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00:00I broke up with Kalen because I felt like he was moving too fast and I was too young.
00:07I never would have saw this coming.
00:09Honestly, I just, I didn't even know what to think.
00:11He wants to meet up sometime and talk.
00:15You didn't message immediately back, did you?
00:18No.
00:19Okay.
00:19No.
00:20Yeah, make him wait it out.
00:21Do you guys want to sing some music with me?
00:24Yeah.
00:25I think that I did need to come back and see what it's like living here again.
00:30Just so I would know if I really wanted that or not.
00:34But with Tegan, I definitely miss a lot of things, you know.
00:39And when we first begun.
00:45She truly was my best friend that I'd ever had.
00:48It's hard to move on.
00:51So, Dad, I have not heard this directly from you.
00:54Directly from?
00:55But I have heard it around, you're open to date.
00:59That was the topic of conversation here before you walked in.
01:03I'm just introducing them to the topic of me dating someone.
01:09You know, it's a new age.
01:12Another woman can have them.
01:14I'm okay with that.
01:41Hey, Ken.
01:42Hey, Barry.
01:43So today I'm delivering some oats out to the farm
01:46for the horses and the cows.
01:49They're going good.
01:50Yeah, I got some oats for the animals.
01:52This is part of my arrangement with Kim.
01:55And Kim saw me drive up, so he just
01:58wants to check in and say hi.
02:01Is there a place where we can have the bag out of the weather?
02:08The girls have been taking care of all the animal stuff.
02:11Yeah.
02:12OK.
02:13Yeah, it's just, yeah.
02:16OK.
02:16I'll put it over there.
02:17Somebody can feed her later.
02:19Yeah.
02:21And OK.
02:24So just right over on the cement?
02:27Yeah.
02:29Do you want me to get it?
02:30I got it.
02:31I got it.
02:31So what's been going on over here?
02:34Working with Ethan mainly on the barn.
02:37Even though it might seem weird in a number
02:41of ways, I'm trying to be casual and nonchalant.
02:45So you're settling in OK?
02:48I'm sorry?
02:48Are you settling in here OK?
02:50Yeah, I still feel a little bit unsettled just because I don't
02:53have all my stuff up here.
02:54Yeah.
02:54For the most part, yes.
02:56Yeah.
02:56Good to hear.
02:57Yeah.
02:59Yeah.
03:00I really was surprised when Barry was concerned about how I'm
03:05settling in.
03:06We don't have a whole lot in common as far as our likes, but we
03:10do get along.
03:10Yeah.
03:11I really enjoyed getting to know Ethan.
03:14Yeah.
03:14You know, with Ethan living up north, I really never...
03:16You never.
03:17...got to hang out with him or really even talk to him.
03:22Yeah.
03:24Yeah, because, you know, with the ending of, you know, Tegan and him.
03:32Right.
03:32Right.
03:33That was rough.
03:34Yeah.
03:35Just, you know.
03:37So I got to ask, relationship, are you dating anybody?
03:41Personally, right now, no.
03:43No, I'm not.
03:44I'm not there yet, but maybe soon.
03:49Ken's question about dating, it's just, well, it's an interesting
03:53question.
03:54It's not like I really want to get into any conversation with Ken
03:58about my dating life.
04:01It's been a very long time since I've even done anything
04:05like that.
04:06You've got to ease into it.
04:08Yeah.
04:10Although, it'd be funny if I asked him, so how's it going with
04:14Kim?
04:16Let me give you a few pointers.
04:18Watch out for X, Y, and Z, you know.
04:22So in the day, like when we originally moved out here, Kim was
04:26really big into juicing.
04:29Like she was, that was her thing.
04:31She juiced like no one I had ever met before.
04:37Does she juice any these days?
04:39She did a little bit of juicing with one of my juicers.
04:43But not with the big juicer?
04:45No.
04:46Okay.
04:46I'm pretty sure.
04:47So when Kim took some things from the house, she took the juicer.
04:56Okay.
04:56And I'm still on my health kick.
04:58Right, right.
04:59And I would like to incorporate some juicing into my routine.
05:05And I'm just wondering if maybe I could borrow the juicer.
05:09Yeah, you're more than welcome to help me look for it.
05:13I'm pretty sure I saw a juicer, but I'm not 100% sure where.
05:16Yeah, you can't miss this juicer.
05:18This is like the mother of all juicers.
05:22Okay.
05:23Right.
05:25Back when Kim and I were first married, Kim went big into juicing.
05:31Juicing carrots, greens.
05:34Hey, that looks familiar.
05:36Is that yours?
05:38I think that's mine.
05:39Bottom line is Kim had her phase of health kick, and juicing was a real big part of it.
05:45Okay, so it's gonna be somewhere either in this room.
05:50Okay.
05:52Or it could be in here in this closet.
05:56Let's maybe start with the closet.
05:59Okay.
05:59I look the house over, and it doesn't look anything like what I'm used to from the past.
06:05I don't see it.
06:08Maybe back, what is that back there?
06:12Ah.
06:14Does that look like it?
06:16This is it.
06:20Okay.
06:20A juicer.
06:21A juicer.
06:24Yeah, so anyway, I'll take this with me, and before I go, is there like one song, the jukebox?
06:32Yeah, you wanna check it out?
06:33Check it out?
06:34Absolutely.
06:35Yeah.
06:35Let's go check out the jukebox, because I'm curious about that thing.
06:38It looks really nice.
06:39There's a lot of things all over the place, and I get that, blending two households.
06:46I mean, it's got a cozy feel.
06:47Yeah.
06:49But, yeah, a really cozy feel.
06:54There it is.
06:55It looks pretty cool.
06:56It's old.
06:57It's older than I am.
06:59It's...
07:01That's pretty cool.
07:02Well, I'll pick you out a song and play it.
07:04He's never here for very long when he does come, but when Barry comes, he and I get along
07:10great.
07:11Oh, you got Neil Diamond in there.
07:13Oh.
07:14So, A...
07:15A1, huh?
07:17Uh-oh.
07:18It's stuck.
07:18Ken's kinda stoic.
07:20So, reading him, I don't spend time, like, trying to dissect and analyze what his non-verbals
07:27really mean.
07:29I don't give any bad vibes.
07:31Of course, it's kinda messed up when I'm showing it to you.
07:36All right.
07:37Let's see if it does it again.
07:38Let's try it against if it'll go this time.
07:39All right.
07:40Let's let it...
07:42Hmm.
07:43Mm-hmm.
07:44I'm not gonna ask you to dance.
07:46Yeah.
08:01Nothing always lines up the way it's supposed to.
08:06There's my man.
08:08Hey, Russell.
08:09What's up?
08:10Nothing.
08:11Sleep good?
08:12Yeah.
08:13You ready?
08:13Yeah.
08:15Fix it.
08:16All right.
08:17We're at Russell's Military Vehicles.
08:20I work for him.
08:22Been working for him for a little while since I've been down here.
08:25Needs the oil pan, so we wanna raise this thing up first to get the oil pan on it?
08:28Let's do that.
08:29Okay.
08:30I help him restore older, you know, Jeeps and military equipment.
08:38Choose your weapon of choice.
08:42Ooh, that's picky.
08:43Yeah.
08:44Ethan showed up because he was a good friend of my son.
08:47He was driving this old Mercury.
08:49I'm like, what are you driving an old grandfather car for?
08:51He's like, that's what I do.
08:53I like work on old cars.
08:55Click.
08:55I tested him.
08:56I came in here and asked him a lot of questions.
08:59He answered every one of them.
09:00I'd hired him in a heartbeat.
09:03Look at that man right there.
09:05My guys that normally would clean that, you know what they would do?
09:08Blow it with a blow gun.
09:10Yeah, that's good enough.
09:11That's not quality.
09:12Uh-huh.
09:13That's quality control right there.
09:15Uh-huh.
09:16So, uh, what you got plans for the future?
09:21I was thinking I would...
09:23Open up shop and just kind of do restorations and stuff like that, sort of?
09:27That's what I'd like to do someday.
09:29Yeah, I had planned on retiring.
09:30But if I had somebody that would run this with a name on his shirt, I'd keep it going.
09:37And listen, I'm turning down work every day.
09:40Yeah, I know you are.
09:42Every day.
09:42You like doing this, right?
09:44Uh-huh.
09:44I need a guy.
09:47Russell's military vehicles right there.
09:49Boy, it'd look good on you, too.
09:51I'll make sure they're black shirts.
09:54Oh, black shirts?
09:55Yeah.
09:55I've got black shirts with my name on it.
09:57No, I got somebody else's name right here.
09:59Oh, my God.
10:01Yeah.
10:01Next to the heart.
10:03Wow.
10:04There was a girl I dated for like a year and a half.
10:09She lives in Wisconsin.
10:11What's her name?
10:12Tegan.
10:14Tegan?
10:14What a name.
10:16Wow.
10:17Sounds good with Ethan, I think.
10:19There we go.
10:20Okay, yeah.
10:21She still lives there?
10:22Mm-hmm.
10:23Yeah, I don't know.
10:24I haven't talked to Tegan in a while.
10:26I don't know...
10:28I don't know what she's up to or how she's doing.
10:33Tegan gave me the freedom to live down here and see what I want.
10:37I had told Tegan that I would move to Wisconsin.
10:43And I did want to, but I just, I was like, I guess maybe I wasn't ready yet or something.
10:49I don't know.
10:51But that really did affect our relationship a lot.
10:56It was a big part of us breaking up because she just felt like I didn't really care.
11:02You know, it wasn't important to me to move to Wisconsin and be with her.
11:07So, you know, I've offered you this business.
11:10Yeah.
11:10Yeah.
11:11Put your name up there on the building.
11:13Right underneath mine.
11:15Mm-hmm.
11:15You could eventually work your way to above mine.
11:18I'll work for you.
11:20Yeah.
11:20Yeah.
11:22Being back in Georgia was nice, but it's not good without her.
11:28Tegan is home to me.
11:30Well, if I was staying here, I would definitely consider taking your business on.
11:36That's a promising answer.
11:38Mm-hmm.
11:38Yeah.
11:41But I made up my mind I can't stay here.
11:46Oh.
11:47No matter how much I actually wanted to come back to Georgia for Georgia's sake, you know,
11:56where I grew up, whatever, that doesn't mean anything when your heart is somewhere else.
12:04Let's dive into who it is you're looking for.
12:06I'm doing a video chat with Renee.
12:08She's going to try to find the love of my life.
12:11Do you lean more towards a particular type?
12:14I guess in four words, the Sandra Bullock look.
12:18Sandra Bullock.
12:21Do you know where my juicer is?
12:23The big white juicer?
12:25Yeah.
12:25When Barry came out, he took it.
12:29I can't believe as long as that juicer is sat on the shelf, Barry just takes it the day before
12:34I'm ready to use it.
12:35OK.
12:36Well, I got an issue with Barry then.
12:47I made up my mind I can't stay here.
12:51Oh.
12:52I'm moving to Wisconsin.
12:55Wisconsin.
12:58Does she know you're coming to Wisconsin?
13:01Uh-huh.
13:04After me and Tegan broke up, I kept thinking about it and I was like, I really, I really want
13:11us to be together, you know, and I really want to be up there.
13:14If I tell her that I'm moving, I don't think she'll believe me until I'm there.
13:18So I'm just going to go.
13:21We haven't talked in a while.
13:23Really?
13:23Uh-huh.
13:24And you're moving?
13:25Uh-huh.
13:26You're running after her.
13:27Mm-hmm.
13:28Is that it?
13:29I kept thinking about, like, the risk.
13:31I'm like, OK, if I up and move my life and then she says no or she's found somebody else
13:37or something and I did all that for nothing.
13:40And then one day I was like, that's just a risk that I'm willing to take.
13:45I can't shake it, so I decided I'm going to go up there and give it my best shot.
13:54So you got pictures of this girl?
13:56Uh-huh.
13:56OK.
13:57Oh, yeah.
13:58Digging that thick old fat wallet.
14:02Oh, yeah.
14:04She's got that enticing look going on in this picture.
14:07So look at that smile on your face.
14:09You don't smile that much here.
14:11I never see your teeth.
14:12Look at that.
14:12You got teeth.
14:13I didn't know you had bottom teeth, too.
14:15That's cool.
14:16You look like a couple.
14:18Mm-hmm.
14:20There's your lottery ticket.
14:21You lost, by the way.
14:22No, this is from a date that we went.
14:24Oh, you even kept the receipt?
14:26Mm-hmm.
14:26For the date?
14:27Mm-hmm.
14:28To give to her?
14:29No, just to look at now and then.
14:31Does she feel the same way, don't you?
14:33You think?
14:34I think.
14:35Do you think?
14:36Mm-hmm.
14:37And you're moving?
14:38Mm-hmm.
14:38Boy.
14:40Ethan is running after his heart.
14:43And I think Ethan's making maybe a mistake?
14:47I don't want to say it, but I think it's kind of a rebound thing.
14:51I'm hoping the best for him.
14:53I really am.
14:53I'm hoping the best for Ethan.
14:54I hope he finds her and marries her and moves back to Cairo, Georgia.
14:58Wait a minute.
14:58Don't you have family here?
15:00Yeah.
15:00Okay, so.
15:01But I haven't told them yet, but I still have to tell them.
15:04Oh, they don't even know.
15:05Well, I feel privileged.
15:06Yeah.
15:07I won't say a word.
15:09I haven't told my family yet because I've been thinking about it a long time just to
15:15myself, you know.
15:18And everybody's got an opinion, but it doesn't really matter.
15:22I know this is what I want, and this is what I'm going to do.
15:26And I know they're all going to be sad, and I hate to do that.
15:30So I just haven't told them yet.
15:34So when you break the news to mom and pop and brothers and sisters?
15:38Probably once I'm already on the road.
15:42Ethan is a family guy, but I would think they would have something to say about this
15:46him going off, and maybe that's why he's not wanting to tell them.
15:50What do you think they're going to say?
15:52They're going to try to stop you?
15:53No, I don't think so.
15:54I think you'd try to stop me more than they would.
15:56I have more to gain than them, I think.
15:58Probably.
15:59You got a place to live?
16:01No, not yet, but I'm sure I'll find a place.
16:06Trying this, you know, it's worth it to me, because I just really don't want to live without her.
16:13You got more faith than I do.
16:17I don't know if it's faith or nothing to lose.
16:37So right now, I haven't met any women in Cairo that I'm interested in dating,
16:41because it's kind of daunting going out there and figuring out the whole setup and how do you navigate through
16:47it.
16:47And so, here I am, doing a video chat with Renee, my matchmaker, and she's going to try to find
16:55the love of my life.
16:57Hello!
16:58Hey.
16:58How are you, Mary?
17:00Doing good.
17:01I'm going to take my glasses off, if you don't mind.
17:03Can you hear me?
17:04I can't seem to hear you.
17:05Um, just one moment.
17:11I have talked with Renee on a call to answer her questionnaires and take her personality profile assessments and get
17:19into my love languages.
17:20You can't hear me?
17:21I can't hear you yet.
17:22Just the feel of, who is Barry?
17:27You know?
17:28What kind of quirks does he have?
17:31Can you hear me?
17:32Yes.
17:33But this is my first time seeing her, you know, face to face via video.
17:38That should be good.
17:39Okay.
17:40So hello, Renee.
17:41How are you today?
17:42Hi, I'm great, Barry.
17:44How are you doing?
17:45Well, we're working through our technical difficulties, but we're doing great here on this end.
17:49I appreciate you taking the time to walk through this journey side by side so you are not dating alone.
17:57So I know that one of the questions that we asked is how ready on a scale of one to
18:02ten are you for a committed relationship again?
18:07You did say a five.
18:08Can you explain why you came up with a five?
18:12Well, you know, I've just come out of a divorce process, right?
18:17And so, you know, I'm still, you know, not like at the ten level, but I'm wanting to get to
18:26that point.
18:27But I feel personally that I'm kind of midway.
18:30Okay.
18:31I want it to be the right feel.
18:33You know, I want to have the right feel.
18:34I hope that, you know, this woman would have the right feel, that the children would have, like, a good
18:40vibe that, okay, this is exciting.
18:43This is looking good.
18:44In your eyes, why do you believe that marriage did not last?
18:51Well, you know, it takes two to, you know, not make a marriage work.
18:58Kim and I both, I guess, had our issues in the end.
19:02From her perspective, I wasn't meeting the needs that she had.
19:08She felt like I didn't have or give her a voice in the relationship.
19:14She felt like she wasn't loved as well as she thought she should be.
19:20And it was good feedback because it helped me assess where are some of my shortcomings.
19:25Because, you know, I'm like, next time, you know, I get back into a relationship, I want to have that
19:31understanding that, okay, this might be a weak point of mine that I need to work on.
19:36You have matured.
19:37Yes.
19:38Yes.
19:38So, I mean, that's good.
19:40That's like growth.
19:41I can tell you right now I'm a work in process, right?
19:44So I'm learning from past mistakes and I'm moving forward with the mindset of, well, how can I better myself?
19:53Let's dive into who it is you're looking for.
19:56Yeah.
19:57I mean, right now the would like to have that's coming to mind is a nurturer.
20:01Okay.
20:02I feel in past relationships maybe a little deficient in that area.
20:06Would you describe her more as like soft and sweet?
20:11Yeah.
20:12Alpha females are not, I'm not that attracted to.
20:17I've kind of been there, done that.
20:20I'm kind of put off by overly controlling types and I'm exceptionally put off by manipulation now.
20:27Let's talk about physicality.
20:29Do you lean more towards a particular type?
20:32Yeah.
20:33Yeah.
20:34For some reason I just love olive tone skin.
20:37I don't know why that is.
20:38I really do.
20:38Okay.
20:40So if you had a room full of ladies lined up in front of you and they were all interested
20:44in meeting you, what type would you be more drawn to?
20:49Um, I guess in four words, the Sandra Bullock look.
20:57Sandra Bullock.
21:00Sandra.
21:01Yeah, I like Sandra.
21:02She was in Keanu with Keanu Reeves with speed.
21:08I mean, let's keep driving.
21:11Keep driving.
21:14What was it?
21:15Don't go slower than 50.
21:17Otherwise you blow.
21:23Um, and how would your family and friends welcome somebody into your life?
21:29You know, my girls are, they would, they would want to, you know, take time to get to know, you
21:35know, my potential, you know, new dates.
21:39You know, my, my girlfriend, you know, just the, the full vetting process.
21:44Okay.
21:44So maybe have them write both like three things that they both want their father to have.
21:51I'm paving the way with the children.
21:53Dad's thinking about dating and I just want their, I want to see what their responses are.
21:59A single guy in his fifties with nine children.
22:02I can, I can feel, I can feel like a baseball team.
22:05It was funny when I was writing down all of your children's ages.
22:08I'm like, I don't think this line has ever been this long, right?
22:11So it's a beautiful thing though.
22:13It really is.
22:14You have an army of somebody's, uh, they're going to have to win all of their hearts.
22:21You've heard about everything going on.
22:24I heard that you broke up with Kayla.
22:27I have a lot of guilt from what I did.
22:30I really don't know if I will get her back.
22:33That really scares me.
22:34It's just a matter of if we can unscrew what I screwed up.
22:55Yeah.
22:56Yeah.
23:04Okay.
23:04I can't, but I almost got it to move.
23:07See if you can.
23:08Do you want me to see if I can?
23:09And then I'll find a smaller one.
23:12Yeah.
23:14All right.
23:15Well, that's...
23:16Okay.
23:17So I got one over here.
23:19I think I can push this one over.
23:21Try it first.
23:23No.
23:24Nope.
23:25We have probably 20 or 30 acres of woods and there's always going to be dead trees.
23:34The dead trees, if they're not pushed down, at some point they're going to fall down.
23:38If I'm riding a four-wheeler through the trails or I'm walking through the trails, I don't really want a
23:42tree falling on me.
23:44Nope.
23:46It's fun.
23:48It's satisfying when you push, you feel it give a little bit, you push a little bit more and you
23:52just feel this big hunk of dead wood just fall hard on the ground.
24:01Oh, it's so close.
24:02I guess mom has her arms.
24:07There we go.
24:10Okay.
24:13So, what have you been up to?
24:15A lot.
24:18You've heard about everything going on.
24:20I take it.
24:22I heard that you broke up with Kaelin.
24:25I had stopped at Barry's house to drop the girls off and Kaelin was there and she was crying.
24:33I just gave her a hug.
24:34I told her I loved her.
24:35I told her if she needs to talk or, you know, anything, I'm here for her, whatever she needs.
24:40So, she called me that night and we talked for a couple hours.
24:45She was crying, but the one thing she said to me is make sure Isaac's okay.
24:52Just concerned, you know, for your well-being, that's a good woman, you know?
24:59I don't even know how to feel about that.
25:01I mean, I feel terrible, but it also makes me feel really good that she still would care about me
25:05even after everything I did.
25:08I have a lot of guilt from what I did, so it's just a matter of if we can unscrew
25:15what I screwed up.
25:18She didn't see it coming and I know it broke her and she doesn't deserve that and I hate that
25:24I put her through that.
25:25I wish she would have, you know, yelled at me or something.
25:31She is so, like, genuinely kind and just a really good person.
25:36And, I mean, I feel like that's really good for Isaac.
25:41That's the kind of girl that I want for any of my sons.
25:46So, why did you break up with Caitlin?
25:48Well, I mean, there was things personally on my end that I was thinking that I was in my head
25:54about.
25:55I know that she is older than me by two, two and a half years or so.
25:59And so I know that she wants to get married a little sooner than I was thinking.
26:04Was Caitlin putting pressure on you to, like, get married or anything like that?
26:08No, I mean, she wasn't really.
26:10All the pressure I was getting was basically in my head.
26:13But then I just didn't think about the thought of maybe she is the one.
26:17Maybe this is where I'm supposed to be, you know?
26:21I let everything else kind of drown that out.
26:23Yeah.
26:25I don't know.
26:26There's a lot of things I need to think about.
26:29A lot of my older kids, they've had kind of bad relationships.
26:36Looking back, the thing that I would change with how we raise the kids is I have a hard time
26:43promoting sex before marriage.
26:47I do feel like there's a lot of benefit to waiting.
26:50But now I think it's better to have sex before marriage and really get to know who you're marrying than
27:00to just rush in and get married so that you can have sex.
27:06Isaac and Caitlin have spent a long time getting to know each other.
27:09But the bottom line is they still have to figure out some of those things for themselves and it's hard.
27:16They have to figure out, you know, to get to know somebody and not move too fast.
27:23So what did everybody else say that you told?
27:26Basically, the whole family said the same thing, that they disagree with me.
27:30I'm thinking it was a bad decision now, you know?
27:33Yeah.
27:35If me and Kaelin can work things out from here, which is a long shot, but I don't plan on
27:40ever letting her go.
27:41And so you know what that means leading to down the road, you know?
27:45I don't want to get married, you know, right off the bat, real fast, real young, but it's where I
27:50want to be.
27:52All that the past few days have really shown me is that, you know, I was wrong.
27:57I mean, sometimes you have to see that for yourself to know, because if you keep thinking, well, the grass
28:03is greener on the other side, then you don't appreciate what you have.
28:08Yeah.
28:08But then when you experience it and you see, grass really isn't greener on the other side, you know?
28:15And nobody can really tell you that.
28:18I really don't know if I will get her back.
28:21That really scares me.
28:36Knit one, purl two.
28:38Knit one, purl two.
28:40I haven't taught...
28:41Have you taught Amber?
28:42I taught her the normal knitting, but I haven't taught her the purl two.
28:47I haven't taught her the purl stitch yet.
28:49Based on the recommendation of Renee, my matchmaker, she recommended that I have a chat with the girls about dating.
28:58So I have a question for you, girls.
29:00I have an answer.
29:02So the topic is dating.
29:05Mm-hmm.
29:10My entry into that realm, right?
29:12It's about time.
29:17Have you dated anyone yet, or are you...?
29:19I have not dated anybody yet.
29:22Okay.
29:22Right?
29:22I'm moving along, like...
29:25Slowly.
29:26Slowly.
29:26Slow molasses in January.
29:28Mm-hmm.
29:29I'd love to see Dad in a healthy relationship.
29:32I've been waiting for him to, like, you know, say he's gonna start dating.
29:36Seems like I waited forever, and now he finally says he's ready.
29:39It's like, yeah, it's about time.
29:43I just want to venture out into this new realm and see what happens.
29:48Mm-hmm.
29:48Yeah.
29:50So, I have enlisted the help of a dating service.
29:55You're on a dating app?
29:57No.
29:57Okay.
29:58It's an elite dating service.
30:00Professional matchmakers.
30:02So it's basically like a dating app?
30:05Yeah.
30:06Dad just doesn't seem like the type of person to be on a dating app.
30:10Since I'm going down this avenue, there's some feedback I would like from the three of you.
30:17Okay?
30:17She has to have good-tasty music.
30:19She has to like 80s music.
30:20Has to like 80s music.
30:22Has to like 80s music.
30:23And not tolerate.
30:24And not just...
30:24Yeah, at least tolerate.
30:26And country music.
30:27Okay.
30:28She has to have a good sense of humor.
30:30Adventurous.
30:30Adventurous things.
30:32She needs to like water activities.
30:33She can...
30:34Yeah.
30:34Yeah.
30:35Smart enough to help us on our math.
30:37Get at communicating.
30:39Um...
30:40She should have a motherly side to her.
30:42Ooh.
30:42What if she likes coffee?
30:44Not at all.
30:44What if you go to kiss her and she has coffee bread?
30:48I'm kidding.
30:49Interesting thought, Mercy.
30:51They seem receptive.
30:53Me and the girls are in really good places together.
30:57I mean, my focus is them.
30:59Right?
30:59So they know Dad loves them and I'll be there for them.
31:02No matter what.
31:04Renee is going to vet.
31:06You know what vetting is, right?
31:08To...
31:08Like...
31:08Like take care of animals and doctor...
31:12How's this woman gonna handle nine children?
31:31The weight that I've put on in the last four and a half years has...
31:37I mean, I just...
31:39I'm in a place where I just feel...
31:41Not great.
31:45I don't like how my clothes fit.
31:49It's...
31:51I don't even wanna talk about it.
31:54I just...
31:55I don't like how I feel.
31:58So...
31:59Working on turning that around.
32:08My goal is to get a variety.
32:10To get some weight training.
32:12Some flexibility.
32:14Just a variety of things.
32:17To...
32:18Just kinda...
32:19Get back in shape.
32:22It's been hard on...
32:24My life.
32:26It's been hard on...
32:28Me.
32:29My body.
32:29Everything.
32:30But I'm...
32:32Turning that around.
32:34This is something I need to do for me.
32:39I'm at that age where my hormones are changing and...
32:43That makes it...
32:44Even more difficult to lose weight.
32:47But I'm gonna keep working on it.
32:50Because...
32:51I just have the rest of my life.
32:52To live in this body.
32:56Barry had built a ballet bar for me...
33:00At...
33:00His house.
33:01Years ago.
33:02When it was our house.
33:05So...
33:06Sometime I'll get that installed.
33:08I'm sure Ken will help me with that.
33:12When I lived at the farm last.
33:13And we had...
33:15All these kids running around.
33:17We ate really healthy.
33:19We grew lots of vegetables.
33:20We didn't really eat sugar.
33:22We went through a lot of honey though.
33:24Just do honey back up to there.
33:27It's been real easy to get away from that.
33:30But it's a process.
33:31Trying to make better choices...
33:33Every day.
33:36One thing I used to do a lot of...
33:38Is juicing.
33:40Celery and ginger was my favorite.
33:43That's amazing.
33:45I'm gonna go get my juicer out.
33:47And see if I can make something.
34:00I know we put it in here when we moved.
34:05It's pretty big.
34:06So it can't be too hard to find.
34:09I'm not seeing it.
34:10It's a really nice juicer.
34:12I think.
34:13Hey Ken.
34:19Hey Ken.
34:22Yeah.
34:23Do you know where my juicer is?
34:25The big white juicer?
34:26Yeah.
34:27When Barry came out he asked about the juicer.
34:30Yeah.
34:30And I told him that I had it.
34:33Yeah.
34:33And he took it.
34:36I can't believe as long as that juicer is sat on the shelf.
34:40Barry just takes it the day before I'm ready to use it.
34:44Okay.
34:45Well I got an issue with Barry then.
34:46Because that's not...
34:47Okay.
34:47That's not his.
34:49That's definitely mine.
34:50I guess I gotta call Barry.
34:51Well I'm not...
34:52Yeah.
34:53...getting involved with the juicer.
34:54I know.
34:55Yeah.
35:07You can go back in the living room.
35:09Sorry.
35:15I'm here in Wisconsin.
35:17I drove over here yesterday.
35:18And if he doesn't know I'm here.
35:20You're not doing anything weird like driving by our house at 2 o'clock in the morning?
35:24No.
35:25If you don't tell her the worst thing that can happen is she finds out.
35:29And then she thinks you're really weird.
35:47We're in Wisconsin.
35:48This is where Tegan lives.
35:51And Tegan doesn't know that I'm here.
35:54I have two bags of tools.
35:56I have my duffel bag.
35:57Just my clothes.
35:58And some cash.
35:59And I think that's it.
36:02There's an abandoned lot next to an empty mall a couple miles from here.
36:06And I thought well maybe I'll sleep here for a little while.
36:10In this big back seat.
36:11It's like sleeping on a couch.
36:13I'm looking at some places that I can lock down for January.
36:19And I just know that this is where I need to be.
36:23And I don't want to tell her.
36:26Okay I'm going to move to Wisconsin.
36:28I just want to move to show commitment.
36:30And not just words.
36:35When Isaac broke up with Kayla and I was just like what the hell is going on with all of
36:39us.
36:40I think when it comes to relationships and communication and love I don't think any of us really know what
36:47the hell we're doing.
36:47And a lot of times people go through their teen years kind of learning about that.
36:52And you experience having a boyfriend and breaking up or a girlfriend and breaking up.
36:57And then you learn and by the time you're in your 20s you're kind of like a little seasoned, a
37:02little well rounded.
37:03None of us to any degree have had that.
37:08The way I was brought up was very good and there are many many things about it that I would
37:11do again.
37:12But the whole like dating and relationship deal, I wouldn't do that the same way.
37:23Just because I feel like it's been more of a hindrance than a benefit.
37:29You end up screwing it up or breaking up or walking away.
37:48It's so hard to be here and know that I'm only a minute from her and I can't see her.
37:57But at the same time it's actually easier than being in Georgia.
38:03It's like inside I feel at peace here.
38:07Because I feel like this is where I need to be.
38:09It has nothing to do with my family.
38:11I love my family dearly and I'll miss them.
38:14But when you grow up and you feel like your purpose is elsewhere, you can't deny that.
38:21Hey.
38:22Hey.
38:23What are you doing?
38:24Oh, I'm here in Wisconsin.
38:26I drove over here yesterday.
38:28Okay.
38:30I'm just gonna look at some places to maybe lock down in January.
38:35And she doesn't know I'm here.
38:37She hasn't seen my car.
38:37I haven't told her.
38:40What's the reason that you wouldn't just tell her now?
38:44Well, the reason why is because, you know, we made plans multiple times for me to move here and I
38:52never did.
38:52So I don't want to just tell her, hey, I'm gonna move here again.
38:57Yeah, but you're there and you're looking at places.
39:01Yeah.
39:02Anyways, I just want to let you know that's what I'm doing.
39:04Let's see how it goes.
39:07There's no chance she would like drive by and be like, oh, there's Ethan's car.
39:13You're not doing anything weird like driving by her house at two o'clock in the morning and stopping her?
39:18No.
39:18No, I have not entered her neighborhood and I'm not going to.
39:22I'm going to be respectful of that.
39:25Well, here's my thought is if you tell her the worst thing that she could think is that, oh, here
39:33he goes again.
39:33He's not going to follow through with it, but then you're going to prove her wrong by following through with
39:37it.
39:39To me, if you don't tell her, the worst thing that can happen is she finds out and then she
39:44thinks you're really weird for like being there for weeks or whatever, however long and not saying anything.
39:52Yeah.
39:53Like, to me, that would be weird.
40:00I'm going to find a place, get the paperwork done, then I can tell her.
40:05I would seriously consider talking to you again.
40:08All right.
40:16Tell me about this car. This is a very recognizable car, yes?
40:21So this is a 1976 New Yorker, made by Chrysler. Definitely sticks out.
40:28And Tegan knows you well in this car.
40:30Hell yeah.
40:34Are you purposely not?
40:36That was her.
40:37No, was it?
40:38Yeah, it was.
40:39Are you serious?
40:40It was.
40:44Let's go. Come on.
40:46If your butt don't touch, it don't count.
40:48Barry has a nickname in our family and he's called Plath Daddy.
40:53And you will always be Plath Daddy.
40:56Plath Daddy.
40:57Is it?
40:58There we go.
41:00Hey.
41:01Hey, are you good?
41:03Well, I have something for you.
41:05Just let me know when you go pick it up.
41:09I was just wanting...
41:10When I can pick it up?
41:11Yeah.
41:13Okay.
41:15I don't take bull crap.
41:17I know my self-worth.
41:20I know what I will and won't take.
41:22All I need is one more chance.
41:27I don't give second chances.
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