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Married at First Sight Australia - Season 13 - Episode 29
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00:00:01Do you see me as the mother-father of your children? Yes, I do see you as a
00:00:04father of my children. After seven weeks of marriage, Feedback Week brought some
00:00:10couples closer together. Only the best for my wife. Thank you for setting tasks that
00:00:16really understand Stephen and I and what we needed. But for others... Sure, I'll take
00:00:22that on board. Even now, I feel like you're getting defensive. I'm not getting defensive
00:00:25having a conversation. Tensions were at an all-time high. I'm not doing it. No
00:00:31thanks. It was just... As Scott avoided any critical feedback, opting to keep the
00:00:40peace in his marriage. I knew if I went too deep, I'd be over the balcony. You're
00:00:47absolutely pissing me off. Danny struggled to give Beck a straight answer. Do you
00:00:52think you will fall in love with me and why? At the dinner party, after weeks of
00:00:59being caught in the crossfire, Alyssa tried to put a full stop to the feud
00:01:05between Gia and Beck. Stop using me! Stop using me as a pawn. And Beck and Danny
00:01:12spiralled. I want you to be wary about what you text people. Two months ago, Daniel.
00:01:17Okay, that was ten years ago. I want out now. I'm wasting my time at a dinner party talking
00:01:23about abusive text messages. I'm here for a wife and a relationship. I'm not here for
00:01:27drama. Do not sit there in front of everyone and not show solidarity to me. Just pretend
00:01:32for two minutes. Tonight, it's the second last commitment ceremony. You ask the question
00:01:41of like, alright, if we go outside the experiment, how quick would you expect, like, a proposal?
00:01:46I say the sooner the better. Wow. And some are already locking in plans for married life
00:01:52outside of the experiment. The man is leaving and he is actually starting to show me what
00:01:57my life here in Sydney could look like. And then... So last week you said that the noise from
00:02:03the group and around Gia doesn't affect your relationship. Do you still believe that?
00:02:10Will Scott speak up and confess how he feels in front of Gia? I will admit, like...
00:02:20The question, what was it? Like, it was a bit... Could you see yourself falling in love with me?
00:02:24Why is Danny dodging the question?
00:02:29Um...
00:02:30Cool.
00:02:34In one of the most confronting couch sessions ever seen.
00:02:38It's a pretty black and white question.
00:02:44Before the blind side...
00:02:49That will leave the room speechless.
00:02:52I just can't believe it.
00:03:08It's the morning of the second-last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:03:13And despite a tense ending to last night's dinner party,
00:03:17one couple continued to shine bright.
00:03:22Good morning.
00:03:24Good morning.
00:03:26Good morning.
00:03:27Good morning.
00:03:27Hopefully you don't burn the roof of your mouth.
00:03:29No, she'll be fine.
00:03:30You know?
00:03:31Last night for Stella and I, yeah, it was great.
00:03:34We were just sitting there, united, chilling out, smooching whilst the drama's happening.
00:03:39We tend to do that when people are kicking off, we're just kissing each other.
00:03:43And then, yeah, we're staying out of it for the most part.
00:03:45I think we are out of the trenches with the drama.
00:03:49I doubt it, but I'm very, very hopeful.
00:03:52I'm very hopeful.
00:03:52Some people cannot help themselves.
00:03:54I see the blokes like Danny and Scott, and they're just ready to not talk about high school shit.
00:04:02Like, Scott is not his usual self.
00:04:05He was just...
00:04:06His light was dimmed.
00:04:08He was just not there.
00:04:09He's dimmed.
00:04:09Yeah, he's dimmed at the moment.
00:04:11He's just not there.
00:04:12Danny as well, definitely.
00:04:13Yeah.
00:04:14I always look at him and he's just so withdrawn and just...
00:04:16They dissociate.
00:04:17They just dissociate and they just go to another realm.
00:04:20They just leave the place.
00:04:21They're just like this.
00:04:22Yeah.
00:04:25I just wish that people like Becca and Gia can stop saying sorry and just don't do it from now
00:04:32on.
00:04:33Don't be sorry and go, I take accountability and just don't do it.
00:04:37How about we try that and then we don't have to keep talking about this BS.
00:04:46While our couples are putting on the final touches for tonight's commitment ceremony,
00:04:52one participant who is not looking forward to seeing the experts is Gia.
00:04:57Last one, I walked out.
00:05:00I don't like commitment ceremonies one bit because I hate being vulnerable and talking
00:05:04about my feelings and commitment ceremonies don't go great for me all the time.
00:05:09Last week, I feel like I was getting in so much trouble for the screenshots.
00:05:12They didn't at all question back.
00:05:15It was just me for sending them.
00:05:16I just felt like I was just attacked and it was unfair last week.
00:05:19It's not fair that I'm always taking the heat for that sort of stuff.
00:05:23I admit I was wrong for sending them,
00:05:25but I'm not the one who said the vulgar things in those screenshots back was.
00:05:29I think it's just going to be more of a rehash of like what you're saying.
00:05:32Feedback week.
00:05:33Feedback week.
00:05:33Also, why'd you walk out?
00:05:34Which it'll just be a discussion of that.
00:05:37Yeah.
00:05:38I adore and I really am falling for Gia, but like this whole experiment has been very
00:05:45tough in regards to the drama side of things.
00:05:47There was so many days where there was just so much heat and heaviness.
00:05:52Tonight, like I'm nervous seeing the experts because this is something that I find a problem
00:05:57and I'm going to address it.
00:05:59I'm not looking forward to how she's going to feel about it, but I can only be honest.
00:06:09One couple that everyone will have their eyes on tonight is Beck and Danny,
00:06:13who had a tense argument at the end of last night's dinner party.
00:06:18Don't sit here and say, I want us to have a good relationship,
00:06:23but we don't because of drama at dinner parties.
00:06:26I just want you to be wary about what you say.
00:06:30I'm very wary.
00:06:31I want you to be wary about what you text people.
00:06:35I'm done.
00:06:36I'm not going back in.
00:06:37I'm done.
00:06:38He says, oh, we're ride or die.
00:06:40We're ride or die.
00:06:41We're not.
00:06:42Just pretend for two minutes.
00:06:44And this morning, there has been yet another unexpected development in their relationship.
00:06:51How are things with you and Danny after last night's dinner party?
00:06:55Really good.
00:06:58There's so much love and adoration within this relationship.
00:07:03We had like a tiny little bit of crosswords last night.
00:07:06Danny sort of had a little wibble wobble.
00:07:08He was like, I'm sure of the drama.
00:07:10And at the end of the day, we've actually come out on top, you know, even though it's kind
00:07:14of crappy for a little while, we always come back together, talk about it and end up with
00:07:23a better understanding of each other and in a stronger place in our relationship.
00:07:27Do you agree?
00:07:28Hmm.
00:07:29I became a girlfriend as well.
00:07:31Still happy with that decision, boo?
00:07:33Still happy with the decision.
00:07:35I feel great.
00:07:35I feel absolutely fantastic.
00:07:37Like, I'm not only a wife, I'm a girlfriend.
00:07:39And I know that everything's hunky dory.
00:07:42Me telling you at the commitment ceremony that I love you.
00:07:46And obviously, I'm in my own head as well, because it's like, shit, like, that's a lot for me
00:07:52to do.
00:07:53Ever.
00:07:54Like, you're the first man I've ever told that I love first.
00:07:57Ever.
00:07:58Feedback week, Danny.
00:07:59How's it been?
00:08:01Been an alright week, to be honest.
00:08:03Like, alright is how I'd describe it.
00:08:04Not amazing.
00:08:06Just alright.
00:08:07Obviously, the question to ask, Bec was just overreacting a little bit there.
00:08:12We know that.
00:08:13That's a fact.
00:08:14Do you think you will fall in love with me?
00:08:17And why?
00:08:18Probably.
00:08:20I'd assume I will, yeah.
00:08:22Am I there yet?
00:08:23No.
00:08:27So, it has sort of scared me that she's got stronger feelings to me than I have to her.
00:08:34Um, up until last week, when she told me she loved me, I didn't realise she was feeling
00:08:37that strongly towards me.
00:08:39She'd never even told me, like, little soft things to, like, soften it.
00:08:43It was just like, that come out of nowhere.
00:08:46That's why when she told me on the sofa, on the couch, I was a bit, like, shocked.
00:08:50My feelings are extremely, extremely strong for Daniel.
00:09:01I love you.
00:09:02Yay!
00:09:06Yay!
00:09:09Woo!
00:09:09Woo!
00:09:12Do you think that you will get there, or are you still not sure?
00:09:15It's hard to tell, to be honest.
00:09:17It's very hard to tell.
00:09:19In regards to intimacy, it's not like I don't want to do it, but it's not like I'm, like,
00:09:27craving to do it as well.
00:09:29Like, I'm United, I mean.
00:09:31Because of constant drama with Beck.
00:09:34Um, so, yeah, that's probably one of the things, the main reason that's holding me back.
00:09:39You're so good.
00:09:58You're right.
00:10:02Good to see you all.
00:10:04Good evening. Good evening.
00:10:06Hi, guys.
00:10:20Hi. Hello. Welcome.
00:10:25Settling.
00:10:30Well, greetings, everyone, to the second-last commitment ceremony.
00:10:35We are very much nearing the pointy end
00:10:39where you have to size up your relationship
00:10:42and really drill down on whether or not you can see a future
00:10:47outside of this experiment
00:10:49with the person that you've been matched with.
00:10:52Now it gets real.
00:10:55Now, in saying that, next week it is homestays.
00:11:00This is done so that all of you can have a look at your partner's life
00:11:04as it exists outside of the experiment
00:11:07and it gives you an understanding,
00:11:11a glimpse of whether you can fit into it.
00:11:14This is really a reality check.
00:11:17In fact, it is absolutely pivotal for you
00:11:22when it comes to your final decision.
00:11:25Take it very seriously.
00:11:27Now, the past week, of course, has been feedback week.
00:11:31It's been a real test of how each and every one of you responds to feedback,
00:11:35but also how each of you gives feedback.
00:11:39So we'll be really interested to drill down
00:11:41into how that's gone for each of you
00:11:43and to see what's been the impact on your relationships.
00:11:47And, of course, we saw some of that last night at the dinner party.
00:11:51It was actually quite shocking to see some of the behaviours
00:11:55that occurred at last night's dinner party.
00:11:58And we certainly want to get into all of that.
00:12:03Well, let's get our first couple up.
00:12:05Jira and Scott.
00:12:10Good to see you both.
00:12:12Yes, John, I'm still here.
00:12:13Are you happy about it?
00:12:15I'm very happy.
00:12:16Oh, I thought you wouldn't be.
00:12:18Yeah, particularly because last time you actually walked off.
00:12:22I did.
00:12:25So let's go back to what actually happened there
00:12:28because we didn't get a chance to talk to you about that
00:12:33because we were talking about your relationship
00:12:35and where you're at and what a good place you're in,
00:12:38and it was positive.
00:12:40But then something happened.
00:12:42What was it?
00:12:47I was getting in trouble for the screenshots involving Alyssa,
00:12:51but the other person wasn't getting in trouble
00:12:53for what was written in the screenshots.
00:12:55It felt very against me.
00:12:59And I just felt like attacked.
00:13:05And I just felt like it was a bit unfair, to be honest.
00:13:09I just felt like, oh, what about the screen?
00:13:11What was she was saying?
00:13:12Like, just me, me, me.
00:13:13I just cannot.
00:13:16So I had to remove myself.
00:13:17I didn't want to have another argument.
00:13:19I didn't want any more volatile situations.
00:13:22I just, I had to remove myself.
00:13:26All right, so let's break it down.
00:13:28There are two parts to this.
00:13:31One part is what was said in the text,
00:13:36which came out at the dinner party last night,
00:13:39the specifics of it.
00:13:43And there's no getting around that.
00:13:44It's abhorrent.
00:13:47Those words, those phrases towards another member in this experiment
00:13:56was appalling.
00:13:59I mean, Beck, the hits keep coming.
00:14:16What was said in the texts,
00:14:19which came out at the dinner party last night,
00:14:22the specifics of it.
00:14:26And there's no getting around that.
00:14:28It's abhorrent.
00:14:30Those words,
00:14:32those phrases
00:14:35towards another member in this experiment
00:14:39was appalling.
00:14:42I mean, Beck,
00:14:44the hits keep coming.
00:14:51Regardless of what bad place you were in,
00:14:53the way in which you did that
00:14:56was malicious
00:14:57and extremely hurtful.
00:15:00And we don't condone it.
00:15:06That's the first part.
00:15:08The second issue
00:15:11is how they were used.
00:15:13And that's where you come into this, Gia.
00:15:15Yep.
00:15:17It was very high school
00:15:21trying to really get at somebody
00:15:24while hurting another person
00:15:26in the process.
00:15:30It's about choices.
00:15:32It's about choices
00:15:33in terms of what you write in the text.
00:15:36Then it's choices about
00:15:37what you want to do with that
00:15:39in terms of sending it on or not.
00:15:42I know I was wrong.
00:15:45Looking back now,
00:15:46I wish I never sent the screenshots to Juliet.
00:15:48I was doing the wrong thing.
00:15:50I mean, it was like
00:15:51something happened
00:15:53to me,
00:15:54like that affected me
00:15:55and to defend myself.
00:15:56I was like,
00:15:56well, let me send some screenshots
00:15:58to do something to that person.
00:16:00And it was just like
00:16:01childish behaviour,
00:16:02to be honest.
00:16:02So it was an eye for an eye.
00:16:03Yeah.
00:16:04Yeah.
00:16:05Okay.
00:16:06We do not want to revisit this
00:16:08ever again.
00:16:10And I'm sure Alyssa
00:16:11doesn't want to either.
00:16:13It is being put to bed
00:16:15as of right now.
00:16:20But, Gia,
00:16:21one of the things
00:16:22I wanted to ask you
00:16:23was when you left
00:16:24last week,
00:16:25Scott was sitting here
00:16:27kind of not really
00:16:29knowing what was going on.
00:16:30And I just wondered
00:16:32whether he was featured
00:16:34in your thinking
00:16:35in that moment.
00:16:37I told him
00:16:38before I ran out,
00:16:39I said,
00:16:40I feel sick,
00:16:40I'm going to leave.
00:16:41Scott,
00:16:42how did you feel
00:16:45when you realised
00:16:46Gia had left?
00:16:49Well,
00:16:50at the time,
00:16:51I was sitting there
00:16:51and going to myself,
00:16:53she's not left me.
00:16:54I just,
00:16:55because I know
00:16:55how close we are.
00:16:56So I'm like,
00:16:56there's no excuse for her
00:16:56to just bail.
00:16:57But then obviously,
00:16:59the only thing I was
00:17:00just a little bit annoyed
00:17:01was just not being told
00:17:01what was going on.
00:17:04Just communication,
00:17:04that's all.
00:17:07But deep down,
00:17:09I knew she didn't
00:17:09run away from me.
00:17:10So,
00:17:11yeah.
00:17:14So last week,
00:17:15you said that
00:17:16the noise around
00:17:17your relationship
00:17:18from the group
00:17:19and around Gia
00:17:20doesn't affect
00:17:21your relationship.
00:17:23Do you still believe that?
00:17:28Last week was probably
00:17:29one of the most heaviest weeks
00:17:30we've had in this whole experiment.
00:17:32More so for Gia,
00:17:33she's had a lot
00:17:33to take on.
00:17:35Herself,
00:17:35not wanting to be here
00:17:38for a few reasons.
00:17:40There's only so much,
00:17:42you know,
00:17:42I'm here to protect her
00:17:44and cater for her
00:17:44and make sure she's okay
00:17:45and give her reassurance,
00:17:46but there was a lot
00:17:47that happened pretty much
00:17:47every day
00:17:48and I will admit,
00:17:49like,
00:17:51it does make me
00:17:54not be myself.
00:17:58What do you mean?
00:18:00My energy dropped
00:18:01and I just,
00:18:03so I'm just trying
00:18:04to be positive.
00:18:06and it's hard sometimes.
00:18:08But feedback week,
00:18:10yeah,
00:18:10it was pretty hard.
00:18:11What was hard
00:18:12about feedback week?
00:18:13Obviously,
00:18:13the commitment ceremony
00:18:14was, you know,
00:18:15I walked out
00:18:16and I wasn't good.
00:18:17You know,
00:18:18and I just,
00:18:19I was just feeling off,
00:18:20right?
00:18:21So then I get told
00:18:22I have a feedback date
00:18:24and I'm like,
00:18:25oh my God,
00:18:25I can't do this.
00:18:27I cannot put myself
00:18:29in a situation like this again
00:18:30where I'm arguing with somebody
00:18:32and I'm like,
00:18:32you know what,
00:18:33I don't want to go on the date.
00:18:34So what did you choose to do?
00:18:36I didn't go on the date.
00:18:40With these challenges
00:18:41that we set,
00:18:44you are certainly
00:18:45taken out of your comfort zone
00:18:47but they're done for a reason.
00:18:49Here we go.
00:18:50It's all right.
00:18:51It's not.
00:18:52It's always about everything
00:18:53but our relationship.
00:18:57God, like,
00:18:58how many more times
00:18:59am I going to get,
00:19:00like, attacked?
00:19:02It's not.
00:19:03It's not.
00:19:03That's what the vibe
00:19:04I'm getting.
00:19:04It's not.
00:19:06I've been apologising.
00:19:07I've been accountable.
00:19:08I've been changing my behaviour.
00:19:10I just feel like
00:19:11the feedback letter,
00:19:14I felt like
00:19:15it was an attack on me.
00:19:16The tasks that we received
00:19:18to do,
00:19:19I just found
00:19:20were just like,
00:19:21like, not nice.
00:19:23Number one is
00:19:25Gia, remove yourself
00:19:25from any group chats
00:19:26that you're in.
00:19:28Number two,
00:19:30detox from all social media
00:19:31till final vows.
00:19:33Number three,
00:19:35no physical touch
00:19:35for ten days.
00:19:37And I was like...
00:19:38I took it.
00:19:40This is how I took it.
00:19:41He took it different.
00:19:41I took it as an attack
00:19:43of, like,
00:19:44oh my God,
00:19:44like, another thing
00:19:45against me.
00:19:50Why do you feel like
00:19:51people are attacking you?
00:19:52I don't know.
00:19:54You have no idea.
00:19:55Well, that was Stella
00:19:56and Phillip,
00:19:57so I'm not sure why.
00:20:00There's just one thing
00:20:01I like to outlay
00:20:02is, like,
00:20:03whether something's
00:20:04negative or bad
00:20:05or, like,
00:20:06something you don't
00:20:07want to hear or see,
00:20:07we don't need to hold
00:20:08on to it.
00:20:10Because sometimes
00:20:11I feel it does hurt you
00:20:13in a way,
00:20:13deep down,
00:20:14where it's got to be
00:20:16said out loud
00:20:16or people need to know
00:20:17I hate it all.
00:20:18Like, sometimes I feel
00:20:19like you hold on to it
00:20:20with a bit of power
00:20:21behind you
00:20:21and you want to
00:20:22deliver it back
00:20:23to someone.
00:20:25And I feel
00:20:26if we can let go
00:20:26of things a lot easier,
00:20:28we can move past that
00:20:29and then just focus
00:20:30on the other stuff.
00:20:33Because I see the light
00:20:34in everything
00:20:34all the time.
00:20:35Like, these things
00:20:36that are said,
00:20:36letters,
00:20:37it doesn't matter
00:20:37how bad it is.
00:20:38It's not like
00:20:39we're bad people.
00:20:40People just see
00:20:41what they have
00:20:41an opinion for.
00:20:42This is your perception
00:20:43though.
00:20:43For me,
00:20:45for my own
00:20:46personal reasons
00:20:47and what I've been
00:20:47through in life,
00:20:48I felt attacked.
00:20:56I walked into
00:20:56this experiment,
00:20:57I said even my audition,
00:20:58I don't like negative stuff,
00:21:00I don't like drama,
00:21:01I don't like any of that,
00:21:01I don't want it in my life
00:21:02and I know Gia's
00:21:04been involved in some of it
00:21:05and we had an agreement.
00:21:06Can you make a promise
00:21:07to me not involve yourself
00:21:08in drama
00:21:09for the rest of this experiment?
00:21:11There's been a few
00:21:12difficult things
00:21:12inside the experiment
00:21:13and I have to know
00:21:16whether it's the pressure
00:21:17in here
00:21:17or whether this is
00:21:18outside as well.
00:21:21Nothing's really
00:21:22affected me
00:21:22in this experiment,
00:21:23the only thing is
00:21:23just the drama stuff,
00:21:24I just,
00:21:24I don't like it.
00:21:26And I just want to make
00:21:27sure and be reassured
00:21:27there's not going to be
00:21:28that shit outside this
00:21:29because I won't tolerate it,
00:21:30that's it.
00:21:32For me,
00:21:32I don't want someone
00:21:33who's going to retaliate
00:21:33in really bad behaviour,
00:21:35that's what I mean.
00:21:37It's about how you
00:21:37carry yourself.
00:21:38It's common knowledge,
00:21:39I would never do that.
00:21:39That's what I'm saying
00:21:40that from the stuff
00:21:41that's happening in the experiment,
00:21:42I don't want to see that
00:21:43outside the experiment.
00:21:44That's all it is.
00:21:44I'm not saying anything bad,
00:21:45it's just what I've seen.
00:21:46Yeah, just,
00:21:46you don't know me well enough then.
00:21:49Babe, I'm only helping.
00:21:50It's just not who I am.
00:21:51I just do not do that in life.
00:21:53I do nursing,
00:21:55like,
00:21:55I'm a kind person,
00:21:57I would never,
00:21:57but anyway.
00:21:58I'm not saying you're like that,
00:21:59I'm trying to just say
00:22:00what I'm feeling.
00:22:12Scott's just talking about
00:22:14his experience with you,
00:22:16what he's seen.
00:22:17He can only work
00:22:18with what he's seen,
00:22:19and he has seen you
00:22:21rise to the drama.
00:22:22So he's not saying
00:22:24he knows that that's
00:22:26what you're going to do
00:22:26on the outside.
00:22:27He's saying he knows
00:22:28that that's what you have done
00:22:30within the experiment.
00:22:31So surely that's reasonable.
00:22:33Yep.
00:22:38F***ing over,
00:22:39getting slammed, Chris.
00:22:40Yeah.
00:22:41You're not getting slammed,
00:22:42babe.
00:22:42It's nothing.
00:22:45No, I'm all good.
00:22:46I'm sorry,
00:22:47I'm all good,
00:22:47all good.
00:22:47I don't like to cry,
00:22:48you know,
00:22:49just, I'm fine.
00:22:51Let's just finish this,
00:22:53please, yep.
00:22:54Mm-hmm.
00:23:08You're all right.
00:23:09Sorry, I'm here.
00:23:11Gia, do you feel secure
00:23:12in this relationship?
00:23:14Yeah.
00:23:16What makes you say that?
00:23:18Um, because even when I say
00:23:21I'm going to leave,
00:23:21he's like,
00:23:22no, you can't leave.
00:23:23Um, like,
00:23:25when I, like,
00:23:26lose my mind
00:23:27and, like,
00:23:27spiral,
00:23:28he's always there
00:23:29to, like,
00:23:30be positive
00:23:31and try and turn
00:23:32my mood around
00:23:33and I feel like
00:23:34he's got me.
00:23:35Yeah.
00:23:36And I can feel like,
00:23:37yeah,
00:23:37I feel secure
00:23:37in this relationship.
00:23:39What about you, Scott?
00:23:42Well,
00:23:43the thing is, like,
00:23:45yes,
00:23:45we face these hard things
00:23:46and we're not perfect people,
00:23:49but I see so many
00:23:51good things about you
00:23:53and that's why I'm here.
00:23:54Like,
00:23:54you're such a beautiful person.
00:23:55Like,
00:23:56we've had a rough week
00:23:57but we always come back
00:23:58to each other.
00:23:58So you feel secure
00:24:00in this relationship?
00:24:00100%, yeah,
00:24:01I feel secure.
00:24:03We just have these little hurdles
00:24:04to get through,
00:24:05understand one another,
00:24:06you know,
00:24:06and keep pursuing
00:24:08our life together.
00:24:12All right,
00:24:13well,
00:24:13let's go to the decision.
00:24:14Let's go with you first, Scott.
00:24:18I'm grateful
00:24:18that we're still here together
00:24:20and then we got through
00:24:20and we're still smiling
00:24:21and I cannot wait
00:24:23for home stays.
00:24:24It's all right to stay
00:24:25and happy two months
00:24:26to my beautiful wife.
00:24:27Aw,
00:24:27that's cute.
00:24:29Gia,
00:24:29stay or leave?
00:24:30Um,
00:24:31I know I need to work
00:24:32on some things
00:24:33and I'm committed
00:24:34to doing that
00:24:34because, like,
00:24:35he's worth it
00:24:36and I need to, like,
00:24:37grow as a person.
00:24:38I can't keep doing
00:24:39these behaviours
00:24:40that I've been doing
00:24:41and I know I'm wrong for that.
00:24:42So, um,
00:24:43I'm just going to be positive
00:24:44this week
00:24:45and move forward
00:24:45and we're going to be
00:24:46in our swimsuits
00:24:47at the beach
00:24:48on the Gold Coast.
00:24:50Little boys.
00:24:52I've got square boobs.
00:24:53I don't know why
00:24:53but that's a bikini.
00:24:55That's a bikini.
00:24:56Okay,
00:24:57well,
00:24:57I know that that was
00:24:57a very intense session
00:25:00and it's so important
00:25:01for you guys
00:25:02to not brush
00:25:04things under the carpet.
00:25:06I know, Scott,
00:25:07you've mentioned
00:25:07that you like to look
00:25:08on the bright side of life,
00:25:11move forward
00:25:12as fast as you can,
00:25:13leave the past behind.
00:25:14And the problem is
00:25:15if you do that
00:25:16all the time,
00:25:17you don't address
00:25:18the issues that are there.
00:25:20And rather than saying,
00:25:21it's just going to be okay,
00:25:22forget about it,
00:25:24actually instead go,
00:25:25well, tell me more.
00:25:40And for you,
00:25:41hear and talk about
00:25:42that behaviour
00:25:43and then as a team
00:25:44we can do something
00:25:45different moving forward.
00:25:47That'll help us a lot
00:25:48to be honest
00:25:49because sometimes I
00:25:51want to bring things up
00:25:52and then I get a bit scared
00:25:53because I don't want you
00:25:54to get the wrong ideas
00:25:55if I'm trying to attack you.
00:25:57It's because I genuinely care
00:25:59and I just want to fix
00:26:00a few little things
00:26:01that'll help both of us.
00:26:02Yep.
00:26:02So I really love
00:26:03what you just said.
00:26:04Now with that,
00:26:05have a great week
00:26:06and we'll see you next time.
00:26:07Thanks, guys.
00:26:08Well done, guys.
00:26:09Cheers.
00:26:10Have a great week.
00:26:27Still to come,
00:26:30what has Sam in tears?
00:26:35And later...
00:26:36Did you see yourself
00:26:37falling in love with me?
00:26:39Danny is put in the hot seat.
00:26:41I think I misinterpreted
00:26:43the question.
00:26:45Because it's a pretty
00:26:45black and white question.
00:27:02Next up,
00:27:04Rachel and Stephen.
00:27:10Hello.
00:27:11Welcome.
00:27:12Hi.
00:27:12Welcome, welcome.
00:27:13It's nice to see you.
00:27:15Oh, yeah.
00:27:16Feedback week.
00:27:17Tell us about feedback week.
00:27:19Um, I actually think
00:27:21feedback week was great
00:27:22for Stephen and I.
00:27:24We started off
00:27:25with the first tasks
00:27:26with questions.
00:27:27The question of,
00:27:28you know,
00:27:29saying,
00:27:29can you see yourself
00:27:31falling in love with me
00:27:31at some point?
00:27:33We both had a big
00:27:35resounding yes.
00:27:36And so that was really nice
00:27:38because in terms of
00:27:41the way we view our lives
00:27:43in the future,
00:27:44they very much align.
00:27:46And so,
00:27:47yeah,
00:27:48it was really good.
00:27:49It was just a really great task.
00:27:52Feedback week has been,
00:27:53you know,
00:27:54amazing.
00:27:56I got some really good advice
00:27:58from Alyssa
00:27:59of trying to be
00:28:00a bit more of a leader.
00:28:01Which we saw.
00:28:03We saw.
00:28:03We were very impressed.
00:28:05Oh, you saw that?
00:28:06At the dinner party.
00:28:08You did have a moment
00:28:09at the dinner party
00:28:10where you stood up
00:28:11to the group
00:28:12and you spoke
00:28:13on behalf of the relationship
00:28:15in such a mature,
00:28:17such a take charge,
00:28:19such a masculine,
00:28:20such a...
00:28:21all there
00:28:22kind of way.
00:28:25We were very impressed
00:28:27and we were literally
00:28:28cheering that on.
00:28:29It was a really,
00:28:30really good moment
00:28:32to see Rachel beaming
00:28:33because you were beaming.
00:28:35You were so proud
00:28:36of your man
00:28:37speaking up
00:28:38to the group.
00:28:41Setting those boundaries
00:28:43for the group
00:28:43and for the two of you.
00:28:45Well,
00:28:45I'm going to implement that
00:28:46not just for one day.
00:28:47It's going to be
00:28:47just in the relationship.
00:28:49I've got to put my captain's
00:28:50socks, undies,
00:28:51and hat on
00:28:53and, yeah,
00:28:53take a bit of charge
00:28:54and leadership.
00:28:57Captain.
00:28:58I like it.
00:28:59Captain Steve-O.
00:29:01I'm going to get
00:29:01a hat for him.
00:29:05How did it feel
00:29:06in the moment
00:29:06to speak to the group
00:29:08the way that you did
00:29:09and to ascertain
00:29:10those boundaries
00:29:10and make yourself
00:29:12be heard so clearly?
00:29:14I know I'm pretty quiet
00:29:16in the dinner parties
00:29:17and I sort of like
00:29:17to keep things
00:29:18to myself
00:29:19because I feel like
00:29:20it's just a little bit
00:29:21easier to keep
00:29:22your mouth closed.
00:29:23In some situations,
00:29:26I guess it was good
00:29:27to, you know,
00:29:28finally be heard.
00:29:30I can imagine so.
00:29:34You guys have really
00:29:36been a bit of a slow burn
00:29:38but every week
00:29:40we start to see
00:29:41something emerge.
00:29:43The intimacy,
00:29:44the speaking up.
00:29:45There's a lot of change
00:29:46in the two of you
00:29:47that I see
00:29:48and it's on a week
00:29:49by week basis.
00:29:51What's it doing
00:29:52to you, Steve-O,
00:29:54in terms of how
00:29:54you're feeling
00:29:55about this lovely woman?
00:29:59I feel really
00:30:00connected to Rachel.
00:30:01We're getting closer.
00:30:03I feel like,
00:30:04as well,
00:30:04saying to Rachel,
00:30:05I feel like I've come
00:30:05such a long way
00:30:06from the wedding
00:30:07and the ups and downs
00:30:09that we've had.
00:30:09So, feeling, yeah,
00:30:11really good.
00:30:12Rachel,
00:30:13for you towards him,
00:30:15what's going on
00:30:16inside of you?
00:30:17So, I really like
00:30:18Stephen.
00:30:20I've been very clear
00:30:21about that.
00:30:21I'm very connected
00:30:22with Stephen.
00:30:24It's just so comfortable
00:30:25to be ourselves
00:30:26and have fun
00:30:28and, you know,
00:30:29it's just amazing.
00:30:30And so,
00:30:31I'm at the point now
00:30:32where my man is leaving
00:30:34and he is actually
00:30:35starting to show me
00:30:36what my life here
00:30:37in Sydney
00:30:38could look like.
00:30:42that really shows
00:30:43through your body language
00:30:45is just how
00:30:47close
00:30:48and comfortable
00:30:49you are
00:30:49with one another
00:30:51and
00:30:52loving,
00:30:54dare I say it.
00:30:55Are we reading
00:30:56this correctly?
00:30:57Does it feel comfortable
00:30:58to be sitting like that?
00:31:00This is all,
00:31:01this is common,
00:31:01you know,
00:31:02in the apartment.
00:31:03You know,
00:31:03it's...
00:31:03Now you're showing off.
00:31:10So, with that in mind,
00:31:11we're going to go
00:31:11to a decision.
00:31:13Let's kick it off
00:31:14with you,
00:31:15Rachel.
00:31:17This is a huge shock,
00:31:19I know,
00:31:19but I've written
00:31:20stay
00:31:21and I put, like,
00:31:22the sun and, like,
00:31:23that's water
00:31:24from our little beach days.
00:31:27Cute.
00:31:28And Steve-O.
00:31:29I like where this is going,
00:31:30so,
00:31:31why would I do anything
00:31:32else besides stay?
00:31:39Good on you guys.
00:31:40Thank you so much.
00:31:41Well done.
00:31:42Great.
00:31:42Thank you so much.
00:31:51High fives.
00:31:52It's a nice one.
00:32:08Our next couple
00:32:09on the couch.
00:32:12Chris and Sam.
00:32:18Hello, you two.
00:32:19Howdy.
00:32:20Hi.
00:32:20Hello, guys.
00:32:22How we doing?
00:32:24Well,
00:32:25I've got to say,
00:32:26this is a very different
00:32:27energy
00:32:28from the two of you,
00:32:29not what we're used to
00:32:30at all.
00:32:32You're like a very
00:32:33different couple right now.
00:32:35Yeah.
00:32:37Do you want to let us in?
00:32:42Chris, you don't look
00:32:42very happy.
00:32:43No, I'm just like,
00:32:45like, first of all,
00:32:47you asked me a question
00:32:48last week.
00:32:49Are you starting to envision
00:32:50a life outside of the experiment?
00:32:52I thought it was admirable
00:32:53that I was actually thinking
00:32:54after the experiment,
00:32:55and I said,
00:32:55perhaps, potentially,
00:32:56Sam based himself in Sydney.
00:32:58It came from a really good place,
00:33:01but Sam was upset
00:33:02that I didn't consult him
00:33:03before answering the question
00:33:04that you asked me.
00:33:06And then he said to me,
00:33:0810 minutes prior to the dinner party,
00:33:09your three apologies
00:33:10weren't genuine enough.
00:33:11I'm going to bring it up
00:33:12in front of the group.
00:33:14We could have facilitated that
00:33:15in the apartment
00:33:16in a more private,
00:33:18controlled environment.
00:33:20I feel like I've, you know,
00:33:22been dragged through the coals.
00:33:23All right, I'm just going to go to Sam
00:33:25because there's something
00:33:25I just want to clarify here.
00:33:27Why was it that you felt
00:33:29the need to bring this up
00:33:30in that group context?
00:33:33I wanted feedback from the group.
00:33:34I can go talk to my friends,
00:33:36you can go talk to your friends,
00:33:37and we can try and, like,
00:33:38see if we can move past this
00:33:41because I just couldn't see
00:33:42getting to a conclusion
00:33:43with just the two of us
00:33:44because I was just getting shut down.
00:33:47That's why.
00:33:50There are some pretty big
00:33:52lifestyle changes
00:33:53ahead of the two of you.
00:33:56Chris has got children coming.
00:33:57Yeah.
00:33:57You know, Chris has the farm.
00:33:59Yeah.
00:34:00And, you know, clearly,
00:34:02life's going to be very much rooted
00:34:04around Chris's existing world.
00:34:06Yeah.
00:34:07And a lot of movement
00:34:08and compromise on your part, Sam.
00:34:11Is this the elephant in the room here
00:34:14for the two of you?
00:34:17Does it feel like
00:34:19it'll be you making
00:34:20all of the sacrifice?
00:34:23I'll be making big moves.
00:34:25Yeah, so 90% of the sacrifice
00:34:26would be on me
00:34:27to, like, fit into Chris's life,
00:34:29which is fine.
00:34:30Like, I know that.
00:34:32I'm prepared to do that
00:34:33if we fall for each other,
00:34:34but I just didn't want to feel
00:34:37like I had no say
00:34:38in even how that would look.
00:34:40I just feel like
00:34:41there could be a bit more
00:34:42empathy around the fact
00:34:43that there's a lot
00:34:44that I have to change
00:34:45and I would have really liked
00:34:45if you discussed that
00:34:46with me before.
00:34:50How does that sit with you, Chris?
00:34:52Yeah.
00:34:55My answer to you
00:34:56was coming from a good place.
00:34:59That question that you asked me,
00:35:00are you thinking about life
00:35:01outside of this experiment?
00:35:03Which I thought
00:35:04was such a cute question.
00:35:05That question has now, like,
00:35:07spiralled into something
00:35:09so much bigger
00:35:10than what we had anticipated
00:35:11and it's put a huge rift
00:35:13between us, obviously,
00:35:15and, um, yeah.
00:35:16Sam.
00:35:18I've been watching you
00:35:19and you look a bit withdrawn.
00:35:23What has all this,
00:35:25do you feel, Sam,
00:35:25done to your relationship?
00:35:28To be honest, like,
00:35:29it's really sad
00:35:31because you guys saw me
00:35:32at the last commitment ceremony
00:35:33and I even wrote
00:35:34in my journal afterwards
00:35:35that a life with Chris
00:35:36could be magical
00:35:37and amazing
00:35:39and it's just, like,
00:35:40taking the feet out
00:35:41from underneath me.
00:35:42Um, yeah.
00:35:45It sucks.
00:35:49Chris, one of the things
00:35:50I sit here very curious
00:35:51because, essentially,
00:35:53you were in a great place
00:35:55a week ago
00:35:56and then Sam has brought
00:35:58something up gently
00:35:59to just say, you know,
00:36:00I felt a little bit excluded.
00:36:01I thought that would have
00:36:04brought you closer
00:36:05but, in fact,
00:36:06the reaction he got
00:36:09pushes him away
00:36:10rather than brings him close.
00:36:12Yeah.
00:36:14And one of the things
00:36:15I went to is,
00:36:17did you take Sam's reaction
00:36:19as some,
00:36:20something of a rejection?
00:36:25because what I'm thinking
00:36:28is that your anger
00:36:29was coming from hurt
00:36:30and fear
00:36:31and it often does.
00:36:33You've taken it
00:36:34very personally
00:36:35and I want to put that to you.
00:36:37If that's the case,
00:36:39what might that be about?
00:36:43Maybe just
00:36:44unsuccessful relationships,
00:36:46um,
00:36:47in the past,
00:36:48you know,
00:36:48like, yeah,
00:36:49and I have been hurt a lot.
00:36:52Here's the thing.
00:36:54He's bringing this conversation
00:36:56up in front of the group
00:36:59not because he wants
00:36:59to throw you under the bus
00:37:01but because he wants
00:37:02to be able to talk to you
00:37:03and he feels like he can't
00:37:05to the point where
00:37:06he's too scared
00:37:07to bring up
00:37:08a conversation with you
00:37:09and he needs to take it
00:37:10to a larger group.
00:37:12That has got to get you
00:37:14starting to look
00:37:15at yourself
00:37:16and how
00:37:17you're talking.
00:37:19this is a real
00:37:20moment
00:37:21of truth for you
00:37:23because
00:37:24a communication style
00:37:26has contributed
00:37:26to the real crisis
00:37:29that you're in now.
00:37:33That doesn't mean
00:37:34that you can't recover
00:37:35and tonight
00:37:36is one of those
00:37:37absolute key crossroads
00:37:38for you, Chris.
00:37:40Mm-hmm.
00:37:41Yep.
00:37:46All right,
00:37:46let's go to the decision.
00:37:49let's go with you
00:37:50first, Chris.
00:37:50Stay or leave?
00:37:52I've been going
00:37:53back and forth
00:37:53the last couple of days
00:37:55and I've actually
00:37:56decided that I need
00:37:58and I want to go
00:37:59put my dad hat on
00:38:00and I would like to leave.
00:38:18all right, let's go to the decision.
00:38:20Let's go with you first, Chris.
00:38:21Stay or leave?
00:38:22I've been going
00:38:23back and forth
00:38:23the last couple of days
00:38:26and I've actually
00:38:27decided that
00:38:27I need
00:38:28and I want to go
00:38:29put my dad hat on
00:38:30and I would like to leave.
00:38:32I'm going to go
00:38:59put my dad hat on
00:39:00I just think that
00:39:01I need to concentrate
00:39:02on this next thing
00:39:04that's coming
00:39:04and he's going to be
00:39:06he's an amazing guy
00:39:07and he'll be amazing
00:39:08for someone
00:39:08I just don't think
00:39:09it's me
00:39:09for the moment.
00:39:23Sam, what's going on
00:39:24for you right now?
00:39:31I just didn't see that coming.
00:39:33I thought
00:39:38I thought
00:39:38you know
00:39:39this is the first
00:39:39hiccup we've had
00:39:40and we'd both come
00:39:41into this
00:39:42ready to take on feedback
00:39:45and then try
00:39:46and implement that
00:39:47and see if that could help
00:39:50and it just hurts
00:39:51to be like
00:39:52you've just given up
00:39:55because it got tough
00:39:56for a few days
00:40:01so yeah
00:40:02I just can't believe it.
00:40:06Let's go to your decision
00:40:07then Sam
00:40:08what have you got?
00:40:09As much as Chris gave up
00:40:10a lot to be here
00:40:11I gave up a lot
00:40:11and I was
00:40:12I wanted to leave here
00:40:13with absolutely
00:40:15no regrets
00:40:15either way
00:40:16like 100% knowing
00:40:17if Chris was the guy
00:40:18for me
00:40:20right now
00:40:20I feel like
00:40:21I would have regrets
00:40:22and I wouldn't know
00:40:22completely
00:40:23if we could have
00:40:24made it work
00:40:25like I was prepared
00:40:27to take on anything
00:40:27you guys had to say
00:40:28and try and
00:40:30put it into work.
00:40:39Well as you know
00:40:40in this experiment
00:40:41the rules are
00:40:42if one person says stay
00:40:43and the other person says leave
00:40:44the couple stays
00:40:46for another week
00:40:47and they work
00:40:48on the relationship.
00:40:51It might seem
00:40:52like a lost cause
00:40:53but frankly
00:40:53we see couples
00:40:56absolutely turn things
00:40:57around in one week
00:41:02but it will require
00:41:04some heavy lifting
00:41:05from the both of you.
00:41:11I mean the one thing
00:41:12about you two right now
00:41:13is that it's not friendly
00:41:15so when you think about
00:41:17how you're going to
00:41:18take on this week
00:41:19to start talking
00:41:20to one another
00:41:21in a respectful way
00:41:22and acting
00:41:23in a considerate way
00:41:24and from there
00:41:26you can start
00:41:27to see
00:41:28how it changes
00:41:29your relationship.
00:41:31Let me remind you
00:41:32it was only a week ago
00:41:33that you were loved
00:41:34up on that couch
00:41:35excited about the future.
00:41:41But with a weenus
00:41:42can come change
00:41:46and all you've got to do
00:41:47is treat each other
00:41:48in a friendly way.
00:41:53All right.
00:41:54Thank you both.
00:41:56Good work tonight.
00:41:57Well done.
00:41:57That was hard.
00:42:16I'll just be a guy.
00:42:22Okay.
00:42:23Our next couple
00:42:23on the couch
00:42:25Alyssa and David.
00:42:26Oh.
00:42:30Hello, you two.
00:42:31Hello.
00:42:31Hello.
00:42:32Welcome.
00:42:35How was feedback week
00:42:36for you guys?
00:42:38So obviously
00:42:38feedback week
00:42:39started with some receipts
00:42:40from Juliet.
00:42:42From last couch session
00:42:44that we had.
00:42:45That was the start
00:42:46of our feedback week
00:42:47which was kind of negative.
00:42:50You hear about
00:42:51oh just some messages
00:42:52but they were actually
00:42:53really vicious.
00:42:55yeah it wasn't okay.
00:42:57It was it definitely
00:42:58was a fresh
00:42:58it was fresh hurt
00:42:59for David and I.
00:43:01Yeah look
00:43:03seeing those text messages
00:43:04just reopened wounds
00:43:06that were obviously
00:43:07closing over.
00:43:09Obviously it was
00:43:10a negative vibe
00:43:11to feedback week.
00:43:12We didn't want to see that
00:43:13but it came to us.
00:43:14So yeah
00:43:16yeah moving on from that.
00:43:19Feedback week
00:43:20actually went really well
00:43:21because we managed
00:43:23to talk about
00:43:24some things.
00:43:25Yeah we talked about
00:43:26a plan for when
00:43:26we left the experiment.
00:43:27What that was going
00:43:28to look like you know
00:43:29a bit of long distance
00:43:30maybe and then
00:43:32figure out like
00:43:33if we're moving
00:43:34to maybe Adelaide.
00:43:37So obviously
00:43:38you know
00:43:39getting to an age
00:43:40in the next couple
00:43:41of years
00:43:41I want to have a family
00:43:42and I want to be
00:43:44in Adelaide for that.
00:43:46And that was something
00:43:47that I hadn't talked
00:43:48to David about
00:43:49but he was amazing.
00:43:50He was like
00:43:51I understand
00:43:51if you need to be
00:43:52with your family
00:43:53and you need extra support
00:43:54then we're going
00:43:55to move to Adelaide.
00:43:56And I understand
00:43:56raising kids
00:43:57is not an easy task
00:43:58so you know
00:43:59she's obviously
00:43:59got her family there
00:44:00her mum
00:44:01and her mum's
00:44:02a legend.
00:44:04Alyssa would be
00:44:05a fantastic mother.
00:44:06She notices
00:44:06everything about me
00:44:07you know what I'm saying
00:44:08like she
00:44:09she helps me a lot.
00:44:11I did say though
00:44:12I did say
00:44:14she reminds me
00:44:15of my mother
00:44:17she might be like
00:44:18don't wear that shirt
00:44:18it doesn't like
00:44:20it doesn't look good
00:44:21on you
00:44:21like just straight
00:44:22to the point
00:44:22and direct
00:44:23that's what my mother
00:44:24would do
00:44:25so that's what
00:44:26makes me know
00:44:26that she's got
00:44:27deep feelings
00:44:27and she cares
00:44:28because like
00:44:29she tells me
00:44:29things that
00:44:30challenge me
00:44:31you know
00:44:31and she doesn't
00:44:32just settle
00:44:33like she's always
00:44:34looking to grow
00:44:35she brings out
00:44:36the best in me
00:44:36as well
00:44:37and I think
00:44:37that's someone
00:44:38I need in my life
00:44:39someone who's
00:44:39always going to
00:44:40push me to be better
00:44:41hmm
00:44:42so you're in a good
00:44:43place guys
00:44:44I feel like
00:44:45we're
00:44:46we're the strongest
00:44:47we've ever been
00:44:48yeah
00:44:48I would agree
00:44:49right now
00:44:49we are
00:44:50we definitely are
00:44:51that's great
00:44:51yeah
00:44:52brilliant
00:44:53let's go to the decision
00:44:54Alyssa
00:44:56what'll it be
00:44:56well obviously
00:44:58got an exciting week
00:44:59coming up
00:45:00homestay
00:45:00homestay
00:45:01I'm about to convince you
00:45:02that you might like Adelaide
00:45:04so
00:45:06stay
00:45:06fabulous
00:45:07show you around
00:45:12so
00:45:12I wrote
00:45:13stay
00:45:13I go to little
00:45:14planes
00:45:15oh
00:45:15fly
00:45:16fly
00:45:17take me home baby
00:45:19yep
00:45:20I love it
00:45:20ready to go
00:45:21yeah
00:45:21there has been
00:45:23some really
00:45:24tough times
00:45:25for you guys
00:45:26and you've just
00:45:28turned toward each
00:45:28other
00:45:29backed each other
00:45:30and supported each
00:45:31other
00:45:31like a real team
00:45:33thanks guys
00:45:34well done
00:45:44coming up
00:45:45frankly when I
00:45:46watch you
00:45:47on the couch
00:45:48you seem
00:45:49uncomfortable
00:45:50the experts
00:45:52apply the pressure
00:45:53to Danny
00:45:53if you could do it
00:45:54over again
00:45:55how would you
00:45:55answer it
00:45:57I'd just say yes
00:45:59yes what
00:46:00I could see myself
00:46:01all in the love of you
00:46:02yeah
00:46:02that's as simple as that
00:46:04and would that be the truth
00:46:20our next couple up on the couch
00:46:24philip and stella
00:46:29hello
00:46:30hello
00:46:30hello
00:46:31welcome
00:46:34last week was a little bit tough
00:46:37for you two on the couch
00:46:38I see such a different energy
00:46:41just walking up to the couch
00:46:44um
00:46:45I really want to thank mel
00:46:46for her advice
00:46:47to focus on the emotional safety
00:46:49that he's providing
00:46:50and giving me
00:46:52and it's such a simple thing
00:46:53when you think
00:46:54but I
00:46:55I didn't think about it
00:46:56and that was just like
00:46:58a penny drop moment for me
00:46:59I really
00:47:00I really want to thank you guys
00:47:01because um
00:47:02I think if not the confinements
00:47:03of the experiment
00:47:05probably would be a different story
00:47:06at the end of the day
00:47:07uh
00:47:07so yeah
00:47:08thank you
00:47:09it's these uncomfortable chats
00:47:11that need to happen
00:47:11it's not
00:47:12you're having a go
00:47:13it's just
00:47:13yeah
00:47:14yeah
00:47:14it helps
00:47:15it helped us this week
00:47:16tremendously
00:47:17yeah
00:47:18great to hear
00:47:19we ended up having a good week
00:47:20like she was
00:47:21she was a lot more gentler
00:47:22like you know
00:47:22coming and leading with kindness
00:47:24she's just been a little bit more gentle
00:47:26just with her delivery
00:47:27I can see sometimes she's just
00:47:28as she sometimes starts talking
00:47:30she'll just stop
00:47:30and then
00:47:31she'll just go a little bit
00:47:32softer
00:47:33just things like that
00:47:34you know
00:47:34just little subtle differences
00:47:35that you can tell
00:47:36like yeah don't get me wrong
00:47:37Stella's still stellar
00:47:38but you know
00:47:39but she's a little bit
00:47:41yeah
00:47:42moving on
00:47:42a little bit different energy
00:47:44and uh
00:47:44we actually had a really
00:47:45really good week
00:47:46go ask the question
00:47:47of like
00:47:47alright
00:47:47if we go outside
00:47:48the experiment
00:47:49how quick would you expect
00:47:50like a proposal
00:47:51or something like that
00:47:52just to like
00:47:52fully escalate things
00:47:54you know
00:47:55you're just asking
00:47:55randomly
00:47:55just throw it out there
00:47:56it's a free question
00:47:58I said
00:47:596 to 12 months
00:48:00and Stella was just like
00:48:02ASAP
00:48:02so it's just kind of like
00:48:04I said the sooner the better
00:48:05wow
00:48:08sometimes I thought
00:48:09that like
00:48:09I was fully over invested
00:48:10and I was
00:48:11showing too much
00:48:12because that's a general
00:48:13trade of mine
00:48:14I just go all in
00:48:14you know
00:48:15I show all my cards
00:48:16here they are
00:48:16you know
00:48:17I never really hold back
00:48:18that's kind of like
00:48:19a trade of mine
00:48:20but it was good to get
00:48:21the reassurance
00:48:22but yeah
00:48:23can I just point out
00:48:23something that's quite
00:48:25stark for you Stella
00:48:28last week
00:48:29you were essentially
00:48:30pushing him away
00:48:31and creating that space
00:48:33and this week
00:48:34you're saying
00:48:35you want a real life
00:48:36proposal
00:48:38well let's put it that way
00:48:39I didn't say
00:48:40I would like a proposal
00:48:41that was a free question
00:48:42let's clarify
00:48:43and I got really shy
00:48:45I got really uncomfortable
00:48:46and I said
00:48:47the sooner the better
00:48:47you know
00:48:48the sooner the better
00:48:48yeah
00:48:49but still
00:48:49the stark contrast
00:48:51I guess from last week
00:48:52how does that feel
00:48:52from your perspective
00:48:54like I'm crazy
00:48:55I'm trying to make sense of it
00:48:56it would be confusing
00:48:58no it's good not being crazy
00:48:59but it's just
00:49:00it's extreme
00:49:00can't really give up
00:49:01isn't it
00:49:01it's extreme
00:49:02and it has an emotional impact
00:49:04so I'm just wondering
00:49:05how that feels for you
00:49:06it's good
00:49:06it shows that she's forward thinking
00:49:09she sees me in her future
00:49:10and that she's like
00:49:11the real deal
00:49:12you know
00:49:12when you think about
00:49:14the future
00:49:14is this something
00:49:15that you can see
00:49:16for the two of you
00:49:17yeah yeah
00:49:18definitely
00:49:18most definitely
00:49:19so yeah
00:49:19pretty pretty confident
00:49:23it's interesting
00:49:24tonight
00:49:25the first thing
00:49:26I noticed
00:49:26was the way
00:49:27you looked at him again
00:49:27oh
00:49:28yeah
00:49:29I'm in love again
00:49:30you were back
00:49:31into that sort of
00:49:32starry eyed
00:49:33interaction
00:49:33where you gaze
00:49:35at him
00:49:35in extended ways
00:49:38oh you're gonna make me cry
00:49:41we lost
00:49:41we lost that last week
00:49:43yeah
00:49:44I would say
00:49:45I just felt back
00:49:46into my feelings
00:49:47into my body
00:49:48into showing up
00:49:49for myself
00:49:49and then showing up
00:49:50for him
00:49:50because if I don't
00:49:51show up for myself
00:49:52I can't show up
00:49:53for him
00:49:53and that's the main
00:49:54difference
00:49:55and ultimately
00:49:56I think you had
00:49:56to get out of your head
00:49:58and into your heart
00:49:59which is ultimately
00:50:01what we were trying
00:50:02to get you to do
00:50:04alright well
00:50:05with that being the case
00:50:06let's go to the decision
00:50:08stay or leave
00:50:08the decision is
00:50:09very simple
00:50:10and being back
00:50:12into my heart
00:50:13have a beautiful stay
00:50:15excellent
00:50:16look at that eh
00:50:16perfect
00:50:17love it
00:50:18and
00:50:18fill it
00:50:19it's a
00:50:20it's a
00:50:21stay
00:50:21strong
00:50:22strong stay
00:50:23strong stay
00:50:24strong stay
00:50:25well thank you
00:50:27we really
00:50:28I personally
00:50:28really appreciate
00:50:29the advices
00:50:30that you guys
00:50:30give
00:50:30good work
00:50:31thank you
00:50:32will do
00:50:32thank you
00:50:33thanks again
00:50:42and our final
00:50:43couple up on the
00:50:44couch
00:50:45Bec and Danny
00:50:47oh I'm scared
00:50:56right
00:50:57feedback week
00:50:58how was it
00:51:00do you want to
00:51:00you talk
00:51:01I'll talk
00:51:01it's been good
00:51:02it was challenging
00:51:03to begin with
00:51:05but it ended
00:51:06really really well
00:51:07why was it challenging
00:51:11so
00:51:12obviously like I
00:51:13told Danny
00:51:14that I'm in love
00:51:15with him
00:51:16the last
00:51:17commitment ceremony
00:51:18you certainly
00:51:18did
00:51:20it's how I feel
00:51:21so I'm going to
00:51:22say it
00:51:25and I meant it
00:51:27but when we
00:51:29sort of did the
00:51:29questions
00:51:30there was one
00:51:31question that came
00:51:32up was
00:51:32can you see
00:51:33yourself falling
00:51:34in love with me
00:51:36and Danny
00:51:37didn't say no
00:51:37but he sort of
00:51:38um denied a little
00:51:39bit and I just
00:51:40spiralled
00:51:44so what was his
00:51:45exact answer
00:51:48potentially yes
00:51:49I assume so
00:51:52so how did
00:51:53that feel
00:51:53um I was
00:51:55upset
00:51:55I was hurt
00:51:56and I was
00:51:56kind of
00:51:57embarrassed
00:52:03I thought
00:52:03that he
00:52:05would have
00:52:05said
00:52:06not I'm
00:52:06not there
00:52:07yet
00:52:07but yes
00:52:08I just
00:52:09thought
00:52:10that it
00:52:10that he
00:52:12would be
00:52:12a little bit
00:52:12further along
00:52:13than potentially
00:52:14yes I
00:52:14assume so
00:52:15but I
00:52:17need to
00:52:17allow Daniel
00:52:18to
00:52:19be on his
00:52:20journey
00:52:21in this
00:52:22relationship
00:52:23and I'll be
00:52:24on mine
00:52:24and don't
00:52:25regret it
00:52:25be me
00:52:28I'm in
00:52:29love
00:52:30he's not
00:52:30there yet
00:52:31don't allow
00:52:32that fact
00:52:33to ruin
00:52:34how good
00:52:36it feels
00:52:36for me
00:52:45Danny
00:52:49let's go
00:52:49to that
00:52:50discussion
00:52:50shall we
00:52:51and when
00:52:51the question
00:52:52got asked
00:52:53tell us
00:52:53again
00:52:54what you
00:52:54said
00:52:55and then
00:52:55why you
00:52:56said it
00:52:57well
00:52:59the
00:53:00the questions
00:53:00are sometimes
00:53:01I struggle
00:53:01with to be
00:53:02honest
00:53:03I think
00:53:04I misinterpreted
00:53:05the question
00:53:08but the question
00:53:10what was
00:53:10like
00:53:11it was a bit
00:53:11could you see
00:53:11yourself falling
00:53:12in love
00:53:12with me
00:53:14because it's
00:53:15a pretty
00:53:15black and white
00:53:16question
00:53:31I think
00:53:32I misinterpreted
00:53:33the question
00:53:36but the question
00:53:37what was
00:53:38like
00:53:38could you see
00:53:39yourself falling
00:53:39in love
00:53:40with me
00:53:40because it's
00:53:41a pretty
00:53:41black and white
00:53:42question
00:53:51from my point
00:53:52of view
00:53:53I don't feel
00:53:54as a man
00:53:56like
00:53:56if I give
00:53:57back my word
00:53:58on something
00:53:58I'm always
00:53:59going to stand
00:53:59to that
00:54:02and
00:54:02I don't think
00:54:04saying
00:54:04yes
00:54:05I can 100%
00:54:06fall in love
00:54:07with you
00:54:07would be the
00:54:08right thing
00:54:08to say
00:54:09because it's
00:54:09almost making
00:54:10a promise
00:54:10which I don't
00:54:11think you can
00:54:12promise that
00:54:12before you're
00:54:13in love
00:54:13with someone
00:54:16but let's
00:54:17just remind
00:54:18ourselves
00:54:18the question
00:54:19wasn't
00:54:20do you promise
00:54:21that you will
00:54:22fall in love
00:54:22with me
00:54:23yeah I know
00:54:23John
00:54:23100%
00:54:24it was
00:54:24can you see
00:54:25yourself
00:54:26falling in
00:54:27love
00:54:27with me
00:54:30yeah
00:54:30and do you
00:54:31know what
00:54:32like
00:54:33I can't sit
00:54:33here and make
00:54:34excuses
00:54:34I just
00:54:35answered
00:54:35the question
00:54:36shockingly
00:54:36you know
00:54:37what I mean
00:54:40it was a
00:54:40mistake
00:54:41I made a
00:54:41mistake
00:54:42I'm only
00:54:42human
00:54:44like I
00:54:45didn't
00:54:45I didn't
00:54:45mean to
00:54:46make
00:54:46Beck feel
00:54:47like that
00:54:47it wasn't
00:54:48my intention
00:54:50when
00:54:51when we
00:54:51revisited
00:54:52it
00:54:52I
00:54:53we talked
00:54:54about it
00:54:55and we
00:54:57patched it
00:54:58up
00:54:58you know
00:55:02yeah I
00:55:03just
00:55:04I made a
00:55:05mistake
00:55:05it's alright
00:55:06baby
00:55:10Danny I've
00:55:11got a question
00:55:12because I'm
00:55:12curious
00:55:14frankly when I
00:55:15watch you on
00:55:16the couch
00:55:17you seem
00:55:18uncomfortable
00:55:20I do find
00:55:22this uncomfortable
00:55:22to be honest
00:55:23it's not
00:55:23something
00:55:23I'm good at
00:55:24what's
00:55:24uncomfortable
00:55:24about it
00:55:26just sitting
00:55:26here talking
00:55:27about your
00:55:27feelings
00:55:29I turn up
00:55:30and do it
00:55:30because obviously
00:55:31it's more
00:55:32for Beck
00:55:33if I had it
00:55:34my way I
00:55:34wouldn't be
00:55:35here no chance
00:55:36but is it
00:55:37more for Beck
00:55:41100%
00:55:45like a lot
00:55:46of blokes
00:55:46do things
00:55:47they don't
00:55:47want to do
00:55:48because of
00:55:48hold on a
00:55:48second
00:55:49doll
00:55:49one second
00:55:50babe
00:55:51adore you
00:55:52so much
00:55:53I love you
00:55:54actually
00:55:54but
00:55:56this is not
00:55:57all for me
00:55:57doll
00:55:57no I know
00:55:58that
00:55:58they're like
00:55:59you're being
00:55:59they're helping
00:56:00you too
00:56:00trust me
00:56:04these couch
00:56:04sessions are
00:56:05not just for
00:56:06Beck
00:56:06you signed up
00:56:07to the experiment
00:56:08on your own
00:56:10saying that
00:56:10you wanted
00:56:11to break
00:56:11some patterns
00:56:12so this is
00:56:13the chance
00:56:14for you
00:56:14to do that
00:56:15and that's
00:56:15your part
00:56:16where you
00:56:16have to
00:56:16rise to
00:56:17the occasion
00:56:18and choose
00:56:19to do that
00:56:20with enthusiasm
00:56:22enthusiasm
00:56:22thank you
00:56:23thanks Alessandra
00:56:24you're welcome
00:56:25no but it's
00:56:26true
00:56:26you want
00:56:27your partner
00:56:27to want
00:56:28to
00:56:29and that's
00:56:30the game
00:56:30changer
00:56:30when somebody
00:56:31really wants
00:56:32to be there
00:56:32for you
00:56:33and chooses
00:56:34to make
00:56:34your priority
00:56:35day in
00:56:35and day out
00:56:36wow
00:56:36that's the
00:56:37game changer
00:56:37it would
00:56:38be for you
00:56:39it certainly
00:56:40will be
00:56:41for Beck
00:56:44and what
00:56:45you know
00:56:46now is
00:56:46when you're
00:56:47particularly
00:56:47talking about
00:56:48commitment
00:56:49future
00:56:50feelings
00:56:53you do
00:56:53have to
00:56:54choose your
00:56:54words very
00:56:55carefully
00:56:58you do
00:56:59indeed
00:57:00if you could
00:57:01do it
00:57:01over again
00:57:02how would
00:57:03you answer
00:57:03it
00:57:04I'd just
00:57:05say yes
00:57:08yes
00:57:08yes what
00:57:09I could
00:57:10see myself
00:57:10in love
00:57:11with you
00:57:11yeah
00:57:11that's as
00:57:12simple as
00:57:12that
00:57:14and would
00:57:14that be
00:57:14the truth
00:57:18of course
00:57:19I wouldn't
00:57:19say if it
00:57:20wasn't the
00:57:20truth
00:57:20so yeah
00:57:23I just
00:57:24answered it
00:57:24wrong
00:57:25that was
00:57:26a bad answer
00:57:28I think the
00:57:29best thing
00:57:29with Daniel
00:57:30and I
00:57:30and I've
00:57:31learnt
00:57:31is that you
00:57:33know we
00:57:33always come
00:57:34out better
00:57:35and stronger
00:57:35because now
00:57:36moving forward
00:57:37we're in this
00:57:38together
00:57:39and it makes
00:57:41me feel like
00:57:41I'm not
00:57:42going to get
00:57:42hurt
00:57:44it means
00:57:45so much
00:57:46and like
00:57:47for example
00:57:48he planned
00:57:49this date
00:57:50and I walked
00:57:51into our
00:57:51apartment
00:57:51and there
00:57:52was candles
00:57:52lit everywhere
00:57:54and all
00:57:55over the
00:57:55apartment
00:57:55was post-it
00:57:56notes
00:57:58telling me
00:57:58how he
00:57:59felt about
00:58:00me
00:58:02so he's
00:58:03learning guys
00:58:03I'm not all
00:58:04bad am I
00:58:06and then
00:58:07we went up
00:58:08and he asked
00:58:08me to be
00:58:09his girlfriend
00:58:14I know
00:58:14you're married
00:58:15but what
00:58:16inspired you
00:58:17to ask
00:58:17Beck that
00:58:17question
00:58:19I'm trying
00:58:20to think
00:58:22like
00:58:22it was
00:58:23important
00:58:24to Beck
00:58:25you know
00:58:25because
00:58:25why was it
00:58:26important to
00:58:26you
00:58:34because it
00:58:35gives
00:58:35Beck
00:58:36security
00:58:37but why
00:58:38is it
00:58:38important
00:58:39to you
00:58:39Danny
00:58:42well I'm
00:58:43married to
00:58:44Beck
00:58:44do you
00:58:44know
00:58:45what you
00:58:45mean
00:58:45so it's
00:58:45like
00:58:46but
00:58:46like
00:58:47I think
00:58:47it
00:58:48was
00:58:48more
00:58:53yeah
00:58:54I think
00:58:54Beck
00:58:54just wanted
00:58:55that added
00:58:55security
00:58:56that
00:58:56like
00:58:56do you
00:58:57but why
00:58:57was it
00:58:57important
00:58:57to you
00:58:58to ask
00:58:59her
00:58:59that
00:59:23why was it
00:59:24important to
00:59:24you
00:59:25you
00:59:25to ask
00:59:25her that
00:59:36because I know
00:59:37it'd be special
00:59:37to Beck
00:59:40but why was it
00:59:41important to you
00:59:54because I wanted to
00:59:54be my girlfriend
00:59:55like
00:59:56you know
00:59:58yeah that's
00:59:59why I've done it
01:00:02cute
01:00:09how did it feel
01:00:10so good
01:00:16it's really special
01:00:17to me
01:00:20all right well on that note
01:00:21we're going to go to a
01:00:22decision
01:00:23Beck
01:00:24I wrote
01:00:25stay
01:00:26and then I wrote
01:00:26boyfriend
01:00:27hee hee
01:00:30yeah
01:00:31boyfriend
01:00:33Danny
01:00:35leave
01:00:36can you imagine
01:00:39so I've just done a
01:00:40cheeky stay
01:00:42that's lovely
01:00:43where's the love part
01:00:44this week
01:00:44it was in a rush
01:00:45oh okay
01:00:49this week
01:00:50I think
01:00:50for you Danny
01:00:53clearly
01:00:53and plainly
01:00:55let her know
01:00:56how you feel
01:00:57about her
01:00:59everything that you
01:01:00wrote on those
01:01:00post-it notes
01:01:02translate that
01:01:03into your verbal
01:01:03communication with her
01:01:04this week
01:01:05because it worked
01:01:05it's been the best
01:01:06week of my life
01:01:10you got a big
01:01:11thumbs up for that
01:01:12so do more of that
01:01:13make her that
01:01:15priority
01:01:21thank you both
01:01:22thanks so much
01:01:23appreciate you
01:01:42tomorrow night
01:01:44the experiment goes
01:01:46across the country
01:01:47welcome home
01:01:51homestays week
01:01:52has arrived
01:01:54over two big nights
01:01:55our couples get a
01:01:56glimpse of what
01:01:57married life will
01:01:58look like
01:02:00beyond the
01:02:01experiment
01:02:02whoa
01:02:03passenger princess
01:02:04steven set sail
01:02:05on an exciting
01:02:06new future
01:02:07with rachel
01:02:08this is such a
01:02:09special place
01:02:10for him
01:02:10how lucky am I
01:02:11for him to have
01:02:12welcomed me into this
01:02:13I kind of like
01:02:14holding a rod
01:02:15and getting kissed
01:02:19my vibes on the
01:02:21wedding day
01:02:21weren't really
01:02:22positive
01:02:23and I'm here to
01:02:24protect her
01:02:24Stella's outspoken
01:02:26guests from her
01:02:27wedding day are
01:02:28back
01:02:28so like
01:02:29I've
01:02:30I'm getting
01:02:31sorry to interrupt
01:02:31you
01:02:31I'm getting some
01:02:33not so confident
01:02:34vibes from over
01:02:34here
01:02:35and then
01:02:37welcome
01:02:37Scott shows off
01:02:39to Gia
01:02:40his waterside
01:02:41home
01:02:41oh it's a bit
01:02:42messy
01:02:43so random
01:02:44weird
01:02:45this wouldn't be
01:02:46big enough
01:02:46it'd be better
01:02:47if that wasn't
01:02:47there
01:02:48is Gia the most
01:02:49high maintenance
01:02:50house guest
01:02:51Scott's ever seen
01:02:52um my house is way
01:02:54cleaner
01:02:55yeah I couldn't
01:02:56I couldn't live here
01:02:57if the roles were
01:02:58reversed and I was
01:02:58at Gia's house
01:02:59I wouldn't say
01:02:59anything but nice
01:03:00things
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