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00:00Previously on Suddenly Amish.
00:02I want to show you stuff that I have hidden away.
00:05Alcohol, the devil's juice.
00:07I am shunned.
00:09By helping me, I'm offering James a chance at redemption.
00:12You're going to have to take your phone now.
00:15Welcome to the Amish.
00:17If I'm not strict enough, I might be the one paying the price.
00:21I am escorting you off the property.
00:22He's chasing me with a axe.
00:25Go!
00:26My name is Judah.
00:27Yes.
00:28And I am bi.
00:29I'm scared.
00:30I don't think that the Amish accepts anybody in the LGBT community.
00:34I'm going to just keep my little secrets to myself.
00:36We're flirting under Amish terms.
00:39There's a connection there.
00:40I just like talking to him.
00:42I'm leaving.
00:44With Matt leaving, it sucks for Kendra
00:47because I thought there was a little something brewing with the two of them.
00:51It's like hard.
00:52I definitely have a soft spot for Kendra.
00:55If I want to be Amish, I have to face James again.
01:01Are you kidding me right now?
01:03Oh, Jesus.
01:04Matt, why are you back?
01:07I'll be back.
01:08I'll be back.
01:09I'll be back.
01:10But see you next time.
01:11See you next time.
01:12Bye.
01:13Bye.
01:14After this, I'll see you.
01:16And before that,
01:17let us know we're all trapped in a solid town.
01:18Anyway, we go to Fitzsirct pleases as that.
01:20Can I help you?
01:21We've been talking about getting ready?
01:23No?
01:24Okay.
01:25Alright.
01:26We have to resist.
01:27Death is generous.
01:28Our work is 0.
01:30The music is so good for me.
01:36I would like to play some feelings for the band.
01:43I would like to play Kendra.
01:48I would like to play Kendra.
01:52I would like to play Kendra.
01:56I think James is maybe a little interested in Kendra,
02:06and if Kendra would conform and stay,
02:09that she could possibly be a future partner for him.
02:18Talks on it.
02:20Alan's saying part of my reason for chasing Matt off
02:26is because I wanted Kendra to myself.
02:29I don't know. Did I?
02:33I have to be honest with you.
02:34You and Kendra would not be a good match.
02:36Okay.
02:37You would get into a cat-dog fight,
02:38and you'd be over with, like, within two days.
02:40Less than two days.
02:43Cats and dogs get along still.
02:45They don't.
02:50Men sort of decide, you know.
02:52Me better even be on chance, Kebba.
02:54They love us so...
02:56...sort of us resting for doing so situation.
02:58How cool.
02:59Sort of a letting on a chance, Keb.
03:01If I willing for so, do you?
03:09Mm-hmm.
03:11I guess.
03:12I'm not sure what Matt's intentions are for coming back.
03:15Maybe it is to come see Kendra.
03:18But if that is his primary motivator,
03:21then it won't last long-term.
03:23Well, Matt, we came to a conclusion.
03:26You can stay.
03:27Awesome.
03:28And then we'll take it from there.
03:29Okay.
03:30Welcome back.
03:31It was three against one.
03:35I think there's some darkness in Matt.
03:39I have to do my due diligence
03:40and keep a close eye on him.
03:43Keep the community clean.
03:45When did y'all leave the other house?
03:48We discovered some bats, so...
03:50Perfect.
03:51We'll be staying here for a while.
03:53Wish I knew you were coming.
03:54I would have cleaned my room.
03:56I'm willing to give Matt the patience that he needs
03:59to see if this is really what he wants.
04:01Go ahead, Matt.
04:03In the Amish culture, forgiveness is very important,
04:06and forgiveness comes with patience.
04:10If you're ready, we'll pick you up to your room.
04:12Yes, I would love to see.
04:13I would highly encourage James
04:15to maybe practice a little more patience.
04:20Well, Matt can sleep out on the corn.
04:24As much as I like Matt,
04:25I don't want Matt to be back here.
04:27I feel like we all worked so hard to get to this point,
04:29and I don't want him to mess this up for any of us.
04:34So I'm not sure how we're going to work this out.
04:36We'll figure it out.
04:38We got some space over here for him.
04:39Perfect.
04:40I have a mixture of feelings.
04:43I want us all to make it, but...
04:46is he committed?
04:49What about these beds?
04:51Three in a row.
04:52Would that work?
04:54Yeah, I mean, I'm fine with that.
04:56Sure.
04:57Okay.
04:58Having to live under James' roof with James,
05:03I don't know what's going to happen.
05:05I don't know if these doors lock.
05:07Are you here to stay, Matt?
05:09I don't know.
05:28In the Amish world, church is everything.
05:40It's not just about your faith.
05:43It's also about community.
05:46It's the all-consuming thing in the Amish lifestyle.
05:49For the six people that were invited to come in,
05:54to understand and experience the church experience
05:58is extremely important.
06:00It's more important than putting away their technology.
06:03It's more important than changing clothes.
06:06It's about doing life with others.
06:10I've never been to Amish church before.
06:12I don't know what to expect.
06:13I don't know what it's going to be like.
06:15I'm used to the loud African-American experience.
06:19Going to the Amish church is one of the things that I really wanted to do.
06:22So I'm psyched that we get to go because nobody gets to go from the outside.
06:28Matt is not yet compliant.
06:30So we're going to give him his Amish clothes for the day out of respect for the church.
06:35But after the church service, he's going to have to give him back until he's compliant and he's ready.
06:42Matt wearing the Amish clothing is a little bit like a wolf in sheep's clothing.
06:47We need to watch him hard so he doesn't eat the rest of our sheep.
06:52Following James.
06:59See that barn?
07:00Oh yeah.
07:02Amish churches are generally in a barn.
07:05In the Amish church service, you will show up the fellowship prior to starting church.
07:12And then there's a three to three and a half an hour service.
07:15And then there's the fellowship meal.
07:18It's a full day.
07:19Walking up, I already felt like an eerie vibe.
07:23There was no one in sight.
07:24And then there were like three girls, a little bit younger, walking up and they're instantly like...
07:29So I was like, okay, this is how it's going to be.
07:32Everybody's staring at us.
07:33Hello?
07:34Yeah, we definitely look like outsiders.
07:37Then this guy walks up to us and he's like, okay, girls over here, guys over here.
07:41And we're like, oh, we're separated.
07:43The men normally stand separate from the ladies.
07:46The church knew we were planning to bring these English to church.
07:50So they were kind of expecting us.
07:52I don't think they are too upset.
07:54I don't know if they're too excited either.
07:57They definitely have their guards up.
07:59Where are you from?
08:00Right now I'm living in Lancaster, but I'm from Atlanta.
08:03Very good.
08:04I feel like a pepper in a salt bucket.
08:07Like there was no other African-American folk up in there.
08:10So I was like, hold on.
08:12Their songs were very like elongated.
08:30Their vowels were like, we were on the same page for like 20 minutes.
08:37I just pretended to look at the book because I didn't know what else to do.
08:40Amish sermons for the most part are in Pennsylvania Dutch or German.
08:52I have no idea what they're singing.
08:54I have no idea what they're saying.
08:55I don't know what the sermon's about.
08:57I wish I could speak Dutch.
08:59But BJ looked at me. I looked at her. She see me, see her, see me.
09:12And we was like, gave each other the eye. So we stepped out.
09:15So after the service, we all headed back home.
09:19I am really happy we came because that was really interesting to see.
09:23Yeah, that's how I feel too.
09:24And like the singing was beautiful.
09:26Where is Erin?
09:27They're still there.
09:28They're still there. They're eating.
09:30Yeah, because they have like a little lunch, I guess, like after church every time.
09:34As soon as we got to the farm, we realized that James and Erin were still at church.
09:39So maybe they're having lunch. I'm not sure, but I'm sure they're having a good time.
09:45Church is a very sacred place that not a lot of people get to go to.
09:49So I want to eat it up. And I know the other people were tired and they're ready to get home.
09:53But stayed a little longer, had some conversation.
09:56They invited us to stay even longer after the food.
10:00Why did you guys run off and leave us?
10:02Even though I might not be able to understand the Dutch and I can't hear everything being said,
10:08I could still read the body language of everybody.
10:11And to me, it was such an awakening. It was transcending.
10:16What did you think of church?
10:18I felt like church was cool. It was really interesting.
10:21I feel like I wish I could have understood it more.
10:22But we were there for three hours with no backs on our chairs.
10:25So I needed a break. I needed a second to relax and recuperate.
10:29Wait, you stepped out for a few minutes.
10:31Yeah.
10:32But also, BJ stepped out as well. So why would you think that?
10:34Yeah, I did too.
10:36I personally felt like it was very important for them to go to church.
10:41I wanted them to understand the whole community is built around religion.
10:47And I don't think that they got it.
10:50Aaron, he sat there through the whole thing.
10:52But everybody else, they just could not sit still.
10:55Like, I just wish they could have just sat there and just been respectful.
11:00And just, you know, it's not that hard.
11:12Let's have a silent prayer.
11:13The silent prayers during mealtimes, it's a time that we reflect on being thankful for the food we have, the family we have, you know, everything.
11:26But most importantly, we need to thank God for his blessing upon it.
11:33I still don't know when these end. I'm sorry.
11:35I'm so sorry.
11:39Hallelujah.
11:40Amen.
11:41When there's a silent prayer, normally the person that says, okay, let's pray in silence, James should have said, let's ask the blessing.
11:48And then he should have done a short blessing on this meal in his hand.
11:51It's like a Bluetooth. Like, we all, like, sync up to James.
11:54And then he should have said amen out loud so that we know.
11:59The food looks great and I was ready to dig in.
12:03And just so you know, there's music playing, right?
12:07Yes, there is.
12:08Okay.
12:11Sounds like a Rumspringer party.
12:14Where are they?
12:23Rumspring has a time for youth to decide if they want to stay Amish or...
12:28join the world.
12:29Sydney, pleasure to meet you.
12:30Yeah, it's nice to meet you.
12:31Yeah, it's nice to meet you.
12:32Rebecca.
12:33Rebecca, pleasure to meet you.
12:34There's some that dress English, drive a vehicle.
12:37And of course, many of them drink.
12:41I was born and raised in a very conservative church.
12:45So conservative that we didn't have Rumspringer.
12:47So, I kind of missed out on Rumspringer years.
12:51Hi.
12:52I'm control.
12:54There's a possibility I might still be with the church
12:57if I had Rumspringer.
13:00I would have pursued those curiosities earlier rather than later probably.
13:09We wanted to go hang out at the Rumspringer party.
13:12James was letting loose.
13:13I ended up joining into the party.
13:21I'm human too.
13:26I like to have a little fun.
13:27We decided it might be a good idea to give these English a little bit of a break.
13:44We've been tough on them.
13:45We've been strict.
13:46So, we'll give them a little taste of what Rumspringer is like.
13:51Maybe they'll actually want to be Amish even more.
13:55Action.
13:56Tonight we're all on Rumspringer.
14:00Just wanted to like get a little cozy with Matt.
14:05He did not leave my side and I was like, okay.
14:08So, I'm still trying to play it cool, but it's cute.
14:11We're like hanging out.
14:13We are breaking the rules with the alcohol.
14:19It's a slow process.
14:20You can't expect me to be Amish overnight.
14:23Jesus drank wine.
14:25Why are we depriving ourselves of the beautiful grapes that Jesus gave?
14:29Like, let me have a glass of wine.
14:34Maybe if we party together and have a little fun,
14:36maybe we'll connect in a little deeper level.
14:42Maybe on a shallower level.
14:43I don't know.
14:49James just keeps staring at Kendra.
14:53You be Amish except for the moves.
14:56Do you see what I see?
14:58I see you.
14:59I know, that's what I'm saying.
15:00Like, you can put whatever clothes on me.
15:01I'm still gonna be here.
15:02Still Kendra.
15:03Do the Amish twerk.
15:06Yeah, they do.
15:07What is the Amish twerk?
15:09Kendra twerking, looking at Matt.
15:11James energized by...
15:13Sorry, dude.
15:14Yeah, by Kendra's twerk.
15:16And then Emma's gaze at James watching Kendra twerk.
15:21She was not happy about him giving those stares.
15:25Why do you think that is?
15:27She legit.
15:28She legit.
15:29She knocked that hat right off.
15:30It said so quick.
15:34Oh, here come the lantern.
15:35Perfect.
15:36Fire.
15:37Fire dancing.
15:38There you go.
15:39Yeah, yeah.
15:40I was gonna do some fire dancing.
15:42Yes!
15:44Get it!
15:45Okay!
15:48We got wine.
15:49Why not drink it?
15:50Is it a Cabernet?
15:51Oh, what do you know about Cabernet?
15:52James is wild.
15:55And I'm like, homeboy who chased Matt off with an axe is now like the crazy party animal.
16:00Like, I feel like he needed that release.
16:05Yield not to temptation.
16:06Who's thirsty?
16:07Oh, God.
16:08A little wine for the stomach's sake.
16:11Oh!
16:12Oh, my God!
16:13Keep going.
16:14There's lanterns everywhere.
16:15Cousins being cousins.
16:17I saw a lot of strange things with Emma and James.
16:22It's like friendly flirting maybe, but awkward for everyone else.
16:28You ready to go bed?
16:29Bedtime for leading me out.
16:31I feel like it's hypocritical how James is so harsh on us.
16:36But then like, he's wrestling Emma.
16:38Tell me about your wrestling match.
16:41Wrestling match?
16:42I didn't see one.
16:43Did you?
16:44No, I didn't see anything.
16:46He's supposedly the super strict Amish man, but like, I see what he's doing.
16:52I got eyeballs too.
16:53There's a lot of hypocrisy going on with a lot of things.
17:04James is getting drunk.
17:05I mean, that's in the Bible.
17:07You're not supposed to drink to excess.
17:10As well as doing all of this extra stuff with Emma.
17:15And I don't know if they think they get a free pass because they're cousins and it's...
17:19James didn't want me to fight him because he knew I would lay him over real quick.
17:31Actually, you did pull my leg out from under me one time.
17:40There might be some things going on I ain't gonna speak about.
17:43Fair. That's fair.
17:44I don't know.
17:49But I need more tin foil.
17:54I think my confidence has definitely grown here from day one where I was like, you know, had my lashes, my hair, like my style.
18:14Having all that taken away, I definitely struggled with because I think it was like something I kind of was hiding, I guess, behind.
18:21And now that I don't have any of that, it's just, I feel like I've grown for myself and been able to be like a lot more confident.
18:28I have this for the eggs.
18:30I'll put them on here.
18:31Both of your knees are messed up?
18:32Yes, that's what I was saying.
18:33You fell on both of them?
18:34Yeah, my skin was coming off of my knee.
18:36Oh.
18:37Oh.
18:38Hi, Alan.
18:39Hi, man.
18:40Hi, Alan.
18:41Hi.
18:42Hi.
18:43Hi.
18:44Can I borrow you a second?
18:45Yeah.
18:46Oh.
18:47What up, what up?
18:48Fellas?
18:49Hey.
18:50How you doing?
18:51Good.
18:52Alan wants to talk to us about something.
18:53Seeing that you all spent some time in the community and made quite a few changes, I feel like a father figure to you all. I guess I just wanted to talk about relationships.
19:05Now is the time to talk about the birds and the bees of life.
19:22We highly encourage a hands-off relationship.
19:26Sorry.
19:27Be serious.
19:28I did notice, Matt, you know, with you and Kendra, I really hope it works out for you if that's what you guys want.
19:39Thanks, Alan.
19:40I would highly encourage you to take things slow and easy.
19:44Definitely.
19:45Yeah.
19:46I agree.
19:51It is a bit hypocritical.
19:53James is doing all of this extra stuff with Emma, and if I brush against Kendra's knee, I get an hour-long lecture about it.
20:06In our culture, we believe that the women are to be respected. They are there for a helpmeet. They're not just a sex figure.
20:17I felt like I was back in my homeschool days where my mom went and rented the puberty video from the library. Awkward.
20:27I had a question with relationships and premarital sex and pregnancy. What do Amish do if that happens? Is that an absolute shun?
20:37Yes, there will be consequences.
20:40That's why you gotta do, like, the pull-out method. You gotta make sure you get in and get out.
20:46Bang-bang.
20:47Yeah, and then you shoot the gun, and then you, like, make sure the bullets is re-upped.
20:53So when the bullet is already shot, it's too late to pull out.
20:56Yeah, so let's change the analogy now. You park the car, and then before you get out the car, you bag out.
21:03And you don't even...
21:04Put it in reverse.
21:05Put it in reverse, and you don't even get out the car.
21:07I think that's a good analogy. I understand that.
21:12We also believe that if God wants us to have a family, he will provide it.
21:18And when the children are growing up, it is our responsibility to teach them what's right and what's wrong.
21:26This is my chance to have a conversation with Alan about my sexuality and see if I'm even accepted in this space.
21:33So let me ask this. Say somebody, there's two members of church, maybe men or women, and they are in a same-sex relationship.
21:47That's the Amish. Is that an automatic shunt as well?
21:54I was kind of shocked by this question.
21:57I don't understand why Judah was asking me this.
22:03Yes. That is not acceptable.
22:06It's clear to me that I can't tell Alan that I'm bisexual.
22:13I'm really at a crossroads right now because if I do decide to date an Amish man, I'm going to be shunned.
22:18But at the same time, I could fall in love with an Amish woman.
22:21So I don't really know how this is going to play out.
22:24I'm just giving it to God at this point.
22:27Hello, Mr. Bishop, sir.
22:54How are you, Judah?
22:55Good. How are you?
22:56I'm going to meet with each of these six people on an individual basis.
23:00Hi, Aaron.
23:01Just following up with the English people and help them sort through, find what they're looking for.
23:08That's my job.
23:11The bishop is a very important part in the community.
23:13A lot of people will respect the bishop more than just about anybody else.
23:18He's almost like the king.
23:20People go to him for advice.
23:22A lot of people are kind of scared of him.
23:26Have a seat.
23:27In the next couple of weeks, we will have a day of reckoning to see how well they have integrated into the community.
23:35At that time, the church will decide whether they can continue pursuing membership in the Amish church.
23:43Wow.
23:44You look different.
23:45Your appearance has changed a lot.
23:46Yeah, definitely.
23:47You definitely would almost pass for an Amish person.
23:50Almost.
23:51So tell me about your experience so far.
23:54I see you haven't changed the clothes.
23:56I have not gotten Amish clothes yet.
23:59I just got back a couple of days ago.
24:02I was like excited to talk to him, but also very nervous just because of how our conversation went last time.
24:07You look beautiful today.
24:09Do you feel beautiful?
24:11I actually do.
24:13Like this color and then the covering, I think the covering is the cutest thing.
24:18One thing that I've been really learning is that putting on all this is a lot of discipline.
24:21And it's a lot of what I don't want to do.
24:24It's been good.
24:26It's been bad.
24:27It's been a ride.
24:28One of the biggest cons about Amish living would be like how strict the rules are.
24:33Honestly, if I'll be real with you, Bishop, this thing like really feels like a cult.
24:38And I feel like James just comes from a really strict church that they have to have specific shoe soles, specific clothes.
24:43Yeah.
24:44And it kind of scares certain people away if you're not strong minded.
24:48Yeah.
24:49So what has been the greatest challenge for you?
24:51I struggle with the heat.
24:54Oh, okay.
24:55No AC.
24:57It's huge for me, Bishop.
24:59I was just so scared of what he was going to say to me.
25:02I didn't know what to expect.
25:04We talked about your hearing needs.
25:06Mm-hmm.
25:07Did you find the community helpful?
25:10Um, it's different, but I did get some new hearing aids.
25:15It's, you know, my brain's doing a lot of this.
25:17Got it.
25:19I get the fact that it feels like a cult to you.
25:24But the reality is the Amish people find themselves in an era that they didn't choose.
25:30I'm actually impressed with your level of openness and your humility.
25:35Stepping into a new culture is not an easy thing.
25:38For outsiders coming in, my greatest piece of advice is always lay down your own agendas and just focus on becoming one with everybody else.
25:49And if you come in any other way, that's a recipe for disaster.
25:55I had an altercation with James.
25:58James was pretty upset about me being divorced.
26:01And he chased me off the property with an axe.
26:04So...
26:06I would say that was an over-excessive reaction.
26:10Yeah.
26:11It's really hard to take a energetic young man like James and where he came from, the strict order that he came from.
26:20And he's making choices today because of that strict order.
26:25Why'd you come back?
26:27I felt like there was some unfinished...
26:30Business.
26:31Yeah, very unfinished journey.
26:33How do you feel about the rules in the Amish community?
26:38More Amish people that I meet, they're very cool, calm, reserved, and that's just not me.
26:43But as far as the cooking, the cleaning, dressing more modestly, not using my phone, that I'm totally cool with.
26:51So with Kendra, she has bought into how serious modesty is to the Amish culture.
27:00Even through all, it may seem negative, but I do appreciate the positive aspects of it.
27:06With Judah, I think the biggest hurdle for him to overcome would be his individuality.
27:13He values that highly.
27:15He sees that as a great asset, and the Amish would see that as a detriment.
27:20So it's important for Aaron to understand, not being able to have the specific hearing aids that he has is not a punishment.
27:28It's a freeing up of the technology that he's clinging to.
27:32I appreciate you. So good to see you.
27:33Bless you.
27:35So if Billy Joe wants to join, I don't think anybody has a problem with that.
27:40Esmeralda and Matt seem to be the outliers.
27:43It would take a lot of discipleship to integrate them into our lifestyle,
27:48but God brought them all together for a reason.
27:56Hi. Welcome.
27:58The bishop put me on this mission to help these English join the church.
28:03I have to be straight. I am not sure how it's going to go.
28:07Just following up with you, caring for the English, just wanted to hear your perspective.
28:13How you felt they were doing, how they were integrating.
28:16I think it's a battle for all of them.
28:18Okay.
28:19I'd say, you know, it's a culture shock, obviously.
28:24Okay.
28:25We've been trying to, you know, give them some grace and let them take it at a slower pace than some would.
28:31Okay.
28:32They don't realize how hard it is and what all is involved.
28:34Okay.
28:35What you're saying is we're coming from two different worlds and they're trying to integrate into our world and they're figuring out that it's really hard.
28:45It's interesting watching them battle with a culture shock, definitely.
28:49Do you feel like you've gotten to know these people well enough that you could be an advocate for them?
28:55We should do better with that.
28:57I agree.
29:00Appreciate those thoughts.
29:04So you're cousins?
29:07Third cousins.
29:08Do we look alike?
29:09Actually kind of, yeah.
29:10A little bit?
29:11Yeah.
29:12Except Jean has blue eyes, green eyes, gray eyes.
29:20No, they're orange.
29:21Orange-ish.
29:24Okay.
29:25It's just reflecting you.
29:26Oh, it is?
29:27James and I have been very close over the years.
29:30He's helped me a lot.
29:31He's been very impactful in my life.
29:34I would say we've been best friends.
29:37Would you date me, James?
29:39I don't know.
29:41I don't know.
29:42You're great.
29:43You're really good.
29:44I don't see why we'd be bad for each other anyway.
29:49We do enjoy each other's company.
29:52You have to understand, we're also very young.
30:05I'm 23 years old.
30:07I respect James a lot.
30:10He kind of taught me a lot of what I know.
30:17I know.
30:18We never hooked up.
30:27We never hooked up.
30:28We never hooked up.
30:34I never thought I really hooked up.
30:44We never hooked up.
30:46I believe I'm gonna thick out that three of y clamps
30:49There's moreане on the way I can also hook up this thing.
30:51Two of y conseguiros.
30:53But you don't know what you made, that's pretty bad.
30:55I think she's really not.
31:01There's plenty of things the English will have to do
31:30to fit into our community.
31:32There's plenty of work.
31:34We believe that hard work can help build your character,
31:38so there's one person that needs a little bit more of that.
31:49Oh, my God.
31:51I think James gave me this almost impossible task
31:54of mowing the lawn with a rusty, broken lawnmower on purpose
31:58because he doesn't like me very much.
32:04James.
32:08I think James could be targeting me specifically
32:11because he likes Kendra.
32:16So he may be trying to get me out of the way.
32:23Is it getting stuck?
32:24I'm more so un-sticking the mower than I am mowing the lawn.
32:33And the handle's breaking.
32:34It's a little uneven.
32:36Do you want to just say it's broken
32:38and we can go to, like, the creek or something?
32:40Yeah.
32:41Okay.
32:42They won't know.
32:43They won't know.
32:44Oops.
32:45Leave it.
32:46Okay.
32:47We're going to go this way.
32:48Whoopsie.
32:49They'll be like, what happened?
32:50Getting to know Kendra and exploring things with Kendra
32:53is slightly more exciting because it's forbidden,
32:56because we're not supposed to.
32:58This is so cute, actually.
33:14Alan talked to me about touching.
33:26Alan talked to you about touching?
33:27Mm-hmm.
33:28Because he saw my hand on your knee.
33:31He was saying that, like, little touching, like,
33:34a hand on the knee or something like that,
33:36just, like, leads to more things that they're not okay with,
33:42so they just, like, don't do any touching at all.
33:46That's crazy to me.
33:47That's part of, like, the getting to know you, like, process.
33:50Yeah.
33:51Because if you're not compatible, like, sexually,
33:55or even, like, physical connection like that,
33:57like, what happens if you get married and then you're like, mm-mm.
34:01Don't like this.
34:02Yeah.
34:03I don't know.
34:04I feel like it's hard to get to know people in, like, a group setting.
34:07Yeah.
34:08Well, I mean, even us at the house, like, I'm trying to get to know you,
34:11and then it's hard because, like, people come in,
34:13and it's just, like, so hard to, like, actually get to know you.
34:17Yeah.
34:18It's not what I'm used to.
34:20Yeah.
34:21Like, that's for sure.
34:22Yeah.
34:23I think things between me and Kendra have gotten to a really tense place physically
34:31because, I mean, I would like to touch her and explore other than just sitting and chit-chatting.
34:36Because what's the difference between that and, like, friends?
34:39Like, you know, like, when you're romantically interested in somebody,
34:42you want to, like, make some physical contact, and we're not allowed to.
34:47If we were in the modern world, I would have kissed Kendra right now.
34:57It has to be an arm's length away.
35:00What the ?
35:02Emma caught me off guard.
35:05I'm so pissed right now.
35:08What the is wrong with this girl?
35:10It has to be about an arm's length.
35:13I'm like, I'm making you a stick, so you know.
35:22The Amish, how they date, it's very monitored.
35:27They do believe in hands-off courtship, so no holding hands, no touching nothing.
35:33I've never seen any Amish kissing in public.
35:38I think you could be shorter.
35:39Yeah, what if you just, like...
35:41We're not going to sit with a stick between us, that's crazy.
35:45Me and Kendra are in our 30s, and Emma's in her 20s,
35:48so that makes it even more like, get out of my face right now.
35:58At first, I was like, oh, I'm going to become Amish.
36:00But in that moment, I was like, I don't care about any of that.
36:02I just wanted to be real.
36:04Emma, we're coming swimming.
36:07Do you want us to bring this stick?
36:10Emma, do you approve of this?
36:25Matt and Kendra's date was not a normal Amish date.
36:40Like, there's a respectful way of doing it, and there's a disrespectful way.
36:44Normally, it wouldn't be any physical touch or anything like that, but the whole thing was very different from what I was used to.
36:53So, I just kind of gave up doing anything about it.
36:57Well, I thought maybe they didn't want to be Amish.
37:00Alan, Judah.
37:12Hello.
37:13What are you wet for?
37:14We went swimming.
37:15We went swimming.
37:16Swimming?
37:17Yeah.
37:18You've got to look as guilty as ever.
37:21We went to like a creek or a...
37:23It was a creek.
37:24Yeah.
37:25We went to a creek.
37:26And my water's actually good.
37:45Was he a gentleman?
37:50Yeah!
37:51Oh, oh, oh.
37:53I have a problem with you.
37:55You're an English guy trying to drag off her Amish ladies.
38:04We can't have that.
38:06Matt's leading Kendra astray.
38:09And Kendra struggles with temptation.
38:12I have to put a stop to this.
38:14You can't think about dating an Amish lady in the Amish church if you were formerly married.
38:19Okay.
38:20What are you doing here?
38:21Is Kendra formerly in the Amish church?
38:23No, but she is joining the fold, and you're trying to drag her back out.
38:27Well, we'll talk about that if she's formerly in the Amish church.
38:31Okay.
38:36James is getting in my face after this date.
38:40I don't know what's going on with James and Kendra, but this needs to stop.
38:47I'm kind of getting to the point where I'm like, I'm about to break all your rules.
38:52We're going to have to work on your attitude yet.
38:54What are you doing?
39:15Why are you wearing your English clothes?
39:18What's going on?
39:23Matt and James kind of got into it.
39:26So he's going to stay at a hotel tonight.
39:30I'm going with him.
39:32You wanting to go and stay at a hotel room is nowhere near living the Amish life.
39:40What makes you feel entitled that you don't have to follow the rules?
39:46What are you thinking?
39:48What are you doing?
39:49You are going to put yourself in an Amish community, and it's a community that you want to be a part of.
39:55If you want to be a part of this community, do it.
39:58Do you realize that Kendra is in, like, non-Amish clothes?
40:17What is it?
40:18A motel.
40:20I just did it.
40:21I just did it.
40:22I just can't believe they're doing it.
40:28You are living among the Amish.
40:32Why would you want to disrespect them?
40:35Follow the rules, just like the rest of us.
40:38BJ says Kendra and Matt went off to a motel.
40:41I'm worried about Kendra.
40:51Matt's trying to pull her away.
40:53I don't want him to pluck her out of the fold.
40:57This is not how the Amish do.
40:59We don't go to a motel before we're married.
41:04There's only one motel close by.
41:06I need to go find them.
41:21Next time on Suddenly Amish.
41:24You don't have a right to go knock on their door and antagonize them.
41:29It's morally wrong to live in fornication.
41:31What makes you feel that you both are entitled to just go have some alone time in a hotel room?
41:37You don't feel like you owe all of us an apology for how you both acted?
41:40Trifling ass, bitch.
41:42I feel like I lost two kids.
41:44Right now the mission looks kind of rough.
41:46As house parents, it's your job to try to get everybody back on track.
41:51I got it.
41:52I got it.
41:52You got it.
41:52I got it.
41:53You can do it.
41:53I got it.
41:54Close my head.
41:55You're a man.
41:55Come on.
41:56You know, I'm out here doing things I never thought I would do.
41:58I kind of get the feeling that there's something in his life that he's keeping a secret.
42:05I actually don't mind doing this.
42:07This is kind of fun for me.
42:08I do sense that Aaron will be more likely to embrace the Amish lifestyle.
42:14I don't know about the rest.
42:16Family split.
42:17Friends split.
42:18It is tough.
42:19You guys know that.
42:21I might seem like the bad guy, but I'm doing this to help my standing with the church.
42:25I can't associate myself with people who lie, with people who deceive.
42:31I just can't do it anymore.
42:32It's not who I am.
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