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00:00:02Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:05It's so embarrassing. I'm sorry.
00:00:06This is my first time I'm buying condoms.
00:00:10For the past 21 years, I have been with women only.
00:00:13But Daniel has no idea about this aspect of my life.
00:00:17I'm terrified to tell him because a couple of months ago,
00:00:21I told him I had a fling with a woman.
00:00:24And he was disgusted.
00:00:28He's 20 years younger than I am.
00:00:30I think I got hair on my chin older than that.
00:00:34Don't make jokes.
00:00:36He doesn't love you. That's not what love is.
00:00:38He wants a ticket to America.
00:00:41There's an absolute possibility this is going to blow up in my face.
00:00:44But if I'm not willing to take a risk for love,
00:00:48then what am I willing to take a risk for?
00:00:53We can't make more than hugs or kiss and check
00:00:57until we get married.
00:00:59But that's just not what you said.
00:01:01A couple weeks ago, I realized that he followed thousands of women.
00:01:05And it turns out that he was talking to one of the girls.
00:01:09Good night.
00:01:09Good night.
00:01:10Now seeing how he's acting in person,
00:01:13it's making me question things.
00:01:19Oh, my goodness.
00:01:22Sheena and I have been waiting seven years to meet up with each other.
00:01:25And I just want everything to go smoothly.
00:01:29But my mom did not take kindly to Sheena lying about the money again.
00:01:38Apology aside, there's still some things that have to be discussed before we can proceed.
00:01:54I'm scared that I'm going to pee all over the floor
00:01:56because every time I get nervous, I pee.
00:02:01I'm going to see his face and it's just going to flow out of me,
00:02:03drip down my legs.
00:02:04And what an impression that's going to be.
00:02:14I am nervous and I am excited and I'm scared to death
00:02:19because things can be different when he meets you in person.
00:02:23What if he hides?
00:02:24What if he changes his mind once I get there?
00:02:26I don't know what he's going to think about me.
00:02:28I don't know if he's going to be like,
00:02:30wow, she's a lot older than I thought.
00:02:36Today, I'm leaving for Nigeria to go see Daniel for the first time.
00:02:40And I'm feeling overwhelmed and excited and nervous.
00:02:47My daughter, Faith, brought up some serious concerns at dinner the other night
00:02:51that Daniel could be scamming me and I'm not ignoring them.
00:02:55But all I can think about is how I just want to touch his face
00:02:58and feel the dimples in his cheeks and feel his beard.
00:03:02I want to pull him in and just kiss him.
00:03:06These are the wigs I am taking with me.
00:03:09They're brand new.
00:03:10I have three because they get ruined very fast.
00:03:15I will not be wearing the wig on the plane.
00:03:18My plan is to put it on in the bathroom once I land.
00:03:22It just needs to go on my carry-on bag.
00:03:25Wearing a wig, it's a process and it's not fun.
00:03:30It sticks to your hair, it sticks to your skin, you have rashes, you have all kinds of sores.
00:03:36It's going to be stressful to deal with in Nigeria, but it makes him so happy.
00:03:42I want to look beautiful for Daniel.
00:03:44So I will be keeping it on all day and all night.
00:03:47I'm sleeping in my wig.
00:03:51So today, mom is going to Nigeria.
00:03:56I'm pretty nervous.
00:04:00I'm not sure how it's going to go.
00:04:03She's horrible with directions.
00:04:06I am hopeful she gets the answers and the relationship she's hoping for.
00:04:12But honestly, there's still a lot of concerns for me.
00:04:18Hi, Faith.
00:04:19I have some toast and coffee for you.
00:04:22Oh, wonderful.
00:04:24Yeah, especially brood.
00:04:26That's the first thing I want.
00:04:28I know.
00:04:29All right, listen.
00:04:30Here's something really important.
00:04:31The certified letter is coming for the divorce.
00:04:34Yeah.
00:04:35So you have to go to the post office to mail it.
00:04:38That has to be done.
00:04:40Like immediately.
00:04:41Yes.
00:04:41Because the court hearing date that the judge signs the paper is on the 29th.
00:04:46So that the divorce becomes finalized on the 29th.
00:04:49I want to come clean and tell him that not only I was still married, but the divorce is there.
00:04:55And I want to show him the papers of the divorce.
00:04:58If I'm just, mom, you not only lied about the fact that, oh, you didn't just have a fling with
00:05:04a woman.
00:05:05No, you've been married to women several times.
00:05:09But you also told him you're not married.
00:05:14Not only does he not know that I've been with women for the past 21 years, Daniel doesn't know that
00:05:20I am technically still married to a woman.
00:05:27He asked me if I was free to marry when he first started talking to me.
00:05:31And I said, yeah, I'm free to marry because in my heart, I have been free to marry because my
00:05:36ex-wife and I have been separated for over nine years.
00:05:39We just never got around to signing the divorce papers until now.
00:05:44If that happened to me, I would be devastated.
00:05:47I wouldn't be able to trust that person.
00:05:49Well, I'm going to come clean on this trip and tell him everything.
00:05:52I'm not going to accept the marriage proposal until we have this conversation.
00:05:56He's going to know about it beforehand.
00:06:02Just trust me.
00:06:03I'm just worried, mom.
00:06:04Don't worry.
00:06:05Don't worry.
00:06:06I got this.
00:06:07Let's get going.
00:06:08We need to get to the airport.
00:06:09It is getting late and we need to get to get to.
00:06:13I do have a flight.
00:06:15I struggle trusting my mom that she's not going to somehow try and get married in there.
00:06:21Please do not ruin your life for getting married to somebody before you're ready.
00:06:26I need to grab my phone.
00:06:28That's the last thing I need.
00:06:33So if Daniel was asking you to get married while you were in Nigeria, would you keep your hands to
00:06:37faith?
00:06:37Would I go against faith's wishes?
00:06:44I want to say no.
00:06:48But my heart says, hold on to Daniel and do it.
00:06:53Jump with both feet in.
00:06:57I want to be Mrs. Daniel.
00:07:00I want to be with him.
00:07:02I want to be a part of him.
00:07:04I want to be his wife.
00:07:07So I don't know what I'll do.
00:07:09I really don't know.
00:07:12Will you grab one of the suitcases?
00:07:14Yeah, I can do that.
00:07:16Woo, here we go.
00:07:26Here we go.
00:07:29Oh, 61.
00:07:32What?
00:07:33Oh, 61.
00:07:35I got three.
00:07:37Oh, you've done good.
00:07:39Oh, 70.
00:07:42I met my husband when I was in high school.
00:07:45I was married to a soldier.
00:07:48He lived up the street.
00:07:51My husband and I met in junior college.
00:07:53We loved to skate.
00:07:55So our first date was going skating.
00:07:58The first date, we went to a fair.
00:08:02And I sort of thought, you know, I like him.
00:08:10I didn't want to be with anybody else.
00:08:13That was just, that was it.
00:08:17He said, I wanted you to have a heart ring.
00:08:23And here it is.
00:08:29I'm done waiting.
00:08:31No more.
00:08:33Hensitating.
00:08:35There is nothing more to once more.
00:08:39You got to feel it.
00:08:41You got to believe it.
00:08:44There's a whole new world you're looking for.
00:08:47Be poor.
00:08:50Good afternoon.
00:08:52Lemonade.
00:08:54Oh, boy.
00:08:55My name is Javon.
00:08:57I'm 38 years old.
00:08:58And I grew up in Jacksonville, Alabama.
00:09:02Who's winning?
00:09:03Who has a bingo?
00:09:04I've got several bingos.
00:09:06Oh, nice.
00:09:08I work at a nursing home.
00:09:10And I like my job.
00:09:14You know, old people, they just say some of the first things that come to their mind.
00:09:19They have no filters.
00:09:20And it's just pure comedy.
00:09:22What did you bring us today?
00:09:23We have grapes, crackers, cheese, salami.
00:09:28Ooh.
00:09:29Look at all that cheese.
00:09:31But it's just a low-paying job.
00:09:33Anybody else need any silverware?
00:09:35I think that's where I fall short when it comes to women.
00:09:39American women, they want six-pack, six figures, six inches.
00:09:46I call them the three sixes.
00:09:48And it's not me.
00:09:53That's good.
00:09:56We hear you're going to the Philippines.
00:09:58Oh, yeah.
00:10:00Yeah, it's a trip way overdue.
00:10:01I'm going to see my wife.
00:10:04When was the last time you saw her?
00:10:07Uh, actually, I've never even met my wife yet.
00:10:15So, this would be actually our first meet.
00:10:19Oh, okay.
00:10:22Really?
00:10:23Yeah.
00:10:25Aw.
00:10:26My wife is Anna Lynn.
00:10:28She's 38 years old.
00:10:29And she's from the Philippines, Cavite.
00:10:33Hey, boo, it's your wife.
00:10:35I hope you're having a great day.
00:10:42We connected online about five years ago.
00:10:45And we've been married for about two years.
00:10:50He said that?
00:10:52No, that's wrong.
00:10:54We have been in a relationship for six years.
00:10:57And we have been married for almost three years.
00:11:00Okay?
00:11:03Hello, boo-boo.
00:11:04I love you, and I appreciate you.
00:11:08Boy, the moment I saw him, he's so good to look at.
00:11:13Yummers.
00:11:19Even though we were on the opposite sides of the world,
00:11:22we would talk for hours every day,
00:11:24and he just made me feel like the happiest that I've ever been.
00:11:30Maybe a year after we started talking online,
00:11:34I wanted to meet Anna Lynn in person.
00:11:36But when COVID hit, I couldn't no longer travel.
00:11:41There were flight restrictions.
00:11:43I was kind of feeling hopeless,
00:11:46and I was afraid that I'm going to lose him.
00:11:49And then I was scrolling on social media,
00:11:52and I saw these couples getting married online.
00:11:56And I thought if we were married legally,
00:11:59he would be able to enter the Philippine border
00:12:02because they allow family, which means blood or your spouse.
00:12:08When Anna Lynn first brought up online marriages,
00:12:14I was just like, what the hell?
00:12:18I had doubts, of course, because it's unorthodox,
00:12:22but I just had a lot of faith.
00:12:26When you meet the one that you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with,
00:12:28you can't even actually put it into words.
00:12:30It's like, that's what they say.
00:12:31When you know, you know, it's kind of like that.
00:12:36All right.
00:12:37Place the rings on your fingers
00:12:39as a symbol of the love that you share
00:12:41and the commitment that you're making.
00:12:44How I envisioned my wedding was not a Zoom call.
00:12:48Absolutely not.
00:12:49But it was still the happiest day of my life.
00:12:52It is now my privilege to pronounce you
00:12:54lawfully wed as husband and wife.
00:12:59Congratulations.
00:13:02I finally have my perfect wife.
00:13:05I just need to meet her in person.
00:13:08How could you be married for years
00:13:09and never go to the Philippines to see your wife?
00:13:15The whole thing is very expensive,
00:13:17so, you know, and then I have to save up for it.
00:13:19So that's mostly the reason why.
00:13:23Over the years, me and Anna Lynn
00:13:25have tried to meet up several times,
00:13:28but work and finance has gotten away.
00:13:30And having a marriage online has been challenging.
00:13:36Especially because Anna Lynn has changed.
00:13:40When I first met Anna, she was more patient, sweeter.
00:13:45She just had more positive vibes about her.
00:13:48I'm like, hold on.
00:13:50What's going on here?
00:13:52I've always been feisty.
00:13:55He knows that.
00:13:57And I'm not the typical Filipina.
00:13:59I don't like being told what to do.
00:14:01I don't like being controlled.
00:14:03After a period of time,
00:14:05I had to fight to actually speak, to be heard.
00:14:09Lately, it feels like we're fighting more than we're getting along.
00:14:12I know we're already committed as man and wife.
00:14:15But before I apply for that spousal visa
00:14:18and move Anna Lynn to the U.S.,
00:14:21we need to spend physical time with one another
00:14:23to make sure I made the right choice.
00:14:27I'm going out there because I love her.
00:14:30I'm going to give it everything I got.
00:14:32But I'm worried that our problems
00:14:34are maybe a little bit too big to resolve.
00:14:37And if we can't,
00:14:38I don't know how this marriage is going to work.
00:14:51I don't know how this marriage is going to work.
00:15:11I wanted to, like, talk to you about
00:15:12that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:15:14What? What's happening?
00:15:20Emma.
00:16:00I wanted to get out for a bit this morning
00:16:02and clear my mind
00:16:03because my night with Emma was horrible.
00:16:07I want to be her husband,
00:16:09but we need some time to know each other.
00:16:12I hope things better today.
00:16:19I pictured my first morning here a lot differently.
00:16:21Like, I thought I'd be waking up next to him
00:16:24and he would be, like, bringing me coffee in the morning
00:16:26and cuddling with me.
00:16:27And that's not how it went at all.
00:16:30We've actually just been completely separate.
00:16:35Zia's behavior last night,
00:16:36it's making me a little suspicious,
00:16:39but I'm trying not to just be in my head
00:16:41and overthink things.
00:16:43I want this to be fun
00:16:44and I want us to just focus on
00:16:47the positives.
00:16:49I'm really determined to turn things around.
00:16:58Zia's behavior last night.
00:17:21That's it.
00:17:22This is your place.
00:17:23I hope you will like it.
00:17:24Thanks, babe.
00:17:31Hello.
00:17:37She's adorable.
00:17:40My favorite.
00:17:43I don't like eggs,
00:17:44but I'll eat it because she cooked it.
00:17:47Do you want to talk about yesterday?
00:17:50What do you want to start for what?
00:17:52I mean, it wasn't really, like,
00:17:53a good start to my trip.
00:17:56I don't like that we were fighting all day.
00:17:58Yeah.
00:17:59That's not how I expected, like,
00:18:00my first night to go.
00:18:03Can you pour me some more tea, please?
00:18:06Yeah.
00:18:06Oh, you drink that all quickly?
00:18:08I love the tea here.
00:18:10Okay.
00:18:11Um, but yes,
00:18:12I did want to say sorry
00:18:14to you.
00:18:14I don't hear you.
00:18:16I don't hear you.
00:18:17I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:18Can you repeat?
00:18:19I don't hear what you said.
00:18:20I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:21For what?
00:18:24For running away from your kiss.
00:18:27And?
00:18:29Walking away from you
00:18:30when you were talking.
00:18:34I mean, I'm sorry.
00:18:35Yesterday got, like, really dramatic,
00:18:36but I think it was just a long day for me
00:18:38because I was traveling for, like, 20 hours.
00:18:41I know it's difficult.
00:18:43And it was just, like, a lot going on.
00:18:44There was, like, a lot in my mind.
00:18:45And actually, there's something else
00:18:48I wanted to, like, talk to you about
00:18:50that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:19:02What?
00:19:02What is this?
00:19:03What's happening?
00:19:07I was just, like, upset the past couple days
00:19:09because you know how much I love my job.
00:19:12Like, I've been there for five years.
00:19:16And well, I got fired.
00:19:21Really?
00:19:24I don't know if I want to talk about it
00:19:25because I'm going to cry.
00:19:26No, no, you don't mean this.
00:19:29Listen, listen.
00:19:32I just need a minute.
00:19:35Emma.
00:19:42Sorry.
00:19:44I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:48It's...
00:19:48I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:50It's just a walk.
00:19:52It's perfect.
00:19:55And you don't need to cry for it.
00:19:57So just enjoy your moments.
00:19:59No, don't cry.
00:20:00Don't cry.
00:20:00Okay.
00:20:01Don't cry.
00:20:02Okay?
00:20:09I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:20:11I don't have any, like, options right now.
00:20:14It's difficult and it's hard.
00:20:16But at the end, there is a lot of jobs.
00:20:18Yeah.
00:20:35I think we definitely started this trip, like, on the wrong foot.
00:20:39It was like a tornado.
00:20:42But right now, he's showing me that he cares about what I'm going through.
00:20:46I love you, babe.
00:20:47Yeah, he is.
00:20:47I love you more.
00:20:49But what's...
00:20:50What's mean, tornado?
00:20:51Like an earthquake.
00:20:52Like a natural disaster.
00:20:54So, like, when I got off the plane, what happened between us was like an earthquake.
00:20:59Yeah, yeah.
00:20:59That's an amazing example.
00:21:01Yeah, really.
00:21:05My future hubby.
00:21:07Oh.
00:21:08Do you know what that means?
00:21:10No.
00:21:10Can you explain?
00:21:11What's mean?
00:21:12It's short for husband.
00:21:13Really?
00:21:14Yeah.
00:21:14Where's...
00:21:15Hubby.
00:21:17One feet.
00:21:18Yeah.
00:21:20Exactly.
00:21:42God, I can't believe the trees, how beautiful they are.
00:21:46I gotta believe how hot it is.
00:21:48I'm probably gonna...
00:21:48I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:50I'm gonna have a sunburn in about 10 seconds.
00:22:01All right, see you later, Deb.
00:22:03See you later.
00:22:06I just arrived in the Philippines with my parents and finally met the girl of my dreams after
00:22:13seven years.
00:22:15Just being able to touch and hold her hand, it was so amazing.
00:22:19Did a little more than hold hands, I'd say.
00:22:22Luka, luka.
00:22:24Yeah.
00:22:28Oh, this is incredible.
00:22:30Yeah, there's a lot to take in here.
00:22:33Crazy.
00:22:34This is definitely controlled chaos.
00:22:37If I could describe the Philippines in one word, it'd be hectic.
00:22:43It's got people, like, almost running into each other or running each other over constantly.
00:22:48Oh, man.
00:22:49Glad I'm not driving.
00:22:51Yeah.
00:22:52But it's got its own, like, charm to it.
00:22:56Look at that.
00:22:56That thing is pretty good.
00:22:58Yes, this is the jeepney.
00:22:59This is locally here in my country.
00:23:01They have converted old jeepneys from the World War II who have been left with Americans,
00:23:05so they converted for, like, taxis.
00:23:08Incredible.
00:23:10You can see the big building there.
00:23:12That's the condo we're gonna stay.
00:23:14I wish I could stand for a place.
00:23:18Sheena's parents own her apartment in Manila, but we're not staying there because her parents
00:23:24said we had to pay for it if we did stay.
00:23:28When Sheena told me that, it made me really upset because I'm planning on marrying their daughter and I would
00:23:34be their son.
00:23:35And to charge family to come stay at their house is just absurd, especially because we have been saving for
00:23:42the last seven years just to afford the plane ticket to actually just meet her.
00:23:46Sheena said, I know it doesn't make sense, but it's what my parents want.
00:23:50It's their wishes.
00:23:50I can't really go around that.
00:23:54But I'm not paying them money.
00:24:13Sheena is an extreme foodie, and she likes to make sure that I'm well fed.
00:24:19Well, that's a cultural thing in my country.
00:24:22Whoa!
00:24:23I'd sure like to open him up and see what he's about.
00:24:26Oh, my goodness.
00:24:26I can definitely smell him.
00:24:28Oh.
00:24:29Yeah, you know.
00:24:30Yeah, he's a little excited at the top.
00:24:32Don't go for that.
00:24:33Yeah, okay.
00:24:38So, sorry, baby.
00:24:39This is all I could get for you guys.
00:24:42You can see that we have two bedrooms here.
00:24:45It's like a simple home, but comfy, so.
00:24:49The place is nice.
00:24:50It's pretty.
00:24:51But it could have been a little bit bigger.
00:24:56I state this claim in the name of Forrest.
00:24:59It feels good.
00:25:01Get your bag, too.
00:25:02Here, I'll throw these in here for you.
00:25:04It's not exactly the ideal place to be sharing with my parents.
00:25:07If me and Sheena, you know, decide to get down, I really just hope my parents don't hear us.
00:25:16Sheena.
00:25:17What?
00:25:18This feels more than online right now.
00:25:22Oh.
00:25:22You know, it's making me more nervous.
00:25:25Oh, you don't have to be.
00:25:27I'm here right with you.
00:25:28Oh, I know.
00:25:29I can see.
00:25:30Yeah, you're so excited, huh?
00:25:32Oh, yeah.
00:25:33Because I got some good stuff here.
00:25:37Excuse me, baby.
00:25:39Boom.
00:25:39What is that?
00:25:40This is something amazing, and I want you to try it on for me if you want.
00:25:48Whoa, what's that thing?
00:25:51I think it is a cloth that goes on your body.
00:25:55It accentuates your sexuality.
00:26:01Oh, that's nice.
00:26:02I love the color.
00:26:04Oh, yeah.
00:26:05I guess what?
00:26:06There's even more.
00:26:08What?
00:26:08You have more?
00:26:09I have more.
00:26:11Oh, wow.
00:26:12I got you a pretty thong.
00:26:15Wow.
00:26:17To be honest, I feel quite nervous because I am a virgin.
00:26:23But forest makes me feel confident of my body.
00:26:27This is another one for you in case you want to.
00:26:31Oh, that's great.
00:26:31That's cool.
00:26:32That's beautiful.
00:26:33Oh, okay.
00:26:34Oh, okay.
00:26:35Okay.
00:26:42You're so handsome, always.
00:26:43I'm going to go brush my teeth.
00:26:45Okay.
00:26:45Go for it, Mendo.
00:26:46Debrush.
00:26:47All right.
00:26:48Here you think, Mendo.
00:26:51You know, when I was making, like, sexy talk with her, I was really just trying to, like,
00:26:56put her at ease, make her laugh, you know, just calm the mood.
00:27:02I've been waiting seven years to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:27:06But to be honest, I'm actually kind of still nervous about what is in my virginia.
00:27:13I mean, I'm not saying I can't pull her socks off, but having sex with Sheena, I feel like
00:27:21it's an important thing for the both of us to be in the right mindset.
00:27:24But it's just a big deal.
00:27:29I love you.
00:27:30I love you.
00:27:31Do you want the lights on or off?
00:27:32Well, turn off the lights, babe.
00:27:40It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:27:45I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am nervous that BeerCon won't be as attracted
00:27:52to me in person.
00:27:54Oh, my God.
00:27:55Here we go.
00:28:00We are in the process of landing, and I don't know if it was the cheese sandwich or BeerCon,
00:28:07but I'm excited.
00:28:19So this is the most important day, actually, in my life.
00:28:23I'm trying to look good, you know, for our big meeting, for the first time.
00:28:29Everything has to go perfect, so I will iron it until it's perfect or it's burned.
00:28:35Laura is arriving tricky today, and today might be the first day of my rest of my life.
00:28:45Laura rented this Airbnb for us.
00:28:49I never saw this big of a place.
00:28:54It just thrills me.
00:28:57Right now, I'm staying with different friends, sometimes Izmir, sometimes Istanbul.
00:29:05That's why Laura couldn't stay with me.
00:29:08But the privacy of our place is going to be nice, because we have a lot of things to discuss
00:29:15face to face.
00:29:28It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:29:32I'm so excited now.
00:29:34I just want to run out of this airport and leave all my luggage here.
00:29:44Oh.
00:29:48Oh, my gosh.
00:29:49She come early.
00:29:59It's slightly cold that I am having a heart attack, or I am excited.
00:30:04Yeah, we will see.
00:30:07I am going to wear a dress to meet this man.
00:30:11I think that will be a lot cuter than the hot mess that I'm currently wearing.
00:30:17I'm really proud of the progress that I've made over the last 14 months.
00:30:21But I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am nervous that Birkan won't be as attracted
00:30:30to me in person.
00:30:32And I think that's a cute dress.
00:30:35And I think that's a cute dress.
00:30:36All right.
00:30:41The woman I love is coming, so I'm thrilled.
00:30:45My hopes are we will get engaged and go to America, live together, and get married.
00:31:19All right.
00:31:22All right.
00:31:23Welcome, gorgeous.
00:31:25How are you?
00:31:26I'm good.
00:31:27Are you?
00:31:27I'm good.
00:31:29How are you doing?
00:31:30How are you doing?
00:31:30It was so long.
00:31:32Yeah, I know.
00:31:33I am still thinking about, oh, my God, America.
00:31:36You know?
00:31:39Ooh.
00:31:41Ooh.
00:31:43Ooh.
00:31:46I think everything's perfect.
00:31:49Right now.
00:31:49Yeah.
00:31:50That's really sweet.
00:31:51Yeah, that was.
00:31:52I know.
00:31:53I know.
00:31:54Yeah.
00:31:57So let's go this way.
00:32:00OK.
00:32:01These bumps are a pain with suitcases.
00:32:03Yeah.
00:32:03He looks amazing.
00:32:04Exactly the aesthetic that I've been describing, which is that dark romance male main character.
00:32:12When you look at her, what do you think?
00:32:13She's perfect.
00:32:14I don't need to look at her.
00:32:16I don't need, because I feel it, you know?
00:32:18I'm complete, so we don't need to see.
00:32:21That's probably the best answer ever.
00:32:28That was, like, the best flight I've ever taken.
00:32:31Yeah.
00:32:31Seriously.
00:32:33I'm glad.
00:32:34I'm really glad.
00:32:36Yeah.
00:32:51It's good to see you.
00:32:52You too.
00:32:58I don't know what's happening.
00:33:01It's very awkward right now.
00:33:06I really wasn't expecting that, because, you know, it was, like, great when we first met.
00:33:10He hugged me.
00:33:11He kissed me.
00:33:12And then we sit on this train, and it's like he doesn't know who I am.
00:33:15And I don't know who he is.
00:33:23I think we're close.
00:33:27I'm hoping that, as time moves forward, that this will turn around, and it will feel more like it did
00:33:35when we were online.
00:33:36But right now, something is off, and it's freaking me out.
00:33:41I don't know who I am.
00:33:43I don't know who I am.
00:33:46I don't know who I am.
00:33:48Anna called me like it were, talking about your brother, your brother.
00:33:53I know that Anna is 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:33:58She was just talking about that woman.
00:34:01Uh, yeah.
00:34:05Who is the woman?
00:34:23This is nice.
00:34:27Really?
00:34:28This is screaming, I failed a pottery class.
00:34:31No, but she doesn't like how you dress, so you got to do something else.
00:34:34Ugh.
00:34:42I think you got some good purchases.
00:34:48Ugh.
00:34:49Yeah, I don't have a lot of faith in that shirt.
00:34:52It'll be fine.
00:34:54It's gonna be fine.
00:34:56I'm running some last minute errands.
00:34:58with my sister, Ashley.
00:34:59Because I'm flying to the Philippines in a couple of days to meet my wife for the first
00:35:03time in person.
00:35:06I'm excited and I'm super nervous because we've been married for three years.
00:35:11But we've never been in the same room or even the same continent with each other.
00:35:17So, are you all packed up?
00:35:20You ready?
00:35:20Uh, I think I'm as ready as I'm ever gonna be.
00:35:24And you know, me and Anna's relationship, it's just been this spiraling, like, up and down, loop-de-loop rollercoaster
00:35:31ride.
00:35:32But when things are good, I'm, like, really happy to be in a relationship.
00:35:36I think Anna's very funny.
00:35:37Yeah.
00:35:38Like, Anna seems like she's a good time.
00:35:41She's just a lot.
00:35:45But, Javon, marrying somebody online was actually wild to me.
00:35:50I do think they love each other.
00:35:52But I don't know, like, I wouldn't just call this, like, a normal marriage.
00:35:56This is something I've never seen or heard of before.
00:36:01You know, like, Anna actually called me.
00:36:05You spoke to her?
00:36:07Mm-hmm.
00:36:09She called me, like, at work.
00:36:11I'm working.
00:36:12I'm with customers.
00:36:14And she's just, you know, talking about, your brother, your brother.
00:36:17I don't know what to do with him.
00:36:18Rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah.
00:36:22And I was like, can't even get her off the phone.
00:36:24Yeah.
00:36:24She was just talking about that woman.
00:36:31Uh, yeah.
00:36:35So who is the woman?
00:36:43So the woman is just, like, a friend of mine that I've known for a long time.
00:36:51We communicate so well.
00:36:53And we can stay on the phone for hours.
00:36:55I think because we're both having problems in our, you know, relationship.
00:36:59It's definitely more easygoing and it's more positive.
00:37:06So, but what is it that, that Anna's so, like, threatened and bothered by her?
00:37:12Like, what, what is it?
00:37:14Because I feel like I'm missing something.
00:37:18Yeah, I mean, there used to be this, this, this, this, this small thing between us.
00:37:23But we're bad.
00:37:25Oh, so that, so, so, Javon, that's not okay.
00:37:29That is no good.
00:37:31I know, you know, and I'm not.
00:37:33So, so that's why she's so upset then.
00:37:35Yeah.
00:37:37Me and my friend, we never officially dated, but there was feelings for one another.
00:37:42We lost touch for a while, but I reached out to her because I was going through a rough time
00:37:50in my marriage.
00:37:52And I needed someone that knew me and that understood me.
00:37:56I wasn't trying to hide anything.
00:37:58So I just came out and told Anna Lynn I was talking to this other person.
00:38:03I don't think it's a big deal, but obviously she does because she's extremely pissed off and upset.
00:38:12I'm not saying she don't have a valid reason to be upset, but it's just completely platonic, you know, and
00:38:19she don't have to worry about that.
00:38:22Have you tried to call her?
00:38:25I have, but, you know, she, she blocked me.
00:38:30For real?
00:38:33She gets so aggressive.
00:38:35See, this is the problem.
00:38:36Like, this is how, this is why I had to go outside of our marriage to talk to somebody else
00:38:43about our marriage.
00:38:45And it shouldn't be that way.
00:38:48Obviously, Anna feels disrespected.
00:38:51And I do get that.
00:38:53I know that she's 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:38:59But I do feel like he presses her buttons.
00:39:01Javonja needs to say sorry and try and talk to her.
00:39:05And if they don't know how to talk, then they don't need to be married.
00:39:08You're about to see your wife for the first time.
00:39:11You all don't need to be in the middle of a fight.
00:39:14I don't know what the to do.
00:39:17I don't know what to do.
00:39:22I heard some interesting things from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:39:28Did you guys do the old knockin' knockin'?
00:39:32I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:39:37Now, now you're kind of, now you're kind of being really disrespectful.
00:39:39The D.
00:39:40D, D, D, D, D, D, D, D, D.
00:40:00Hello, sweetheart.
00:40:02Oh, yeah?
00:40:04Mm-hmm.
00:40:06Hey, guys, we're going to go down and have some coffee by the pool.
00:40:10So we'll be up in a little while.
00:40:12Talk to you in a bit.
00:40:14Later.
00:40:21It's very constant.
00:40:39I arrived in the Philippines yesterday, and the first night with the woman of my dream, Sheena, was amazing.
00:40:48Oh, man, you're strong.
00:40:49Oh, yeah?
00:40:50I'm a strong beard.
00:40:51Oh, God.
00:40:54I'm going to tickle you crazy, man.
00:41:00There's a lot of new and fun things I'm finding out being with Sheena physically.
00:41:04I found out there's a night Sheena.
00:41:07What?
00:41:07And she's kind of grabby.
00:41:09Oh, really?
00:41:10I'm not.
00:41:11You're very into being physical, night Sheena.
00:41:15Oh, no, I'm not.
00:41:15Oh, no, I'm not.
00:41:16Oh, no, I'm not.
00:41:18You know, just finally being able to hold you and be with you.
00:41:21And kiss you.
00:41:23It just felt awesome.
00:41:25And I know that I talked of a big game last night about sex and everything like that.
00:41:31But I really believe that we should wait until we know each other a bit more in person.
00:41:42I understand my love.
00:41:44I really feel like after seven years, me coming here to the Philippines and just having sex with Sheena straight
00:41:51up, it's not what I want to do.
00:41:54Yeah, I agree with that.
00:41:56I just want to get to know you much better.
00:41:58We all know when the time is right.
00:42:00I agree to that.
00:42:03Also, probably when my mom's not around.
00:42:05Yeah.
00:42:12We'll see you later.
00:42:14I don't need a coat, that's for sure.
00:42:17Ooh, nice and cool in here.
00:42:21I'm excited.
00:42:29So where exactly are we here taking us again?
00:42:32So it's a Chinatown here in Manila.
00:42:36Actually, one of the oldest Chinatown here in the whole world.
00:42:39It's because Chinese people have been trading with the Filipinos before Spanish people arrived.
00:42:46Spaniards.
00:42:47So there's a lot of historical sites around and good foods.
00:42:51I'm ready to eat it all.
00:42:56So I got a little curiosity question to ask you guys.
00:43:02I heard some interesting things, you know, coming from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:43:08The little giggles.
00:43:11So did you guys do the old nookin' nookin'?
00:43:19No.
00:43:19No.
00:43:20No?
00:43:20No.
00:43:21No.
00:43:21No.
00:43:24So why didn't you guys?
00:43:29Well, it just wasn't the right time or place to do that.
00:43:33Oh, okay.
00:43:34Well, you guys can always come and talk to us if you have questions.
00:43:40It's not an embarrassing subject to me.
00:43:43It's interesting.
00:43:44It's life.
00:43:45It takes practice to be good at it.
00:43:48Yeah.
00:43:51My parents are just, it's a little too much.
00:43:56It's a little bit rude and awkward for me.
00:43:58I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:44:02I respect you guys for waiting, and there's nothing wrong with that.
00:44:07There are other things that you can do if you guys didn't want to do the nookin' nookin'.
00:44:14There's oral sex.
00:44:16There's fondling.
00:44:18Now, now you're kind of being really disrespectful here, Mom.
00:44:21I get it.
00:44:21You're trying to be helpful, but you're pushing too far.
00:44:25You know, if we want to talk about sex with you, we'll come up and ask about it.
00:44:31Okay.
00:44:33Excuse me.
00:44:37I thought it was nice that he was defending her honor.
00:44:41That's admirable.
00:44:42But I was very shocked by Forrest's reaction.
00:44:46Thank you very much.
00:44:49Well, Forrest, why is this a, you know, a total 180 from our normal discussions,
00:44:54where you're right in there using the same language, the same talk, saying,
00:44:57yeah, I'm going to get into that, do that.
00:45:00It's drastic night and day.
00:45:02I see where this is headed.
00:45:04Oh, my God.
00:45:04I miss this place.
00:45:06She was at home.
00:45:09Sheena already has that control, that thumb on him.
00:45:12Let's not forget, she was lying to him for years,
00:45:15getting all of her money to her parents instead of saving for their future.
00:45:19And I don't know if Forrest will actually hold her accountable.
00:45:23But we need to get some answers.
00:45:33You don't need to talk about your past.
00:45:36I know, I know everything about your life.
00:45:39You don't know everything.
00:45:41I really want to tell the end about my last engagement because I think it's the only way
00:45:46that we could move forward.
00:46:02Ooh, look at the mirrors.
00:46:05Wait, I want to check my outfit.
00:46:07Here, hold that.
00:46:10We look cute.
00:46:13I can see you.
00:46:14Can you see yourself?
00:46:15I can see you.
00:46:27I'm excited to go shopping.
00:46:30It's always crowded.
00:46:33This is an easy place to get lost.
00:46:35Yeah.
00:46:39I feel so bad because Emma, she loves her job.
00:46:43I want to make her feel so better, and she loves shopping, so.
00:46:48Oh, look at those bags.
00:46:50Those are cute.
00:46:52The market place in the Midian, they have a thousand stores there.
00:46:57Oh, my gosh.
00:46:57I love all of these clothes.
00:47:00You can find anything you want.
00:47:02Ooh, look at these rugs.
00:47:04Those are nice.
00:47:06Yes.
00:47:07Oh, wait, there's bags.
00:47:08Let's go look at the bags.
00:47:10Let's see what you want.
00:47:14Oh, this is so cute.
00:47:15Can you hold this?
00:47:16I want to look at everything.
00:47:17Hey, look for anything you want.
00:47:19I think I like these little wallets.
00:47:22These are cute.
00:47:24I think I'm going to buy these three.
00:47:27Not you, me.
00:47:28You're going to get them?
00:47:29Yeah.
00:47:29Hey.
00:47:30It's like my gift to you.
00:47:33Can I give you a kiss?
00:47:34Not hair.
00:47:35Air kiss?
00:47:36Maybe.
00:47:37Is that okay?
00:47:38Yeah, that's okay.
00:47:38Can I do that from now on?
00:47:40Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:47:40I'll just give you air kisses whenever I want to kiss them.
00:47:42Yeah.
00:47:46It's really nice to have Ziad offer to buy me things and buy gifts for me.
00:47:51That was so romantic because that's never something I've had in the past.
00:47:56It's making me feel a little bit more hopeful than I was feeling yesterday.
00:48:00Where are you taking me, babe?
00:48:03This is popular here in Marrakesh.
00:48:06What is this?
00:48:12What is that?
00:48:14What do we call them in English?
00:48:15Snails.
00:48:16Snails.
00:48:17I like don't want that.
00:48:18Really?
00:48:19No.
00:48:20It's like traditional.
00:48:22I'm not trying it.
00:48:23You're not fisted?
00:48:23No.
00:48:24I literally would throw up.
00:48:30So delicious.
00:48:31That is the grossest thing I've ever seen in my whole life.
00:48:34It's a slimy snail.
00:48:37And you just stuck it down.
00:48:39For me, it's delicious.
00:48:44That's like really gross.
00:48:46What's like the weirdest food you've ever tried?
00:48:49Like snails would be weird.
00:48:51For you, for me, no.
00:48:53So for me, sushi, for example.
00:48:55I love sushi.
00:48:56Yeah, it's, we are different.
00:48:59Are we compatible?
00:49:03Mm-hmm.
00:49:08Can you hold my other bag, actually?
00:49:11What else can we do, like, while we're here?
00:49:13Did you like horses?
00:49:15I love horses.
00:49:17I think we have to choose this one.
00:49:19I like the white one.
00:49:23Just one by one.
00:49:25One by one.
00:49:28Oh, my God.
00:49:28This is so romantic.
00:49:30Yep.
00:49:31This is like a romantic love ride.
00:49:40This is three kisses.
00:49:41You kiss me today.
00:49:45I'm happy that we had a better day today.
00:49:48Yeah, me too.
00:49:48So it was a big difference between this day and last day.
00:49:54Yesterday was, like, really hard for me.
00:49:56It, like, brought up old feelings.
00:49:58Because, you know, I've, like, been lied to a lot.
00:50:01Like, in my past, like, with past boyfriends.
00:50:04So when you kind of lied to me, it was, like, a trigger for me.
00:50:09Yeah.
00:50:09So you don't need to talk about your past, your bad experience.
00:50:13Do you not care about my past?
00:50:15No.
00:50:16I know you right now, not in past.
00:50:18So...
00:50:18Yeah, but don't you want to know about my life?
00:50:21Just, like, things I've been through.
00:50:22It's, like, don't you want to know about me?
00:50:24Yeah.
00:50:24I know.
00:50:25I know everything about your life.
00:50:26You don't know everything.
00:50:29No, I know everything.
00:50:30I know your family.
00:50:31I know where you live.
00:50:33I know.
00:50:33I know, but there are things that, like, I...
00:50:35That have happened in my life that you don't know about.
00:50:41Like I thought.
00:50:42We can leave the impasse.
00:50:43Something impasse is, it's possible.
00:50:49I want to be vulnerable.
00:50:50I want to share, you know, details about who I am and my past.
00:50:53And I really want to be able to tell Ziad about my last engagement because I think it's the only
00:51:00way that we could move forward.
00:51:03But for him to shut me down, it does make me wonder if Ziad just doesn't want to talk about
00:51:08the past because maybe he has something that he's hiding or that he doesn't want to tell me.
00:51:17Since I've gotten to Morocco, I've just felt really rejected by him.
00:51:21And so now I'm just feeling a little concerned about everything.
00:51:31I need you to be able to look me in the eye.
00:51:34Why have you lied to us all along?
00:51:37I was so fearful of my parents.
00:51:40They would say bad things to me.
00:51:42They would say bad things to other people.
00:51:43Okay.
00:51:44And it affects me emotionally, mentally, drains me.
00:51:47No, I need that direct answer.
00:51:50As to why you continue to hide it.
00:52:17Hello, Javon.
00:52:28I'm leaving for the Philippines tomorrow to meet with my wife, Anna, for the first time.
00:52:34But me and Anna, we haven't spoken to each other in about a week.
00:52:39My sister talked to Anna Lynn, and she actually unblocked me.
00:52:43But she's still really upset that I'm back in touch with a friend I once had feelings for.
00:52:50There's so much riding on this trip.
00:52:53Anna being as angry, it's just not good.
00:53:05I mean, you know, Anna, don't be so aggressive.
00:53:10I'm not being aggressive.
00:53:13You told me yourself if we're going to be married, we can't be keeping anyone special from the past.
00:53:22But you're doing it.
00:53:27And I'm not saying that you're cheating on me, but it's like a baby step for any temptation.
00:53:34I'm dealing with so much over here by myself.
00:53:38I'm dealing with your problems.
00:53:39I'm dealing with my problems.
00:53:40And sometimes I don't feel like I'm being emotionally supported by you.
00:53:45So, you know, I kind of felt like I was just a little bit desperate just to be understood and
00:53:52just heard.
00:53:56If you feel like sometimes you can't talk to me, you have siblings, you have a dad, you have a
00:54:05mom.
00:54:06If your big circle is still not enough, you're American.
00:54:11Get the therapy.
00:54:13I mean, but like, who can afford therapy right now?
00:54:23She's not taking any accountability that, you know, she played a part in why I reached out to a friend.
00:54:31I need to be able to rely on my wife, but she makes it impossible.
00:54:36Even when I'm, like, at work and you're going through something, I always try to be there for you emotionally.
00:54:42Okay, okay.
00:54:44Okay, listen.
00:54:45I try, but I don't see you trying for me.
00:54:48When do you show up for me in that way?
00:54:51Oh, God.
00:54:55Like, hello, I've been waiting for you for six years.
00:54:59I have devoted, invested so much love.
00:55:09If you don't feel like that's understanding enough, waiting for you for that love,
00:55:15I don't know what is.
00:55:25I know you've made, you know, some sacrifice by waiting for me for this long, and I do apologize,
00:55:33and I do take accountability for what I've done.
00:55:47I can stop, but can we at least work on our communication?
00:55:54Okay.
00:55:56Okay.
00:55:57That's all I want, boo.
00:55:58That's it.
00:56:00With Javon coming out to the Philippines, I do feel like I could let go of some negative feelings about
00:56:09this situation.
00:56:10But even though he agreed that he's not going to talk to that woman anymore, do I believe it?
00:56:20No, not really.
00:56:22So I will definitely talk about this again in person.
00:56:29Do you think we can, like, move past it, like, when we see each other?
00:56:35I don't know.
00:56:36Maybe.
00:56:54Whoa, look at this place.
00:56:56This was a church.
00:56:57Oh.
00:56:581588.
00:56:59Man, that is old.
00:57:00It's old.
00:57:01Here, we got a song.
00:57:03What's this, you guys?
00:57:07Yes.
00:57:11Yeah, it's precision.
00:57:14Oh, my goodness.
00:57:15We call that fiesta.
00:57:17Oh, yes.
00:57:18That's a culture of a Catholic here in my country.
00:57:20Goodness.
00:57:22Yes, my God.
00:57:23Yeah, it's really cool.
00:57:24Look at this.
00:57:26Ah!
00:57:29I decided to take Boris and his family to Chinatown because I'm a Chinese mix.
00:57:34My mom is Chinese descent, so I wanted to show how Chinese culture interbonded with Filipino
00:57:42culture.
00:57:44Smell that?
00:57:45Oh, that smells so good.
00:57:46Wow.
00:57:47So this is a place that they make handmade noodles.
00:57:50Why could I eat that air?
00:57:52Hello.
00:57:53Oh.
00:57:54Yesterday, I was quite a little nervous to meet Boris's parents, especially Molly.
00:58:00Okay, thank you.
00:58:02There's been a problem between me and Molly, but I'm so glad that she happened to accept
00:58:07me.
00:58:08And I wanted to provide them the best first day here in the Philippines.
00:58:14Yum.
00:58:15Oh, thank you.
00:58:17Slurps up.
00:58:18Slurps up and slurps up, huh?
00:58:19Yeah, actually, that's here.
00:58:21The culture here, if you want to slurp, it means you're eating the good noodles, so that's
00:58:25a good sign.
00:58:25So the loud are the best, right?
00:58:26Yeah.
00:58:27Yes.
00:58:27Here I go.
00:58:30Yeah, you are the king of slurps, forest.
00:58:33I made sure to get on my glasses.
00:58:34That's the key.
00:58:35This is all good.
00:58:37Yeah.
00:58:38Well, Sheena, I wanted to thank you for your apology yesterday.
00:58:44I mean, that really showed a lot to me.
00:58:49But I did want to ask you about a few things.
00:58:58Okay?
00:58:58Okay, Mom.
00:58:59I'm listening.
00:59:00And I need you to be able to look me in the eye, and I need you to be truthful
00:59:05with me
00:59:07100%.
00:59:10You lied to us about giving your parents the money.
00:59:16This was supposed to be you saving up money so you could come to America to be a family
00:59:22with us.
00:59:23These were the plans all of these years.
00:59:26And then for it to just find out now, before we come here, that hasn't been happening.
00:59:36Why have you lied to us all along?
00:59:43I really owe you millions and thousands of explanations I need.
00:59:48I hope you can listen to my situation.
00:59:50The reason why that I happen to give my money to my parents is because being a breadwinner,
00:59:58it's a cultural thing in my country that we are obligated to help our parents around.
01:00:04I mean, I completely understand giving your parents money, needing to help your family.
01:00:08That's what family does.
01:00:10But my issue with it is that you lie.
01:00:20To be honest, the reason also, that's the other reason that I was so scared, because
01:00:25my parents, my mom happened to guilt-tripping me from time to time.
01:00:32If I don't give them money, she makes me feel that I'm such a selfish person, and it hurts
01:00:38me a lot.
01:00:40Okay, but if I'm asking you a direct question, I need that direct answer.
01:00:45And even now, you haven't given me a direct answer as to why you continue to hide it.
01:00:55Watching Sheena under my mom's pressure is just awful.
01:01:00I'm wanting to step in and defend her and protect Sheena, but at the same time, I don't
01:01:07understand what fear she had of telling me.
01:01:11I was so fearful of my parents.
01:01:14They would say bad things to me.
01:01:16They would say bad things to other people.
01:01:18And it affects me emotionally, mentally, it drains me every day.
01:01:22No.
01:01:22And it makes me feel so bad.
01:01:24No.
01:01:25No.
01:01:25Sheena, I'm not asking you that.
01:01:27I'm asking you why you did not tell us.
01:01:35I couldn't handle myself anymore.
01:01:38I can't.
01:01:39Sheena, I can't understand what you're saying.
01:01:42I am so worried about it.
01:01:43Oh, my God.
01:01:43I don't want to.
01:01:44See, there's your manipulation.
01:01:45Put the tears.
01:01:47Please put your tissue down.
01:01:49Please.
01:01:50I'm trying to have Sheena acknowledge actions that she did that weren't acceptable.
01:01:58So even if she did have good reason to give it all to her parents, what's the motivation
01:02:03for hiding it?
01:02:04We've got to get answers.
01:02:08Oh, my God.
01:02:12Oh, my God.
01:02:13This is really happening.
01:02:14Oh, my God.
01:02:15Oh, my God.
01:02:16Oh, my God.
01:02:17Oh, my God.
01:02:17Oh, my God.
01:02:18I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:02:19I love Lisa, but I am worried about some things.
01:02:23She was physical with a woman.
01:02:45Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god.
01:02:48Here it is.
01:02:49Awesome.
01:02:50Here we go.
01:02:51Yeah.
01:02:52Here goes everything.
01:03:02Oh my gosh.
01:03:04I'm finally on my way to meet the love of my life, Daniel, in Nigeria for the very first
01:03:08time.
01:03:10What am I doing?
01:03:11I don't know, Mom.
01:03:12What are you doing?
01:03:14Certainly not what I would be doing.
01:03:17It still feels surreal to me that after 21 years of only being with women, I'm traveling
01:03:22across the world to meet a man.
01:03:25And I love him.
01:03:27I love him.
01:03:29You're going to see when I come home how excited and happy I am.
01:03:32You're going to see when I talk to you there how happy I am, and you're going to be happy
01:03:36for me.
01:03:38I just, I don't want it to ruin your heart.
01:03:48I'm going to pee my pants.
01:03:49Oh god, please don't.
01:03:52Here we go.
01:03:57All right.
01:03:58You remember the rules.
01:04:00Don't get married on the trip even when the divorce comes through.
01:04:03Yes.
01:04:04And I would complain about everything.
01:04:05It'll be a foundation.
01:04:07And if you have questions.
01:04:08I will ask them.
01:04:12I love you.
01:04:13I love you too.
01:04:14I know.
01:04:14I'm going to miss you so much.
01:04:17Stay safe.
01:04:18Oh god.
01:04:20This is the biggest risk I've ever taken.
01:04:23Flying across the world to another country, to Nigeria, Africa, to be with a man I have
01:04:29never met before.
01:04:30I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:04:32Oh my god, this is really happening.
01:04:35Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my
01:04:38god.
01:04:39I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:04:41Happy dance.
01:04:42Happy dance.
01:04:44I hope Daniel will accept me for everything that I am, and who I am, and that he will
01:04:50become my sixth and final spouse.
01:04:55Daniel is coming.
01:05:20Ah bababooeyyyyy!
01:05:45Please, give me 500 nara, um, Pepe.
01:05:49My name is Daniel. I am 29 years old.
01:05:53I am a Christian from the Igbo tribe.
01:05:58We have traditions and we believe in traditions.
01:06:01As an Igbo man, we love competition.
01:06:03We work hard and we have to be honest.
01:06:16I grew up very poor.
01:06:17Sometimes we eat once in a day because there's no food.
01:06:22My family do the best they can do.
01:06:25And I am really close to my family.
01:06:27But some years ago, I lost my mom before she died.
01:06:33She told me that during the war, she nearly be killed,
01:06:36that a white woman protected her.
01:06:38And I have to make sure that I get married to a white woman.
01:06:41So I decided I will do it.
01:06:43And that's how I found Lisa.
01:06:45It's like fire burning up.
01:06:49Lisa is 52 years old.
01:06:51She lives in Pennsylvania.
01:06:53She's a beautiful woman.
01:06:55She has, um, she has a good body structure.
01:06:58She's thick.
01:06:59She has bops.
01:07:00She has what I want.
01:07:02Like fire.
01:07:03Feel the heat.
01:07:04She doesn't hide anything.
01:07:05She supports me financially.
01:07:08She makes me feel loved.
01:07:10That's why I fell in love with her.
01:07:13Take it hard like fire!
01:07:18I feel like that's what I do.
01:07:29This is not an issue.
01:07:33I don't even know.
01:07:33Yeah, I don't know what it is.
01:08:04In our tribe, we do so much.
01:08:06We do so many spiritual leaders to consult the ancestors.
01:08:13I love this, but I am worried about some things.
01:08:18One, she vaped.
01:08:20Two, she told me that she had gotten married twice.
01:08:24And three, she was physical with a woman one time.
01:08:29This is the worst.
01:08:38We don't believe that same sex exists in our culture.
01:08:43Anyone caught in the ads will be banished or killed.
01:08:47So we don't do it.
01:08:48We don't accept it here.
01:08:50She gave me her promise that she have stopped it.
01:08:54But I'm nervous.
01:08:54I'm nervous.
01:08:55I'm nervous.
01:09:01I am nervous.
01:09:23Now that the ancestors approved, I want you to move forward on this relationship.
01:09:33I'm planning a big surprise for Lisa when I meet her at the airport.
01:09:39I've been talking to God Almighty to take me away from Nigeria.
01:09:44If I marry Lisa to make me change the story of my family, and if I should make it to
01:09:49America,
01:09:50this will change my life to good.
01:10:05I feel so bad you're dragging my suitcases.
01:10:08Yes.
01:10:09Oh, it feels like it got colder.
01:10:12It gets cold or gets hot.
01:10:15No straight weather.
01:10:19Wow.
01:10:29Here we are.
01:10:31Oh, we're here?
01:10:34Here you go.
01:10:35I will take this.
01:10:37You're welcome.
01:10:37After all of this excitement, anticipation, and buildup of coming to Turkey and meeting
01:10:44Birkan face to face, it's starting off a little bit awkward.
01:10:49But I'm still so happy to be finally standing here with him.
01:10:54It just feels so right.
01:10:57I'm excited to see this.
01:11:01Here you go.
01:11:02Oh, you want me to go first?
01:11:03Yeah, of course.
01:11:04OK.
01:11:06Oh, my God.
01:11:07This is huge.
01:11:08Oh, yeah.
01:11:10This is way bigger than it looked in pictures.
01:11:14This is amazing.
01:11:22This is incredible.
01:11:25You like this?
01:11:26Oh, my God.
01:11:27I love this.
01:11:28I'm going to move here.
01:11:30You can see the sea.
01:11:33Everything?
01:11:34Oh, my God.
01:11:36Wow.
01:11:39This is amazing.
01:11:40I'm so excited to finally be here and to finally be doing this.
01:11:43Is it worth it?
01:11:46Is it worth it?
01:11:47All the trip?
01:11:49Yeah.
01:11:50I know.
01:11:50It's worth it.
01:11:51Yeah, I know.
01:11:53So how about you change and we will see the cost?
01:12:01That sounds awesome.
01:12:02Let's do that.
01:12:03Let's do that.
01:12:04All right.
01:12:04OK.
01:12:09This is the best part of Izmir.
01:12:13This is incredible.
01:12:15I would love to, like, live right there, like, with this view every day.
01:12:20Yeah.
01:12:21I like these old buildings.
01:12:23I do, too.
01:12:23Yeah.
01:12:27Architecture is the art we live in.
01:12:31I love that.
01:12:32Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:33That's, like, really profound.
01:12:34Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:36Birkan has so many, like, random comments for things, and he has a way of taking things that
01:12:42are just very simple and creating this, like, giant philosophical discussion around it.
01:12:48It's really pretty now that the sun's gone down.
01:12:50When the darkness comes, the light shines out.
01:12:57Sometimes it's a little exhausting, because I'm like, oh, my God, it's just the sunset.
01:13:01I guess we gotta go this way.
01:13:03Go back this way?
01:13:03Yeah.
01:13:04I feel like a walking zombie right now.
01:13:07Actually, not you.
01:13:08The people are.
01:13:10Not me.
01:13:10They have no idea where they're going.
01:13:13I don't know where he comes up with all of this.
01:13:17I mean, it can feel a little ridiculous sometimes, but ultimately I like it, and I wouldn't change it.
01:13:24Ugh.
01:13:26How was your day?
01:13:28Yeah, it was good.
01:13:30I enjoyed it.
01:13:31How about you?
01:13:33Yeah.
01:13:33I mean, I'm exhausted.
01:13:34I traveled a time to get here, but it was really fun to see some of the sights, and...
01:13:48I'm exhausted, and I have got to get some sleep.
01:13:50Okay.
01:13:52You wanna go to bed?
01:13:56Actually, it's just nine o'clock, and I have no sleep.
01:14:02Okay.
01:14:03So why don't you go some sleep, and I will watch some TV, and join you after.
01:14:12Good night.
01:14:13Have a nice night.
01:14:14All right.
01:14:14Good night.
01:14:15Good night.
01:14:37Who's texting you?
01:14:40Michael just has been blowing up my phone since I got here.
01:14:44He tracked my flight, texted me, like, as soon as I landed, to say, I saw you landed.
01:14:50And then he just kind of checked up on me.
01:14:53I said, everything's good.
01:14:56And then he was like, your tone is less than excited, my dear.
01:15:01So I think it's interesting that he can pick up on that.
01:15:08But I just have a lot of things to process right now.
01:15:14Him just staying out there watching TV.
01:15:17It's just, I don't know, different maybe than what I was expecting.
01:15:21I feel like it's not this, like, super great magical moment.
01:15:26It just feels off.
01:15:27I don't know how to explain it.
01:15:29It just feels off.
01:15:31It is so ironic and kind of concerning that I'm getting more attention from Michael
01:15:38than I am from the man that I flew halfway around the world to meet.
01:15:44And so I feel like there's something really wrong.
01:15:47And I don't know.
01:15:48Maybe he's hiding something.
01:15:51Or maybe he's just not attracted to me in person.
01:15:55But either way, I'm just kind of questioning why I'm even here at this point.
01:16:06I hate bear cones.
01:16:13Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:16:16I can't handle it anymore.
01:16:18It doesn't make any sense to me.
01:16:20Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:16:22I want to end this now.
01:16:24You're acting all hostile.
01:16:25I'm not.
01:16:25Yeah, you are.
01:16:27Forrest.
01:16:36My family.
01:16:37I've been the one who had been influenced since I was a kid.
01:16:42But they should be helping me around.
01:16:44They kept always promising to me that they would do anything.
01:16:47We can't understand you.
01:16:50You have to speak.
01:16:51You have to be strong and you got to speak.
01:16:54Clearly.
01:16:57I need you to really, please, point blank.
01:17:02You were giving your parents money.
01:17:04Why did you feel it was so necessary to not tell us?
01:17:17Because I feel so scared that if I happen not
01:17:23to give them money, they would say bad things.
01:17:34Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:17:38Honestly, when you try to look at it
01:17:40without the tears and without...
01:17:45It doesn't make any sense to me at all.
01:17:48The pieces aren't just lining up.
01:17:50I'm sorry, but they're not lining up.
01:17:59It's very concerning because how do I even know
01:18:03that your feelings and plans are actually genuine?
01:18:08Oh, you were scared.
01:18:10Forrest would have come to me and said,
01:18:13Mom, I got to get on a freaking plane right now.
01:18:16I got to go over there and save her.
01:18:18But it sounds to me you obviously weren't that scared
01:18:21that you couldn't tell him and that you could put up
01:18:23with it all that years and hide it.
01:18:27Horace, does it make sense to you?
01:18:35A lot of it, yeah.
01:18:38I understand that if you love your parents and you want to have love from them,
01:18:43you would try to do anything to make them love you.
01:18:47Forrest?
01:18:48It's hard to say no to a parent, especially when...
01:18:51But that still didn't answer the question as...
01:18:54It's hard for me to say no to you.
01:18:55It's hard for me to stick up for her against you.
01:19:02I believe Sheena is not trying to lie or use things as excuses.
01:19:07I think Sheena honestly doesn't know what to say.
01:19:10And she gets so overwhelmed, all she can get is...
01:19:15You know, diarrhea of the mouth.
01:19:20I wouldn't be being a good boyfriend to Sheena
01:19:24if I just sat there and watched her flounder.
01:19:29Obviously, she knows she did wrong.
01:19:31What's your goal here?
01:19:33Just to sit here and keep beating her down?
01:19:36I think what we have to do is we need to get Sheena away from her parents.
01:19:44Because ultimately, the root of this nasty tree is the parents.
01:19:52Sheena, we need to hear from you that you're ready to move forward
01:19:56and confront your parents about what we're going to do from now on.
01:20:02I'm willing to take the risk to confront my parents.
01:20:06It is the only way to end this kind of problem.
01:20:09Which is what she should have done to set up with you.
01:20:12Yeah.
01:20:13Years and years ago.
01:20:14Yeah, and we can sit there and we can talk about the past.
01:20:16And he said, she said he could do that.
01:20:18She cannot do that.
01:20:19It's time to move forward now.
01:20:21Forrest?
01:20:22I want to end this now.
01:20:27I don't even want to talk about the parents anymore.
01:20:29I don't want to talk about anything.
01:20:31You're acting all hostile.
01:20:33I'm not hostile.
01:20:33Yeah, you are.
01:20:35And you're causing Sheena a lot of stress.
01:20:38You're causing me a lot of stress.
01:20:40We tried to have a nice dinner and our nice dinner turned into...
01:20:44Disaster.
01:20:47It's OK, baby.
01:20:52I now see that Forrest is too deep.
01:20:55He's just got the blinders on, only wanting to believe her.
01:21:01Now he sees us as the big, bad nasties that attacked his poor Sheena.
01:21:07But still, I have to always protect Forrest because I know that he really loves her.
01:21:13And I will not stop trying to find out why she lied.
01:21:24Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:21:27I'm about to meet my wife for the first time.
01:21:29This is so surreal.
01:21:31Come on.
01:21:32Where are you?
01:21:33This is like ordering something online.
01:21:37And we're just excited to unpack the package.
01:21:43Oh my...
01:21:44Are you nervous?
01:21:45A little bit, yeah, actually.
01:21:47Before I came to Turkey, I did make an appointment with a plastic surgeon.
01:21:52I have some, like, loose skin in places that I am looking to have removed.
01:21:57This part is best as possible.
01:22:00But I'm immediately regretting having Fearcom come with me.
01:22:04I will just show you some pictures.
01:22:11I've been looking at your page.
01:22:13Every day, you follow new girls.
01:22:16Just girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls.
01:22:19I downloaded this extension on my laptop.
01:22:22And it shows you who people follow.
01:22:26This morning, I saw that he was still following thousands of women.
01:22:29So since we've been dating, have you talked romantically to any other girls?
01:22:35She and I had a discussion about going by ourselves to meet your parents
01:22:38and how it's important that I meet them before Mom and Dad meet them.
01:22:43I can't even imagine what her parents would try and do if Forrest went over there by himself.
01:22:47I need to be there with Forrest.
01:22:51Sheena, your parents are going to do the same line that they've used on you all along.
01:22:57Well, my family isn't a bad people.
01:22:59Now the story changes again.
01:23:02I still don't know if this isn't something that you're involved in either.
01:23:08What the heck?
01:23:14I love him with everything I am.
01:23:17But he doesn't know that I've been married five times, and I'm still married to a woman.
01:23:25What are you doing?
01:23:26What are you doing?
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