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Married at First Sight Australia - Season 13 - Episode 32
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00:00:01Previously...
00:00:01Welcome home!
00:00:03The homestays saw some lock-in plans for their lives beyond the experiment.
00:00:08I'm open to moving now.
00:00:10I've got everything that I want in an apartment.
00:00:12I've got my reassurances.
00:00:14We are coming out stronger.
00:00:16Stephen stepped up, giving Rachel reassurance for their future.
00:00:20What I see is a wife outside the experiment.
00:00:26After a tense few days on the farm, Sam and Chris made a shock decision.
00:00:32I can't see this working.
00:00:34It's all good. It is what it is.
00:00:35It's not how I envisioned it would end.
00:00:38I really thought Chris would fight for me a bit.
00:00:41You want to have a family.
00:00:43You don't want to keep putting it off.
00:00:46Following advice from her mother, Alyssa began to spiral.
00:00:49I'm just getting very overwhelmed with what I have at stake here
00:00:54and what I could potentially be walking away from.
00:00:56Leaving David disheartened...
00:00:58The way Alyssa is handling the situation, it is making me uneasy.
00:01:03Tonight...
00:01:04Throughout this experiment, I have been patient.
00:01:06But when you're dealing with the mum, the family, friends,
00:01:10they all said that I'm a great guy for her,
00:01:12and she still sees negatives, there's nothing else I can do.
00:01:16Has David reached his limit?
00:01:18That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:01:21You never say space.
00:01:24It's the second last dinner party of the experiment.
00:01:28I can see we can do life together,
00:01:30but I feel a lot more confident now that we can take this out onto the outside.
00:01:34Have Rachel and Stephen become this year's new power couple?
00:01:38Who would have thought?
00:01:39Who would have thought?
00:01:41The person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:01:45But babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:01:48Tensions rise when Sam and Chris air their concerns.
00:01:51You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey.
00:01:55And I've never been aggressive to you.
00:01:58And then...
00:01:59I think, like, for me, as a man, I feel like...
00:02:03Oh, God.
00:02:04Oh, my God.
00:02:06What are you on about?
00:02:07Yeah.
00:02:08It's the shock debate that will divide the table.
00:02:12That was not what I was getting at.
00:02:14Are we serious for this?
00:02:30Our couples have returned from their homestay.
00:02:33And our brides and grooms are enjoying a new sense of closeness.
00:02:38After stepping into the life that could be waiting for them outside the experiment.
00:02:43Hi.
00:02:45Hey.
00:02:45Bonjour.
00:02:46Bonjour.
00:02:47Recharged and hopeful, the couples now turn their attention to the second last dinner party
00:02:53of the experiment, eager to reconnect after time apart.
00:02:58Are you excited?
00:02:59I am excited because it's been a very long time since we caught up with everyone.
00:03:05We don't know what the hell is going on.
00:03:08It's going to be exciting.
00:03:10A lot of guys to come up.
00:03:12This is...
00:03:12I'll be straight up with you.
00:03:13This is the most anticipated dinner party I'm looking forward to.
00:03:17Yeah.
00:03:17Really?
00:03:18How come?
00:03:18We went through...
00:03:20The ups and downs.
00:03:21We went through the ups and downs.
00:03:21The trenches.
00:03:23But coming out of the end of it, good.
00:03:25Yeah.
00:03:26Everything's...
00:03:26Everything is exactly where it needs to be.
00:03:28For Rachel and Stephen, Homestays sparked a breakthrough in their marriage, unlocking a new confidence
00:03:35in their relationship.
00:03:37Hello, hello.
00:03:38Hello, sexy.
00:03:39Looking good.
00:03:40I appreciate that.
00:03:41I like the red.
00:03:42Right now, we've just come off the back of Homestays and it was amazing.
00:03:46Something definitely clicked for Stephen and I.
00:03:48It was that this could work.
00:03:51I think that's really what it is.
00:03:53I'm ready to, like, load up the boat again and get straight back up to the Central Coast
00:03:57and just, you know, start hanging out and yeah.
00:04:01So, it was really good.
00:04:02We had such...
00:04:04It was such a great Homestay and I'm actually just really excited to share that with everyone.
00:04:09And that's it.
00:04:10I'm glad you had a good time and you could see, you know, a little bit of my lifestyle.
00:04:16After Homestays, it's given me confidence.
00:04:18I feel a little bit better outside the experiment now.
00:04:21Like I said to Rachel, can I see myself falling in love with you?
00:04:26Yes, I can.
00:04:27And I mean that and Homestays really gave me confidence in that.
00:04:32I think we're really lucky.
00:04:34You know, other couples may not have had a good Homestay,
00:04:37so we're really lucky to have had the good experience that we did.
00:04:42While Homestays brought some closer...
00:04:46For Scott, welcoming Gia into his home presented new challenges.
00:04:51What's that?
00:04:52It's a neck brace.
00:04:54Why is it pink?
00:04:55Why is it pink? Why not?
00:04:57You're trying to find a problem.
00:04:59Is it your ex or something?
00:05:00Yeah.
00:05:00Do you trust me? Like, do you trust my words?
00:05:03Do you trust me as a person?
00:05:04Yeah, I trust you.
00:05:06Yeah, why?
00:05:08I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells because I feel like if I want to bring up something,
00:05:12I feel like you might misinterpret it the wrong way.
00:05:15I know I trust you, but can I commit to moving and everything if you never feel like, you know,
00:05:21that you love me?
00:05:22But back at the apartments, eternal optimist Scott is determined to hit reset and look on the bright side.
00:05:29I feel great.
00:05:31I just feel good walking into this dinner party, being able to share, like, good moments that we've had.
00:05:36I feel like it'll be good.
00:05:37Like, I feel like tonight's going to be a really good, positive night to share what we've done for Homestays.
00:05:43Yeah.
00:05:44At the end of Homestays, we had a bit of a discussion, but we hashed it out.
00:05:50Today, we're going to the dinner party with positive attitude, we're great, we're in a really good place.
00:05:54I want to keep it like that.
00:05:57Yeah, I mean, I'm pretty happy with where we're at.
00:06:01I'm coming to the end now, this is the last or second last one.
00:06:04Mm.
00:06:05So, yeah.
00:06:07Do you think it would cause problems if you, you know, raised some concerns?
00:06:12Oh.
00:06:16Pretty much.
00:06:18Let's just do it, get it done.
00:06:20I'm excited.
00:06:21You look good, we feel good, and I'm ready to walk into a nice dinner party.
00:06:27Yep, me too.
00:06:30For Bec and Danny, what began as a promising homestay took a dramatic turn.
00:06:36If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you, they would.
00:06:43I think, obviously, because Danielle fancied me, she didn't want to, like...
00:06:49I'm joking.
00:06:51I'm joking.
00:06:52I'm joking.
00:06:52It's like a serious moment.
00:06:56These moments make me feel like shit.
00:06:58It's serious for me.
00:07:00You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say,
00:07:04oh, your cousin wants to me.
00:07:06Like...
00:07:07I never said that.
00:07:08Yeah.
00:07:08I'm done.
00:07:09You're a f***ing boy.
00:07:10F***ing thingy.
00:07:12F***ing.
00:07:14F***ing.
00:07:15And now back at the apartment, an even bigger shock awaits.
00:07:23So, since we got back to Sydney from homestays, things are great, like...
00:07:29Cheers, baby.
00:07:30Cheers, girl.
00:07:31The last night, like, since we've been back, like, there's not really any need to talk
00:07:35about it.
00:07:35Like, he made a joke.
00:07:37It frustrated me.
00:07:39He got frustrated with me.
00:07:40And then we wake up the next morning.
00:07:42We give each other a cuddle.
00:07:43We have a shower.
00:07:45Can we move on?
00:07:46Cheers.
00:07:47It's all blown over.
00:07:49Like...
00:07:50Shocking.
00:07:51Oh, stop it!
00:07:52Ha, ha, ha, ha!
00:07:54For most couples, homestays brought them together.
00:07:58But for one couple, it marked the end of the road.
00:08:02Going to the dinner party tonight, yeah, I'm going alone.
00:08:05And, obviously, Chris and I left each other at homestays.
00:08:09I wrote some questions down, and maybe we could just be, like, really raw and honest
00:08:14with each other about all the answers.
00:08:18First question is, do you accept full responsibility for your defensiveness
00:08:22and the aggression I felt from you last week?
00:08:27Yeah.
00:08:29You don't have to agree.
00:08:30Yeah, no, I agree.
00:08:31Yeah.
00:08:31I just feel like we've...
00:08:32I've already suffered enough from this.
00:08:35I honestly felt like I was, um, 15, getting in trouble by a teacher or something.
00:08:39Do you have feelings for me?
00:08:42Um...
00:08:45Okay, um...
00:08:47In the beginning, uh, yes.
00:08:49But I just think, um, yeah, we also have some, um, differences as well.
00:08:55And I just want to put my dad hat on and, like, live my best life.
00:09:01Homestays was my last plea to see if he was going to fight for me at all.
00:09:06But Chris just kind of gave up.
00:09:10So, I did break up with Chris on the farm.
00:09:13But I'm going to the dinner party because I want that last chance
00:09:17to sort of just, like, find out why Chris actually didn't want this relationship.
00:09:23I just want clarity on what the hell happened.
00:09:27But Sam isn't the only one struggling with the fallout of their homestay.
00:09:33During their trip to Adelaide, Alyssa received a wake-up call.
00:09:37Obviously, I want to settle down in Adelaide, but...
00:09:41What are your thoughts about me moving to Sydney just for a couple of years?
00:09:45I would hate that.
00:09:49Um, you know, you want to have a family and you don't want to keep putting it off.
00:09:56People sometimes take ten years to fall pregnant.
00:09:59That's the truth.
00:10:00Yeah, I know, but, Mum, I don't know that yet. I've never tried.
00:10:02That's right.
00:10:03But you don't know that.
00:10:05A couple of years?
00:10:06A couple of years.
00:10:07I don't think you've got a couple of years to wait.
00:10:12It's really stressful now.
00:10:15And after a confronting conversation with her mum, Alyssa unraveled
00:10:20and David was left wondering where he fits.
00:10:23I will be honest with you.
00:10:26I...
00:10:27I started to spiral.
00:10:29Like, I want to have a family in the next few years.
00:10:33Don't want to miss out on being a mum.
00:10:34And if we're going to make this thing work,
00:10:37David might have to move to Adelaide.
00:10:39Alyssa, I'm really sorry, babe, I have to ask this to you.
00:10:43You've sat here and you've talked a lot about what your wants and needs are.
00:10:46Mm.
00:10:49What about...
00:10:50Yeah, David.
00:10:52Now back at the apartments,
00:10:55David has had a wake-up call of his own.
00:11:00Oh, man, I'm feeling at my limit post-homes days.
00:11:09Can I see myself living in Adelaide?
00:11:11Absolutely.
00:11:12But, you know, after having, you know, come back to Sydney
00:11:16and having time to just come down from the high of homestays,
00:11:20I am feeling a bit low.
00:11:22And that is because there were a couple of things that have still, like,
00:11:27trinkled in the back of my mind.
00:11:29Could you see yourself living here?
00:11:33To be honest, yeah.
00:11:36I know that you're willing to move here, which is great,
00:11:40but I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it
00:11:43because you're, like, literally...
00:11:44Is you overwhelmed?
00:11:46I am, I am, I am, because it's, like, a lot.
00:11:50David actually is everything that you've asked for.
00:11:53I know.
00:11:53Right now, this is too good to be true.
00:11:55Like, and that is also another reason why I'm scared too.
00:11:59Throughout this experiment, I have been patient
00:12:02because I know there is something in this relationship to fight for.
00:12:06But when you get to that point where, like, you're dealing with, like,
00:12:10the mum, the family, friends, they all said that I'm a great guy for her
00:12:15and she still sees negatives, there's nothing else I can do.
00:12:20I've hit my limit and I'm not going to push any further.
00:12:24It's getting very real that I could potentially
00:12:27be putting everything on the line for someone
00:12:29who doesn't want to meet me halfway.
00:12:33So, today I know I need to be honest.
00:12:36For me, I think it's important to just express how I feel.
00:12:40Looking handsome.
00:12:41Thanks, babe. You're looking gorgeous. I love the dress.
00:12:43Thank you. Well, we're kind of almost matching.
00:12:48How are you feeling going to the dinner party after homestays?
00:12:54Homestays was a massive, massive week.
00:12:57So, I'm at the point where, like I said, you know,
00:13:01I'm happy to give all the space you need.
00:13:05I'll take the space I need because I definitely need space.
00:13:08Yeah, like, I feel like I've just gone and put it all on the line.
00:13:12And, you know, at the end of the day, I'm not going to force anything.
00:13:18That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:13:21I know, but I do.
00:13:22You never say space. Yeah.
00:13:24You're always like, you're more like, let's, like, whatever.
00:13:27This is the first time you've ever said space.
00:13:29Yeah, I know.
00:13:31That kind of, like, rattled me a little bit.
00:13:34Normally, I'm the one that needs space.
00:13:35So, you know what, if he needs space, gladly,
00:13:39because I need space right now just from my head
00:13:42and I don't need any of this pressure right now.
00:13:44I feel like I'm at my tether.
00:13:46I feel like he's at his tether.
00:13:47We're both tired.
00:13:49And he's been snoring louder than usual.
00:13:51Like, it's just been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster.
00:13:55The reason I need space is because, yeah, I am a calm person.
00:13:58But I'm getting to my limit where I just need to take some space for my own brain.
00:14:03Because I feel like I put my cards on the table.
00:14:06But it almost felt like you were just looking for the negatives.
00:14:10And when someone's looking for the negatives too much of why things can't work,
00:14:13like, I'm not going to force that.
00:14:15I'm not going to force a connection if it's just me looking for the positives
00:14:18and someone else is looking for anything to be like, why this can't work.
00:14:24I would be lying to you if I said I wasn't questioning things right now
00:14:29and questioning our relationship.
00:14:31I am in that head space.
00:14:34So I'm not going into the dinner party with Alyssa feeling my best self.
00:14:39I'm sure you're in a similar boat.
00:14:41Babe, I'm just as as tired as you.
00:14:43Yeah, exactly.
00:14:44I'm just as as tired as you.
00:14:45Exactly, yeah.
00:14:46I'm just as tired as you.
00:14:49I get it.
00:14:58It'll be the honour of getting up. Let's get out of here.
00:15:00Yep, let's go.
00:15:03Hmm.
00:15:05Up to you.
00:15:05Up to me, thanks.
00:15:08Off to the gallows we go.
00:15:13Don't want to do this.
00:15:28Well, dinner party number seven, the second last one before we wind this all up, and it is a very
00:15:36important one because they've come back from the homestays.
00:15:40As they start to get a glimpse of what their life will be like with this person in the real
00:15:45world.
00:15:46This is a really crucial part of the experiment for them because some of them will bond closer together through
00:15:53the homestays.
00:15:54I think it's going to be really good.
00:15:56What about you?
00:15:57Are you excited?
00:15:58I'm excited.
00:15:59Whereas others will start to really fall apart and question their overall compatibility with their matches.
00:16:08It's noisy.
00:16:10They'll hear that in the mics.
00:16:11They'll hear that.
00:16:12And you do that all the time.
00:16:13You don't even realise.
00:16:19Well, the homestays throws up the ultimate question.
00:16:22Could this relationship last in the outside world?
00:16:25Mm-hmm.
00:16:26We're going to see you tonight.
00:16:32Oh, first in.
00:16:34First one's in.
00:16:36Ha ha.
00:16:38Rachel and Steve-o.
00:16:39No one to talk to you, but ourselves.
00:16:41Are you sick of talking to me yet?
00:16:43Ha ha ha.
00:16:44Straight to the bar.
00:16:46Straight to the bar, babes.
00:16:47I don't think I've seen Steven look so relaxed and so really walking in with Rachel.
00:16:53Yes.
00:16:54As he is today.
00:16:55Very unified.
00:16:56All right.
00:16:56Tell me when.
00:16:58That's good.
00:16:59Oh, my gosh.
00:17:00Thank you so much.
00:17:02Got to look after you.
00:17:03Oh, I appreciate it.
00:17:05Me and Rachel, we're good.
00:17:07We've walked into the cocktail party.
00:17:08We're first in there.
00:17:09We're pouring drinks.
00:17:10We're cracking jokes.
00:17:11I'll just take this with me.
00:17:12Oh, you're going to take that?
00:17:13Okay.
00:17:14It's probably the most relaxed I've ever been in a cocktail party.
00:17:17We're in a good place.
00:17:19Mm.
00:17:20Do you want me to open it?
00:17:23Do you want me to open it?
00:17:23Is there a good opener?
00:17:24Oh, definitely.
00:17:27Got it?
00:17:27There you go.
00:17:28We're both so keen to get out of this experiment.
00:17:32See where life takes us.
00:17:34Especially after the homestays.
00:17:36Alrighty.
00:17:37Oh, my gosh, babes.
00:17:38Here we are.
00:17:38Cheers.
00:17:41Hopefully, you know, it's just us.
00:17:43We can have all the food and the drink.
00:17:45I mean, I wouldn't be mad about it, babes.
00:17:49I mean, I'm just, I think I'm just really, really excited to share how much fun we had.
00:17:54And, like, and how good I was.
00:17:58Isn't that nice that a couple is sitting here talking about themselves, not everybody else?
00:18:03Yes.
00:18:04This is great.
00:18:05Oh.
00:18:05Chicken, yeah?
00:18:06Bye.
00:18:07Gonna make you blush.
00:18:08And the enthusiasm.
00:18:10Yeah.
00:18:11In Rachel's voice and face as she is just excited to tell people the good news they had a good
00:18:16week.
00:18:26Stop rubbing your name.
00:18:28Oh, man.
00:18:32I'm trying to understand you, because I don't understand you.
00:18:34You're all confusing the out me.
00:18:35That's it.
00:18:36Well.
00:18:51This whole, I'm at my limit.
00:18:53I need space.
00:18:56It sounds really bad.
00:18:58Does it?
00:19:00Yes.
00:19:01So maybe we've got to word it differently.
00:19:03It's not taking space from each other.
00:19:05It's just taking space to process everything.
00:19:10Okay.
00:19:15Oh, look who it is.
00:19:22Oh, my God.
00:19:44Oh, my God.
00:19:45Oh, my God.
00:19:45Oh.
00:19:46Oh, Alyssa and David.
00:19:52Hang on.
00:19:52How are you, mate?
00:19:53Dude, that's all I can do.
00:19:55Handshake.
00:19:55Good to see you, bro.
00:19:57Likewise, you're looking good.
00:19:58Oh.
00:19:59That's some energy there, isn't it?
00:20:01Oh, we're first.
00:20:02We're first.
00:20:03You guys are first.
00:20:03We've got so much done.
00:20:05Oh, yeah, we've got a lot to evaluate.
00:20:07Let's just get some...
00:20:09Evaluate?
00:20:10Okay, okay.
00:20:18So, are you prepared for everyone to find out that I'm a better fisherman than you, or...?
00:20:22Oh, hang on.
00:20:23Whoa.
00:20:28Walking into the cocktail party tonight, you know, I was...
00:20:32Obviously, I've been on a load post the homestays.
00:20:36I've sort of just been feeling deflated.
00:20:39Ooh.
00:20:40Right in my face.
00:20:41And I did make it known to Alyssa that, you know, I am sort of one in my own space.
00:20:45You know, in my head, just to sort of figure things out.
00:20:49Um, so I did walk in on a load.
00:20:55Oh, who is it?
00:20:56Hey!
00:20:57Here we go!
00:20:58Hello there.
00:20:58What's up?
00:20:59Scott and Gia.
00:21:00Do you want to spin?
00:21:01A little...
00:21:03Oh, so pretty are you both.
00:21:06Hi!
00:21:07I'll give you some love.
00:21:08Gorgeous.
00:21:09Hello.
00:21:09How are you, bro?
00:21:10See you, baby.
00:21:12Walking into the cocktail party tonight with Gia, like, you know, we're not personally
00:21:15perfect.
00:21:16We still have a couple things to work on.
00:21:17Get a drink and get in here, brother.
00:21:19I always look at the bright side.
00:21:20If there's something that's really bad, I just see the more good in someone.
00:21:24Can we carry that?
00:21:25Thanks.
00:21:29All right, Chris, why don't you tell me what's running through your head and going into
00:21:32this?
00:21:33One saving grace for me is that last time I was in this car with Sam, it was just so
00:21:38yucky
00:21:38and awkward.
00:21:39So, I'm grateful not to have that, you know, at the moment.
00:21:44Well, it was so awkward you could cut the tension with a knife.
00:21:46And I could not wait to get out of the car.
00:21:49I just hope this, you know, situation with Sam and I can get squashed pretty quickly so
00:21:56I can have a couple of shams and try and enjoy my night.
00:22:01Yeah, no, this is definitely not how I expected to be going to a dinner party in the experiment.
00:22:05I think Chris and I started off really strong and everything was going good.
00:22:08And then at some point he just flipped and it all just sort of fell apart.
00:22:11And I don't really know what that flip was into him.
00:22:17You know if Sam's coming tonight?
00:22:19Oh, I definitely know he'll be going.
00:22:21Yeah.
00:22:21He wants to go to get the whole group's opinion and two cents on our dirty laundry.
00:22:28But you know what?
00:22:29There's two sides to this story.
00:22:31And coming to the dinner party to back myself and say my side of the story.
00:22:48Oh, Chris is alone.
00:22:50How are you going?
00:22:51Oh, okay.
00:22:52That's a surprise.
00:22:53Hi.
00:22:54Hey, bud.
00:22:55So Chris walks in solo.
00:22:58Well, shit.
00:23:00That's not my prediction.
00:23:02Drink.
00:23:03Drink.
00:23:04I mean, they were very bad at the commitment ceremony.
00:23:07Chris had written leave.
00:23:08Sam was absolutely in tears about it all.
00:23:11There was a hope that the homestay, they might be able to turn it around.
00:23:13But this looks like it's actually not been salvaged.
00:23:18The brown's orange.
00:23:19Yeah.
00:23:19Yeah, I'm all right.
00:23:20You look very tanned.
00:23:21Thanks, babe.
00:23:22The fit's good.
00:23:23The fit's good.
00:23:23My life's not...
00:23:24I would love one, babe.
00:23:25Your life is okay.
00:23:27Yeah, thanks, babe.
00:23:27You've got this shit, babe.
00:23:28You've got this shit.
00:23:29Yeah.
00:23:30Yeah, so obviously it didn't work out.
00:23:31Wait, wait, wait.
00:23:32Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:23:33No, it's fine.
00:23:33I feel like maybe Sam and I can unpack it together.
00:23:36Okay.
00:23:36All right.
00:23:37You don't want to talk about that?
00:23:38No, I'll give you a little run.
00:23:39You give us yours.
00:23:40I'll give you a little rundown.
00:23:41It's really hard seeing them not walking together, because I genuinely had hope that
00:23:46they would get past this.
00:23:48Seeing Chris walking in by himself, like, it was genuinely, like, pretty heartbreaks.
00:23:54Basically, um, yeah, Sam ended it with me two days into homestays.
00:23:59He ended it with you.
00:24:00This is the second day.
00:24:01He ended it.
00:24:02Yeah.
00:24:03Yeah.
00:24:03He ended it with you.
00:24:04Yeah.
00:24:05Oh, Sam ended it.
00:24:07I wonder why.
00:24:08Yes.
00:24:08I wonder why.
00:24:09Obviously, we had, like, a, you know, a pretty bad couch session.
00:24:14I took accountability.
00:24:15I decided that I wanted to learn and grow from the feedback that I got.
00:24:18Yes, you said that.
00:24:19So I went into homestays, trying to turn it around.
00:24:21Gia knows I spoke with you about it, boarding flowers, made him dinner.
00:24:25I tried everything that I could to turn it around, but unfortunately, um, yeah, it didn't
00:24:29work for us.
00:24:30And it was really, it was a real shock, because I thought we were actually doing quite well.
00:24:33Like, you know, I started to get those feelings back for him again, so.
00:24:37So Chris was saying he started getting feelings for Sam again.
00:24:40Okay, so he was shocked by it.
00:24:43Blindsided.
00:24:44Wow.
00:24:45So, it's pretty, it's pretty sad, um, but I respect Sam's decision to exit.
00:24:50Um, and we actually weren't even going to come tonight.
00:24:52Like, they, we, he left the farm and we were just going to leave it at that, because we
00:24:55unpacked a lot of it.
00:24:57Um, but I've decided to give Sam the respect of coming tonight, so we can both.
00:25:00Amazing.
00:25:01Talk to you guys about it.
00:25:02Yeah.
00:25:03And, um, let you know what's happened, and then sit in front of the experts and get
00:25:06their advice.
00:25:07But, like, no ill feelings towards Sam.
00:25:08I respect his decision.
00:25:10But, yeah.
00:25:11She's single.
00:25:12I can.
00:25:13Oh!
00:25:15I love you.
00:25:16Yeah.
00:25:18Alyssa, how was yours?
00:25:20Uh.
00:25:23I feel like I'm still processing everything.
00:25:27It's crunch time, right?
00:25:28It's crunch time.
00:25:29Yeah.
00:25:29Yeah.
00:25:31Um, but we'll talk about it later at the dinner party.
00:25:36Okay.
00:25:41Hey!
00:25:42Hey!
00:25:43Hey!
00:25:44Hey!
00:25:46Hey!
00:25:48Hey!
00:25:48Hey!
00:25:49Hey!
00:25:51Hey!
00:25:52Hey!
00:25:52Hey!
00:25:53For the best part.
00:25:55We had a really good homestate, you know?
00:25:57I got clarity.
00:25:58So.
00:25:59It's been decided.
00:26:00Uh.
00:26:00I will be making that move happen sooner rather than later.
00:26:03He looked tan!
00:26:04Do you want spray tan?
00:26:06Hey...
00:26:06Huh?
00:26:06No-no-no-no, we went to the beach.
00:26:08What the hell!
00:26:08And I just thought, you know what, like, it's time to go for an adventure.
00:26:15Hubby, 올� Galbraith, Real Estate is soé”法 that we can be learning,
00:26:22Beck and Danny.
00:26:24Hello.
00:26:24How are you?
00:26:25I'm feeling phenomenal walking into this cocktail party tonight.
00:26:29Danny and I are in a great spot.
00:26:32We are planning our future together.
00:26:35Cheers.
00:26:36We had great homestays, and I've got no beef with anyone.
00:26:39Oh, my God, pigs fly.
00:26:40What the hell?
00:26:41I'm not arguing with anyone.
00:26:44Hello. How was homestays?
00:26:46Cheers.
00:26:47How'd you go?
00:26:48How was Adelaide?
00:26:49Oh, my God, yeah.
00:26:51We had a great time.
00:26:52He's going to move.
00:26:55I got back and I was a bit drained, to tell you the truth.
00:26:58It's a lot.
00:27:00I felt a bit uncomfortable in our house,
00:27:02and I felt a bit out of place.
00:27:03And it made me think about the logistics of the move more,
00:27:07like how it's going to work.
00:27:09Because I'm not just going to move in with that.
00:27:11Of course.
00:27:11And live like, put my feet up, this is rent-free.
00:27:15That doesn't sit well with me.
00:27:16So it just solidified there's more things we need to talk about.
00:27:20Of course.
00:27:24So, we're going to do it, I think.
00:27:25Yeah, awesome.
00:27:26Crazy.
00:27:28Love it.
00:27:29I think Danny and I are probably the strongest in the experiment,
00:27:32if I'm honest with you.
00:27:33And, like, it feels like it can only go up from here.
00:27:37Yeah.
00:27:41Coming up...
00:27:42I would never just move in.
00:27:44Danny's jaw-dropping confession...
00:27:47From my point of view, anyway, I suppose everyone looks at it different,
00:27:49but it makes you feel like a ****.
00:27:51..has the whole table talking.
00:27:53What? Are you on it now?
00:27:55I'll be honest.
00:27:57Oh, God.
00:27:58Oh, my God.
00:28:11Here we go.
00:28:17When did you talk to him last?
00:28:18Um, the last time he spoke to me was, um, the Friday after he left,
00:28:24and all he said was that he wanted to come to the dinner party ceremony.
00:28:29Yeah, I don't know what Dan and she's going to be like with Sam.
00:28:31I hope he comes in, like, nice.
00:28:34I just, yeah, I just can't deal with any more, you know?
00:28:45Yo!
00:28:48Hello, everyone.
00:28:49Oh, here's Sam.
00:28:49Here he is.
00:28:51How are you going?
00:28:52Good, how are you?
00:28:53Good. You look nice.
00:28:54Yeah, how are you?
00:28:55Not too bad.
00:28:56Hello.
00:28:59Sam.
00:29:00How are you, Matt?
00:29:01I'm hugging, like, chest height, but I've got a vertical problem.
00:29:06Hey, look at me, brother.
00:29:07Thanks, thanks, thanks.
00:29:08If you're going to get a drink, come on, let's get your drink.
00:29:09Let's get a drink.
00:29:10I hope he doesn't come at me, like...
00:29:12Why are you worried?
00:29:13Oh, I just...
00:29:14Don't worry.
00:29:15No, I just can't deal with it, like...
00:29:18Alright.
00:29:19No, you're okay.
00:29:21How are you?
00:29:23Are you okay?
00:29:25Uh...
00:29:25I just feel a bit like there was no real effort while we're away.
00:29:29But we'll get into it at the table, yeah.
00:29:31No, no.
00:29:31He's given us a bit of a grief.
00:29:35What was he saying?
00:29:36Just...
00:29:36Um, that you guys, you know, went to homestays, like, he cooked dinner one night, or you guys
00:29:40had dinner together one night, and he thought the first night was going okay.
00:29:44Um, and then obviously you guys both had a chat and decided that it wasn't right.
00:29:49Yeah.
00:29:51Dude, he didn't drive.
00:29:54You're eating up his bullshit.
00:29:57Don't eat up his bullshit.
00:30:02Dinner is served.
00:30:03Okay.
00:30:04Let's go eat.
00:30:05Let's go, babes.
00:30:06You got it.
00:30:06Let's go, mate.
00:30:10Alrighty.
00:30:12Well, let's hope that now that dinner's about to begin, we will get to the bottom of what
00:30:16actually happened at the homestay between Sam and Chris.
00:30:19Yes.
00:30:20We need to understand what actually went on there.
00:30:23Cheers, guys.
00:30:25Cheers.
00:30:32You got the, um, you got the tits out again?
00:30:34Oh, yeah.
00:30:37Tits out for the boys.
00:30:38I love you.
00:30:39I love this beer.
00:30:41Dough.
00:30:41Yes.
00:30:42Yeah.
00:30:44Yeah.
00:30:54Wow.
00:30:55It's very tints, isn't it?
00:30:57Chris, Sam.
00:31:07I really want to talk about, from our perspective, what led me to the decision to end things.
00:31:12Yeah.
00:31:12And how I felt the whole homestay, so.
00:31:14Yeah.
00:31:18Tonight is going to be shit.
00:31:23I...
00:31:24Sam and I have already hashed this out at the farm.
00:31:27Um, we're revisiting it in front of the group.
00:31:29So, for me, this is not comfortable.
00:31:32Um, I'm hoping that we can get it out of the way quickly.
00:31:34And I just want to get this over and done with.
00:31:36I hope Sam gets the closure that he needs and we can, um, yeah, move on.
00:31:44I feel like we both just need to say everything that got us to this point.
00:31:48Um, especially with meeting the experts tomorrow, I want to get as much as I can out of it.
00:31:53Um, yeah, we've mentioned it at the cocktail party that we, you know, well, you decided to, um, end it.
00:32:01So, um, yeah, like I, I didn't...
00:32:03You didn't really fight that at all.
00:32:05You were like, also just like, okay.
00:32:07Why?
00:32:07Because I, I hadn't given so much to try and make it work.
00:32:10I don't want to come...
00:32:15Oh, my God.
00:32:16Here we go again.
00:32:20If Chris thinks that's loads of effort, I feel sorry for anybody he ends up with in the future. Like...
00:32:27Yeah.
00:32:31Can I ask a question?
00:32:34How did Sam end the relationship and where and how did it happen?
00:32:37Could I tell the whole story?
00:32:38I just want everyone, I want you guys both to say it.
00:32:41Yeah, so, homestays, obviously you all saw the last commitment ceremony.
00:32:46Um, I wrote stay and Chris wrote leave.
00:32:48And that was really hard for me to battle with personally because I did have feelings for Chris.
00:32:53So, I, like, obviously now I'm very nervous going into homestays.
00:32:56And we get to the car to drive down and I'm, like, just sitting in the car and it's so
00:33:02uncomfortable.
00:33:03And I'm, I, like, literally just, like, shut my eyes and kind of pretend that I'm sleeping.
00:33:07And then I get to the farm and then I do try to have fun and have a good time.
00:33:12I wake up the next morning and Chris is nowhere to be seen.
00:33:17No message, no note.
00:33:21And I'm just there sitting for an hour in his house at his place with no car, just by myself.
00:33:27And then he rocks up.
00:33:28He's, oh, I just went to the gym this morning.
00:33:29It was really windy last night.
00:33:30And I'm, like, okay, cool.
00:33:32And, like, this is when I'm starting to feel, like, are you, do you really want me here?
00:33:35Do you, like, really want to show me how much you want this relationship to work?
00:33:42Look, for me, it was letting him sleep a little bit longer.
00:33:45Yes.
00:33:45Yes.
00:33:48We're not interrupting each other tonight, right?
00:33:52Oh, God.
00:33:53Okay.
00:33:54Can I keep going with my story then?
00:33:56Yeah.
00:33:58So then, um, we come to the fire the next night and this is when I'm, like, this is my
00:34:02last plea here.
00:34:04Like, I'm gonna try and see if he really wants to fight for this, if he really wants this relationship
00:34:08to work.
00:34:09And I had written down questions that were all just about what the experts said.
00:34:15Going through all these questions and then he starts to get a bit shorter with them because he's sick of
00:34:18talking about it.
00:34:19And then I'm, like, Chris, do you even have feelings for me?
00:34:23And he goes, oh, you know, with what's happened over the last couple of weeks, I feel like my feelings
00:34:27are pretty damaged and, like, I don't really know if I do anymore.
00:34:35And I'm, like, well, then what am I doing here?
00:34:40Then I was just, like, well, then do we just end it here?
00:34:42And you were just, like, yeah, I think that's probably, like, right to do.
00:34:46And what I don't understand is where I hurt your feelings and where you lost your feelings for me.
00:34:56What I honestly feel like happened is that you just, like, did the bare minimum, got me flowers so that
00:35:02you could come here tonight and say, I did this for Sam, I tried.
00:35:06But, like, I know that you were checked out of this relationship already.
00:35:09I know you didn't want to give it a go.
00:35:16If I'm honest, and I have to be honest, it seems like you're putting a lot on Chris.
00:35:22Yep.
00:35:23And just because we have expectations to fill our cup fully doesn't mean this other person is not trying.
00:35:30Hold on, hold on a second.
00:35:33Let's not forget that, like, the week before, Sam was in a world of pain alone being correct.
00:35:42Yeah, of course.
00:35:43But hang on a second, hang on a minute.
00:35:44We can't be clinging.
00:35:44Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.
00:35:46Sorry, I've got to say something here.
00:35:49Beck needs to mind her business.
00:35:51I don't know how her homestays went, but that should be her focus.
00:35:54We're a couple of weeks out of final bowels.
00:35:56Don't worry about your man doll.
00:35:59I'm not going to let anyone sit here and say, your expectations are too high.
00:36:03When Sam sat there in tears by himself, not knowing which way was up and which way was down for
00:36:09a whole week,
00:36:09because the person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:36:14Like, let's all just take a step back here.
00:36:16But babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:36:20You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey, so just pipe it down a little
00:36:26bit.
00:36:51You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey, so just pipe it down a little
00:36:56bit.
00:36:59But I've never been aggressive to you.
00:37:02Can I speak now?
00:37:03First of all, like hand on heart, I tried my hardest to turn it around.
00:37:10I got the feedback from the experts.
00:37:12I took it on board.
00:37:13I took accountability.
00:37:14I realised that I wanted to grow and learn as a person.
00:37:17And I wanted to come out the other end.
00:37:19And I'm sorry, but I was doing that.
00:37:21And I thought we had a good day.
00:37:22And, like, you pulled the notepad out and then asked me the questions.
00:37:25And I just, for me, I felt like, you know, like, can we just live in the moment?
00:37:30Can we just have a bit of fun?
00:37:32But do you understand with the questions, there are things that were burning inside sound that he needs answers to?
00:37:37Of course. Yeah, yeah, of course.
00:37:37Yeah, cool. I'll keep talking, babes.
00:37:40So I felt uncomfortable, but I stayed calm and I answered the questions as best as I could.
00:37:47But you ended it with me.
00:37:49You said, like... Yeah, I know.
00:37:50Yeah.
00:37:51Can I just say, it's like, the reason I ended it is because I asked Chris, do you still have
00:37:57feelings for me?
00:37:59If you were trying so hard and you thought that everything was what you're saying, then at that point you
00:38:05should have said, Sam, yes, I have feelings for you.
00:38:11Can I ask a question?
00:38:13Do you feel like when Chris said leave the other week at the last commitment, sir, I know it really
00:38:18hurt you.
00:38:19Like, you were really upset. We could see that.
00:38:21Do you think that that really hurt you to a point where, had you already made up your mind?
00:38:26I hadn't made my mind. That just hurt me to the point where, this is why I think I needed
00:38:31so much from Chris.
00:38:32Because I was really hurt that he said he wanted to leave, that he had already given up.
00:38:35So I'm like, I need to see from you that you haven't given up completely.
00:38:38And I get maybe for you what you did was enough, but for me it wasn't.
00:38:42It wasn't.
00:38:42And then I decided that based on the fact that what you did wasn't enough of my expectations, the caller
00:38:46happened.
00:38:47I ended things because I wasn't getting what I wanted from Chris.
00:38:50And if that's not what he can give, because he's got kids and he's got fun, he's got everything else.
00:38:54Then you're not ultimately a good man.
00:39:02It's really upsetting that it hasn't worked out between Sam and Chris, because I care for both boys.
00:39:08But listening to both sides of the story, I'm like, they're not speaking the same language.
00:39:15And they're singing different things.
00:39:17And I don't think they're going to align tonight.
00:39:22Just unfortunately it hasn't worked. I don't want this to be yucky. I just want to be amicable.
00:39:26I don't want it to be yucky either.
00:39:27It's not yucky though, is it? It's not yucky.
00:39:30Don't mistake passion for anger. I think you're both passionate.
00:39:33It's not yucky in my opinion. You're both just ironing it out.
00:39:37We do love you both. We love you a lot.
00:39:40Yeah. 100%.
00:39:41Kings.
00:39:42I think it's really sad what's happened with Sam and Chris.
00:39:45I love them as people and I love them together.
00:39:47And I'm getting this feeling of like, Chris did try.
00:39:52The way he knew how.
00:39:54And it wasn't enough for Sam.
00:39:56It's a hard one.
00:40:07So Beck and Danny, how about you guys? You're next.
00:40:12How was your homestays?
00:40:13We had such a good homestays, didn't we?
00:40:18If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you, they would.
00:40:24I think obviously because Danielle fancied me.
00:40:28I'm joking.
00:40:29You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say, oh, your cousin
00:40:34wants to me.
00:40:35I never said that.
00:40:36There's a camera in my face and you're abusing me over a joke.
00:40:39Dude.
00:40:40There's a camera in my face and you're making a joke of what I'm saying.
00:40:42Yeah.
00:40:43I'm done.
00:40:43**** you're annoying.
00:40:45**** me.
00:40:46Well, we had like two perfect things and then we had a little argument at the end.
00:40:56We had a tiny little ding-dong at the end.
00:41:00It lasted about 15 minutes.
00:41:02I think like for me, I don't know for anyone else who experienced like going into your partner's home, in
00:41:11that moment I felt like a bit out of place in the house.
00:41:13Like up until that point I felt so comfortable, like so welcome.
00:41:17Not that I was ever like unwelcome, but in that moment arguing like.
00:41:23Hardly an argument, a ding-dong.
00:41:24But yeah.
00:41:25Or whatever you want to call it.
00:41:29Whilst Dani did call it an argument, Bec called it a ding-dong.
00:41:32So she's wanting to really contain it.
00:41:34Yes.
00:41:35When we had the disagreement at the house, I felt really uncomfortable because it's not my space, it's your space.
00:41:40Yeah.
00:41:40Do you know what I mean? I don't know if anyone else can like.
00:41:43Yeah, so that was sort of something that stuck with me in the sense of like moving forward.
00:41:49It made me look at things in a different way in the sense that I'd probably want to, I don't
00:41:55know how I'd want to navigate.
00:41:59If I was to move to Adelaide, how the logistics of it would look as a man.
00:42:06Oh, as a man.
00:42:10I feel like, like, do you know what you mean? Like it's more Bec's house than it is my house.
00:42:14Like moving into her house, yeah.
00:42:15Yeah, correct. Like, like I'd want to sit down and speak to Bec on a deeper level about that.
00:42:22Because like, I feel like if you move in with a woman and like, I would never just move in.
00:42:30Like we'd have to talk about that on a deeper level in the sense that like.
00:42:35I'm not moving out of my house.
00:42:39No, I'm not asking you to, but what I'm saying is like.
00:42:42It's how he fits into it, babe.
00:42:44Like, yeah, how I fit into it. That's, that's more what I'm saying.
00:42:48And to you right now, you're probably like, that, that, like, that's easy.
00:42:51I know, like.
00:42:52It's just, but like, I get from Danny's perspective, he's like, I move in.
00:42:55So like, he's got to get his stuff out. Where does he put his stuff?
00:42:58And like, and we would make space 100% for that.
00:43:02From my point of view, I suppose everyone looks at it different.
00:43:04But it makes you feel like a bit of a bitch moving in with a woman.
00:43:08What are you on about?
00:43:34Oh, no, that's not what I was getting at.
00:43:38Oh, God.
00:43:40Oh, no, that's not what I was getting at.
00:43:40my god he's talking about feeling emasculated if she was the one who owned the house and let's not
00:43:47use the term in that way either daddy not cool we're on 800 square meters five minutes from the
00:43:53city with a 97 000 mortgage and a three million dollar house hey whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa like
00:44:06firstly you've never said that to me women have worked really really hard to make sure that we've
00:44:13got this multi-million dollar home in the most affluent suburb of south australia so yeah you're
00:44:20not going to be a moving into my house that was not what i was getting at are we serious
00:44:26for this
00:44:27we're in the 2020s emasculated by moving into a home with your woman
00:44:36just grow up you like to be a provider correct correct yeah i'll be honest i couldn't go to
00:44:42hers i want to i'm gonna buy the house i'm gonna pay for everything like that's just a manly thing
00:44:48dan's a bit like me he likes to feel like the man the boss the alpha male so i understand
00:44:53where danny's
00:44:54coming from he just wants to feel more vasculated in the relationship we're more traditional in that
00:44:59way too no but like i get it like i have it my house is bigger than yours but it's
00:45:03like yeah like it's
00:45:05different vibe i do agree with danny i think for a man to feel masculine and his masculine energy
00:45:12they want to have the house and the woman move into it i know that's not like the norm these
00:45:16days
00:45:17but like i like that and that's what me and scott are doing so i do agree with danny on
00:45:22that i think
00:45:23he wants to feel like the man and he has every right to feel like that i feel like it's
00:45:27emasculating
00:45:28like i get what you're saying like yeah yeah you want your place to be like here babe like come
00:45:32to
00:45:32me like i'm i'm the man like i think that's like where you're coming from yeah that's what i'm saying
00:45:38i felt uncomfortable when we argued and it sort of it made me feel demasculated to like be in her
00:45:43house yeah like a bit of a i've had that discussion with beck two or three times
00:45:49i'm not as hit hit 1990s song on r&b radio what keeps repeating itself do you know what you
00:45:54mean
00:45:54i didn't feel uneasy until we had the disagreement then i was just like no i don't know what you
00:46:01mean danny i do wonder if danny's showing a little insecurity there you know i think some men would
00:46:09not see a barrier to moving into a house owned by the woman it wouldn't feel emasculating he's really
00:46:15dropped the ball here and i'm old school too i'm exactly the same i can proudly say it as well
00:46:20that
00:46:20if me and rachel do something i would feel i would feel more comfortable rachel moved into
00:46:25my place feel like a provider well i don't think that's very fair because at the end of the day
00:46:31the difference is is that i've got a massive house with a lot of space five minutes out of the
00:46:36city
00:46:36with a mortgage of 97 grand i feel like you're a team i feel like you're a team 100 i
00:46:41was brought up
00:46:42on those values that's just the way i think if i moved badly i'd be gambling yeah but i think
00:46:48that's
00:46:49going to be like i guess really i wouldn't like you get away together yeah i know we work together
00:46:56but as a man it's just something i do as a man maybe i'm old school like that but i
00:47:02believe like
00:47:02the man should be the man of the house and take care of the big bills it's nice to have
00:47:07your own
00:47:08thing but ultimately you work together right exactly yeah ultimately it's about how can we work
00:47:13together how can we make this work what are your needs you know vice versa it doesn't have to be
00:47:19a demasculating thing it just has to be teamwork like you're a team no you're a team
00:47:25for some reason it's just a mental thing uh it's just it just works like that uh females feel more
00:47:32secure when that it is like that it's just how it is unfortunately it's a double center it's just
00:47:36how it is gays don't have that problem yeah i understand where danny's coming from don't agree
00:47:44with it but i understand where um danny's coming from beck and danny's homestay i don't think was
00:47:50as great as they made it out to be there's something there's something not right there this
00:47:56is a serious conversation you guys want to talk uh yeah i know for a dinner party
00:48:02don't like shut up great excellent so glad we're talking about it with everyone
00:48:09oh goodness no i said it to you already that not to that level babes i have a hundred percent
00:48:15no
00:48:16no still to come i did spiral a little bit dave what's going through your head bro david finally
00:48:32finds his voice i've hit my wall i've been calm throughout this whole thing but i'm at my limit
00:48:39this is really a relationship in peril yeah before beck confronts danny
00:48:46i would have appreciated it having been that open it's in a lot of relations
00:48:51it's just made me that whole table of people experiment now before hindsight
00:49:03how about you alissa how was yours um
00:49:10do you know what alissa and david really have not spoken about themselves at all
00:49:15no and that is not usual for them david looks quite uncomfortable actually yeah
00:49:23i feel like he had highs and lows i did spiral a little bit like i did get in my
00:49:30head
00:49:31because you know as soon as we touched down in adelaide i felt like this weight
00:49:39i felt like oh my goodness i you know i said i was gonna move to sydney and like we're
00:49:44gonna make
00:49:44this thing work in sydney and we'll meet halfway but i have a lot of responsibilities in adelaide
00:49:50i have contracts in place i have my business i have a house i have a cat but i'm almost
00:49:5534 and in the
00:49:57next few years i want to start a family so i kind of put pressure on myself and that's where
00:50:01i started to
00:50:02spiral on homestays because i was like this is not going to work like i don't think i'm going
00:50:08to be able to stretch myself out of adelaide um like in the next three months it might look like
00:50:13six to 12 months if we're going to make this work in the real world
00:50:20beforehand you were saying potentially you'd give it three months to move to sydney
00:50:25is it the move to adelaide now well that's what it would probably be
00:50:31it'll be adelaide yeah oh we haven't heard that from her before a lot came out of home stays but
00:50:39it's just like how do we move like forward but i feel like the way that we process things are
00:50:45very
00:50:45different and i'm wondering why am i spiraling you know we're all under pressure but some people also
00:50:50deal with pressure differently when i need to just process my mind's going bing bing bing bing
00:50:55i retract things have kind of turned on its head a little bit elissa's now saying i can't move david's
00:51:04going look i'm willing to sacrifice everything and move down to adelaide to give this relationship the
00:51:09best chance but her retracting and pulling away from dave freaking dave out you know i sort of felt
00:51:15for dave a little bit if anything all the risk is on david and there was one other thing i
00:51:23know that
00:51:23i can be a bit full-on and like he does ground me but maybe i'm finding a little bit
00:51:30sometimes too much
00:51:31where i feel like i'm not myself like it's really shifting my my energy and that's not something i'm
00:51:38used to my husband also snores so i've had like lack of sleep the last three months like it's just
00:51:43it's
00:51:44it's a compiling thing i feel like right now elissa is trying to look for any little thing she can
00:51:54pull
00:51:54from the sky to question things in the relationship and that is pushing me away she says she doesn't
00:52:01want to push me away but her throwing all these doubts there's only so much i can take before i
00:52:07start
00:52:07feeling like an idiot you know i think i was fine with just continuing to be that emotional shoulder
00:52:16to lean on until home stays we've been on this experiment for two months and it's been long enough
00:52:22for her to like be a bit more certain you know if this ultimately isn't going to work i'm not
00:52:29going
00:52:29to force anything like it's up to her to come from her head into her heart for this to work
00:52:34long term
00:52:37dave what's going through your head bro
00:52:45i've hit my wall i've been calm throughout this whole thing but i'm at my limit
00:52:50you know and i sort of need that mental space as well just as much as she probably needs it
00:52:55from
00:52:55coming back from home state and it's something we both need but it's at the point emotionally i
00:53:01don't have much to give i'm invested in this relationship i am prepared to move for this
00:53:06relationship but for me i bonded with her mom and her two best friends and i've got her mom saying
00:53:12this is all good for you her friend saying this is good for you i really love david a lot
00:53:17so i'm just like what other green checks do you need ticked off like you know
00:53:27well this is david being really raw isn't it i mean he's saying that he's exhausted
00:53:32and also he's hit his limit and i know that they talk about it in relation to the experiment but
00:53:41actually you know the experiment for some people it brings them closer right now and i i get some
00:53:46real worries that he's started to step back we got cracks man we've got cracks like everyone
00:53:53but that's something that you know we will talk to the experts about we actually haven't seen them
00:53:59in this state before have we i'd say absolutely more questions than answers we got tonight
00:54:06so that's where we got to go tomorrow night we are going to need to ask about the homestays
00:54:12and particularly where they see themselves in the future this is really a relationship in peril yeah
00:54:28how are your homestays guys i went out on his harley like i grew up there so i'm i'm like
00:54:34i went to
00:54:34school there i had my first kiss there i did this there and it's like it's not like a foreign
00:54:38place for me yeah it's just it's just easy the fact that she's lived there before so it's pretty
00:54:42big for us that's amazing yeah it's really good the taste of the outside world you know what i mean
00:54:47like we know yeah so what's your plan i'll retract god after the experiment i do like cronulla
00:54:54yeah yeah i could see myself there that's very important that's that's the whole point of it
00:55:00the home visit it's like can i see myself there yes i can let's just do it just give it
00:55:06a go like
00:55:06and um that was a realization i had and you have a plan moving forward and like you guys are
00:55:12great
00:55:12yeah rachel and steven homestays hey guys who's talking who's talking captain steve-o i reckon
00:55:22rachel go first and i'll i'll i reckon steve-o go first please i think steve-o can go first
00:55:27thank
00:55:27you i go first i always talk yeah can you hear me down there yeah yeah boy loud and clear
00:55:33all right so
00:55:34look i'm happy to say that rachel and my family did get along everyone loves each other like the drinks
00:55:40were flowing everything was fantastic and yeah we had a really good time and took rachel out on
00:55:45the uh the boat and she got to experience a little you know a little snapshot of what my life
00:55:51is um
00:55:53about and what i'm passionate about so took her out fishing and you're definitely so very impressive
00:55:58impressed with rachel she full on hunter girl full-on leaned in she's a catch i am the cat she's
00:56:05that's right the catch of the day right yeah and um and look i was very impressed with the fishing
00:56:11skills she kissed a couple fish um but i'm looking at this woman going look it's not just that she's
00:56:17leaning into fishing it's more the fact that i'm seeing a woman there that is having a crack and i
00:56:23can
00:56:23see that outside fishing rachel will have my back in things i can see we can do life together but
00:56:36i feel
00:56:36a lot more confident now that the foundation has been laid on my side anyway with rachel that we can
00:56:41take this out onto the um outside and have somewhere to start because it's been been done and dusted i'm
00:56:50going to meet her side um but i feel more confident on my side that rachel and my family and
00:56:55my lifestyle
00:56:55will match now so we had a good time that's the best who would have thought who would have thought
00:57:09hearing stephen talk about our homestay and like the beautiful things you were saying yeah
00:57:14you sound emotional i am emotional i'm so emotional about it because
00:57:21i've got this guy that i truly truly care about and i'm developing such strong feelings for and
00:57:29every time he talks about us with the group and everything it's beautiful it's just so nice and
00:57:38what what what an amazing journey and opportunity we've had and the fact that we get to be with
00:57:44each other is just even better some guys are going to buy girls flowers my guy bought me a fishing
00:57:52rod
00:57:58oh rachel looks so happy look at steven yeah we've never seen him smile like this we've never seen him
00:58:07as relaxed and as confident as he has been tonight that was a full-bodied smile he's really transformed
00:58:15but watching him now is just such a joy and he's so comfortable in her space look we went through
00:58:23hard times at the start of our relationship you all saw it and you know what we we've just saw
00:58:29it
00:58:29and you know we're now hitting weeks where it should test us and instead it's strengthening us and
00:58:35it's really nice i love it yay well done well done rachel and speebo
00:58:52at the dinner table tonight danny said that he
00:59:00would feel like a bitch moving into a girl's house i hadn't heard that yet
00:59:08and like i would hope that my husband knows that he can talk to me like we talk about everything
00:59:14so
00:59:17yeah i feel blindsided by him
00:59:23i feel completely utterly betrayed by my husband
00:59:35if i was to move to adelaide as a man
00:59:40it makes you feel like a bit of a bitch moving in with a woman
00:59:51i've never experienced a slow burn
00:59:54before and here i am with a slow burn and like i said we we went through hard yards earlier
01:00:00and
01:00:01now we're so strong because of that and so yeah but not to that level like i think i would
01:00:08have
01:00:08appreciate you having been that open it's in a lot of questions it's just made me that much more
01:00:14confident out of the experiment yeah before home stage frankly danny time and time again has not
01:00:20stepped up and made the commitment that she wants and craves she's been transparent he hasn't said that
01:00:27he loves her back he's now saying i don't want to live in your house so there's a number of
01:00:32things that are
01:00:32now adding up yeah that beck's starting to worry about when it comes to danny's level of commitment
01:00:37yes and rightly so i mean
01:00:41confidence the idea that like that it like that you like you basically just said if i was to move
01:00:52to adelaide i don't know if i'd want to move into my house i don't know how long i was
01:00:57saying i would
01:00:58i would have rather that you said that to me before announcing it to a table of people
01:01:02i didn't say i didn't say that i was saying we have to like i'd put money into your house
01:01:08and we're
01:01:08renovating where i'd pick up the mortgage because we're just moving on how it is would make me feel
01:01:12demasculating right yeah okay i'm excited i said just then i'm like that's how i heard that's
01:01:18still good at me and i was like that side so so much that's why i could say my side
01:01:27i think beck revealed how hard that conversation was for her you know when she said oh here we are
01:01:34having this conversation in front of everyone she felt really uncomfortable and i think
01:01:37after the dinner tonight they'll be going home for quite a big conversation
01:01:59okay so the purpose of this conversation is to talk about what's been happening within the group of
01:02:10women not to make comparisons between men and women and who does it better wow i just hope that
01:02:16there's some insight here with with the ladies that yes in the future you are going to be in contact
01:02:21with other women who have strong personalities have strong judgments about you or opinions about you
01:02:31but that doesn't mean that you have to play dirty as a woman i think it's important that we support
01:02:37each
01:02:37other what each other love that that we empower each other are each other i'm so excited this is amazing
01:02:50that we don't compete with each other
01:02:55that we give other women an opportunity to shine jules were you married
01:03:06just like we do i'm falling in love with you and that does not take away any of our power
01:03:12that we give other women an opportunity to shine for you and that does not take away any of our
01:03:22power
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01:03:25you
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