.
00:29:57Don't eat up his bullshit.
00:30:02Dinner is served.
00:30:03Okay, let's go eat.
00:30:05Let's go, babes.
00:30:06You got it.
00:30:06Let's go, mate.
00:30:10Alrighty.
00:30:10Yay!
00:30:12Well, let's hope that now that dinner's about to begin, we will get to the bottom of what
00:30:16actually happened at the homestay between Sam and Chris.
00:30:19Yes.
00:30:20We need to understand what actually went on there.
00:30:23Cheers, guys.
00:30:25Cheers.
00:30:32You got the, um, you got the tits out again?
00:30:34Oh, yeah.
00:30:37Tits out for the boys.
00:30:38I love this beer.
00:30:40Dull.
00:30:41Yes.
00:30:42Yeah.
00:30:44Yeah.
00:30:53Wow.
00:30:55It's very tints, isn't it?
00:30:57Chris, Sam.
00:31:07I really want to talk about, from our perspective, what led me to the decision to end things.
00:31:12Yeah.
00:31:12And how I felt the whole homestay, so.
00:31:14Yeah.
00:31:15Yeah.
00:31:15Yeah.
00:31:15Yeah.
00:31:18Tonight is going to be shit.
00:31:23I...
00:31:24Sam and I have already hashed this out at the farm.
00:31:26Um, we're revisiting it in front of the group.
00:31:29So for me, this is not comfortable.
00:31:32Um, I'm hoping that we can get it out of the way quickly.
00:31:34And I just want to get this over and done with.
00:31:39I hope Sam gets the closure that he needs and we can, um, yeah, move on.
00:31:44I feel like we both just need to say everything that got us to this point.
00:31:48Um, especially with meeting the experts tomorrow, I want to get as much as I can out of this experience.
00:31:53Um, yeah, we've mentioned it at the cocktail party that we, you know, well, you decided to, um, end it.
00:32:01So, um, yeah, like I, I didn't...
00:32:03You didn't really fight that at all.
00:32:05You were like, also just like, okay.
00:32:07Because I, I hadn't given so much to try and make it work.
00:32:10I don't want to come.
00:32:15Oh my God.
00:32:16Here we go again.
00:32:20If Chris thinks that's loads of effort, I feel sorry for anybody he ends up with in the future.
00:32:26Like...
00:32:27Yeah.
00:32:31Can I ask a question?
00:32:34How did Sam end the relationship and where and how did it happen?
00:32:37Could I tell the whole story?
00:32:38I just want everyone, I want you guys both to say it.
00:32:41Yeah, so homestays, obviously you all saw the last commitment ceremony.
00:32:45Um, I wrote, stay and Chris wrote leave.
00:32:48And that was really hard for me to battle with personally because I did have feelings for Chris.
00:32:53So I like, obviously now I'm very nervous going into homestays.
00:32:56And we get to the car to drive down and I'm like, just sitting in the car and it's so
00:33:02uncomfortable.
00:33:03And I'm, I like literally just like shut my eyes and kind of pretend that I'm sleeping.
00:33:07And then I get to the farm and then I do try to have fun and have a good time.
00:33:12I wake up the next morning and Chris is nowhere to be seen.
00:33:17No message, no note.
00:33:21And I'm just there sitting for an hour in his house at his place with no car, just by myself.
00:33:27And then he rocks up, he's like, oh, I just went to the gym this morning.
00:33:29It was really windy last night.
00:33:30And I'm like, okay, cool.
00:33:32And like, this is when I'm starting to feel like, are you, do you really want me here?
00:33:35Do you like really want to show me how much you want this relationship to work?
00:33:42Look, for me, it was letting him sleep a little bit longer.
00:33:45Yes.
00:33:48We're not interrupting each other tonight, right?
00:33:52Oh God.
00:33:53Okay.
00:33:54Can I keep going with my story then?
00:33:56Yeah.
00:33:58So then we come to the fire the next night and this is when I'm like, this is my last
00:34:03plea here.
00:34:04Like, I'm going to try and see if he really wants to fight for this, if he really wants this
00:34:08relationship to work.
00:34:09And I had written down questions that were all just about what the expert said.
00:34:15Going through all these questions and then he starts to get a bit shorter with them because he's sick of
00:34:18talking about it.
00:34:19And then I'm like, Chris, do you even have feelings for me?
00:34:23And he goes, oh, you know, with what's happened over the last couple of weeks, I feel like my feelings
00:34:27are pretty damaged.
00:34:28And like, I don't really know if I do anymore.
00:34:35And I'm like, well, then what am I doing here?
00:34:40Then I was just like, well, then do we just end it here?
00:34:42And you were just like, yeah, I think that's probably like right to do.
00:34:46And what I don't understand is where I hurt your feelings and where you lost your feelings for me.
00:34:56What I honestly feel like happened is that you just like did the bare minimum.
00:35:01Got me flowers so that you could come here tonight and say, I did this for Sam.
00:35:05I tried.
00:35:06But like, I know that you were checked out of this relationship already.
00:35:09I know you didn't want to give it a go.
00:35:16If I'm honest, and I have to be honest, it seems like you're putting a lot on Chris.
00:35:22Yep.
00:35:23And just because we have expectations to fill our cup fully doesn't mean this other person is not trying.
00:35:30Hold on, hold on a second.
00:35:33Let's not forget that like the week before Sam was in a world of pain alone being correct.
00:35:42Yeah, of course.
00:35:43But hang on a second.
00:35:43Hang on a minute.
00:35:44Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:35:46Sorry.
00:35:46I've got to say something here.
00:35:49Beck needs to mind her business.
00:35:51I don't know how her homestays went, but that should be her focus.
00:35:54We're a couple of weeks out of final bowels.
00:35:56Don't worry about your man doll.
00:35:59I'm not going to let anyone sit here and say, your expectations are too high.
00:36:03When Sam sat there in tears by himself, not knowing which way was up and which way was down for
00:36:09a whole week,
00:36:09because the person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:36:14Like, let's all just take a step back here.
00:36:16Babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:36:20I get this.
00:36:21You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey, so just pipe it down a little
00:36:26bit.
00:36:34Sam sat there in tears by himself, not knowing which way was up and which way was down for a
00:36:40whole week,
00:36:40because the person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:36:45Like, let's all just take a step back here.
00:36:47Babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner.
00:36:48at the dinner parties.
00:36:52You're in no position to be giving someone feedback
00:36:54about their behaviour, honey,
00:36:55so just pipe it down a little bit.
00:36:59But I've never been aggressive to you.
00:37:02Can I speak now?
00:37:03First of all, hand on heart,
00:37:06I tried my hardest to turn it around.
00:37:10I got the feedback from the experts.
00:37:12I took it on board.
00:37:13I took accountability.
00:37:14I realised that I wanted to grow and learn as a person.
00:37:17And I wanted to come out the other end.
00:37:19And I'm sorry, but I was doing that.
00:37:21And I thought we had a good day.
00:37:22And, like, you pulled the notepad out
00:37:24and then asked me the questions.
00:37:26And I just, for me, I felt like, you know,
00:37:29like, can we just live in the moment?
00:37:30Can we just have a bit of fun?
00:37:31But do you understand with the questions,
00:37:33there are things that were burning inside sand
00:37:36that he needs answers to?
00:37:37Yeah, cool, I'll keep talking, babes.
00:37:40So I felt uncomfortable, but I stayed calm
00:37:44and I answered the questions as best as I could.
00:37:47But you ended it with me.
00:37:49You said, like...
00:37:49Yeah, I know.
00:37:50Yeah.
00:37:51Can I just say something?
00:37:52The reason I ended it is because I asked Chris,
00:37:56do you still have feelings for me?
00:37:59If you were trying so hard
00:38:01and you thought that everything was what you're saying,
00:38:04then at that point you should have said,
00:38:05Sam, yes, I have feelings for you.
00:38:11Can I ask a question?
00:38:13Do you feel like when Chris said leave
00:38:16the other week at the last commitment,
00:38:18sir, I know it really hurt you.
00:38:19Like, you were really upset.
00:38:20We could see that.
00:38:21Do you think that that really hurt you
00:38:24to a point where...
00:38:25Had you already made up your mind?
00:38:26I hadn't made my mind.
00:38:27That just hurt me to the point where...
00:38:29This is why I think I needed so much from Chris.
00:38:32Because I was really hurt that he said he wanted to leave.
00:38:34That he had already given up.
00:38:35So I'm like, I need to see from you
00:38:36that you haven't given up completely.
00:38:38And I get maybe for you what you did was enough,
00:38:41but for me it wasn't.
00:38:42And then I decided that based on the fact
00:38:44that what you did wasn't enough for my expectations,
00:38:46the call happened.
00:38:47I ended things because I wasn't getting
00:38:49what I wanted from Chris.
00:38:50And if that's not what he can give,
00:38:51because he's got kids and he's got fun,
00:38:53he's got everything else...
00:38:54Then you're not ultimately a good man.
00:39:02It's really upsetting that it hasn't worked out.
00:39:04Between Sam and Chris.
00:39:06Because I care for both boys.
00:39:08But listening to both sides of the story,
00:39:11I'm like...
00:39:13They're not speaking the same language.
00:39:15And they're singing different things.
00:39:17And I don't think they're going to align tonight.
00:39:22Just, unfortunately, it hasn't worked.
00:39:23I don't want this to be yucky.
00:39:24I just want to be amicable.
00:39:26I don't want it to be yucky either.
00:39:27It's not yucky though, is it?
00:39:28It's not yucky.
00:39:30Don't mistake passion for anger.
00:39:32I think you're both passionate.
00:39:33It's not yucky, in my opinion.
00:39:34You're both just ironing it out.
00:39:37We do love you both.
00:39:38We love you a lot.
00:39:40Yeah.
00:39:40100%.
00:39:41Kings.
00:39:42I think it's really sad what's happened with Sam and Chris.
00:39:45I love them as people and I love them together.
00:39:47And I'm getting this feeling of, like,
00:39:50Chris did try.
00:39:52The way he knew how.
00:39:54And it wasn't enough for Sam.
00:39:56It's a hard one.
00:40:07So, Beck and Danny,
00:40:09how about you guys?
00:40:11You're next.
00:40:12How was your homestays?
00:40:13We had such a good homestays, didn't we?
00:40:18If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you,
00:40:23they would.
00:40:24I think, obviously, because Danielle fancied me.
00:40:29I'm joking.
00:40:30You should be able to say something nice
00:40:31and be genuine about it
00:40:33and then not say,
00:40:34oh, your cousin wants to f*** me.
00:40:35I never said that.
00:40:36There's a camera in my f*** face
00:40:37and you're abusing me over a joke.
00:40:39Dude, there's a camera in my face
00:40:41and you're making a joke of what I'm saying.
00:40:42Yeah, I'm done.
00:40:43F*** me.
00:40:45F*** me.
00:40:46Well, we had, like, two perfect things
00:40:51and then, like, we had a little argument at the end.
00:40:56We had a tiny little ding-dong at the end.
00:41:00It lasted about 15 minutes.
00:41:02I think, like, for me,
00:41:04I don't know for anyone else
00:41:06who experienced, like,
00:41:07going into your partner's home.
00:41:10In that moment,
00:41:11I felt, like, a bit out of place in the house.
00:41:13Like, up until that point,
00:41:14I felt so comfortable,
00:41:16like, so welcome.
00:41:17Not that I was ever, like, unwelcome,
00:41:20but in that moment, arguing, like...
00:41:23Hardly an argument, a ding-dong.
00:41:24But, yeah.
00:41:25Or whatever you want to call it.
00:41:29Whilst Danny did call it an argument,
00:41:31Bec called it a ding-dong,
00:41:32so she's wanting to really contain it.
00:41:34Yes.
00:41:35When we had the disagreement at the house,
00:41:36I felt really uncomfortable
00:41:38because it's not my space,
00:41:39it's your space.
00:41:40Yeah.
00:41:40Do you know what I mean?
00:41:41I don't know if anyone else can...
00:41:42100%.
00:41:43Yeah, so that was sort of something
00:41:45that stuck with me
00:41:46in the sense of, like,
00:41:48moving forward.
00:41:49It made me look at things
00:41:51in a different way
00:41:51in the sense that
00:41:53I'd probably want to...
00:41:55I don't know how I'd want to navigate
00:41:59if I was to move to Adelaide,
00:42:00how the logistics of it would look.
00:42:03As a man...
00:42:06Oh, as a man.
00:42:10I feel like, like...
00:42:11Do you know what you mean?
00:42:12Like, it's more Bec's house
00:42:13than it is my house.
00:42:14Like, moving into her house.
00:42:15Yeah, correct.
00:42:16Like, I'd want to sit down
00:42:17and speak to Bec
00:42:18on a deeper level about that.
00:42:22Because, like,
00:42:23I feel like if you move in
00:42:24with a woman,
00:42:26and, like,
00:42:26I would never just move in...
00:42:30Like, we'd have to talk about that
00:42:32on a deeper level
00:42:32in the sense that, like...
00:42:35I'm not moving out of my house.
00:42:39No, I'm not asking you to,
00:42:40but what I'm saying is, like...
00:42:42It's how he fits into it, babe.
00:42:44Like, yeah,
00:42:45how I fit into it.
00:42:46That's more what I'm saying.
00:42:48And to you right now,
00:42:49you're probably like,
00:42:50that's easy.
00:42:51I know, like...
00:42:52It's just...
00:42:52But, like, I get from Danny's perspective,
00:42:54he's like,
00:42:55I move in,
00:42:55so, like,
00:42:56he's got to get his stuff out.
00:42:57Where does he put his stuff?
00:42:58And we would make space
00:43:00100% for that.
00:43:02From my point of view,
00:43:03I suppose everyone looks at it different,
00:43:04but it makes you feel like
00:43:06a bit of a bitch
00:43:06moving in with a woman.
00:43:08What are you on about?
00:43:24From my point of view,
00:43:25I suppose everyone looks at it different,
00:43:27but it makes you feel like
00:43:28a bit of a bitch
00:43:29moving in with a woman.
00:43:33What are you on about?
00:43:36Oh, no,
00:43:37that's not what I was getting at.
00:43:38Oh, God.
00:43:40Oh, my God.
00:43:41He's talking about
00:43:42feeling emasculated
00:43:43if she was the one
00:43:45who owned the house.
00:43:46And let's not use the term
00:43:48bitch in that way either, Danny.
00:43:50Not cool.
00:43:51We're on 800 square metres
00:43:52five minutes from the city
00:43:54with a $97,000 mortgage
00:43:56and a $3 million house.
00:43:59F***ing me!
00:44:03Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:44:05Like, firstly,
00:44:08you've never said that to me.
00:44:10Women have worked
00:44:11really, really hard
00:44:12to make sure
00:44:13that we've got this
00:44:14multimillion-dollar home
00:44:15in the most affluent
00:44:17suburb of South Australia.
00:44:18So, yeah,
00:44:19you're not going to be a bitch
00:44:20moving into my house.
00:44:22That was not
00:44:23what I was getting at.
00:44:25Are we f***ing serious for this?
00:44:27We're in the 2020s.
00:44:31Emasculated
00:44:31by moving into a home
00:44:32with your woman.
00:44:35I'll be honest,
00:44:35I couldn't go to hers.
00:44:36I want to...
00:44:36Let's grow up.
00:44:38You like to be a provider.
00:44:40Correct.
00:44:40Correct, yeah.
00:44:41I'll be honest,
00:44:42I couldn't go to hers.
00:44:42I'm going to buy the house.
00:44:44I'm going to pay for everything.
00:44:45Like, that's just a manly thing.
00:44:48Dan's a bit like me.
00:44:49He likes to feel like
00:44:51the man, the boss,
00:44:52the alpha male.
00:44:53So, I understand
00:44:53where Danny's coming from.
00:44:54He just wants to feel
00:44:55more masculated
00:44:56in the relationship.
00:44:58We're more traditional
00:44:59in that way too.
00:45:00No, but, like,
00:45:01I get it.
00:45:01Like, I have a...
00:45:02My house is bigger than yours,
00:45:03but it's like,
00:45:04yeah, like...
00:45:05It's a different vibe.
00:45:06I do agree with Danny.
00:45:08I think for a man
00:45:10to feel masculine
00:45:11and his masculine energy,
00:45:12they want to have the house
00:45:13and the woman move into it.
00:45:15I know that's not, like,
00:45:16the norm these days,
00:45:17but, like, I like that
00:45:18and that's what me and Scott
00:45:19are doing, so...
00:45:20I do agree with Danny on that.
00:45:22I think he wants to feel
00:45:24like the man
00:45:24and he has every right
00:45:25to feel like that.
00:45:26I feel like it's emasculating.
00:45:28Like, I get what you're saying.
00:45:29Correct, yeah, yeah.
00:45:29You want your place to be like,
00:45:30here, babe, like,
00:45:31come to me.
00:45:32Like, I'm the man.
00:45:34Like, I think that's, like,
00:45:35where you're coming from.
00:45:36Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:45:38I felt uncomfortable
00:45:40when we argued
00:45:40and it sort of...
00:45:41It made me feel demasculated
00:45:42to, like, be in her house.
00:45:44Yeah, like a bit of a bitch.
00:45:46I've had that discussion
00:45:47with Beck two or three times.
00:45:49I'm not a hit 1990 song
00:45:51on R&B radio
00:45:53that keeps repeating itself,
00:45:54do you know what you mean?
00:45:55I didn't feel uneasy
00:45:56until we had the disagreement,
00:45:58but then I was just like,
00:45:59do you know what you mean, Danny?
00:46:00No, I don't know
00:46:01what you mean, Danny.
00:46:02I do wonder if Danny's
00:46:04showing a little insecurity
00:46:05there.
00:46:05You know, I think
00:46:06some men
00:46:08would not see a barrier
00:46:09to moving into a house
00:46:11owned by the woman.
00:46:12It wouldn't feel emasculating.
00:46:14He's really dropped
00:46:15the ball here.
00:46:16And I'm old school too.
00:46:18I'm exactly the same.
00:46:19I can proudly say it as well
00:46:20that if me and Rachel
00:46:22do something,
00:46:23I would feel more comfortable
00:46:24if Rachel moved
00:46:25into my place,
00:46:26feel like a provider.
00:46:28Well, I don't think
00:46:29that's very fair
00:46:30because at the end of the day,
00:46:31the difference is
00:46:32that I've got
00:46:33a massive house
00:46:34with a lot of space
00:46:35five minutes out of the city
00:46:36with a mortgage of 97 grand.
00:46:38I feel like you're a team.
00:46:39I feel like you're a team.
00:46:40A hundred percent.
00:46:41I was brought up
00:46:42on those values.
00:46:43That's just the way I think.
00:46:44If I moved to Adelaide,
00:46:45I'd be getting married.
00:46:46Yeah.
00:46:53I know we work together,
00:46:56but as a man,
00:46:57it's just something I do.
00:46:59As a man,
00:47:00maybe I'm old school like that,
00:47:01but I believe like the man
00:47:03should be the man of the house
00:47:04and take care of the big bills.
00:47:07It's nice to have your own thing,
00:47:08but ultimately you work together, right?
00:47:10Exactly, yeah.
00:47:11Ultimately, you work together.
00:47:12It's about how can we work together?
00:47:13How can we make this work?
00:47:15What are your needs?
00:47:16You know, vice versa.
00:47:18It doesn't have to be
00:47:19a demasculating thing.
00:47:20It just has to be teamwork.
00:47:22Like you're a team.
00:47:23No, you're a team.
00:47:25For some reason,
00:47:26it's just a mental thing.
00:47:28It just works like that.
00:47:31Females feel more secure
00:47:32when it is like that.
00:47:34It's just how it is.
00:47:35Unfortunately, it's a double set.
00:47:36It's just how it is.
00:47:37Gays don't have that problem.
00:47:39Yeah.
00:47:41I understand where Danny's coming from.
00:47:43Don't agree with it,
00:47:44but I understand where Danny's coming from.
00:47:47Beck and Danny's homestay,
00:47:49I don't think was as great
00:47:50as they made it out to be.
00:47:53There's something not right there.
00:47:55This is a serious conversation
00:47:57you guys need to talk.
00:47:58Yeah, I know.
00:47:59For a dinner party.
00:48:02Don't like shut up.
00:48:04Excellent.
00:48:05So glad we're talking about it with everyone.
00:48:09Oh, goodness.
00:48:11No, I said it to you already.
00:48:13Not to that level, babes.
00:48:14I have.
00:48:14A hundred percent.
00:48:15You haven't?
00:48:15No.
00:48:25Still to come.
00:48:27I did spiral a little bit.
00:48:29Dave, what's going through your head, bro?
00:48:31David finally finds his voice.
00:48:34I've hit my wall.
00:48:35I've been calm throughout this whole thing,
00:48:37but I'm at my limit.
00:48:39This is really a relationship in peril.
00:48:42Yeah.
00:48:43Before Beck confronts Danny.
00:48:46I would have appreciated it
00:48:47having been that open.
00:48:49It's in a lot of relations.
00:48:51It's just made me...
00:48:52I can't take on the table.
00:48:53I'm going to be experimenting now.
00:48:54Before Homestead.
00:49:03How about you?
00:49:04Alyssa.
00:49:05How was yours?
00:49:07Um.
00:49:11Do you know what?
00:49:12Alyssa and David really have not spoken
00:49:14about themselves at all.
00:49:15No.
00:49:16And that is not usual for them.
00:49:18David looks quite uncomfortable, actually.
00:49:20Yeah.
00:49:23I feel like we had highs and lows.
00:49:27I did spiral a little bit.
00:49:29Like, I did get in my head.
00:49:31Because, you know, as soon as we touched down
00:49:33in Adelaide, I felt like this weight...
00:49:39I felt like, oh, my goodness.
00:49:41I, you know, I said I was going to move to Sydney
00:49:43and, like, we're going to make this thing work in Sydney
00:49:45and we'll meet halfway.
00:49:46But I have a lot of responsibilities in Adelaide.
00:49:50I have contracts in place.
00:49:51I have my business.
00:49:52I have a house.
00:49:53I have a cat.
00:49:54But I'm almost 34.
00:49:56And in the next few years, I want to start a family.
00:49:58So I kind of put pressure on myself
00:50:01and that's where I started to spiral on Homestays
00:50:03because I was like, shit, this is not going to work.
00:50:07Like, I don't think I'm going to be able to stretch myself
00:50:09out of Adelaide, like, in the next three months.
00:50:12It might look like six to 12 months
00:50:14if we're going to make this work in the real world.
00:50:21Beforehand, you were saying potentially you'd give it
00:50:23three months to move to Sydney.
00:50:25Is it the move to Adelaide now?
00:50:27Well, that's what it would probably be.
00:50:32It would be Adelaide, yeah.
00:50:33Oh.
00:50:35We haven't heard that from her before.
00:50:37A lot came out of Homestays,
00:50:39but it's just, like, how do we move, like, forward?
00:50:42But I feel like the way that we process things
00:50:45are very different.
00:50:45And I'm wondering why am I spiralling?
00:50:48You know, we're all under pressure,
00:50:49but some people also deal with pressure differently.
00:50:52When I need to just process,
00:50:53my mind's going bing, bing, bing, bing.
00:50:56I retract.
00:50:58Things have kind of turned on its head a little bit.
00:51:01Alyssa's now saying, I can't move.
00:51:04David's going, look, I'm willing to sacrifice everything
00:51:06and move down to Adelaide
00:51:08to give this relationship the best chance.
00:51:10But her retracting and pulling away from Dave,
00:51:13freaking Dave out,
00:51:14I felt, you know, I sort of felt for Dave a little bit.
00:51:16If anything, all the risk is on David.
00:51:19And there was one other thing.
00:51:22I know that I can be a bit full-on.
00:51:25And, like, he does ground me,
00:51:28but maybe I'm finding a little bit sometimes too much
00:51:31where I feel like I'm not myself.
00:51:33Like, it's really shifting my energy,
00:51:36and that's not something I'm used to.
00:51:39My husband also snores,
00:51:40so I've had, like, lack of sleep the last three months.
00:51:43Like, it's just, it's a compiling thing.
00:51:48I feel like right now Alyssa
00:51:50is trying to look for any little thing
00:51:53she can pull from the sky
00:51:56to question things in the relationship.
00:51:58And that is pushing me away.
00:52:00She says she doesn't want to push me away,
00:52:02but her throwing all these doubts.
00:52:04There's only so much I can take
00:52:06before I start feeling like an idiot, you know?
00:52:10I think I was fine with just continuing
00:52:13to be that emotional shoulder to lean on
00:52:17until home stays.
00:52:19We've been on this experiment for two months,
00:52:21and it's been long enough
00:52:22for her to, like, be a bit more certain.
00:52:26You know, if this ultimately isn't going to work,
00:52:28I'm not going to force anything.
00:52:30Like, it's up to her to come from her head
00:52:32into her heart for this to work long-term.
00:52:37Dave, what's going through your head, bro?
00:52:45I've hit my wall.
00:52:46I've been calm throughout this whole thing,
00:52:48but I'm at my limit.
00:52:51And I sort of need that mental space as well,
00:52:54just as much as she probably needs it
00:52:55from coming back from home stays.
00:52:57And it's something we both need.
00:52:59But it's at the point, emotionally,
00:53:01I don't have much to give.
00:53:03I'm invested in this relationship.
00:53:04I am prepared to move for this relationship.
00:53:06But for me, I bonded with her mum
00:53:09and her two best friends.
00:53:10And I've got her mum saying,
00:53:12this is all good for you.
00:53:13Her friend saying, this is good for you.
00:53:14I really love David a lot.
00:53:17So I'm just like,
00:53:19what other green checks do you need ticked off?
00:53:22Like, you know?
00:53:27Well, this is David being really raw, isn't it?
00:53:30I mean, he's saying that he's exhausted
00:53:32and also he's hit his limit.
00:53:35And I know that they talk about it
00:53:38in relation to the experiment.
00:53:41But actually, you know,
00:53:42the experiment for some people,
00:53:43it brings them closer right now.
00:53:45And I get some real worries
00:53:47that he's started to step back.
00:53:50We got cracks, man.
00:53:51We've got cracks like everyone.
00:53:52We got cracks.
00:53:53But that's something that, you know,
00:53:55we will talk to the experts about.
00:53:58We actually haven't seen them
00:53:59in this state before, have we?
00:54:01No.
00:54:02I'd say absolutely more questions
00:54:04than answers we got tonight.
00:54:06So that's where we've got to go tomorrow night.
00:54:09We are going to need to ask
00:54:10about the homestays
00:54:12and particularly where they see themselves
00:54:15in the future.
00:54:17This is really a relationship in peril.
00:54:20Yeah.
00:54:28How are you all homestays, guys?
00:54:30I went out on his Harley.
00:54:32Like, I grew up there.
00:54:33So I'm like, I went to school there.
00:54:35I had my first kiss there.
00:54:36I did this there.
00:54:37And it's like, it's not like
00:54:38a foreign place for me.
00:54:39Yeah.
00:54:39It's just easy the fact
00:54:40that she's lived there before.
00:54:42So that was pretty big for us.
00:54:43That's amazing.
00:54:44Yeah, it was really good.
00:54:45The taste of the outside world,
00:54:47you know what I mean?
00:54:49So what's your plan
00:54:50after the experiment?
00:54:53I do like Cronulla.
00:54:55Yeah.
00:54:56Yeah, I could see myself there.
00:54:57That's very important.
00:54:58That's the whole point of it.
00:55:00The home visit is like,
00:55:01can I see myself there?
00:55:02Yes, I can.
00:55:03Let's just do it.
00:55:04Just give it a go.
00:55:05Just give it a go.
00:55:06And that was a realisation I had.
00:55:08And you have a plan moving forward.
00:55:10And you guys are great.
00:55:13Yeah.
00:55:15Rachel and Stephen, homestays.
00:55:17Hey, guys.
00:55:17Who's talking?
00:55:19You can talk.
00:55:20Captain Steve-o.
00:55:21I reckon Rachel go first
00:55:22and I'll...
00:55:23No, I reckon Steve-o go first, please.
00:55:25I reckon...
00:55:25I agree.
00:55:26I think Steve-o can go first.
00:55:27I'll go first.
00:55:28I always talk.
00:55:29Yep.
00:55:30Can you hear me down there?
00:55:31Yeah.
00:55:32Yeah, boys.
00:55:32Loud and clear.
00:55:33All right.
00:55:34So, look, I'm happy to say
00:55:36that Rachel and my family
00:55:37did get along.
00:55:38Everyone loves each other.
00:55:39A lot of the drinks were flowing.
00:55:40Everything was fantastic.
00:55:42And, yeah, we had a really good time
00:55:44and took Rachel out on the boat
00:55:47and she got to experience
00:55:48a little, you know,
00:55:50a little snapshot
00:55:51of what my life is about
00:55:53and what I'm passionate about.
00:55:55So I took her out fishing
00:55:56and I can definitely say
00:55:57very impressed with Rachel.
00:55:59She full on...
00:56:00She's a country girl.
00:56:01Full on leaned in.
00:56:02She's a catch.
00:56:03I am the catch.
00:56:05She is a catch.
00:56:06That's right.
00:56:06The catch of the day, right?
00:56:07Amen.
00:56:09And, look,
00:56:10I was very impressed
00:56:10with her fishing skills.
00:56:12She kissed a couple fish.
00:56:13I did.
00:56:14But I'm looking at this woman
00:56:15going, look,
00:56:16it's not just that
00:56:17she's leaning into fishing.
00:56:19It's more the fact
00:56:20that I'm seeing a woman
00:56:21there that is having a crack
00:56:23and I can see that
00:56:25outside fishing,
00:56:27Rachel will have my back in things.
00:56:31Oh!
00:56:33I can see we can do life together
00:56:35but I feel a lot more confident
00:56:37now that the foundation
00:56:38has been laid on my side anyway
00:56:39with Rachel
00:56:40that we can take this out
00:56:42onto the outside
00:56:46and have somewhere to start
00:56:48because it's been done and dusted.
00:56:50I'm still going to meet her side
00:56:51but I feel more confident
00:56:53on my side
00:56:53that Rachel and my family
00:56:55and my lifestyle
00:56:55will match now.
00:56:56So we had a good time.
00:56:58That's a dance!
00:57:04Who would have thought?
00:57:06Who would have thought?
00:57:09Hearing Stephen talk about
00:57:10our homestay
00:57:11and the beautiful things
00:57:12he was saying, yeah.
00:57:15You sound emotional.
00:57:16I am emotional.
00:57:17I'm so emotional about it
00:57:19because
00:57:21I've got this guy
00:57:22that I truly, truly care about
00:57:25and I'm developing
00:57:26such strong feelings for
00:57:28and
00:57:29every time he talks about us
00:57:31with the group
00:57:32and everything
00:57:33it's beautiful.
00:57:34It's just so nice
00:57:36and
00:57:37what
00:57:38what an amazing journey
00:57:40and opportunity
00:57:41we've had
00:57:41and
00:57:43the fact that we get to be
00:57:44with each other
00:57:44is just even better.
00:57:48Some guys are going to buy
00:57:50girls flowers
00:57:50my guy bought me
00:57:52a fishing rod.
00:57:53I know.
00:57:53I'm just saying
00:57:55and I was happy
00:57:56your girl's got her
00:57:57third fishing rod.
00:57:59Oh, Rachel looks so happy.
00:58:02Look at Stephen's smile.
00:58:04We've never seen him
00:58:05smile like this.
00:58:06We've never seen him
00:58:07as relaxed
00:58:08and as confident
00:58:10as he has been tonight.
00:58:11That was a full-bodied smile.
00:58:13He's really
00:58:14transformed
00:58:15but watching him now
00:58:17is just such a joy
00:58:18and he's so comfortable
00:58:20in her space.
00:58:21Look
00:58:21we went through hard times
00:58:23at the start of our relationship.
00:58:25You all saw it
00:58:26and you know what
00:58:27we
00:58:28we've just saw it
00:58:29and
00:58:30you know
00:58:30we're now hitting weeks
00:58:31where
00:58:31it should test us
00:58:33and
00:58:33instead it's strengthening us
00:58:35and it's really nice.
00:58:36I love it.
00:58:37Yay!
00:58:39Well done.
00:58:41Rachel
00:58:42and Steve-o!
00:58:53At the dinner table tonight
00:58:55Danny said
00:58:57that
00:58:57he
00:59:00would feel like a bitch
00:59:02moving into a girl's house.
00:59:05I hadn't heard that yet
00:59:08and like
00:59:08I would hope
00:59:09that my husband
00:59:10knows that he can talk to me
00:59:12like
00:59:12we talk about everything
00:59:14so
00:59:15yeah
00:59:18I feel blindsided by him
00:59:23I feel completely utterly
00:59:24betrayed by my husband
00:59:35if I was to move to Adelaide
00:59:38as a man
00:59:40it makes you feel like a bit of a bitch
00:59:42moving in with a woman
00:59:51I've never experienced a slow burn
00:59:53before
00:59:54and here I am
00:59:56with a slow burn
00:59:57and
00:59:57like I said
00:59:58we went through hard yards
01:00:00earlier
01:00:00and now
01:00:01we're so strong
01:00:02because of that
01:00:03and so
01:00:04yeah
01:00:05but not to that level
01:00:17frankly Danny
01:00:18time and time again
01:00:19has
01:00:19not stepped up
01:00:21and made the commitment
01:00:21that she
01:00:22wants and craves
01:00:24she's been transparent
01:00:25he hasn't said
01:00:26that he loves her back
01:00:27he's now saying
01:00:29I don't want to live
01:00:29in your house
01:00:31so there's a number of things
01:00:32that are now adding up
01:00:33yeah
01:00:34that Bec's starting to worry about
01:00:35when it comes to Danny's
01:00:37level of commitment
01:00:37yes
01:00:38and rightly so
01:00:40I mean
01:00:44the idea that
01:00:45like that
01:00:46it
01:00:47like
01:00:48that you
01:00:49like you basically just said
01:00:50if I was to move to Adelaide
01:00:52I don't know if I'd
01:00:54want to move into my house
01:00:55I didn't
01:00:57I would have rather
01:00:59that you said that to me
01:01:00before announcing it
01:01:01to a table of people
01:01:02I didn't say any of that
01:01:04I was saying
01:01:05we have to like
01:01:06I'd put money into a house
01:01:08and we'd renovate it
01:01:09or I'd pick up the mortgage
01:01:10because we're just moving
01:01:11and now it is
01:01:11we'd make it feel demasculating
01:01:13right
01:01:13yeah
01:01:13well
01:01:14I'm excited
01:01:15I said just then
01:01:16I'm like
01:01:16that's how I heard it
01:01:19and I was like
01:01:20well
01:01:20I haven't said that
01:01:21because I'm not moving out
01:01:24I think Bec revealed
01:01:29how hard
01:01:30that conversation was
01:01:31for her
01:01:32you know
01:01:32when she said
01:01:33oh here we are
01:01:34having this conversation
01:01:34in front of everyone
01:01:35she felt really uncomfortable
01:01:37and I think
01:01:37after the dinner tonight
01:01:39they'll be going home
01:01:40for quite a big conversation
01:01:59okay so the purpose
01:02:01of this conversation
01:02:02is to talk about
01:02:03what's been happening
01:02:03within the group of women
01:02:11not to make comparisons
01:02:13between men and women
01:02:14and who does it better
01:02:14wow
01:02:15I just hope that
01:02:16there's some insight here
01:02:17with the ladies
01:02:18that yes
01:02:19in the future
01:02:19you are going to be
01:02:20in contact with other women
01:02:22who have strong personalities
01:02:23have strong judgements
01:02:25about you
01:02:26or opinions about you
01:02:31but that doesn't mean
01:02:32that you have to play dirty
01:02:34as a woman
01:02:35I think it's important
01:02:36that we support each other
01:02:41love that
01:02:44that we empower each other
01:02:46I'm so excited
01:02:47this is amazing
01:02:50that we don't compete
01:02:52with each other
01:02:56that we give other women
01:02:57an opportunity to shine
01:02:59Jules
01:02:59were you married?
01:03:02yes
01:03:06just like we do
01:03:07I'm falling in love with you
01:03:10and that does not take away
01:03:11any of our power
01:03:12you're the last dinner party
01:03:14you're the last dinner party
01:03:24you
01:03:24You
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