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00:00Sir, I am feeling lost in my life.
00:03First one is the high expectation from my parents.
00:07The second one is constant comparison and influence of peers.
00:11All of these things, they are pulling me down.
00:16You are an MBBS student.
00:17Yes, sir.
00:18You must have crossed your team.
00:19Yes, sir.
00:20You can elect the Prime Minister of this country.
00:22Yes, sir, I can.
00:23And then you say parents are pressurizing you or peers are pressurizing you or this or that.
00:28What's going on?
00:30What if your patients come to know of this?
00:32They'll run away.
00:33The doctor is afraid of her mama.
00:36Own your choices.
00:38Nobody else can decide things for you.
00:40Nobody else can pressurize you.
00:42Whenever I invest my time and emotions,
00:45after some time I realize that people are not the same as I understood them.
00:50If in your immediate circle you do not find worthy contenders,
00:54there is no need to allow nonsense to enter your life.
00:59If there are just very mediocre ones in your immediate circle, go beyond it.
01:13Good afternoon, sir.
01:15I'm Pooja Rana from first year MBBS Pitch.
01:18My question is that, sir, I am feeling lost in my life.
01:22Loss means loss in many ways.
01:24First one is the high expectation from my parents.
01:28The second one is constant comparison and influence of peers.
01:33Third one is the academic stress.
01:36So, sir, because of all of these things, they are pulling me down
01:40so that I cannot even focus on my work, my personal stuff.
01:44So, what is the first step I can take to get out of all these things?
01:51You are an MBBS student?
01:53Yes, sir.
01:55You must have crossed 18.
01:56Yes, sir.
01:59You can elect the Prime Minister of this country?
02:01Yes, sir. I can.
02:04You are your own person.
02:08You are your own woman.
02:10What are you thinking of?
02:12Your life is your own, right?
02:14Own your choices.
02:16Own your choices.
02:18Nobody else can decide things for you.
02:20Nobody else can pressurize you.
02:23Even the law allows you
02:27to participate in the very destiny of this nation.
02:33And then you say parents are pressurizing you
02:34or peers are pressurizing you
02:36or this or that.
02:37What's going on?
02:40What if your patients come to know of this?
02:43They'll run away.
02:46The doctor is afraid of her mama.
02:50The patient, the poor one.
02:53Think of him or her.
02:57You feel obliged or pressurized.
03:03Sometimes helpless.
03:04Only because you have vested interests.
03:13Stakes of greed or ignorance.
03:20Otherwise, you are a free bird.
03:24Free not in the sense of not caring for others.
03:28Free in the sense of being free to love.
03:36And where there is obligation and pressure,
03:41there can be no love.
03:44So, when in intimate relationships,
03:47you say that you experience distractions
03:51and the burden of expectations,
03:54that simply means that
03:57there is very little possibility of love, really.
04:02You are here.
04:04You are studying.
04:05You are preparing yourself for a responsible role.
04:12Where exactly is the block?
04:16Which block, sir?
04:17That which creates an obstacle in your natural flow.
04:22Expectations from family member.
04:25Please understand.
04:27There is no existential obligation
04:30to fulfill anybody's desires.
04:36Extend it.
04:38You don't have any obligation
04:39to fulfill even your own desires.
04:43Let alone somebody else's.
04:47You are not born so that
04:49you can fulfill others' desires.
04:51What you call as expectations
04:53is simply desires that others have.
04:57No, desire is blind.
04:58Anybody can have any desire.
05:01How does that oblige you?
05:06Into fulfilling them.
05:08Why take that pressure on yourself?
05:12It's a good girl syndrome.
05:15Right?
05:16I'm a good girl only if I
05:18keep everybody happy.
05:20You can't do that.
05:22You are a human being.
05:23Not possible.
05:24And you know the problem?
05:26Even if you do fulfill their desires,
05:29they would still not be satisfied.
05:30Because that's the very nature of desire.
05:34It is insatiable.
05:38Those who want satisfaction
05:45by coercing others
05:47or pressurizing others
05:48into fulfilling their desires
05:51or expectations
05:54will find they anyway remain dissatisfied
05:56even if
05:57the other
06:00totally invests their life
06:02in making them happy.
06:04They would still not be happy.
06:06Impossible.
06:09Impossible.
06:18Your purpose is the attainment of your own highest potential.
06:24Your purpose is the attainment of your own highest potential.
06:26Do not burden yourself with guilt.
06:32In India that is just too common and especially among women.
06:44I must be the standard daughter.
06:49I must be the ideal wife.
06:53As a mother I must be the role model.
06:58And I must also be a successful professional.
07:03And if I can't do that then I feel guilty.
07:08And emotionally then I tend to crack under that guilt.
07:16Applies equally to men also.
07:18You have no responsibility to meet anybody's expectations.
07:24None at all.
07:29You are not a kid anymore.
07:32You have your own consciousness.
07:34Determine what life is, who you are
07:37and therefore what you must do.
07:40That's where your actions must come from.
07:43Your own discretion.
07:44Your own understanding.
07:47And mind you,
07:49a lot of this that you do in the name of love
07:51is the antithesis of love.
07:54If you feel burdened by somebody's expectations
07:58can there be love?
07:59I am asking.
08:00In fact, inwardly you will hate that person.
08:06Externally you might still carry their expectations
08:09but inwardly there would be hate.
08:12And sometimes that hatred then explodes as violence.
08:17Marital discord.
08:18Physical abuse.
08:21Even honor killing.
08:27Don't burden anybody with expectations.
08:31Your expectations.
08:35Nor should you carry anybody's expectations.
08:38Love is not about fulfilling each other's desires.
08:42No, that is not love.
08:46You live as per my desire
08:52and I'll act as per yours.
08:54No, that's not love.
08:59Love is freedom.
09:02If you really are a well-wisher
09:05you'll want the other to fly free.
09:07Not clip their wings.
09:09Not say,
09:10Oh, I have a great golden cage for you.
09:14Please be seated.
09:19And if you reject the cage
09:23then you are being disloyal.
09:28When you are a kid
09:29that's called disobedience.
09:31When you are an adult
09:33then disobedience
09:35won't sit well
09:36so you are called
09:38disloyal or infidel.
09:45In a man-woman relationship
09:47that would be called
09:47sometimes as cheating.
09:52In a parent-kid relationship
09:56that would often be called as ingratitude.
10:00But that's all the same thing.
10:03At the center of this disobedience
10:06or ingratitude
10:08or infidelity
10:11sits the accusation
10:15that you are not fulfilling
10:18my desires.
10:21You are not living the way
10:24I want you to live.
10:26But then
10:28you are not even supposed to live
10:30as per
10:33somebody's desires.
10:37That doesn't mean
10:38that you must go
10:38against somebody's desires.
10:40No.
10:40Neither for nor against.
10:43You have your own inner light.
10:47You are an adult
10:48and you are educated.
10:50No?
10:52Live accordingly.
10:53Live freely.
10:55And only a free person
10:57can really care for the other.
11:00Only a free person
11:01is capable of love.
11:03Love.
11:09Hello Acharya Ji.
11:11I am Preeti.
11:11Third year MBBS student
11:12at Maulana Zayed Medical College.
11:14So my question is
11:15how do I deal with people?
11:17Whenever I invest my time
11:19and emotions
11:20after some time
11:21I realize that
11:22people are not the same
11:24as I understood them.
11:26And they make me realize
11:27that I was nothing to them.
11:29So I started
11:30to end up ties with everybody.
11:33But this lands me
11:35again
11:36alone
11:37feeling alone
11:38in the campus.
11:39So how do I
11:40deal it?
11:42The campus
11:43is a lot of people.
11:45Surely you have
11:46not
11:48known all of them
11:50or
11:51even a significant
11:53proportion of them.
11:54it's with certain
11:56individuals
11:57that you have
11:57had a certain experience
11:58and you are
11:59generalizing it.
12:01Right?
12:02First of all
12:03please see
12:03that your choices
12:05are not limited.
12:07And secondly
12:08if people are not
12:10available in flesh
12:11and blood
12:12what prevents you
12:13from being
12:13with the books
12:15of the greats
12:15and their works
12:17and their movies?
12:20why must we
12:21stand beholden
12:23to the tyranny
12:25of the immediate?
12:28If in your
12:29immediate circle
12:30you do not find
12:31worthy contenders
12:34there is no need
12:36to allow
12:38nonsense
12:39to enter your life.
12:41Be with great books
12:42watch great movies
12:43travel
12:45develop great hobbies
12:46watch plays
12:48participate in plays
12:50take up a social cause
12:52invest yourself in it.
12:54There is so much
12:55more to be done
12:55rather than
12:57indulging yourself
12:58in gossip
12:59with some
13:00unworthy fellow
13:01on the campus.
13:05Right?
13:06But that sounds
13:06so tempting.
13:08Oh I will be lonely
13:09otherwise
13:09let there be
13:10somebody by my side
13:13to lean on
13:22usually you require
13:23a shoulder
13:23to cry on
13:26you lend your shoulder
13:27to that person
13:28and that person
13:28then uses your shoulder
13:32and both play
13:34victims to each other
13:35you see the whole world
13:37is bad
13:38and you are good
13:39because you approve
13:40that I am innocent
13:41and the world
13:42is bad
13:45what is the point
13:47in keeping such company
13:48this is precious time
13:49you are young
13:50you have energy
13:52don't squander it
13:54on unworthy people
13:56if there are
13:58if there are just
14:01very mediocre ones
14:03in your
14:04immediate circle
14:07go beyond it
14:12I am sure
14:13the campus
14:13has a few thousand
14:14people at least
14:15yeah
14:16a few thousand
14:17people
14:18venture out
14:21don't get
14:22tied down
14:23so soon
14:27somehow
14:28that has become
14:29our cultural
14:29habit
14:32commitment
14:34commitment
14:35commitment
14:35to anything
14:37anything
14:38but greatness
14:41so if you have
14:42two friends
14:42you feel
14:43kind of committed
14:44to them
14:45I must be
14:45with them
14:46and I must
14:46I have to
14:47watch a movie
14:48these two
14:49must be consulted
14:51don't get
14:52committed so soon
14:53remain free
14:55your commitment
14:56must be to
14:57freedom
14:57and to truth
14:58and to all
14:59kinds of
15:00excellence
15:01that's what
15:02you must be
15:02committed to
15:03not to
15:04random individuals
15:08and then you
15:09say oh this
15:09is my friend
15:10circle
15:10these four
15:12and they're
15:12all so
15:13mediocre
15:14gossip mongers
15:16and they
15:16also keep
15:17hurting me
15:17often
15:18and I'm
15:19stuck
15:19what do I
15:20do
15:21go beyond
15:22simple
15:27why must
15:28you stand
15:28tethered
15:33at an
15:33unseemly
15:34point
15:39are you
15:40getting it
15:41but we
15:42simply get
15:43committed
15:45otherwise
15:46we'll be
15:46branded
15:49unfaithful
15:55oh he
15:56ditched me
16:03being a
16:03friend
16:05implies
16:05standing by
16:07in somebody's
16:08misdeeds
16:11right
16:12that's how it
16:13happens in
16:14campuses
16:14somebody is
16:15hell bent on
16:16wasting his
16:16time
16:16and if you
16:18are a
16:18friend
16:18then you're
16:19obliged to
16:20waste time
16:21along with
16:21him
16:22and only
16:23then will
16:23you be
16:23considered
16:24a great
16:24friend
16:28don't you
16:29dare
16:30show the
16:31mirror to
16:31him
16:35don't you
16:36dare be
16:36absent
16:39when he
16:40is
16:41drunken
16:46or wasteful
16:50or neurotic
16:51or neurotic
16:52be with
16:53him and
16:53participate in
16:54whatever he
16:55is doing
16:55only then
16:56you are a
16:57good friend
17:00and if you're
17:00a boyfriend
17:01or girlfriend
17:01if you don't
17:02participate in
17:03rubbish
17:03you'll be
17:03immediately
17:04a
17:04beofa
17:14get rid of
17:14all that
17:17you know
17:19how the
17:19body works
17:20it's a very
17:21primitive
17:22instrument
17:26you need
17:27to be more
17:28contemporary
17:30why must you
17:31go by your
17:31primitive
17:32instincts
17:35this need
17:36for company
17:38is a very
17:38tribal need
17:39it is coming
17:40from the
17:41jungle
17:43why must you
17:44still honour
17:45this need
17:46in the jungle
17:47it had
17:48certain relevance
17:51helped in
17:52your survival
17:53if you were
17:54moving around
17:55in a group
17:56that was useful
17:58by way of
17:58survival
18:01similarly
18:01this need
18:02for the
18:03other gender
18:03too
18:04is a very
18:05very primitive
18:05need
18:05even the
18:06caveman
18:06had it
18:09it's not
18:10even an
18:10individual
18:10need
18:11you are
18:11forced to
18:12have it
18:13by your
18:14physical
18:14constitution
18:16even if you
18:17go totally
18:17mad
18:18totally
18:19insane
18:20you will
18:20still feel
18:21sexual
18:21impulses
18:27there is
18:28nothing
18:32notable
18:35or noble
18:36about it
18:39there is
18:40nothing in it
18:40that you
18:41must
18:43attend to
18:45with great
18:46respect
18:52consciousness
18:53makes you
18:54human
18:54not the
18:55impulses
18:56of the
18:56body
19:00when you
19:01treat
19:01patients
19:02irrespective
19:03of whether
19:03it's a
19:04Buddha
19:04coming to
19:05you
19:06or the
19:07worst
19:07kind of
19:08criminal
19:10or the
19:11totally
19:11brainless
19:12lunatic
19:14for the
19:15same
19:15disease
19:16don't you
19:16give the
19:16same
19:17medicine
19:17please
19:17tell me
19:22three of
19:22them
19:23come to
19:23you
19:23the
19:24Buddha
19:25the
19:26most
19:26violent
19:27criminal
19:29and
19:29the
19:30most
19:31brainless
19:32madman
19:33and
19:34they
19:34all
19:34have
19:35bacterial
19:35infection
19:37won't
19:38you
19:38give
19:38them
19:38the
19:38same
19:38antibiotic
19:39please
19:40tell
19:40me
19:41what
19:41does
19:42that
19:42mean
19:44your
19:45body
19:45does
19:45not
19:46define
19:46you
19:46look at
19:47the
19:47difference
19:48between
19:48these
19:49three
19:49and
19:49yet
19:49their
19:50bodies
19:50are
19:50the
19:50same
19:52bacteria
19:53the
19:53same
19:54antibiotic
19:55you're not
19:56your body
19:56and if you're
19:57the body
19:58then you're
19:59just an
19:59animal
20:01because the
20:01same
20:02antibiotic
20:02might be
20:03useful even
20:03to the
20:04animal
20:11all
20:12these
20:12are
20:12very
20:12physical
20:13things
20:14what
20:14you
20:14call
20:15as
20:15your
20:15loneliness
20:16or
20:16something
20:20hormonal
20:21don't
20:21you know
20:21of this
20:22I mean
20:22you know
20:22of it
20:23much
20:23better
20:23than
20:23I
20:23can
20:24right
20:24you
20:25deal
20:25with
20:25it
20:25every
20:26day
20:26you
20:27know
20:27the
20:27names
20:27of
20:28the
20:28exact
20:28chemicals
20:29the
20:29exact
20:29hormones
20:30the
20:30exact
20:31secretions
20:31the
20:32exact
20:32neural
20:33circuits
20:33that
20:34result
20:34in a
20:35particular
20:35experience
20:40then why
20:41must you
20:41allow
20:42yourself
20:42to be
20:44captured
20:44by it
20:45remain
20:46free
20:53hi
20:54this is
20:54Ashutosh
20:55Singh
20:55from
20:56Kanpur
20:56I'm an
20:57IT
20:58professional
20:58working
20:59from
20:59almost
21:0010
21:00years
21:00now
21:01I'm
21:02listening
21:02to
21:02Achharaji
21:03from
21:03last
21:03almost
21:04one
21:04and a
21:05half
21:05years
21:05already
21:05I
21:07started
21:07listening
21:07to
21:08him
21:08from
21:08YouTube
21:08channel
21:09and
21:10the
21:11videos
21:11what
21:11he
21:11makes
21:12and
21:12the
21:12knowledge
21:13which
21:13he
21:14actually
21:14shares
21:15is
21:15truly
21:16mind
21:16blowing
21:17I mean
21:17that's
21:18something
21:18which
21:18you
21:18really
21:19start
21:19realizing
21:20about
21:20your
21:20own
21:21life
21:22there's
21:23there's
21:23lot
21:23which
21:24we
21:24do
21:24in
21:24IT
21:24world
21:25I
21:25would
21:25literally
21:26want
21:26to
21:26say
21:27that
21:27IT
21:27people
21:28are
21:28literally
21:29intelligent
21:29enough
21:30to learn
21:30machines
21:30but
21:31there's
21:32a
21:32really
21:33good
21:33machine
21:34that's
21:34our
21:34own
21:34body
21:35and
21:35a
21:35conscious
21:35mind
21:36we
21:37should
21:37literally
21:37spend
21:38time
21:38to
21:39learn
21:39ourselves
21:40better
21:40and
21:41I
21:41think
21:42I'm
21:42into
21:42Bhagavad Gita
21:43just
21:43because
21:43I'm
21:44more
21:45into
21:45learning
21:46my
21:46own
21:46self
21:47if
21:47you
21:48literally
21:48feel
21:49that
21:49you're
21:50into
21:50pain
21:50and
21:50you
21:51don't
21:51even
21:51realize
21:51it
21:52and
21:52you're
21:52still
21:53into
21:53rat race
21:54for
21:54the
21:54entire
21:54life
21:55come
21:55on
21:56we
21:56all
21:56need
21:56to
21:56really
21:57die
21:57we
21:58all
21:58are
21:58born
21:58to
21:58die
21:59why
21:59not
21:59do
22:00something
22:00better
22:00learn
22:01ourselves
22:01learn
22:02our
22:02life
22:02realize
22:03what
22:04the
22:04purpose
22:04of
22:04life
22:05and
22:05then
22:05die
22:06this
22:06is
22:07something
22:07better
22:07right
22:07I
22:08have
22:08realized
22:08it
22:09and
22:09the
22:09favorite
22:10word
22:10in
22:10English
22:11I
22:11would
22:11say
22:11is
22:13choice
22:13yeah
22:14so
22:15we
22:15all
22:15have
22:15choice
22:16I
22:16had
22:17choice
22:17I
22:17have
22:18made
22:18a
22:18choice
22:18which
22:19is
22:19literally
22:19mind
22:20blowing
22:20in
22:20my
22:21life
22:21and
22:22that's
22:22the
22:22same
22:22choice
22:23which
22:23you
22:23all
22:24also
22:24have
22:25come
22:26on
22:26let's
22:26pick
22:26it
22:26up
22:27and
22:27change
22:27our
22:27life
22:28thank
22:33you
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