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00:03after years away I've finally returned to the farm have you ever seen anything cuter than this
00:10the divorce is done and I'm back home and I'm reclaiming my life I moved down here to Georgia
00:19in July me and Tegan broke up it's hard to move on I really truly feel like there's
00:27unfinished business we're going to the farm we're gonna talk about some of the things that happened
00:38around the wedding there are so many assumptions made about both of us it did some damage the night
00:45for our wedding supposed to be a joyful time celebrating the last night it's black it was
00:51actually the hardest night of my life for me from the time that you two said I do it was
00:56done I
00:57think there's a lot still to figure out and I think I've seen too many tears from Lydia to think
01:04that
01:04everything's okay one more thing um we are here at the farm to have a conversation with the whole
01:27family there's been hurt there's been misunderstanding there's been miscommunication but just hoping to
01:35talk through that come to understanding and move on the biggest thing that hurt us was everything that
01:43was said about us and not to us and how it could have just been resolved if concerns would have
01:49been
01:50brought to us any concerns you have please come to us because if I find out that there's still gossiping
01:58about Zach and I I will not tolerate it like the situation with the wedding colors wait what was going
02:08on
02:09oh the wedding colors I'll just say it all so there's nothing left in the dark I hope this isn't
02:16like
02:18totally directed at me but I guess I know it is she wanted hunter green for wedding colors
02:25Zach said oh no it has to be blue because I have a blue suit that I wore to another
02:33wedding
02:33and I really pop in that blue suit that was one example that I chose to share about a red
02:40flag that
02:41I saw like I didn't feel the need to talk to Lydia and find out if it really went the
02:48way it did because
02:48I had somebody that was there that told me I was leaning towards forest green because I had a dress
02:54that I really liked it was for screen but that dress was another guy had bought me that dress so
03:02when we
03:02were talking about colors and I realized oh there's a connection to this dress from another guy in this
03:09color and everything I decided I didn't want that my wedding so we went with blue makes good sense
03:15at least she's admitting that originally it was hunter green whereas the last time we talked about
03:22it she denied that it ever was she called me out on social media you know mom said whatever which
03:29just
03:30hurt
03:33so yeah that was that whole thing there no Zach is not controlling and that's why I was more than
03:37happy to
03:39lean towards a different color why do you think your mom didn't respond to you when you mentioned
03:46the wedding colors I mean with my mom my mom and I think we're just growing our relationship and I
03:58don't think that looks like a specific thing besides needing to spend more time together so
04:07gossip is one of the most toxic things that just goes around in this world and it's not okay and
04:14it destroys so if I find out that that's still going on and you guys aren't coming to us that's
04:19not gonna
04:20be okay I agree with Lydia there's been times that there's so many triangles of people not talking
04:27because something's going on in their life and you're just like working around other people's
04:32feelings and then you're just spreading things intentionally or unintentionally just kind of
04:39eats at all the relationships slowly and I don't want I get that Lydia doesn't want us to gossip but
04:46the dynamics of a large family sometimes we're going to get together and say hey what do you think
04:50about this what do you think about that you know what do you think about Isaac peanut farming
04:54what do you think about Ethan moving down from Minnesota hindsight I feel like you two weren't
05:00the best communicators a lot of times Micah I don't what we weren't the best community yeah and I feel
05:08like that's it's something we all all have to work on yeah we need to work on it it's kind
05:14of ironic
05:15that Mike is the one saying oh we need to work on communicating we need to communicate better when
05:18he's somewhere down in Florida none of us ever hear from him another one of the big problems is
05:26there's so many of us you might feel like you've communicated everything you need to but it was to
05:30one person and not 12 yeah we've never been like a family that talks about everything but I personally
05:38think the big reason for that was like when Joshua died it was such a tragic experience and so hurtful
05:47to
05:48everyone involved the whole family that like talking about it around mom specifically just was too
05:56heavy and so we just we didn't talk about the most challenging thing in our lives if you're not going
06:01to talk about the one thing that hurt the most that changed your life entirely it doesn't actually heal
06:07anything there's just so many unique things about growing up in such a large family just try to do
06:16better moving forward yeah for practice should we go around and tell people what they're terrible at
06:23and what they need to work on yeah let's do that okay Mariah you never clean your room
06:34Lydia you definitely need to work on getting up in the morning
06:40mom you're a really great planner and have lots of great ideas but you need to get better at
06:45narrowing them down and sticking to them there Micah I would love to hear from you more often
06:51Zach a little less on the let's go let's go it's like let's go let's go dad Ethan I think
07:04you're
07:04like probably one of the hardest working people I know but I also think you need to grow up a
07:12little
07:12bit sometimes all of us need to grow up a little bit it's like a season of new beginnings yeah
07:20new
07:25chapter okay I want to see you guys on the tire swing okay let's go okay when Kim says since
07:33you
07:33said I do we've kind of accepted you into the family and you know we don't really have any concerns
07:38anymore I just think actions really speak louder than words and so I just hope that now that she said
07:46that it actually turns into action I love being home with my family I think it's good and
08:12important that Lydia gets out all of the how she's feeling and how what happened impacted her and how
08:19it hurt her and it was good that people expressed their concerns because I feel like my family usually
08:26doesn't want to particularly face a problem so we're just like I think it's fine we just clearly need to
08:33learn how to express our thoughts and feelings and without hurting each other but being able to
08:40to talk about it all together is a very good first step okay
08:52hi welcome in hi how are y'all good how are you I'm good so what brings y'all in
08:58I'm looking for some
09:00wigs okay so do y'all want synthetic human mixed blend
09:05um so today Ethan Amber and I are shopping for wigs in Tallahassee I asked Ethan I was like you
09:12would love to come with me right here oh that is really cute show you her yeah yeah I'm just
09:21looking
09:21to add to my collection of wigs I need as many wigs as I have outfits right really cute okay
09:28guys I want
09:29your opinions okay Ethan which one do you like which one you like I don't know it's too soon to
09:41tell
09:45they do have different colors by the way huh so yeah okay and I see this part well so in
09:52the past I've
09:53shared a little bit about my alopecia it's an autoimmune condition that causes hair loss when I was
10:03little it all fell out as I grew up now and then I'd get little spots but it was always
10:09something I
10:10could hide but I was still carrying some some wins from that I just have to figure out what to
10:16do about my
10:22hair I was really insecure about it and you know around Lydia's wedding I just started really falling
10:35out like like this like within a few weeks it was all gone right now I wear synthetic I have
10:44one human hair
10:46wig and I like that one but it's glue and um I prefer this yeah I was just wearing whatever
10:53I could
10:53find to cover my head and I told my mom I was like I'm gonna have to like shave my
10:58head and and she was
11:00like cool who do you want to do that and I was like Ethan honestly and I told him what
11:06was going on and
11:07he's like he just was like of course and then he shaved my head and um you know it's just
11:12like sitting
11:12there bawling my eyes out and it was really really hard at first for a while but um just having
11:20Ethan
11:20do that it was just like very healing very sweet very like I just I just I don't know it
11:28was what I
11:29needed in that moment um what you're thinking you're quiet back there Ethan he's always quiet he's always
11:42he said she had something to show me I don't remember if it was hair extensions or a hat or
11:46something but she took it off and she was like I've been losing my hair for quite a few months
11:54now
11:55I just want to shave it off but I would like you to do it I was like well if
11:59you want that yeah I'll do
12:00that for you it was emotional because she you know I can't imagine how hard that is she was crying
12:06and
12:08um I don't know why she wanted me to but she did so I did it for her
12:15what do you think that's my favorite one so far this one yeah agree yeah I agree you know he
12:22told
12:23me I was still beautiful and kissed me on the top of my head people don't see that side of
12:29him
12:30but I sure have he really helped me he really really helped me in that time of my life when
12:36I
12:36really needed I think the baby hairs make it look more natural yeah just trying to see if they'll
12:43get end up getting in my eyes a lot because I don't have any eyelashes either so hairs are always
12:47like
12:48getting stuck in my eyes I feel content with the way I am now it was like okay I guess
12:57what I really
12:58should do right now is my opportunity to focus on what's important and do a little inner work instead
13:03of being so upset about cosmetic side of it okay so let's try this one on I really feel like
13:09okay
13:10this is gonna be a winner okay we gonna see I've shared some pictures on social media whenever you're
13:18ready you can take off but I've never done like just taking my wig off in a public public place
13:25before
13:26okay nobody laugh or actually everybody laugh never you're too cute it helps when people laugh
13:32sometimes
13:35Ken and I are at Georgia's tonight celebrating the next chapter of my life
13:40I don't mind having a few drinks and letting my hair down if Lydia's there
13:45but with the tension that's been there with the divorce I just feel like it might be awkward
13:51welcome in Lydia I'm not going anywhere
13:58I don't want to be on the end or the front doesn't matter to me me and Isaac have always
14:05been really good with communication but I think like maybe the past few weeks the communication part
14:09has kind of gone a little downhill
14:11Katelyn can we talk to my truck for a minute okay can you turn your mic off
14:23okay nobody laugh
14:26or actually everybody laughs never you are too cute it helps when people laugh sometimes
14:38okay so pull this strap down on the bottom so it can fit tight and lean your head back
14:47yes does that feel all right yeah okay well it's pretty comfortable okay let's get you right and I'm
14:53styling a little bit uh-oh she's kind of cute not gonna lie she's cute I've never taken my wig
15:02off
15:02before in public and what does it feel like is it freeing a little bit yeah it's definitely freeing to
15:08just be honest and I don't know get that get that out there I ain't got nothing to hide I
15:17can't anymore
15:19where's the mirror now I gotta get the mirror Mariah's you know she's precious and I think she's beautiful
15:28you know whether she has her or not you know because I can't imagine what that'd be like
15:32especially for a woman you know oh wait a second that's so cute yeah oh my god and it obviously
15:40trim
15:40right there mm-hmm and it matches you so well and Ethan ain't say nothing bad so it must be
15:45good
15:52okay I can try another one on now I think her Mariah's doing really good these days she's
15:59unless she just has her personality back she has her weirdness back which is her personality that's cute
16:06I like this one it really makes you see that self-worth doesn't come from your hair or you know
16:14superficial things I think it comes from you know your heart feeling loved and accepted oh I love
16:20this little stuff right here the baby hairs a lot of me getting to the place that I'm at was
16:26just
16:28being loved the way I was without any hair oh I really like this it's so cute what do you
16:39guys
16:39think I like it you know people in my life have gone out of their way to make sure that
16:45I am
16:45comfortable if I want to take my wig off I'm gonna be totally fine let's see what this one's talking
16:50about okay the black now we're talking black okay let's try this one okay I have a tendency to like
17:03really beat myself up really be really hard on myself or just make comments about myself which
17:07I'm fine with but like how I saw myself definitely needed to change a little bit so I'm learning to
17:14do
17:20that Mariah seems a lot more confident now than she ever has in her life and that makes me happy
17:30I'll just get these two for now okay perfect well change my mind by the time we walk out the
17:35door
17:35I'll get off oh yeah just come back yeah she's accepted it and is doing the best with it that
17:41she
17:41can she's very resilient and it's kind of inspiring I want to see a trick there's something about like
17:52sharing something you no longer just have to struggle with alone and like hold it all in
17:58and that's what I did for so long now I'm like well it is what it is yeah I love
18:05you Ethan what do you
18:35say
18:36Ken and I are at Georgia's tonight in Tallahassee for a very special party that my friends Aaron and
18:42Taylor are throwing for me celebrating the next chapter of my life Lydia works at Georgia's and
18:48I do too but I'm not working tonight but she is the meeting with the family went really good but
19:06there's still obviously a lot of growth necessary especially with my mom and I and I wanted to be her
19:14mom that I'm here and I know we've had our differences over the years and there's been hurt
19:21and confusion but I'm not going anywhere I think this would be just the next step I can take to
19:32keep
19:34moving forward the talk with Lydia and Zach about the wedding and all of that was really good and
19:41productive but I feel like there's still some underlying tension all right bon appetit everybody
19:53ultimately I did what I did and I said what I said because I care about Lydia I love her
19:58and I was hesitant about her marrying somebody that she really didn't know
20:08so since you know this is your next chapter party what does the next chapter really look like for you
20:13yeah well that's a good question I don't know it's just me trying to figure out the rest of my
20:18life
20:18but I know where I want to figure it out and I know who I want to figure it out
20:22with
20:27it feels amazing to have some stability after four years five years whatever of moving around
20:35to different properties and then trying to live on a boat I feel really good about where my life is
20:42right now and where it looks like it might be headed I love Ken and I love that we're together
20:48and
20:49I love that we're at the farm I think I've moved five times in the last four years I'm never
20:55moving again
20:58well folks we have a little special surprise for you tonight we have decided to do the roast of Kim
21:06my friends decide to start roasting me and I'm just a little bit nervous I'm pretty good at taking a
21:16joke
21:17but with roasting there's always potential for somebody to be a little too mean welcome in Lydia
21:26I am a little worried about Lydia I mean I don't mind having a few drinks and let my hair
21:32down if
21:32Lydia's there but with the tension that's been there with the divorce and how she's kind of sided
21:39with Barry I just feel like it might be awkward
21:49well without further ado I'm going to introduce Lenny
21:53watch out Ken
21:54my friends start roasting me and I don't know what they're going to say how bad are the roasts going
22:03to
22:03get it it is really nice to see the support system that you have here and I know that I'm
22:09looking
22:09forward to seeing what the next chapter brings and I know it's going to be beautiful thank you for
22:14taking us on this journey and I just can't wait to see what's next love you girl thank you
22:20and I have one more thing to say I got your full bottle
22:27a few months ago Barry and I met up to just acknowledge that our divorce was finally over
22:34well it was uh good having this last talk with you did you get me a glass or a bottle
22:39there's a
22:39bottle there for you okay thank you so he didn't actually buy me a bottle okay whatever the full
22:47bottle you deserve it I could definitely say that Barry was a little dry and now my cup overflows
22:57thank you and now we have a special surprise for you
23:04so now the roast can really begin we've been very nice so far Ethan take the podium really
23:13there's like a thousand things I could rest but I want to be allowed back at the farm when it's
23:19done
23:23but she's probably one of the only women in the state of Georgia that has more ATVs than children
23:31Kim Plath has more brain power than all of us put together in this room to come with ideas but
23:41she
23:41never falls through with any of them
23:45preach it brother
23:49I'll just say that uh you know very thankful that you're my mother and life is is hard sometimes
23:57you know but it's a lot better when you have someone like you
24:02there's a period of time where I didn't have my mom in my life and it affected me but I
24:08know it
24:08probably affected her more so it's good to have a peaceful good relationship now it's good to see
24:15her and know she's there that's all I'll say
24:23I love you I love you too
24:26all right folks and we've got one last person to speak tonight
24:32Ken it's your turn I don't know a lot of you know that I've recently decided to retire
24:38well I was a little bit worried because I was afraid I was going to get really bored
24:43but since I moved to the farm with Kim I realized that there is no shortage of projects that Kim
24:49will
24:49have me busy on her most recent project is building trails through the woods I love you and I'm really
24:57looking forward to making new trails with you
25:07hey folks really quickly Lydia wanted to say a few words
25:13where should I stand I want to I guess this is my sitting here um so I guess I would
25:20like to just
25:20start off with it's great to see everyone here just so joyful it's great to see mom so happy too
25:28I know there's been lots of ups and downs over the years even with with you and I we've had
25:34our ups
25:34and downs and I just want to say I'm also ready to start a new chapter start fresh and move
25:42forward
25:44so thank you me too I love you too
25:54oh yeah any more drinks for anyone
25:58Lydia's toast it's really sweet and really heartfelt and I feel like that's definitely a step
26:07in repairing the breach that has happened between us folks I just want everybody to raise their glasses
26:15to Kim uh an amazing human being amazing mother amazing friend thank you all for being here today
26:21to celebrate her she takes the back seat a lot and it's nice to see her standing out and being
26:28brave in
26:29this new chapter and we wish you nothing but love success and if you fall we're here to catch you
26:34because we know that you would catch each and every one of us if we fell so cheers cheers
26:43I'm really glad I chose to work tonight and to be on this party it's been it's been really good
26:51I think something I'm realizing at this dinner is when mom and Ken first started dating it was all
26:58too quick all too sudden and I couldn't understand it and I vocalized that to her
27:03I'm really glad to be here at the same time I've wanted my mom to express that you know she
27:08accepts
27:08Zach but I'm kind of realizing I haven't really done that with Ken
27:12Lydia I thought you were off work
27:15as her daughter it's so easy to just see the flaws and see everything through the flaws
27:20but hearing what her friends think of her and how her friends see her um helps me see that in
27:28her too
27:29so I guess I should take my own advice to heart and tell her that
27:38sometimes you gotta do something you'll get crazy yeah is anything on your mind
27:45he's got faces if he is not comfortable it's
27:51and he's just sitting there feeling okay it's a
27:58I think I need to get out of here
28:00we're probably gonna have a heart attack
28:04no I got separated from them
28:06I have to go get them but please help me please help me
28:16I was walking along a lonely road headed out of Alabama
28:22went up over the hill in the long clean Cadillac
28:28this is my buddy Austin I think I've known you for maybe about five years
28:33but since he's back around we've hung out
28:34about every Friday night for the past two and a half three months
28:38and we just enjoy each other's company
28:40yeah that one that was that one that was a lot better than I remember
28:44that's good at least it's not worse than ever
28:47he's also very honest I am very honest yeah exactly that was a good one
28:53what's the story behind that song well it's kind of written from a place of pain
29:02like somebody leaving everything trying to start over as the song goes on
29:07the guy finds out that you can just run from your problems you know
29:11what were you going through to have all that come about
29:15oh that was uh when Olivia left
29:19I got you heck yeah
29:21depression is a real thing and I definitely struggled a lot with it
29:25music helps a lot but
29:27also sometimes music is very painful too
29:36is anything on your mind
29:42he's got faces if he is not comfortable it's
29:48when he's having a good time it's laughing and everything and he's just sitting there
29:53feeling okay it's a
29:56or he does that yeah
30:01you got many faces buddy
30:06have you started writing songs about anything like new lately here
30:10I started writing a song about Tegan a few months ago
30:16really what's it about
30:21what's it about
30:26I don't know I don't really think I'd want to play it
30:31and do you still have feelings for Tegan
30:36yeah I mean I guess I do
30:40I have a lot on my heart and mind but you know I can't express it
30:48I definitely think my mom and dad and all of my siblings we just didn't really learn to
30:54communicate very well even not like
30:59communicating what you feel or whatever but just actual communication
31:02you know that definitely has not helped me any in my personal life
31:08and I've had to learn that the hard way
31:10but that's okay I'm still learning working on it
31:14I was dated somebody before too and I thought it was going to be it too
31:18but it just wasn't and as the time went by
31:22I really really missed that person
31:24and there will always be that place in your heart for them
31:27but it's the part of figuring out
31:31what you got to do to be okay with not having them
31:35and once you figure out that you're okay with it
31:38life gets easier
31:39I don't know sometimes when you get in these
31:43these points in life it's like you got to do something or you'll go crazy
31:47yeah they still have a place in their heart
31:50you can never get rid of it
31:52and it could be the same way for her to you
31:55it's just in this time of life it wasn't right
31:59and one day it might come back
32:01but if it don't
32:02it wasn't meant to be and that's just something us
32:06men we have to be okay with
32:08with Tegan I definitely miss a lot of things you know
32:13doing stuff together making memories together
32:17the biggest thing really is she truly was my best friend like that I'd ever had
32:23not being able to talk to that person
32:27or you know spend any any time and then you're just thinking all the time about
32:32how quickly time goes by and every day every minute this you can never get back
32:41whenever you feel like you're at low point I guess always keep yourself surrounded with
32:45the ones that love you the most I reckon keep your good pals close with you
32:49you know if I'm left to my own devices I'll just end up spending all my time alone just
32:53thinking about everything that's not good so it's good to have friends that get you away and
32:59not keep everything that you're thinking bottled up inside of you
33:03I'm happy to have you as a friend
33:04you too
33:05there's no I love you brother
33:09well you too
33:10that was a good smack
33:32I'm not a Halloween person at all
33:41I'm waiting for Ethan and Isaac and Kaelin
33:45Isaac and Kaelin had the idea to do a corn maze
33:49I guess some people like the adrenaline that they get from being scared and I can't do that
33:55I'm like I do not like being scared
34:02I don't like this I don't like this I just saw someone that has like a mask on
34:18I just adore Kaelin she's so sweet she's so beautiful she just has such a good presence
34:25about her I have never seen one single red flag from her I need Isaac to get here so I
34:32can stand
34:33behind me you just talked to Isaac he said he was still in the fields what me and Isaac have
34:38actually
34:38been together for about a year now um and I would say that we're doing pretty good me and Isaac
34:43have
34:43always been really good with communication but I think like maybe the past few weeks it's the
34:48communication part is kind of going a little downhill
34:55you know my my brother will save me
35:01yeah nice to see you again
35:03up to see you around you should really scare my brother
35:09I don't want to be on the end or the front
35:12I just got off work and came out here and met everybody and thought it'd be fun to do a
35:16corn maze
35:16so Isaac can you please help me no you have to fend for yourself
35:21we're going I'm the girl and I get put in the very very back
35:25I am being put in the back that's how I know something is up
35:30honestly I just can't really put my finger on it
35:38you know my my brother will save me
35:59it's Halloween night and you know obviously growing up we didn't celebrate any holidays
36:04anything except birthdays but Tegan really likes Halloween so she kind of introduced me to it you
36:12know now me and Tegan are broken up it's like it reminds me of her so it makes me sad
36:18makes me miss her
36:22hey guys
36:25what's up hey Ethan
36:26how are y'all good I just got off work and came out here and met everybody and these guys
36:32thought it would be fun to do a corn maze but I guess it was fun but I've been in
36:36a field all day
36:36and go get back in another field yeah I think everybody's really tired
36:47I don't want to be on the end or the front it doesn't matter to me
36:55Ethan I don't want to be in the back but I also like really
36:57I just worked 14 hours farming picking peanuts I've had a lot on my mind lately and I guess I'd
37:09rather not be here if I could have just gone home and went to bed that would probably have been
37:12the
37:12best thing but you know Katelyn was there and she wanted me to come as well so
37:18which way are we going are we going the right way I'm just going
37:24no Ethan please help me
37:30I'm the girl and I get put in the very very back
37:35I am being put in the back that's how I know something is up
37:39honestly I just can't really put my finger on it
37:44I think I need to get out of here
37:46I'm probably gonna have a heart attack
37:49we were just here
37:51no we haven't been here
37:56no no I got separated from them
37:58I have to go get them but please help me please help me
38:14okay guys what's the plan how do we get out
38:18that's where we came in should we go this way this way looks right
38:28oh my gosh it's okay us girls gotta stick together and protect each other
38:34mm-hmm because they're in the front
38:37oh we got it finally
38:41I gotta walk slow she's gonna hold my shirt did we do it I think we did it oh my
38:46gosh
38:46yeah we did it oh my gosh we did it oh okay I can breathe
38:52now let's go home we should watch a scary movie when we get there I don't think so
38:59Katelyn can we talk to my truck for a minute okay
39:07can you turn your mic off
39:20there's times where I think you know it'd be nice to maybe go out and go on a date meet
39:25somebody
39:26it's very easy for me to approach people are you like willing to talk to anybody kind of thing
39:31I like to engage people sure yeah do you think Barry has game are you maybe in a position to
39:37help him
39:37kick it up a notch there's a couple generations separating us so there might be some different
39:42dating cues but I'll do my best you and I used to be really close and I feel like all
39:49of this other
39:50stuff has kind of crept in over the years like whenever I would talk to you it just felt like
39:54there
39:54was like I was talking to a brick wall it's been a lack of transparency a lack of
40:01vulnerability she's got to be able to let her walls down
40:07there's no easy way to say it but me and Katelyn I broke up with her
40:14I felt like it was moving too fast and I was too young
40:18I really believed so much that he you know was the one nobody saw it coming
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